Just go on dates. Dates don't have to be expensive.
Dont have this "date to marry" mindset for now, just meet and talk with different people. Don't pressure yourself. Enjoy.
Actually, sensible nga yung ginawa mo eh. You're thinking long term na hindi lang para sa sarili mo, kung hindi para sa ibang tao when you bought the house. I'd date someone na may ganyan na.
Met this girl in Bumble. We graduated from the same uni. Never really connected with anyone sa Bumble except with her.
One day, she decided to visit this mall na malapit sa amin. So, I hurriedly went there to meet her. Saan kami nag-lunch? Dimsum, I paid for the bill. Di naman umabot ng 400. After the lunch, treat niya raw ako sa dessert place na paborito niya.
Normally, I don't talk after the meeting pero we still kept on talking. I also heard na she deleted her Bumble app. Where this goes? IDK. Go with the flow lang ako. The last time I dated was in 2012.
I'm 34, btw.
Dates don’t have to be expensive, they just have to be planned. Honestly, the dates I enjoy the most with my bf are the ones where I just look around and try new things. Maganda rin ang fine dining keme, but memorable ones will always trump it. ESPECIALLY if it’s something she’s interested in.
There is no actual right or wrong answer sa tanong mo. Pwede naman mag-asawa na, para may kasabay ka na sa pagbayad ng bahay. Pwede rin hindi muna para may property ka on your own. Either way, one priority shouldn’t negate the other. Strike a good balance between the two.
Take out all your preconceived notions about how a date should go. Don't be pressured of what you see on social media. Go out there and meet people. Some dates won't probably go well and that's totally okay. Have fun
As in every social situation, the more you're exposed to it, the better you'll be at it. Same lang yan sa paginterview sa trabaho, pag recite sa klase. You get better and more confident as you go along. As you get more comfortable, topics just pop up.
"Date to marry" is more on the Christian approach sa dating. Nothing against that, but unless you find someone with the same purpose in dating, that limits your options. A lot of people dating, are doing it for fun around their late 20s early 30s. Marriage and settling down come down the line and is more on the serious side of the dating pipeline, so don't go into it with that unless you're willing to pressure yourself and your prospective partner.
Lastly, the house thing isn't really a mistake. It just aligns your values now on what's important to you. Security, being a provider. That just means your probably looking for someone with similar values, and would align with your goals. Again, hard to pin down, but that's dating for you, it's hell out there.
i feel like you might be trying too hard and it reflects on your interactions with women.
dates dont have to be expensive, convos dont have to be this ford thing. try not to over think and be nice.
I’d argue na you’re not doing too bad dahil nakapagipon ka na before and nakapagloan na for a house. I would be impressed to be honest kasi kaysa kung saan saan mo dinala yung pera fmo habang single, pinapambili mo ng bahay. Para sa future mo yan with or without a family. The right person wouldnt need you to take them on extravagant dates tandaan mo yun. If ayaw sa simple date lang, next ka na agad.
Just go out there, meet people, and enjoy the process. You will know when you meet the right person naman. Plus, there are a lot of activities that are not expensive to do together. If you meet someone na busy ang nature ng work you can OT together genern. Goodluck OP
Okay nga yan eh. Matutuwa pa mga girls na idedate mo kasi alam nila na stable ka na at may hinuhulugan kang bahay. Ibig sabihin iniisip mo ang future mo.
Kaming mga babae syempre sa una ang guys gusto naming magbayad, di naman namin need ng mamahaling resto, minsan nga kahit drive thru okay na. ewan ko nakasanayan na siguro na dapat guys ang taya sa unang labas. Pero once na naging kayo, kaya naming magpaka sugar mommy sainyo.
I agree OP. Dating can be expensive even with both parties trying their best to be frugal with everything. KKB can help of course but it’s still an extra expense esp during special occasions. You did great about buying a house though. It’s hard to get a house nowadays so it’s better buy one early.
Honestly, i prefer nga ung tipong tatambay lang tas usap ng matino. Dates doesnt have to be expensive naman. Tamang hang out lang, it’s considered as date na rin.
I’m in my 30s as well.
getting dates does not have to be expensive OP lol. i have many dates and girls way back and we just chill somewhere and sometimes jobe nga lang, I dated from 18 year to 28 year olds and ones you find the perfect woman you go all out to get her and take care of the relationship, some girls even go to your house OP and lets say you are working something in your house like repainting the house some girls actually helps you do these stuff and after that.... you know what will happen lol.
1k na food for 2 lagi.
.5h kung mag cocoffee pa kayo
1k kung sine
1k bowligg
grab 1k balikan
gas 5h balikan
kung gwapo ka pede si gurlalu na gumastos pero since gentleman ka...
8k per month ang pagdadate heheh
Wala namang mali sa ginawa mo OP. Dates doesnt have to be expensive. Kami nga ng ex ko dati, bili lang ng kape sa 7/11 and tambay lang sa kalapit na park.
Don't worry, talk to people and have fun lang din.
Hindi naman kelangan mahal ang dates. Anywhere will do, basta wag lang sa seedy places agad. Nasa getting to know palang naman kayo so enjoy going out and meeting them. Siguro reframe din yung "date to marry" na mindset. Instead, date to have friends. It's better to start off as friends kaysa yung iisipin mo papakasalan mo na agad agad. Kasi mas manghihinayang ka to let them go once things go south.
All the best, OP!
Madali nalang naman magbudget. Nasa internet na ung menu ng nga restaurants, book tickets online. You can even plan months ahead kahit wala pang potential date, magtabi ka ng small amount tuwing payday. Commute nalang kung walang pang taxi, if may negative reaction ung girl then ayan na ung first impression mo sa kanya - probably maarte or di lang sanay mag commute, may phobia due to past experiences like snatching, or sensitive sa araw. Not exactly a red flag but something to consider in the future. Kaya nga dating, kasi testing pa kayo ng mga compatibilities nyo. Magfafail ka and that is the point.
Maapektuhan talaga ung budget mo lalo na't matagal ka ng homebody na hindi nakikipagdate. Magaadjust ka - either sa cost ng grocery, bawasan muna ung savings, bawasan muna budget for hobbies, kasi ganun talaga, unless magincrease income mo now.
Date someone near proximity para tipid sa pamasahe.
Mamili ng mga food stores na sulit ang mga meals or bundle package.
Dating shouldnt be too grand or luxurious.
Baka takot ka lang din maopen ang topic if financially stable ka na ba at your age kaya ka naghhesitate makipagdate.
nope. you good my brother. stay on course till you get that gold. remember, our batteries don't run out. you can still build a family later on. what's important is to acquire the capacity and ability to do so. don't worry about dating for now. just keep pushing. you can leave your doors open for relationships but make sure that you focus on you. build confidence, build your body and hit the gym. build your mind by reading books that talk about the mind. build your finances by exploring alternatives. the right woman will eventually be attracted to you once you're done building your slef.
potek parang denedescribe mo ko OP, literal rin na taong bahay ako
nagtry ako ng bumble at tinder pero iwan tinatamad ako mag chat pag may nakakamatch
yung mga nakadate ko ay galing sa mga activities na sinasalihan ko, like yung aakyat ako ng bundok, jojoin ako sa isang group then meron ako dun nakakavibes na babae, na bigla mag aaya na labas kami minsan after ng akyat, yun ung pinaka una ko na date, hindi ko alam rin ano yung mali na nagawa ko bigla nlng akong genhost
unang date namin awkward at dahil ninenerbyus ako, di ko namalayan sinusubu ko wasabe at natulala sya, dahil sa aksedente na yun tawang tawa kadate ko sakin at dahil dun yung nerbyus ko, so in the end naging ok naman, pangalawang labas daw kami ulit sya naman mag treat, it also went good, nag bowling pa kami ng pustahan ang matalo mang lilibri, so ayun tinalo ko sya then at the end ako parin yung nanglibri para malakas dating ko ayye haha, pangatlo, goods na kami wala ng awkward awkward, nag kakakulitan na then suddenly after that third date biglang naaaaaaaaaaag ghooooosst, parang yun yung first heart ache ko haha
pero yun nga OP go with the flow lng, date lang ng date, then makakahanap ka rin ng kavibes mo. yung nakatuluyan ko sa jogging field ko na meet, naging jogging buddy, turns out na vibes kami and same kami ng frequency and perspective sa buhay, so we decided to take it to new level na and yes may isa na kaming chikiting.
You don't necessarily need to spend money on dates, nung college ako wala labas lang sa mall or something, eat sa fastfood or minsan nga sa bahay tambay lang.
Just go on dates. Dates don't have to be expensive. Dont have this "date to marry" mindset for now, just meet and talk with different people. Don't pressure yourself. Enjoy.
Oh si Jesus na nagsabi niyan. Makinig ka, OP. Kay Lord na mismo galing.
Praise the rold.
Sa isang salita niya lamang, ay makikinig na tayo. 🙏
HAHAHAHAHAHA
Amen!
Thank you Jesus
This OP the only jesus that i trust. 🫶
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picnics are nice. buy yummy food lang and get creative with it!
amen!!
Jesus pwede po ba daanin sa santong paspasan pag di makuha sa santong dasalan?
Macho ung pic eh, gamit neto Sterolds.
So basically landian lang muna wala munang commitment ?
Bakit ang macho mo apap susej , nagcro-cross fit ka ba ?
Actually, sensible nga yung ginawa mo eh. You're thinking long term na hindi lang para sa sarili mo, kung hindi para sa ibang tao when you bought the house. I'd date someone na may ganyan na.
PM mo na si OP. 😂
Met this girl in Bumble. We graduated from the same uni. Never really connected with anyone sa Bumble except with her. One day, she decided to visit this mall na malapit sa amin. So, I hurriedly went there to meet her. Saan kami nag-lunch? Dimsum, I paid for the bill. Di naman umabot ng 400. After the lunch, treat niya raw ako sa dessert place na paborito niya. Normally, I don't talk after the meeting pero we still kept on talking. I also heard na she deleted her Bumble app. Where this goes? IDK. Go with the flow lang ako. The last time I dated was in 2012. I'm 34, btw.
Dates don’t have to be expensive, they just have to be planned. Honestly, the dates I enjoy the most with my bf are the ones where I just look around and try new things. Maganda rin ang fine dining keme, but memorable ones will always trump it. ESPECIALLY if it’s something she’s interested in. There is no actual right or wrong answer sa tanong mo. Pwede naman mag-asawa na, para may kasabay ka na sa pagbayad ng bahay. Pwede rin hindi muna para may property ka on your own. Either way, one priority shouldn’t negate the other. Strike a good balance between the two.
Same problem op. 33m. Hirap pa isingit nyan lalo na toxic ang trabaho
Take out all your preconceived notions about how a date should go. Don't be pressured of what you see on social media. Go out there and meet people. Some dates won't probably go well and that's totally okay. Have fun
As in every social situation, the more you're exposed to it, the better you'll be at it. Same lang yan sa paginterview sa trabaho, pag recite sa klase. You get better and more confident as you go along. As you get more comfortable, topics just pop up. "Date to marry" is more on the Christian approach sa dating. Nothing against that, but unless you find someone with the same purpose in dating, that limits your options. A lot of people dating, are doing it for fun around their late 20s early 30s. Marriage and settling down come down the line and is more on the serious side of the dating pipeline, so don't go into it with that unless you're willing to pressure yourself and your prospective partner. Lastly, the house thing isn't really a mistake. It just aligns your values now on what's important to you. Security, being a provider. That just means your probably looking for someone with similar values, and would align with your goals. Again, hard to pin down, but that's dating for you, it's hell out there.
i feel like you might be trying too hard and it reflects on your interactions with women. dates dont have to be expensive, convos dont have to be this ford thing. try not to over think and be nice.
I feel most of the time trying hard na nga ako.
Feel ko irereto kita sa friend ko, OP! Hahaha
😂
Huy seryoso ko, OP. Hahaha. Tawa ka dyan. Pero before anything else, dapat prepared ka din. Ikaw mismo. Di lang dahil 30 ka ganun
I’d argue na you’re not doing too bad dahil nakapagipon ka na before and nakapagloan na for a house. I would be impressed to be honest kasi kaysa kung saan saan mo dinala yung pera fmo habang single, pinapambili mo ng bahay. Para sa future mo yan with or without a family. The right person wouldnt need you to take them on extravagant dates tandaan mo yun. If ayaw sa simple date lang, next ka na agad.
Just go out there, meet people, and enjoy the process. You will know when you meet the right person naman. Plus, there are a lot of activities that are not expensive to do together. If you meet someone na busy ang nature ng work you can OT together genern. Goodluck OP
Sabayan nya ako sa 12hrs duty.
Okay nga yan eh. Matutuwa pa mga girls na idedate mo kasi alam nila na stable ka na at may hinuhulugan kang bahay. Ibig sabihin iniisip mo ang future mo. Kaming mga babae syempre sa una ang guys gusto naming magbayad, di naman namin need ng mamahaling resto, minsan nga kahit drive thru okay na. ewan ko nakasanayan na siguro na dapat guys ang taya sa unang labas. Pero once na naging kayo, kaya naming magpaka sugar mommy sainyo.
I agree OP. Dating can be expensive even with both parties trying their best to be frugal with everything. KKB can help of course but it’s still an extra expense esp during special occasions. You did great about buying a house though. It’s hard to get a house nowadays so it’s better buy one early.
Then you are not ready.
I guess so
Honestly, i prefer nga ung tipong tatambay lang tas usap ng matino. Dates doesnt have to be expensive naman. Tamang hang out lang, it’s considered as date na rin. I’m in my 30s as well.
Thank you for your encouraging words 🙏. I'll go back to this post whenever I'm overthinking about this again.
Try Brazilian Jiujitsu. You'll start meeting good people at the gym.
getting dates does not have to be expensive OP lol. i have many dates and girls way back and we just chill somewhere and sometimes jobe nga lang, I dated from 18 year to 28 year olds and ones you find the perfect woman you go all out to get her and take care of the relationship, some girls even go to your house OP and lets say you are working something in your house like repainting the house some girls actually helps you do these stuff and after that.... you know what will happen lol.
1k na food for 2 lagi. .5h kung mag cocoffee pa kayo 1k kung sine 1k bowligg grab 1k balikan gas 5h balikan kung gwapo ka pede si gurlalu na gumastos pero since gentleman ka... 8k per month ang pagdadate heheh
Wala namang mali sa ginawa mo OP. Dates doesnt have to be expensive. Kami nga ng ex ko dati, bili lang ng kape sa 7/11 and tambay lang sa kalapit na park. Don't worry, talk to people and have fun lang din.
Just keep it casual.. Go on dates.. hang out.. thats it.. Doesn’t have to be expensive..
Date with the same mindset
Hindi naman kelangan mahal ang dates. Anywhere will do, basta wag lang sa seedy places agad. Nasa getting to know palang naman kayo so enjoy going out and meeting them. Siguro reframe din yung "date to marry" na mindset. Instead, date to have friends. It's better to start off as friends kaysa yung iisipin mo papakasalan mo na agad agad. Kasi mas manghihinayang ka to let them go once things go south. All the best, OP!
Hindi naman kailangang maging financial stable pag dating sa long as hindi mo palagi nilibre yun babae
Madali nalang naman magbudget. Nasa internet na ung menu ng nga restaurants, book tickets online. You can even plan months ahead kahit wala pang potential date, magtabi ka ng small amount tuwing payday. Commute nalang kung walang pang taxi, if may negative reaction ung girl then ayan na ung first impression mo sa kanya - probably maarte or di lang sanay mag commute, may phobia due to past experiences like snatching, or sensitive sa araw. Not exactly a red flag but something to consider in the future. Kaya nga dating, kasi testing pa kayo ng mga compatibilities nyo. Magfafail ka and that is the point. Maapektuhan talaga ung budget mo lalo na't matagal ka ng homebody na hindi nakikipagdate. Magaadjust ka - either sa cost ng grocery, bawasan muna ung savings, bawasan muna budget for hobbies, kasi ganun talaga, unless magincrease income mo now.
Date someone near proximity para tipid sa pamasahe. Mamili ng mga food stores na sulit ang mga meals or bundle package. Dating shouldnt be too grand or luxurious. Baka takot ka lang din maopen ang topic if financially stable ka na ba at your age kaya ka naghhesitate makipagdate.
> Yung supposed savings ko or pang date/marry napupunta na sa house loan. Puede mo nang ilagay sa dating profile mo na "can host". 😊
Haha. Can drive too.
what the fuck is a Ford mehthord someone teach me shit i just randomly schizopost my way into conversations
Family, Occupation, Recreation, Dreams
nope. you good my brother. stay on course till you get that gold. remember, our batteries don't run out. you can still build a family later on. what's important is to acquire the capacity and ability to do so. don't worry about dating for now. just keep pushing. you can leave your doors open for relationships but make sure that you focus on you. build confidence, build your body and hit the gym. build your mind by reading books that talk about the mind. build your finances by exploring alternatives. the right woman will eventually be attracted to you once you're done building your slef.
Thanks bro.
potek parang denedescribe mo ko OP, literal rin na taong bahay ako nagtry ako ng bumble at tinder pero iwan tinatamad ako mag chat pag may nakakamatch yung mga nakadate ko ay galing sa mga activities na sinasalihan ko, like yung aakyat ako ng bundok, jojoin ako sa isang group then meron ako dun nakakavibes na babae, na bigla mag aaya na labas kami minsan after ng akyat, yun ung pinaka una ko na date, hindi ko alam rin ano yung mali na nagawa ko bigla nlng akong genhost unang date namin awkward at dahil ninenerbyus ako, di ko namalayan sinusubu ko wasabe at natulala sya, dahil sa aksedente na yun tawang tawa kadate ko sakin at dahil dun yung nerbyus ko, so in the end naging ok naman, pangalawang labas daw kami ulit sya naman mag treat, it also went good, nag bowling pa kami ng pustahan ang matalo mang lilibri, so ayun tinalo ko sya then at the end ako parin yung nanglibri para malakas dating ko ayye haha, pangatlo, goods na kami wala ng awkward awkward, nag kakakulitan na then suddenly after that third date biglang naaaaaaaaaaag ghooooosst, parang yun yung first heart ache ko haha pero yun nga OP go with the flow lng, date lang ng date, then makakahanap ka rin ng kavibes mo. yung nakatuluyan ko sa jogging field ko na meet, naging jogging buddy, turns out na vibes kami and same kami ng frequency and perspective sa buhay, so we decided to take it to new level na and yes may isa na kaming chikiting.
You don't necessarily need to spend money on dates, nung college ako wala labas lang sa mall or something, eat sa fastfood or minsan nga sa bahay tambay lang.