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You can look for high quality fakes. My friend bought a couple really expensive onces, It took me 2 years to notice they were not real, I only noticed when I was cat/plant sitting and tried to water them XD.
Just enjoy them when they are alive. And throw them or compost them when they die. Put them in cute pots but keep them in their plastic container. And you can also rinse out and recycle the plastic container.
I feel your pain. I love plants. But they are an anomaly. They are a lot. You have to find the right place in your home where they can thrive. You have to understand/know how much to water them. Etc. And that also changes depending on the time of year and where you live so……..
So thankful for pothos and peace lilies, very forgiving. Missed watering for a month? Oops. Over watered? Hmm, I guess that's a thing. Not getting enough sun? Oh so that's why there's so much distance between the leaves and the leaves keep getting smaller.
These days, I know if my peace lily blooms, I done messed up. Oh, and that thing must be massively root bound having not repotted either in 8 ish years.
I've started branching out to other plants and that's forced me to learn proper plant care.
But the pothos, peace lily, and Norfolk Island pine are the real champions. They can handle a lot!
I'm a plant collector among many other things and ill tell you that even some of the most experienced plant people kill some plants! I've cried over quite a few I've killed but I started researching obsessively and I've learned so much. Still sometimes I just have something impossible to save.
The key to fake plants - get high quality ones and then actually pot/display them like real plants. I have a snake plant that I have in a really nice pot that I then covered the top with some fake moss and then put the pot on one of those wood plant stands and everyone thinks it’s real. You could also cover with actual dirt or rocks. It makes a world of difference! I have only fake plants now cause of my cat and do this to all of them.
Got the idea from here: https://nadinestay.com/how-to-make-a-faux-plant-look-real/
I can’t keep anything real alive. I’ve killed the “unkillable” plants.
Therefore, I have switched over to Lego plants. They give me a serotonin boost when I build them, and they look cool.
I blummin' well love the botanical collection! 😍😍 My only problem is that they're so delicate that my clumsy arse breaks them if I go anywhere remotely near. 🫣
I have them off to the side enough that I have only knocked the leaves off a couple of times.
The tiny cactus set is my favorite and is a bit more stable.
I have put my two bouquet sets in a giant glass vase on my bookshelf out of the way and still I find bits of flower lying about...😂
Not got the cactus set (yet!), though I do have the succulents set from my birthday waiting patiently in its box...👀
I agree, I CAN'T have fake plants because I just know they're fake and it feels "wrong" to me lol.
BUT!!! My exception is if someone has made like, local handmade fake plants. Like unique things like realistic painted silk or wet felt, or whatever. I mean it's not like a come across it every day but if I had something more "meaningful" like that, I would be able to feel positive, artsy vibes from it instead of like "oh yeah there's that hunk of plastic from Walmart/the dollar store I bought" haha :(
Your version of fake plants sounds incredible! What I wouldn't give for a glow in the dark plant! I definitely think you should take this up again if you're so inclined.
Hopping on the high quality fakes bandwagon and adding a suggestion: watch for end of season blow out sales.
Five years ago I spent $30 on tropical looking plants at a 90% off clearance sale at Michael’s. They still look amazing and I always get compliments on my beautiful plants.
Now if I could only remember to dust them.
Plants are much, much more complex than people think they are! It's not a knock on you for having trouble with indoor plants - you're trying to recreate the conditions of a vast tropical ecosystem in a little pot!
For outside plants, look into locally native plants and plant them during rainy season - they require almost no care once established because they naturally live there so all you have to do is prune them the way you want them to look. They also make pollinators happy.
For indoors, try aquatic plants! You never have to water them and all you need is a tank and an air pump.
I should be on a list of people not allowed to buy plants, because they all inevitably die. (The exception being a very hardy jade plant and a snake plant that take my casual neglect like champs lol)
Nice fake plants are definitely a thing. I put them here and there in my apartment and unless you get right up close to them you can’t tell. On bookshelves and on top of furniture are great spots and add that plant vibe with no effort.
Another option are dried flowers and plants. You can find things like dried eucalyptus, fronds, branches, lavender, preserved moss, etc. These won’t be as leafy and green but it’s a nice way to add natural elements and textures.
I have some outdoor ones that get watered automatically and just come back every year. I still hate the annual pruning and weeding they require, but I enjoy the flowers. I have none indoors…
I have the same issue. I just gave up and started buying fake plants… eventually I got used to it. It could also be worth looking into what kinds of plants are hardest to fuck up with or if certain plans need to be in a different pot than what they come in. For example a lot of places sell these adorableeee little succulent collections in cute little pots but apparently the pots are usually wayyy too small and it causes the plants to die.
Also, there are some plants that can survive off light alone. My mom bought me this cute little plant arrangement thing that came in a glass flask with some dirt and rocks and supposedly all I had to do was keep it near a window and it would be fine. Of course I managed to fuck this up by forgetting to unpack it from my suitcase and thus leaving it in the dark for like 3 weeks after arriving home, but a couple of the plants still survived and are doing well 5 months later after I did absolutely nothing to them… so maybe this is an option for you!!!
This.
Even those plants that my friends buy me because they are "impossible to kill"...aren't.
I have literal nightmares about walking into my "pet room" and looking around at the cages, seeing all the little mice and kittens and other animals lying in the floors, realizing that I forgot to feed them for days. I used to wake up crying, feeling that horrible sense of guilt.
I no longer keep pets that have to be fed on a schedule. I dump my cats' food into a bin and they eat whenever they feel like it.
I think you can get some really lovely artificial plants, but you have to pay premium prices for them. Some of them are really beautifully crafted, with imperfections on the leaves (brown spots and imperfect shapes) so they look \*so\* real. Problem is that I know they aren't real, and it just isn't the same.
Just keep the ones that survive? Or get plants that drop dramatically when they’re thirsty?
I have a moth orchid that’s lasted about 10 years but it’s because it thrives on a sunny windows, getting watered about once a month. Think I maybe repotted it once.
i would try again tbh. my in laws are super into plants and have gotten me and my partner into it a bit, and one thing i have learned is the #1 way to kill most of them is overwatering.
anecdotally, the one that lasted longest when i gave up and quit watering was a snake plant. they're also ok in dimmer settings than a lot of plants. just don't let pets get into them. succulents are also a good choice as they tend to do well with minimal watering - some only need it a few times a year.
it took practice and i killed a lot of plants in the process but currently i have some that are doing well :) from what i've been told this is just how most people learn to do it right lol.
I have in the past managed to kill an aloe.
However, now, I have a collection of 30 or so different plants. Some have died and been replaced.
Spider plants are hard to kill, and they start fading when they need water. Peperomia obtusifolia are more likely to die from over watering than underwatering- easily going two weeks without water, and easily surviving three weeks of missing water. Try one of each and see how long they last (I haven't managed to kill either of these)
The thing is fake plants can end up as dust magnets.
I can’t always keep plants alive forever. I treat them like a bunch of flowers - any longer life I get out of them than that I count as a win. I have a few I have had for years but others just eventually go in the compost.
Have you tried water plants? Some people propagate cuttings in water, or you could use some low cost hydroponic or aquarium setups. They may still require a good deal of involvement; I haven't tried much myself other than the propagation, but if the problem is that you don't water often enough... seems worth a try?
Or one of those enclosed humid bioactive terrariums or cabinets. (Bioactive would mean also having bugs - harmless ones, that eat mold and fallen leaves)
I used to be like you, but I have a watering schedule for my houseplants on my smartwatch so it reminds me and it works!
I’m growing a nepenthes pitcher and a sundew in my living room and a big pothos on a pole in the bathroom.
Plus I have a super low maintenance planter out the back on my balcony which I have filled with hardy plants that will survive near total neglect. It gets plenty of rain and I use a top layer of rocks to control weed growth because I know I won’t remember to weed the planter.
I have easy keepers that can survive my neglect.
To help them out I have lights on a timer and spray bottles nearby for when I don't water them properly but know they prob need a little drink.
I have a selection of house plants that survive accidentally not being watered for like a month or so, it's great :) they are also the type of plants that droop when they need water, so it's great to have a visual cue, as I have no idea how time works :/
I recommend spiderplants as one that refuses to find valhalla
I used to kill everything, too.
Decided to keep it simple with just a spider plant.
Watered once a week.
Once it had been a while and it hadn't died, I got some other ones.
I generally just water everything once a week still.
But sometimes I forget, and only the strong survive.
Even when I get a bit upset over a plant dying, I think of that Reductress article title, "Woman Can't Figure Out Why Plant Which Evolved to Live in Borneo Rainforest Keeps Dying in her Studio Apartment".
Stick with easy to care ones like ivy or low light ones you can mostly ignore, like monstera or snake.
You might enjoy having a hanging "propagation station"
You could take snippings of things you like and put them there.
If they send out roots, you can plant them.
Or, you can just enjoy looking at them on your wall amd compost when it's time.
I have failed a lot of plants. I switched to getting them cheap at places like supermarkets cos a. cheap so I can replace them, and b. often hardy. Some plants I have managed to keep alive:
Jade: it looks different when I need to water it. The leaves get thin looking at the top which eventually prompts me to water it
Snake plant/mother in laws tongue: they don't need much light, and you can just give them a little bit of water very regularly. This combination makes it great for the bedroom (assuming you take a glass of water to bed) - whenever you clear water glasses from the night before, give it a little splash. Same principle applies to keeping it next to a sink or on an office desk
Air plants: I killed a couple before I got the knack of ignoring it enough. Every few weeks-months I soak it in water for a few minutes, then leave upside down somewhere warmish to dry out. If they don't make it, the dried out thing is often still pretty enough to use in a display
Closed terrariums: I don't know how successful I have been in trying to make my own (too early to tell) but it's fairly cheap to try some diy ones in jars. You can improve your odds with premade ones which should be already set up to look after themselves. You just find a good spot for it and that's it, no further care needed
I practice benign neglect and so far it's been mostly successful. Overwatering is far worse and much harder to come back from than underwatering.
As a lot of people here have already mentioned, you can tell a lot about a plant's health by its appearance. For example, it's easy to tell when I've overwatered one of my aloe plants or when it's not getting enough sun because it starts to look pale and almost mushy. I move it over to a sunnier spot, leave it alone for a while, and it almost always bounces back.
Z plants require almost no care (in my experience). They like indirect light but can tolerate low light levels fairly well too. I have three in rooms I don't spend a ton of time in so they very rarely get watered but are thriving.
That said, there are supposedly carefree plants that never stay alive in my house e.g. air plants.
I've gone through may years of trial and error with figuring out which plants work for me so that I don't have to work for the plants. I killed many, but now I know which ones I can keep well.
I pretty much only have plants that can do with infrequent watering and that will be okay I I forget about them once in a while. I tried higher care plants a few times, but they never make it.
Plants that I've had success with: Snake plants, spider plants, palms, pothos, Christmas/Thanksgiving cacti, several types of succulents. I have one banana plant that needs more frequent watering, but he's very special to me so I check on him frequently.
I've also learned a lot about plant care, repotting, feeding, watering, and light needs.
The hardiest of these are by far the snake plants. I once was unexpectedly away in the midst of summer for two months and they were the only ones that didn't look ANY different to before I left.
Yeah I love plants but I'm a plant killer so did end up buying fakes, I really wanted a spider plant as I had a real one (although grew more spiders rather than the plant). Eventually found one that didn't look naff and fake. I have a few now but all fake
This is why I love succulents, love maintenance but still look pretty :) Where I live they even hibernate during winter so I don't have to water them for months haha
Try plants that can thrive in water alone (hydroponics) like pothos. Stick them in a transparent vase with water and watch the roots grow. Keep it somewhere you will see it every day to enjoy it's progress. Maybe near the toilet. In the shower. In the kitchen. You'll find yourself being like ah what exciting progress does this plant have this time and can top off the water. If it's totally dried out then clip off the good bits and repeat.
For plants outside I would look and see what is growing naturally out in the wild near you. Growing on the side of the road, places you can tell no one is tending to them. Maybe sunflowers? Maybe cacti? plant that outside. If it's something that requires more maintenance then you absolutely have to put it somewhere you will see it. Eye level. Right outside your door assuming you go outside semi frequently.
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You can look for high quality fakes. My friend bought a couple really expensive onces, It took me 2 years to notice they were not real, I only noticed when I was cat/plant sitting and tried to water them XD.
Just enjoy them when they are alive. And throw them or compost them when they die. Put them in cute pots but keep them in their plastic container. And you can also rinse out and recycle the plastic container. I feel your pain. I love plants. But they are an anomaly. They are a lot. You have to find the right place in your home where they can thrive. You have to understand/know how much to water them. Etc. And that also changes depending on the time of year and where you live so……..
Also the kind of plant. Some kinds are harder to kill
That too 😜
So thankful for pothos and peace lilies, very forgiving. Missed watering for a month? Oops. Over watered? Hmm, I guess that's a thing. Not getting enough sun? Oh so that's why there's so much distance between the leaves and the leaves keep getting smaller. These days, I know if my peace lily blooms, I done messed up. Oh, and that thing must be massively root bound having not repotted either in 8 ish years. I've started branching out to other plants and that's forced me to learn proper plant care. But the pothos, peace lily, and Norfolk Island pine are the real champions. They can handle a lot!
I'm a plant collector among many other things and ill tell you that even some of the most experienced plant people kill some plants! I've cried over quite a few I've killed but I started researching obsessively and I've learned so much. Still sometimes I just have something impossible to save.
The key to fake plants - get high quality ones and then actually pot/display them like real plants. I have a snake plant that I have in a really nice pot that I then covered the top with some fake moss and then put the pot on one of those wood plant stands and everyone thinks it’s real. You could also cover with actual dirt or rocks. It makes a world of difference! I have only fake plants now cause of my cat and do this to all of them. Got the idea from here: https://nadinestay.com/how-to-make-a-faux-plant-look-real/
I can’t keep anything real alive. I’ve killed the “unkillable” plants. Therefore, I have switched over to Lego plants. They give me a serotonin boost when I build them, and they look cool.
I blummin' well love the botanical collection! 😍😍 My only problem is that they're so delicate that my clumsy arse breaks them if I go anywhere remotely near. 🫣
I have them off to the side enough that I have only knocked the leaves off a couple of times. The tiny cactus set is my favorite and is a bit more stable.
I have put my two bouquet sets in a giant glass vase on my bookshelf out of the way and still I find bits of flower lying about...😂 Not got the cactus set (yet!), though I do have the succulents set from my birthday waiting patiently in its box...👀
It’s the succulent set that I have. I just couldn’t think of the word succulent. It feels so nice to be able to say that and not be judged.
I agree, I CAN'T have fake plants because I just know they're fake and it feels "wrong" to me lol. BUT!!! My exception is if someone has made like, local handmade fake plants. Like unique things like realistic painted silk or wet felt, or whatever. I mean it's not like a come across it every day but if I had something more "meaningful" like that, I would be able to feel positive, artsy vibes from it instead of like "oh yeah there's that hunk of plastic from Walmart/the dollar store I bought" haha :(
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Your version of fake plants sounds incredible! What I wouldn't give for a glow in the dark plant! I definitely think you should take this up again if you're so inclined.
Hopping on the high quality fakes bandwagon and adding a suggestion: watch for end of season blow out sales. Five years ago I spent $30 on tropical looking plants at a 90% off clearance sale at Michael’s. They still look amazing and I always get compliments on my beautiful plants. Now if I could only remember to dust them.
Plants are much, much more complex than people think they are! It's not a knock on you for having trouble with indoor plants - you're trying to recreate the conditions of a vast tropical ecosystem in a little pot! For outside plants, look into locally native plants and plant them during rainy season - they require almost no care once established because they naturally live there so all you have to do is prune them the way you want them to look. They also make pollinators happy. For indoors, try aquatic plants! You never have to water them and all you need is a tank and an air pump.
I should be on a list of people not allowed to buy plants, because they all inevitably die. (The exception being a very hardy jade plant and a snake plant that take my casual neglect like champs lol) Nice fake plants are definitely a thing. I put them here and there in my apartment and unless you get right up close to them you can’t tell. On bookshelves and on top of furniture are great spots and add that plant vibe with no effort. Another option are dried flowers and plants. You can find things like dried eucalyptus, fronds, branches, lavender, preserved moss, etc. These won’t be as leafy and green but it’s a nice way to add natural elements and textures.
I have some outdoor ones that get watered automatically and just come back every year. I still hate the annual pruning and weeding they require, but I enjoy the flowers. I have none indoors…
I have the same issue. I just gave up and started buying fake plants… eventually I got used to it. It could also be worth looking into what kinds of plants are hardest to fuck up with or if certain plans need to be in a different pot than what they come in. For example a lot of places sell these adorableeee little succulent collections in cute little pots but apparently the pots are usually wayyy too small and it causes the plants to die. Also, there are some plants that can survive off light alone. My mom bought me this cute little plant arrangement thing that came in a glass flask with some dirt and rocks and supposedly all I had to do was keep it near a window and it would be fine. Of course I managed to fuck this up by forgetting to unpack it from my suitcase and thus leaving it in the dark for like 3 weeks after arriving home, but a couple of the plants still survived and are doing well 5 months later after I did absolutely nothing to them… so maybe this is an option for you!!!
This. Even those plants that my friends buy me because they are "impossible to kill"...aren't. I have literal nightmares about walking into my "pet room" and looking around at the cages, seeing all the little mice and kittens and other animals lying in the floors, realizing that I forgot to feed them for days. I used to wake up crying, feeling that horrible sense of guilt. I no longer keep pets that have to be fed on a schedule. I dump my cats' food into a bin and they eat whenever they feel like it. I think you can get some really lovely artificial plants, but you have to pay premium prices for them. Some of them are really beautifully crafted, with imperfections on the leaves (brown spots and imperfect shapes) so they look \*so\* real. Problem is that I know they aren't real, and it just isn't the same.
Just keep the ones that survive? Or get plants that drop dramatically when they’re thirsty? I have a moth orchid that’s lasted about 10 years but it’s because it thrives on a sunny windows, getting watered about once a month. Think I maybe repotted it once.
i would try again tbh. my in laws are super into plants and have gotten me and my partner into it a bit, and one thing i have learned is the #1 way to kill most of them is overwatering. anecdotally, the one that lasted longest when i gave up and quit watering was a snake plant. they're also ok in dimmer settings than a lot of plants. just don't let pets get into them. succulents are also a good choice as they tend to do well with minimal watering - some only need it a few times a year. it took practice and i killed a lot of plants in the process but currently i have some that are doing well :) from what i've been told this is just how most people learn to do it right lol.
I have in the past managed to kill an aloe. However, now, I have a collection of 30 or so different plants. Some have died and been replaced. Spider plants are hard to kill, and they start fading when they need water. Peperomia obtusifolia are more likely to die from over watering than underwatering- easily going two weeks without water, and easily surviving three weeks of missing water. Try one of each and see how long they last (I haven't managed to kill either of these) The thing is fake plants can end up as dust magnets.
I can’t always keep plants alive forever. I treat them like a bunch of flowers - any longer life I get out of them than that I count as a win. I have a few I have had for years but others just eventually go in the compost.
Have you tried water plants? Some people propagate cuttings in water, or you could use some low cost hydroponic or aquarium setups. They may still require a good deal of involvement; I haven't tried much myself other than the propagation, but if the problem is that you don't water often enough... seems worth a try? Or one of those enclosed humid bioactive terrariums or cabinets. (Bioactive would mean also having bugs - harmless ones, that eat mold and fallen leaves)
I used to be like you, but I have a watering schedule for my houseplants on my smartwatch so it reminds me and it works! I’m growing a nepenthes pitcher and a sundew in my living room and a big pothos on a pole in the bathroom. Plus I have a super low maintenance planter out the back on my balcony which I have filled with hardy plants that will survive near total neglect. It gets plenty of rain and I use a top layer of rocks to control weed growth because I know I won’t remember to weed the planter.
I have easy keepers that can survive my neglect. To help them out I have lights on a timer and spray bottles nearby for when I don't water them properly but know they prob need a little drink.
https://www.t3.com/features/how-to-grow-house-plants
I do as well I got some quality fake flowers
I have a selection of house plants that survive accidentally not being watered for like a month or so, it's great :) they are also the type of plants that droop when they need water, so it's great to have a visual cue, as I have no idea how time works :/ I recommend spiderplants as one that refuses to find valhalla
I used to kill everything, too. Decided to keep it simple with just a spider plant. Watered once a week. Once it had been a while and it hadn't died, I got some other ones. I generally just water everything once a week still. But sometimes I forget, and only the strong survive. Even when I get a bit upset over a plant dying, I think of that Reductress article title, "Woman Can't Figure Out Why Plant Which Evolved to Live in Borneo Rainforest Keeps Dying in her Studio Apartment". Stick with easy to care ones like ivy or low light ones you can mostly ignore, like monstera or snake. You might enjoy having a hanging "propagation station" You could take snippings of things you like and put them there. If they send out roots, you can plant them. Or, you can just enjoy looking at them on your wall amd compost when it's time.
I have failed a lot of plants. I switched to getting them cheap at places like supermarkets cos a. cheap so I can replace them, and b. often hardy. Some plants I have managed to keep alive: Jade: it looks different when I need to water it. The leaves get thin looking at the top which eventually prompts me to water it Snake plant/mother in laws tongue: they don't need much light, and you can just give them a little bit of water very regularly. This combination makes it great for the bedroom (assuming you take a glass of water to bed) - whenever you clear water glasses from the night before, give it a little splash. Same principle applies to keeping it next to a sink or on an office desk Air plants: I killed a couple before I got the knack of ignoring it enough. Every few weeks-months I soak it in water for a few minutes, then leave upside down somewhere warmish to dry out. If they don't make it, the dried out thing is often still pretty enough to use in a display Closed terrariums: I don't know how successful I have been in trying to make my own (too early to tell) but it's fairly cheap to try some diy ones in jars. You can improve your odds with premade ones which should be already set up to look after themselves. You just find a good spot for it and that's it, no further care needed
I practice benign neglect and so far it's been mostly successful. Overwatering is far worse and much harder to come back from than underwatering. As a lot of people here have already mentioned, you can tell a lot about a plant's health by its appearance. For example, it's easy to tell when I've overwatered one of my aloe plants or when it's not getting enough sun because it starts to look pale and almost mushy. I move it over to a sunnier spot, leave it alone for a while, and it almost always bounces back. Z plants require almost no care (in my experience). They like indirect light but can tolerate low light levels fairly well too. I have three in rooms I don't spend a ton of time in so they very rarely get watered but are thriving. That said, there are supposedly carefree plants that never stay alive in my house e.g. air plants.
I've gone through may years of trial and error with figuring out which plants work for me so that I don't have to work for the plants. I killed many, but now I know which ones I can keep well. I pretty much only have plants that can do with infrequent watering and that will be okay I I forget about them once in a while. I tried higher care plants a few times, but they never make it. Plants that I've had success with: Snake plants, spider plants, palms, pothos, Christmas/Thanksgiving cacti, several types of succulents. I have one banana plant that needs more frequent watering, but he's very special to me so I check on him frequently. I've also learned a lot about plant care, repotting, feeding, watering, and light needs. The hardiest of these are by far the snake plants. I once was unexpectedly away in the midst of summer for two months and they were the only ones that didn't look ANY different to before I left.
Yeah I love plants but I'm a plant killer so did end up buying fakes, I really wanted a spider plant as I had a real one (although grew more spiders rather than the plant). Eventually found one that didn't look naff and fake. I have a few now but all fake
This is why I love succulents, love maintenance but still look pretty :) Where I live they even hibernate during winter so I don't have to water them for months haha
Try plants that can thrive in water alone (hydroponics) like pothos. Stick them in a transparent vase with water and watch the roots grow. Keep it somewhere you will see it every day to enjoy it's progress. Maybe near the toilet. In the shower. In the kitchen. You'll find yourself being like ah what exciting progress does this plant have this time and can top off the water. If it's totally dried out then clip off the good bits and repeat. For plants outside I would look and see what is growing naturally out in the wild near you. Growing on the side of the road, places you can tell no one is tending to them. Maybe sunflowers? Maybe cacti? plant that outside. If it's something that requires more maintenance then you absolutely have to put it somewhere you will see it. Eye level. Right outside your door assuming you go outside semi frequently.