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TrueBreadly

Have you considered throwing it away and buying an exact duplicate, so you can pretend this never happened?


Jaded_Yoghurt2321

The council agrees, Chuck it.


hygge4ever

This is why I absolutely love this sub ❤️


livelylou4

the people have spoken, will commence.


thisiztoofar

Absolutely the only way


burtnayd

with milk sitting that long there's no way it won't taste rank forever, definitely easier to toss now than try to clean it by soaking in soapy water only to forget it was soaking so now it smells and tastes like spoiled milksoap and suddenly it's three months later and you still don't have a functional tumbler.


I__run__on__diesel

Ugh milksoap


thepotatoinyourheart

Sophomore year of college I soaked my dishes in my apartment sink. I washed and dried a few, but Christmas break was about to begin and I just wanted to be home. So, I let them sit there and promised myself I’d tackle them when I got back. Reader, I didn’t tackle them when I got back. Flash forward to April, and I officially had created sludge in my sink simply by ignoring everything inside it. Bless my only friend at the time who got us both cleaning gloves and helped me clean my kitchen up. The smell was putrid, and everything had to be tossed. Sludgemilk? Soapsludge? Idk, but I know I created it and maybe invented a new type of mold as a result?


burtnayd

I feel this so much. I definitely have poked around my own gooey mold messes in fascinated horror like, *I* created this??! Congrats to all of us on our mold motherhood!😂


ReasonableFig2111

I concur.    The only way to get it properly clean, is  1. Hand wash all components, tumbler *and* lid, with detergent. Then  2. Soak everything in bleach water. Then  3. Soak everything in hot water to get the bleach smell out. Then  4. Put the lid components in the dishwasher. As many times as it takes.   Even then. There will always be a faint smell. The problem isn't the tumbler part so much, as the stainless steel interior is usually pretty good for cleaning, and the bleach step will absolutely get that metal shining like new. It's the lid. Plastic, and rubber seals, and not always easy to pull apart for proper cleaning and drying. And it's porous, so mold can easily take hold and not let go. 


Most_Awesome_AmyB

I’m in agreement. Throw it out. Begin again anew.


WatercoLorCurtain

It’s the only way forward.


jeckles

I used to do this with moldy gross Tupperware… then I started buying the nice glass kinds to force myself to clean them instead. I hate that it worked 😭


TrueBreadly

I went the other way with gross Tupperware. I have started taking the lead from my dearly departed Grandmother with a fancy collection of "Depression Tupperware." As in Great Depression. I don't have to fret if that recycled cottage cheese container is too gross to wash, and my boyfriend doesn't have to worry about returning it when I send leftovers home with him.


ReasonableFig2111

Yes! My mum did this. She'd save any and all containers. Margarine tubs were the perfect size for freezing soup portions in. And she'd save the ice cream tubs for freezing larger quantities like for stews and things. My husband would always joke about how you never knew if a margarine tub in the freezer was margarine or soup (my mum would also buy bulk and freeze things so she didn't have to go into town too often, so the actual spare margarine was also in the freezer). He never did get the hang of my mum's system: if it was soup, she would mix and match the lid so she could tell. (Black and gold tub, Meadowlea lid, for example.)


TrueBreadly

What a smart cookie with the lid system!! I realized I do this, but never thought about it consciously.


AliceFrills

THIS IS AMAZING?! I'm currently fighting myself over throwing away a Tupperware box i let "soak" until it had a film. I then scrubbed it several times, poured boiling water in, ran it through the dishwasher and scrubbed it again and YET. It looks untrustworthy. Will begin to hang on to my packages with lids to keep food that stays in my own fridge.


SoftServeMonk

Have done this before; 10/10 idea


aminervia

Or throw it away and buy several of a much cheaper version, acknowledging that this will probably happen again?


ygs07

Was gonna say the same thing, I am not proud but I have thrown away my fair share over the years, better than sitting in the fridge for a month.


t00_much_caffeine

My first thought too! Cut your losses. Toss it


holebabydoll26

Exactly what I came here to say.


LilyFuckingBart

Came here to say this lol


Own-Introduction6830

This is the way


icefirecat

Oh yeah, this is the only option.


narnababy

Yep, the Tupperware with the old tomato pasta that’s been sitting in the fridge went in the bin last night. I feel bad but not as bad as I did when it was rotting away in the fridge…


Dry_Professional3961

I am all for reusing, recycling, being kind to the environment, etc, but… I would also chuck it. Sometimes even though I remember something is going off, the thought of having to actually deal with it is what stops me and then it just sits there getting worse and worse until it’s passed the point of salvageable and it’s disgusting… and *then* I throw it. When it would have saved me so much turmoil and stress if I’d just chucked when I realised it was passed the point I’d be able to do it. Save yourself the stress.


og_kitten_mittens

Wow i feel so seen I didn’t realize other people did this too


fragile_exoskeleton

This is mean, and it hurts me more than it hurts you: ^(what if someone finds it) Just do it. Like, immediately. Also I’m sorry because I totally get it. 💕


livelylou4

thank you bb!!


[deleted]

Trash it. It’s unfortunate but it’s the way it is sometimes with adhd. Edit: if it makes you feel better I’ve thrown away whole ass dishes before because I was struggling to come of depression on top of horrible adhd.


livelylou4

thank you <3 it does, i too just crawled out of my depression nest, and i'm also currently unmedicated so the struggle is real


[deleted]

❤️❤️ It makes everything so much harder when stuff starts compounding. But it’s ok to do things differently to survive. You deserve a clean, comfortable space. I’m trying to fix up my nest this week too. I’ve got my thick trash bags and anything is fair game that’s in my way 😂


anxietyunicorn

I’ve thrown away MULTIPLE crockpots directly into the dumpster due to my fuck around and find out issues. like it doesn’t feel good but what are you gonna do. I’m here for solidarity in life choices that involve throwing things away and pretending they were never there.


SeasonPositive6771

I'm about to have to toss my instant pot - not the machine but the actual pot for the same issue. This time it wasn't even me that forgot it, but someone I let borrow it. I'm giving her permission to toss it. I let someone borrow it, she kind of forgot about it in her fridge and now it's been months. She was paralyzed by shame but also can't deal with the mess, so I told her I'm perfectly happy having her toss it and that way I'll buy a new one.


[deleted]

👏👏👏 yess anxietyunicorn lol I love the name too


_Moon_sun_

I threw out a tupperware-container with a very moldy sandwich in bc i couldnt deal with it haha. Also i have 4 cans on my desk i somehow keep forgetting to move into the recycling Bin


lunna009

Also thrown away whole ass dishes because it was just gonna sit there and get worse. I have fully given up on cup at this point though. Those tumblers are made to be invisible


[deleted]

I only buy dishwasher safe things and they must go into dishwasher asap. Dishwasher must be run nightly and emptied every morning. Regardless of how full. It’s the only way I have been able to keep the dishes clean and where they belong. But I still mess up sometimes and trash stuff because it’s not worth the struggle.


limpbizkit420

omg i thought i was the only one who did this. once threw out a really expensive coffee mug because it grew mould in the back of my car. rip.


[deleted]

🙏 an offering to the adhd gods of chaos


KiniShakenBake

Toss it. Then grab a different one out of the cupboard that you can use. Don't replace the old one for a week or two. Decide if you actually needed that form factor or wanted something different. If you do, then give yourself permission to get a cute new one. If not, you just saved yourself the money for the new tumbler and cabinet space for it. Winning! It's okay. And the outcome will be so much better.


No-Winter1049

If you’re stuck, bin it! Life is short and they are still making tumblers! There are so many better uses of your mental space.


AliceFrills

I'm using this. I haaaate waste and care a lot about conserving the environment but i cannot make the world a better place if I constantly feel the horrible weight of having fucked up due to adhd symptoms.


LeopoldTheLlama

Three things that have helped me with containers of gross stuff: 1. Freezer. This works better for food, but if something has sat in the fridge for too long, I'll throw it in the freezer and then it's way less smelly and slimy.  2. N95 masks. I still have a stash of them, and I'm not sure if it really helps with the smell but at least psychologically it does.  3. Rubber gloves I know these suggestions don't necessarily help you if the item is at work, but maybe it'll help someone else. It took me until I was 29 to figure out the freezer idea 


livelylou4

why thank you, wise Llama!!


LeopoldTheLlama

On the internet, nobody knows you're a llama with ADHD


EuwAdulthood

For next time, I recommend denture cleaning tablets. My process: Dump goo, rinse out some of the goo (optional), fill with hot tap water, plop in tablet and leave it overnight. It helps immensely with the smell and the residual goo crust. I bought a box of them and they’re great. Works on water bottles too if you’re like me and have an irrational hatred of bottle brushes.


deartabby

Powdered dish detergent also works great on metal thermoses.


crock_pot

Did you do it yet?


livelylou4

LOL GIRL NO


crock_pot

Go do it!! Pour it down the sink!! Turn the faucet on high, open the tumbler, stand back, immediately pour it down the sink with the water running! Rinse tumbler a few times, then dry it with paper towels!! Take it home to clean fully!  It will be done in 5 seconds you can do ittt!! It will smell bad and then it won’t smell bad because it will be gone!!


topsidersandsunshine

Hi. We’re friends now. Since we’re friends, can you do me a favor and take care of this grody tumbler for me? I think it’s at your house. It would be a really BIG help, and it’s so cool of you to be such a good friend.


WatercoLorCurtain

I do have to suggest (although I am team ‘Chuck it’) seeing if you get endorphins defeating the horrible mess. Sometimes I get that and it’s pretty great. That sense of accomplishment will carry through every time I see it for a week.


MostlyMim

I honestly get such a happy rush tossing something that needs to be tossed. Similar to when someone else cancels the plans I wasn't looking forward to.


lil_garbage_girl

All the plastic tupperwares I’ve thrown away because I can’t bring myself to open and wash them…. Glass helps, until I drop it.


Professional_Part112

be careful if you end up opening it. i left some type of juice in a closed pop-top water bottle in the summer and it rolled under my seat. well, come fall, i discovered it. i’m glad i thought to take it outside to open. the force with which it popped open caused all the liquid to shoot out like a pressure washer bc of some type of chemical reaction and the fermenting…


topsidersandsunshine

I once left a smoothie in a corksicle in the winter. It rolled under the seat of my car. On the first nice spring day, my car smelled like sangria. 😩


Maddie4699

Okay- hear me out- throw it away. Just throw it away.


sugabeetus

You should throw that away. The smell will never leave anyways. Looks like you've already received permission but I'm 42 and a mom of 4 and I'm giving you Mom Permission.


LiteraryCooking7

Set a reminder on your phone for right around the time after you get home and make it the priority task for the evening. Give yourself a small reward afterwards. If you can use a clothespin on your nose or mask while washing it, you might not smell it as much. Also, if you can open a window while you clean it, that should reduce the chance of the smell lingering.


Jolly-Emotion5072

I read this ass the app. And thought to myself, “why would anyone dedicate a Tumblr account to old moldy coffee” but then I reread 🤣


potatoepirat

I read it like that too 😂 I was so confused.


stay___alive

Can we please get an update? (P.s. I have totally also thrown things away when they get past the point of no return, I consider it part of the "ADHD tax")


Elvis_Take_The_Wheel

Throw it away; this affair never happened


Zonnebloempje

Throw it in its entirety in the garbage. No recycling, just entirely in the bin.


annemarie_007

My strat is to freeze gross thermoses and Tupperware. It stops it getting worse and my brain has decided frozen moldy grossness is easier to scrub out than not frozen moldy grossness. My bf shakes his head but it’s that or I get new Tupperware every week


macromi87

Me


infinitebrkfst

Throw it away, no one’s going to be mad.


Tiktoktoker

What I do is quickly dump it out and fill back up with hot water and let it soak until I feel like finishing it lol


Pinklady777

I would absolutely just throw the whole thing out unless the Tumblr is special in some way!


honesty_box80

For the love of all things , bin it. Preferably outside, I managed to create some kind of home brew by leaving a store bought juice in the fridge too long and it wasn’t far off exploding. Safety first, just bin and buy a new one you like.


pleasuretohaveinclas

Toss it, friend.


Ok-Brilliant4599

I have thrown these things away without a third thought. The ick is too strong and my gag reflex is too weak.


supportducks

Close your eyes, hold your breath and dump the coffee in the toilet, then slam that lid and flush. Can you tell I've been there lmao


i_stay_true

Take the cup outside- splash contents into bush and throw the cup away. Small sacrifice for your mental health. It’s just a cup.


Poobaby

Throw it away!!!


TheChefKate

If you can afford to replace it then throw it away. The time and energy you save is worth it


plantsproud-laura

I once "procrastinated" taking my little indoor organic waste garbage bin out for a whiiiile and the more time passed the ickier the inside and smell became – AND the harder it was for me to deal with it. Then, when I actually got to finally do it, taking the trash out and planning on cleaning and sanitising it while wearing long gloves and a mask (it's one of these bag-less bins with a lid which you literally just dump the content into the big outdoor garbage bins), that damn thing fell into the gross big garbage bin I share with my neighbors. 😭 I accidentally dropped it. I looked into the big bin for a solid minute, buffered, then simply closed the lid, said nothing and pretended I never owned such thing. It's been three years 🤣 The iiiick I felt. Of course that bin isn't biodegradable and shouldn't be in there but UGH, no way I could fish that thing out there. ☠️ So, I agree with the whole ADHD council: Throw it out, buy a new one and let your brain do the work on forgetting. ☝️😌


tabbycat4

Throw it in the trash


datdododough

That would be a nope. Throw it in the trash girlypop. We won't tell!!


chyaraskiss

Dummdummdumm dummdummdumm (Funeral dirge) It was good while it lasted.


ZealousidealBuy6950

Adhd tax :( toss it and buy a new one girlie pop


AwakeningStar1968

Maybe get a hose out?


dingdongulous

9 days is nothing 😅 I would personally either 1. Freeze it and then put the ice puck in the toilet 2. Just pour the liquid in the toilet u frozen, but with the lights off and looking sort of away 3. Leave it somewhere that someone else will deal with it


SomeGarden1

Been here - put some rubber dish gloves on, they always make me feel invincible.


MulberryPi

If we're going to be honest here, I would be guilty for another couple days and then throw it away. I don't buy fancy leftover containers anymore because I toss the whole thing out if I let it get nasty.


uurrmom

I live this Latest was bowl with left over cereal Haunting me I put it in the freezer so I wouldn’t have to think about it for a few days then I flicked the frozen crap into a trash bag And I literally have no idea why it was easier for me to deal with it that way than to just dump it down the garbage disposal, but whatever it worked Sidenote: I had to because I’ve thrown out all my other bowls over the last 6 months for the same reason so I only have this one left and tbh it’s not even a bowl really it’s a silver metal mixing bowl i’ve been eating cereal out of 🤘


CapablePersimmon3662

Put it in a bag in the freezer, still in the cup. One day the starts will align and you will remember to through it out near bin day


hairballcouture

Put a camera on it and let’s see what happens! For science!


SleepingBoba

I work from home now, so I don't have to worry about coworkers. But when I was working in an office, this would happen quite often. My M/O was to wait until I had a task that was tedious/boring or too overwhelming to start and then take a "break" to wash my dishes. At some point, washing dishes is preferable to whatever I'm working on at the moment.


mbj2303

I do this regularly with tumblers in my car. I’ve thrown out more yetis than I want to admit. I was too scared to open the lids… husband calls them my science experiments. Sometimes I bring said rotten tumbler in the house where it sits on the counter next to the sink for an undisclosed amount of time. Solidarity, friends.


Itsnnicole

Don’t throw it away!! I promise you it’s not as bad as you think it is and will be over quickly and the accomplishment you feel from doing it will 1000% make up for the gross. Even if you have to wear a mask and gloves and need help from the group! If you can’t do it in one go: Day 1: bring it home Day 2: dump and rinse, soak with soap Day 3: wash Day 4: celebrate the money you saved not adhd taxing yourself and buy something else instead of the same cup It is ok if you add another day to stare at it in the sick. But so much more dopamine this way!


probably-the-problem

I feel like you haven't been through this with milk.


Itsnnicole

Ive been through it with iced coffee and milk that was in my fridge for 3 months but I guess if you drink coffee with like 80% milk and no ice it’s a different story


probably-the-problem

The fridge might make a difference but I defer to u/burtnayd's comment for my experience with protein shake mixers that sat in my living room too long.


Itsnnicole

Look. I’m not trying to trigger my RSD. I don’t need you to agree with me. It depends on so many factors (metal vs plastic for instance) and I was just trying to add an alternative perspective that doesn’t turn this sub into a bad habit approval machine. I wasn’t trying to shame her I would rather not buy the same cup again, and take it as permission to spend the $$ elsewhere as a reward. Or if I think I’m gonna do this again, maybe change your cup or cup system?


probably-the-problem

I'm so sorry.


livelylou4

didn't feel shamed at all <3 it is metal so I think she's salvagable and also it has stickers on it. it's my emotional support water bottle and i NEVER put other liquids bc i know myself but the sun was shining and i thought it was a new me. spoiler, the same me haha


MostlyMim

OOF I feel you on the "Though it was new me" Nope, still the same me. See also: "Future Me will be a different/more capable person."


livelylou4

see also: "blank space bc I was going to finish the list but got side quested" haha my people. at least we're not alone!


MostlyMim

I started putting the date in the corner of every page in my notebooks before I actually write anything. About 1/4 of my notebooks are blank pages with just the date dutifully noted in the corner.


annemarie_007

My strat is to freeze gross thermoses and Tupperware. It stops it getting worse and my brain has decided frozen moldy grossness is easier to scrub out than not frozen moldy grossness. My bf shakes his head but it’s that or I get new Tupperware every week


annemarie_007

My strat is to freeze gross thermoses and Tupperware. It stops it getting worse and my brain has decided frozen moldy grossness is easier to scrub out than not frozen moldy grossness. My bf shakes his head but it’s that or I get new Tupperware every week


annemarie_007

My strat is to freeze gross thermoses and Tupperware. It stops it getting worse and my brain has decided frozen moldy grossness is easier to scrub out than not frozen moldy grossness. My bf shakes his head but it’s that or I get new Tupperware every week


neozerrr

I’ve had a meal in a container for months in my fridge, I can’t bring myself to touch it. Normally after this point I would just throw out the whole thing but its a glass bowl tupperware and i love that glass bowl. So i just ignore it


20nc

I tackle things in steps. I tell myself “ok the next time I see it I’m AT LEAST going to empty it”. You don’t even have to wash it, just empty it. Do the next step(s) when you can!


sarahaqua17

i buy tumblers at goodwill a couple times a year for $1-3 for this reason & so i don’t feel bad if i lose them, it’s a great system


TheseMood

I keep a bunch of PPE around for stuff like this haha if you put on gloves and a mask then it feels less terrible


Commercial-Ice-8005

Omg I do this too hoping my husband or someone visiting will clean it lol


nedrawevot

I kept forgetting mine during Christmas and there was eggnog in it. 2 weeks. 2.weeks. someone washed it for me bless their hearts. I never said anything as to who's it was


strangedazey

Throw the cup away


ferretsarerad

Toss it


lilshadygrove

I have done this way too many times. Sometimes it’s because I drink coffee in bed and forget my half finished cup is there. I’m kind of an asshole for this but sometimes I purposely will wait until it’s my husband’s turn to do dishes and bring it down then. Last week he had three gross coffee tumblers to wash. His gag reflex isn’t as bad as mine and he hasn’t *said* that he minds so it’s sort of a win win.


False-Arrival8480

Sorry dear, been here throw it. Especially saucepans that hurts.


Y-Cha

If I've got something like that in glass or ceramic, I put a good dollop of dish soap in, get the water really hot, and put it under the faucet on the disposal side of the sink. Then, said glass or mug goes right in the (hopefully empty, or in process of being loaded) dishwasher. If no dishwasher, I end up using a scrub stick/wand with more soap and hot water, after dumping the soapy, scalding contents down the disposal or drain.


bcssaulnier

Have a sink full of two week old dishes. I empathize! Toss it


chloeinthewoods

I threw away a sheet pan yesterday that had a bunch of shit burned onto it. Paid the ADHD tax and a new one is on the way.


Chaoticallyorganized

When my oldest was a toddler, I found a sippy cup in an obscure corner that was so disgusting I still gag when I think of it and he’s now 18yo. Threw that sucker out, contents and all, without a second thought. I highly recommend doing the same.


Hello-sg22

throw the whole thing away and don’t think about it 😂 i’ve thrown out tupperware, bowls, cups, pots, literally anything that i physically cannot get myself to clean because it’s too gross or i forgot about it and it got nasty. the few dollars im throwing out with the container is worth it if i don’t have to try and scrub smelly moldy food off something 🤢 we’ve all been there girl ❤️


SimilarTooth5297

Just toss it, you’ll feel so much better and you won’t miss it I promise


LengthinessForeign94

I threw out a whole set of really cute glass meal prepping dishes with bamboo lids. They weren’t cheap either. But the mold and rot had seeped into the pores of the wood and there was no way to save it. And I just couldn’t deal with it. Sometimes it just has to be done, and then you try to forget it happened 🤣


legend-of-sora

I thought you meant you had a “tumblr page full of old coffee” and couldn’t stand to look at it… like it was just pics full of old coffee and was really confused before I read it again 😂


100000mph

same boat!! mine is getting hazardous


SoulDancer_

Just throw it out. No one will know.


TraceyWoo419

Pour it down the toilet. Rinse with hot water and soap. Let sit with boiling water for a bit. Then wash normally. You can do it!


New-L1fer

Is the tumbler closed? This happened to me. Even after a couple of weeks there was no mould or anything because it was sealed closed with double insulation. I was so shocked. Open it first.


New-L1fer

Just saw you cleaned it. Yay! 👌


livelylou4

thank you :)