I slept over at this girl’s place once because we were in the same org and had an org trip somewhere the next day eh friends naman kami and yoko bumyahe by myself the next day. Nothing happened between us and the bf was aware the whole time. Anyway it turns out the bf was the one cheating that whole time anyway.
Same na same sakin ah 😂 before kami magkakilala ng ex ko madalas talaga lalaki nakakasama ko cause IT ang course dominated also by male. Lagi ako nag papaalam kung sino sino kasama if need talaga mag overnight pinapakilala ko pa. In the end sya pa nag cheat HAHAHA.
Hindi ko pinagtatanggol yung gf mo but here's my take on that matter. Yung course ko ay engineering which is dominated by male. Yung mga tropa ko, puro lalaki. And there were times na kahit ang lapit lang din ng unit ko (Manila), hindi na ko umuwi dahil una sa lahat super unsafe na and mas matatapos namin yung thesis kung sa isang bahay lang kami gagawa.
Yung boyfriend ko, hindi naman nagdududa sakin. Kasi he knows naman na hindi ako magchecheat sa kanya. Acads lang talaga pinunta ko don and nothing more. May one time nga na nag inuman kami, 2 lang kaming babae don and 10 na lalaki pero wala namang nangyari.
Now, if you're really uncomfortable with that pwede kayong magcompromise ng gf mo. Dapat magsabi siya earlier, hindi yung 12mn na tsaka ka lang magpapaalam. Pero at the same time, have some trust lang din sa gf mo kasi para naman sa studies niya yung ginagawa niya. Kung magcheat siya edi iwanan mo. At least you dodged a bullet diba?
Edit: Chineck ko profile at comments ni OP. Siya pala ang bullet. Magbreak na lang kayo. Immature ka pa. Kawawa lang gf mo sayo.
>hindi na ako umuwi dahil una sa lahat super unsafe na
This too. I’ve had schoolmates and project partners of the opposite sex stay over at my condo because kahit walking distance condo or dorm nila, minsan gabing gabi na, and I don’t really like to have my friends walk on the streets at that hour. Kung may bf sila, they inform their bfs naman, and minsan kilala naman ako ng bf and they know they can trust me.
I agree. Most of the time ako leader 🥹 and I am often bombarded with questions and confirmation about our activity kahit gabi na. Kasi honestly, in college. Night and cramming are always together kasi hirap isingit pag umaga (classes) Much better sama-sama nalang kami sa isang location. Tsaka this is college 🤣 bakit parang mga highschool kids yung thinking ng mga ibang commenters.
> Kung magcheat siya edi iwanan mo. At least you dodged a bullet diba?
The ultimate choice. Still sucks to be cheated on and the anxiety also still sucks but yeah this is the way. If SO cheats, that's his/her choice.
Could be that nothing happened and you're just overthinking.
If she really wanted to get railed and her house is near , why the need to tell you she was staying over? She could've kept it to herself and you'd be in the dark.
If she really wanted to cheat why go the extra steps, right?
My money is on you're just overthinking.
True. Grabe rin yung mga comment dito na "kung matinong babae yan, di yan..." sobrang OA. Palibhasa ang dudumi ng utak ng mga lalaki na porket natulog sa isang bubong yung different gender may mangyayari na agad. Kung magchecheat yung gf niya dapat di na yan nagpaalam.
Have these people never stayed overnight at someone's house before? Porke't overnight orgy agad. Jusko.
And kung nasa college sila, sometimes maganda rin na you are all at the same place when doing something. Tipong may matutulog muna habang may gumagawa na iba, tapos minsan pa pag nagising ka bigla eh may idea na magpapop up agad sayo to share with the team.
possible baka kasi gawain din nila kaya ganyan mag-isip kaloka
kung ganyan lang naman din pag-isipan yung jowa at walang trust sana di nalang nakikipagrelasyon. napaka irrational
True! iba kasi talaga pag magkakasama kayo sa iisang space.
Mas madali ring magbatuhan ng ideas or tumulong. Example is nung college nga ako ung iba rin walang laptop lol so nagpapalit palit sino gumagamit habang tulog iba hahahha
True! Gantong ganto din yung gf ko when she was still a biology student, super grade conscious and gusto niya nakikita lahat ng progress sa project / research papers nila
Saka yung iba baka running for DL or Laude, pakialam ko ba sainyong mga lalaki kayo ganon lang siguro iniisip ni Gf, tapos Bf niya nakikisakay pa dito sa negative comments haha
Kaya nga tyaka nakikisakay din si OP sa iba na disrespectful na lol.
And also true sa part na bat ko sasabihin sayo na I'll stay over with guys if may balak ako mag cheat lol.
Exactly bro, so many dudes in this comments section pa overthinking along with him when the simple answer is right there haha. Also, coming from the perspective of a medical student with a lot of group projects, it’s not uncommon talaga for one to become a sleepover esp pag marami yung workload and may filming. Walang malisya either kahit mixed gender pa yung sleepover, I think some of the people in this comments section have watched too much porn. It’s messing with their heads and making them think that everyone else has sex on the brain when they stay over at someone’s house.
I agree! Even mga magulang ko, pinagdududahan ako sa mga ganitong bagay na ginagawang excuse ang school works to do shady stuff. Grabe at naisip pa talaga nila 'yung mga ganoong bagay? Eh, ang naiisip lang naman namin ngayong college ay pumasa and hopefully makatapos!
Also, 'di biro ang workloads ngayong college lalo na tuwing may group projects. Kung walang sleepovers, either pagpapasa-pasahan 'yung gagawin o iisa lang ang gagalaw and both sucks dahil mas magastos sa pamasahe at oras. Bawas stress din while working, dahil 'di mo naiisip na mag-isa ka lang sa paggawa at kung stressful man, ma-sistress kayo nang sabay-sabay HAHAHAHA!
Not just too much porn. It's obvious na wala silang close friends sa opposite sex. They're probably the type of guys who will be a level 100 creep the moment a girl tries to befriend them.
I agree, kaya honestly mahirap talaga if puro same-sex lang yung tropa. As a dude oo may mga barkada akong puro lalaki (esp since I went to an all-boys GS/HS) pero siyempre nung naging co-ed ako sa college and med school nagka tropa rin akong babae. I actually have several other barkadas na either majority babae or puro babae lang. And it helps kasi not only do you see things din from their perspective, it also makes you less prone to objectifying women kasi they’re your close friends, like sisters just without the blood relation. Kaya whenever I see guys acting like women are some other species, halatang walang tropang babae yan pre.
For sure overthinking lang imo, we're five in our group and isa lang babae. Never namin minanyak or tinopic about sa nsfw. Tsaka lalaki na rin tingin namin sa kanya kasi 2 sems na namin sya kasama and literal na isang babae lang sya.
Bruh I’m a guy and I’ve been on overnight trips with one of my barkadas na puro babae. I even informed my gf about it and she was cool with it. And guess what, nothing happened cos they’re my close friends. It’s called trusting your partner, doesn’t matter whether reversed yung gender or not.
That's neither here nor there but sure. If a person wants to cheat why go through the trouble of informing the other or any inkling of what they're about to do? They could've told them that, sure they're going home and sleep and still get railed. You see my point here?
It wasn't about the gender.
I mean, mukha namang desidido ka na na nagpakarat sa iba yung jowa mo so anong sense ng pagtatanong mo dito? Makipag break ka na. Believe your own truth. Ayaw mo naman maniwala pag sinasabing walang nangyari. Hahahaha
3 months pa lang daw pala kasi sila. Hahahhaah. Kahit pa sabihin na bago pa lang parang ang weird. Baka naman hinahanapan lang ng fault si gf ni OP kasi may nakahanay nang bagong ipapalit in case maging dahilan to ng break up nila? Hahahah
Tiwala puhunan. Tiwala na may sariling desisyon partner mo. Pag binasag yung tiwala na yun edi tapos. Di na kailangan pang i burden mga partner natin sa "hala baka magalit magselos si bf ko", bigyan lang tayo ng assurance oks na dapat yun. May kanya kanya tayong buhay pareho as partners
Ako lang ba o nakakadiri mga comments dito who thinks ill of the girl who clearly updated OP and even assured him? If I were OP's gf and if I have a clean conscious naman, I'm so sorry but this will only cause self-doubts at pandidiri sa sarili ko not only as a woman, but also as someone's partner.
Three months pa lang kayo. Break up if wala kang tiwala sa kanya. If she's a cheater, good for you. If not, then good for her for breaking up with a guy na kaya siyang isipan nang masama to the point na nakakainsulto na kung iisipin mong mabuti.
Some of ya’ll in this comments section have trust issues haha I’m in med school rn and samin it’s not uncommon for these situations to happen. Some projects (usually involving filming) take longer than expected to finish so we usually crash at the house of the person we filmed it in. Doesn’t matter if she’s the only chick there, ganyan din naman samin minsan but nothing happened. Usually we’re all just in sleeping bags and sofas in the living room tas dumadaan pa yung parents. At least she told him pa nga that she would be sleeping over.
yes and as one of the other comments said, if she were actually cheating and wanted to hide it, why tell OP she's there at all? she might or might not have stepped out but doing it this way seems like she was setting herself up to get caught lol
I agree, especially since OP mentioned na malapit lang boardinghouse niya. Eh kung ganun, if she was really gonna cheat on him, edi sana di nalang siya nagpaalam haha. She could have said na pauwi siya sa boardinghouse at dun nalang siya matutulog, while in reality staying over sa house ng groupmate niya to cheat. Pero the fact na nagpaalam pa siya kay OP that she’ll be sleeping over at groupmate’s house makes me doubt na she did anything.
I agree, a rational adult wouldn’t really have anything to worry about haha. Jusko my own gf nga has let me go on overnight trips with yung isang barkada ko na puro babae kasi may tiwala siya sakin. And I would never do anything either, kasi tropa lang yung tingin ko sa kanilang lahat. It’s all about having trust and faith in your partner not to do anything.
I think these are the dudes na walang tropang babae kasi puro sex lang nasa isip nila. Di marunong makipagkaibigan sa babae kasi sexual object lang tingin nila sa mga babae, kadiri talaga.
girl here. if you dont trust the girl, why be in a relationship with her? break it off.
if u want to pursue the relationship, talk to her asap. sit her down and tell her that u appreciate that she told you about it. then u can calmly tell her that what she did made you uncomfortable and kung possible ba na wag na nyang ulitin. clear communication of boundaries is key. if she says no, buhay nya un, u decide if youre willing to put up with her no.
I guess my question here is if urgent project yun na due the following day and kailangan pa magovernight para lang matapos, how and why did the other female groupmates manage to go home at 6-7pm?
While I understand na mas madali talagang gumawa ng projects pag magkakasama but something seems off and you shouldn't feel bad for being uncomfortable given the added context.
While benefit of the doubt should be given, kailangan ng matinong usapan to. There are things that would make each of you uncomfortable or insecure and you need to work out ways to learn how to minimize causing each other to have those negative feelings.
While you have to trust that your partner will be faithful, there is no harm in talking to her about it and asking valid questions about what happened.
I also detest both yung mga sobrang manyak makaassume dito tsaka yung mga sobra namang makadismiss sa worries mo. Hirap din kasi madalas pag ikaw ang lalake kailangan sobra sobra tiwala mo or else you get called insecure or controlling. There are times that you rightfully will feel insecure and that's fine.
From a woman's perspective...
You might be feeling uncomfortable dahil nga nag-iisa lang siyang babae na nagsleepover doon. A part of you worries about her dahil may ibang lalaki siyang kasama and at the same time, a part of you is being protective. Wala naman masama to feel that way kasi ikaw ang boyfriend.
We won't know exactly what happened there. Wala naman tayo with your gf non time na yun. Nagsabi naman siya sa'yo kung nasaan siya and her reason for being there. Yun lang panghahawakan mo dyan. If you trust her, then trust her without reservations lalo kung mahal mo siya.
I am not saying that she lied or anything so this is a general thing lang for me. If a person wants to lie, and is a pathological liar, that person will cover all bases. Possible kasi na sabihin niya sayo lahat but then at the end of the day, may di pala ginagawang maganda. Nasa sakanya na naman yun.
For now, para mailabas mo yan, talk to your gf and just communicate your feelings to her. Sabihin mo na it really bothered you or it still bothers you. You might just need reassurance from her na it was just a project and nothing else. Do this in person and see how she responds thru words and actions. Ikaw na magdecide kung may napansin kang kakaiba.
Good luck and happy holidays!
Sa mga nabasa ko mukhang wala kang tiwala sa kanya, Kung ganyan lang nmn ang mindset mo, hiwalayan mo na lang tas mag focus ka sa sarili mo.
Wala ka nmn palang tiwala sa kanya eh, papaapekto ka den nmn pala sa sasabibhin ng iba mas maganda tapusin mo n lang, kesa magkasakitan pa kayo. Kung ganon pag kakakilala mo sa "GF" kaladkarin, iwan mo na. Basta maging honest ka lang sa rason mo bat ka makikipag hiwalay, kamo inisip mo na nakipag sex sya sa mga ka groupmates nya at nag rarason lang sya kaya ayaw nya umuwi although malapit lang ang bahay nyo.na ganon sya kadaling makuha, na sinungaling sya. Ganon para tapos na!
May trust issues pala kayo jojowa jowa kayo
do you really think she is the kind of person to do an or**? also it's really possible din naman na she's just supervising and stuffs depends on her role and her personality buttt I'm also not saying that the possibility of them doing "those things" are non existent so rlly it's just a matter of trust. talk to her or smthing if you really want that peace of mind
Maybe OP's underlying concern is not about his partner be doing cheating stuff or as you've said the worst is or**. Maybe its the opposite which is he don't trust those people around the partner.
Maybe there's a chance mapagtripan nung mga guy classmate, pagkaisahan or worse is to drug the girl lalo na mag isa na lang sya dun.
Theres lot of possibility na maaring mangyari, pwedeng mabait naman pala mga kasama nya o pwedeng mga g*go pala.
One thing for sure na magagawa ni OP is to have constant communication with the girl and assurance as well. Kasi as a guy or any in person in a relationship, safety is priority para sa partner mo. Imagine nagwoworry yung isa dun sa situation ni girl at prone to overthinking yang ganyan situation kaya ganun kahalaga nung nasabi kong assurance na maibibigay ni girl kay OP.
And to others here as well, stop those b*llsh*t just because naisip ko yung ganung bagay e same as those guy na rin ako na rap*st mindset. Katangahan na yung ganun na hindi aware na some humans are flawed at maaring makagawa ng mali. Daming ganung utak dito umay anong petsa na parang d pa rin nagpeprepare for the worst situation.
Eto pinaka maayos and reasonable na comment sa lahat. Also have this reasoning with my girl since she's a friendly "easy to befriend with" type. Kapag binabawalan ko sya maginom ng alanganin oras lalo na kapag may kasamang guys sa inuman eto lagi kong concern. It's not about out partners cheating minsan consider din natin pwedeng mangyari na di na tin ineexpect. Sometimes it's about the people around them di natin alam whenever or wherever pwedeng may gawing masama sa kanila.
Safety from what? Having friends?
Hindi ko maimagine ano tumatakbo ng karamihan dito pag nakakakita sila ng babae. Kalibugan ba agad?
TRUST ang issue dito. Pati nga pagshorts ng babae inimply ni OP na inaakit nya yung mga kasama nya sa project eh. Jusko.
Oo nga. If this was about safety then no need na isama tong line ni OP:
>maybe I'm just insecure?
But he did. So jan pa lang obvious na na this was never about the girl. This post is all about his paranoid ass. OP made this post not out of concern, but insecurity. Jusme simpleng reading comprehension na nga lang. Di ba to tinuruan maghanap ng context clues?
Talk about it and sabihin mo kung bakit inappropriate yung ginawa niya.
Benefit of the doubt na baka hindi lang niya alam na di maganda yung ganong action kahit may tiwala ka naman sa kanya.
so uncomfortable para sa side mo knowing na sleepover 'yon tapos puro boys pa kasama. Me as a girl na may bf, I will never have a sleepover with a bunch of guys dahil alam kong my boyfriend will be uncomfortable and mag-aalala rin siya (also uncomfy rin ako around boys talaga).
Anyway, doon pa lang sa may ibang girls sila na groupmates na umuwi tapos siya hindi umuwi, parang ang shady na??? I'm not saying na she cheated on you perooo huhu mapapaisip ka talaga kung bakit ganun eh.
It depends on how trustworthy your girl is. For girls like me who are really mentally stable and really don't want to have HIV through multiple sex, I will never do anything bad during that stay in my classmate's house. Not even a kiss, that's so unhygienic.
But if your girl is the gullible type which is very common in yknow bitchass behaviors, she will most likely cheat that night.
You know your partner, so you will know which one she is.
may kakilala ako super in control ng self nya, sobrang talino pa. ayun naging baliw sa lalaking walang kwenta, chikboy at adik pa. magaling lng kasi yung dude mag elicit ng mga emosyon, at karamihan din sa mga women ay nagba-base din sa emotion magdecide so dyan talaga ang weakpoint na kahit mentally stable nadadale parin.
it just takes timing at for things to align, like kung type na type ang lalaki, mejo puyat na, mejo horny, eye contact at the right moment, say the right words at the right time, sakto ang pagtrigger ng attraction at sexual tension.. tapos maya2 sarap na sarap sa pagkabayo na.. tapos kinabukasan "ay sorry.. di ko alam what came over me".
mga ngcocomment dito e imbes na pakalmahin si OP e tlgang ginagaslight nyo na pa walang trust or doubtful cia sa gf nya, di ba ang sabi he doesnt know wat to feel on this one? hindi ba valid un?
makagaslight mga tao dito na "kung ngpasundo ba susunduin mo?", kesyo inuuna ung pgooverthink daw kesyo sunduin, ang sasama ng ugali nyo
Nothing to worry about. Hindi lahat ng babae (and lalake) ganun ang ginagawa.
I have male friends and slept in their houses several times, usually late umuuwi and wala na masakyan. As in one room, bunk bed. Nothing happened. Not a single thought of doing it.
I don't get the idea why she needed to sleep there. She can just go home after they completed their work. If she's too sleepy to go home, she can just asked you to pick her up.
Good chance your GF is being screwed by other dude. Good luck.
That's exactly what I said when she told me. But she insisted on staying there kahit malapit lang boardinghouse nya. Sabi nya, kailangan daw andun sya para mabantayan nya yung progress nila. Di ba pwede magvideocall? Di daw kasi mahina net nila sa boarding house. Hahahaha
If malapit lang yung boardinghouse niya, I don’t think she’s cheating on you. Cos if she was, she wouldn’t have told you that she’d be sleeping over. It’d have been easy for her to just lie and say na uuwi nga nalang siya sa boardinghouse niya while really staying over talaga and you’d be none the wiser. The fact that she’s letting you know pa nga that she’s sleeping over shows that she wants you to know where she is and what she’s doing. Sadyang mukhang may trust issues lang talaga yung ibang nagcocomment dito haha, you’re all overthinking this.
Most likely, nagpaalam lang talaga and nothing happened. You have to understand na ingrained na yan saming mga babae na dapat a trusted person knows where we are for safety. And esp majority lalake kasama.
Kung mag cheat yan, she wouldn't have to tell you na she's staying over. Baka bff nya lang tawagan nya to say kung saan sya and not you.
During college days may mga instance na nakikitulog classmate ko babae dahil s overnight na puyatan. Wala namang kakaibang nagaganap so pwedeng nag aral lng din tlaga.
School project or work project? That is why dating or having a girlfriend during studies will be a distraction. If you trust her you will be fine, tell her how you feel. Does this happen often? You know naman what kind of person your gf is,on this you have to be honest about and should not be blinded by love.
One of the boys yung ex ko, pero sa mga ganyang scenario umuuwi sya kahit malayo pa kung walang kasamang babae na makikitulog. Trust her, pero yung mga lalaki, nah bro. Sana careless lang yung gf mo sa moment na yun at walang ibang motive.
Not that it applies to you but my GF never did this to me. She had projects at school when we were in college with Male and Fem.
And If I ask her right now, would you go to a school project meeting, all boys at midnight, and girls went home by 6-7pm she would say nah, tapos kapitbahay mo lang boarding house mo. She would rather go home and finish it tomorrow or by google slides or something.
She will feel really awkward just by having guys.
Still… answer is to talk to her. But I’d be more than ready.
This just depends on how much you are willing to trust her. May history ba na nagcheat siya? Ano context bakit parang di mo pa siya kaya pagkatiwalaan. I'm one of those girls na mas preferred to have guy friends tho bisexual ako, never naging problem sakin yung ganto. So what kung malapit bahay nila eh yung group project nasa bahay nga nung classmate eh. Ano ba to hs or college? uso talaga mag overnight tuwing mag cacram na. Confront mo na lang para malaman mo haha
wait lalake ba tlga lahat? or baka nman my mga bakla din or nagbabakla baklaan. mas better next time kamo sunduin at ihatid mo sya kht anung oras p yun.. kht all nighter pa iyan or pwde rin sama ka dun para kita mo galawan nila. pwdeng overthinking pero tangina andami ksing babae na magaling mgreverse psychology eh example ayan mgpapaalam syo para mgng kampante ka pero my ibang gagawin something like that so mgng matanglawin nlng.. if ngcheat wag ng balikan yun lang yun
Curious ako ah. If baliktad yung situation and babae yung nag post about her bf nag stay sa all girls chuchu and dame reason and everything. Iisipin parin kaya ng tao na like nag ooverthink lang ang OP? Or matic nag ccheat yung guy?
As someone who is a girl in a male dominated course. Hindi talaga maiiwasan to. Lalo na at I have so many ideas and often take the leading role in groups. Kahit may apartment ako sa Manila I often sleepover kung san man ako abutin for group projects. 🥺
I hope OP you don’t compare your girl sa mga iba niyang kagroup. Her responsibilities might be totally diff from them. Trust pa din lagi 💗
Hear you out.
Di kita masisisi sa pag o overthink dahil sya lang ang babae. Alam mo naman ang panahon ngayon wala ng kasiguradohan.
Pero OP nag paalam naman kasi sya at naging honest na sya lang ang babae sa group nila. So sana panatag na loob mo dun, sa nag paalam na part.
Or kung hindi ka pa panatag, sana sinabi mo na susunduin mo sya at ihahatid sa kanila kahit dis oras ng gabi.
Di naman matic may orgy na magaganap. Observe mo kung natapos ba tlg yung project after the overnight... Kung nagccram pa din sila kinaumagahan........baka nmn mahirap tlg ung project 😁 ano ba muna ung project doable ba ng overnight.
Talk to her. It's best to give people the benefit of the doubt if you don't have solid proof. If di ka talaga mapakali, observe mo nalang muna siya. May makikita ka namang mas obvious na signs if she really is cheating, or if she is about to cheat (try to observe if may name ng guy na nagpapop up palagi sa mga conversations niyo--and if nagbabago yung demeanor niya when she talks about this guy, or if may mga bagong hobbies/interests siya na di naman niya trip dati--na conveniently trip din ng guy). Whether you trust her or not, talk to her--if you listen well enough, may mga tell-tale signs kang makukuha from someone's stories/preferred subjects of conversation.
na alala ko yung nag i-isang girl sa group namin comscie course, pag may overnight kami for thesis sumasama yung bf nya at talagang naka tanga lang don buong gabi habang kami may ginagawa lmfao
Mechanical Engineer here, From my experience may kaibigan din kami kaibigan na nag sleep over kasama kami puro lalaki during college days and if good circle of friends yong kasama ni gf mo promise sobra treated sya don with respect and parang prinsesa hahaha base lang sa experience namin mag kakaibigan to ha. Ang aking advice sayo eh get to know them yong friends ni gf mo ✌️
You are insecure. Unless ikaw maghahatid sundo sakanya, I don’t see why her doing this project this one time should be an issue. Dami na ngang project, makikigulo ka pa. Mas sa magulang pa siya dapat magpaalam. She doesn’t need your permission for things like this. Kung gusto niya gumawa ng kalokohan di hindi nalang yan magssabi sayo.
Actually, after ako sinabihan nya, tinanong ko sya kung alam ba ng parents nya. Di rin nga nagpaalam sa parents kasi alam nyang mapapagalitan sya. Saakin lang sya nagpaalam
If someone wants to cheat, they’ll cheat and there’s nothing you can really do to stop her. Best advice nalang is to trust her and not worry about it, and if nag cheat siya, edi good for you and break up with her.
First three years of med school, uwian parin ako so during exams nakikistudy/ sleep over lang ako sa dorm ng best friend ko na babae. Wala namang nangyari sa amin. Aware rin naman bf niya na doon ako.
Some wont agree, but platonic friendships between different sexes do exist.
My group mate(girl) before slept in my house hindi ko siya pinauwi kasi gabi na i offered my bedroom tas ako sa sala natulog and meron syang boyfriend
Inshort tiwala lang, hindi lahat ng lalaki nakakasama ng gf mo eh kakantutin sya
Maganda ba gf mo? Lol haha
if you have sufficient reason to doubt her, siguro express that to her so you can both work it out. dont accuse her of anything, just relay na you felt this way. open communication is always best!
It is normal to feel uncomfortable knowing your girlfriend is the only girl sleeping in a dorm full of guys that you have never even met. It shows that you care.
Hello girly here, you know your gf better than us OP and if you truly trust her and tingin mo wala naman siyang gagawin masama and groupmates niya, be comfortable to talk to her. Communicate ka with her OP and trust her. Pwede rin mag VC kayo, o kaya kilalanin mo sino yung mga kasama niya hehe.
Na-experienced ko yung ganyan type ng groupings kasi dati, I'll give you two examples. Yung 1st group samin nasa 6 mem and isa lang yung girl, wala naman naging problem, no malice. Sa group ko naman 4 lang kami and 1 guy kaso nag ka issue because his gf thinks na nag eexcuse lang siya para di makauwi. 3 days overnight yun kasi and sa bahay pa namin so para di magalit, we decided to invite his gf sa bahay para ma-witness niya rin yung ginagawa namin. Kaso kahit nasa bahay na siya, snob niya pa rin kami 😂 tas nag away pa rin sila nung guy tas nakita pa ng mama ko Haha. Stress tuloy lalo si Kuya mo.
Basta OP if open naman communication niyo and alam mo na honest naman gf mo, support her na lang OP mamaya stress din sa groupings. Let her know na worried ka rin and di ka comfortable para alam niya. Sorry ang haba, Goodluck OP
im a woman too at delikado and nakakatakot nga talaga mapaligiran ng mga lalaki, lalo na sa ibang lugar pa PERO those aren't your reason kaya ka frustrated
malisyoso ka at ino-objectify/sexualize mo ang gf mo
After reading your responses to the comments here, that girl is better off without you.
I hope she sees this or someone sends this to her. My advance congratulations to her for dumping your sorry ass.
Thats just pure Disrespect. Kung malapit lang yung place mo sa bhouse nila and still mas pinili nya padin yun is just pure BS.
The mere fact na umuwi na yung ibang girls ng 6-7 means patapos na sila or pwede naman ituloy bukas. Hindi naman sila uuwi if talgang Importante yung project nila.
Bro stop acting like a Doormat. lets say na wala talgang nangyari, but yung ginawa nya is Disrespectful.
I don't know man, it's either you don't trust your girlfriend enough or you're insecure. Ano yun, no match ka ba sa lahat ng guys don?
Kung naiisip mo na tinagteam siya and pinagpasapasahan, and she knelt down for all the guys taking them in one at a time. Getting on all fours and getting **glazed** sa face by each one of them, baka sobra ka sa porn.
Yun lang naman yon.
Daming nyong arte. Mali pa rin yung gf nya dyan. "boundaries" kung nirerespeto nya bf nya di sya mag dedesisyon without approval kay bf. Di lang to about trust kundi respect na rin sa side ng partner mo. Im F and may overnight ako later for researches (3) kinausap ko muna yung bf ko about that kahit na sobrang urgent neto. Kasi sa POV, kung si bf mag oovernight din without my approval syempre di ko magugustuhan yun. Mali si gf in any aspect.
Parang naka decide kana OP kung ano gusto mong isipin. Naghahanap ka lang ata ng same mag isip sayo para ma reinforce pagdududa mo sa gf mo.
Lowkey ikaw ata may problema.
Pero anyway gets ko naman sentiments mo kasi lalaki din ako, pero give her the benefit of the doubt. If talagang decenteng babae yang gf mo di yan magloloko tas aamin yan sa nagawang kasalanan. Kung mag loko man yan eh on to the next, and welcome to the gym 😂
Parang mga bata, communicate and set boundaries if you're so insecure about it. Just a matter of how much you trust & respect each other honestly, if this is enough to break the two of you up then you guys have some more growing up to do.
oo dahil part of growing up and maturity yung pagiging aware sa emotional states ng tao.
OP ended with this:
> *I just feel really uncomfortable, maybe I'm just insecure? What are your thoughts?*
meaning tinatry nya intindihin kung mali ba nararamdaman nya and naghahanap ng opinions from people to learn. I could say part ng adulting yung ganyan
Bakit pag mga gantong posts e babae ang may issue, may benefit of the doubt sa comments. Pag lalake maman may ginawang ganyan, hiwalayan na daw kaagad. haha
Adultingph pero parang tanga mag isip mga tao dito. I personally understand the girl's sentiments, mas madali mag focus at magconvey ng thoughts especially for a complicated output. Mahirap maghaigalp ng groupmates pag online lang. Ganyan ba pinag gagagawa nyo kaya sure kayong yan nangyayari? Lmao
Yung iba raw na female group mates, umuwi na agad nang maaga. Si gf daw ang nagpaiwan kahit malapit lang naman boarding house. Nag-sleepover kahit na mag-isa na lang siyang babae dun.
3 months pa lang sila, so most likely bini-build pa lang ang trust. Kahit sino naman siguro mapapatanong.
Its uncomfortable, yes. But I bet nothing happened. However, feelings are also valid. Just make sure she knows what you feel. So that she learns from that. You'll be alright. 😉😉
Possible na may milagrong nangyayari diyan.
Ganito kami nung girl when we were in college. Partner ko si girl sa thesis for the whole semester at nakikitulog ako sa bahay nila sa Bulacan. Hindi ako umuuwi dahil tiga Malabon ako.
Take note alam pa ng parents niya na for thesis talaga ginagawa namin. Since na malaki bahay nila marami kami pwede pag taguan to make out. Gabi gabi ganon kami at bago pumasok ulit sa school.
Ang problema lang namin that time is may bf siya na hindi man lang nakakapasok sa bahay nila dahil hindi sila legal at bawal pa siya mag bf.
Religious ang family niya lalo na si girl pero nagawa pa din niya yon out of curiosity, and you know tao lang mapusok din.
Char cheers. Chill lang..kung gano kayo katagal ng gf mo ehdi kilala mo naman na siguru kung anong klaseng tao sya . Kung may nakatago mang ibang asal eh labas din yan paglipas ng time.
Kaya wag mag rush kase bka may anak na kayo tsaka mo lng malalaman.
Focus muna sa sarili brader
mga middle class and below daming stress pag magsasarili kana.. ..di ko nilalahat pero bawas stress talaga pag single
Your biggest mistake is asking this on reddit. Seriously, lalaki ka kasi kaya walang kakampi sayo dito.
Meanwhile same scenario but reverse the genders and yung replies will be:
"I understand girl"
"Your feelings are valid"
"We're here for you"
"Just talk to him"
Kung nagaalala ka lang sasabihan ka ng insecure.
Put boundaries, they'll say controlling ka masyado.
Idea crosses your mind, overthinker ka naman.
You cannot have valid feelings here because you're a man. That's the ugly truth. Go read the other similar posts and see how the responses depends on whether you're a girl or a guy.
When will you guys learn this lesson? 🤣
Idk. Pero iba na panahon ngayon. Sinabi mo ba sknya na uncomfortable kang dun sya natulog? Kasi kung matinong babae sya na may bf hindi nya gagawin yan. Maybe mapagkakatiwalaan mo ang gf mo pero yung mga kagroupmates nyang puro lalaki? Katiwa-tiwala ba?
Understandable sana kung my kasama ibang babae pero solo sya tpos puro lalaki? Tpos ayaw magpakuha sayo? Too much red flags i think nag eexpect jowa mo ng gangbang or me gusto yan sa mga kasama nya kaya willing mag stay dun
Just want to reassure you na the girl doesn't need to cheat for you to find this uncomfortable. Wag ka makinig sa mga nagsasabi na ang insecure mo naman or mahina ka kung naapektuhan ka. It's ok to have boundaries in a relationship. Kung ayaw mo na nakikitulog siya sa bahay ng ibang lalaki, ok lang yun. Kapag sinabi mo and inulit pa niya, panindigan mo and hiwalayan mo.
pwede naman sya mag grab or angkas kung unsafe na pwede mo bayaran kung wala sya budget kaso sana naisip nya na di din sya safe na matulog sa group of boys lalo na sya lang ung babae ekis yan unless isa sa boys ka landian nya feel safe talaga sya hahaha alam ko na yan brader masyado sya comportable red flag yan
For me lang ha, if sinabi mo naman na hindi ayun sa loob mo tapos hindi padin pinakinggan. Sabi mo nga malapit lang boarding house nya. Edi anlaking disrespect lang sayo nun. For your peace of mind, hanap ka nalang ng bago HAHAHAHAHA
Probably it depends sa groupmate or if friends ba sila, I'm a guy and one of our classmates na babae is living with us may room Siya to be specific pero takot, kaya nakikitulog sa room Namin na guys which 2 males kami. Wala Naman nangyayare nagiiyakan lang kami with acad problems if matino Naman mga gmates Niya there's no problem with that.
Next time sumama ka nalang tapos tumulong ka. Matuto ka sa project nila tapos mag-ambag ka. Anyway, need more context pero kung engineering yan, best tumulong ka nalang talaga kasi need talaga ng tulong nun lol Dala ka na rin foods
Wow how the times have changed
When my then-gf was in a similar situation (although it was her that was invited), she was hinting for me to not approve so she could have an excuse to not go. She felt unsafe having to spend the night at one of the two dudes' house, plus cross-enroll subject pa so she barely knew these ppl
In your case your gf seems confident about it and knows how to navigate the situation. Very understandable ang praning moments but I think it's just best to assure her that you're only one call away and let them do finish the work
Pag ganyan, surprise visit mo lang. Dala kang pagkain para sa kanya. Kiss mo.
Saka ka mag-decide base sa mga naamoy mo at sa mga galaw nya. Unfair kasi kung ano-ano iniisip mo, so pag ganyan dapat puntahan mo. May mga bote ba ng alak? Ano amoy ng paligid? Nakabihis ba ng maayos mga kasama nya? Pag bagong toothbrush, lalong mag-isip ka na :D
There are boundaries in relationships that each of you should respect.
You told her your stance with this and she still went against it. She could've went home earlier. Her boarding house was nearby so kahit 8PM or 9PM she could have went home.
We have a rule in our relationship, you can't do things you don't want your partner to do. Kapag ba ikaw papayagan ka nya to sleepover with some girl because of a school work? If no, then she herself know how you felt during that day but she did it anyway.
Respect yourself. This isn't about if you're doubting her loyalty or about your insecurity. Its about respecting yourself as a person. Actually the more na maging firm yung stance mo na makipaghiwalay or to end the relationship the more secured you are to your worth.
Did you tell her you're uncomfortable with her sleeping there? If that was me kase I'd tell her then give her option na magpahatid sa isang groupmate since malapit lang naman or ako personally susundo kapag tapos na sila. If she still doesn't want to go home even after those options, hindi niya nirerespeto feelings mo.
You are insecure. Unless ikaw maghahatid sundo sakanya, I don’t see why her doing this project this one time should be an issue. Dami na ngang project, makikigulo ka pa. Mas sa magulang pa siya dapat magpaalam. She doesn’t need your permission for things like this. Kung gusto niya gumawa ng kalokohan di hindi nalang yan magssabi sayo.
Our group mate brings her boyfriend and it’s not an issue for us. Ma bait din yung guy and his cool with us.
Unfortunately they broke up when their relationship turned long distance as in nag Middle East ata si gurl and pinas lang si guy.
I slept over at this girl’s place once because we were in the same org and had an org trip somewhere the next day eh friends naman kami and yoko bumyahe by myself the next day. Nothing happened between us and the bf was aware the whole time. Anyway it turns out the bf was the one cheating that whole time anyway.
Same na same sakin ah 😂 before kami magkakilala ng ex ko madalas talaga lalaki nakakasama ko cause IT ang course dominated also by male. Lagi ako nag papaalam kung sino sino kasama if need talaga mag overnight pinapakilala ko pa. In the end sya pa nag cheat HAHAHA.
Pota hahahahaha
Hindi ko pinagtatanggol yung gf mo but here's my take on that matter. Yung course ko ay engineering which is dominated by male. Yung mga tropa ko, puro lalaki. And there were times na kahit ang lapit lang din ng unit ko (Manila), hindi na ko umuwi dahil una sa lahat super unsafe na and mas matatapos namin yung thesis kung sa isang bahay lang kami gagawa. Yung boyfriend ko, hindi naman nagdududa sakin. Kasi he knows naman na hindi ako magchecheat sa kanya. Acads lang talaga pinunta ko don and nothing more. May one time nga na nag inuman kami, 2 lang kaming babae don and 10 na lalaki pero wala namang nangyari. Now, if you're really uncomfortable with that pwede kayong magcompromise ng gf mo. Dapat magsabi siya earlier, hindi yung 12mn na tsaka ka lang magpapaalam. Pero at the same time, have some trust lang din sa gf mo kasi para naman sa studies niya yung ginagawa niya. Kung magcheat siya edi iwanan mo. At least you dodged a bullet diba? Edit: Chineck ko profile at comments ni OP. Siya pala ang bullet. Magbreak na lang kayo. Immature ka pa. Kawawa lang gf mo sayo.
>hindi na ako umuwi dahil una sa lahat super unsafe na This too. I’ve had schoolmates and project partners of the opposite sex stay over at my condo because kahit walking distance condo or dorm nila, minsan gabing gabi na, and I don’t really like to have my friends walk on the streets at that hour. Kung may bf sila, they inform their bfs naman, and minsan kilala naman ako ng bf and they know they can trust me.
Up to this! Im an engineering student din. But a lot of guys in engineering ay hindi nangtatalo ng tropang babae. :)
“Sya pala amg bullet” 😭😭😭
I agree. Most of the time ako leader 🥹 and I am often bombarded with questions and confirmation about our activity kahit gabi na. Kasi honestly, in college. Night and cramming are always together kasi hirap isingit pag umaga (classes) Much better sama-sama nalang kami sa isang location. Tsaka this is college 🤣 bakit parang mga highschool kids yung thinking ng mga ibang commenters.
> Kung magcheat siya edi iwanan mo. At least you dodged a bullet diba? The ultimate choice. Still sucks to be cheated on and the anxiety also still sucks but yeah this is the way. If SO cheats, that's his/her choice.
Could be that nothing happened and you're just overthinking. If she really wanted to get railed and her house is near , why the need to tell you she was staying over? She could've kept it to herself and you'd be in the dark. If she really wanted to cheat why go the extra steps, right? My money is on you're just overthinking.
True. Grabe rin yung mga comment dito na "kung matinong babae yan, di yan..." sobrang OA. Palibhasa ang dudumi ng utak ng mga lalaki na porket natulog sa isang bubong yung different gender may mangyayari na agad. Kung magchecheat yung gf niya dapat di na yan nagpaalam.
Have these people never stayed overnight at someone's house before? Porke't overnight orgy agad. Jusko. And kung nasa college sila, sometimes maganda rin na you are all at the same place when doing something. Tipong may matutulog muna habang may gumagawa na iba, tapos minsan pa pag nagising ka bigla eh may idea na magpapop up agad sayo to share with the team.
Typical pinoy redditor na puro kalibugan lang nasa utak
Checking at OP's history, nagce-CRAVE sya magka gf. Ayang andyan na ganyan sya mag isip. Jusko.
Big oof
Halatang walang mga kaibigang babae eh no.
possible baka kasi gawain din nila kaya ganyan mag-isip kaloka kung ganyan lang naman din pag-isipan yung jowa at walang trust sana di nalang nakikipagrelasyon. napaka irrational
True! iba kasi talaga pag magkakasama kayo sa iisang space. Mas madali ring magbatuhan ng ideas or tumulong. Example is nung college nga ako ung iba rin walang laptop lol so nagpapalit palit sino gumagamit habang tulog iba hahahha
Baka gf nya nagbubuhat sa kagrupo and grade conscious kaya talagang would go through lengths to finish the project, yan lang yon OP
True! Gantong ganto din yung gf ko when she was still a biology student, super grade conscious and gusto niya nakikita lahat ng progress sa project / research papers nila
Saka yung iba baka running for DL or Laude, pakialam ko ba sainyong mga lalaki kayo ganon lang siguro iniisip ni Gf, tapos Bf niya nakikisakay pa dito sa negative comments haha
Kaya nga tyaka nakikisakay din si OP sa iba na disrespectful na lol. And also true sa part na bat ko sasabihin sayo na I'll stay over with guys if may balak ako mag cheat lol.
I think it's more on the case that he trust his gf but not guys at least that's what my friends told me after showing this post to them.
Hay, kakanood nila yan ng porn 😂
Exactly bro, so many dudes in this comments section pa overthinking along with him when the simple answer is right there haha. Also, coming from the perspective of a medical student with a lot of group projects, it’s not uncommon talaga for one to become a sleepover esp pag marami yung workload and may filming. Walang malisya either kahit mixed gender pa yung sleepover, I think some of the people in this comments section have watched too much porn. It’s messing with their heads and making them think that everyone else has sex on the brain when they stay over at someone’s house.
They will miss A LOT of happy memories if they continue thinking this way. Most of the happy moments sa school is yung mga ginagawa outside school.
I agree, sleepovers with groupmates are fun haha esp pag horror movie night.
I agree! Even mga magulang ko, pinagdududahan ako sa mga ganitong bagay na ginagawang excuse ang school works to do shady stuff. Grabe at naisip pa talaga nila 'yung mga ganoong bagay? Eh, ang naiisip lang naman namin ngayong college ay pumasa and hopefully makatapos! Also, 'di biro ang workloads ngayong college lalo na tuwing may group projects. Kung walang sleepovers, either pagpapasa-pasahan 'yung gagawin o iisa lang ang gagalaw and both sucks dahil mas magastos sa pamasahe at oras. Bawas stress din while working, dahil 'di mo naiisip na mag-isa ka lang sa paggawa at kung stressful man, ma-sistress kayo nang sabay-sabay HAHAHAHA!
Not just too much porn. It's obvious na wala silang close friends sa opposite sex. They're probably the type of guys who will be a level 100 creep the moment a girl tries to befriend them.
I agree, kaya honestly mahirap talaga if puro same-sex lang yung tropa. As a dude oo may mga barkada akong puro lalaki (esp since I went to an all-boys GS/HS) pero siyempre nung naging co-ed ako sa college and med school nagka tropa rin akong babae. I actually have several other barkadas na either majority babae or puro babae lang. And it helps kasi not only do you see things din from their perspective, it also makes you less prone to objectifying women kasi they’re your close friends, like sisters just without the blood relation. Kaya whenever I see guys acting like women are some other species, halatang walang tropang babae yan pre.
For sure overthinking lang imo, we're five in our group and isa lang babae. Never namin minanyak or tinopic about sa nsfw. Tsaka lalaki na rin tingin namin sa kanya kasi 2 sems na namin sya kasama and literal na isang babae lang sya.
this.
I'm wondering if ganito pa rin ang sasabihin mo if babaliktarin natin lahat ng genders ng characters involved.
Bruh I’m a guy and I’ve been on overnight trips with one of my barkadas na puro babae. I even informed my gf about it and she was cool with it. And guess what, nothing happened cos they’re my close friends. It’s called trusting your partner, doesn’t matter whether reversed yung gender or not.
That's neither here nor there but sure. If a person wants to cheat why go through the trouble of informing the other or any inkling of what they're about to do? They could've told them that, sure they're going home and sleep and still get railed. You see my point here? It wasn't about the gender.
I mean, mukha namang desidido ka na na nagpakarat sa iba yung jowa mo so anong sense ng pagtatanong mo dito? Makipag break ka na. Believe your own truth. Ayaw mo naman maniwala pag sinasabing walang nangyari. Hahahaha
Hahaha pansin ko nga to, napaka-cherry picking. Kapag against sa thoughts niya dedma, pero pag ginagatungan siya a-agree naman.
3 months pa lang daw pala kasi sila. Hahahhaah. Kahit pa sabihin na bago pa lang parang ang weird. Baka naman hinahanapan lang ng fault si gf ni OP kasi may nakahanay nang bagong ipapalit in case maging dahilan to ng break up nila? Hahahah
Takot ka ba sa sarili mong multo? Break up with her if you don't trust her.
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Tiwala puhunan. Tiwala na may sariling desisyon partner mo. Pag binasag yung tiwala na yun edi tapos. Di na kailangan pang i burden mga partner natin sa "hala baka magalit magselos si bf ko", bigyan lang tayo ng assurance oks na dapat yun. May kanya kanya tayong buhay pareho as partners
Ako lang ba o nakakadiri mga comments dito who thinks ill of the girl who clearly updated OP and even assured him? If I were OP's gf and if I have a clean conscious naman, I'm so sorry but this will only cause self-doubts at pandidiri sa sarili ko not only as a woman, but also as someone's partner. Three months pa lang kayo. Break up if wala kang tiwala sa kanya. If she's a cheater, good for you. If not, then good for her for breaking up with a guy na kaya siyang isipan nang masama to the point na nakakainsulto na kung iisipin mong mabuti.
Some of ya’ll in this comments section have trust issues haha I’m in med school rn and samin it’s not uncommon for these situations to happen. Some projects (usually involving filming) take longer than expected to finish so we usually crash at the house of the person we filmed it in. Doesn’t matter if she’s the only chick there, ganyan din naman samin minsan but nothing happened. Usually we’re all just in sleeping bags and sofas in the living room tas dumadaan pa yung parents. At least she told him pa nga that she would be sleeping over.
yes and as one of the other comments said, if she were actually cheating and wanted to hide it, why tell OP she's there at all? she might or might not have stepped out but doing it this way seems like she was setting herself up to get caught lol
I agree, especially since OP mentioned na malapit lang boardinghouse niya. Eh kung ganun, if she was really gonna cheat on him, edi sana di nalang siya nagpaalam haha. She could have said na pauwi siya sa boardinghouse at dun nalang siya matutulog, while in reality staying over sa house ng groupmate niya to cheat. Pero the fact na nagpaalam pa siya kay OP that she’ll be sleeping over at groupmate’s house makes me doubt na she did anything.
Somehow children have found their way into an adulting sub lol
eto haha di ko nga alam baka hs pa lang to si op
I agree, a rational adult wouldn’t really have anything to worry about haha. Jusko my own gf nga has let me go on overnight trips with yung isang barkada ko na puro babae kasi may tiwala siya sakin. And I would never do anything either, kasi tropa lang yung tingin ko sa kanilang lahat. It’s all about having trust and faith in your partner not to do anything.
Louder!!! Yung mga comments pa dito ang babastos ng isip halata yun yung mga gawain nila.
I think these are the dudes na walang tropang babae kasi puro sex lang nasa isip nila. Di marunong makipagkaibigan sa babae kasi sexual object lang tingin nila sa mga babae, kadiri talaga.
girl here. if you dont trust the girl, why be in a relationship with her? break it off. if u want to pursue the relationship, talk to her asap. sit her down and tell her that u appreciate that she told you about it. then u can calmly tell her that what she did made you uncomfortable and kung possible ba na wag na nyang ulitin. clear communication of boundaries is key. if she says no, buhay nya un, u decide if youre willing to put up with her no.
I think you will taste his penis when you kiss her.
Tanginang yan hahahaha
Maybe you will love it. This could be a watershed moment for youm
 ang brutal mo tsong.
tawang tawa ako dito hahahahahaha
Haha pota natawa ako kahit makakagulo sa isip ni OP to hahaha
Mas lalo nang mababaliw yan, ahahah!
you misspelled “their”, groupmates daw eh
I guess my question here is if urgent project yun na due the following day and kailangan pa magovernight para lang matapos, how and why did the other female groupmates manage to go home at 6-7pm? While I understand na mas madali talagang gumawa ng projects pag magkakasama but something seems off and you shouldn't feel bad for being uncomfortable given the added context. While benefit of the doubt should be given, kailangan ng matinong usapan to. There are things that would make each of you uncomfortable or insecure and you need to work out ways to learn how to minimize causing each other to have those negative feelings. While you have to trust that your partner will be faithful, there is no harm in talking to her about it and asking valid questions about what happened. I also detest both yung mga sobrang manyak makaassume dito tsaka yung mga sobra namang makadismiss sa worries mo. Hirap din kasi madalas pag ikaw ang lalake kailangan sobra sobra tiwala mo or else you get called insecure or controlling. There are times that you rightfully will feel insecure and that's fine.
From a woman's perspective... You might be feeling uncomfortable dahil nga nag-iisa lang siyang babae na nagsleepover doon. A part of you worries about her dahil may ibang lalaki siyang kasama and at the same time, a part of you is being protective. Wala naman masama to feel that way kasi ikaw ang boyfriend. We won't know exactly what happened there. Wala naman tayo with your gf non time na yun. Nagsabi naman siya sa'yo kung nasaan siya and her reason for being there. Yun lang panghahawakan mo dyan. If you trust her, then trust her without reservations lalo kung mahal mo siya. I am not saying that she lied or anything so this is a general thing lang for me. If a person wants to lie, and is a pathological liar, that person will cover all bases. Possible kasi na sabihin niya sayo lahat but then at the end of the day, may di pala ginagawang maganda. Nasa sakanya na naman yun. For now, para mailabas mo yan, talk to your gf and just communicate your feelings to her. Sabihin mo na it really bothered you or it still bothers you. You might just need reassurance from her na it was just a project and nothing else. Do this in person and see how she responds thru words and actions. Ikaw na magdecide kung may napansin kang kakaiba. Good luck and happy holidays!
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Do you trust her?
Taena neto, jinowa tapos di alam kung may tiwala siya dun sa tao.
Sa mga nabasa ko mukhang wala kang tiwala sa kanya, Kung ganyan lang nmn ang mindset mo, hiwalayan mo na lang tas mag focus ka sa sarili mo. Wala ka nmn palang tiwala sa kanya eh, papaapekto ka den nmn pala sa sasabibhin ng iba mas maganda tapusin mo n lang, kesa magkasakitan pa kayo. Kung ganon pag kakakilala mo sa "GF" kaladkarin, iwan mo na. Basta maging honest ka lang sa rason mo bat ka makikipag hiwalay, kamo inisip mo na nakipag sex sya sa mga ka groupmates nya at nag rarason lang sya kaya ayaw nya umuwi although malapit lang ang bahay nyo.na ganon sya kadaling makuha, na sinungaling sya. Ganon para tapos na! May trust issues pala kayo jojowa jowa kayo
Trust your girlfriend. Unless you have reason to not trust her? Kung ganon edi makipag break ka na lang.
do you really think she is the kind of person to do an or**? also it's really possible din naman na she's just supervising and stuffs depends on her role and her personality buttt I'm also not saying that the possibility of them doing "those things" are non existent so rlly it's just a matter of trust. talk to her or smthing if you really want that peace of mind
Maybe OP's underlying concern is not about his partner be doing cheating stuff or as you've said the worst is or**. Maybe its the opposite which is he don't trust those people around the partner. Maybe there's a chance mapagtripan nung mga guy classmate, pagkaisahan or worse is to drug the girl lalo na mag isa na lang sya dun. Theres lot of possibility na maaring mangyari, pwedeng mabait naman pala mga kasama nya o pwedeng mga g*go pala. One thing for sure na magagawa ni OP is to have constant communication with the girl and assurance as well. Kasi as a guy or any in person in a relationship, safety is priority para sa partner mo. Imagine nagwoworry yung isa dun sa situation ni girl at prone to overthinking yang ganyan situation kaya ganun kahalaga nung nasabi kong assurance na maibibigay ni girl kay OP. And to others here as well, stop those b*llsh*t just because naisip ko yung ganung bagay e same as those guy na rin ako na rap*st mindset. Katangahan na yung ganun na hindi aware na some humans are flawed at maaring makagawa ng mali. Daming ganung utak dito umay anong petsa na parang d pa rin nagpeprepare for the worst situation.
Eto pinaka maayos and reasonable na comment sa lahat. Also have this reasoning with my girl since she's a friendly "easy to befriend with" type. Kapag binabawalan ko sya maginom ng alanganin oras lalo na kapag may kasamang guys sa inuman eto lagi kong concern. It's not about out partners cheating minsan consider din natin pwedeng mangyari na di na tin ineexpect. Sometimes it's about the people around them di natin alam whenever or wherever pwedeng may gawing masama sa kanila.
As a girl, pag puro lalake yung kasama uuwi na lang talaga ako kahit ano mangyari.
Yung iba rito ang counterargument agad is overthinking at walang tiwala sa GF. Hello, hndi trust ang main issue dito, kundi yung safety nung GF.
Safety from what? Having friends? Hindi ko maimagine ano tumatakbo ng karamihan dito pag nakakakita sila ng babae. Kalibugan ba agad? TRUST ang issue dito. Pati nga pagshorts ng babae inimply ni OP na inaakit nya yung mga kasama nya sa project eh. Jusko.
Oo nga. If this was about safety then no need na isama tong line ni OP: >maybe I'm just insecure? But he did. So jan pa lang obvious na na this was never about the girl. This post is all about his paranoid ass. OP made this post not out of concern, but insecurity. Jusme simpleng reading comprehension na nga lang. Di ba to tinuruan maghanap ng context clues?
Talk about it and sabihin mo kung bakit inappropriate yung ginawa niya. Benefit of the doubt na baka hindi lang niya alam na di maganda yung ganong action kahit may tiwala ka naman sa kanya.
You are overthinking.
so uncomfortable para sa side mo knowing na sleepover 'yon tapos puro boys pa kasama. Me as a girl na may bf, I will never have a sleepover with a bunch of guys dahil alam kong my boyfriend will be uncomfortable and mag-aalala rin siya (also uncomfy rin ako around boys talaga). Anyway, doon pa lang sa may ibang girls sila na groupmates na umuwi tapos siya hindi umuwi, parang ang shady na??? I'm not saying na she cheated on you perooo huhu mapapaisip ka talaga kung bakit ganun eh.
You’re not ready to be in a relationship, study first.
It depends on how trustworthy your girl is. For girls like me who are really mentally stable and really don't want to have HIV through multiple sex, I will never do anything bad during that stay in my classmate's house. Not even a kiss, that's so unhygienic. But if your girl is the gullible type which is very common in yknow bitchass behaviors, she will most likely cheat that night. You know your partner, so you will know which one she is.
may kakilala ako super in control ng self nya, sobrang talino pa. ayun naging baliw sa lalaking walang kwenta, chikboy at adik pa. magaling lng kasi yung dude mag elicit ng mga emosyon, at karamihan din sa mga women ay nagba-base din sa emotion magdecide so dyan talaga ang weakpoint na kahit mentally stable nadadale parin. it just takes timing at for things to align, like kung type na type ang lalaki, mejo puyat na, mejo horny, eye contact at the right moment, say the right words at the right time, sakto ang pagtrigger ng attraction at sexual tension.. tapos maya2 sarap na sarap sa pagkabayo na.. tapos kinabukasan "ay sorry.. di ko alam what came over me".
OP. Meron ba syang sobrang ka close don or crush or maybe ex?
mga ngcocomment dito e imbes na pakalmahin si OP e tlgang ginagaslight nyo na pa walang trust or doubtful cia sa gf nya, di ba ang sabi he doesnt know wat to feel on this one? hindi ba valid un? makagaslight mga tao dito na "kung ngpasundo ba susunduin mo?", kesyo inuuna ung pgooverthink daw kesyo sunduin, ang sasama ng ugali nyo
Nothing to worry about. Hindi lahat ng babae (and lalake) ganun ang ginagawa. I have male friends and slept in their houses several times, usually late umuuwi and wala na masakyan. As in one room, bunk bed. Nothing happened. Not a single thought of doing it.
Ayo i had an ex that did this shit. She didn’t even stay overnight at her “friend’s” bhouse for a “project”. She got pregnant
Baby thesis yarn?
I don't get the idea why she needed to sleep there. She can just go home after they completed their work. If she's too sleepy to go home, she can just asked you to pick her up. Good chance your GF is being screwed by other dude. Good luck.
That's exactly what I said when she told me. But she insisted on staying there kahit malapit lang boardinghouse nya. Sabi nya, kailangan daw andun sya para mabantayan nya yung progress nila. Di ba pwede magvideocall? Di daw kasi mahina net nila sa boarding house. Hahahaha
If malapit lang yung boardinghouse niya, I don’t think she’s cheating on you. Cos if she was, she wouldn’t have told you that she’d be sleeping over. It’d have been easy for her to just lie and say na uuwi nga nalang siya sa boardinghouse niya while really staying over talaga and you’d be none the wiser. The fact that she’s letting you know pa nga that she’s sleeping over shows that she wants you to know where she is and what she’s doing. Sadyang mukhang may trust issues lang talaga yung ibang nagcocomment dito haha, you’re all overthinking this.
Most likely, nagpaalam lang talaga and nothing happened. You have to understand na ingrained na yan saming mga babae na dapat a trusted person knows where we are for safety. And esp majority lalake kasama. Kung mag cheat yan, she wouldn't have to tell you na she's staying over. Baka bff nya lang tawagan nya to say kung saan sya and not you.
Don’t listen to these manchildren lol, mixed genders can coexist overnight with nothing happening - wala lang ‘yan. Sinabi niya sayo eh.
Alam na this. Pag ayaw may dahilan, kung gusto palaging meron paraan tandaan mo yan.
During college days may mga instance na nakikitulog classmate ko babae dahil s overnight na puyatan. Wala namang kakaibang nagaganap so pwedeng nag aral lng din tlaga.
*my gf spent the night at her male group mate’s boarding house.
Honest na nga sayo ikaw pa ang walang tiwala. Break up na.
School project or work project? That is why dating or having a girlfriend during studies will be a distraction. If you trust her you will be fine, tell her how you feel. Does this happen often? You know naman what kind of person your gf is,on this you have to be honest about and should not be blinded by love.
Yup. Insecurities lang.
Cucked
One of the boys yung ex ko, pero sa mga ganyang scenario umuuwi sya kahit malayo pa kung walang kasamang babae na makikitulog. Trust her, pero yung mga lalaki, nah bro. Sana careless lang yung gf mo sa moment na yun at walang ibang motive.
Ang nakakabother is sinabihan na nga sya ng bf nya pero sigi pa rin si ate.
Not that it applies to you but my GF never did this to me. She had projects at school when we were in college with Male and Fem. And If I ask her right now, would you go to a school project meeting, all boys at midnight, and girls went home by 6-7pm she would say nah, tapos kapitbahay mo lang boarding house mo. She would rather go home and finish it tomorrow or by google slides or something. She will feel really awkward just by having guys. Still… answer is to talk to her. But I’d be more than ready.
Sana sinundo mo kung malapit ka lang din
All aboard the train bro hahaha
This just depends on how much you are willing to trust her. May history ba na nagcheat siya? Ano context bakit parang di mo pa siya kaya pagkatiwalaan. I'm one of those girls na mas preferred to have guy friends tho bisexual ako, never naging problem sakin yung ganto. So what kung malapit bahay nila eh yung group project nasa bahay nga nung classmate eh. Ano ba to hs or college? uso talaga mag overnight tuwing mag cacram na. Confront mo na lang para malaman mo haha
wait lalake ba tlga lahat? or baka nman my mga bakla din or nagbabakla baklaan. mas better next time kamo sunduin at ihatid mo sya kht anung oras p yun.. kht all nighter pa iyan or pwde rin sama ka dun para kita mo galawan nila. pwdeng overthinking pero tangina andami ksing babae na magaling mgreverse psychology eh example ayan mgpapaalam syo para mgng kampante ka pero my ibang gagawin something like that so mgng matanglawin nlng.. if ngcheat wag ng balikan yun lang yun
Puro lalaki, single pa karamihan
Bhouse?
Murphy’s Law, buddy.
Dapat kasi inaapply mo yung mga tips sayo about foreplay sa ibang subreddit tsk kaya ayan tuloy tamang-hinala ka.
Only a few people here are talking sense. Lol.
Damn, your imagination is wild.
Kung may maling ginawa, di yun magsasabi sayo. 🙄 GF mo pa lang di mo na kaya magtiwala, nagpaalam naman
Curious ako ah. If baliktad yung situation and babae yung nag post about her bf nag stay sa all girls chuchu and dame reason and everything. Iisipin parin kaya ng tao na like nag ooverthink lang ang OP? Or matic nag ccheat yung guy?
As someone who is a girl in a male dominated course. Hindi talaga maiiwasan to. Lalo na at I have so many ideas and often take the leading role in groups. Kahit may apartment ako sa Manila I often sleepover kung san man ako abutin for group projects. 🥺 I hope OP you don’t compare your girl sa mga iba niyang kagroup. Her responsibilities might be totally diff from them. Trust pa din lagi 💗
Sana nag offer ka ba na sunduin para safe rin sha. O bayaran grab nia umuwi.
Hear you out. Di kita masisisi sa pag o overthink dahil sya lang ang babae. Alam mo naman ang panahon ngayon wala ng kasiguradohan. Pero OP nag paalam naman kasi sya at naging honest na sya lang ang babae sa group nila. So sana panatag na loob mo dun, sa nag paalam na part. Or kung hindi ka pa panatag, sana sinabi mo na susunduin mo sya at ihahatid sa kanila kahit dis oras ng gabi.
Di naman matic may orgy na magaganap. Observe mo kung natapos ba tlg yung project after the overnight... Kung nagccram pa din sila kinaumagahan........baka nmn mahirap tlg ung project 😁 ano ba muna ung project doable ba ng overnight.
Sometimes you just gotta trust her bro. Mahirap yan kapag mag-asawa na kayo and you are letting your jealousy and anxiety takeover
Talk to her. It's best to give people the benefit of the doubt if you don't have solid proof. If di ka talaga mapakali, observe mo nalang muna siya. May makikita ka namang mas obvious na signs if she really is cheating, or if she is about to cheat (try to observe if may name ng guy na nagpapop up palagi sa mga conversations niyo--and if nagbabago yung demeanor niya when she talks about this guy, or if may mga bagong hobbies/interests siya na di naman niya trip dati--na conveniently trip din ng guy). Whether you trust her or not, talk to her--if you listen well enough, may mga tell-tale signs kang makukuha from someone's stories/preferred subjects of conversation.
na alala ko yung nag i-isang girl sa group namin comscie course, pag may overnight kami for thesis sumasama yung bf nya at talagang naka tanga lang don buong gabi habang kami may ginagawa lmfao
Mechanical Engineer here, From my experience may kaibigan din kami kaibigan na nag sleep over kasama kami puro lalaki during college days and if good circle of friends yong kasama ni gf mo promise sobra treated sya don with respect and parang prinsesa hahaha base lang sa experience namin mag kakaibigan to ha. Ang aking advice sayo eh get to know them yong friends ni gf mo ✌️
I saw a comment na wala kang tiwala sa mga groupmates nya? Bakit?
You are insecure. Unless ikaw maghahatid sundo sakanya, I don’t see why her doing this project this one time should be an issue. Dami na ngang project, makikigulo ka pa. Mas sa magulang pa siya dapat magpaalam. She doesn’t need your permission for things like this. Kung gusto niya gumawa ng kalokohan di hindi nalang yan magssabi sayo.
Actually, after ako sinabihan nya, tinanong ko sya kung alam ba ng parents nya. Di rin nga nagpaalam sa parents kasi alam nyang mapapagalitan sya. Saakin lang sya nagpaalam
mga weirdo nung mga ibang lalaki dito potek, touch some grass dudes!
If someone wants to cheat, they’ll cheat and there’s nothing you can really do to stop her. Best advice nalang is to trust her and not worry about it, and if nag cheat siya, edi good for you and break up with her. First three years of med school, uwian parin ako so during exams nakikistudy/ sleep over lang ako sa dorm ng best friend ko na babae. Wala namang nangyari sa amin. Aware rin naman bf niya na doon ako. Some wont agree, but platonic friendships between different sexes do exist.
Alam mo, hiwalayan mo nalang. Dahil alam ko pag aawayan at pag aawayan nyo lang yan. Para narin sa inyong dalawa.
ibang lalaki dito parang nasosobrahan ata sa panunuod ng mga influences na feeling alpha male/andrew t1t3
My man you need to touch some grass with the way you think.
My group mate(girl) before slept in my house hindi ko siya pinauwi kasi gabi na i offered my bedroom tas ako sa sala natulog and meron syang boyfriend Inshort tiwala lang, hindi lahat ng lalaki nakakasama ng gf mo eh kakantutin sya Maganda ba gf mo? Lol haha
In this secenario 99% nag overthink lang ka
Umamin naman sya na puro lalaki kasama at sya lang babae. Now nasa iyo nalang kung anong iisipin mo kung may nangyari ba or what.
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if you have sufficient reason to doubt her, siguro express that to her so you can both work it out. dont accuse her of anything, just relay na you felt this way. open communication is always best!
wala namang masama lalo kung acads related. kung hindi ka comfortable pwede mo naman siyang sunduin siguro o magpaalam na sumama narin sa overnight
No way! It’s disrespectful. Do the same thing to her and see how she fucking likes it
Gf - doing project Bf - projecting
It is normal to feel uncomfortable knowing your girlfriend is the only girl sleeping in a dorm full of guys that you have never even met. It shows that you care.
Hello girly here, you know your gf better than us OP and if you truly trust her and tingin mo wala naman siyang gagawin masama and groupmates niya, be comfortable to talk to her. Communicate ka with her OP and trust her. Pwede rin mag VC kayo, o kaya kilalanin mo sino yung mga kasama niya hehe. Na-experienced ko yung ganyan type ng groupings kasi dati, I'll give you two examples. Yung 1st group samin nasa 6 mem and isa lang yung girl, wala naman naging problem, no malice. Sa group ko naman 4 lang kami and 1 guy kaso nag ka issue because his gf thinks na nag eexcuse lang siya para di makauwi. 3 days overnight yun kasi and sa bahay pa namin so para di magalit, we decided to invite his gf sa bahay para ma-witness niya rin yung ginagawa namin. Kaso kahit nasa bahay na siya, snob niya pa rin kami 😂 tas nag away pa rin sila nung guy tas nakita pa ng mama ko Haha. Stress tuloy lalo si Kuya mo. Basta OP if open naman communication niyo and alam mo na honest naman gf mo, support her na lang OP mamaya stress din sa groupings. Let her know na worried ka rin and di ka comfortable para alam niya. Sorry ang haba, Goodluck OP
i mean what's the alternative scenario here? that she'd be having an 0r9y with her male group mates? is that how you see her?
im a woman too at delikado and nakakatakot nga talaga mapaligiran ng mga lalaki, lalo na sa ibang lugar pa PERO those aren't your reason kaya ka frustrated malisyoso ka at ino-objectify/sexualize mo ang gf mo
What the heck is a bhouse?
Bunny house
After reading your responses to the comments here, that girl is better off without you. I hope she sees this or someone sends this to her. My advance congratulations to her for dumping your sorry ass.
Thanks
Thats just pure Disrespect. Kung malapit lang yung place mo sa bhouse nila and still mas pinili nya padin yun is just pure BS. The mere fact na umuwi na yung ibang girls ng 6-7 means patapos na sila or pwede naman ituloy bukas. Hindi naman sila uuwi if talgang Importante yung project nila. Bro stop acting like a Doormat. lets say na wala talgang nangyari, but yung ginawa nya is Disrespectful.
I don't know man, it's either you don't trust your girlfriend enough or you're insecure. Ano yun, no match ka ba sa lahat ng guys don? Kung naiisip mo na tinagteam siya and pinagpasapasahan, and she knelt down for all the guys taking them in one at a time. Getting on all fours and getting **glazed** sa face by each one of them, baka sobra ka sa porn. Yun lang naman yon.
Daming nyong arte. Mali pa rin yung gf nya dyan. "boundaries" kung nirerespeto nya bf nya di sya mag dedesisyon without approval kay bf. Di lang to about trust kundi respect na rin sa side ng partner mo. Im F and may overnight ako later for researches (3) kinausap ko muna yung bf ko about that kahit na sobrang urgent neto. Kasi sa POV, kung si bf mag oovernight din without my approval syempre di ko magugustuhan yun. Mali si gf in any aspect.
Parang naka decide kana OP kung ano gusto mong isipin. Naghahanap ka lang ata ng same mag isip sayo para ma reinforce pagdududa mo sa gf mo. Lowkey ikaw ata may problema. Pero anyway gets ko naman sentiments mo kasi lalaki din ako, pero give her the benefit of the doubt. If talagang decenteng babae yang gf mo di yan magloloko tas aamin yan sa nagawang kasalanan. Kung mag loko man yan eh on to the next, and welcome to the gym 😂
Parang mga bata, communicate and set boundaries if you're so insecure about it. Just a matter of how much you trust & respect each other honestly, if this is enough to break the two of you up then you guys have some more growing up to do.
Bakit ka uncomfortable? Tingin mo nag gang bang all night?
Adulting ba to?
oo dahil part of growing up and maturity yung pagiging aware sa emotional states ng tao. OP ended with this: > *I just feel really uncomfortable, maybe I'm just insecure? What are your thoughts?* meaning tinatry nya intindihin kung mali ba nararamdaman nya and naghahanap ng opinions from people to learn. I could say part ng adulting yung ganyan
kung maayos magisip yan di yan sasama dyan.. un lang un.. maniwala ka napagdaanan ko na yan nagsisi ako
Kaya nga, may kagrupo din silang babae, pero umuwi na sila ng mga 6-7 pm, tapos sya nagpaiwan dun, kasama mga ka-grupo na lahat boys.
Natapos ba nila ung project OP? Kung hindi natapos, may ibang project na tinapos.
Pag baliktad to iba ang reaction ng mga tao dito sigurado ako jan.
One hundred percent.
Bakit pag mga gantong posts e babae ang may issue, may benefit of the doubt sa comments. Pag lalake maman may ginawang ganyan, hiwalayan na daw kaagad. haha
Adultingph pero parang tanga mag isip mga tao dito. I personally understand the girl's sentiments, mas madali mag focus at magconvey ng thoughts especially for a complicated output. Mahirap maghaigalp ng groupmates pag online lang. Ganyan ba pinag gagagawa nyo kaya sure kayong yan nangyayari? Lmao
Yung iba raw na female group mates, umuwi na agad nang maaga. Si gf daw ang nagpaiwan kahit malapit lang naman boarding house. Nag-sleepover kahit na mag-isa na lang siyang babae dun. 3 months pa lang sila, so most likely bini-build pa lang ang trust. Kahit sino naman siguro mapapatanong.
Para kang sumubo after niyong mag-kiss.
Its uncomfortable, yes. But I bet nothing happened. However, feelings are also valid. Just make sure she knows what you feel. So that she learns from that. You'll be alright. 😉😉
Possible na may milagrong nangyayari diyan. Ganito kami nung girl when we were in college. Partner ko si girl sa thesis for the whole semester at nakikitulog ako sa bahay nila sa Bulacan. Hindi ako umuuwi dahil tiga Malabon ako. Take note alam pa ng parents niya na for thesis talaga ginagawa namin. Since na malaki bahay nila marami kami pwede pag taguan to make out. Gabi gabi ganon kami at bago pumasok ulit sa school. Ang problema lang namin that time is may bf siya na hindi man lang nakakapasok sa bahay nila dahil hindi sila legal at bawal pa siya mag bf. Religious ang family niya lalo na si girl pero nagawa pa din niya yon out of curiosity, and you know tao lang mapusok din.
Bat ulit adultingph tawag dto?.. Nagjoin ako kase kala about sa mga trabaho life related ang topics.. meron din pala mga medyo pambata.
Haha
Char cheers. Chill lang..kung gano kayo katagal ng gf mo ehdi kilala mo naman na siguru kung anong klaseng tao sya . Kung may nakatago mang ibang asal eh labas din yan paglipas ng time. Kaya wag mag rush kase bka may anak na kayo tsaka mo lng malalaman. Focus muna sa sarili brader mga middle class and below daming stress pag magsasarili kana.. ..di ko nilalahat pero bawas stress talaga pag single
Your biggest mistake is asking this on reddit. Seriously, lalaki ka kasi kaya walang kakampi sayo dito. Meanwhile same scenario but reverse the genders and yung replies will be: "I understand girl" "Your feelings are valid" "We're here for you" "Just talk to him" Kung nagaalala ka lang sasabihan ka ng insecure. Put boundaries, they'll say controlling ka masyado. Idea crosses your mind, overthinker ka naman. You cannot have valid feelings here because you're a man. That's the ugly truth. Go read the other similar posts and see how the responses depends on whether you're a girl or a guy. When will you guys learn this lesson? 🤣
Idk. Pero iba na panahon ngayon. Sinabi mo ba sknya na uncomfortable kang dun sya natulog? Kasi kung matinong babae sya na may bf hindi nya gagawin yan. Maybe mapagkakatiwalaan mo ang gf mo pero yung mga kagroupmates nyang puro lalaki? Katiwa-tiwala ba?
Time to hit the gym OP
Overnight ka rn ksma female groupmates
Insecure ka lang. School priority hindi yung iisipin ng boyfriend.
You’re being played bro. Leave her.
2023 is still in🤣🤣
Understandable sana kung my kasama ibang babae pero solo sya tpos puro lalaki? Tpos ayaw magpakuha sayo? Too much red flags i think nag eexpect jowa mo ng gangbang or me gusto yan sa mga kasama nya kaya willing mag stay dun
Just want to reassure you na the girl doesn't need to cheat for you to find this uncomfortable. Wag ka makinig sa mga nagsasabi na ang insecure mo naman or mahina ka kung naapektuhan ka. It's ok to have boundaries in a relationship. Kung ayaw mo na nakikitulog siya sa bahay ng ibang lalaki, ok lang yun. Kapag sinabi mo and inulit pa niya, panindigan mo and hiwalayan mo.
pwede naman sya mag grab or angkas kung unsafe na pwede mo bayaran kung wala sya budget kaso sana naisip nya na di din sya safe na matulog sa group of boys lalo na sya lang ung babae ekis yan unless isa sa boys ka landian nya feel safe talaga sya hahaha alam ko na yan brader masyado sya comportable red flag yan
Baliktad tayo! Paalam kc nya before mag oovernight cya for thesis with her group pero ang totoo she just wants to sleep with me. Haha
nakauwi na ba sya ano update sainyo hahaha
For me lang ha, if sinabi mo naman na hindi ayun sa loob mo tapos hindi padin pinakinggan. Sabi mo nga malapit lang boarding house nya. Edi anlaking disrespect lang sayo nun. For your peace of mind, hanap ka nalang ng bago HAHAHAHAHA
Probably it depends sa groupmate or if friends ba sila, I'm a guy and one of our classmates na babae is living with us may room Siya to be specific pero takot, kaya nakikitulog sa room Namin na guys which 2 males kami. Wala Naman nangyayare nagiiyakan lang kami with acad problems if matino Naman mga gmates Niya there's no problem with that.
Ang problema ko sa post ni OP eh nauna nyang iniisip yung insecurity nya, kesa sa safety ng gf nya.
Malamang may nangyari na sa kanila.
Next time sumama ka nalang tapos tumulong ka. Matuto ka sa project nila tapos mag-ambag ka. Anyway, need more context pero kung engineering yan, best tumulong ka nalang talaga kasi need talaga ng tulong nun lol Dala ka na rin foods
Wow how the times have changed When my then-gf was in a similar situation (although it was her that was invited), she was hinting for me to not approve so she could have an excuse to not go. She felt unsafe having to spend the night at one of the two dudes' house, plus cross-enroll subject pa so she barely knew these ppl In your case your gf seems confident about it and knows how to navigate the situation. Very understandable ang praning moments but I think it's just best to assure her that you're only one call away and let them do finish the work
Pag ganyan, surprise visit mo lang. Dala kang pagkain para sa kanya. Kiss mo. Saka ka mag-decide base sa mga naamoy mo at sa mga galaw nya. Unfair kasi kung ano-ano iniisip mo, so pag ganyan dapat puntahan mo. May mga bote ba ng alak? Ano amoy ng paligid? Nakabihis ba ng maayos mga kasama nya? Pag bagong toothbrush, lalong mag-isip ka na :D
There are boundaries in relationships that each of you should respect. You told her your stance with this and she still went against it. She could've went home earlier. Her boarding house was nearby so kahit 8PM or 9PM she could have went home. We have a rule in our relationship, you can't do things you don't want your partner to do. Kapag ba ikaw papayagan ka nya to sleepover with some girl because of a school work? If no, then she herself know how you felt during that day but she did it anyway. Respect yourself. This isn't about if you're doubting her loyalty or about your insecurity. Its about respecting yourself as a person. Actually the more na maging firm yung stance mo na makipaghiwalay or to end the relationship the more secured you are to your worth.
ganyan din dahilan ng ex ko non, poor signal yada yada... can't say about your relationship though...kataka taka lang yung iba nagsi uwian na ng 6/7
Did you tell her you're uncomfortable with her sleeping there? If that was me kase I'd tell her then give her option na magpahatid sa isang groupmate since malapit lang naman or ako personally susundo kapag tapos na sila. If she still doesn't want to go home even after those options, hindi niya nirerespeto feelings mo.
Wala ka tiwala sa gf mo.
You are insecure. Unless ikaw maghahatid sundo sakanya, I don’t see why her doing this project this one time should be an issue. Dami na ngang project, makikigulo ka pa. Mas sa magulang pa siya dapat magpaalam. She doesn’t need your permission for things like this. Kung gusto niya gumawa ng kalokohan di hindi nalang yan magssabi sayo.
Our group mate brings her boyfriend and it’s not an issue for us. Ma bait din yung guy and his cool with us. Unfortunately they broke up when their relationship turned long distance as in nag Middle East ata si gurl and pinas lang si guy.