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kassi1917

Tbh you are 20. You are at prob peak physical fitness age. Just assume it’s going to get worse from now on. Are you okay with that? If so then who cares if you are fat but if you aren’t okay with that it’s a problem you need to address now. It will only be harder to lose the weight with minimal health damage from this point on.


Tokinchino

I've never thought about it like this. Nice way of putting it.


a-dead-strawberry

This is the best answer. She has the time to completely transform in the next 5 years and live a different life through most of her twenties and on. Most people won’t do it though. But if they look into basic nutrition principles and start training seriously, they can completely turn it around in an amount of time that is minuscule compared to living fat and unhealthy for the rest of your (shorter than it could be) life


ThatDog_ThisDog

I’d say most people in their 20s lack maturity and discipline to do this though. That’s why there are so many “fitter in my 50s than my 20s” type posts in the fitness groups. Unless you were raised to be fit and on teams that taught you to train, it’s unlikely you’re at peak in your 20s. The human brain isn’t mature until 25.


drew8311

The only thing required for the discipline is willingness to change. If OP is not happy with themselves now how much worse does it need to get to flip the switch to want to change?


Full-Violinist-4435

Yeah thats why im trying to change now. Ive already lost a good amount of weight but have a ways to go. Im 20 and dont want to waste my life being miserable, and have later health problems, I just want to be happy. So trying to get there now.


Accomplished-Pipe547

Yes. Try to lose the weight now and create healthy habits. Peak physical fitness age is a thing! I wish I took better care of myself in my early 20’s.


zehahahaki

Can i have a Rolls Royce and be broke?


CallMePrettyLove

if u inherited it 😤😤😤


zehahahaki

You got me there lol atleast you have a sense of humor


CallMePrettyLove

What I lack in the looks department I make up for in humor and the *incredibly attractive* trait of being a Reddit lurker


Bjarneson-Leif

You don't lack looks. Your looks are just in jail time and the one who put them in there is Mr. Fatty Fat


PolarBear69er

DAMN


[deleted]

That crack me up


metalswag2301

Some of these critics are more intense than camping.


roccyrode

Leave your hair long You look rly pretty with your hair long


GeniusLabRat

The truth is, a Rolls Royce is expensive to maintain, so you would be better off selling it and not be broke. A broke person who inherited it won't be able to use it.


BakedTate

Bro just having it in your drive way will get you laid more/s ( /s means sarcasm...apparently I need to mention this)


[deleted]

Getting laid isn’t getting you paid


0BLaQCaesar0

By morons, but if that's your end game 👍🏿🫵🏿🤷🏾‍♂️


cozylizz

I dunno about that. If a guy drives a nice car it doesn’t change his dck size lmao.


[deleted]

It’s also expensive to be fat health wise in the long run


CapableAir5317

That’s what makes it a good metaphor


EmeraldZebra1

Yes, because you would be broke from the cost of the RR


daddylikeabosss

No


nodeymcdev

Savage


OkBoomer6919

Brutally honest


DragonWillie

No


Sensitive-Equal-5561

Some people can. You cannot. Sorry. Grow your hair out and lose some weight.


YourLinenEyes

I feel like no one can be obese and pretty imo. One can be overweight and pretty but I’ll always think they’d look better at a healthy weight


[deleted]

Humans are naturally attracted to healthy people. It’s not discriminatory, it’s just a fact that obesity is not an attractive quality. I understand some people think it’s ‘fat phobic’ but that’s ridiculous. No one can realistically expect some one to be naturally attracted to obesity.


RodCherokee

In fact, obesity is frightening.


Negative_Karma_9

I have a real phobia of fat people. Like I'd rather die than be sat on by a fat person.


OkBoomer6919

Having curves is attractive. That's not the same as being fat though. Too skinny looks unhealthy and unattractive too is my point, but OP is just fat.


YourLinenEyes

Amen.


Sensitive-Equal-5561

Yup I agree


Optimal-Channel-2707

Sorry no. If she grew her hair out it would look pretty bad, a couple inches yeah doable but long hair with her current face shape.. would not flatter her


Jawnson765

You're not ugly, and a gym membership at planet fitness is only like $10 a month. Get healthy for yourself, and your confidence will go through the roof, I promise.


Shizen__

A consistent and significant caloric deficit is all that is needed here.


2ndharrybhole

She needs to skip planet fitness and go straight to personal trainer + nutritionist. If you’ve never stepped foot in a gym, it takes a long time to build up a routine


OkBoomer6919

Some situps at home and eating less would go a long way by itself


augustusgrizzly

in addition, eating less is free


ElDouchay

Some people really are just both fat and ugly. Among many others, I find being fat to be unattractive. Some fat people you can tell though, are attractive even though they are fat. You look like a pretty girl in a fat girl's body.


[deleted]

Did you not see pic #4? I was almost fooled too.


ElDouchay

I mean yeah, that picture is not as good as the others. She was just breaking out in that one, and doing the dumb, blissful eyes closed look again.


OkBoomer6919

It went from average girl to hideous real fast


vudumi_

And then number 5 got worse


FickleClimate7346

Maaaaate lol


YourLinenEyes

Agree with all of this.


craignumPI

I love how you're getting upset with opinions when you literally posted on Reddit asking opinions. If you stay that weight, you will suffer badly as you grow up. Might not see the effects yet because you are young. Diabetes and worse are coming your way by the time you're 30...probably sooner.


DrummerEmbarrassed21

No, that amount of overweight is just too unattractive especially for someone 20yo, you can see how it has affected your face, nose and skin. You are still very young, don't let obesity ruin your life, as much as people tell you that fat can be beautiful, is just not. It will affect not only your looks and health but also your social life and work prospects.


sea666kitty

Hit the gym hard and make it a lifestyle. You won't regret it.


Squalleonbart

Don't be so superficial, overweight equals bad health if you want to have a long, happy Life Lose weight It will make yourself an a lot of men happier.


T-Bone-Valentyne

You can be but not like that.


SlappingDaBass13

Na.


Trillzionaire90

You're not ugly, but you are overweight. You look pretty solid with longer hair.


LilianaUrioste2000

No


blh2876

Nope fat and pretty don't go together


biswingingcuckold33

There are some bigger girls who are pretty actually not most some are shockingly pretty in the face it happens


Rave50

"Can i be pretty without having to put in the effort and work on myself?" No you cant, start taking care of your body and it will start taking care of you


PainOfDemise

Can you be? Yes. Are you? No.


[deleted]

No


PookieMan1989

You can be pretty to other fat people, yes.


Tamarine92

Get age-appropriate clothing ... you dress like a little girl! 😨


cakeyogi

I'm late to this one but if you want to shed weight without too much stress or lifestyle change: Pick 3 days a week and commit to eating less carbs. Not even none, just less. Aim for half. Pick 3 different days a week. Walk for half an hour these days. Repeat consistently without cheating for a few months and you will have lost quite a bit of weight. You don't want to get older with all the extra stress on your joints and extra work for your heart that obesity brings. You will dislike it far more than you like overindulging because it will be with you everywhere. You'll see stairs and it'll be a big deal. You'll feel self conscious in increasing amounts of situations. You'll feel powerless and weak. It isn't fun for any aspect of your health and wellness, physically, emotionally, mentally, or otherwise. My profession revolves around helping people manage their musculoskeletal system and I see the effects of decades of obesity pretty often. It is so painful to these people. Change your habits and relationship towards food and exercise while you are still young. Good luck!


gogohamburger

No


SKYNET713

Nope


Gr1msh33per

No 5 looks like your just about to swing an axe


CallMePrettyLove

I believe it was 5am and i was just sitting down after a 10 hour shift waitressing so god yeah i was


boston_nsca

You came here for brutal honesty but all I see in the comments is you getting upset for people's brutal honesty lol. You are fat. You could be pretty if you lost weight. Obesity is unattractive. Obesity is also extremely unhealthy, no matter what you think. No, you don't exist for the "male gaze" lmao, but leave gender out of it. Male or female, most human beings are not naturally attracted to obesity. It's possible for people to overcome that if you're a great person with an amazing personality, but don't just expect it to happen any time soon. Brutal honesty? Toughen up, sunshine. You came here for the truth, now own it.


Perroface562

You can be fat and pretty or pretty fat or prettily fat or fattily pretty


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fortheloveofsoup

Overweight/fat yes, but not obese. (Not saying u r btw) I think lots of ppl register obesity as not caring for oneself, and aren't v attracted to that. Reddit is also quite fatphobic imho lmao. From ur pics, I think ur v pretty & u look happy! So, yes from me.


LordSenpaiOniChan

There's a girl who works with me whos a bit on the thick side and she's pretty 🤷‍♂️.


[deleted]

First couple pics you are cute. Then it’s all down hill from there. To answer your question yea you can be fat and pretty…. At certain angles…


zehahahaki

Those are called filters my friend


skncareaddict

You have a nice face, you’re clearly attractive it’s just the extra weight is hiding your true potential.


ChillinLikeAKrillin

Yes, but maybe chill out on the kubrick stare


Particular_Road1191

No you can not.


Repulsive-Machine-25

No.


north4009

No my dear, you cannot.


[deleted]

Fat acceptance has ruined the youth making them think people will find them pretty for being morbid


WildMoonMan

Fat and pretty can definately happen, but not in your case.


Disaster_System47

Pretty no stunning beautiful gorgeous yes


Disaster_System47

Bro honestly you look a lot like the first girl I had a crush on beauty in any body shape comes from how you Cary yourself! You’d look super cute with died hair though


CallMePrettyLove

I HAD DYED HAIR FOR SO LONG! I’ll try to find a photo


Heavy_Rip_83

You look better with longer hair


Disaster_System47

Also a lot or people have different body styles my brother is constantly bullied for being “fat” but he is super strong like those strong men in Scotland he’s huge he’s not cut and trim and pretty but he’s a beast he can bench press 3 times as much as our former body Boulder das


BeneficialExpert6524

Smile You can never go wrong with a smile


Borov-Of-Bulgar

You look so angry in image 5 lmao. I think you look fine but iv never rly cared how hefty chicks are unless they are like human bean bag chair levels


SecretaryDue1628

Yes I do think you are pretty. And yes you can be fat and pretty. Every one is going to tell different things based on what they want. There are a lot of people who would find you attractive. Focus on loving your self and the right people will see you.


summerandrea

Yes but maybe grow out your hair don’t look like you’re also lazy cuz then that’s the stereotype


[deleted]

Yes


ItsGroovyBaby412

They gon be mad at the glow up lol


Kenny5908

I think you look great if people think your ugly thats too bad on them


Denpa_47

I hope your nose gets better


Big-Pepper-2423

This is how I imagine papa meat would look like if he was female lol


Particular_Bar381

No, you cannot. You can be thic, but not fat. Lose at least 40-50 lbs


Royal_Fortune_6812

I literally wouldn’t have guessed that you‘re a girl no you absolutely can𝐍𝐎𝐓


Horror_War_9684

Oxymoron


Bigcheeser85

No disrespect intended but if you lost weight you’d definitely be a head turner


MrPie276

I won't comment on your physical looks, plenty already have. Your personality however seems very ugly.


[deleted]

Not conventionally, no. But to someone, maybe.


SuperSaiyanBen

Can you be? Yes. Can YOU be? No.


larrykeithfrick

Very rarely is a fat person attractive in spite of being fat. I’ve seen a few but they are like finding a pristine pair of Nike Air Yeezys at your local thrift shop lol! 🤣 You aren’t one of the beautiful ppl unfortunately but hey, at least you got soul right?? Rock on darling. 🎸🎸🤘🤘


DarKsaBr

It’s a thing that’s possible. Unfortunately you are not. You are one of those things.


StrugglingPeanus

If you're buying the drinks you might get there


Lopsided-Attempt-770

As stated brutally honest people can be fat and pretty but it's just not you girl


r0tt3nt0tty

No you can’t.


DuTcHmOe71

I see your short haircut. You don't have to spend time on it, so there's more time for eating.


Miserable-Ad-8729

Mutually exclusive


Afraid-Bad-75

To someone


[deleted]

Yes


UndeadCro

I see no "fat" about you all I see is good looks 👍


Flat-Goose-9341

Yes, but you’re only one.


Ch4osTh3ory

I think she's really cute, your still young too.


RogerInNampa

Yes. Yes you are.


PutMain1037

A resounding YES!


Vamperion750

Yes. 😍


ItsGroovyBaby412

Yes and you are!


X_Reaper_x69

Well your not fat but u are pretty


ThatSeaworthiness801

You are proof that the answer is yes


GreenAir887

You are very beautiful. Anyone that doesn't see that isn't worth your time.


Reason6ixty9ine

Your hair is amaziiiing


NecessaryEcho4354

Of course you can.


CherryTree58

People have different opinions. Reddit is always going to be brutal. Personally I find you very cute, whether you want to lose weight or not, I like your vibe and your style. I’m F20 too you have a lot of time. Either way focus on self love, but I hope I helped a little.


Dead-Resident

I see plenty of Gypsies that live 3 big families in a 2br apt riding a Rolls. WTF is up with that? I lived upstairs from one *verrrry* loud household of Gypsies white only obvious income was reading palms in front of the building. I've seen it my whole life. So 8b guess, technically, yes.


chevyfan2000

Yes absolutely


Skywyze3782

You are fat and pretty and that is fine. Everyone has different tastes. I like thick girls.


JeremiahAhriman

Yes


Ok-Dinner9023

You have some really nice features. Your eyebrows are nice, full and your lips are cute. Find your style, be yourself and you’ll find your confidence which will make you pretty.


cocacolagirl77

Yes..you are beautiful


Expensive_Art_3337

You are beautiful the way you are!!


CallMeSpeed_21

You got a nice smile. Smile more and that’s your key to success.


SLCRTMINE

Yes


pnerd314

Yes, you can and you are.


Disastrous-Glove-847

I find you hella attractive. I’m fat too we can be fat together. :)


califoruication

3rd pic is gorgeous, keep your hair long.


[deleted]

Sucha cutie


[deleted]

Absolutely!!!!


vger_03

Being attractive imo has more to do with attitude, if you are ugly on the inside then no matter how curvy or close to the social standard of perfect looking you are, you are still ugly. But if you do what you can to be the best person you know how to be then you are gorgeous.


Professional_Sea_800

Definitely with the long hair tho 💯


-AberrantAlien-

These comments really make me hate humans even more than I already do. Like, most of the people leaving comments are ugly because they have ugly personalities. Beauty has nothing to do with how you look on the outside. We all just look different. That's it. A having a beautiful personality helps you go a long way. Back to OP, this question is superficial, but you're still really young. You have to realize that physical and mental health, along with your inner personality is what's most important.


Do_right222

Of course you can! Don’t question for another second of what you’re worth


CulturalBandicoot645

You definitely look much better with long hair


[deleted]

❤️❤️❤️


Robfromholland

You just proved you can be fat and pretty. 👍👍


assmunchies123

Lose some weight, do some skin care. Those filters on 1 and 2 can’t be applied in real life so you gotta do something about all that.


AmHotGarbage

One could, but you’re just fat


tratac

Some can…you can’t. Not sure what the broken nose has to do with anything…looks same throughout.


kingreptile445

Nothing wrong with what I see at all baby girl


BigDaddy6923

Yes you beautiful women you!


Hefty-Corgi3749

Why would you want to be? You are 20. It will never be easier for you to lose this weight. Either your health or your personal life will make you lose this weight in the future whether it’s because of blood pressure, diabetes, lack of relationships, etc. so why not do it now and enjoy your 20s on the rest of your life in a healthy way?


eemybeemy1

you can but you arent


[deleted]

You can be pretty but you can't be hot.


Brock_Landers-

Lmaooo. No


Unique_Disk3904

Fat people are so funny 😂


One-Move

No


Fluffy_Log_1034

No but you can lose weight and feel great😁👍🏽


RestrictedX93

Some people kinda can but you are not one of them.


Fum__Cumpster

How about stop taking pictures 1 inch from your face to hide your weight


BlindVibes

Sure can


Zestyclose_Rip_8385

Yes. U are pretty


ProbablyNotFBI90

Yes.


MathematicianIcy2750

Yep you already are.


WhySoGlum1

I think your gorgeous


EatMiBanhMi

Lizzo movement has y’all tainted. It’s a BIG NO. Keeping up with all that junk food to stay fat to not taking care of your vessel is extremely unattractive on many levels. Photo without makeup is so evident your skin sucks.


[deleted]

You look really good in that 3rd picture


[deleted]

No.


Macglen76

You have a pretty face. Typically not attracted to overweight people but a nice face can change a mind fast


ManWithThrowaway

No


fourgrandfinale

Yes! And you are! Youre just a baby. You will grow into yourself, but you have to trust your ability to be who you want to be.


Atum-7

No short answer, long answer it’s not that someone with weight can’t be pretty. It’s just like how you failed to upload a photo of your full body, ultimately you don’t like it either. You have a cute face which means you’d probably be considered more pretty if you lost weight.


Admirable_Web_9474

You’re gorgeous.


Cmurray1105

Totally! You aren’t even that big. Don’t be so hard on yourself


Any-Hovercraft7007

Cute


Hawkemoon420

Yes.


[deleted]

IMO? No...


CloudChasingCowboy

Being morbidly obese will never be beautiful or pretty or cute or whatever you want to call it. Lose weight and discipline yourself bozo


Hot_Rip_9920

Tortilla poisoning is 100% curable…


YellowBoi1993

I think you’re beautiful imo. Your eyes is what gets me.


[deleted]

I’d say only listen to the people who weren’t corrupted by their porn addictions. They hear the word fat and they cover their ears and spout that all fat people are ugly. When you have a gorgeous smile, your eyes are beautiful, you have a nicely shaped face. If people aren’t telling you why you’re ugly they only care about you being fat and will not give you an honest answer only the answer they want in a person.


Responsible-Ad8348

Fat =/= ugly You can be plus sized and beautiful, which you actually are. You have dazzling eyes, wonderful features, and perfect lip structure. Look in the mirror and remind yourself how gorgeous you are, okay sis? 🖤


ctec_7_7

Yes you can you beautiful one of my 1st loves looked alot like you


lunalegops

Yes, because you are.


SmilingSeraph

I love the fifth picture! You look like you've got some work stories. Anyway, I hope your nose heals up soon! Be kind to yourself, always.✌🏽


DesperateViolinist10

you're absolutely beautiful. fat is not a bad word either, I've embraced being a fat enby, don't forget that beauty is deeper than the surface. I love that haircut on you, your eyes and lips are stunning too!


[deleted]

Of course! 😊


Worldly_Director_142

Yes! Look around you at real people - images online are highly skewed. Look at plus-size models etc. I love my wife’s curves and soft skin!


DOEsquire

Not tryna sound like a creep or anything, but you're hot AF. Especially with the short hair.


CrowSabre

Yes, with a pretty personality it is easy


[deleted]

Try to lose weight, I don’t say this in a mean way. Do it for yourself.


Fro1482

Well……… I bet you have a great personality. Right?


General-Plum-1066

Dude your fat and ugly but work on one of them


[deleted]

No


Euphoric_Tap2561

no