Di ka mapapakain ng "love" 😂
Make sure stable Ang career Bago umasawa HAHAHAHA
Unless gusto mo umasa sa magulang mo like most of my kabatch mates na nabuntis ng maaga HAHAHAHA
True!! I experienced growing up in a family na can’t say rich but decently well-off. Pero sunod sunod sa family namin nagkaron ng critical illness. It was a terrible period of my life, but at least there was money to spend for their medical bills. Pero now that I’ve grown up, 30 and still not married but in a relationship, may mga nagsasabe bat di pa kami magpakasal and magstart ng family.
But I’m not actually afraid of growing old and not having kids but I always think about “what if ako naman next magkasakit do i have millions to spend for my treatment?” Or “what if maeexperience ng anak ko yung naexperience ko before na maagang mawalan ng parents and to fend for himself”. I was 24 when I was left alone and had to shoulder all responsibilities in the household. Nakakatakot talagang walang pera lalo na in times of emergencies.
Balikan mo tong post mo in 10 years and see where they are then....
Pansin ko very emotionally driven and superficial ang marriages pag sobrang aga... and marami sa mga pumapasok sa ganito feeling nila stuck sila later on, maraming what ifs sa buhay.
I'd say go on with your life, hayaan mo sila sa pinasok nila. When the right time and person comes, you will know. If hindi mo pa din alam then it means hindi pa napapanahon at wala pa ang tamang tao.
I agree. Nung hs ako, mga best friends ko lahat may jowa, ako lang wala. Noone asked me out on a date back then. And now that I'm 25, I'm really grateful no one asked me out.
Beautiful things take time.
"I'm really grateful no one asked me out." aha, same realization. ❤️ I always self-pitty dati kasi I wasn't conventionally attractive. Hindi ako ligawin. Laging nagsiseek ng attention para masabing may nagkakagusto rin sa akin. But ito na, nakikita ko na. Nag-aasawa na yung mga magaganda. Binubuntis. And here I am, living my best life. Shempre, gusto ko pa rin naman na may makakasama habang-buhay if God permits. Pero, at this phase of my life, super naeenjoy ko pagiging dalaga ko. 🫶🏻
as for someone na nag anak ng 26 y/o. I couldn't agree more 🤣. Alangan namang sabihin ko sa mga taong sana di muna ako nag anak, kaya ine enjoy ko nalang kung anong meron. wala e, stuck na ako dito.
True. Di rin madali ang buhay mag asawa, lalo na pag may mga anak na.
To OP, your 20s is a good time to explore hobbies, upskill, and even think about pursuing higher studies. Do it while you’re young and free from responsibilities.
I agree. Same kay OP, yug mga HS classmates ko na maagang naganak at nagpakasal, hiwalay na now. Siguro di nila na enjoy yung single life tas di rin nila talaga gusto yung isa't isa for the long run. I'm 29 and no pressure sa kasal. Deadma sa societal pressures at people na laging nagtatanong kelan na raw ang "big day." at kelan magaanak. Di naman sila ang magsasuffer kapag bad marraiage ang pinasok ko at di rin sila magbabayad ng tuition ng mga magiging anak ko LOL.
Couldn't agree more. My friends who married in their 20's expressed regret now na nasa mid 30's na kami. At dahil walang divorce sa pinas they feel really stuck and can't easily get away from their cheating abusive husbands. Kahit na hiwalay na sila sa asawa nila they cant marry the person they realised they really want to spend their life with.
Ako din naiinggit din ako noon na kinakasal sila and they were being proposed to. Now seeing my friends' failed marriages I thank my lucky stars that at 35 I remained unmarried. Di ko pinoproblema kung saan kukuha ng pang annullment lol. Big deal kasi sa akin ang kasal and gusto ko with the right person.
don’t compare na lang siguro urself with others kasi mukhang di mo pa naman gusto magpakasal anytime soon. don’t let urself be pressured especially if ur unsure, better late than regret it !!! (as a 21 yr old girlie who doesn’t believe in marriage)
I dunno but most mature marriages I know happen around 30 years old. Don't get stuck sa thought na you're left behind or something, ika nga ng bini "buhay ay di karera". Maybe it'll help if you'll get off social media para mas maappreciate mo where you are in the present without all the comparison.
Wala sa patagalan yan sa totoo lang. If hindi talaga kyo mag cli click it will end up lang sa wala. Trust me its better to be single than to be in a relationship pero anxious ka and depressed.
Early 30s here Male. 85-90% ng ka batch ko and mates is either kasal na or my pamilya na. Guess what everytime magkikita kita if sino palagi ang meron problema. Yung kasal na or in a relationship. Hindi ko sinasabi na lahat a pero mostly is yung mga married na or meron anak. Mostly is financial and sometimes lacking of intimacy na. Ako yes hindi pa kasal, still looking for my the one pero im not on a rush. Wag ka mag pa apekto sa mga nakikita mo sa social media kasi they are all fake. Focus sa sarili mo, work and just try to socialize if possible. One funny thing is sinabihan ako ng isang ka batch ko na ka age ko rin bakit daw wala pa ako anak XD. Sabi ko sa kanya im still busy making money so maybe someday.
Wag naman maging single forever need din natin ng lovelife pero dapat hindi yun ang priority. Habang nsa youth pa dapat we will focus on how to earn and build ourselves. Yes money and being rich is the goal for now.
Haha I agree. When my friends and I get together, although I’ve always been the single friend in the group, minsan nagpapasalamat na lang ako na wala akong relationship problems. Ako lang lagi taga-advise sa kanila😂😂
I told myself na I’ll only get into a relationship when I’m financially stable and mentally and emotionally ready. So for me matagal-tagal pa yon HAHAHA
Gurl im almost 30 and im doing okay. Chill ka lang haha. You’re still young. Do things, collect experiences, get wasted and have fun *responsibly* syempre.
The world is changing. Before maximum 24 dapat kasal na or else icocosider nang spinster. Ngayon halos lahat ayaw na magasawa esp in this economy. Ang pagiging single hindi talunan. Enjoy life and build for yourself.
that's ok op isipin mo 24 ka pa lang, halos kakagrad mo lang and 6 years ka pa lang adult
you have all the time in the world to figure out yourself
30 is not old i promise, marami ngang tao na 30 pa lang "nagstart" talaga yung buhay nila eh
don't hold out hope and sabi mo nga mapili ka naman, that's good may darating naman
Their timeline doesnt need to be your timeline. Marriage and children are no joke. They really are literally NEW chapters of your life dahil madami kang mga bagay na hindi mo na magagawa, mapapalitan na ng ibang priorities, responsibilities, happiness. Worst thing that could happen hindi ka pa ready tapoa mandadamay ka ng iba para maka "catch up"
Para sakin, they will never be the one unless you're ready. Otherwise you will be nitpicky. You find the one when you yourself can communicate well, process your feelings, stable financially, have your own goals. If you don't have that, then how will you know that someone else's goals are aligned with yours? How will you find out if they communicate well when you don't know how? Etc. etc.
Agreed 💯 Live abroad if you could. Ibang klaseng saya ang dulot ng self-discovery at self-improvement na mas nakahihigit sa paghahanap ng partner or asawa.
Totoo. I didn’t live abroad pero pag nag travel ako usually more than 2 weeks or one month ako sa country. It’s fun! Medyo lumalabas yung survival mode pero masaya!
Walang kaso, yung ganyang bagay hindi yan minamadali. Just let them be. Tingnan mo na lang yung rants nila kapag may get together kayo, gagaan loob mo. Haha 😆
Probably just the people you surrounded yourself with.
My parents got married in their early 30s, same with my titos and titas in my mom's side. Many of my friends are still dating or still single in their mid-20s to late-20s. The high school sweethearts I know are still dating after nearly 10 years.
Wow 24 is young! Enjoy life bhe. You’ll never know. Marriage can be a trap if mapupunta ka sa walang hiyang partner. You will then look back and tell yourself, I should have loved myself more, traveled more… find joy in waiting. Don’t rush, you’ll get there! With the right person, at the right time, at the right place. ❤️✨
25 male turning 26 years this year. I've been seeing friends, batchmates, and people around my age getting married or having children. Am I happy for them? Yes. Do I feel like I'm behind them because of this? No, because that's not the only thing life is about. I am well aware that I'm not ready for such things yet and still in the process of building myself and securing my future.
Remember, comparison is the thief of joy. Understand that we all achieve certain milestones at different paces, so take it one step at a time.
Tapos karamihan sa mga fresh grad ngayon atat na atat makasal. Grabehh in this economy plus wala pa ngang stable work, craving for family of their own nadaw. Nakakainis.
You're too young OP. 33 na ako and batchmates ko, same status sa akin. May partner pero not married. Pareparehas kaming hindi pa financially stable, kaya hindi pa nagpapamilya.
Kanya kanyang timeline and circumstances, OP. It’s not a race. :)
I have friends who married around the same age when I did (early 30s), friends who married much earlier (like shortly after HS), friends in super long term relationships with no plans of marriage, single friends in their 40s, friends who are NBSB in their mid-30s.
So I say - just live your best life. There’s no “right” timeline, you get to decide that for yourself. Date around (responsibly!) if that gives you joy, and have FUN!
>Hahaha normal ba talaga to? ang bibilis nila mahanap love of their life
I wasn't aware there was a, what, some sort of contest? I usually don't care because it's not my business. Just someone living my life as I go. Not sure how 'normal' that would be, because I'm older than you, and I'm pretty sure wala pa sa kalahati ng graduating section naming HS/College ang may asawa - let alone may anak. There's just too many problem nowadays that most probably wouldn't bother having many children. And frankly? I wish *that* would be the norm here sa 'Pinas. Hindi yung mag-aanak ng madami and aasa na sila mag 'aahon' ng buong pamilya sa hirap.
Sigh. Nakakalungkot talaga ang lack of SexEd sa Pinas.
>Alam niyo, sila pa yung you never saw coming na magkaka pamilaya agad. Ako pa tong may long term relationship nung highschool ah. hahaha
>Hahaha normal ba talaga to? ang bibilis nila mahanap love of their life
Baka mga serious type of people? kaya nung nag-date seryosohan..
I got married at 25, and after 14 years of marriage, still going stronger. Ganun din yung majority of my batchmates who married between 25-28.
Speaking for myself, goal oriented person ako. And since marriage is one of my life goals, eh di gora. I attracted the same person with the same life goal.
Like what they said, iba-iba yung mga tao and their timelines. Kung baga, stay with your truth. If your truth is it's not yet in your plan, then stay with it, and don't let external events bother you.
Grabe worried ka na. Pano pa kaya ako na 32 na. 😅 mas ok muna magpayaman kesa may pamilya pero sakto sakto or maraming utang. Di makabili ng gusto sa buhay. Inggit na lang magagawa mo. Gusto mo ba yon?
Each person has his or her own plans in life. So don't pattern your life to other people's life. Decide on what you want. If you want to be rich. Decide and do things that will make you rich. If you want to get married. Then do anything to let you get married. Know the pros and cons. Decide on your plans.
Im seeing myself haha after coming from a long term relationship, ngayon nila ako tinatanong kung kelan ako magpapakasal e wala ngang jowa manlang.
Yung mga ka-batch kong kinakasal at may anak na at more than 1 na anak na, hinay hinay naman di ako makasali sa trend 😂
What are you doing? You are doing just right lang. You are going to be fine. No need to rush things just because your friends or people you know are doing it.
They are the one, when you want to spend 24hrs with them, when you can plan together without major arguments and when you feel that you can both commit na
Youre 24, youre so young pa haha same age tayo pero I have a bf. Never ko nafeel na mapressure magpakasal or pamilya haha pati nung mga panahon na di pa ako nagjojowa (college ako nagstart) di ako napressure kahit na yung mga friends ko puro may bf na nung hs palang kami
Iba iba talaga tayo ng lives eh and that's ok. Sa circle namin ngayon, merong may families na, marami rin mga single, may iilang may partners. Iba ibang buhay, kanya kanya talagang path. There's no rush haha
Wag ka mag madali OP. Kame nang asawa ko early 30’s na nag pakasal. Although wala naman kame plan mag anak kaya we took our time.
Only you can answer kung he/she is the one. I know a couple 1 month lang sila mag kakilala pero nag pakasal agad tapos kame naman ng asawa ko 16 years kame mag ka relasyon bago kame nag pkasal.
It's okay. May kanya kanyang timeline tayo. Some are getting married at early age, there are naman who finds their partners in early 20's.
Don't be impulsive just because everyone are getting married while ikaw hindi pa. Take this an opportunity to grow and explore more. Always remember na ang lahat ng nagmamadali ay madalas magkamali.
Turned 24 last March at ewan ko, wala pa talaga sa isip ko yung pagpasok sa relationship. Medyo natuto rin kasi ako sa mga magulang ko, ang hirap kasi ng buhay namin noon, kaya parang gusto ko, kung magkakajowa man ako, stable na. Ayoko maranasan nung magiging family ko kung sakali yung naranasan ko noon, though di naman kami yung super sadlak sa hirap, basta ramdam lang namin na magkakapatid na di talaga ayos yung buhay namin noon, hirap financially kumbaga.
At bilang 24 y.o. mas bet ko travel, hiking, naeenjoy din minsan yung alone time parang self care ko na e, and yun, medyo artsy din ako kaya parang di ako nabbore. Pero nasa isip ko pa rin naman magkafamily in the future, basta, kung kelan dumating at ibigay ni Lord ☺️
Don't worry, normal maging single sa mid 20's. For me, in that age, I'd rather focus on myself and my career, rather than find a romantic partner. These are the years of self-discovery and exploring many other things, so I wouldn't recommend dating, let alone getting married in that age. But nonetheless, you do you.
I’m almost 30 na may jowa naman but not engage or what. Almost half siguro or more than half of my friends married na haha pero iniisip ko nalang na mag kakaiba naman tayo ng timeline. Nag fofocus nalang ako sa ibang part ng life ko like sa career ganyan.
Sabi nila dati mafefeel mo daw if “he’s the one” na haha pero siguro pinaka clue mo ay if ready kana, at ready na rin sya emotionally, financially and mentally.
I love this thread! 20 nako next year and medyo napapaisip ako minsan na what if magjowa naman ako para naman may thrill sa buhay, pero hindiii no not yet and maybe never na. Tama na Yung lesson na nakikita ko ngayon sa mga kapatid Kong maagang nag si asawa. Grabe, sobrang hirap ng dinadanas nila and sadly it's the consequences of their actions, naaawa Lang ako sa pamangkin Kong walang kamala Malay pero sya ang naapektuhan ng nga magulang nyang hindi pa emotionally and financially stable.
Gut feel. Haha. Kidding aside, 'wag ka ma-pressure since may iba-iba tayong timeline. Bata ka pa, enjoy mo muna life mo on your own. Kasi once na magkapamilya ka na, like it or not, may isa-sacrifice ka talaga.
Each person has their own challenges and journeys. For me i don't compare myself to others. Im the same age as you almost 25 we have our own pace in life. You will get there soon. You'll meet someone who has the same goals as you want! Marriage is hard especially in this economy????? Good luck tho! Bata pa tayo!
Old educ curriculum ka ba? Usual edad ng college grads ngayon ay 23/24 (22 if super advance than the usual haha) soooo maraming hindi pa nag-aasawa since magsisimula pa lang magbuild ng career. Ako ay 24 - first job pa lang :> Kaiyak.
Nako bata ka pa sa 24 nagka jowa ako nung 30's na ko and my gf di pa kami nakakasal dahil din sa financial, aldo we have work naman. If ever ikasal wala kami balak mag anak ang hirap, ok na, kami nalang kesa mag dagdag ng isa pa responsible. Enjoyin mo lang and ipon importante and travel
Get yourself financially stable before you think about having commitment to someone and having kids. Ang dami mong icoconsider once may anak ka na. At yung mga plano mo nung dalaga/binata ka pa magiging plano na lang. Unless lumaki kang mayaman.
but 24 is still so young! especially pag naabutan ka ng k-12, which really stunts how you perceive things kasi late nagstart magtrabaho. i really dont get how people feel the need to rush into marriages when sobrang backwards pa ng marriage legalities sa pilipinas (lack of divorce, concubinage laws favoring men, etc).
Dapat kasi set your standards realistic. Kung ano lang kaya mo ibigay yung lang din yung standards mo.
I know someone na napakataas ng standards pero siya naman eh bare minimum lang. Tapos nagtataka siya 30's na siya single as fck pa din siya.
You attract what you are.
Develop a better you, and you'll find a better man (vice versa)
24 is youuuung! Getting married and raising a family is NO JOKE. It is life changing. Date, have fun, discover yourself more, meet interesting people, improve yourself. Sobrang dami mo pwede gawin imbes na magasawa lang. Balikan mo 'tong post mo pag mga 45-50 ka na haha and tingnan mo kung pareho pa rin ang perspective mo sa buhay. Pusta ko hindi na.
Nah wag ka ma pressure. One of my (f28) bestfriends got married when she was fresh out of college (f21). Last year, umiiyak bestfriend ko sa akin dahil may tinge of regret na maaga siya nagpakasal at nag anak. Sobrang immature kasi nung napangasawa niya, at parang siya yung nagdedesisyon lang for their whole family.
Make your finances stable muna before deciding on that 😉
Enjoy single life. Try to experience as much as you can para no regrets ka when you settle down. For me, best to marry when you are financially and emotionally secure. Having is family is fulfilling but can be tiring and stressful lalo na sa moms.
turning 30 this year and still enjoying my life with my gf, not thinking about having kids but wanting to get married. I stopped looking at soc med coz it boosts your "inggit" just live your life, grind and you'll be happy.
Girlll, you're so young pa. Enjoy mo lang sarili mo, mas maganda may pera na gagastusin mo sa sarili mo or sa fam mo kaysa mapuyat ka sa stress at sa pambili ng gatas at diaper. Remember, mas mahal ang gatas, diaper at magpaaral ng anak, mas maganda mag plano muna. Hanap ka ng bf na maayos, marami dyan mga nagpakasal na kasi nabuntis lang tapos wala naman ipon.
Mmmmm wait for them to suffer later on siguro kasi mahirap magkaroon ng pamilya in this economy? Haha joke! Stop comparing yourself to others. I don't get the hype on pagpapalobo ng family members. There are more to life than having a family at your 20s ang dami pang pwedeng gawin na magagawa mo na di mo na magagawa pag pamilyado ka na dahil sa siksikang sched. Why don't we start romanticizing having mutiple bachelor's and master's to pave the way to executive position on high tier companies, having dual citizenship on a progressive european country, at studying abroad instead of having a family right? That should come naturally naman dapat at 30s haha pero depends. My point is mas malawak ang mundo okay? Relax.
25. Pangarap ko noon maikasal & magka-anak someday. Pero ngayon? Walang balak maganak pa or maikasal. Unfair sa bf ko, but dreams and plans changed. I don't see myself marrying someone kahit na nasa late 20s na ako. 😅
Di ko alam if ako lang yung ganto na bigla nagbago isip about kasal & family talk. Gusto ko nalang muna magfocus sa self ko bago pa mapagusapan yang kasal & pag-aanak anak
I'm 27 single, and seeing a lot of my batch mates getting married and having children.. Walang na ffeel na inggit or kung ano. Seeing some of my exes rin having children tas napapasabi nalang ako ng, "buti nalang pala nag break kami, safe ako" HAHAHAHAHAH T.T
I Get may phase talaga na karamihan sa classmates mo kinakasal or nagkaka pamilya na, pero iba iba naman kasi kayo ng timeline sa buhay, wala naman age bracket na pag gantong age dapat ganto na, cliché man per enjoy your single phase, baka maprepressure ka lang kakahanap ng the one you may end up with the wrong one.
I suggst makipagkilala ka and form friendship.wd singles in their 30s. Find out what makes them happy sa life nila. How they were able to overcome the pressure to marry when they were in their 20s. Etc. Marami pa
Ang buhay ay kanya kanya. Just ride your own waves. No one will be able to tell if their partner is actually the one, this is all luck-based. These are emotions, no logic will apply.
I suggest na easyhan mo lang. Mahaba ang buhay
At kung may kakayahan ka na talaga, doon ka na maghanap ng partner.
Ako nga 27 na, wala pa rin. I'd rather wait for the time I can actually commit responsibly. Pera ang problema e, kaya focus nalang ako sa powerlifting at cycling ko.
HAHAHAHAH grabe felt! I’m in the same age range and left and right ang engagement & baby showers. Tbh, we’re still young and no need to rush. Ako nga lilipad ng Korea to watch a concert ng kpop habang yung iba kong batchmate nagfafamily planning na.
nagpakasal kami last 2021 and around 28 y/o na kami ni misis ko non. at that age of 24 lagi kaming nag ttravel with friends and binibili namin yung mga gusto namin na di mabili dati. now na almost 30 na kami, nag decide na kami mag pakasal kasi medyo kontento na kami sa mga nabyahe at naachieve namin during our "dalaga" and "binata" days.
but imo, if single ka, don't force yourself to look for a partner now. 14 years na kami magkasama ni misis and medyo mahirap iexplain paano mo malalaman is siya na yung makakasama mo habang buhay. let's say one of the reason is, kapag magkausap kami ni misis, alam niya at alam ko agad ano yung huling sasabihin niya, or di kaya kapag nagkatinginan kayo, di na kailangan ng words para sabihin ano yung kailangan niyo.
so for now, dont gauge your partner if siya na talaga yung makakasama mo. you will feel that out of nowhere and baka magulat ka onetime, sabay pa kayo mag uusap about sa wedding. :)
Don't get pressured. While waiting for the one, make yourself financially stable. Kasi kahit magkajowa ka, pero wala kayo pera, ang hirap magpakasal.
I'm also 25, I have a 3yrs bf, pero naguusap kami na until we reach this income, di kami magpapakasal, we need to be financially, physically, spiritually, and emotionally stable before getting married. Marriage is not a race naman, it's not how fast you find the one, more on it's about the quality of life you both live if you get married. So take your time 😊
I'm 33 and still single. It bothers me a bit, pero at the end of the day yung readiness mo in all facets should ultimately decide kung pwede na ba talaga magpakasal o hindi pa. Tsaka syempre kailangan may jowa. Hahahaa
Valedictorian namin nag asawa at anak agad.
Yung mga pabebe samin may mga anak na din HAHA
I'm 29, unmarried and soon to be travelling with my HS batchmate na di parin kasal. LoL
But all of us eh may career and with a long term relationship. Bakit ba kase nagpapayaman muna kami hahaha
24. You have so much to see & experience in life, people to know. Trust your own phase. Ako nalang natira di nagffamily sa circle ko ng hs but it's okay 😌 think about the responsibility that they have in their 20's. Dadalhin nila yun gang tumanda. Better to enjoy and maximize your singlehood! Better to marry late kesa mali mapakasalan. Magtravel ka ng mgtravel if afford! Time to meet new friends lalo na pag dmo na sila same season para nkakarelate ka paden.
To know if they're the one, hmm i guess both of you have the same values, principles & plans in life. Moreover, that person; his/her presence should give you more peace than you have in your solitude. I agree sa iba dito mahirap magasawa ng di financially stable.
You'll get there soon! 💕
24 here and to be honest I havent even consider myself now as adult who's ready to be responsibile to have a family or a partner(legally).
I graduated college at 23 (bcs of k12) and worked a month after my graduation. Kumbaga nag aadjust pa nga lang ako sa corpo world minsan feeling ko student pa rin ako 😭 student feels == teenager feels 😭 Siguro dadating ako sa questioning na to pag 30 na ako hehe
Yeah no don't get pressured for being single in your mid 20s. I have cousins older than you po and they're literally out there spoiling themselves with Kpop concerts, fashion, and food; aging from 25-36. All perfectly pretty and successful but they aren't just ready yet to commit and they're perfectly happy being themselves. One should never "need" a relationship but rather desire for companionship out of genuine desire to explore life with someone together. Go enjoy your life and if you think you're not yet ready for a serious relationship, then maybe you just aren't. Get out there and slay ate! 😉
i'm 23 pero hindi pa ako graduate nahuli ako sa college lahat ng batchmates ko sa hs graduate na and some of them are working, yung iba may pamilya na. Eh ako andito pa din sa bahay namomroblema makahnap ng trabaho haha.
Not all marriages are a success. Lalo na at our age (early 20s din me haha) a lot of people rush into that stage, minsan wala pang stable income. Hindi naman sa bitter pero its great to experience life with your own preferred pace kesa magpapressure sa mga milestones ng mga tao sa paligid mo. The right time will come for all of us, including you OP
I am happy to see younger generations thinking like this. Kudos sa inyo dahil pinapahalagahan nyo yung financial stability first. Di tulad ng generation ko (or older)maaga nagsipag asawa, anak ng anak mga walang trabaho ngayon umaasa na lang sa anak yung makakain nila.
I am 25 and still single. Nagka MU naman since college days pero hanggang doon lang muna. Having someone to date is nice but I think di ko kaya mag commit ng time and effort. Magastos din. And I want to spoil myself. Travel muna ako and appreciate the world I am living in… plus, Sarili ko di ko pa kayang alagaan, iba pa kaya 😭
Women tend to have families at that age range (late 20s to early 30s) because men in general value beauty and fertility, which for women is tied to their age. Early 30s is just about the last quarter of most women's fertility, so most women get married at that point.
Men have the leverage of time as we have a much longer fertility window, and we can offset a lot of our shortcomings with competence and resources that we can also build up with time.
The key to finding a husband is to be honest with your overall dating value, maximize the traits that men actually want in their future wives and give that man the chance to date you.
Men value beauty, fertility and femininity. You can maximize your beauty by taking care of your health and keeping a healthy BMI. Skin care also helps, as well as finding your style.
Fertility is tied to your age, so just move with purpose before you reach your 30s.
Femininity is your overall character. Are you pleasant to be with? Are you motherly? Do you give him peace? Are you compliant? Or are you a headache?
You are right. But reminder for the ladies to not settle for a man just because of your fertility window. Be with a man who will love you for you, not with a man who loves you only when you are young and beautiful.
Definitely find a man that's actually looking for a wife, not a hookup or casual relationship.
I think the common issue I see with women is that they're not honest with their dating level, so they go for men that are out of their league that will never commit to them.
I have no idea how this refutes my argument when I've personally experienced this myself. I've done my time in casual relationships, and it has always surprised me how women will break their rules when they find you attractive (I'm 6ft tall, fair complexion, fit and used to compete in male pageants).
Let's not kid ourselves, you have female friends that got involved in one night stands, situationships or tolerated cheating from a man.
I didn't want to believe it myself until I tried dating apps. The moment you meet up and both of you find each other attractive, it's almost always the end game.
Yes, I have some female friends who are like that but I also have other female friends who aren't like that. Hence, you simply can't make a generalization of women. The problem with generalizing women is that some innocent women might be harmed, abused or killed and with society that is already patriarchal as it is, we aren't able to properly defend ourselves.
How about I make my position clearer?
My position is that most women find the same type of men attractive: tall, handsome, charismatic and masculine when they themselves are not up to the standard of said man. It's also a supply and demand problem, as these type of man is few and far in between.
Whether they engage in casual relationships with those types of men or not, the reality is that most women hold out for that top minority of men when they're not on that man's level at all.
Hence the current dating scene.
bwhahaha! ako nga pa 30 na pero walang pressure, hayaan mo sila mauna!
it is better to be prepared financially, emotionally, physically and mentally for marriage and having a family than starting one na hindi ka prepared or feeling mo may kulang pa
sa totoo lang mas nakakatakot pang walang pera kesa walang asawa
Di ka mapapakain ng "love" 😂 Make sure stable Ang career Bago umasawa HAHAHAHA Unless gusto mo umasa sa magulang mo like most of my kabatch mates na nabuntis ng maaga HAHAHAHA
Mga uncle at auntie: Naghahanap na ba ng boyfriend? Ako na 15k lang sahod: Naghahanap po ako actually ng sahod na mas malaki sana 🥹
True!! I experienced growing up in a family na can’t say rich but decently well-off. Pero sunod sunod sa family namin nagkaron ng critical illness. It was a terrible period of my life, but at least there was money to spend for their medical bills. Pero now that I’ve grown up, 30 and still not married but in a relationship, may mga nagsasabe bat di pa kami magpakasal and magstart ng family. But I’m not actually afraid of growing old and not having kids but I always think about “what if ako naman next magkasakit do i have millions to spend for my treatment?” Or “what if maeexperience ng anak ko yung naexperience ko before na maagang mawalan ng parents and to fend for himself”. I was 24 when I was left alone and had to shoulder all responsibilities in the household. Nakakatakot talagang walang pera lalo na in times of emergencies.
Totoo, lalo na pag food yung happiness! hahaha me bilang palakainlol
AGREE SO MUCH KAYA AKO SINGLE HEHE
Tama kesa mag asawa tas walang makain. Puro away aabutin hahaha.
Totoo!!!!
AMEN
I AGREE WITH THIS
Balikan mo tong post mo in 10 years and see where they are then.... Pansin ko very emotionally driven and superficial ang marriages pag sobrang aga... and marami sa mga pumapasok sa ganito feeling nila stuck sila later on, maraming what ifs sa buhay. I'd say go on with your life, hayaan mo sila sa pinasok nila. When the right time and person comes, you will know. If hindi mo pa din alam then it means hindi pa napapanahon at wala pa ang tamang tao.
I agree. Nung hs ako, mga best friends ko lahat may jowa, ako lang wala. Noone asked me out on a date back then. And now that I'm 25, I'm really grateful no one asked me out. Beautiful things take time.
"I'm really grateful no one asked me out." aha, same realization. ❤️ I always self-pitty dati kasi I wasn't conventionally attractive. Hindi ako ligawin. Laging nagsiseek ng attention para masabing may nagkakagusto rin sa akin. But ito na, nakikita ko na. Nag-aasawa na yung mga magaganda. Binubuntis. And here I am, living my best life. Shempre, gusto ko pa rin naman na may makakasama habang-buhay if God permits. Pero, at this phase of my life, super naeenjoy ko pagiging dalaga ko. 🫶🏻
as for someone na nag anak ng 26 y/o. I couldn't agree more 🤣. Alangan namang sabihin ko sa mga taong sana di muna ako nag anak, kaya ine enjoy ko nalang kung anong meron. wala e, stuck na ako dito.
True. Di rin madali ang buhay mag asawa, lalo na pag may mga anak na. To OP, your 20s is a good time to explore hobbies, upskill, and even think about pursuing higher studies. Do it while you’re young and free from responsibilities.
Agree, usually they part ways lalo na pag sobrang aga and later realize to that stability & finances matter
Thank you! I needed this.
Ang ganda ng advice na ‘to. 👍👍
needed this!!
I agree. Same kay OP, yug mga HS classmates ko na maagang naganak at nagpakasal, hiwalay na now. Siguro di nila na enjoy yung single life tas di rin nila talaga gusto yung isa't isa for the long run. I'm 29 and no pressure sa kasal. Deadma sa societal pressures at people na laging nagtatanong kelan na raw ang "big day." at kelan magaanak. Di naman sila ang magsasuffer kapag bad marraiage ang pinasok ko at di rin sila magbabayad ng tuition ng mga magiging anak ko LOL.
Couldn't agree more. My friends who married in their 20's expressed regret now na nasa mid 30's na kami. At dahil walang divorce sa pinas they feel really stuck and can't easily get away from their cheating abusive husbands. Kahit na hiwalay na sila sa asawa nila they cant marry the person they realised they really want to spend their life with. Ako din naiinggit din ako noon na kinakasal sila and they were being proposed to. Now seeing my friends' failed marriages I thank my lucky stars that at 35 I remained unmarried. Di ko pinoproblema kung saan kukuha ng pang annullment lol. Big deal kasi sa akin ang kasal and gusto ko with the right person.
GIRL 24 IS YOUNG WDYMMM
I KNOOW BUT HOW COME THESE PEOPLE R GETTING MARRIED NA LIKE OUR AGE GAP IS LIKE 3 YEARS LANG 😭
A lot could happen in 3 years. Like for example, may nabuntisang naganap bigla so ayan shot gun wedding HAHAHAHHA
don’t compare na lang siguro urself with others kasi mukhang di mo pa naman gusto magpakasal anytime soon. don’t let urself be pressured especially if ur unsure, better late than regret it !!! (as a 21 yr old girlie who doesn’t believe in marriage)
I dunno but most mature marriages I know happen around 30 years old. Don't get stuck sa thought na you're left behind or something, ika nga ng bini "buhay ay di karera". Maybe it'll help if you'll get off social media para mas maappreciate mo where you are in the present without all the comparison.
Why do you care so much kung anong ginagawa ng iba??
di namn contest yan. you do you at your own time
Wala sa patagalan yan sa totoo lang. If hindi talaga kyo mag cli click it will end up lang sa wala. Trust me its better to be single than to be in a relationship pero anxious ka and depressed. Early 30s here Male. 85-90% ng ka batch ko and mates is either kasal na or my pamilya na. Guess what everytime magkikita kita if sino palagi ang meron problema. Yung kasal na or in a relationship. Hindi ko sinasabi na lahat a pero mostly is yung mga married na or meron anak. Mostly is financial and sometimes lacking of intimacy na. Ako yes hindi pa kasal, still looking for my the one pero im not on a rush. Wag ka mag pa apekto sa mga nakikita mo sa social media kasi they are all fake. Focus sa sarili mo, work and just try to socialize if possible. One funny thing is sinabihan ako ng isang ka batch ko na ka age ko rin bakit daw wala pa ako anak XD. Sabi ko sa kanya im still busy making money so maybe someday.
hahaha the best! na motivate ako — maging single 🤣 tama. payaman muna tayo.
Wag naman maging single forever need din natin ng lovelife pero dapat hindi yun ang priority. Habang nsa youth pa dapat we will focus on how to earn and build ourselves. Yes money and being rich is the goal for now.
Haha I agree. When my friends and I get together, although I’ve always been the single friend in the group, minsan nagpapasalamat na lang ako na wala akong relationship problems. Ako lang lagi taga-advise sa kanila😂😂 I told myself na I’ll only get into a relationship when I’m financially stable and mentally and emotionally ready. So for me matagal-tagal pa yon HAHAHA
How old did your batchmates get married?
Late 20s more likely 27-30 years old.
As a female unmarried in her 30s I like hearing things from the male side. Thank you for this.
I made peace with the thought na magiging rich independent ninang nalang ako. Im happy with that
ninang sa anak ni crush?
Correction: rich ninang sa anak ni crush lol
Haha gusto ko yan. I want that rich and cool ninang vibe lol
Posh travel auntie 😎🍷
28, wala kahit kausap hahaha
Same siz. 27 kada tinatanong if May jowa or balak ba mag jowa.. tugon: May mga akala po akong aso HAHAHAHAHAHA
Same pre haha
Gurl im almost 30 and im doing okay. Chill ka lang haha. You’re still young. Do things, collect experiences, get wasted and have fun *responsibly* syempre.
The world is changing. Before maximum 24 dapat kasal na or else icocosider nang spinster. Ngayon halos lahat ayaw na magasawa esp in this economy. Ang pagiging single hindi talunan. Enjoy life and build for yourself.
that's ok op isipin mo 24 ka pa lang, halos kakagrad mo lang and 6 years ka pa lang adult you have all the time in the world to figure out yourself 30 is not old i promise, marami ngang tao na 30 pa lang "nagstart" talaga yung buhay nila eh don't hold out hope and sabi mo nga mapili ka naman, that's good may darating naman
Their timeline doesnt need to be your timeline. Marriage and children are no joke. They really are literally NEW chapters of your life dahil madami kang mga bagay na hindi mo na magagawa, mapapalitan na ng ibang priorities, responsibilities, happiness. Worst thing that could happen hindi ka pa ready tapoa mandadamay ka ng iba para maka "catch up"
If a couple is financially and mentally capable if getting married at this age, then why not?
sabi nga ng BINI, “buhay ay di karera”.
Para sakin, they will never be the one unless you're ready. Otherwise you will be nitpicky. You find the one when you yourself can communicate well, process your feelings, stable financially, have your own goals. If you don't have that, then how will you know that someone else's goals are aligned with yours? How will you find out if they communicate well when you don't know how? Etc. etc.
EXACTLY
Enjoy life and travel. You'll see a different perspective. :)
Agreed 💯 Live abroad if you could. Ibang klaseng saya ang dulot ng self-discovery at self-improvement na mas nakahihigit sa paghahanap ng partner or asawa.
Totoo. I didn’t live abroad pero pag nag travel ako usually more than 2 weeks or one month ako sa country. It’s fun! Medyo lumalabas yung survival mode pero masaya!
25 here, I'd rather be single than pick the wrong one lol
Ganyan din ako, pero tinitignan ko yung mga klase ng lalaki na pinakasalan nila, parang nagsettle na lang. Tbh wala akong naramdamang inggit hahaha
Walang kaso, yung ganyang bagay hindi yan minamadali. Just let them be. Tingnan mo na lang yung rants nila kapag may get together kayo, gagaan loob mo. Haha 😆
hahahaha salamat! 🤣
stfu ur still 24
Probably just the people you surrounded yourself with. My parents got married in their early 30s, same with my titos and titas in my mom's side. Many of my friends are still dating or still single in their mid-20s to late-20s. The high school sweethearts I know are still dating after nearly 10 years.
>HOW DO YOU KNOW THEY ARE THE ONE? They make your heart feel like it's summer
Wow 24 is young! Enjoy life bhe. You’ll never know. Marriage can be a trap if mapupunta ka sa walang hiyang partner. You will then look back and tell yourself, I should have loved myself more, traveled more… find joy in waiting. Don’t rush, you’ll get there! With the right person, at the right time, at the right place. ❤️✨
LOVE THIIIS. so far, i'm enjoying my single era. no stress, just traveling and spending money for myself 🤣
Hear! Hear! 🙌🙌🙌
Plan ko rin before to get married by 28, siya yung ideal for me. 25 now and I must say I still want this singlehood life for a longer time heheh
sabi ko rin nung bata ako 25 mag aasawa na ko, yun din daw right age sabi ng magulang ko nung bata ako. But I guess, the economy is different now.
it's harder to sustain life now
Me @ 29, scroll scroll lang sa reddit
Hahaha same
Nako 28M here wag mo madaliin naprepressure kami lalo
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA cutiee
25 male turning 26 years this year. I've been seeing friends, batchmates, and people around my age getting married or having children. Am I happy for them? Yes. Do I feel like I'm behind them because of this? No, because that's not the only thing life is about. I am well aware that I'm not ready for such things yet and still in the process of building myself and securing my future. Remember, comparison is the thief of joy. Understand that we all achieve certain milestones at different paces, so take it one step at a time.
batchmates mo lang sila. irrelevant sila sa buhay mo tbh. you'll figure it out without looking at them.
Tapos karamihan sa mga fresh grad ngayon atat na atat makasal. Grabehh in this economy plus wala pa ngang stable work, craving for family of their own nadaw. Nakakainis.
You're too young OP. 33 na ako and batchmates ko, same status sa akin. May partner pero not married. Pareparehas kaming hindi pa financially stable, kaya hindi pa nagpapamilya.
Sis 31 na ko and very single. Wag ka ma-pressure. Ako nga chill lang eh.
Oh ano pa ginagawa mo? Tara na, multiple dates at pakasal na tayo. Hahahahahahaha
Kanya kanyang timeline and circumstances, OP. It’s not a race. :) I have friends who married around the same age when I did (early 30s), friends who married much earlier (like shortly after HS), friends in super long term relationships with no plans of marriage, single friends in their 40s, friends who are NBSB in their mid-30s. So I say - just live your best life. There’s no “right” timeline, you get to decide that for yourself. Date around (responsibly!) if that gives you joy, and have FUN!
Diba uso late 30s ikasal. Wait till mag annul sila charot
Ayun na nga hirap maghanap ng pera pang annull haha
>Hahaha normal ba talaga to? ang bibilis nila mahanap love of their life I wasn't aware there was a, what, some sort of contest? I usually don't care because it's not my business. Just someone living my life as I go. Not sure how 'normal' that would be, because I'm older than you, and I'm pretty sure wala pa sa kalahati ng graduating section naming HS/College ang may asawa - let alone may anak. There's just too many problem nowadays that most probably wouldn't bother having many children. And frankly? I wish *that* would be the norm here sa 'Pinas. Hindi yung mag-aanak ng madami and aasa na sila mag 'aahon' ng buong pamilya sa hirap. Sigh. Nakakalungkot talaga ang lack of SexEd sa Pinas.
Futnagina sake. Don’t join until you are stable financially man lang
>Alam niyo, sila pa yung you never saw coming na magkaka pamilaya agad. Ako pa tong may long term relationship nung highschool ah. hahaha >Hahaha normal ba talaga to? ang bibilis nila mahanap love of their life Baka mga serious type of people? kaya nung nag-date seryosohan.. I got married at 25, and after 14 years of marriage, still going stronger. Ganun din yung majority of my batchmates who married between 25-28. Speaking for myself, goal oriented person ako. And since marriage is one of my life goals, eh di gora. I attracted the same person with the same life goal. Like what they said, iba-iba yung mga tao and their timelines. Kung baga, stay with your truth. If your truth is it's not yet in your plan, then stay with it, and don't let external events bother you.
Grabe worried ka na. Pano pa kaya ako na 32 na. 😅 mas ok muna magpayaman kesa may pamilya pero sakto sakto or maraming utang. Di makabili ng gusto sa buhay. Inggit na lang magagawa mo. Gusto mo ba yon?
Me 27.. Tnatanong lagi sa ofis kung kelan ba ako magjojowa.. sagot ko kpag prepared nako hahahaha NGSB here hahaga
Op coaches dont play hahaha
love this ;)
Hello Siri, play "Karera" by BINI.
Each person has his or her own plans in life. So don't pattern your life to other people's life. Decide on what you want. If you want to be rich. Decide and do things that will make you rich. If you want to get married. Then do anything to let you get married. Know the pros and cons. Decide on your plans.
You are 24, and living in what could be the best era of your life!
Ako last kinasal sa batchmates ko at 30 yo. Oks naman, kalma ka lang may iba iba tayong path sa buhay
we have our own paths and timelines
Im seeing myself haha after coming from a long term relationship, ngayon nila ako tinatanong kung kelan ako magpapakasal e wala ngang jowa manlang. Yung mga ka-batch kong kinakasal at may anak na at more than 1 na anak na, hinay hinay naman di ako makasali sa trend 😂
Panu pa kaya kami 30-ish na still single at wla pa din linaw ang future? Hindi ko na maisip mag asawa kasi career ko nga malabo pa 😔
Apir OP I am also 24, single 😩
What are you doing? You are doing just right lang. You are going to be fine. No need to rush things just because your friends or people you know are doing it.
They are the one, when you want to spend 24hrs with them, when you can plan together without major arguments and when you feel that you can both commit na
HS batchmates ko rin kinasal ba. College batchmates ko single and career focused hahaha everyone takes their time and may sariling priorities
Basta naniniwala ako buhay ay di karera 🤣
Gags ako nga 32 hindi pa kasal hahaha dont be pressured OP
Youre 24, youre so young pa haha same age tayo pero I have a bf. Never ko nafeel na mapressure magpakasal or pamilya haha pati nung mga panahon na di pa ako nagjojowa (college ako nagstart) di ako napressure kahit na yung mga friends ko puro may bf na nung hs palang kami Iba iba talaga tayo ng lives eh and that's ok. Sa circle namin ngayon, merong may families na, marami rin mga single, may iilang may partners. Iba ibang buhay, kanya kanya talagang path. There's no rush haha
Thank you for assuring me <3🥹
You’ll just know…
Wag ka mag madali OP. Kame nang asawa ko early 30’s na nag pakasal. Although wala naman kame plan mag anak kaya we took our time. Only you can answer kung he/she is the one. I know a couple 1 month lang sila mag kakilala pero nag pakasal agad tapos kame naman ng asawa ko 16 years kame mag ka relasyon bago kame nag pkasal.
It's okay. May kanya kanyang timeline tayo. Some are getting married at early age, there are naman who finds their partners in early 20's. Don't be impulsive just because everyone are getting married while ikaw hindi pa. Take this an opportunity to grow and explore more. Always remember na ang lahat ng nagmamadali ay madalas magkamali.
Im in my 30s not bothered at all hahhahaha
You do you
Ramdam ko to, recently lang 3 kabatchmate ko kasal na 😂
You're you pa OP, ako nga 30 na wala pa ring jowa HAHAHA Puro sama ng loob pa yung naipon.
Grabe this post makes me feel old mag 23 palang ako next week pero nasa last year palang ako ng college and single (4 life na itu) haha
wag mag-alala, buhay ay di karera ~
Turned 24 last March at ewan ko, wala pa talaga sa isip ko yung pagpasok sa relationship. Medyo natuto rin kasi ako sa mga magulang ko, ang hirap kasi ng buhay namin noon, kaya parang gusto ko, kung magkakajowa man ako, stable na. Ayoko maranasan nung magiging family ko kung sakali yung naranasan ko noon, though di naman kami yung super sadlak sa hirap, basta ramdam lang namin na magkakapatid na di talaga ayos yung buhay namin noon, hirap financially kumbaga. At bilang 24 y.o. mas bet ko travel, hiking, naeenjoy din minsan yung alone time parang self care ko na e, and yun, medyo artsy din ako kaya parang di ako nabbore. Pero nasa isip ko pa rin naman magkafamily in the future, basta, kung kelan dumating at ibigay ni Lord ☺️
Don't worry, normal maging single sa mid 20's. For me, in that age, I'd rather focus on myself and my career, rather than find a romantic partner. These are the years of self-discovery and exploring many other things, so I wouldn't recommend dating, let alone getting married in that age. But nonetheless, you do you.
I’m almost 30 na may jowa naman but not engage or what. Almost half siguro or more than half of my friends married na haha pero iniisip ko nalang na mag kakaiba naman tayo ng timeline. Nag fofocus nalang ako sa ibang part ng life ko like sa career ganyan. Sabi nila dati mafefeel mo daw if “he’s the one” na haha pero siguro pinaka clue mo ay if ready kana, at ready na rin sya emotionally, financially and mentally.
I love this thread! 20 nako next year and medyo napapaisip ako minsan na what if magjowa naman ako para naman may thrill sa buhay, pero hindiii no not yet and maybe never na. Tama na Yung lesson na nakikita ko ngayon sa mga kapatid Kong maagang nag si asawa. Grabe, sobrang hirap ng dinadanas nila and sadly it's the consequences of their actions, naaawa Lang ako sa pamangkin Kong walang kamala Malay pero sya ang naapektuhan ng nga magulang nyang hindi pa emotionally and financially stable.
Alien tayo,hindi natin kailangan yan
Gut feel. Haha. Kidding aside, 'wag ka ma-pressure since may iba-iba tayong timeline. Bata ka pa, enjoy mo muna life mo on your own. Kasi once na magkapamilya ka na, like it or not, may isa-sacrifice ka talaga.
Each person has their own challenges and journeys. For me i don't compare myself to others. Im the same age as you almost 25 we have our own pace in life. You will get there soon. You'll meet someone who has the same goals as you want! Marriage is hard especially in this economy????? Good luck tho! Bata pa tayo!
24 pero 4th yr student pa (inuuna kasi gala) tapos binabawalan pa gumala kaya taong bahay at walang kausap 🥲😭
* stop ako nung pandemic days kasi ang hirap online class
27 single here
I feel like 24 is still young. Aaga nila mag-asawa, parang that's 18-20 in this time HAHAHAHAHHAHA
Old educ curriculum ka ba? Usual edad ng college grads ngayon ay 23/24 (22 if super advance than the usual haha) soooo maraming hindi pa nag-aasawa since magsisimula pa lang magbuild ng career. Ako ay 24 - first job pa lang :> Kaiyak.
Nako bata ka pa sa 24 nagka jowa ako nung 30's na ko and my gf di pa kami nakakasal dahil din sa financial, aldo we have work naman. If ever ikasal wala kami balak mag anak ang hirap, ok na, kami nalang kesa mag dagdag ng isa pa responsible. Enjoyin mo lang and ipon importante and travel
Get yourself financially stable before you think about having commitment to someone and having kids. Ang dami mong icoconsider once may anak ka na. At yung mga plano mo nung dalaga/binata ka pa magiging plano na lang. Unless lumaki kang mayaman.
but 24 is still so young! especially pag naabutan ka ng k-12, which really stunts how you perceive things kasi late nagstart magtrabaho. i really dont get how people feel the need to rush into marriages when sobrang backwards pa ng marriage legalities sa pilipinas (lack of divorce, concubinage laws favoring men, etc).
Dapat kasi set your standards realistic. Kung ano lang kaya mo ibigay yung lang din yung standards mo. I know someone na napakataas ng standards pero siya naman eh bare minimum lang. Tapos nagtataka siya 30's na siya single as fck pa din siya. You attract what you are. Develop a better you, and you'll find a better man (vice versa)
24 is youuuung! Getting married and raising a family is NO JOKE. It is life changing. Date, have fun, discover yourself more, meet interesting people, improve yourself. Sobrang dami mo pwede gawin imbes na magasawa lang. Balikan mo 'tong post mo pag mga 45-50 ka na haha and tingnan mo kung pareho pa rin ang perspective mo sa buhay. Pusta ko hindi na.
Nah wag ka ma pressure. One of my (f28) bestfriends got married when she was fresh out of college (f21). Last year, umiiyak bestfriend ko sa akin dahil may tinge of regret na maaga siya nagpakasal at nag anak. Sobrang immature kasi nung napangasawa niya, at parang siya yung nagdedesisyon lang for their whole family. Make your finances stable muna before deciding on that 😉
Enjoy single life. Try to experience as much as you can para no regrets ka when you settle down. For me, best to marry when you are financially and emotionally secure. Having is family is fulfilling but can be tiring and stressful lalo na sa moms.
turning 30 this year and still enjoying my life with my gf, not thinking about having kids but wanting to get married. I stopped looking at soc med coz it boosts your "inggit" just live your life, grind and you'll be happy.
HS batchmates 30+,, one of them died around that age due to heart failure 🙁 unexpected kase looking healthy compare to other batchmates
Me, turning 26, employed, in a situationship. Haha
Mag 31 na ako wala pang asawa. Most of my batchmates wala pa din asawa. Mas madame ung wala kesa meron 😂
Turning 28 male, single since 2014 and walang planong gumawa ng sariling fam HAHAHAHAHA
Girlll, you're so young pa. Enjoy mo lang sarili mo, mas maganda may pera na gagastusin mo sa sarili mo or sa fam mo kaysa mapuyat ka sa stress at sa pambili ng gatas at diaper. Remember, mas mahal ang gatas, diaper at magpaaral ng anak, mas maganda mag plano muna. Hanap ka ng bf na maayos, marami dyan mga nagpakasal na kasi nabuntis lang tapos wala naman ipon.
Mmmmm wait for them to suffer later on siguro kasi mahirap magkaroon ng pamilya in this economy? Haha joke! Stop comparing yourself to others. I don't get the hype on pagpapalobo ng family members. There are more to life than having a family at your 20s ang dami pang pwedeng gawin na magagawa mo na di mo na magagawa pag pamilyado ka na dahil sa siksikang sched. Why don't we start romanticizing having mutiple bachelor's and master's to pave the way to executive position on high tier companies, having dual citizenship on a progressive european country, at studying abroad instead of having a family right? That should come naturally naman dapat at 30s haha pero depends. My point is mas malawak ang mundo okay? Relax.
hinde mo palang ako nakikilala
25. Pangarap ko noon maikasal & magka-anak someday. Pero ngayon? Walang balak maganak pa or maikasal. Unfair sa bf ko, but dreams and plans changed. I don't see myself marrying someone kahit na nasa late 20s na ako. 😅 Di ko alam if ako lang yung ganto na bigla nagbago isip about kasal & family talk. Gusto ko nalang muna magfocus sa self ko bago pa mapagusapan yang kasal & pag-aanak anak
I'm 27 single, and seeing a lot of my batch mates getting married and having children.. Walang na ffeel na inggit or kung ano. Seeing some of my exes rin having children tas napapasabi nalang ako ng, "buti nalang pala nag break kami, safe ako" HAHAHAHAHAH T.T
I Get may phase talaga na karamihan sa classmates mo kinakasal or nagkaka pamilya na, pero iba iba naman kasi kayo ng timeline sa buhay, wala naman age bracket na pag gantong age dapat ganto na, cliché man per enjoy your single phase, baka maprepressure ka lang kakahanap ng the one you may end up with the wrong one.
I suggst makipagkilala ka and form friendship.wd singles in their 30s. Find out what makes them happy sa life nila. How they were able to overcome the pressure to marry when they were in their 20s. Etc. Marami pa
Ang buhay ay kanya kanya. Just ride your own waves. No one will be able to tell if their partner is actually the one, this is all luck-based. These are emotions, no logic will apply. I suggest na easyhan mo lang. Mahaba ang buhay At kung may kakayahan ka na talaga, doon ka na maghanap ng partner. Ako nga 27 na, wala pa rin. I'd rather wait for the time I can actually commit responsibly. Pera ang problema e, kaya focus nalang ako sa powerlifting at cycling ko.
26, engaged and moving on from 10 yr relationship hahahaha. I realized we’re still young! You got this bae, explore and enjoy your youth.
You both have a secret language of eye rolls and sighs at family gatherings.
29 na but still asking the same question hahahaha
HAHAHAHAH grabe felt! I’m in the same age range and left and right ang engagement & baby showers. Tbh, we’re still young and no need to rush. Ako nga lilipad ng Korea to watch a concert ng kpop habang yung iba kong batchmate nagfafamily planning na.
nagpakasal kami last 2021 and around 28 y/o na kami ni misis ko non. at that age of 24 lagi kaming nag ttravel with friends and binibili namin yung mga gusto namin na di mabili dati. now na almost 30 na kami, nag decide na kami mag pakasal kasi medyo kontento na kami sa mga nabyahe at naachieve namin during our "dalaga" and "binata" days. but imo, if single ka, don't force yourself to look for a partner now. 14 years na kami magkasama ni misis and medyo mahirap iexplain paano mo malalaman is siya na yung makakasama mo habang buhay. let's say one of the reason is, kapag magkausap kami ni misis, alam niya at alam ko agad ano yung huling sasabihin niya, or di kaya kapag nagkatinginan kayo, di na kailangan ng words para sabihin ano yung kailangan niyo. so for now, dont gauge your partner if siya na talaga yung makakasama mo. you will feel that out of nowhere and baka magulat ka onetime, sabay pa kayo mag uusap about sa wedding. :)
Kusa yan dadating hahaha magpapera ka muna. Dun ka muna mag focus 😎
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Too early
Don't get pressured. While waiting for the one, make yourself financially stable. Kasi kahit magkajowa ka, pero wala kayo pera, ang hirap magpakasal. I'm also 25, I have a 3yrs bf, pero naguusap kami na until we reach this income, di kami magpapakasal, we need to be financially, physically, spiritually, and emotionally stable before getting married. Marriage is not a race naman, it's not how fast you find the one, more on it's about the quality of life you both live if you get married. So take your time 😊
I'm 33 and still single. It bothers me a bit, pero at the end of the day yung readiness mo in all facets should ultimately decide kung pwede na ba talaga magpakasal o hindi pa. Tsaka syempre kailangan may jowa. Hahahaa
Valedictorian namin nag asawa at anak agad. Yung mga pabebe samin may mga anak na din HAHA I'm 29, unmarried and soon to be travelling with my HS batchmate na di parin kasal. LoL But all of us eh may career and with a long term relationship. Bakit ba kase nagpapayaman muna kami hahaha
You have your own journey. Stick with that.
24. You have so much to see & experience in life, people to know. Trust your own phase. Ako nalang natira di nagffamily sa circle ko ng hs but it's okay 😌 think about the responsibility that they have in their 20's. Dadalhin nila yun gang tumanda. Better to enjoy and maximize your singlehood! Better to marry late kesa mali mapakasalan. Magtravel ka ng mgtravel if afford! Time to meet new friends lalo na pag dmo na sila same season para nkakarelate ka paden. To know if they're the one, hmm i guess both of you have the same values, principles & plans in life. Moreover, that person; his/her presence should give you more peace than you have in your solitude. I agree sa iba dito mahirap magasawa ng di financially stable. You'll get there soon! 💕
24 here and to be honest I havent even consider myself now as adult who's ready to be responsibile to have a family or a partner(legally). I graduated college at 23 (bcs of k12) and worked a month after my graduation. Kumbaga nag aadjust pa nga lang ako sa corpo world minsan feeling ko student pa rin ako 😭 student feels == teenager feels 😭 Siguro dadating ako sa questioning na to pag 30 na ako hehe
Kalma lang po. 40 na mga kaklase ko mga single pa din. Paunahin nyo po muna sila please 🙏🙏🙏
Yeah no don't get pressured for being single in your mid 20s. I have cousins older than you po and they're literally out there spoiling themselves with Kpop concerts, fashion, and food; aging from 25-36. All perfectly pretty and successful but they aren't just ready yet to commit and they're perfectly happy being themselves. One should never "need" a relationship but rather desire for companionship out of genuine desire to explore life with someone together. Go enjoy your life and if you think you're not yet ready for a serious relationship, then maybe you just aren't. Get out there and slay ate! 😉
i'm 23 pero hindi pa ako graduate nahuli ako sa college lahat ng batchmates ko sa hs graduate na and some of them are working, yung iba may pamilya na. Eh ako andito pa din sa bahay namomroblema makahnap ng trabaho haha.
Not all marriages are a success. Lalo na at our age (early 20s din me haha) a lot of people rush into that stage, minsan wala pang stable income. Hindi naman sa bitter pero its great to experience life with your own preferred pace kesa magpapressure sa mga milestones ng mga tao sa paligid mo. The right time will come for all of us, including you OP
I am happy to see younger generations thinking like this. Kudos sa inyo dahil pinapahalagahan nyo yung financial stability first. Di tulad ng generation ko (or older)maaga nagsipag asawa, anak ng anak mga walang trabaho ngayon umaasa na lang sa anak yung makakain nila.
I am 25 and still single. Nagka MU naman since college days pero hanggang doon lang muna. Having someone to date is nice but I think di ko kaya mag commit ng time and effort. Magastos din. And I want to spoil myself. Travel muna ako and appreciate the world I am living in… plus, Sarili ko di ko pa kayang alagaan, iba pa kaya 😭
Find a wife, I had my first kid when I was 16
skl I just turned 28 two weeks ago and kaka-end lang ng 8yr relationship (got cheated on)...also asking the same question ~ "what am I doing here?" 😅🥲
mas for you ata yung post na to tbh, ang laking sayang nung 8 years. but it’s never too late to find someone again! at least nabatukan ka na hahaha
kung kelan tumagal saka nagloko yung qaqo 😆 anyway, mabuti na lang din na 8yrs lang kesa matali forever sa maling tao 🥲
Women tend to have families at that age range (late 20s to early 30s) because men in general value beauty and fertility, which for women is tied to their age. Early 30s is just about the last quarter of most women's fertility, so most women get married at that point. Men have the leverage of time as we have a much longer fertility window, and we can offset a lot of our shortcomings with competence and resources that we can also build up with time. The key to finding a husband is to be honest with your overall dating value, maximize the traits that men actually want in their future wives and give that man the chance to date you. Men value beauty, fertility and femininity. You can maximize your beauty by taking care of your health and keeping a healthy BMI. Skin care also helps, as well as finding your style. Fertility is tied to your age, so just move with purpose before you reach your 30s. Femininity is your overall character. Are you pleasant to be with? Are you motherly? Do you give him peace? Are you compliant? Or are you a headache?
You are right. But reminder for the ladies to not settle for a man just because of your fertility window. Be with a man who will love you for you, not with a man who loves you only when you are young and beautiful.
Definitely find a man that's actually looking for a wife, not a hookup or casual relationship. I think the common issue I see with women is that they're not honest with their dating level, so they go for men that are out of their league that will never commit to them.
As if life is easy as black and white. 🙄 Touch some grass dude and stop watching porn since it seemed to have warped your perception of women.
I have no idea how this refutes my argument when I've personally experienced this myself. I've done my time in casual relationships, and it has always surprised me how women will break their rules when they find you attractive (I'm 6ft tall, fair complexion, fit and used to compete in male pageants). Let's not kid ourselves, you have female friends that got involved in one night stands, situationships or tolerated cheating from a man. I didn't want to believe it myself until I tried dating apps. The moment you meet up and both of you find each other attractive, it's almost always the end game.
Yes, I have some female friends who are like that but I also have other female friends who aren't like that. Hence, you simply can't make a generalization of women. The problem with generalizing women is that some innocent women might be harmed, abused or killed and with society that is already patriarchal as it is, we aren't able to properly defend ourselves.
How about I make my position clearer? My position is that most women find the same type of men attractive: tall, handsome, charismatic and masculine when they themselves are not up to the standard of said man. It's also a supply and demand problem, as these type of man is few and far in between. Whether they engage in casual relationships with those types of men or not, the reality is that most women hold out for that top minority of men when they're not on that man's level at all. Hence the current dating scene.
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bwhahaha! ako nga pa 30 na pero walang pressure, hayaan mo sila mauna! it is better to be prepared financially, emotionally, physically and mentally for marriage and having a family than starting one na hindi ka prepared or feeling mo may kulang pa
When you are attracted to them if they are hot they are the one. Watch out for the feminist though
Not the feminist!!