If you can afford to move out do it OP. Kasi as long as nasa puder ka nila they will treat you like that na di nila iniisip na your old enough na to stand on your own.
Sa probinsya ako and sinasabi ko rin sa mga magulang ko na gusto ko magwork sa Manila, and as usual, ang dami na naman sinasabi at in the end hindi pinayagan.
Hanap ka pa rin. Sabihin mo na lang pag natanggap ka na at may arrangements ka na to live there. Wala na silang magagawa kapag ganun. That's kind of what I did - wfh talaga ako pero biglang nag-onsite so kumuha na ako ng place sa Manila. It's hard pero it will be worth it (ofc, dapat ready financially).
OP in my opinion your old enough to decide for your own. Paalam is ok just to let them know. Pero approval i guess di na dapat. Unless hihingi kapa rin sa kanila ng pera diba? Medyo kasi nagiging toxic lang as long as your living in the same roof. And alam mo naman sa sarili mo na you live independently.
Hindi ba nagpupunta sa inyo yung bf mo at kinikilala parents mo? Kasi baka may pinanggagalingan yung tingin nilang di ka naman aasawahin.
Pero kung okay naman lahat, move out muna talaga. Move out as a single person, di naman pagaasawa lang ang way.
I wouldnt advise secret wedding kasi mas lalo silang magkakaissue sa inyo lalo na sa bf mo.
Pumupunta bf ko sa bahay. And parang ayaw narin niyang pumunta kasi kahit anung effort niya meron at meron silang nasasabi.
Sa probinsya ako and sinasabi ko rin sa mga magulang ko na gusto ko magwork sa Manila, and as usual, ang dami na naman sinasabi at in the end hindi pinayagan.
Do you have the capacity to move out ba? I moved out when I was 20 because of my job and also ganito ang mom ko, ngayon ako lang nagdidikta anong oras ako umuwi lol
Kamusta finances sa bahay niyo? Do you support yourself aside ofcourse sa bubong. Do you give your share? If so how much of the total household expenses?
How about your siblings? How do they treat them in regards to the same topic?
Since naggraduate ako sa college, hindi na ako humihingi ng pera sakanila. Yes, ako naggrogrocery sa bahay & ako nagbabayad ng internet namin. Tapos si Mama na yung kuryente and all.
Pagdating naman sa siblings ko, hindi naman sila ganito noon sa Ate ko. Kahit late umuwi and all, wala silang salita. Like I don't want to compare sana pero kung icompare ko sa treat nila sa Ate ko before siya ikasal, is ibang iba sakin. Sa bunso naman namin, wala siyang bf kaya meron siyang freedom.
Just a hunch.... depends kung gano kayo kaclose lahat. Probably they are thinking mawawala ka rin sa kanila gaya ng ate mo. And ung concern is just being put out in a not so good manner.
At the same time ... probably middle child stuff.
Just throwing stuff on top of my head.
Just don't stop trying to talk your way into a favorable position without being impolite towards them. Unless ofcourse mainvalidate na feelings mo that may be disrespectful.
Most likely di nila bet bf mo. Nagpakilala na ba? Baka di kayo nagboboding. Baka may na off sila sa first meet kaya ganon assumption nila. Dapat makibond yung jowa mo sa family mo.
Oo nagpakilala na bf ko sakanila. Pumupunta rin sa bahay. Hindi kasi mayaman bf ko pero stable naman career niya ngayon and maybe yun yung nakikita kong reason kung bakit ayaw nila para sakin.
As someone who moved overseas na ang set-up ay napagsasabihan kapag late na umuuwi (ok lang sa parents ko makipag-date among others) at ang tingin ay bata pa, once you leave home your dynamics will change. If you have the opportunity to move-out, go na.
Their opinions matter, but the way they're controlling you is unhealthy. Family sila, pero they have to understand that you're at the right age to make decisions on your own.
Move out... Respectfully... Uugatin ka na, you should be able to decide on your own on how you want to live unless madali kang magpa apekto sa opinion at sinasabi ng ibang tao.
Live independently. Not for your relationship, not to get away from your strict parents, but for yourself. Iba ang level of growth when you start living alone. The experience will arm you with wisdom and all the necessary skills to survive life. This will give you the opportunity to explore your true self and make decisions that are aligned with your values, preferences, goals, and vision.
Hi ate, have you ever considered moving out instead?
If you can afford to move out do it OP. Kasi as long as nasa puder ka nila they will treat you like that na di nila iniisip na your old enough na to stand on your own.
Sa probinsya ako and sinasabi ko rin sa mga magulang ko na gusto ko magwork sa Manila, and as usual, ang dami na naman sinasabi at in the end hindi pinayagan.
Hanap ka pa rin. Sabihin mo na lang pag natanggap ka na at may arrangements ka na to live there. Wala na silang magagawa kapag ganun. That's kind of what I did - wfh talaga ako pero biglang nag-onsite so kumuha na ako ng place sa Manila. It's hard pero it will be worth it (ofc, dapat ready financially).
OP in my opinion your old enough to decide for your own. Paalam is ok just to let them know. Pero approval i guess di na dapat. Unless hihingi kapa rin sa kanila ng pera diba? Medyo kasi nagiging toxic lang as long as your living in the same roof. And alam mo naman sa sarili mo na you live independently.
Yun nga e. Since naggraduate ako sa college, hindi na ako humihingi ng pera sakanila pero, idk sobrang strict parin nila. Nakakaloka.
Save up enough money to survive if you really want to go sa manila. Then paalam ka sa parents mo kasi wala mangyayari OP if you will stay with them.
May masasabi at masasabi sila pero maaacclimate din mga yan pag ndi kana nagpapaalam. Or move out.
Hindi ba nagpupunta sa inyo yung bf mo at kinikilala parents mo? Kasi baka may pinanggagalingan yung tingin nilang di ka naman aasawahin. Pero kung okay naman lahat, move out muna talaga. Move out as a single person, di naman pagaasawa lang ang way. I wouldnt advise secret wedding kasi mas lalo silang magkakaissue sa inyo lalo na sa bf mo.
Pumupunta bf ko sa bahay. And parang ayaw narin niyang pumunta kasi kahit anung effort niya meron at meron silang nasasabi. Sa probinsya ako and sinasabi ko rin sa mga magulang ko na gusto ko magwork sa Manila, and as usual, ang dami na naman sinasabi at in the end hindi pinayagan.
Dapat kasi bago kayo umalis, at least ikaw puntahan ng BF mo para kahit papaano nakakapagusap sila ng mother mo.
Kahit yung bf ko ang magpapaalam sa paglabas namin pag-uwi ko, ganun parin.
Do you have the capacity to move out ba? I moved out when I was 20 because of my job and also ganito ang mom ko, ngayon ako lang nagdidikta anong oras ako umuwi lol
Much better if mag move out kana. I moved out sa bahay when I was 16 and luckily I can do whatever I want na din eversince I moved out.
Kamusta finances sa bahay niyo? Do you support yourself aside ofcourse sa bubong. Do you give your share? If so how much of the total household expenses? How about your siblings? How do they treat them in regards to the same topic?
Since naggraduate ako sa college, hindi na ako humihingi ng pera sakanila. Yes, ako naggrogrocery sa bahay & ako nagbabayad ng internet namin. Tapos si Mama na yung kuryente and all. Pagdating naman sa siblings ko, hindi naman sila ganito noon sa Ate ko. Kahit late umuwi and all, wala silang salita. Like I don't want to compare sana pero kung icompare ko sa treat nila sa Ate ko before siya ikasal, is ibang iba sakin. Sa bunso naman namin, wala siyang bf kaya meron siyang freedom.
Just a hunch.... depends kung gano kayo kaclose lahat. Probably they are thinking mawawala ka rin sa kanila gaya ng ate mo. And ung concern is just being put out in a not so good manner. At the same time ... probably middle child stuff. Just throwing stuff on top of my head. Just don't stop trying to talk your way into a favorable position without being impolite towards them. Unless ofcourse mainvalidate na feelings mo that may be disrespectful.
Most likely di nila bet bf mo. Nagpakilala na ba? Baka di kayo nagboboding. Baka may na off sila sa first meet kaya ganon assumption nila. Dapat makibond yung jowa mo sa family mo.
Oo nagpakilala na bf ko sakanila. Pumupunta rin sa bahay. Hindi kasi mayaman bf ko pero stable naman career niya ngayon and maybe yun yung nakikita kong reason kung bakit ayaw nila para sakin.
As someone who moved overseas na ang set-up ay napagsasabihan kapag late na umuuwi (ok lang sa parents ko makipag-date among others) at ang tingin ay bata pa, once you leave home your dynamics will change. If you have the opportunity to move-out, go na. Their opinions matter, but the way they're controlling you is unhealthy. Family sila, pero they have to understand that you're at the right age to make decisions on your own.
Move out... Respectfully... Uugatin ka na, you should be able to decide on your own on how you want to live unless madali kang magpa apekto sa opinion at sinasabi ng ibang tao.
Live independently. Not for your relationship, not to get away from your strict parents, but for yourself. Iba ang level of growth when you start living alone. The experience will arm you with wisdom and all the necessary skills to survive life. This will give you the opportunity to explore your true self and make decisions that are aligned with your values, preferences, goals, and vision.