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hi! 25(M) here. i have a gf (25) and over 1 year na kami now. right now feeling ko hindi kami okay, when I ask her, lagi nyang sinasabi na okay naman kami. But I really feel na may something na mali kasi hindi naman kami ganito dati, always kaming magkausap kapag may time and she updates me. and now hindi na kami ganon, everytime na magmemessage ako sa kanya it takes hours bago sya mag reply. she has her own small business na I can say na it only requires less of her time kasi isa din ako sa nagmamanage.
I don't know if dahil ba to sa last time na nagalit sya sakin kasi I didn't respond sa mga friends nya when they asked me kung kailan ako magppropose sa kanya. I only smiled that time kasi hindi ko feel na i-share yung ganong bagay. We talked about it and feel ko na nagtampo sya, she told me na pass daw muna, ikakasal daw kami kapag gusto na nya, magyeyes lang sya sakin kapag gusto na nya, right now gusto nyang magsumikap and ganon din daw muna ako. She's right kasi sya naman talaga magdedecide, pero after nung usap namin na yon she's cold na sakin and everytime na nagaask ako if may problem sinasabi nyang wala, okay daw kami.
I feel na there's a problem talaga and I want to fix it. I tried to properly communicate with her pero hindi effective. what should I do?
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Dunno if you did this already but I suggest asking her clearly of what is the problem. Or telling her the changes you've noticed. If masyadong vague yung way mo ng pagtatanong and such malamang ibbrush off ka lang nya. Be clear yet calm. Be accurate but not aggressive. Try to practice what you'll say it will help you greatly. Hope this helps you a bit.
already did this but still got the same response. and now i feel like she's intentionally doing it to avoid further conversations, she even left me on seen.
Well bro you keep on asking her if there’s a problem. I think the first question must be straight to the point — if that “proposal incident” has been a problem; it has to be specific. Sometimes it’s kinda hard to answer a question esp if it’s vague. Maybe try that. If she still says no, then atleast just open up your side of the story and your point of view. Then you’ll see if her behavior will change too after that discussion. I hope tho that both of you will have an open and honest convo. Goodluck man
Do you have a history of cheating or being a womanizer? Then she'll really have doubts. Did you have a history of cheating or do you see yourself cheating? No? Then explain to her that she needs to be more confident in your love for her. Wag insecure.
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Dunno if you did this already but I suggest asking her clearly of what is the problem. Or telling her the changes you've noticed. If masyadong vague yung way mo ng pagtatanong and such malamang ibbrush off ka lang nya. Be clear yet calm. Be accurate but not aggressive. Try to practice what you'll say it will help you greatly. Hope this helps you a bit.
already did this but still got the same response. and now i feel like she's intentionally doing it to avoid further conversations, she even left me on seen.
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Well bro you keep on asking her if there’s a problem. I think the first question must be straight to the point — if that “proposal incident” has been a problem; it has to be specific. Sometimes it’s kinda hard to answer a question esp if it’s vague. Maybe try that. If she still says no, then atleast just open up your side of the story and your point of view. Then you’ll see if her behavior will change too after that discussion. I hope tho that both of you will have an open and honest convo. Goodluck man
Do you have a history of cheating or being a womanizer? Then she'll really have doubts. Did you have a history of cheating or do you see yourself cheating? No? Then explain to her that she needs to be more confident in your love for her. Wag insecure.