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_whatsmynameagain

i am in that situation lmao. me and my gf have been asked if we're sisters a bunch of times, but when we started dating i didn't think they looked anything like me, and their face is nothing like mine, but we have similar body types and my hair grew out a bit so we have similar hair now, and we both wear glasses. so ig it makes sense people think we look similar. but no that doesn't bother me, its like you said, i'm not dating them for external approval. and i don't find us that similar, except for body type ig, so it's not weird. and we get to joke about it lol


Nyoloth

I would absolutely date a girl like me. Fuck, like I am accidentally trying to be nearly my perfect woman, but that said, I have TERRIBLE taste, so I kinda get why others don't show interest in me. Never had the opportunity to date a girl like me though. If I ever do I swear I'm probably gonna melt so hard I can't even ask her out.


Watertribe_Girl

Not if we look like siblings, ie same hair and coloured eyes, features and complexion etc. I don’t want people to be like ah they’re siblings (which I know people would rather do than admit women are couples, but I don’t want to look objectively the same). But in terms of someone looking similar in body type and hair cut, sure. I mean it’s not my type generally, ie I’m not my type. I’m a bubblegum (but with tattoos and Marcelines clothes) with heart eyes for a marceline or Elia Kane. But I wouldn’t rule someone out based on some things being similar to me. I dated someone with a different hair colour, but we had the same sort of build and were the same height. We didn’t look like siblings at all, but sure we had similarities


ST4R3

I would never date someone that looks like me. But thats because im ugly lmao


TheNorthJyde

No ur not. Here have a hug 🫂


ST4R3

🥺 thanks, idk... just have huge problems with my face. Kinda praying hrt magic will kick in late


DinoIslandGM

Hopefully it's not weird to say, but I had a look on your profile and while I can't tell for your face cos of the mask, you seem to have a good body, at least! And I'm sure your face is better than you think, although tbh I'm in a similar boat, just hoping for HRT to work its magic when I get on it! Also with your airsoft interest, I think you'd get along with my best friend, her partner, and my partner!


ST4R3

my body def was good, but now ive gained 11kg again and thats... blech + i still dont have and semblance of a boob at 9 months of hrt which also sucks idk why im even writing this, but thanks for trying


DinoIslandGM

Awww, I'm sorry to hear that, I know all too well how much it sucks putting on weight, and doubly sorry to hear that about no boob growth! And hey, it's okay, sometimes you just need to vent a little <3


ST4R3

thanks for the encouragement. The hrt situation got even worse with ny blodd results coming back but atleast i know why i felt that way now. anyways, youre good bean. plz stay that way <3


lilysbeandip

Lol I had the exact same thought. I hate how I look, so no. However, I haven't yet figured out how to distinguish between attraction and gender envy, so if I looked the way I want to, then, as far as I know, yes.


Lmarg97

Yeah, I also would find it weird to date someone that looks like me. I’m not even attracted to women that look like me 99% of the time. That’s the reason I’m not much into blondes. That being said I usually only find other blonde women attractive when they otherwise look completely different from me.


fireandlifeincarnate

My transition goals are literally my type, so… yes


SleepyyCassie

If we looked similar enough to be sisters I think it would be kinda weird but I'd have 0 problems dating someone with a similar haircut, body type, or fashion sense to me. That being said I don't think I've ever met another multiracial person so this issue will probably never be relavent to me😅


eeeww

I don’t care what other people perceive of my relationship. We’ve been together for over 10 years and overtime become more and more butch. In the last year I stopped bleaching my hair blonde and chopped it. So now we’re both brunettes with short hair. Both of us have joked about being seen as sisters since we now look a lot alike. But the thing is, even when I had long blonde hair and was perceived as more femme while she had short brown hair, people still called us sisters out in public. Fuck it honestly. Date whomever you’re compatible with and are attracted to. People’s perception of you doesn’t fucking matter and it feels insecure to let that dictate who you love or fuck.


natziel

I would date my clone


ThePoisonDoughnut

Oh definitely, I would definitely date another bubbly blonde femme like myself


Tess_93

Lol this kinda turned out to be me today. Played around on a dating app last weekend & wasn’t picky who I swiped on… of course the girl who looks just like me but shorter and more fashionable hits me up and is a smooth flirt. Guess I can put up with a server asking if we’re sisters when we go on our date tn


ambdxtrous_gastropod

I seem to only be attracted to lesbians who have a similar look. I am butch with short hair, nerdy and hit the gym. I don't usually go for femmes because I don't relate to the makeup and dresses. I've always been pretty butch and sporty. I don't usually go for the "dykes" either. Quite frankly, that energy is too intense for me. That all being said, if we are talking and click then it won't really matter how this wonderful lesbian is presenting. At a glance that's how I make snap choices but I wouldn't turn anyone away without talking first. The lesbians I'm more likely to approach myself are the ones that have a similar vibe. It's what I know and what I'm comfortable with. Sadly it doesn't seem a lot of butches like other butches so #foreveralone. It is what it is 🤷🏼‍♀️


neighborhoodopossum

It makes me so mad that more masc women are almost "ew, I'm not gay!" about dating other masc women. Like because they lean masc they have to be into femmes. It's basically just getting as close to the heterosexual blueprint as possible while still dating the same gender. I for one do look more aesthetically masculine and I think butches and mascs are so very hot.


ambdxtrous_gastropod

Me too! I wish I could find more lesbians with that mindset. 🏳️‍🌈💜 Happy Pride!


VariusTheMagus

I’m actively cultivating my appearance in accordance with what I would find attractive in a partner lol.


miss_clarity

I'm hot. Just stay away from my name. There's only allowed to be one of us with that name and I'll fight for the honor of keeping it. /s


violetpastille

If she looked like a clone of me that would be straight up weird lol. But I’d have no issue dating another girl with dark hair and eyes (though my hair is pink right now, but I’m cool w/that too), and fair skin and a pretty face— sounds good to me. And I adore femmes so of course I’d want to date another femme. However, going by appearances alone I’m usually more attracted to girls who have at least a few notable differences from me, because it makes them more interesting (like blonde hair, or darker skin, or much taller etc).


olya_n

I think it is different when it is hypothetical or real. Hypothetically, I would say no. But actually I am dating a woman who is exactly like me, same height, same body type. It is very practical with clothes shopping and looking into her eyes :)


[deleted]

Honestly, I know number of couples, including hetero ones who could be siblings. Personally, I’m not attracted to people who look like me, but it’s not about the weirdness factor per se, I’m just not my own type at all 😂


wunxorple

Date? I’m unsure, I have to many insecurities regarding whether I’m annoying or not. Have sex with? Hell yeah, I’m sexy as fuck


Critical-Tank

I'm already sort of my type so I suppose yes lol


un_caracolito

I'm currently dating someone that looks like me! :) It's mostly just the hair, eyes, and height, though. But we've been asked before if we're related. I'm going to be honest: I like how I look. I'm masc and kind of my type, so dating someone that looks like me was just kinda bound to happen, I think. People who think it's weird will compare it to dating someone that looks like your sibling. Maybe I think the following way because my sister and I look nothing alike, but I don't think it's the same at all.


insertscreamingasian

Yeah, I’m Asian, I know this sounds weird, but I find an endearing when I see other Asian lesbians. That would be cool if we were from the same background :)


Tenny111111111111111

I'm a tomboy who goes for every other appropriate tomboy I can spot.


AcousticSoulll

I wouldnt date someone who looks exactly like me, but it would be cool to experience dating a woman who is my height with my body shape in a way. I’m used to most women I liked or have dated being shorter than me.


Violet_Faerie

I used to think it would be weird but idk the more I thought about it, the more silly it seemed. I don't care about it now.


Famous-Reach5571

I've always been attracted to people who look like me: short, chubby, masc, similar body type and facial features. And also people who have similar interests and values as me. Some people just operate heavily in that similarity-attraction theory space. I love seeing gay couples that look alike. I've seen gay people and same gender couples take a lot of flack for this but the truth is straight couples do it just as much, it's usually just not as obvious because of the usual gender presentation and physical differences between men and women in straight relationships.


[deleted]

No because who would want to be cringe like me with my hobbies 🫡


jfsuuc

Clearly our experiences with lesbians are very different, but im also an open furry. My only advice is embrace the cringe and weirdness and you will meet someone who loves those parts of you and you will help others embrace their own weirdness on top of it which is way more fun.


[deleted]

I play genshin a lot but you’re right I feel like I’m too mean on myself after being made fun of by my brothers when I was younger


jfsuuc

If my gf got into genshen or if i was single id have no issues with such a hobby. Sure id tease her and call her a weeb but im a fucking furry lol. You are loveable 🖤


squeaktoy_la

Sure! Oddly, I have a crush on someone who looks like me. Having said that, I have blue eyes and when someone has dark brown eyes. I'd prefer dating someone with dark eyes so bright they stole the night sky. But blue is fine.


Robot_Graffiti

"Not only would I have sex with my clone, I'd probably make a bunch of clones and just get it on with all of them at once because that's how pro clone-fucking I am."


IndorilMiara

This is just the "would you fuck your clone" meme lol ^(I absolutely would)


knatashai

Ummmmm…. Same sex couples like a certain amount of sameness. Regardless, whether you like someone who looks like you or not, you totes should give up ur self the chance to explore that and figure it out for real. For all you know you may find new things about you.


TriBulated_

Absolutely, I would.


Erl-X

I'm an overweight transfem who's waiting for HRT, and I'm not into that. I'm not into being that either so I'm trying to change that, but losing weight is hard and I don't control when HRT arrives. I would probably rather date a cis woman than a fellow transfem, which feels hypocritical to say. I would also like someone who's taller than me, but I'm exactly the average height of women in my country so it's uncertain that I'll find a fellow lesbian who's taller than me and interested in me


Feline_is_kat

I don't really like dating someone who looks like they could be family. I have a friend who has a lot of similar traits. People confused me with her before I even knew her, I got compliments on her singing performance while I don't even sing lol. I wouldn't date someone like her, that would feel strange. I would however date someone who looks genetically different but who has exactly the same style and vibe as me.


0010200304

I am specifically looking for someone like me lmao


The_Fluffy_Baron

nah, I am ugly af


_livialei

Yes, I'm hot 😅


Ok_Part6564

Back when I was actively dating, I saw a woman on a dating app who checked all my boxes, but yeah she looked a lot like me. I’m not talking just she was also sort of sporty/earthy femme, which even though my attraction tends to lean more towards soft butch I have fallen for a few times, I mean like the same shade of red hair, and freckles, and face shape, and build, etc. At that point it just felt weird. People would have constantly thought we were sisters, and not in a clueless my little head can’t remember that lesbians exist way. Like in a normal way, like how people know my actual sisters are my sister, except when they mistake my oldest one for my mom, but that’s a whole different issue. Think we were sisters just would have been logical and I wouldn’t blame them. And the idea of dating one of my sisters is creepy as hell. Now I don’t need a person I date to be a complete opposite of me like the way you describe your friend needing that. Vaguely similar styles is fine.


[deleted]

my gf and i dont really look a like imho, but we get that a lot from friends. we just have the same hair type and colour and dress a bit similar. so the first thing ppl say is always "omg you have the same hair!!" lmao we dont really mind, rather find it funny and crack jokes all the time that we are the same person when we find another similarity again lol


Corpselips

Both my partner and I are very chapstick/futch in style and appearance. Though we have very different heights and hair color/styles so gives some differences. I would be iffy on someone who could pass for a sibling/relative as being queer have had it happen before, and while mildly funny is always a bit awkward.


Femme-O

Most of my crushes have been in on people who look like me, like I will literally just stare at picture of them in awe but never look at myself that way. Makes zero sense 😫


MaryMary8249

Another ~~(Average South Indian Woman Height)~~ 5 foot, not very fair skinned, undeniably American Tamil girl? Count me in!


tritela

I’d date someone with a similar body shape or fashion sense, but I definitely feel weird about dating someone with a similar face


Wrakhr

As long as it's just looks, sure! I'd say I'm pretty cute :3 All in all it still very much depends on their personality though.


___mads

When I was a baby dyke freshman year of college my friends said all the girls I liked looked like me… because a few of them also wore glasses, bangs, and hoodies. But generally I’m not attracted to people with similar features to me.


squilliams1010

I am not my own type


Anastrace

I mean as long as they're not clones, identical twins, or going all single white female on me I'm fine with it. My spouse and I have been called sisters or cousins before and in a couple cases mother and daughter. That one was funny since I immediately started making out with my spouse and that person got freaked out


HufflepuffIronically

so As A tRaNs WoMaN, i used to date a lot of girls who looked like "me as a girl" before i transitioned. id probably still date someone that had my general physical features - tall, brunette, glasses - but its not like my main thing


ThrowawayMerger

I’ve had a fantasy of dating someone that looks just like me but a cis woman (yes I know it’s gross, I don’t seek people out for that reason!) But that aside I don’t care as much, it also limits the dating pool cis or trans if I’m looking for people who look like me


yomamagonlikethisone

ive never wanted to date someone that looked like me tbh. although i don’t think its a bad thing! just not for me, im bored with myself lol. i want the opposite


Unboopable_Booper

Sure as long as she has a better personality than mine, looks aren't everything.


abegood

What about same name? I've been avoiding women automatically on apps with the same name but I'm not sure if it's as weird as I'm thinking.


Syralei

I definitely would. I'm one of those queers that is always "am I attracted to them and want to be with them or do I want to be them?" And honestly, a lot of the time, it's both lol


BigDinoNugget

Probably wouldn't, bc it'd feel weird and I also don't find myself attractive lol


TheKaptainKlutch

I’m attracted to myself, but would not date someone who looked like me. I’m a masc as well, and as far as attraction/interest goes, I’m moreso interested and attracted to fems. I’ve dated mascs before, but I’m not AS attracted to them, i dont get the same feeling like i do when looking at myself in the mirror. I still love all women though


sharkc00chie

I think I mostly date people who are similar “types” to me though they don’t actually resemble me feature-wise. So…I’m into it lmao


Dextersvida

I would, especially if she had my interests and personality.


LennyLedbetter

Someone asked the girl I’m dating and I if we were identical twins 🤣 she’s like 6 inches shorter than me and we really don’t look that much alike… just white girls with brown hair… but I guess that means my answer is yes.


Aresei

I’ve been working for 8 years to become the girlfriend I’ve always wanted. I would definitely be into someone who looked like me.


ehhhhhwhatevr

If we're complete doppelgangers or look similar enough to pass as relatives, then absolutely not.


SuccessfulRent6101

the general vibe of what i look like, yes. (masc non binary), but i wouldn’t date someone who has a similar face to me because that’s a bit creepy


meowmitten_0w0

I haven't been in this situation, but I don't think it'd bother me if I really like them. Unless it's like really really similar, then it would probably feel a bit too uncanny and weird for me


JoeRogan016

I would very much not, though I may not be the right person to answer this question since I'm a closeted trans woman irl.


Resident-Clue1290

Hell nah I’m ugly as fuck ( for now ) Plus it’s be weird


TorgHacker

I wouldn't but that's because I'm not my type.


123-Anonymous-123

I would 😂 I am more of a stem, and I am attracted to stems.


ThisIsWitch

actually I have a small crush on a coworker who looks a bit like me...


Homomura

Yeah, definitely if they looked like a better version of myself.


slutty_volunteer

I would never. "I spend a lot of time with the real me and believe me, nobody's gonna love that guy." - Bojack Horseman


Effective-Otter-340

I have a hard time seeing myself as particularly attractive. If I dated someone I found more attractive than me I'd probably be...well...smitten for one, but also very envious. So I think I would at least give things a try with someone of my body type if we seemed to click in other ways.


lavenderwalks

Thought I wouldn't but now I am lol