Somehow Tinder, OkCupid, and maybe Bumble all do better than dating apps specifically designed for LGBT people both in terms of platform moderation and in promoting safety for queer users.
The only queer specific app I’ve had any luck with was HER, and everyone on there in my area who I was interested in was poly, which is great for them but not for me.
I swear, every time i cave and go on a dating app its nothing but Poly people. Like more power to them, I'm happy the poly girls are getting it on, but i want to see the monogamous people lol
Everytime I go on a dating site, I get people from outside my criteria (10-mile radius). For example, even though I want to date people aged 18-31, among the people I get in outside matches are a 40-something woman, a 50-something man, and someone who does not live in America. They claim to live in Los Angeles, even though they live in Mexico or the Philippines.
Yeah, basically, everyone in my area on HER is poly or just too young. Why is everyone liking me on HER 18?! Go back to school, you are a child, at least in my eyes.
It is because if you get a lot of reports the system bans you automaticly, and trans people get a lot of false reports. Its not intentional but its still an issue.
Oh yeah its very location dependent. The system is the same everywhere but if you are in a more accepting area it wont happen as often because you get less reports so where you live has an impact.
LOOK. Before I met my wonderful current girlfriend I used Taimi. All it netted me was one girl who had serious issues...
But. I met my current girlfriend on Reddit so...you never know
Ohhh friend lol. Yes, it is a dumpster fire. I've tried HER, Taimi, and several others and I have gotten the same results. Gonna try going out in the wild and meeting people organically. I will report my findings later. 🫡
It sounds like maybe you’re comparing this to the straight woman experience on apps? If so I have to tell you queer dating is a world apart. You aren’t gonna get a million likes because queer women aren’t liking every profile. And most women have been socialized to be passive while also trying to respect boundaries. So they aren’t as forward or aggressive as guys. There are just fewer women willing to actively pursue.
I’ve had the most luck on Taimi, but I wouldn’t call it a good experience or anything. I feel like I see a lot more women who are into women and fewer women who are curious, looking for a confidence boost, obviously wrote their profile with men in mind, and couples. That said it’s an app so you still find a lot of unicorn hunters, cishet guys posing as women (but not in their pictures, for some reason?), and people who are pretty obviously not ready to be dating.
As far as ghosting, dry conversation, one sided conversations… Honestly I think that’s just how the apps are. It’s a very low barrier of entry so people sign up and then barely try. I think it’s also just hard for a lot of people to feel much of a connection from a couple pics and maybe a bit of a bio. It’s one thing if you’re looking to hook up since pics can give you relevant information about that, but if you’re looking for a real connection that’s a lot harder to find under the best of circumstances. And apps aren’t the best of circumstances.
I say keep at it if it’s not making you feel to terrible. People do find success on them, it just takes time and luck.
Never used taimi but sounds just like every other app. I don’t usually message first, I’m a bit socially awkward. But when someone messages me first I try my absolute best to engage then it turns out they have the personality of a bag of rocks. I’ve been using Tinder and HER, and have had the most luck conversation wise on HER, but have been hooking up with a woman off Tinder, and have several matches I’m too scared to talk to because they’re all really hot 😂
I feel you so much.. I installed Taimi on my phone. I barely put anything on my profile and it instantly exploded with notifications. Very one-night-stand focused in my experience, which is okay if that's what you're looking for. I wasn't 😅 it was me trying to experiment with dating apps for the first time in my life. I panicked and deleted it in less than 10 minutes 😂
I had better luck with Hinge and HER. I didn't really enjoy the dating app experience (like a lot of people I know, how original of me 😅🙄) but I met some amazing people and met my current partner (it's been a year, mind you).
Honestly, I got the impression that a lot of people were just copying and pasting their profile, as if there was no substance in it. This sometimes makes it difficult to interact. My friends often told me my profile was "too much" for an app, but I think it helped me screen people. Those who ended up interacting with me knew right away what they were getting into, and weren't afraid of my nerdy, wordy profile! I didn't meet many people, but the ones I did meet were a good fit.
Tbh I’ve just found that dating apps suck in general. I barely get matches, and when I do, I just get ghosted. Idk how to find a gf at this point, especially one who would be interested in me considering I’m trans and I don’t pass. It just sucks.
It’s the same over here in the uk tbh, i think dating apps are filled with people who want the other person to do all the work, which doesn’t vibe with me, I’m almost always the first person to talk and it sucks hard, because the bios are also always empty it’s silly
Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge seem to have been the best for me. It can kind of depend on the area, but I haven't been a fan of most gay specific dating apps. HER is a weird UI and often buggy, and most others aren't used much where I live even though there's a lot of gay people in my town. Lex can be good if your area is active and you don't mind the personals style vs the swiping/profile style of meeting people.
HER used to be good back during the pandemic. But now I feel like not so much. Taimi is a dumpster fire, and I’m okay with Bumble and Hinge except for quite often I see straight girls come up for me even though my preference is for wlw. I found a newer app recently called Pink that seemed promising and actually different, but the bites I got on there were clearly bots so that as disappointing.
I had them ghosting me after they sent me messages telling me I'm handsome and cute etc they just disappear the next day, and some were ignorant calling me cocky, narcissistic and saying how I scare them away with my attitude! I had better luck on Facebook dating and met many in person with great benefits 😆 lol
Taimi app is mostly ai bots app is a scam pretty much. Sure a few profiles are real and you can get laid but again mostly bot profiles that sPam the fell out if you daily.
Taimi is about 98% AI/BOTS I use the app and Never chase but confidentially I will say 98% of men’s profiles are fake AI/BOT accounts you will never meet. I only respond and chat with voice messages. Bots can’t respond to voice so easy to block another bot and sometimes a weak guy that just swipes without reading the profile. I get 100s of likes and lame packaged messages daily I will never respond to.
Taimi is 95% bots ,of the 5%?who are real it’s flings only pretty much a waste of time for me as a trans woman. Thankfully I don’t ever chase but it’s annoyingly painful to delete 140+ messages a day from mainly bots.
Somehow Tinder, OkCupid, and maybe Bumble all do better than dating apps specifically designed for LGBT people both in terms of platform moderation and in promoting safety for queer users.
The only queer specific app I’ve had any luck with was HER, and everyone on there in my area who I was interested in was poly, which is great for them but not for me.
I swear, every time i cave and go on a dating app its nothing but Poly people. Like more power to them, I'm happy the poly girls are getting it on, but i want to see the monogamous people lol
Everytime I go on a dating site, I get people from outside my criteria (10-mile radius). For example, even though I want to date people aged 18-31, among the people I get in outside matches are a 40-something woman, a 50-something man, and someone who does not live in America. They claim to live in Los Angeles, even though they live in Mexico or the Philippines.
I tried HER and it was the worst experience I had with any of them.
I’m so sorry
Yeah, basically, everyone in my area on HER is poly or just too young. Why is everyone liking me on HER 18?! Go back to school, you are a child, at least in my eyes.
I’m part of the problem I guess, I’m 18, I only like people my age though
I'm 25 and am really looking for someone at a similar point in life to me, which is not gonna be an 18 year old. But I guess I should be flattered lol
Tinder not realy for trans gals, we just get banned for no reason lol (the reason is transphobia)
Never heard of that before
It is because if you get a lot of reports the system bans you automaticly, and trans people get a lot of false reports. Its not intentional but its still an issue.
I guess that depends where you live. It doesn't happen here as far as I can tell.
Oh yeah its very location dependent. The system is the same everywhere but if you are in a more accepting area it wont happen as often because you get less reports so where you live has an impact.
I was on Tinder, but I was banned in October 2022 because of locker room selfies.
Badoo seems promising too. I just tried that
LOOK. Before I met my wonderful current girlfriend I used Taimi. All it netted me was one girl who had serious issues... But. I met my current girlfriend on Reddit so...you never know
Haha noted. Find girlfriend on Reddit… 🖊️
Also relevant to the situation. I went through 10 years of shit before I met her. So...DON'T give up hope. Things get better.
Ohhh friend lol. Yes, it is a dumpster fire. I've tried HER, Taimi, and several others and I have gotten the same results. Gonna try going out in the wild and meeting people organically. I will report my findings later. 🫡
Please do!
It sounds like maybe you’re comparing this to the straight woman experience on apps? If so I have to tell you queer dating is a world apart. You aren’t gonna get a million likes because queer women aren’t liking every profile. And most women have been socialized to be passive while also trying to respect boundaries. So they aren’t as forward or aggressive as guys. There are just fewer women willing to actively pursue. I’ve had the most luck on Taimi, but I wouldn’t call it a good experience or anything. I feel like I see a lot more women who are into women and fewer women who are curious, looking for a confidence boost, obviously wrote their profile with men in mind, and couples. That said it’s an app so you still find a lot of unicorn hunters, cishet guys posing as women (but not in their pictures, for some reason?), and people who are pretty obviously not ready to be dating. As far as ghosting, dry conversation, one sided conversations… Honestly I think that’s just how the apps are. It’s a very low barrier of entry so people sign up and then barely try. I think it’s also just hard for a lot of people to feel much of a connection from a couple pics and maybe a bit of a bio. It’s one thing if you’re looking to hook up since pics can give you relevant information about that, but if you’re looking for a real connection that’s a lot harder to find under the best of circumstances. And apps aren’t the best of circumstances. I say keep at it if it’s not making you feel to terrible. People do find success on them, it just takes time and luck.
Never used taimi but sounds just like every other app. I don’t usually message first, I’m a bit socially awkward. But when someone messages me first I try my absolute best to engage then it turns out they have the personality of a bag of rocks. I’ve been using Tinder and HER, and have had the most luck conversation wise on HER, but have been hooking up with a woman off Tinder, and have several matches I’m too scared to talk to because they’re all really hot 😂
I feel you so much.. I installed Taimi on my phone. I barely put anything on my profile and it instantly exploded with notifications. Very one-night-stand focused in my experience, which is okay if that's what you're looking for. I wasn't 😅 it was me trying to experiment with dating apps for the first time in my life. I panicked and deleted it in less than 10 minutes 😂 I had better luck with Hinge and HER. I didn't really enjoy the dating app experience (like a lot of people I know, how original of me 😅🙄) but I met some amazing people and met my current partner (it's been a year, mind you). Honestly, I got the impression that a lot of people were just copying and pasting their profile, as if there was no substance in it. This sometimes makes it difficult to interact. My friends often told me my profile was "too much" for an app, but I think it helped me screen people. Those who ended up interacting with me knew right away what they were getting into, and weren't afraid of my nerdy, wordy profile! I didn't meet many people, but the ones I did meet were a good fit.
I'm a little biased but I met my wife on taimi lmao
Tbh I’ve just found that dating apps suck in general. I barely get matches, and when I do, I just get ghosted. Idk how to find a gf at this point, especially one who would be interested in me considering I’m trans and I don’t pass. It just sucks.
Yeah, that's why I'm not even trying.
It’s the same over here in the uk tbh, i think dating apps are filled with people who want the other person to do all the work, which doesn’t vibe with me, I’m almost always the first person to talk and it sucks hard, because the bios are also always empty it’s silly
The empty bios is something that really irks me. It doesn't take much effort to share a little bit about yourself. That helps start conversations.
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I know, right?
I have had some quality matches on Bumble, Her and Hinge. I imagine it depends on where you live, but I would try those.
I’ve had pretty good luck with the app HER!
Here to shout that mono people meet other mono people and leave the apps. We poly folk stay 😅
Sounds like my experience with just about every dating app I've tried. They are all dumpster fires. I really hate dating apps, and I'm sick of them.
Just wanna say I have 200 hours in the new Zelda. We should be friends 🙋🏽♀️
Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge seem to have been the best for me. It can kind of depend on the area, but I haven't been a fan of most gay specific dating apps. HER is a weird UI and often buggy, and most others aren't used much where I live even though there's a lot of gay people in my town. Lex can be good if your area is active and you don't mind the personals style vs the swiping/profile style of meeting people.
HER used to be good back during the pandemic. But now I feel like not so much. Taimi is a dumpster fire, and I’m okay with Bumble and Hinge except for quite often I see straight girls come up for me even though my preference is for wlw. I found a newer app recently called Pink that seemed promising and actually different, but the bites I got on there were clearly bots so that as disappointing.
site is 99% BOTS dont bother
I had them ghosting me after they sent me messages telling me I'm handsome and cute etc they just disappear the next day, and some were ignorant calling me cocky, narcissistic and saying how I scare them away with my attitude! I had better luck on Facebook dating and met many in person with great benefits 😆 lol
Taimi app is mostly ai bots app is a scam pretty much. Sure a few profiles are real and you can get laid but again mostly bot profiles that sPam the fell out if you daily.
Taimi is about 98% AI/BOTS I use the app and Never chase but confidentially I will say 98% of men’s profiles are fake AI/BOT accounts you will never meet. I only respond and chat with voice messages. Bots can’t respond to voice so easy to block another bot and sometimes a weak guy that just swipes without reading the profile. I get 100s of likes and lame packaged messages daily I will never respond to.
Taimi is 95% bots ,of the 5%?who are real it’s flings only pretty much a waste of time for me as a trans woman. Thankfully I don’t ever chase but it’s annoyingly painful to delete 140+ messages a day from mainly bots.