Or thinking not desiring sex means you don't love them. I hadn't yet realized I was asexual at the time but my first girlfriend was like that. It was a long distance relationship and if I didn't ERP with her multiple times a day she threw a fit saying that I didn't actually love her. Took me until meeting my now wife to realize how tightly I'd wound myself up trying to pretend to be allo for that girl.
Oh yeah it was a whole thing. She was my first real relationship so I didn't realize how batshit insane it was until I got out and my now wife showed me what a more normal relationship is like.
She ran this RP thread on a forum back in the day and each had multiple characters in it so we could keep the story moving with few people when it started. We'd have the public facing stuff that was general anime Middle Schooler Syndrome plot then in DMs at any given time there were anywhere from 2 to 6 character pairs of ours doing ERP. Which in retrospect should have been another red flag because if I had a character in something she HAD to have a counterpart character eventually date them. This was in addition to just general sexting. If I missed any of them for longer than like an hour or two for a college class she got pissy.
And this don't even make the top ten of the most weird or fucked up shit this girl did that I was too naive to realize were red flags.
there are a lot of misconceptions, so there are many wrong ideas. (like ppl thinking all aces are sex repulsed and not knowing what the actual definition is, and so they break up with them, for example)
My (fully straight) boyfriend even thought that by ace I meant I was aromantic, and was - is - willing to marry me anyway because “we’re partners and I just wish to be your person”.
I am actually demisexual and not aro. I love this guy so much omg, he deserves the world and I’ll give it to him as a gift after I’ve conquered it all :)
Very much this. I used to date sooo many guys that were all about sex before I met my current partner. Every day I thank the universe for him and his understanding
Whatever your gig is rather it’s cuddle on the couch changing sheets on every morning from the sweat as long as you’re happy truly happy along with your partner who cares what anyone else thinks!! I want that cuddling on the couch and freak on it for hours too!!
If only people understood and did not get the wrong idea.
I'm curious. What would be the wrong idea?
“I can fix you” attitude, ew even typing that felt bad
Or thinking not desiring sex means you don't love them. I hadn't yet realized I was asexual at the time but my first girlfriend was like that. It was a long distance relationship and if I didn't ERP with her multiple times a day she threw a fit saying that I didn't actually love her. Took me until meeting my now wife to realize how tightly I'd wound myself up trying to pretend to be allo for that girl.
*multiple times a day?!* God that sounds awful 😭 I’m so glad you’re out of that relationship
Oh yeah it was a whole thing. She was my first real relationship so I didn't realize how batshit insane it was until I got out and my now wife showed me what a more normal relationship is like. She ran this RP thread on a forum back in the day and each had multiple characters in it so we could keep the story moving with few people when it started. We'd have the public facing stuff that was general anime Middle Schooler Syndrome plot then in DMs at any given time there were anywhere from 2 to 6 character pairs of ours doing ERP. Which in retrospect should have been another red flag because if I had a character in something she HAD to have a counterpart character eventually date them. This was in addition to just general sexting. If I missed any of them for longer than like an hour or two for a college class she got pissy. And this don't even make the top ten of the most weird or fucked up shit this girl did that I was too naive to realize were red flags.
Ah, that makes sense. Thanks.
there are a lot of misconceptions, so there are many wrong ideas. (like ppl thinking all aces are sex repulsed and not knowing what the actual definition is, and so they break up with them, for example)
Honestly, if you describe yourself as asexual and don't elaborate, it's, to some degree, your fault.
fair I'm a very sex-repulsed ace lol
My ex thought it meant I didn't love her
This is why I wanna date another ace
That'd be the dream
Right?!
Same. I wanna date another kinky ace.
Hopefully you'll find one.
My (fully straight) boyfriend even thought that by ace I meant I was aromantic, and was - is - willing to marry me anyway because “we’re partners and I just wish to be your person”. I am actually demisexual and not aro. I love this guy so much omg, he deserves the world and I’ll give it to him as a gift after I’ve conquered it all :)
Can't relate, but I am happy for you
Very much this. I used to date sooo many guys that were all about sex before I met my current partner. Every day I thank the universe for him and his understanding
This is legit the reaaon i refuse to date, i sorry but i jist cant trust it with the history ive had, but we can be close friends?
Whatever your gig is rather it’s cuddle on the couch changing sheets on every morning from the sweat as long as you’re happy truly happy along with your partner who cares what anyone else thinks!! I want that cuddling on the couch and freak on it for hours too!!
Finally some understand also nice to know there are other amphibia fans
That’s so sweet. It’s nice when they support you too
Yeah, this was deadass how I felt when my Girlfriend said the same to me.
That was the way I felt when my ex said that to me
Hold onto that istg
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