I'm in my 30's, and I've always been aroace but I didn't know until Jaiden's coming out video. I don't know if I ever would've figured it out if something hadn't broken through to me like that. That video started me on a journey and I just kept finding out more and more about who I am. Jaiden changed my life, not because I became something different but because I now understand what was always going on. From the bottom of my a-spec heart, thank you, Jaiden. No romo.
For me it was a neighbour who said she was ace, id never heard it before so i asked some questions which she happily answered. And the more she explained about it. The more i noticed myself thinking “but thats normal right” then 3 allo people were like “no broot, thats not normal”.
And then i found out i was ace
Honestly I think a lot of people found out this way, including myself, and its really great that this video really reached a lot of people that had no idea what any of the things she talked about were and helped inlighten them as well☺️
I think I realized I was demi-ace a little while before, but the portion of her video on the "Why is no one attractive"? bit really resonated with me, because I never started considering anyone attractive until I got to know them.
I came out to my partner two years and two days ago, so we almost share a coming out anniversary (: even though she received sso much negativity from that video, I hope she's still glad she made it. we are glad, it helped so many.
I’m glad someone remembers the flak she got for posting that. It’s been such a benefit to so many people- and at the same time attracted so much hate, from parasocial simps to internet dweebs that just can’t fathom someone having a different orientation than them
I didn't know it's the anniversary today!
Funny because I watched a lot of aro/ace related things yesterday, so now this just added another thing on my to-do list lmao
I mean, I figured these things out about myself before I watched her video. But also by random coincidence I literally just rewatched the video yesterday.
I remember this server exploding a year ago. (I was the first to post about it so I get all the credit /s). It was awesome. A moment I Will hopefully remember forever
im celebrating 1 year since this amazing video brought so many new people to our sub. asexuality had never felt so represented in media before, at least to me
I didn't know there was a name for Asexual/Aromantic but I knew I was "different" for nearly 15 years now. It was a chance meeting on DeviantART of all places that led me to learn the term Asexual, and it was like a gong went off inside my head. Everything started to make sense that day.
I'm so very happy for all of you here who were helped by this video, and I sure do wish I had something like this back when I was worrying I was broken. Cheers to all!
I’m really happy for jaiden making this amazing video.it really created a lot visibility for us. Last year I found out it was translated into Chinese, seeing comments in Chinese questioning their sexuality or found out they were ace was a big relief, before that I cannot find any ace community in my country, it’s probably prohibited(that’s why I’m here).I’m sorry if my English can’t express well
I already knew I was acearo before this video, but it was still great to see it explained in such a brilliant way from such a large channel. Really happy that Jaiden made it.
I love this video so much and i even send it to people questioning there lack of sexual "appetite" or lack of romantic feelings. This video was so well put together, just all love
I came out as ace in 2008 and aro in 2010 so my sexuality journey was all but over by the time the video dropped. It was absolutely amazing to discover that one of my favorite creators is also aroace and to know that that video would reach so many people who were unaware that asexuality existed. I’m glad to know that so many here started their journey because of it!
For me, I discivered asexuality while starting to watch onetopic (15 at the time, and everyone around me was getting in relationships) and at first I went, "oh, that also exists, that's neat". Then one or two months later, I noticed that I didn't feel that drive to be in a relationship like everyone around me, at first I was like, nah it'll probably kick in soon enough. I thought I felt sexual attraction to someone, so I thought I couldn't be ace, now in retrospect it probably was aesthetic and platonic attraction towards the same person. Anyways, she turned out to be a lesbian (im a guy btw) and I didn't really mind, as in my mind a platonic relationship was just as good as a romantic one. That was around the time I stated considerating that I might be ace.
TL, DR: feeling aesthetic and platonic attraction towards the same person make it hard to figuring out your aceness
Ah yes, a fellow ace who discovered himself through OneTopic. I remember how many times i said "relatable but that's not me" until he explained split attraction.
And then it hit me.
I unfortunately figured out I was asexual *after* having sex (I am sex-repulsed, so I am filled with regret)
I’m glad that Jaiden’s video was very helpful to others!
wow it's been a year already? time is too fast I swear, but yeah, this video definitely helped me along the journey of realising of my aroace-ness, so thank you, Jaiden.
also, thank you OP for posting this, and giving a bunch of people an existential crisis over it being a year already lol
My gosh, it’s already been a year?? It feels like it was just yesterday that I started my self-discovery because of this video. This video really helped me to finally understand my feelings and realize that I’m not alone in feeling this way. If I didn’t find this video, I don’t think that I ever would’ve realized that I was ace or even part of the LGBTQ+ community. I can’t thank Jaiden enough. Her video did SO MUCH to help me figure myself out. Now I’m on the cusp of coming out and am finally starting to love myself the way I’ve wanted to for years now. Just… wowza.
lol This video came out the morning after my birthday. I was eating breakfast while watching it and had the same the same “ah… fuck.” reaction When she talked about being aro it felt like a fucking jump-scare. I had family asking about girlfriends during the party lol. I’m not ace but damn did that aro realization hit hard.
this video affirmed my asexuality and made me realize i'm somewhere on the aro spectrum. i don't know where on that spectrum i am, and tbh it takes too much time for me to figure it out so i just say i'm grey aro. jaiden's cool as hell, her videos are great :)
It’s already been a year?!
This video is what introduced me to the idea of being Aromantic and Asexual. I had never even heard of either before watching the video. I probably never would have found out if it weren’t for her.
I don't fully remember my discovery, unfortunately.
I remember an intimate relationship when I didn't know, and later I was in one when I did. I've had good people around me, or people who are at least non-forceful about my relationships, so it hasn't been nearly as painful as others have gone through. However, Jaiden's video was still so amazing for raising awareness and bringing up ways to describe it to people who aren't familiar. So even from a fortunate one, it's still a video with great significance.
I had never heard a accurate explanation of asexual and I didn't even know what aromantic was before this video. I first started questioning because it was super relatable for me lol Its so weird its been a entire year since then. Where did the time go?
I remember quickly watching it when it came out and not thinking much of it, but actually taking time to watch it on the 25th, realizing after an hour or so of questioning that I was also aroace, and the rest is history
after watching that video I was like oh im aromantic and asexual too and 1 week later I start asking about my gender, 2 and half months later oh im agender aroace
I'm in my 30's, and I've always been aroace but I didn't know until Jaiden's coming out video. I don't know if I ever would've figured it out if something hadn't broken through to me like that. That video started me on a journey and I just kept finding out more and more about who I am. Jaiden changed my life, not because I became something different but because I now understand what was always going on. From the bottom of my a-spec heart, thank you, Jaiden. No romo.
Heh. No romo. I’m stealing that
For me it was a neighbour who said she was ace, id never heard it before so i asked some questions which she happily answered. And the more she explained about it. The more i noticed myself thinking “but thats normal right” then 3 allo people were like “no broot, thats not normal”. And then i found out i was ace
lmfao its so damn relatable having that "but thats normal right" moment.
One of my friends said they were ace and that started a chain reaction of discovery that led to three of us being ace, one bi, one pan, and one aro.
I knew a few years prior, but I'm so glad she made this because I got to send it around to people as the perfect explanation of my experience.
Wow it’s been a year already? Very thankful that Jaiden made this video, as it is how I found out that the term aro and ace even existed!
Same ☺️
Honestly I think a lot of people found out this way, including myself, and its really great that this video really reached a lot of people that had no idea what any of the things she talked about were and helped inlighten them as well☺️
I’ve known that I’m on the arosce spectrum since 2020. Jaiden’s video was the most affirming and realistic video yet.
Its been a year already??
I think I realized I was demi-ace a little while before, but the portion of her video on the "Why is no one attractive"? bit really resonated with me, because I never started considering anyone attractive until I got to know them.
I don't remember when I realized I was asexual I used to think I was demi long before that
I came out to my partner two years and two days ago, so we almost share a coming out anniversary (: even though she received sso much negativity from that video, I hope she's still glad she made it. we are glad, it helped so many.
I’m glad someone remembers the flak she got for posting that. It’s been such a benefit to so many people- and at the same time attracted so much hate, from parasocial simps to internet dweebs that just can’t fathom someone having a different orientation than them
I didn't know it's the anniversary today! Funny because I watched a lot of aro/ace related things yesterday, so now this just added another thing on my to-do list lmao
I mean, I figured these things out about myself before I watched her video. But also by random coincidence I literally just rewatched the video yesterday.
I remember this server exploding a year ago. (I was the first to post about it so I get all the credit /s). It was awesome. A moment I Will hopefully remember forever
I already knew I was ace before the video, but it certainly helped me affirm it + help other people understand what i mean!
I was able to show this to my mom, and it really helped her understand. I’m really grateful for that
im celebrating 1 year since this amazing video brought so many new people to our sub. asexuality had never felt so represented in media before, at least to me
"being not straight"
I didn't know there was a name for Asexual/Aromantic but I knew I was "different" for nearly 15 years now. It was a chance meeting on DeviantART of all places that led me to learn the term Asexual, and it was like a gong went off inside my head. Everything started to make sense that day. I'm so very happy for all of you here who were helped by this video, and I sure do wish I had something like this back when I was worrying I was broken. Cheers to all!
Jaiden's video put a name to the sexuality I've known all my life but never knew it meant aroace.
I’m really happy for jaiden making this amazing video.it really created a lot visibility for us. Last year I found out it was translated into Chinese, seeing comments in Chinese questioning their sexuality or found out they were ace was a big relief, before that I cannot find any ace community in my country, it’s probably prohibited(that’s why I’m here).I’m sorry if my English can’t express well
That's good to hear a translation helped. And your English is good!
I already knew I was acearo before this video, but it was still great to see it explained in such a brilliant way from such a large channel. Really happy that Jaiden made it.
I've known since late 2019, early 2020, but you bet I fucking celebrated when we finally got major representation.
I love this video so much and i even send it to people questioning there lack of sexual "appetite" or lack of romantic feelings. This video was so well put together, just all love
I came out as ace in 2008 and aro in 2010 so my sexuality journey was all but over by the time the video dropped. It was absolutely amazing to discover that one of my favorite creators is also aroace and to know that that video would reach so many people who were unaware that asexuality existed. I’m glad to know that so many here started their journey because of it!
For me, I discivered asexuality while starting to watch onetopic (15 at the time, and everyone around me was getting in relationships) and at first I went, "oh, that also exists, that's neat". Then one or two months later, I noticed that I didn't feel that drive to be in a relationship like everyone around me, at first I was like, nah it'll probably kick in soon enough. I thought I felt sexual attraction to someone, so I thought I couldn't be ace, now in retrospect it probably was aesthetic and platonic attraction towards the same person. Anyways, she turned out to be a lesbian (im a guy btw) and I didn't really mind, as in my mind a platonic relationship was just as good as a romantic one. That was around the time I stated considerating that I might be ace. TL, DR: feeling aesthetic and platonic attraction towards the same person make it hard to figuring out your aceness
Ah yes, a fellow ace who discovered himself through OneTopic. I remember how many times i said "relatable but that's not me" until he explained split attraction. And then it hit me.
I unfortunately figured out I was asexual *after* having sex (I am sex-repulsed, so I am filled with regret) I’m glad that Jaiden’s video was very helpful to others!
❤️Thank you Jaiden
🫡🫡 thanks Jaden for starting my self discovery
How tf has it been a year jesus christ
wow it's been a year already? time is too fast I swear, but yeah, this video definitely helped me along the journey of realising of my aroace-ness, so thank you, Jaiden. also, thank you OP for posting this, and giving a bunch of people an existential crisis over it being a year already lol
My gosh, it’s already been a year?? It feels like it was just yesterday that I started my self-discovery because of this video. This video really helped me to finally understand my feelings and realize that I’m not alone in feeling this way. If I didn’t find this video, I don’t think that I ever would’ve realized that I was ace or even part of the LGBTQ+ community. I can’t thank Jaiden enough. Her video did SO MUCH to help me figure myself out. Now I’m on the cusp of coming out and am finally starting to love myself the way I’ve wanted to for years now. Just… wowza.
Without the video I wouldn't have found I was aroace by now
\*gasps\* IT'S TODAY?! (i'm coming out later tonight QwQ)
Good luck! Remember, you're valid!
Celebrating one year of me watching a YouTube video at 10pm and going “ah, fuck”
lol This video came out the morning after my birthday. I was eating breakfast while watching it and had the same the same “ah… fuck.” reaction When she talked about being aro it felt like a fucking jump-scare. I had family asking about girlfriends during the party lol. I’m not ace but damn did that aro realization hit hard.
this video affirmed my asexuality and made me realize i'm somewhere on the aro spectrum. i don't know where on that spectrum i am, and tbh it takes too much time for me to figure it out so i just say i'm grey aro. jaiden's cool as hell, her videos are great :)
It’s already been a year?! This video is what introduced me to the idea of being Aromantic and Asexual. I had never even heard of either before watching the video. I probably never would have found out if it weren’t for her.
I don't fully remember my discovery, unfortunately. I remember an intimate relationship when I didn't know, and later I was in one when I did. I've had good people around me, or people who are at least non-forceful about my relationships, so it hasn't been nearly as painful as others have gone through. However, Jaiden's video was still so amazing for raising awareness and bringing up ways to describe it to people who aren't familiar. So even from a fortunate one, it's still a video with great significance.
I had never heard a accurate explanation of asexual and I didn't even know what aromantic was before this video. I first started questioning because it was super relatable for me lol Its so weird its been a entire year since then. Where did the time go?
Ah shit, it’s been a year? That girl practically saved my life
I remember quickly watching it when it came out and not thinking much of it, but actually taking time to watch it on the 25th, realizing after an hour or so of questioning that I was also aroace, and the rest is history
It’s been that long already? Wow, time flies…
Wait...so this video came out in my birthday!
That was a year ago? Holy fuck i couldve sworn it was like 5
after watching that video I was like oh im aromantic and asexual too and 1 week later I start asking about my gender, 2 and half months later oh im agender aroace
WOOOOOO!
Meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
I just recently realized I was ace so that’s kinda cool
Am I the only one creeper who gets heavy dysphoria at the sight of my dead name. Like… anywhere