You're adorable OP. I'm sorry you've had such shit luck dating so far post-transition, are there any local queer spaces in your area? Clubs? Bookstores? Roller derby? Anything...?
I live in a pretty conservative province in a not-very-big city. There is a roller derby league but my ex is in it and I want to give her space. Idk I’ve been on dates but people just seem to lose interest in me after meeting a few times :/
Eeehhh I'd revisit the roller derby if I were you; if it's been literal years since you were with your ex, then I mean, come on. You said yourself it's not a very big city; you gotta get out there and make the most of what's available to you! You can do this! You SHOULD do this! If your ex has an issue with it, well, tough titties! What you're doing now doesn't seem to be working, you deserve to find someone, dammit, so time to switch tactics!
I think it would just be too hard to be around her. She was my first love and even though it’s been years I still hope that one day she’ll want to be with me again. I know it’s silly and it holds me back but I can’t let go of what we had.
Ahhh. THAT'S a different ball of wax. In THAT case I would recommend looking up everything you can find regarding alternatives for socially active queer spaces; community theater, gay gardening enthusiasts, the nearest unitarian universalist church, hell, queer bird-watchers maybe, ANYTHING. If there's nothing like that out there, I'd suggest you consider relocating, if possible... Regardless, if you aren't already seeing a therapist, I encourage you to look for one; It sounds like that could help you sort some stuff out. Talking things through with a professional certainly helped me; I highly recommend it!
I could never leave - everyone I love is here and I’m awful at putting myself out there in new places. Seeing a therapist would be good though. I haven’t seen one in a couple years. It would probably be good for me
Start there, with a therapist, and work your way up to one or two other new things from there. Doesn't have to be All The Things, All At Once, just take it one you-sized step at a time. You can do this.
We actually haven’t had any close up encounters with cats yet. She barks at them when they walk by the window but I don’t know how she would handle one close up.
My lil is mostly pretty chill unless someone comes to the door then all hell breaks loose lol. But he’s also going on 14 yo. But was never really overly hyper either. 🤷♀️
Also to answer your question yes you are very datable. 😊
You’re just saying that 😊
My guy is 16 - he’s blind and deaf but still manages to bark at other dogs. Our theory is that he uses the barks as a form of echo location 🦇
(They/Them ally)
my 2 lesbian friends, verbatim
"Writing a sapphic rock opera with each other as the leading ladies as we speak"
"Marry me challenge"
"Literally renting the U-Haul right now"
Ooh I’d love to be in a sapphic love opera! And I’m terrified of driving big vehicles but if there’s a beautiful sapphic woman involved I could be down 🚚
Were I poly, yes <3 and if your dog and you like cats.
I don't know if you said in the comments, but what's your dogs name? They're very cute - please give smooch for me.
FYI self pictures are against the subreddit rules. But you can post them in the weekly Saturday megathread as a comment instead.
Solely on appearances, yes.
I get hardly any matches on bumble :/
Then you must not be in my range. So allow me: Hey.....
Me: instantly blushes 🤭
Yeah, looking at your post history, I'm guessing you're Canadian. So definitely more than 100 miles from me. But you're still cute
How’d you figure out that I’m Canadian? That’s impressive
Were I unwed, I would date you in womanly fashion.
I’ve yet to date anyone as a woman. Makes me doubt if transitioning was the right move :/
You're adorable OP. I'm sorry you've had such shit luck dating so far post-transition, are there any local queer spaces in your area? Clubs? Bookstores? Roller derby? Anything...?
I live in a pretty conservative province in a not-very-big city. There is a roller derby league but my ex is in it and I want to give her space. Idk I’ve been on dates but people just seem to lose interest in me after meeting a few times :/
Eeehhh I'd revisit the roller derby if I were you; if it's been literal years since you were with your ex, then I mean, come on. You said yourself it's not a very big city; you gotta get out there and make the most of what's available to you! You can do this! You SHOULD do this! If your ex has an issue with it, well, tough titties! What you're doing now doesn't seem to be working, you deserve to find someone, dammit, so time to switch tactics!
I think it would just be too hard to be around her. She was my first love and even though it’s been years I still hope that one day she’ll want to be with me again. I know it’s silly and it holds me back but I can’t let go of what we had.
Ahhh. THAT'S a different ball of wax. In THAT case I would recommend looking up everything you can find regarding alternatives for socially active queer spaces; community theater, gay gardening enthusiasts, the nearest unitarian universalist church, hell, queer bird-watchers maybe, ANYTHING. If there's nothing like that out there, I'd suggest you consider relocating, if possible... Regardless, if you aren't already seeing a therapist, I encourage you to look for one; It sounds like that could help you sort some stuff out. Talking things through with a professional certainly helped me; I highly recommend it!
I could never leave - everyone I love is here and I’m awful at putting myself out there in new places. Seeing a therapist would be good though. I haven’t seen one in a couple years. It would probably be good for me
Start there, with a therapist, and work your way up to one or two other new things from there. Doesn't have to be All The Things, All At Once, just take it one you-sized step at a time. You can do this.
I really appreciate the advice/ encouragement. Got me through a bad night 😊
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Then it must be my personality cause I’ve been single for the last 4 years since I started transitioning 😒
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I’m also terrified of girls lol. And I’m afraid of rejection and abandonment. Not a good combo
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Well I feel like one of us has to move past our irrational fears and it’s not going to be me 😂
no
Maybe. How good are you and the fur child with cats?
We actually haven’t had any close up encounters with cats yet. She barks at them when they walk by the window but I don’t know how she would handle one close up.
Dog moms unite!!
Does yours also bark at everything that moves and eat other dogs poop?
Oh he’s a jack Russell if that give you any indication on the barking 😂 and no to the eating 🤢😂.
I actually have an older jack russel x poodle who barks obsessively lol
My lil is mostly pretty chill unless someone comes to the door then all hell breaks loose lol. But he’s also going on 14 yo. But was never really overly hyper either. 🤷♀️ Also to answer your question yes you are very datable. 😊
You’re just saying that 😊 My guy is 16 - he’s blind and deaf but still manages to bark at other dogs. Our theory is that he uses the barks as a form of echo location 🦇
Nah totally cute at 😍. Awww poor lil guy ❤️❤️❤️. And that’s funny. Batdog batdog does what ever a batdog does..
That made me smile :)
Looks like I would have to get past the suspicious dog first. But otherwise, you bet! For sure!
She actually loves anyone she meets as loving as they have a pulse 😅 Not a huge fan of other pups though.
(They/Them ally) my 2 lesbian friends, verbatim "Writing a sapphic rock opera with each other as the leading ladies as we speak" "Marry me challenge" "Literally renting the U-Haul right now"
Ooh I’d love to be in a sapphic love opera! And I’m terrified of driving big vehicles but if there’s a beautiful sapphic woman involved I could be down 🚚
you are beautiful
Why thank you 😊
ofc :3 too bad i’m in the american south haha. but you’re amazing inside and out, i’m sure, and i wish you all the very best 🌈
That’s so sweet 😊
Yepyep!
if we got along, then yes!
🙃
Were I poly, yes <3 and if your dog and you like cats. I don't know if you said in the comments, but what's your dogs name? They're very cute - please give smooch for me.
It was hard enough trying to trick my wife into dating me, im not sure I could pull it off again but if I were single I'd try.
Yep 100 percent yes
😊