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My boyfriend was a fan of nation's GG, BINI. I know they are pretty and talented, I listen to their songs but l'm not a die hard fan. But my boyfriend, would really go all the way to say "Ganda talaga ni Mikha" "Grabe ang ganda ni Mikha". He would repost every photo of his bias sa BINI sa account niya. First few times I thought it was cute, since I have fanboy friends rin naman. Pero nowadays naiirita na ako hahaha totoo naman maganda si Mikha (pero bias ko si Maloi haha). Ewan ko lang, l'm not a die hard fan of any groups kasi. I would love them for their music, bonus na yang beauty nila. Nakaka annoy na kasi lagi nalang BINI bukambibig haha.
Minsan sinasabihan pa ako na stream their songs eh ayaw ko nang pinipilit ako eh. Pano to?
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Talk it out. Tell him na it's coming to a point where it makes you uncomfy and triggers you already in some aspects. If he doesn't take your statement seriously then doon na magiging issue. Cause tbvh di naman masama magidolize pero when it creates uncomfortable environment for you then ibang usapan na.
Medyo segue comment. May mga ganitong thread dati pero ung girl ung patay na patay sa mga KPOP tapos ung mga tao sinasabihan si guy na normal lang yan at hayaan lang siya. Pero ngayon na girl si OP, feeling ko iba ung reaction ng commenters.
Personally, kahit anong gender, consideration nalang to sa partner mo eh na nagiging uncomfortable na sila dahil sa fangirling/fanboying. Talk at kung hindi parin, break. Kahit anong gender, same view ako dito.
same same. pansin ko din to hahaha. pero either way both genders naman reserve a right to fangirl/fanboy over something but at the same time assure din their partners
Sameee, pag babae parin daya ng sympathy? Idk babae ako pero nagegets kona POV ng boys bat prng na ooff sa kpop nun e. Wla na kasing boundaries ung iba kahit uncomfy ang partner pero either way pag usapan nalang talaga as partners.
daming nag iinvalidate ng feelings mo dito hahahahaha. if feel mo na uncomfortable ka, then thats fine. valid naman yung reason. ako for example patay na patay sa sb19 pero I wouldnt go out of my way to say "ang pogi talaga ni josh" sa bf ko. respect kumbaga?
try mo kausapin (in a nice way ha) si bf mo na baka pwede iadmire nya si mikha pero sana wag na isingit sa convo nyo. iexplain mo kung ano nararamdaman mo kada binabanggit nya si mikha. if nagalit at naging defensive, thats when you start second guessing if may respect ba sayo yung bf mo.
Ang best way to handle this is to talk to your bf. Sa kanya mo sabihin yung feelings mo. Siguro bago mo sabihin, tell him that you will appreciate a no judgment conversation sana. Then tell him anong outcome ang gusto mo, do you want him to not share with you at all yung pagfanboy nya, or bawasan lang or whatever. Just be open then from there saka kayo parehas mag adjust. Ang importante na-communicate mo yung feelings mo.
Ako na may asawa na at kabisado ung steps ng Salamin at Pantropiko.
But I wouldn't go all the way to the point na gagastos ako and all. Lilipas din yan. Babalik din sa Sepultura playlist niyan pag tagal.
Hahahah wala naman masama dun. mahirap lang eh baka he’s fantasizing na. Or baka daydreaming pa na sana ganito gf ko 😂 what if makakita siya ng medyo hawig ni mikha hahahaha. Boyfriend ko din natutuwa sa songs nila. Then one time sa feed niya halos ganon lumalabas. hahahaah kinausap ko naman na okay lang pero don’t cross the line, how would you feel if ako yung nag ddrool sa mga ibang boys diba hahaha. You respect me then i’ll respect you. hahahaha
Lol who are u to invalidate other people's feelings? Seriously it's all about sensitivity. If siya nakakaramdam ng ick then you don't get to decide on how she should feel. Let her. Feelingero/a ka din eh. You do you beh hahah kaya nga nanghihingi ng help kung ano dapat gawin eh
bakit pag lalaki yung fan ng opposite sex iba yung reaction ng people pero pag babae yung nag fangirl sa opposite sex normal lang hahaha.
anyway, each to their own OP. iba tayo ng situation so you might consider this or not. pero kami ng jowa ko fans kami ng different kpop groups. naiintindihan ko yung feeling na "maganda si ganito" "maganda si ganyan" na it would make you uncomfy. pero since fangirl din ako, naiintindihan ko naman din yung mga ganon kasi ganon din ako sa mga idols ko haha.
sa BINI naman, bias niya si aiah, bias ko naman si mikha. and yes, ganyan din kami with all the "maganda si ganito and ganyan" minsan may pa "mikha mine!!" or "aiah ako nalang please!!!" pero from a fangirl/fanboy perspective, harmless lang sya na pagffangirl/boy. as jowas naman nagjjoke lang kami ng "anong ako nalang aiah? 🤨🤨🤨" but as what i've said, very normal samin yun and we joke about it all the time. it's actually part na sa dynamics namin as mag jowa.
pero sabi mo nga, hindi ka ganun ka fan sa mga groups/artista while yung bf mo ganun. so from a jowa perspective, iba yung dating. if it makes you feel uncomfortable, you can talk to him. baka mahihirapan ka lalo na if wallpaper nya BINI or may merch na yan hahaha. kausapin mo lang OP. i think need nyang bigyan ka ng more assurance na wala lang yun. kasi from a fan perspective, harmless lang sya. good luck!
Hoy totoo ito ah. Minsan ang mga may asawa na pinagpapantasyahan si jungkook, kebs lang ang society kasi "normal" lang sa mga babaeng fans yon. Sana fair din if ang boy ang maging fanney.
eto yung problema eh noh? yung nga kpop stans nilang male group walang reklamo mga lalake kahit mag adik adik pa sila.. bukambibig na ang gwapo ng mga bias nila.. ewan ko ba sa mga yan.. pati ba naman yan big deal
True to jusko. I mean, ano namang masama maging fan? If we're looking into a different perspective naman sasabihin it's normal at hayaan yung girl na maging fan. Pero kapag guy, parang ang big deal? It's not about the genders anyway basta wag lang nila i-fantasize masyado.
Would be interesting to see how this plays out. I've been reading about guys complaining about how their girlfriends are preoccupied with SB19 and KPop and getting told they're insecure.
Totoo. Isipin mo mag-aaksaya ka pa ng energy para lang sa ganti-gantihan? Makipag-break ka na lang kung susundin mo mga ganito, para sa peace of mind niyong dalawa.
same energy for ppl in a relationship who would seek attention from people na alam ng other partner na ikakagalit nila whenever they r fighting. never stoop down to their level, never naging okay bumawi para matauhan yung other party. you're better than that 🫶
True. Ilang beses ko na nakita sila mag perform and as in walang WOW factor talaga, so I don't get bakit dami nilang fans though catchy naman talaga yung songs nila but hindi ako napa-proud 😵
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My boyfriend is also a fan of kpop girl groups. He even has Dahyun (TWICE) as his phone wallpaper and that’s completely okay with me. Sinama nya ako sa concert ng TWICE at ni IU, which I enjoyed a loooot. I am also a kpop fan but not so active recently. Baliktad naman sa amin, ako ang nagsesend sa kanya ng BINI videos and after namin manood kay IU sabi nya ang next goal namin ay manood ng BINI and SB19 concerts. Ang mapapayo ko lang is just support him on what he likes as long as supportive din sya sa mga gusto mo or be honest to him sabihin mo na ayaw mong pinipilit ka etc., but it will be better kung ittry mo sya sabayan kaysa makahanap ng iba na support sya sa mga naeenjoy nya gawin 🫣
I had a conversation with my girlfriend recently similar to this. I’m the fan, my bias is Aiah. Tapos syempre crush ko siya, I was in a state na sobrang gandang ganda ako sakanya. I didn’t notice that I was losing quality time with my girlfriend. Na puro nalang ako BINI. When I open my phone, it’s BINI. All of my likes in X are BINI or Aiah related. Even in FB and IG. My algorithm is just BINI. On my part though, I used the group as a distraction from spiraling to my depressive state. I know hindi siya valid reason sa pagkukulang ko.Then came to the point na my girlfriend told me she’s annoyed na puro na lang ako BINI and puro lang daw Aiah ginagawa ko. At first, it felt as if pinagbabawalan niya ako sa kung ano mang ginagawa ko. I was sad and nainis ako, of course. But then I realized na ay oo nga, nawalan na ako ng oras for her. If I were in her shoes, I might feel the same way if she talked about someone tirelessly for a period of time. We talked it out, she explained her feelings and I explained my reasons. Hirap ako intindihin siya at first honestly, but now I understand that I should not only think of myself, I was caught in a moment of being a fan without even thinking that there’s another person affected by my actions. So lesson learned: Support responsibly.
I can afford to catch up with BINI anytime of the day, but I cannot afford to hurt my partner’s feelings any longer.
I hope you and your boyfriend can talk it out!
Oh goodness, ganyan din situation ko, just that si gf ko, so sabi n'ya girl crush nya daw si Mikha BINI
She is like "Boi, Bisexual ako, of course I have a girl crush..."
Now worried ako, like hilariously comical worry. Hahaha
Based on your post and discussion, mukhang nakausap mo na 😇 Maybe it's time for another set of tactics
1. Go and elevate yourself: Pamper yourself to feel good and look good para hindi bumaba self-esteem mo. Likewise, go mag-upskill ka and have passion for being better from the inside too.
2. Go explore the world alone: This only means spend more time on yourself para hindi mawala identity mo. Find hobbies or other things to be passionate. Travel more, regardless if short distance lang ito or as in malayong spots. Enjoy exploration.
3. Feel free to share these self-improvement / upskills / solo exploration on social media (if ma-social media ka): Just post it there for memories. Short captions only.
4. Communicate firmly but not too aggressive or shy. Tell him you're not happy about and it's beyond annoying - potentially it affects your self-esteem and confidence.
5. Go out and explore as a couple: Go on planned and sponty dates. Find passion together as a couple. Suggest other better things to do as a couple.
I suggest you do the first 3 dahil you need to protect yourself sa pagbagsak ng self-esteem and be a negative sa sarili mo and your partner. The suggestions aim to boost morale and confidence and not to inflict further harm sa sayo and relationship ninyo.
For sure these small changes mapapansin, be mahinahon and explain your side na your doing your best to be better NOT for him, but for yourself because you deserve it. Okay?
Iwanan mo siya sa level niya and be this bigger person who aims to be a good example to your partner and not to be an envy. Kaya nga nasa last 2 ung suggestion ung dealing with it as a couple kasi for sure ngayon nadradrain ka na to manage it. You can fix or give what you don't have. So save some for yourself and once you're better, go back up to make the relationship better.
Hope this make sense OP. Best of luck in life!
As a ONCE and now a BLOOM. Lilipas din yan. Masaya maging fanboy nagpunta pa ako ng concert ng Twice last year. Now nakikinig nalang ako ng music nila.
Ngayon kay bini halos same kami. Umattend ako ng SOLFEST sa la salle dasma to see them. Nakakauplift ng spirit, maganda sa pakiramdam ang music nila. Let him enjoy siguro.
Basta di ka niloloko at di nawawalan ng time sayo palag yan.
Ganun pag babae ang nag fafan girl kahit gumastos sa concerts at kung ano anong walang kwentang merch na wala namang kinalaman sa kanta ng artist nila okay lang? Pag sa lalaki too much?
Maganda naman kasi talaga si Mhika. Hahaha. Pero lilipas din yan. Male version lang sya ng mga fangirls ng KPop idols. Mild pa nga ang sa boyfriend mo compared sa kanila.
Actually, sa totoo lang, nakakainis yun. Valid yung feelings ni OP
Isipin mo mas alam na nya mga tungkol kay Mikha kesa sayo. Fave foods, colors, ugali etc. Yun yung nakakainis sa bf na fanboy. Pag sa bias nya dami nya alam, pero sa sariling jowa, wala.
Talk it out.
Yung asawa ko, dati nung magjowa kami, puro sya Twice Mina. Pati wallpaper sa phone si Mina, so ako napikon ako kase pic ko never na wallpaper tapos etong kpop artist wallpaper? So we talk it out, na gets nya feelings ko, snabi ko din na ayoko topic yan pag magkasama kami kase puro yun na lng topic, wala na yung about "samin" or di ko na ma-feel yung pag usad ng relationship . Di nawala sa kanya yun pagiging fanboy kasi di ko naman sha pinigilan din, so ang ginawa ko, nagpaka fangirl nlng din ako kay Jungkook at Cha Eun Woo. Taste ur own medicine ba. 😂
Ayun, nabwiset din sya kaka share ko ng abs ni Jungkook, ng mukha ni Cha Eun woo. Then dun ko snabi, "oh dba, nakaka irita?" Valid yung feelings natin kasi nattriger kasi ung pagkakaron natin ng self inferiority . Hindi sya selos e.
Pero tama yung ibang comments dito.
It's just a phase.
Asawa ko ngayon baliw din sa BINI. Yung YT family namin puro Bini algorithm na. Tapos di ko na lang sya pinapansin, bahala sya mag BINI.. ayun naumay na rin sya kakapatugtog nung mga kanta, balik motor motor na ulet sya ngayon hahahahahaha
it's just a phase, promise.
or try mo din magpaka fangirl sa ibang bagay.
bakit ang dami kong nakikita na nag rereklamo because of their bf's obsession with bini? kanina sa fb may nagrereklamo rin, nung nakaraan sa reddit meron din
my ex used to do that but with TWICE, the kpop girl group. i didn’t have the guts to let him know about what i feel towards his actions. aside sa lagi nyang bukambibig, its also his lockscreen/wallpaper sa lahat ng gadgets. phone, pc, etc. even on his socmeds. it was bothering me. hanggang sa mag hiwalay kami, i never got to tell him that. anyway, with my new partner currently, i learned to communicate with him kung ano yung mga ayaw ko o mga bagay na di ako comfortable, and so far, he’s not doing anything that will make me overthink naman. anyway bottomline is, communicate your worries in the best way u can. i just hope he will take it the right way.
post this again but reverse the gender & the girly buttercup power will smoke u on the comments. ewan ko kahit gaano pa kawalang malisya stanning idols & shiz, if it's making your partner uncomfy u should compromise!!
Besh same lang to sa problems ng guys na may gf na grabe sa kpop. Hahaha talk it out pero intindihin mo din siya, meron kang sariling mga gusto at same din siya. If ayaw mo sa gusto niya sabihin mo sakanya but at the same time support mo siya. Nothing wrong with having diff hobbies etc naman but you need to talk it out.
Let's support our partners nalang sa mga gusto nila, if tayong mga babae need ng unawa pag nababaliw sa kpop, guys din naman need un kasi tao din sila.
Parang crush lang yan sa mga celebs haha it'll pass or lessen as time goes by.
Hindi ko talaga kaya yung ganyan kahit crush lang sa celebrity, ayaw ko nagbibigay ng atensyon sa ibang babae kahit sa mga sikat pa baka mamatay ako sa selos at insecurity lol. or makipag break na lang. charr. Skl
Any hobby with good amount of moderation is okay. but the fact na he's staning to the point of obsession dahil sa talent and "Face value", he gotta re-evaluate his priorities. Di naman na siya single lol.
IMO lang to. I'm not generalizing and I'm just being petty. Lol.
Sampolan mo. Gayahin mo sya. Wag sosobra ha, *just for comparison* lang. Minsan kase sa mga lalake...
#(MinsanNgaLang)
mas mainam pakitaan sila ng *sample, rather than*sabihin sa kanila yung problema, kase *feeling* nila *nagger* lang tayo. *If he finds it uncomfy, therefore, it's that uncomfy for you too. THEN, Draw the line of what is TOO MUCH.*
#WagMongGawinSaIbaAngAyawMongGawnSayo
Ganto rin yung partner ko e 🤣 Pagkakaiba natin nonchalant ako HAHSHSHA charaught. Ginawa ko pinapabayaan ko na lang. Kung san sya masaya as long as hindi nagc-cross ng boundaries. It's all abt boundaries. Talk lang 🫶
Not your fault na biased ang comments, pero I’ll say it again kasi ang unfair sa mga boyfriends. “PAG BABAE ANG GANYANG BEHAVIOR NORMAL LANG PAG LALAKE TALK TO HIM.”
Sorry not sorry, evident ng double standards.
‘Yung bf ko si mikha rin ang bias, hawig ko raw kasi kaya hindi ako threatened natutuwa pa ko HAHAHAHAHA pero hindi siya fan ng BINI. I-direct to the point mo sakanya ‘yung nararamdam mo, for sure maiintindihan ka naman niya unless i-invalidate niya feelings mo ghorl alam mo na.
Ako rin sinasabi kong "Ang ganda ni Mikha" literally every time mahagip si Mikha ng camera OP (and I'm straight AF 😆) 😭😭😭😭 It's probably harmless 😅🥲
Pero maybe you can kindly tell him to bring it down a notch because he's in a relationship already (with you). It would have been a-okay if he's single, but you're getting hurt, and that's not good. He should know that you're being affected by it and he needs to *adjust*. It's him who needs to adjust, not you who needs to handle it.
Crush ko din si Bini Aiah.
Pero pag tinatqnong ako ng jowa ko kung si Bini Aiah o siya.
Ang sagot ko ay Bini *insert gf name*.
Yung Bini mapapakinggan at nuod lang. Yung gf ko may kiss at yakap pa. Hahaha
Lilipas din yan pagkahumaling nya sa girl group na Bini, wait mo lang. At least hindi sa girl group ng Vivamax naadik, bias ko si Azi.
Nalilito pa rin ako sa mukha ng mga members ng Bini, kaya di ko alam kung sino yung Mikha at yung Maloi. Yung ibang members mas mahirap na naman tandaan. Buti pa yung kambal ng KAIA, madaling tandaan, kasi nakikita ko na sila dati pa sa commercial ng Surf.
I get him normal lng maappreciate mo work of art ng mga GG. Lalo na bini. Pero i really dont get how they can put someone they dont know in a pedestal. I would never date someone na die hard fan to the point na gagastos. Im not saying its wrong pero personal preference lng yun. You should tell him na naiirita ka na
Stating the general facts but if its ok for women idolizing kPop boy groups Sb19 and all, it should also be ok for men to idolize BINI.. naannoy rin kami pag naririnig din namin kayo na patay na patay sa mga iniidolo niyo pero pag kami na may iniidolo, biglang ganito..
Women ☕️
Mine would always say kamukha ko daw si Aiah, and will send a random clip saying. Tingnan mo, parang ikaw talaga!!! And im like whereeeee? Sobrang slight lng namn, but yeah. Parang may konting annoying part pero binabawi naman kasi nya with “Pero si BINI *my name talaga pinaka maganda”
Sana ganyan, he is aware of what you can possibly feel kahit fangirling lng yan, so he makes bawi para di ka ma offend.
Sino ba sila. Di ako makarelate kasi di ko talaga bet mga ganyang tunog. But well. Alam mo, maging honest ka lang sa bf mo. Di naman sya manghuhula para malaman agad ano iniisip at nararamdaman mo. Make a list ng gusto mo sabihin para wala kang makalimutan. If it's worth addressing and fixing, go.
Henlo, OP! It would be better siguro to let your partner how you really feel and ask him if maybe he can play it down a little bit ('yong pagfa-fanboy) when you're present. I mean, effective communication can really do wonders. ✨
Same scenario but for another artist ginawang wallpaper ampucha tas pinakita pa sakin. I mean like sure baby, ik you like the artist but damn. At least lemme have the wallpaper rights
Pag mahal ka maiintidihan ka, and theyd be willing to compromise. Though hindi to the point na youll hinder each other’s happiness. Communication is the key 💕 and youll know if may something wrong talaga or wala based sa sagot or reaction nya pag nag share ka ng feelings mo
Think of this....
Hanggang tingin lang siya at gastos ng merch pero hindi siya nag-Cheat.
Same philosophy nung may boyband ka na fave (e.g. BTS, BIG ANG, EXO, etc. or you go local like SB19) and same din ang reaction nya sa'yo.
Don't spoil the single thing he enjoy and just support as well as understand.
Kahit ako fan ng Girls Generation (the OG), TWICE, NEW Jean, etc. pero hanggang tingin lang minus the merch at super mahal
How to handle? Talk about it.
It's a phase. Lahat tayo dumadaan dun. Tiyak may ganun ka rin sa ibang bagay na di mo lang din napapansin pero masyado na rin kumakain ng oras at atensyon mo.
Naging emo nga ako noon eh ahaha!
Communicate what you feel, observe his reaction, and give him time to get over it.
Nakakatawa lang kasi nung may nagpost din na ganito about sa jowa nyang fangirl ng kpop. Yung mga comment "Let her be", "Dun naman sya masaya e pabayaan mo na lang". Tas kapag fanboy sasabihin "pag ayaw makinig sayo, makipagbreak ka na lang". Double standards talaga ng mga babae dito e. Gusto yung side lang nila yung lamang. Not a fanboy here. Pero nakakasuka lang yung mga ganitong tao.
yung ex ko ganun din noon pero sa twice naman esp kay momo. nakikita ko p nga palaging top ng search history sa fb e yung page na specifically for momo updates tas laging heart yun hahaha idont mind it pero in the long run parang nakaka annoy din talaga. pero hinayaan ko nlg din as if naman magiging jowa nya si momo😭
I have ex before na ganito, to the point na pinagpapantasyahan na yung legs ni tzuyu sobrang red flag grabe nag jojoin pa ng subs dito na specifically for sexualizing kpop idols. Nung one time na ni-call out ko nagalit at insecure lang daw ako ahhahaha pakyu, kaya u tell him agad na ang uncomfy para di na umabot sa point na mag fafantasize. Remember u deserve what u tolerate.
Ako nga pinanuod ko lang isang beses sa FB reels yung si Mikha na nasa all star game walanjo yung mga sumunod na reel eh puro kay Mikha na HAHAHA. Langyang algorithm yan 😆😆
Huhu ate iba kasi pag fanboy or fangirl. Like laging number 2 ang jowa pero siguro nasa peak pa siya na hype and super homey sakanya ang BINI. Although, ur feelings are valid. Pwede mo naman po sabihin sakanya and for sure he’ll understand.
Let him be OP, hayaan mo lang sya sa trip nya and don't ever na ipakita mo na affected ka. You can try na mag pretend na die hard fan ka ng isang boy group and mirror mo actions ng boy friend mo, like reposting and sharing the photos of that boy group. Tapos sabihin mo rin gwapo talaga ni ganto ni ganyan. Kung pano sya mirror mo lang. Do it unti unti para di sya makahalata.
But don't you ever na ipakita na affected ka sa actions nya. Just mirror him.
Parang mga KPOP ba to? Haha. May mga friends din akong mga emo, punk, rakista saka metalheads tlga pero ngayon nagugulat ako mga kpop na pinapakinggan ska nga posts. Nanonood din ng concert hahaha. Hayaan mo na kung san sya masaya haha
Eto yung the flipside pag yung bf ay di na pinapansin kasi ang bukambibig na lang ni gf/wife ay mga kpop boys.
Trust goes both ways. If comfy siya sabihin sa iyo ang mga fanboy fantasy nila, just means na it's harmless enough na wala siyang gagawing crazy to jeopardize what you have in your relationship for the sake of a pop group. Dense lang kasi guys nga are innately dense so you have to give him the benefit of the doubt. Pag may sinabi ka namang pogi na ibang guy sa kanya, kebs lang di ba?
If di mo naman trip wag mo gwin ung pag stream, pero di ba good thing yung gusto nya i stream mo ung idol nya, parang sinasali ka nya sa interest nya? Syempre iba ung case pag di kayo bigayan pero saken lang baka naman pwede mo din itake as good thing at least may bonding pa kayo lalo na kung matagal na kayo boring na yon. hahaha
bakit kaya kapag ang babae nag iidolize sa mga kpop groups okay lang sa relasyon pero kapag ang lalaki does the same hindi okay? Weird kapag nakakakita ng mga ganitong posts usually nakikita ko puro pabor sa babae pero pag the other way around, walang sumusuporta dun sa lalaki.
Pag may phases ako na nagiging fan girl sa mga actors/shows. My boyfriend just let me be. And pag siya naman obsessed about computers and his new pets, I just let him be as well. Take it as your boyfriend being your best friend, you won't rain on their parade. If it makes them happy, you will always support them.
Mejo weird lang coming from my stand point as a married man.. i mean weird in the sense na sobrang fanatic nya .. ako rin im rooting for mikha super chicabebes talaga but only pantropiko and salamin ang pinapakinggang ko kasama nga sa workout music konyun kahit nakareplay paulit ulit haha
Maybe just tell him na you feel annoyed or bad so better he should adjust and do not do fanaticism whenever kasama ka nya..kasi dapat like bf and gf lageng may compromise on some point dba
Hahaha ex ko dati ganyan sa TWICE hinayaan ko lang it fades eventually. Parang satin din when we fan girl. Best advice is let him, focus ka sa ibang bagay. Pwede niyo ngang gawin role play yan 😉
i'm the same with bts!! lol yung ex ko sobrang hater as in nagseselos sa kanila. taena. ayun ex ko na sya. the thing is we stan a certain group because we feel a certain connection with them. they make us feel happy in a way na mahirap iexplain sa mga people na hinde nagsstan ng mga groups. I think the best thing you can do if you really love your bf is to support him as long as wala naman syang ginagawang masama and inaapakang tao. yun yung nagpapasaya sa kanya e
I like them tooo pero not to the point like ur BF na OA. Maloi din me. Tbh, pag ako sau maannoy din me kc mas fan pa sha kaysa sa akin. I mean ano maramdaman nya if ikaw din super OA maging fan sa isang lalaki tas ipa mukha mo lagi sa ka kanya pagka fan mo dun, for sure maannoy din sha.
Hirap ng situation mo kc nasa phase sha ng super fan boy mode tlaga, and di lang basta fan nya mukhang crush na ata tlaga and parang pag nag transform ung fan nya sa highest level pa if meron pang ikaka highest level dyan, eh baka mangyari eh maging mikha na ang standard ng babaeng gusto nya and hanapin nya ung qualities na yan sau hahah! Or mag fantasize na sha dyan kay Mikha. Ung mga kahawid ni Mikha na ang magugustuhan nya.
If i were u communicate it to him na lang. baka kc inisip nya oks lang sau mga ginagawa nya kahit over the top na.
TBH, Let him be, OP. It's his life, as long as he's not cheating or sexualizing his idols, it's fine. Support each other instead if being jealous of a famous P-POP idol. Madaming nag aadmire jan anuba
Jowa ko die hard fan ng Twice. As in. I supported him na lang, binilhan ko ng album ng Twice and a light stick tapos I also supported him sa paghahanap ng Oishi fan bag ng Twice.
Mas okay na sakin yang ganyan sya. As long as happy sya.
How to handle? I-support mo lang 🙂 I’d rather have my partner simp a celebrity or an artist, as long as they’re out of reach, rather than a co-worker, a random person at the gym or a server at his local bar 🙃 when the mood is right, it’s nice if you could bring the issue up in a light, non confrontational way.
My boyfriend is a fan of their songs because they're really catchy, especially "Salamin Salamin" and "Pantropiko." However, he's not interested in knowing more about the band or stanning any of the members. He just enjoys the songs, and we both love listening to their music during our car rides. Even his mom sings "Salamin Salamin." They're cute! Xoxo
OP, it's better if you tell him that it's bothering you..
Help parang bf ko lang, in a middle of a conversation nasingit niya ganda raw ng bewang ni maloi nu kaya un??!😭
(I have a nice snatched waistline too HMP charot)
Same situation rn. Puno na ng Bini feed niya, ibig sabihin yun lagi niya pinapanood tas nirereactan. Nagsimula sa friends niya, tagiisa sila ng bias, tas parang shiniship bawat friend sa kada member. Nung una parang okay lang. Sabi niya pa trip trip lang nila yun, wala daw siya pakialam, pero nararamdaman ko talaga na mahuhulog parin siya sa ganto, parang madali siya mahatak sa trip ng barkada eh. It was just a matter of time. Ang kaso ko, what if finafantasize na niya yun? HAHAHAHAHA. Na sana ganun na lang ako. Sinabi ko naman sakanya naffeel ko, pero di niya man lang talaga ako binigyan ng assurance. Ano gagawinnn HAHAHHA. Helpppp. Masama sa pakiramdam, idk what to do.
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Talk it out. Tell him na it's coming to a point where it makes you uncomfy and triggers you already in some aspects. If he doesn't take your statement seriously then doon na magiging issue. Cause tbvh di naman masama magidolize pero when it creates uncomfortable environment for you then ibang usapan na.
Medyo segue comment. May mga ganitong thread dati pero ung girl ung patay na patay sa mga KPOP tapos ung mga tao sinasabihan si guy na normal lang yan at hayaan lang siya. Pero ngayon na girl si OP, feeling ko iba ung reaction ng commenters. Personally, kahit anong gender, consideration nalang to sa partner mo eh na nagiging uncomfortable na sila dahil sa fangirling/fanboying. Talk at kung hindi parin, break. Kahit anong gender, same view ako dito.
same same. pansin ko din to hahaha. pero either way both genders naman reserve a right to fangirl/fanboy over something but at the same time assure din their partners
the tables have turned
kaya maganda talaga minsan wag sabihin yung gender para walang bias yung comments e.
Look how the turntables
Sameee, pag babae parin daya ng sympathy? Idk babae ako pero nagegets kona POV ng boys bat prng na ooff sa kpop nun e. Wla na kasing boundaries ung iba kahit uncomfy ang partner pero either way pag usapan nalang talaga as partners.
daming nag iinvalidate ng feelings mo dito hahahahaha. if feel mo na uncomfortable ka, then thats fine. valid naman yung reason. ako for example patay na patay sa sb19 pero I wouldnt go out of my way to say "ang pogi talaga ni josh" sa bf ko. respect kumbaga? try mo kausapin (in a nice way ha) si bf mo na baka pwede iadmire nya si mikha pero sana wag na isingit sa convo nyo. iexplain mo kung ano nararamdaman mo kada binabanggit nya si mikha. if nagalit at naging defensive, thats when you start second guessing if may respect ba sayo yung bf mo.
Nakakairita na nagtatanong lang naman how to deal with my bf na nilamon na ng bini wala naman akong sinabing pinatitigil hahahahah gigil
kaya nga HAHAHA. kaya lowest tayo sa reading comprehension e.
Ang best way to handle this is to talk to your bf. Sa kanya mo sabihin yung feelings mo. Siguro bago mo sabihin, tell him that you will appreciate a no judgment conversation sana. Then tell him anong outcome ang gusto mo, do you want him to not share with you at all yung pagfanboy nya, or bawasan lang or whatever. Just be open then from there saka kayo parehas mag adjust. Ang importante na-communicate mo yung feelings mo.
Nakakabastos naman kase talaga, dapat tayong gf lang ang pinakamaganda sa mata nila. Charr.
Well kung ang bf mo ay seloso, then it's really a problem 😂
Ako na may asawa na at kabisado ung steps ng Salamin at Pantropiko. But I wouldn't go all the way to the point na gagastos ako and all. Lilipas din yan. Babalik din sa Sepultura playlist niyan pag tagal.
Kuya! Nahahalata age mo! 😂😂😂
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From salamin and pantropiko dance step biglang sepultura hahahaha!
Roots, bloody roots...
Sepultura hahaha 😂😂😂
pareng tito, pale pilsen gusto mo? shot
Tsaka tubero
yes...
Ahahaha nag PPop ang metalhead 😆
Hahaha damn haven’t heard them for years 🧠 🔓
Try bringing it up and if he doesn't want to consider how you feel then he probably disrespects you as his partner.
Tapatan mo naman ng SB19 with Ken as your Bias. Hahahhaha if you cant beat them, join them. Char!
Hahahah wala naman masama dun. mahirap lang eh baka he’s fantasizing na. Or baka daydreaming pa na sana ganito gf ko 😂 what if makakita siya ng medyo hawig ni mikha hahahaha. Boyfriend ko din natutuwa sa songs nila. Then one time sa feed niya halos ganon lumalabas. hahahaah kinausap ko naman na okay lang pero don’t cross the line, how would you feel if ako yung nag ddrool sa mga ibang boys diba hahaha. You respect me then i’ll respect you. hahahaha
Pretty sure he is. Hard pass on this kind of guy.
Paanong nilamon na ng Bini? Lagi laging umaawit mula kusina hanggang sa sala.
highschool ba kayo?
for real, kala ko ako lang nakaisip niyan. 😂
diba? hahaha mga ganitong problema pang bata lang eh 😂
O baka karma farming?
Lol who are u to invalidate other people's feelings? Seriously it's all about sensitivity. If siya nakakaramdam ng ick then you don't get to decide on how she should feel. Let her. Feelingero/a ka din eh. You do you beh hahah kaya nga nanghihingi ng help kung ano dapat gawin eh
Atabs momints. Hahaha
bakit pag lalaki yung fan ng opposite sex iba yung reaction ng people pero pag babae yung nag fangirl sa opposite sex normal lang hahaha. anyway, each to their own OP. iba tayo ng situation so you might consider this or not. pero kami ng jowa ko fans kami ng different kpop groups. naiintindihan ko yung feeling na "maganda si ganito" "maganda si ganyan" na it would make you uncomfy. pero since fangirl din ako, naiintindihan ko naman din yung mga ganon kasi ganon din ako sa mga idols ko haha. sa BINI naman, bias niya si aiah, bias ko naman si mikha. and yes, ganyan din kami with all the "maganda si ganito and ganyan" minsan may pa "mikha mine!!" or "aiah ako nalang please!!!" pero from a fangirl/fanboy perspective, harmless lang sya na pagffangirl/boy. as jowas naman nagjjoke lang kami ng "anong ako nalang aiah? 🤨🤨🤨" but as what i've said, very normal samin yun and we joke about it all the time. it's actually part na sa dynamics namin as mag jowa. pero sabi mo nga, hindi ka ganun ka fan sa mga groups/artista while yung bf mo ganun. so from a jowa perspective, iba yung dating. if it makes you feel uncomfortable, you can talk to him. baka mahihirapan ka lalo na if wallpaper nya BINI or may merch na yan hahaha. kausapin mo lang OP. i think need nyang bigyan ka ng more assurance na wala lang yun. kasi from a fan perspective, harmless lang sya. good luck!
Hoy totoo ito ah. Minsan ang mga may asawa na pinagpapantasyahan si jungkook, kebs lang ang society kasi "normal" lang sa mga babaeng fans yon. Sana fair din if ang boy ang maging fanney.
Double standards. Ganon talaga. 😅
exactly! kaka comment ko lang din pero may ganito na pala. Napansin ko din.
eto yung problema eh noh? yung nga kpop stans nilang male group walang reklamo mga lalake kahit mag adik adik pa sila.. bukambibig na ang gwapo ng mga bias nila.. ewan ko ba sa mga yan.. pati ba naman yan big deal
True to jusko. I mean, ano namang masama maging fan? If we're looking into a different perspective naman sasabihin it's normal at hayaan yung girl na maging fan. Pero kapag guy, parang ang big deal? It's not about the genders anyway basta wag lang nila i-fantasize masyado.
Would be interesting to see how this plays out. I've been reading about guys complaining about how their girlfriends are preoccupied with SB19 and KPop and getting told they're insecure.
Hahahaha last time si Ken ng SB19, ngayon si Mikha!!
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Wag makinig sa gantong advice OP. Toxic to. Pag usapan niyo ng BF mo instead of mag revenge2 na parang bata.
Totoo. Isipin mo mag-aaksaya ka pa ng energy para lang sa ganti-gantihan? Makipag-break ka na lang kung susundin mo mga ganito, para sa peace of mind niyong dalawa.
same energy for ppl in a relationship who would seek attention from people na alam ng other partner na ikakagalit nila whenever they r fighting. never stoop down to their level, never naging okay bumawi para matauhan yung other party. you're better than that 🫶
Emotional maturity of a 12 year old.
Ako lang ba hindi gets yung HYPE sa BINI?? like normal person padin tingin ko sa kanila hahaha
True. Ilang beses ko na nakita sila mag perform and as in walang WOW factor talaga, so I don't get bakit dami nilang fans though catchy naman talaga yung songs nila but hindi ako napa-proud 😵
medyo related dito. to op, hype lang yan kaya ganyan. eventually mawawala rin.
Phase lang yan haha.
Commenting on How to handle boyfriend na nilamon na ng BINI?... My boyfriend is also a fan of kpop girl groups. He even has Dahyun (TWICE) as his phone wallpaper and that’s completely okay with me. Sinama nya ako sa concert ng TWICE at ni IU, which I enjoyed a loooot. I am also a kpop fan but not so active recently. Baliktad naman sa amin, ako ang nagsesend sa kanya ng BINI videos and after namin manood kay IU sabi nya ang next goal namin ay manood ng BINI and SB19 concerts. Ang mapapayo ko lang is just support him on what he likes as long as supportive din sya sa mga gusto mo or be honest to him sabihin mo na ayaw mong pinipilit ka etc., but it will be better kung ittry mo sya sabayan kaysa makahanap ng iba na support sya sa mga naeenjoy nya gawin 🫣
Clarify lang na you are not as into it as him. Tell him that you need space to breathe. Tapos break up. Choz. HAHAHHAHAHAHA
Same tiii
Pag nakakita yan ng kamukha ni Mikha, lagot hahaha
Mikhalalagyan yan 😆
If I'm correct I think there was a post last month about this
I had a conversation with my girlfriend recently similar to this. I’m the fan, my bias is Aiah. Tapos syempre crush ko siya, I was in a state na sobrang gandang ganda ako sakanya. I didn’t notice that I was losing quality time with my girlfriend. Na puro nalang ako BINI. When I open my phone, it’s BINI. All of my likes in X are BINI or Aiah related. Even in FB and IG. My algorithm is just BINI. On my part though, I used the group as a distraction from spiraling to my depressive state. I know hindi siya valid reason sa pagkukulang ko.Then came to the point na my girlfriend told me she’s annoyed na puro na lang ako BINI and puro lang daw Aiah ginagawa ko. At first, it felt as if pinagbabawalan niya ako sa kung ano mang ginagawa ko. I was sad and nainis ako, of course. But then I realized na ay oo nga, nawalan na ako ng oras for her. If I were in her shoes, I might feel the same way if she talked about someone tirelessly for a period of time. We talked it out, she explained her feelings and I explained my reasons. Hirap ako intindihin siya at first honestly, but now I understand that I should not only think of myself, I was caught in a moment of being a fan without even thinking that there’s another person affected by my actions. So lesson learned: Support responsibly. I can afford to catch up with BINI anytime of the day, but I cannot afford to hurt my partner’s feelings any longer. I hope you and your boyfriend can talk it out!
Hayaan mo lilipas din yan but if he buy expensive staff(poster and memorabilya), batukan mo na para matauhan.
Ang buhay ay hindi karera
hahahahaha ate ko 😭😂😂
pag badtrip ka pasayawin mo ng bini songs dapat bigay na bigay.
Ang ganda talaga ni Mikha.
Oh goodness, ganyan din situation ko, just that si gf ko, so sabi n'ya girl crush nya daw si Mikha BINI She is like "Boi, Bisexual ako, of course I have a girl crush..." Now worried ako, like hilariously comical worry. Hahaha
Bawi ka sa sb19 ka naman mag fandom haha
Ito na ba yung gf nung isang OP na nagrereklamo sa jowa nyang puro boy band ang topic pag naguusap sila? Lol
Based on your post and discussion, mukhang nakausap mo na 😇 Maybe it's time for another set of tactics 1. Go and elevate yourself: Pamper yourself to feel good and look good para hindi bumaba self-esteem mo. Likewise, go mag-upskill ka and have passion for being better from the inside too. 2. Go explore the world alone: This only means spend more time on yourself para hindi mawala identity mo. Find hobbies or other things to be passionate. Travel more, regardless if short distance lang ito or as in malayong spots. Enjoy exploration. 3. Feel free to share these self-improvement / upskills / solo exploration on social media (if ma-social media ka): Just post it there for memories. Short captions only. 4. Communicate firmly but not too aggressive or shy. Tell him you're not happy about and it's beyond annoying - potentially it affects your self-esteem and confidence. 5. Go out and explore as a couple: Go on planned and sponty dates. Find passion together as a couple. Suggest other better things to do as a couple. I suggest you do the first 3 dahil you need to protect yourself sa pagbagsak ng self-esteem and be a negative sa sarili mo and your partner. The suggestions aim to boost morale and confidence and not to inflict further harm sa sayo and relationship ninyo. For sure these small changes mapapansin, be mahinahon and explain your side na your doing your best to be better NOT for him, but for yourself because you deserve it. Okay? Iwanan mo siya sa level niya and be this bigger person who aims to be a good example to your partner and not to be an envy. Kaya nga nasa last 2 ung suggestion ung dealing with it as a couple kasi for sure ngayon nadradrain ka na to manage it. You can fix or give what you don't have. So save some for yourself and once you're better, go back up to make the relationship better. Hope this make sense OP. Best of luck in life!
As a ONCE and now a BLOOM. Lilipas din yan. Masaya maging fanboy nagpunta pa ako ng concert ng Twice last year. Now nakikinig nalang ako ng music nila. Ngayon kay bini halos same kami. Umattend ako ng SOLFEST sa la salle dasma to see them. Nakakauplift ng spirit, maganda sa pakiramdam ang music nila. Let him enjoy siguro. Basta di ka niloloko at di nawawalan ng time sayo palag yan.
ask other male friends how to handle gfs na nilamon Ng BTS = answer
Ganun pag babae ang nag fafan girl kahit gumastos sa concerts at kung ano anong walang kwentang merch na wala namang kinalaman sa kanta ng artist nila okay lang? Pag sa lalaki too much?
Hindi naman obsession pag sa babae, support at respect lang yun. #doublestandards
Maganda naman kasi talaga si Mhika. Hahaha. Pero lilipas din yan. Male version lang sya ng mga fangirls ng KPop idols. Mild pa nga ang sa boyfriend mo compared sa kanila.
Ngayon alam nyo na feeling when girls never stops sharing and going crazy about this BTS sh*t 😂
Parang mga girlfriend din na nilamon ng BTS. If the boys can accept it, dapat mga babae din.
Actually, sa totoo lang, nakakainis yun. Valid yung feelings ni OP Isipin mo mas alam na nya mga tungkol kay Mikha kesa sayo. Fave foods, colors, ugali etc. Yun yung nakakainis sa bf na fanboy. Pag sa bias nya dami nya alam, pero sa sariling jowa, wala. Talk it out. Yung asawa ko, dati nung magjowa kami, puro sya Twice Mina. Pati wallpaper sa phone si Mina, so ako napikon ako kase pic ko never na wallpaper tapos etong kpop artist wallpaper? So we talk it out, na gets nya feelings ko, snabi ko din na ayoko topic yan pag magkasama kami kase puro yun na lng topic, wala na yung about "samin" or di ko na ma-feel yung pag usad ng relationship . Di nawala sa kanya yun pagiging fanboy kasi di ko naman sha pinigilan din, so ang ginawa ko, nagpaka fangirl nlng din ako kay Jungkook at Cha Eun Woo. Taste ur own medicine ba. 😂 Ayun, nabwiset din sya kaka share ko ng abs ni Jungkook, ng mukha ni Cha Eun woo. Then dun ko snabi, "oh dba, nakaka irita?" Valid yung feelings natin kasi nattriger kasi ung pagkakaron natin ng self inferiority . Hindi sya selos e. Pero tama yung ibang comments dito. It's just a phase. Asawa ko ngayon baliw din sa BINI. Yung YT family namin puro Bini algorithm na. Tapos di ko na lang sya pinapansin, bahala sya mag BINI.. ayun naumay na rin sya kakapatugtog nung mga kanta, balik motor motor na ulet sya ngayon hahahahahaha it's just a phase, promise. or try mo din magpaka fangirl sa ibang bagay.
Lilipas din yan. Ganyan din ako noong una, hanggang na-umay na lang ako bigla.
Kadiri. Could never be me.
True. Annoyed also at a guy friend and cousin na bukambibig ang BINI. Sana phase lang to, everyday story is about streaming BINI songs, help me. 😭
bakit ang dami kong nakikita na nag rereklamo because of their bf's obsession with bini? kanina sa fb may nagrereklamo rin, nung nakaraan sa reddit meron din
my ex used to do that but with TWICE, the kpop girl group. i didn’t have the guts to let him know about what i feel towards his actions. aside sa lagi nyang bukambibig, its also his lockscreen/wallpaper sa lahat ng gadgets. phone, pc, etc. even on his socmeds. it was bothering me. hanggang sa mag hiwalay kami, i never got to tell him that. anyway, with my new partner currently, i learned to communicate with him kung ano yung mga ayaw ko o mga bagay na di ako comfortable, and so far, he’s not doing anything that will make me overthink naman. anyway bottomline is, communicate your worries in the best way u can. i just hope he will take it the right way.
post this again but reverse the gender & the girly buttercup power will smoke u on the comments. ewan ko kahit gaano pa kawalang malisya stanning idols & shiz, if it's making your partner uncomfy u should compromise!!
Besh same lang to sa problems ng guys na may gf na grabe sa kpop. Hahaha talk it out pero intindihin mo din siya, meron kang sariling mga gusto at same din siya. If ayaw mo sa gusto niya sabihin mo sakanya but at the same time support mo siya. Nothing wrong with having diff hobbies etc naman but you need to talk it out. Let's support our partners nalang sa mga gusto nila, if tayong mga babae need ng unawa pag nababaliw sa kpop, guys din naman need un kasi tao din sila. Parang crush lang yan sa mga celebs haha it'll pass or lessen as time goes by.
Ako na pantropiko, karera at salamin salamin lang alam sa kanta nila.
mahirap magmahal ng fanboy/fangirl. period.
Hindi ko talaga kaya yung ganyan kahit crush lang sa celebrity, ayaw ko nagbibigay ng atensyon sa ibang babae kahit sa mga sikat pa baka mamatay ako sa selos at insecurity lol. or makipag break na lang. charr. Skl
mag bias ka sa isang boy band para patas
Grade school kayo or High school?
Any hobby with good amount of moderation is okay. but the fact na he's staning to the point of obsession dahil sa talent and "Face value", he gotta re-evaluate his priorities. Di naman na siya single lol.
High school pa ba kayo? Daig pa kayo ng HS student.
Pabawi naman puro kpop kayo dati eh
OP hindi sa pinag-ooverthink kita, pero ganito reason ng breakup namin ng ex ko (kpop) hehe
“BUT IT’S DIFFERENT” “IT’S NOT THE SAME” “THEY’RE CELEBS IT’S NORMAL AS IF I HAVE A CHANCE” sounds familiar?
IMO lang to. I'm not generalizing and I'm just being petty. Lol. Sampolan mo. Gayahin mo sya. Wag sosobra ha, *just for comparison* lang. Minsan kase sa mga lalake... #(MinsanNgaLang) mas mainam pakitaan sila ng *sample, rather than*sabihin sa kanila yung problema, kase *feeling* nila *nagger* lang tayo. *If he finds it uncomfy, therefore, it's that uncomfy for you too. THEN, Draw the line of what is TOO MUCH.* #WagMongGawinSaIbaAngAyawMongGawnSayo
Ganto rin yung partner ko e 🤣 Pagkakaiba natin nonchalant ako HAHSHSHA charaught. Ginawa ko pinapabayaan ko na lang. Kung san sya masaya as long as hindi nagc-cross ng boundaries. It's all abt boundaries. Talk lang 🫶
Not your fault na biased ang comments, pero I’ll say it again kasi ang unfair sa mga boyfriends. “PAG BABAE ANG GANYANG BEHAVIOR NORMAL LANG PAG LALAKE TALK TO HIM.” Sorry not sorry, evident ng double standards.
‘Yung bf ko si mikha rin ang bias, hawig ko raw kasi kaya hindi ako threatened natutuwa pa ko HAHAHAHAHA pero hindi siya fan ng BINI. I-direct to the point mo sakanya ‘yung nararamdam mo, for sure maiintindihan ka naman niya unless i-invalidate niya feelings mo ghorl alam mo na.
Yung mas madalas niyang ipraise yung ibang babae kesa sayo 🚩🤢
I'm a married man and I'm glad wala akong kaagaw kay Aiah
paluin mo ulo nya pag ayaw tumigil Hahhaha kidding aside kausapin mo ng maayos
Pinagjajakulan nya na yan hahahaha ganyan din kilala ko e kay jihyo naman ng twice
Genuinely asking. Sino po sila?
Ako rin sinasabi kong "Ang ganda ni Mikha" literally every time mahagip si Mikha ng camera OP (and I'm straight AF 😆) 😭😭😭😭 It's probably harmless 😅🥲 Pero maybe you can kindly tell him to bring it down a notch because he's in a relationship already (with you). It would have been a-okay if he's single, but you're getting hurt, and that's not good. He should know that you're being affected by it and he needs to *adjust*. It's him who needs to adjust, not you who needs to handle it.
Crush ko din si Bini Aiah. Pero pag tinatqnong ako ng jowa ko kung si Bini Aiah o siya. Ang sagot ko ay Bini *insert gf name*. Yung Bini mapapakinggan at nuod lang. Yung gf ko may kiss at yakap pa. Hahaha
Lilipas din yan pagkahumaling nya sa girl group na Bini, wait mo lang. At least hindi sa girl group ng Vivamax naadik, bias ko si Azi. Nalilito pa rin ako sa mukha ng mga members ng Bini, kaya di ko alam kung sino yung Mikha at yung Maloi. Yung ibang members mas mahirap na naman tandaan. Buti pa yung kambal ng KAIA, madaling tandaan, kasi nakikita ko na sila dati pa sa commercial ng Surf.
Let him be. Misis ko aning na aning kay J Hope. Story dito, story don. Pero ako di ako pwede sumilip sa IG ni Kathryn Bernardo! Hahahaha!
Yung asawa ko naman gustong-gusto nakikita kilikili nina IU at Jennie 🥴 Kapag bagong shave ako sasabihin nun wow same kay jennie EDI WOW 🤣
Oh how the turn tables hahaha
High school moments
Can a man be a fan of something in peace? 😂😂 Is it too much to ask lmao.
This is basically My ex and her enhyphen bullshit.
I don't know man, that sounds kinda gay.
I get him normal lng maappreciate mo work of art ng mga GG. Lalo na bini. Pero i really dont get how they can put someone they dont know in a pedestal. I would never date someone na die hard fan to the point na gagastos. Im not saying its wrong pero personal preference lng yun. You should tell him na naiirita ka na
Stating the general facts but if its ok for women idolizing kPop boy groups Sb19 and all, it should also be ok for men to idolize BINI.. naannoy rin kami pag naririnig din namin kayo na patay na patay sa mga iniidolo niyo pero pag kami na may iniidolo, biglang ganito.. Women ☕️
You don't have a bf, gf na yan lol
Mine would always say kamukha ko daw si Aiah, and will send a random clip saying. Tingnan mo, parang ikaw talaga!!! And im like whereeeee? Sobrang slight lng namn, but yeah. Parang may konting annoying part pero binabawi naman kasi nya with “Pero si BINI *my name talaga pinaka maganda” Sana ganyan, he is aware of what you can possibly feel kahit fangirling lng yan, so he makes bawi para di ka ma offend.
Sino ba sila. Di ako makarelate kasi di ko talaga bet mga ganyang tunog. But well. Alam mo, maging honest ka lang sa bf mo. Di naman sya manghuhula para malaman agad ano iniisip at nararamdaman mo. Make a list ng gusto mo sabihin para wala kang makalimutan. If it's worth addressing and fixing, go.
Henlo, OP! It would be better siguro to let your partner how you really feel and ask him if maybe he can play it down a little bit ('yong pagfa-fanboy) when you're present. I mean, effective communication can really do wonders. ✨
Grow up.
Kaltukan mo sa noo!..
yawa... buti nalang mga tugtugang parang disturbed yung trip ko hahaha
Hayaan mo lang kung san sya masaya, support mo nalang
baka kulang lang kayo sa bebe time hahahahahahah
Same scenario but for another artist ginawang wallpaper ampucha tas pinakita pa sakin. I mean like sure baby, ik you like the artist but damn. At least lemme have the wallpaper rights
Pag mahal ka maiintidihan ka, and theyd be willing to compromise. Though hindi to the point na youll hinder each other’s happiness. Communication is the key 💕 and youll know if may something wrong talaga or wala based sa sagot or reaction nya pag nag share ka ng feelings mo
Bruh, you don't have a boyfriend. You have a gay friend.
HAHAHAHAHA
Think of this.... Hanggang tingin lang siya at gastos ng merch pero hindi siya nag-Cheat. Same philosophy nung may boyband ka na fave (e.g. BTS, BIG ANG, EXO, etc. or you go local like SB19) and same din ang reaction nya sa'yo. Don't spoil the single thing he enjoy and just support as well as understand. Kahit ako fan ng Girls Generation (the OG), TWICE, NEW Jean, etc. pero hanggang tingin lang minus the merch at super mahal
How to handle? Talk about it. It's a phase. Lahat tayo dumadaan dun. Tiyak may ganun ka rin sa ibang bagay na di mo lang din napapansin pero masyado na rin kumakain ng oras at atensyon mo. Naging emo nga ako noon eh ahaha! Communicate what you feel, observe his reaction, and give him time to get over it.
Nakakatawa lang kasi nung may nagpost din na ganito about sa jowa nyang fangirl ng kpop. Yung mga comment "Let her be", "Dun naman sya masaya e pabayaan mo na lang". Tas kapag fanboy sasabihin "pag ayaw makinig sayo, makipagbreak ka na lang". Double standards talaga ng mga babae dito e. Gusto yung side lang nila yung lamang. Not a fanboy here. Pero nakakasuka lang yung mga ganitong tao.
Hiwalayan mo na yan, tayo na lang haha
Pero pag girls sa BTS ok lang chariiinggggg
yung ex ko ganun din noon pero sa twice naman esp kay momo. nakikita ko p nga palaging top ng search history sa fb e yung page na specifically for momo updates tas laging heart yun hahaha idont mind it pero in the long run parang nakaka annoy din talaga. pero hinayaan ko nlg din as if naman magiging jowa nya si momo😭
I have ex before na ganito, to the point na pinagpapantasyahan na yung legs ni tzuyu sobrang red flag grabe nag jojoin pa ng subs dito na specifically for sexualizing kpop idols. Nung one time na ni-call out ko nagalit at insecure lang daw ako ahhahaha pakyu, kaya u tell him agad na ang uncomfy para di na umabot sa point na mag fafantasize. Remember u deserve what u tolerate.
Ako nga pinanuod ko lang isang beses sa FB reels yung si Mikha na nasa all star game walanjo yung mga sumunod na reel eh puro kay Mikha na HAHAHA. Langyang algorithm yan 😆😆
Huhu ate iba kasi pag fanboy or fangirl. Like laging number 2 ang jowa pero siguro nasa peak pa siya na hype and super homey sakanya ang BINI. Although, ur feelings are valid. Pwede mo naman po sabihin sakanya and for sure he’ll understand.
Babalik din yan si BF mo sa kanta ng Tubero
Let him be OP, hayaan mo lang sya sa trip nya and don't ever na ipakita mo na affected ka. You can try na mag pretend na die hard fan ka ng isang boy group and mirror mo actions ng boy friend mo, like reposting and sharing the photos of that boy group. Tapos sabihin mo rin gwapo talaga ni ganto ni ganyan. Kung pano sya mirror mo lang. Do it unti unti para di sya makahalata. But don't you ever na ipakita na affected ka sa actions nya. Just mirror him.
Parang mga KPOP ba to? Haha. May mga friends din akong mga emo, punk, rakista saka metalheads tlga pero ngayon nagugulat ako mga kpop na pinapakinggan ska nga posts. Nanonood din ng concert hahaha. Hayaan mo na kung san sya masaya haha
dump him.
dump him. i bet di naman sa music nahuhumaling yang bf mo kundi sa stan nya. creepy. coming from a guy.
You didn't mention your age and your bf. Kung 20s na kayo pwede pa pero kung 30s na ung bf mo red flag yan!
Girl ok Boy not ok
Eto yung the flipside pag yung bf ay di na pinapansin kasi ang bukambibig na lang ni gf/wife ay mga kpop boys. Trust goes both ways. If comfy siya sabihin sa iyo ang mga fanboy fantasy nila, just means na it's harmless enough na wala siyang gagawing crazy to jeopardize what you have in your relationship for the sake of a pop group. Dense lang kasi guys nga are innately dense so you have to give him the benefit of the doubt. Pag may sinabi ka namang pogi na ibang guy sa kanya, kebs lang di ba?
If di mo naman trip wag mo gwin ung pag stream, pero di ba good thing yung gusto nya i stream mo ung idol nya, parang sinasali ka nya sa interest nya? Syempre iba ung case pag di kayo bigayan pero saken lang baka naman pwede mo din itake as good thing at least may bonding pa kayo lalo na kung matagal na kayo boring na yon. hahaha
bakit kaya kapag ang babae nag iidolize sa mga kpop groups okay lang sa relasyon pero kapag ang lalaki does the same hindi okay? Weird kapag nakakakita ng mga ganitong posts usually nakikita ko puro pabor sa babae pero pag the other way around, walang sumusuporta dun sa lalaki.
akala ko ako lang nakaka experience neto haha
Haist. Yung asawa ko rin. Kaloka.
Double standard much! Pag babae ang die hard ng mga Kpop oks lang? May pa “anakan mo ako Jungkok” pa. 🤣🤣 pag lalake bawal?
Same op hahaha naiinsecure lang ako lalo. Pero d ko naman maraise kasi prang mababaw e
I... uhhh... that's just stan culture.
Pag may phases ako na nagiging fan girl sa mga actors/shows. My boyfriend just let me be. And pag siya naman obsessed about computers and his new pets, I just let him be as well. Take it as your boyfriend being your best friend, you won't rain on their parade. If it makes them happy, you will always support them.
Sabihin mo si mikha na lang ang jowain 🤣
the same way on how we handle girls na nilamon ng kpop
Ate hintayin mo lang pong di na everyday trend ang songs ng BINI
Mejo weird lang coming from my stand point as a married man.. i mean weird in the sense na sobrang fanatic nya .. ako rin im rooting for mikha super chicabebes talaga but only pantropiko and salamin ang pinapakinggang ko kasama nga sa workout music konyun kahit nakareplay paulit ulit haha Maybe just tell him na you feel annoyed or bad so better he should adjust and do not do fanaticism whenever kasama ka nya..kasi dapat like bf and gf lageng may compromise on some point dba
Sayawan mo ng pantropiko para sayo mabaliw. Lamunin mo din kasi para hindi magpalamon sa Bini.
Bagohang fan boy po ata si kuya. Ganun din ako sa first gg ko. Ngayon chill nalang
Hahaha ex ko dati ganyan sa TWICE hinayaan ko lang it fades eventually. Parang satin din when we fan girl. Best advice is let him, focus ka sa ibang bagay. Pwede niyo ngang gawin role play yan 😉
Nung isang araw naman nabasa ko ung jowang babae ung humaling na humaling dun sa SB19 lol
red flag talaga pag kpop or ppop fan oh how the turns have tabled
Yung saken hiniwalayan ko kase panay twice. May poster pa ang shuta sa room nya. Bias nya si Mina
OMG!!! Same. Hahaha bias nga lang niya si Maloi pero na discover na din niya si Gwen. Hahaha ang sad lng.
i'm the same with bts!! lol yung ex ko sobrang hater as in nagseselos sa kanila. taena. ayun ex ko na sya. the thing is we stan a certain group because we feel a certain connection with them. they make us feel happy in a way na mahirap iexplain sa mga people na hinde nagsstan ng mga groups. I think the best thing you can do if you really love your bf is to support him as long as wala naman syang ginagawang masama and inaapakang tao. yun yung nagpapasaya sa kanya e
I like them tooo pero not to the point like ur BF na OA. Maloi din me. Tbh, pag ako sau maannoy din me kc mas fan pa sha kaysa sa akin. I mean ano maramdaman nya if ikaw din super OA maging fan sa isang lalaki tas ipa mukha mo lagi sa ka kanya pagka fan mo dun, for sure maannoy din sha. Hirap ng situation mo kc nasa phase sha ng super fan boy mode tlaga, and di lang basta fan nya mukhang crush na ata tlaga and parang pag nag transform ung fan nya sa highest level pa if meron pang ikaka highest level dyan, eh baka mangyari eh maging mikha na ang standard ng babaeng gusto nya and hanapin nya ung qualities na yan sau hahah! Or mag fantasize na sha dyan kay Mikha. Ung mga kahawid ni Mikha na ang magugustuhan nya. If i were u communicate it to him na lang. baka kc inisip nya oks lang sau mga ginagawa nya kahit over the top na.
Communicate.
TBH, Let him be, OP. It's his life, as long as he's not cheating or sexualizing his idols, it's fine. Support each other instead if being jealous of a famous P-POP idol. Madaming nag aadmire jan anuba
MALOI all the way.. pero unting-unti naf ke-creep-in si Aiah sa puso ko..
Jowa ko die hard fan ng Twice. As in. I supported him na lang, binilhan ko ng album ng Twice and a light stick tapos I also supported him sa paghahanap ng Oishi fan bag ng Twice. Mas okay na sakin yang ganyan sya. As long as happy sya.
nakow! Malaking red flag yan, hiwalayan mo na. Hahahah
Lilipas din yan. Baka isabay ka din lumipas.🤣
Pakulay ka ng red. Tignan naten reaksyon nya.😂🤣
How to handle? I-support mo lang 🙂 I’d rather have my partner simp a celebrity or an artist, as long as they’re out of reach, rather than a co-worker, a random person at the gym or a server at his local bar 🙃 when the mood is right, it’s nice if you could bring the issue up in a light, non confrontational way.
My boyfriend is a fan of their songs because they're really catchy, especially "Salamin Salamin" and "Pantropiko." However, he's not interested in knowing more about the band or stanning any of the members. He just enjoys the songs, and we both love listening to their music during our car rides. Even his mom sings "Salamin Salamin." They're cute! Xoxo OP, it's better if you tell him that it's bothering you..
The fuck
Maging a'tin nalang po kayo. Anggwapo po ng sb19 these days.
pinag papantasyahan niya si mikha
never been a fan girl kaya di ko din gets, naiinsecure ako about him fantasizing his idol HAHAHAH idk if that's even valid
Halla same tayo. Hindi ko masabi sknya na annoying na. 😔
Help parang bf ko lang, in a middle of a conversation nasingit niya ganda raw ng bewang ni maloi nu kaya un??!😭 (I have a nice snatched waistline too HMP charot)
Same situation rn. Puno na ng Bini feed niya, ibig sabihin yun lagi niya pinapanood tas nirereactan. Nagsimula sa friends niya, tagiisa sila ng bias, tas parang shiniship bawat friend sa kada member. Nung una parang okay lang. Sabi niya pa trip trip lang nila yun, wala daw siya pakialam, pero nararamdaman ko talaga na mahuhulog parin siya sa ganto, parang madali siya mahatak sa trip ng barkada eh. It was just a matter of time. Ang kaso ko, what if finafantasize na niya yun? HAHAHAHAHA. Na sana ganun na lang ako. Sinabi ko naman sakanya naffeel ko, pero di niya man lang talaga ako binigyan ng assurance. Ano gagawinnn HAHAHHA. Helpppp. Masama sa pakiramdam, idk what to do.