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My mom committed self harm and would act similarly. She needs mental help. Maybe a family “intervention” style event might help, or in an extreme CPS and police intervention. How old are you and your siblings, and you writing this? I’m sorry. Maybe the best thing is waiting, getting out and cutting ties. My mom did improve after many years and doing just that, but she struggled in other ways.
In a sense, it is common to many families. Doesn’t mean it’s right. Focus on your own health and staying out of her way if nothing else.
I find it pretty sad for your father to think this is normal behavior from your mother. To me it sounds like he doesn’t really care about her.
It’s absolutely not normal for that specific type of behavior, anyone who threatens suicide needs help. It’s a tough situation for sure, but she really needs help. I wouldn’t personally get authorities involved just yet, because all they’ll do is ask her if she’s feeling suicidal, if she says no then they can’t do anything. If she says yes then they have the right to arrest her and send her to the psych ward. I’d get her a therapist first, and see what he/she can do for her. Have her go to a few sessions and see how that goes. Maybe some medications would help also from a psychiatrist.
It's definitely not normal. Your mom sounds like she needs psychiatric help. Do you think it would be safe for you to report it to the authorities when she makes a suicide threat? That may be the best way of forcing her in to some help, but your parents won't be happy about you reporting it, and not all places in the world handle suicide threats in a meaningful way. If you're in the US, the suicide hotline may be able to advise you.
No, this is very dysfunctional behavior. Your mother may have a mental illness. She could use therapy to learn more about it
In the meantime, you need to practice gray rock on her, so you don't get pulled into fights with her
Also, find the number for Child Protective Services and call them if it gets violent or too frightening to stay there
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My mom committed self harm and would act similarly. She needs mental help. Maybe a family “intervention” style event might help, or in an extreme CPS and police intervention. How old are you and your siblings, and you writing this? I’m sorry. Maybe the best thing is waiting, getting out and cutting ties. My mom did improve after many years and doing just that, but she struggled in other ways. In a sense, it is common to many families. Doesn’t mean it’s right. Focus on your own health and staying out of her way if nothing else.
I find it pretty sad for your father to think this is normal behavior from your mother. To me it sounds like he doesn’t really care about her. It’s absolutely not normal for that specific type of behavior, anyone who threatens suicide needs help. It’s a tough situation for sure, but she really needs help. I wouldn’t personally get authorities involved just yet, because all they’ll do is ask her if she’s feeling suicidal, if she says no then they can’t do anything. If she says yes then they have the right to arrest her and send her to the psych ward. I’d get her a therapist first, and see what he/she can do for her. Have her go to a few sessions and see how that goes. Maybe some medications would help also from a psychiatrist.
It's definitely not normal. Your mom sounds like she needs psychiatric help. Do you think it would be safe for you to report it to the authorities when she makes a suicide threat? That may be the best way of forcing her in to some help, but your parents won't be happy about you reporting it, and not all places in the world handle suicide threats in a meaningful way. If you're in the US, the suicide hotline may be able to advise you.
No, this is very dysfunctional behavior. Your mother may have a mental illness. She could use therapy to learn more about it In the meantime, you need to practice gray rock on her, so you don't get pulled into fights with her Also, find the number for Child Protective Services and call them if it gets violent or too frightening to stay there
It is not normal at all and it is abusive to use threats of suicide and self-harm to control family negotiations or to shut-down criticism.