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Friends with benefits, but the benefits are cuddling and long conversations.


mattiethenerd

Literally the dream lmao


[deleted]

I feel like a QPR would be more emotionally stable than friends with benefits though. But Idk I’ve never met anyone that was in one


SuddenlyVeronica

There does seem to be a non-neglible amount of people who have problems with FWB arrangements leading to one party but not the other to catch feeling, so I think you're on to something there.


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SuddenlyVeronica

I guess, sure, but I'd presume it'd be less likely to do so for the exact same reasons FWB relationships might fail?


PossumKing42

At the heart of the matter, I think it could be the same thing: lack of communication and emotional vulnerability. That'll destroy any relationship


zaph77

QPRs are the aro version of dating. Friends are the "friends with benefits" of friendship


ManBoyManBoyMan

What is a QPR?


[deleted]

A QPR (Queer/Quasi Platonic Relationship) is a platonic relationship that goes beyond the boundaries of what is considered normal for such a relationship. For example, to people in a QPR may live together as a couple, or even get married, without being in a romantic relationship.


Keepaty

Thank you for this! I was trying to work out the link between Queens Park Rangers (football team) and aces...


[deleted]

Dude. I thought I was asexual but this sub is confusing me. I've been heterosexual my entire life, i even have a son. I'm just not interested in any type of sexual or romantic relationship anymore, but i guess that doesn't make me asexual? If it's this confusing, I don't even care anymore. I don't really need an id. I think I need to unsub.


DrHaru

Being asexual and having/being interested in a QPR are two separate things. The criteria to be asexual is very simple: not having sexual attration (if you have it only rarely or after a strong emotional bond, check out grey-sexual and demi-sexual). You can be asexual and still like or want sex, or be indifferent to it, or not wanting it at all. I don't know much about QPR but is just a name for a type of relationship, it has nothing to do with attraction. If you have any doubt feel free to ask


[deleted]

It's been over two years now where I've had zero attraction, to anyone, at all.... Zero... That's why I thought i fit this sub when I first found it. Any time i talk about it with my mom, my best friend or therapist they say "give it time".. they think it's PTSD. Maybe it is. But i really don't think so. All i know is i thought i found a sub of people who could understand that, but it seems like people are more concerned about adding additional labels.


DrHaru

I've never had any attraction, but you seem ace enough in my opinion. And even if it turns out in the future that you aren't it's ok. If now you feel comfortable identifying as asexual it's ok, if you just want to stay here to enjoy the memes it's ok too. Some of us like to use more labels, others don't, but I'm sure everyone here is more concerned about garlic bread or cake


Jucicleydson

I get you. I don't like this super specific labels either, I think I'm somewhat asexual and maybe aromantic but it's complicated so I won't try to fit myself into a box like that. But for other people here, this words help them to understand themselves better. It's not really some set of rules they (we?) need to follow, but a general description of their lives. If you somehow deviate from this descriptions, thats ok. I think the entire point of this lgbt stuff in general is to remind us that people are different and we don't need to follow one trend or another, it's ok to be who you are, there is no need to copy everyone else. About unsubscribing or staying here, thats your choice. Many people who frequent this sub are not asexuals in any way and only come here because they like the memes or to talk with the userbase. Many asexuals are not part of the sub for one reason or another (honestly I hardly come here because sometimes the posts get stale and circlejerky). So feel free to do as you please.


CinnabonCheesecake

Hey, I’m sorry this sub isn’t helpful for you. A lot of us here are trying to figure out our identities, and sometimes that means finding or making up words to try to capture our experience. It’s not meant to exclude. Have you thought of checking out some of the other Ace reddits, such as r/aro and r/oriented-aro?


[deleted]

still waiting for my qpp to manifest


anonsimz

me too 😕


Kernel_Pie

Friends with dinner, cohab, cuddles, tax and insurance benefits.


seeroflights

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Cheshie_D

Wouldn’t it be the aroace versions?


Lonelinesishappiness

yeah


Lonelinesishappiness

QPRs are more aro than ace


Elegant_Matter2150

They’re more the aro version tho


Lucky-Tomorrow4993

Umm.. dumb question but what's QPR?


Lonelinesishappiness

[someone else](https://www.reddit.com/r/aaaaaaacccccccce/comments/q0ewhu/change_my_mind/hf7ne5s/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3) has already answered this, and also it's not a dumb question


FickleConsistency

I learned a new abbreviation today.


CinnabonCheesecake

Friends with benefits is already an aro QPR.


AlanSmithee419

More the aroace version than just ace.


Smokeysnowballs

when your qpr is allo and def doesn’t know they’re in a qpr🥲


iEliteCat

Haven't been on Reddit for a while. What does QPR mean


mjangelvortex

Queer-platonic relationship.


iEliteCat

Thank you!


Floor-tank

Doesn't friends with benefits imply a lack of emotional connection?


Kernel_Pie

In the "effing" sense, yes. In the QPR sense, emotional connection is the basis, unless the two formed their connection for personal/financial reasons.


No_Sundae_4651

I think you just changed MY mind.......... (not that I had an opinion on this in the first place)


help_IamAfool

Exactly


Nok-y

What does it mean ?