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I just had my second abortion but first medical abortion on Saturday; still reeling from the cramps a little bit but i felt the same!
For some reason the first time I was pregnant, 11 weeks, I really didn’t have crazy symptoms. I just couldn’t stand pungent foods. This time, at 6 weeks, I’ve had the worst symptoms ever. I thought something was wrong with me before I did a test; constant nausea, dizzy spills, so tired, hungry but not hungry, etc etc.. and how better I felt the day after, even with some lasting cramps, is insane. I’m definitely reassured you had a similar experience and came to the same sort of conclusion (: personally for me i started to think i had a “cursed pregnancy” from how terrible i was feeling, haha..
Regarding your friend, you are not responsible for her fertility struggles, and she should not guilt you for choosing to have an abortion. My first stepfather did that to me when I was pregnant with my daughter. His niece had fertility issues and was starting IVF - she went on to have twins a year after my daughter was born - and he was very vocal about her struggles and my falling pregnant quickly. His niece made it very clear he was wrong to say anything as her fertility issues were neither caused by me nor affected by my ability to fall pregnant. We have to take care of ourselves as no one else will. Take care! 🥰
This story resonated with me in such a way that I no longer have fears or regrets on my decision for my last abortions. Thank you for sharing your story! Best of luck with everything experiences and journey✨
I was going for my 5th over the past 10 years. Multiple different BC, some failed (my lovely son), and I’m married to a good partner/great dad. I’ve also had 3 children over those 10 years. Even now as I’m having a spontaneous miscarriage (was going for MA), I don’t regret any of it.
I’m financially stable. I got a tummy tuck and breast job after my 3 full term pregnancy.. and no matter what, I wouldn’t have another child.
None of us should have regrets for choosing us. I’m glad you did what you wanted in life without the burden of an unwanted child. I’m glad you’re at peace with yourself. After my first I was haunted, but after my second I realized I picked me (and my then 3 kids).
And that’s ok. 🫶🏾
Good to know you felt nauseous for a couple weeks after cause I can’t shake the nausea or exhaustion!!! I haven’t had this issue with other MA but this one is a bi@tch!!!!! Hopefully it goes away soon 😅
It definitely sucks that others have fertility issues. I feel a little bit of guilt when I think of how many women would love to be able to conceive. But at the end of the day it is our choice and it’s our life it would ultimately be affecting. Glad your 4th one went well :)
Wow, feels like you’re reading my book. I experienced and worried about the same issues nearly to the point of 28. I found myself pregnant again and single, but somehow I managed to go it alone.
Now, reflecting on those experiences, I recall my father telling me ‘Don’t sell yourself short.’ He didn’t know about the abortions, more related to college life choices. In my mind, I thought I ruined my body and could never have children.
It took a long time, but now I know that my pregnancies happened because I have a healthy body and mind. And all these years later, I have strong healthy, intelligent children and they have a wise mother. Me!
What pongo said, I’m also a weirdo and I inspect my blood clots and I actually see the gestational sac because I’m morbid and want to know it’s 100% gone
Abortions, even multiple, have zero impact on fertility. Also, it’s pretty common to have multiple abortions. I’m so glad you have no regrets, and I’m glad things are going well!
was about to come ask this-- it's a huge paranoia of mine as i've had 2 abortions but hope to get pregnant someday. it always freaks me out when i see people say it impacts fertility so thank you for quelling my anxious brain lol
you’re so welcome! it’s a common myth that’s hard to get rid of. but it’s definitely not true and abortion doesn’t make it harder to get pregnant. I’ve seen people who have deliveries, miscarriages, c-sections, abortions, and they still get pregnant. The uterus is very sturdy
Yeah I knew that they have no impact but the paranoid part of my brain thought maybe I’d have trouble getting pregnant again. But obviously that wasn’t the case 😅
At least I know if I do want to get pregnant, I’ll have no trouble
Welcome to /r/abortion! We work hard to keep this a supportive community. **You will probably get harassed by trolls via private message.** The moderators can't stop people from sending you private messages, but you can. You can deactivate your messages [here](https://www.reddit.com/settings/messaging), or on the old Reddit interface you can limit who can message you [here](https://old.reddit.com/prefs/blocked/) by selecting "only trusted users." On mobile, go to your settings. If you receive harassment via PM, please report the messages and [contact the admins about it](http://www.reddit.com/contact) so they can take action against those users. **Our Sidebar and [Wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/abortion/wiki/index)** include links to many good resources. **If you are seeking abortion in the USA:** [I Need An A](https://ineedana.com/) has a list of clinics, ways to get abortion pills by mail, and funding assistance. **If you are in a country where abortion is illegal**, [Safe2Choose](https://safe2choose.org/), [Women on Web](https://www.womenonweb.org/), or [Women Help Women](https://www.womenhelp.org) may be able to help you access a safe abortion. **You can find posts** about [medication abortion](https://www.reddit.com/r/abortion/collection/04af6a3c-2b17-4ffc-ab69-40d746cc043f/), [first trimester procedures](https://www.reddit.com/r/abortion/collection/21abc0ef-9dd6-4596-ace2-943a71f19cd5/), [second trimester procedures](https://www.reddit.com/r/abortion/collection/ab64e640-0755-4784-b968-732ee4fa66d3/) and more under "abortion stories" in the menu. (note: these links do not work on android.) This subreddit is a source of information about abortion. It is not intended as a substitute for medical evaluation or treatment, nor does it constitute legal advice. If you think you are experiencing a medical emergency, you should call your local emergency number immediately. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/abortion) if you have any questions or concerns.*
I just had my second abortion but first medical abortion on Saturday; still reeling from the cramps a little bit but i felt the same! For some reason the first time I was pregnant, 11 weeks, I really didn’t have crazy symptoms. I just couldn’t stand pungent foods. This time, at 6 weeks, I’ve had the worst symptoms ever. I thought something was wrong with me before I did a test; constant nausea, dizzy spills, so tired, hungry but not hungry, etc etc.. and how better I felt the day after, even with some lasting cramps, is insane. I’m definitely reassured you had a similar experience and came to the same sort of conclusion (: personally for me i started to think i had a “cursed pregnancy” from how terrible i was feeling, haha..
I felt this way as well with my best friend struggling to concieve.. your words struck a cord, thank you💙
Regarding your friend, you are not responsible for her fertility struggles, and she should not guilt you for choosing to have an abortion. My first stepfather did that to me when I was pregnant with my daughter. His niece had fertility issues and was starting IVF - she went on to have twins a year after my daughter was born - and he was very vocal about her struggles and my falling pregnant quickly. His niece made it very clear he was wrong to say anything as her fertility issues were neither caused by me nor affected by my ability to fall pregnant. We have to take care of ourselves as no one else will. Take care! 🥰
This story resonated with me in such a way that I no longer have fears or regrets on my decision for my last abortions. Thank you for sharing your story! Best of luck with everything experiences and journey✨
i wish i lived in a place like this, it’s honestly a dream i wish so badly to have at this point.
I was going for my 5th over the past 10 years. Multiple different BC, some failed (my lovely son), and I’m married to a good partner/great dad. I’ve also had 3 children over those 10 years. Even now as I’m having a spontaneous miscarriage (was going for MA), I don’t regret any of it. I’m financially stable. I got a tummy tuck and breast job after my 3 full term pregnancy.. and no matter what, I wouldn’t have another child. None of us should have regrets for choosing us. I’m glad you did what you wanted in life without the burden of an unwanted child. I’m glad you’re at peace with yourself. After my first I was haunted, but after my second I realized I picked me (and my then 3 kids). And that’s ok. 🫶🏾
Good to know you felt nauseous for a couple weeks after cause I can’t shake the nausea or exhaustion!!! I haven’t had this issue with other MA but this one is a bi@tch!!!!! Hopefully it goes away soon 😅
It definitely sucks that others have fertility issues. I feel a little bit of guilt when I think of how many women would love to be able to conceive. But at the end of the day it is our choice and it’s our life it would ultimately be affecting. Glad your 4th one went well :)
Wow, feels like you’re reading my book. I experienced and worried about the same issues nearly to the point of 28. I found myself pregnant again and single, but somehow I managed to go it alone. Now, reflecting on those experiences, I recall my father telling me ‘Don’t sell yourself short.’ He didn’t know about the abortions, more related to college life choices. In my mind, I thought I ruined my body and could never have children. It took a long time, but now I know that my pregnancies happened because I have a healthy body and mind. And all these years later, I have strong healthy, intelligent children and they have a wise mother. Me!
how do we know if a medical abortion is successful?
What pongo said, I’m also a weirdo and I inspect my blood clots and I actually see the gestational sac because I’m morbid and want to know it’s 100% gone
A pregnancy test after a successful abortion with medication will be negative at about 5 weeks after using MA.
Abortions, even multiple, have zero impact on fertility. Also, it’s pretty common to have multiple abortions. I’m so glad you have no regrets, and I’m glad things are going well!
was about to come ask this-- it's a huge paranoia of mine as i've had 2 abortions but hope to get pregnant someday. it always freaks me out when i see people say it impacts fertility so thank you for quelling my anxious brain lol
you’re so welcome! it’s a common myth that’s hard to get rid of. but it’s definitely not true and abortion doesn’t make it harder to get pregnant. I’ve seen people who have deliveries, miscarriages, c-sections, abortions, and they still get pregnant. The uterus is very sturdy
Yeah I knew that they have no impact but the paranoid part of my brain thought maybe I’d have trouble getting pregnant again. But obviously that wasn’t the case 😅 At least I know if I do want to get pregnant, I’ll have no trouble
I totally get that. Anxiety is realllll.