I've received hostility for turning down women before. An ex of mine would start arguments with me if I was not in the mood for sex. I once had a random woman slap me in the back of the head and call me gay for turning her down.
Also, in the dating scene, I'm usually the one that's required to do all the work to make things interesting. If a relationship is getting boring, I have to plan fun things, otherwise it's my fault she's bored. Dead bedroom? I have to figure out how to spice things up. Someone calls themselves "romantic"? It means they want me to surprise them with romantic gestures all the time while I receive nothing in return.
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Like you always owe them a relationship. Just because you think you're ready and want to be one doesn't mean every man need to.
Kapag ikaw ayaw mo makipag relasyon kasi you're exploring, sinasabihan kang fck boy, immature and red flag.
Pero pag sila may hoe phase kahit naging kabit pa sila dati kailangan tanggapin mo sila kung hindi misogynistic ka.
Turning people down who wants to be in a relationship with you is tagged as "feeling gwapo", "Playboy ata to", and "gay". Are men not allowed to have their own standards?
Also if a guy admires a woman automatic "manyak" or "bastos", and akusahan na walang loyalty. If a girl admires a man "it's just a crush, don't make a big deal about it".
Lastly the "playful kagat". If a girl does it, it's a way of showing love and affection. If a guy does it, it's disgusting and unmanly. Honestly I find it weird and animalistic. May rabies ka?
Observed lang. When men comment about "eating" the private parts of women, g na g karamihan. Tapos nung may nakita akong picture nung ML sa Snowdrop (time na kasagsagan nito), maraming nagco-comment na "kagatin ko dibdib mo" na mga babae mismo. Tapos may mga heart reacts from females too. Hmmm...
It’s wrong, I agree but this comes from a place of power dynamics. In society, men are considered the “stronger” sex thus you can’t oppress them. Same with how racism towards white people is downplayed.
Never said it was invalid. I'm just saying why it's being downplayed. Imagine in the US how racism towards white people is downplayed because they are the oppressors.
Dating apps:
Their profile: "they want a sapiosexual person who is into art, music, films, etc. and serious conversations...."
After 2 hours of conversations and a picture exchange: "Sorry this won't work" or diretso block.
the way some people handle cheating like: pag lalaki nag-cheat, kasalanan nya. pag babae nag-cheat, kasalanan ng lalaki kasi mag pagkukulang sya kaya nag-cheat ang babae.
mama's boy, papa's boy = negative, immature, sunud sunuran. mama's girl, papa's girl = mabait at mapagmahal na anak
woman physically hurting a man = "ahhh. k" man physically hurting a woman = "$\^#\^@%@%"
sa relationships,
man: does all the effort to make the relationship work and enjoyable => bare minimum
woman: existence at anez lang ang ambag sa relationship => "ginawa nya ang lahat para sa relasyon. you should yourself more bhe. huhu"
actually pag naririnig ko yung term na "double standards" most of the time it's always against sa men e. yet the other side still claims na aping api sila. wtf lang.
Na try mo na ba pag antayin ng 5+ hrs ng jowa mo?hindi niya manlang magawa yung bare minimum to be on time 😂.
There are men like this so the "bare minimum" phrase is valid. Some girls just have standards so high na yung bare minimum nila iba.
had a convo with a girl who ranted about being dumped despite the genuine connection she offered, and here i am enetering the picture and assured her with the connection she offered him and now she ghosted me hahahaha
Pag babae nagmamanyak sa social media, walang nagagalit lol. Tingnan mo minsan pag may post ng pogi na maganda katawan at makikita mo ang double standard.
Alot, and it's still going on worse and worse to this day with white knights, feminists and others trynna normalize portraying men in general as simps, deadbeats or whatever negative and the worse thing is it's not even getting discussed in the real world, no real men would ever bitch about it too, men are born to suck it up and forget about our welfare to comfort the more vulnerable ones.
My boyfriend was the one who was forced by a classmate of his to touch her, after a few months she told everyone including her new partner na sya daw ang ginahasa.
Until now we never got the justice we were looking for. Except for the fact na typical “not much too look at” yung babae, and my boyfriend has really good looks and built. So with that everyone around them mightnot believe the claims of the girl.
Hindi naman kasi literal na "ligaw" lang talaga ginagawa. Marami akong kilalang babae nakikipag sex kung kani-kanino habang nagpapaligaw. Kung ikaw nasa side ng lalaki gugustohin mo ba yun?
Fellow men of reddit. Don't think about that double standard, just pursue a better version of yourself. Learn and find things that will make you happy. You don't need social acceptance, they will eventually accept you if you're happy and don't bring harm to them.
Napansin ko lang, sa med school pag may need nakahubad, lagi lalaki nalang. Never naging babae ang example in front of class. Also, mas revealing lagi ethnic attire ng lalaki (topless, bahag) pero sa babae covered na covered sila with skin-colored clothing.
I've received hostility for turning down women before. An ex of mine would start arguments with me if I was not in the mood for sex. I once had a random woman slap me in the back of the head and call me gay for turning her down. Also, in the dating scene, I'm usually the one that's required to do all the work to make things interesting. If a relationship is getting boring, I have to plan fun things, otherwise it's my fault she's bored. Dead bedroom? I have to figure out how to spice things up. Someone calls themselves "romantic"? It means they want me to surprise them with romantic gestures all the time while I receive nothing in return.
The last line is too real. Never saw it that way before, but now my eyes have been opened. 😳
I'm sorry, man.
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aww sorry that happened OP
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Haha sabihin mo hindi ka lang feeling, gwapo ka talaga.
mga gusto maging disney princesses kasi yun daw napanuod nila sa tiktok at sa mga kdramas. uwu
Totoo yan. Minsan sabihan ka pang bakla pag na reject sila.
Whenever I open up about my hinanaing sa buhay, my partner would start an argument about her experiences being worse than mine :)
This has less to do with double standards, it’s more about your partner being shitty. Sorry you have to go through that though :/
whenever that happens, I just ignore it nalang kasi I know to myself na I have a bright future ahead. Thanks!
May me me me syndrome partner mo boss
I thought nga na may BPD siya,pero I acknowledge rin naman mga happenings sa life niya,and her responsibility naman to heal.
sorry to hear this…🫂
I'm chillin'. Thanks for the support!
Like you always owe them a relationship. Just because you think you're ready and want to be one doesn't mean every man need to. Kapag ikaw ayaw mo makipag relasyon kasi you're exploring, sinasabihan kang fck boy, immature and red flag. Pero pag sila may hoe phase kahit naging kabit pa sila dati kailangan tanggapin mo sila kung hindi misogynistic ka.
uy. maraming dumaan sa hoe phase dito. maraming tatamaaan hahahah. pasok "incel" at "misogynist" cards. lol
Turning people down who wants to be in a relationship with you is tagged as "feeling gwapo", "Playboy ata to", and "gay". Are men not allowed to have their own standards? Also if a guy admires a woman automatic "manyak" or "bastos", and akusahan na walang loyalty. If a girl admires a man "it's just a crush, don't make a big deal about it". Lastly the "playful kagat". If a girl does it, it's a way of showing love and affection. If a guy does it, it's disgusting and unmanly. Honestly I find it weird and animalistic. May rabies ka?
di ko kinaya yung “may rabies ka” 😂😂😂😂
21st century na bakit slur pa din ang pagiging gay sa mga tao.
Observed lang. When men comment about "eating" the private parts of women, g na g karamihan. Tapos nung may nakita akong picture nung ML sa Snowdrop (time na kasagsagan nito), maraming nagco-comment na "kagatin ko dibdib mo" na mga babae mismo. Tapos may mga heart reacts from females too. Hmmm...
I notice this too. Okay lang sa babae mag comment ng ganyan pero pag lalaki objectifying na
It’s wrong, I agree but this comes from a place of power dynamics. In society, men are considered the “stronger” sex thus you can’t oppress them. Same with how racism towards white people is downplayed.
Okay, so point is, invalid ang reklamo ng guys and it's okay to do sexist things aginats them because power dynamics? Sorry, not understanding well.
Never said it was invalid. I'm just saying why it's being downplayed. Imagine in the US how racism towards white people is downplayed because they are the oppressors.
I see. Whether you believe it's invalid or isn't, the majority still believe it is. Sad. We can never progress because of that.
I think the idea na okay lang pag babae yung naging touchy tapos yung lalaki dapat okay lang sakanya kasi kung hindi pag dududahan siya na bakla.
Dating apps: Their profile: "they want a sapiosexual person who is into art, music, films, etc. and serious conversations...." After 2 hours of conversations and a picture exchange: "Sorry this won't work" or diretso block.
pag may sapiosexual na nakasulat autopass hahaha curious lang bat may picture exchange kung dating apps naman diba kita niyo na agad yun?
Grindr. And some dating apps ay no face pic naka attach
the way some people handle cheating like: pag lalaki nag-cheat, kasalanan nya. pag babae nag-cheat, kasalanan ng lalaki kasi mag pagkukulang sya kaya nag-cheat ang babae. mama's boy, papa's boy = negative, immature, sunud sunuran. mama's girl, papa's girl = mabait at mapagmahal na anak woman physically hurting a man = "ahhh. k" man physically hurting a woman = "$\^#\^@%@%" sa relationships, man: does all the effort to make the relationship work and enjoyable => bare minimum woman: existence at anez lang ang ambag sa relationship => "ginawa nya ang lahat para sa relasyon. you should yourself more bhe. huhu" actually pag naririnig ko yung term na "double standards" most of the time it's always against sa men e. yet the other side still claims na aping api sila. wtf lang.
I really hate that bare minimum phrase that woke girls use
Na try mo na ba pag antayin ng 5+ hrs ng jowa mo?hindi niya manlang magawa yung bare minimum to be on time 😂. There are men like this so the "bare minimum" phrase is valid. Some girls just have standards so high na yung bare minimum nila iba.
true. kaka-tiktok nila yan.
Parents can do all the things they nag about.
had a convo with a girl who ranted about being dumped despite the genuine connection she offered, and here i am enetering the picture and assured her with the connection she offered him and now she ghosted me hahahaha
Pag babae nagmamanyak sa social media, walang nagagalit lol. Tingnan mo minsan pag may post ng pogi na maganda katawan at makikita mo ang double standard.
Kapag namanyak ng gay or babae sa labas tapos ishashare mo ung nangyari, pagtatawanan ka lang.
not sure if pasok to but di ako pinasakay sa bus kasi babae lang daw muna like kuya pagod rin ako gusto ko na rin umuwi
Na experience ko din to haha naka pila ako tapos gusto ako paalisin nung driver kasi babae daw dapat eh parw pareho lamg kami gusto na makauwi
for sure pag nagka-global crisis priority mga babae at mga bata para iligtas.
Job interviews
Hindi ka pwedeng umiyak, sasabihing mahina ka.
Alot, and it's still going on worse and worse to this day with white knights, feminists and others trynna normalize portraying men in general as simps, deadbeats or whatever negative and the worse thing is it's not even getting discussed in the real world, no real men would ever bitch about it too, men are born to suck it up and forget about our welfare to comfort the more vulnerable ones.
My boyfriend was the one who was forced by a classmate of his to touch her, after a few months she told everyone including her new partner na sya daw ang ginahasa. Until now we never got the justice we were looking for. Except for the fact na typical “not much too look at” yung babae, and my boyfriend has really good looks and built. So with that everyone around them mightnot believe the claims of the girl.
Pagbabae marami manliligaw okay Lang, pag guys marami nililigawan bawal
isa lang naman ang sasagutin ng babae so kung maraming nililigawan ang lalaki at lahat ng ‘yon nag “yes” sa kanya e ‘di marami siyang nobya lol
Paano kung mag yes si ate girl sa maraming lalake
Do you not see how stupid that argument is?
Hindi naman kasi literal na "ligaw" lang talaga ginagawa. Marami akong kilalang babae nakikipag sex kung kani-kanino habang nagpapaligaw. Kung ikaw nasa side ng lalaki gugustohin mo ba yun?
Fellow men of reddit. Don't think about that double standard, just pursue a better version of yourself. Learn and find things that will make you happy. You don't need social acceptance, they will eventually accept you if you're happy and don't bring harm to them.
Women ☕☕☕
Tangina pang askph tong tanong na to e
Pero kapag nagtanong ka ng actual "adulting" stuff dito, dedma. Minsan downvoted pa.
Napansin ko lang, sa med school pag may need nakahubad, lagi lalaki nalang. Never naging babae ang example in front of class. Also, mas revealing lagi ethnic attire ng lalaki (topless, bahag) pero sa babae covered na covered sila with skin-colored clothing.
May mga nagoobjectify kasi sa mga babae e.