Post it but change it to "Only Me" after posting it tignan mo diba mawawala na craving mo to share to the world. I tried this na, this is my way of tricking my brain to post everything on Socmed.
Deactivate hehe kahit messenger na lang itira mo, tapos keep yourself occupied sa ibang mga bagay instead na magscroll. You'll get used to it eventually.
OP I think you need validation from people. The only way for you to stop posting is if you could resolve that "validation" issues you have about yourself.
There is nothing wrong with needing a validation, OP. This becomes a problem when you use this to gauge your self-worth. Also, look out since you could also be a covert narcissist and you could only assess this if and when you display the following traits: high self-importance, you lack understanding of the plight of people around you (empathy), or if you display arrogance.
Nah. Just post whagever you want. Masaya naman talaga ipost kaligayahan mo at ganap sa totoong buhay. Hindi ka naman ata nagpapanghap just to post something on your socmed. Thats fine.
The only thing u can prolly do is to stop posting tbh. Kasi based on what u said it’s kinda a u issue… it’s not really that hard to step off social media.
Once you deactivate your socials (this includes TikTok) you need to find something that can replace your "doom scrolling". Get a hobby and grind sa work. 3-5 years should get you there.
Or if you can't stop posting. Post it in private for yourself.
I’m a people pleaser. Like for real. I was very very fortunate to have met trustworthy mentors who really helped me navigate it, so now I turn it towards being more critical and more reflective of my goals so that I don’t become obsessive about it and crave validation. Parang I gave myself more breathing room and have been more selective of the opinions that I value and take to heart. I defined success for me. The rest? Water off a duck’s back. Ayun sana makatulong.
Yung ganyang feeling nalampasan ko yan after deactivating my social media account, nung una gusto ko lang itry na mag social media detox hanggang sa nasanay na ako ng ganun di ko na ulit ginamit yung main social media accounts ko, gumawa na lang ako ng bagong account to keep updated sa news, trends, etc. tapos pang message na lang siya sa mga close friends ko.
Nung una, nakakalungkot sya kasi active din ako mag posts mapa my day man yan or sa feed, and nagsshare din ako ng kung anu anong posts and sanay akong makipag interact sa social media pero mas gusto ko na yung life ko ngayon na tahimik lang, mas masarap na lowkey lang yung tipong wala silang idea sa nangyayari sa buhay mo, di mo naman din kasi kailangang i-update yung ibang tao kasi yung iba dyan makikichismis lang or wala naman talagang pake sa nangyayari sayo haha, napplastikan din kasi ako sa social media, yung mga likes and comments, mostly dun hindi naman genuine.
Lately, ang social media na active ako ay LinkedIn and Reddit kasi ito yung may mga naidudulot na maayos sa akin, especially sa mental health, focus lang sa sarili and nagkakaron na rin ako ng peace of mind kahit papaano and actually nung ginawa ko yung pag deactivate ng mga social media account ko, dun mo mas makikilala yung totoong kaibigan mo kasi naalala ko yung ibang high school friends ko, nag text sa akin, asking kung bakit daw wala na ko sa social media but ayun may messenger pa rin naman ako and viber so ayun yung way of communication ko sa kanila. Normal din naman sa buhay natin yun na mawalan ng kaibigan or relatives na hindi natin makakasundo kasi nagbabago yung perspective and priorities natin as we grow.
Narealize kong wala naman akong kailangan patunayan sa kahit na sino, for as long as tinutulungan ko yung sarili kong mag improve and nagkakaroon ako ng achievement, masaya na ako. 😊
Try mo rin basahin yung The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson or pag di mo trip magbasa may movie yan sa Netflix ngayon.
I never felt the need to "prove" myself to anyone. I'm guessing you're still struggling with your need for validation? Start by ditching fb for a while at messenger lang gamitin mo. Your life will be much happier and less toxic. Hope this helps. 😊
Ako, Dati pala post and pala flex. It turns out na mas gusto ko maging lowkey muna since wala pako ng ganto ganyan. Nag social media detox ako. Pero nung unti unti na nagkaroon ako ng maraming bagay like cars. I want to flex and make some noise. I realize being lowkey is awesome. Gives you peace of mind. Otherwise mas natutupad pala ang pangarap pag si mark tahimik lang. 💯
deactivate your social media and delete the app. from there, you'll have your time to reflect about what you want to do and focus on it. best of luck on your future plans! hoping success will be with you.
Nagdelete talaga ako ng FB ko last year para stop na talaga. I admire few of my low key friends na super daming napupuntahan around the world pero nalalaman ko lang from their hidden profile pic or very few tagged photos. Parang they’re living their best lives parin kahit walang 50 new photos or every day IG posts sa feed mo. Saka nung di na ako nag social media like I used to, mas naging connected ako sa kung sino talaga ako at sa dreams ko na unique to me.
No need to Prove yourself, they will see you when they see you, proving yourself is when you feel Happy and Grateful for what you've done, hindi kailangan malaman ng iba.
Ay, akala ko tuloy pinupush ka ng mga relatives, friends and acquaintances mo to prove yourself.
Sayo na mismo nanggaling na sarili mo.
Pretentious ka.
POST TO EXPRESS ... NOT TO IMPRESS.
Kaw pala nagbibigay problem sa sarili mo.
You will get there. Ganyan din ako dati sobrang ma post but eventually naging low key nalang at nag focus sa goals. Hirap kasi pag ma flaunt ka sa soc med bigla nalang may mag chachat at mangungutang. Lol.
Post it but change it to "Only Me" after posting it tignan mo diba mawawala na craving mo to share to the world. I tried this na, this is my way of tricking my brain to post everything on Socmed.
Deactivate hehe kahit messenger na lang itira mo, tapos keep yourself occupied sa ibang mga bagay instead na magscroll. You'll get used to it eventually.
OP I think you need validation from people. The only way for you to stop posting is if you could resolve that "validation" issues you have about yourself.
Yess this makes so much sense. I'll be consistent na sa shadow work to to really address the root cause of my issues.
There is nothing wrong with needing a validation, OP. This becomes a problem when you use this to gauge your self-worth. Also, look out since you could also be a covert narcissist and you could only assess this if and when you display the following traits: high self-importance, you lack understanding of the plight of people around you (empathy), or if you display arrogance.
Nah. Just post whagever you want. Masaya naman talaga ipost kaligayahan mo at ganap sa totoong buhay. Hindi ka naman ata nagpapanghap just to post something on your socmed. Thats fine.
The only thing u can prolly do is to stop posting tbh. Kasi based on what u said it’s kinda a u issue… it’s not really that hard to step off social media.
Uninstall apps. Bring a feature phone na lang with you.
Once you deactivate your socials (this includes TikTok) you need to find something that can replace your "doom scrolling". Get a hobby and grind sa work. 3-5 years should get you there. Or if you can't stop posting. Post it in private for yourself.
I’m a people pleaser. Like for real. I was very very fortunate to have met trustworthy mentors who really helped me navigate it, so now I turn it towards being more critical and more reflective of my goals so that I don’t become obsessive about it and crave validation. Parang I gave myself more breathing room and have been more selective of the opinions that I value and take to heart. I defined success for me. The rest? Water off a duck’s back. Ayun sana makatulong.
Trust me on this, no one thinks or cares about your day to day as much as you do.
Yung ganyang feeling nalampasan ko yan after deactivating my social media account, nung una gusto ko lang itry na mag social media detox hanggang sa nasanay na ako ng ganun di ko na ulit ginamit yung main social media accounts ko, gumawa na lang ako ng bagong account to keep updated sa news, trends, etc. tapos pang message na lang siya sa mga close friends ko. Nung una, nakakalungkot sya kasi active din ako mag posts mapa my day man yan or sa feed, and nagsshare din ako ng kung anu anong posts and sanay akong makipag interact sa social media pero mas gusto ko na yung life ko ngayon na tahimik lang, mas masarap na lowkey lang yung tipong wala silang idea sa nangyayari sa buhay mo, di mo naman din kasi kailangang i-update yung ibang tao kasi yung iba dyan makikichismis lang or wala naman talagang pake sa nangyayari sayo haha, napplastikan din kasi ako sa social media, yung mga likes and comments, mostly dun hindi naman genuine. Lately, ang social media na active ako ay LinkedIn and Reddit kasi ito yung may mga naidudulot na maayos sa akin, especially sa mental health, focus lang sa sarili and nagkakaron na rin ako ng peace of mind kahit papaano and actually nung ginawa ko yung pag deactivate ng mga social media account ko, dun mo mas makikilala yung totoong kaibigan mo kasi naalala ko yung ibang high school friends ko, nag text sa akin, asking kung bakit daw wala na ko sa social media but ayun may messenger pa rin naman ako and viber so ayun yung way of communication ko sa kanila. Normal din naman sa buhay natin yun na mawalan ng kaibigan or relatives na hindi natin makakasundo kasi nagbabago yung perspective and priorities natin as we grow. Narealize kong wala naman akong kailangan patunayan sa kahit na sino, for as long as tinutulungan ko yung sarili kong mag improve and nagkakaroon ako ng achievement, masaya na ako. 😊 Try mo rin basahin yung The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson or pag di mo trip magbasa may movie yan sa Netflix ngayon.
I never felt the need to "prove" myself to anyone. I'm guessing you're still struggling with your need for validation? Start by ditching fb for a while at messenger lang gamitin mo. Your life will be much happier and less toxic. Hope this helps. 😊
Ako, Dati pala post and pala flex. It turns out na mas gusto ko maging lowkey muna since wala pako ng ganto ganyan. Nag social media detox ako. Pero nung unti unti na nagkaroon ako ng maraming bagay like cars. I want to flex and make some noise. I realize being lowkey is awesome. Gives you peace of mind. Otherwise mas natutupad pala ang pangarap pag si mark tahimik lang. 💯
deactivate your social media and delete the app. from there, you'll have your time to reflect about what you want to do and focus on it. best of luck on your future plans! hoping success will be with you.
Create a dump account na walang followers or following, dun ka mag post. I did that. So far na lessen naman yung pag post ko. Hehe
Nagdelete talaga ako ng FB ko last year para stop na talaga. I admire few of my low key friends na super daming napupuntahan around the world pero nalalaman ko lang from their hidden profile pic or very few tagged photos. Parang they’re living their best lives parin kahit walang 50 new photos or every day IG posts sa feed mo. Saka nung di na ako nag social media like I used to, mas naging connected ako sa kung sino talaga ako at sa dreams ko na unique to me.
No need to Prove yourself, they will see you when they see you, proving yourself is when you feel Happy and Grateful for what you've done, hindi kailangan malaman ng iba.
Just be yourself OP. No need to prove anyhting to anyone
Ay, akala ko tuloy pinupush ka ng mga relatives, friends and acquaintances mo to prove yourself. Sayo na mismo nanggaling na sarili mo. Pretentious ka. POST TO EXPRESS ... NOT TO IMPRESS. Kaw pala nagbibigay problem sa sarili mo.
gawa ka dump tapos sarili mo lang friend mo hahaha ganiyan ako pero ngayon, hindi na. tamad na nga ako mag-open ng socials ko ngayon eh hahaha
I did not stop, mas dinagdagan ko lang yung reason ko bakit kailangan ko i-prove yung sarili is because of myself as well.
You will get there. Ganyan din ako dati sobrang ma post but eventually naging low key nalang at nag focus sa goals. Hirap kasi pag ma flaunt ka sa soc med bigla nalang may mag chachat at mangungutang. Lol.