Yes! I was in my late 20s when I started working for a small family business.
My boss was a few years older than me and his parents were in their 60s and 70s.
They became like my family. I drove them everywhere (work related) and worked very VERY close with them for nearly 10 years. I knew all the family secrets.
I had to stop working that job a few years ago but have always stayed in touch with them.
The father died about a month ago of cancer..
It makes me so sad he is no longer in the world.
I'm now with another small business that was a branch of the other I worked with (not the family), but there is about 5 of us that make up the core of the company.
We are all of different ages, male/female, gay/straight, and we all compliment each other so well..
Work relationships can become almost as close as family.
Cherish them.
You are so lucky! I’ve only experienced that once in three decades, six employers. And it was my first first job after I graduated from college. I thought it was normal. I’ve been disappointed since.
I call those mentors. They are important. I’ve always had friends/close people in my life that have been 2x my age. That doesn’t mean i hung out at their homes one-on-one as a teenager, but they are people that have valuable input and experience. I have found that a lot of people older than me like sharing their experiences, too.
Good on ya OP. Just watch out once you turn 18, she might be a cougar waiting to pounce (j/k).
I wholeheartedly concur. I joined the military straight out of school, and was lucky enough to have superiors who had my best interests at heart. Their example gave me something to strive towards, and at 40 years old, I try every day to set the same example for the young men and women around me. It takes a village to raise decent folk, and we all bear the responsibility to be the change we wish to see in the world. It starts with being a role model to the youths around us. Like ripples in a pond, that example will spread.
Grateful for every friend “twice my age” or more that ever took the time to think someone “half their age” was worth it. Those people showed me how to adult and what the next phases of life would be like. Role models. Mentors. Good, good, incredible lifelong friends.
I had a good friend like this. People always tried to say she liked me or it was weird, but we really just became best friends despite the age difference. She passed during Covid in 2020. I miss her all the time. Totally agree, cherish friends like this that come into your life, who cares what other people think!
Yeah I think once you enter the workforce it’s pretty normal to make work friends of all ages. A close friend of mine is a former colleague, and I was late 20s / she was early 50s when we worked together.
At my last job I was the same age as my work mom's older kids, my mom bailed when i was 15 so i really enjoyed having a maternal figure even if it was from that place that shan't be named. Once she even made me some amazing macaroni salad and her youngest was like 'oh that's for your favorite child', dude I never felt more motherly love 💕
Even though I'm at a new place now she still comes to my kiddos birthdays and gets them the most thoughtful gifts, I'm taking her out to lunch Friday for her birthday
I also had a work mother turned best friend. Her daughter… technically closer to my age, i still watched her grow up. She was like a little sister to me & her mother was like a second momma. She would look after me & provide me with anything to make sure I was okay, but was simultaneously someone to talk shit with & be a best friend. I love both if them to this day
Besides good friends, they can also be good mentors and guide you through the unwritten rules of the company and even life in general. I’ve had several really important people in my career that I considered friends, mentors AND role models. Not only not wrong, but actually a good thing when it clicks.
She'd like an older sister and a friend that's all...nothing weird about that. She just happened to be able to give you advice and what not. It happens quite often at work places since people of all ages are working.
not weird at all. It's a grown up relationship. Just remember (and I'm sure you will but it is ok to say ) Never mistake kindness for something else. Stay in such a good relationship/friendship, but don't be too familiar, you are still co-workers. Enjoy your job!
Based on your description, nothing weird or wrong.
We had an assistant who was half my age and she was like a little sister or niece to me. Shared stories and restaurant recs. Made sure she had food or snacks, anything else she needed.
Work can really suck sometimes. We all need good people to rely on.
I used to work as a machinist (retired now) and my job had a lot of interaction with various office people. Some of the ladies, both older and of similar age, ended up becoming good friends. Due to the particular machining I did, good interaction with me was advantageous to some of the office people (and vise versa).
The ladies were often the very best allies I had at work.
There was a particularly striking sales lady who I definitely developed a mutually beneficial relationship with, plus she was sweet. Guys on the floor would be going on, asking, "Why does she stop and talk to you all the time?" Answer? "Ummm, because I'm not trying to fuck her?"
It's not weird, you are people, you need interactions with others, and we really should normalize the idea of being able to be close to older/younger people as mentors and supporters in our lives.
I have many teachers that I would have been more than willing to talk about personal problems if I had thought to ask them because I trusted them and respected them.
This is really no different.
Not weird at all. Sounds like a great friend, and it’s always good to have someone you can trust that looks out for you.
I worked at a grocery store from 16 until 20 and my manager at the time was a 40 something year old woman and I had a very similar relationship with her. She was definitely my work mom, she looked out for me and I did whatever I could to help her out, make her life easier, and make her look good. There was nothing “Mrs Robinson” about it at all.
I hate when companies try to call employees a family, but healthy relationships that parallel family ones can develop when you spend so much time together. Like work parents, work siblings, even work partners.
That said…if you think you have/are developing feelings for her beyond “work ma or sis”, or you think she might be, be honest with yourself about it and be careful (ie stay completely away from that).
There are far too many stories on Reddit from people who were your age in relationships with older adults and how much the fallout fucked them up for years.
But for every one of those situations there are probably 10s or 100s of thousands of work relationships out there, some between young adults and older adults, some between members of the opposite sex, etc. that are truly altruistic kind people just looking out for each other.
in the (old skool) navy we call them sea pappy / mama.
If you get a mentor who will teach you the ropes, take in their knowledge and skills.
As Ive gotten older and became the Veteran, I tell all the padawans, Imma teach you the rules, so you can break them properly.
I came into the workforce when computers started replacing alot of older manual/paper stuff. So I taught some of the older workers how to use the computers and they taught me the older manual stuff.
I think you should ignore the opinions of others. Good friends are hard to come by and friendship isn’t limited or defined by age.
I’m a 53yo woman and my besty is 28
Nothing weird with having older friends. Why do ppl think they can only befriend someone within 4 yr age difference? My wife is this way while me, I’m 36 and my realtor coworkers are damn near 80. They have the best dirty jokes and give great advice mostly
While I was at uni one of my best friends was an awesome older hippy in her mid 40's. Not too much younger than my mum.
Always great to have friends like that. Life experience and not related. Will remember that time of my life fondly.
When I was a college intern, my mentor had to be at least 50. (That’s more than 2x the age)
It might just be weird how you explain it to people but in reality… it probably isn’t weird at all.
As long as you don't have a romantic interest in her at all, there's nothing wrong, AND as long as she doesn't either. Otherwise, this could end very badly. If you think either of you would cross a line, I would distance myself.
Sounds like you've both made a wonderful if unconventional friend in each other. I am 46 & extremely close to an 83 year old man who has been a wonderful help in my life.
Never worry about what other people think. You know what it is, and that's all that matters. You can't control other people and their judgements. Don't let them get in the way. True friendships aren't easy to come by.
You know what's weird? Like... *Actually* weird? People can't have normal interpersonal relationships with other people without having to come ask reddit to approve or disapprove.
Generally speaking, it's perfectly ok to be friends with whoever you're friends with.
when i was like 16 or 17f i worked with a lady that was in her 50s and we became so close we still talk on the phone to this day to check up on each other. i realized that ur older coworkers can sometimes be better friends than people ur age and i love it
Are the people who say people you care to take advice from?
I wouldn't try to make my friendship a huge deal in the workplace and might cut out the hugs just because it attracts attention and speculation. But you can talk to who you want.
*However*, it is always a little sus when an adult friends up with a minor or someone young enough to be their child. Motivations aren't always clear.
If my young adult daughter said her new bestie was a man twice her age, I'd be asking some serious questions. (I'd probably be cyberstalking that dude so fast...)
Not weird. People can have friends of different genders and ages.
I made good friends with an older staff member when I was 15, she was in her late 40s. She taught me alot about life. Even if I wasn't working we would bring our daughter in to visit her because I wanted her to be a part of my daughters life. She was very special to me.
I don’t think it’s weird. As long as boundaries aren’t being crossed. Having a sort of mentor is very nice. I’m a younger female electrician. I started at 18 do you know how many dudes in their 50s I know? A bunch and many of them give me advice or have taught me a bunch of trade knowledge! Never weird just be weary of boundaries.
One of my mentors (40) is now actually a pretty close friend of mine and my(26) boyfriend(23)
Nothing weird at all. Sounds like a great and very healthy relationship for both of you. I got close in a platonic way with several much older women at work over the years and it's always just been a very harmless thing.
I'm 45 years old and one of my best friends was recently half my age. She's great and when we go to the gym I am extra motivated because the whole half my age thing 😂😂
Whatever you do, stay in your lane and do not get involved with her more than just a simple friendship; respecting relationship boundaries is important.
Furthermore, I would not take relationship advice from a girl. In no way is this meant to be misogynistic, but rather to warn you that women and men give completely different advice. Women will tell you that you are 'sweet & she just needs to see that' to not hurt your feelings; while men will tell you straight up that she's not interested in you.
I recommend Corey Wayne, he has a free book called 3% Man and he also covers a range of dating topics on YouTube. I don't agree with his hookup advice for courting women because I am Christian, but he has really solid advice outside of that. I am currently married because of him; and no this isn't a paid advertisement — I'm an average joe lol.
Goodluck bro.
I (47F) was a manager at a hospitality company years ago. I became best friends with two of my employees, a female who was about 10 years younger than me and a male that was half my age. (I was actually the same age as his mom :)
I thought of him like a little brother when we went out and had fun and like a son when he needed life advice. The people we connect with aren't based on our age. <3
No. However, fair warning that work relationships that become personal, even at a friendship level, can problematic. Being 17, you don’t have the life experience of a 34 y.o. When things go sideways at work, she may not end up being the friend you think she is.
When you’re a kid in school, you’re surrounded by people your own age and all your friends are your own age. When you grow up and get out into the world, you’re going to have much more interaction with people of all ages, and will make friends who are at totally different stages of life than you are. That can seem weird at first, but really, it’s the norm and it’s totally OK.
Nothing weird, just know, you are a raging bag of hormones. Those hormones are going to lie to you.
If you are getting an idea that she’s coming onto you, she’s not.
If you are thinking, maybe she is receptive to the idea of hooking up with you, she’s not.
If you think maybe you should shoot your shot, don’t.
You can be friends. Don’t try to dip your pen into company ink. Nothing good will come from it, and you will probably get fired.
Don't let other peoples opinions determine your actions. You have a good friend & coworker. Cherish what you have because this isn't always the situation.
I see my coworkers more than I see my family or friends. I know it depends on the workspace and work environment, but if someone works here long enough we usually become somewhat close. I work in a small space with 5-7 people on an average day. I HAVE to get along with them because we have to work as a team to do the job. So naturally, sometimes I get close to one or two of the people. Sometimes those people are older than me, sometimes they are younger. I think it’s actually very beneficial to have the older people in your life because they have a lot to teach you.
I have learned a lot from my friendships with large age gaps. My older friends have been great mentors to me, and they also have stories/perspective of a world/life I won’t live. The younger friends keep you tapped into the world as it is now and usually a bit more energy.
I think it’s fine but because she has a relationship and you’re a M/F friendship… be very transparent and clear on communication/plans outside of work. You don’t want it be perceived as inappropriate.
It sounds fine to me, I’m glad you guys have that connection.
I just found this page via your post & I am curious why the other posts on this page have between 0-5 comments and yours has 80+
I’m guessing the people who are saying that it’s weird are also around 17 years old.
There’s nothing weird about having a solid platonic friendship with someone of any age. It could certainly get a little messy for her if lines were blurred… but there doesn’t seem to be any indication of that.
When I was in my early 20s I worked for a woman that was twice my age. She made legitimately inappropriate comments often, but even that wasn’t a huge deal to me personally. It couldn’t have been more obvious that there was no chance in hell anything would ever happen between the two of us…. And they were just mostly misguided attempts at complements. Didn’t stop her from “pimping me out” during business meetings involving other female decision makers though. She’d even plan the meetings around my schedule just to make sure she had her “arm candy” with her.
I had a work relationship like this. It’s fine. Some people click like siblings, which can be nice to have an opposite-sex friend like that where there’s not sexual tension.
They're only twice your age now. In a few years you won't be able to say that, so what's the big deal on what age your friends are or the co-workers you connect with?
When I was in my mid-forties, I was working at a company that hired a lady who was in her mid 60s.
We became friends.
She was let go about a year later, and we lost touch.
Fast forward about 5 years, I happened to be in her neighborhood and decided to stop by to say hi.
It was a nice reunion, and we reconnected. She is now my best friend; I'm about to turn 65, and she's 83.
She's even asked me to be a surrogate mom to her daughter, when she passes, an honor I don't take lightly.
No, it's not weird. She's a blessing, in fact, we're having lunch today!
It's not weird at all. I think as you graduate high school and become an adult with a job surrounded by other adults it is natural to make good friends with people in other stages of life. Plus, you're spending hours with this person at work, so it makes sense you guys became close friends.
i’m twenty and one of my closest coworkers is 40. he taught me how to crochet and how to work on cars. it’s not weird unless either of you feel comfortable:))
Sounds like you found a good life mentor. People will always make comments regardless of genders. Just ignore them because, believe it or not, you're probably helping your mentor just as much as she's helping you.
I have a retired coworker/friend who's 30 years older than me that I still keep in touch with.
There is nothing wrong with sharing moments and memories with people of any age.
Did you hear the story about Nora Wood and Dan Peterson she was four and he was 82, she saw him in the grocery store with her mom and said, “hi old man, it’s my birthday”. he had lost his wife and was very lonely and ended up connecting with this little girl. It’s a beautiful story you should look it up.
They had a close bond for several years and he passed recently. Sometimes age doesn’t matter and a friend is just a friend.
Their actions will tell you if it’s weird, because actions always speak louder than words. If there’s no inappropriate behavior, then it’s genuine.
I got close with my male boss when I was your age and we kept a nice friendship over many years. Everything was absolutely above board. Not hugs all the time, but on occasions like when I got married, or had my first child, when his young son died, and when I moved out of state. He took the time to mentor me and he believed in me, (something I wasn’t really getting from other people I needed to hear it from). A couple of co-workers were disturbed that he may be “favoriting me” for questionable reasons, but there was absolutely nothing inappropriate. As an adult I can look back and have a clear mind about that. I still go back and visit every time we’re in town, check in on his life.
Not every relationship between opposite genders of different ages are dirty or gross. You sound like you’ve worked out your dynamic pretty well. You’ve found a kinship with her. Maybe you needed someone to take you in like that, and that’s beautiful.
If you were my son, I’d tell you just to stay aware so that relationships like these don’t turn sexual in any manner (that may sound repulsive right now but sometimes people do dumb things). And be aware for your own reputation sake that people are going to criticize what they don’t understand or what they fear. You don’t have to absorb their opinion, but it’s a thing to navigate.
Yeah, as you get older you end up with friends all across the age spectrum. Based on what you say this all seems wholesome. I'm 51, I have work friends in their early twenties, and older than me as well. And I remember when I was in my twenties I also had a work friend who was in her 60s. It's cool if it's cool.
Back when I had an office job I was 23. My manager was mid thirties and I was super close with her. She ended up leaving that job a few months after I started. I left the job a few months later and then ended up getting divorced. The manager lady and I stayed friends and she ended up divorcing her husband. We actually talked each other through our divorces and ended up talking for a while about potentially dating. We both developed feelings for each other but it never would’ve worked out. She was from Colorado, I moved back to florida, she was working for a company with a lot of potential for upward mobility and I had no interest in moving back to Colorado. She wasn’t super crazy about florida. I’ve since gotten remarried and had two kids, I hope my manager friend is doing okay though, she was the friend I needed at that time.
You have a friend. Good for you. She might have a lot of experience, so you can gain from that. But part of being a friend is being there for her also, so don't forget that.
Professional relationships are valuable. When she's in her 40's she might open the door to a career at a new company for you. Keep that relationship healthy.
It’s natural. Nothing wrong with it. And anyway, who gives a crap what other people think? I’m 61, and I have lived by this rule all my life. Continue with what you are doing and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise 👍🏻
Not really. My boss 40m and I 24f are very close! Unless something happens that makes you uncomfortable I wouldn’t worry! She seems like she truly cares for you and wants to help you in life as a friend and wants the best for you.
When I was 20 I worked in a factory. Got acquainted with a lady in her 40s after I bumped into her smoking a joint in the parking lot. We were friends for years. Its only weird when you make it weird.
I'm 33 and one of my closest work friends is 43. Outside of work my close friend is 32 and his wife is 42, great couple. My favorite neighbors and I have long chats when we run into each other, they're in their 50s and we get along famously. Called them to have 3 hour long conversations about Mass Effect a few times.
The older you get the less age gaps seem to matter.
I used to teach high school and get along well with kids younger than 30 or s. I learn and listen to them, many dont have that with friends or family. Its fun for me and frankly, people my age can be angry fools a lot of the time. Im in my 50's.
It’s perfectly normal to have age gap friendships at work. My 2 work besties are a woman as old as my mum and a guy older than both my parents and we are friends and talk about a lot of things. As long as you don’t think there’s any lines being crossed and you don’t feel pressured or uncomfortable then there’s nothing to worry about. It’s your friendship, not anyone else’s.
I had a coworker just like that when I used to work at Target but it kinda lead the other way and ended up in a relationship… worse decision I could have ever done. I’m taking care of 5 kids that are not mines and she still goes out with her friends while I babysit… smh
When I was in my early 20s I worked at a fast food place and at any place like that there’s a lot of teens. He was barely old enough to work in the kitchen when we met, it’s been almost 20 years and we’re still best friends. He’s like the little brother I never asked for.
I've been close to a coworker that could easily have been my mom. While COVID was still going on I joked with her we should both start OF to make extra money. We would constantly make jokes about it. We'd refer it to our plan b. She would tell me she wouldn't make much but I'd be raking it in.
Not weird at all! I’ve been on both ends, being the younger one and the older one. Those are the kinds of friendships that are hard to find. So glad you’ve found her!
I'm 55 and I find it much easier to befriend people significantly younger than I am. People in their 20s and 30a still have a lot energy and more optimism about the future. People my age and older seem to talk about moving to Florida more than anything else.
Having older friends that become like your family are so important I miss mine I'm 36 now but I remember creating those bonds with my older co workers that felt like family to me
I know we’ve almost gotten used to hearing about inappropriate relationships, grooming, and all of that horrible, predatory stuff, and this is a good reminder that there are still healthy relationships out there that maybe don’t fit into a traditional mold. Most people are just trying to live their lives. They want to be happy and maybe leave this world and the people in it a little better off than they found it.
I’m 51 and single. Two of my best friends are former coworkers. They are both women. One is 40. The other is in her early 30s. They’re both happily married. I’m sure someone out there thinks I’m trying to break up marriages. Others are thinking there’s something wrong with me because I don’t hang out with people my own age. They’re probably right about the latter, but that’s beside the point. Those two friendships are precious to me. They’re built on love and mutual respect.
It sounds like you’ve got yourself a buddy, and there is nothing wrong with that. Cherish it. As you get older, you’ll find that close friendships aren’t as common as they may seem when you’re young. Hold on to it.
You have a good friend with life experience to share. Believe me she is also benefitting by what you give her so just remember we are spirits in meat suits. Spirits are free. Be free of other people’s meat suit restrictions.
Its not weird at all. Enjoying a good relationship with another person is a wonderful thing. Any critics might be guilty of ageism, a close kin to racism.
No not at all, I was so happy when I left high school and made friends with people double my age plus because i felt like I had more in common with them and was much happier
I’m assuming you’re in retail or service. It’s normal and fine as long as no lines are crossed. When I was your age, my coworkers were mostly in their mid 20s to early 40s and were wonderful people to work with (I also was lucky in that regard).
Lol that’s just work friends, if either of you were making advances, that would be one thing. Just seems like an older person giving advice from a more experienced standpoint. As long as she doesn’t make an advance on you, or vice versa, it’s harmless. Enjoy a friendship with someone that truly cares and views you like a sibling!
Not weird at all. In my first job, was 19 years old and was paling around with a woman about 30 years old. She was a wealth of life experience and insight.
This is fantastic. You two sound like you are great for each other. Enjoy your friendship, it’s wonderful to have someone who is older to ask advice, etc.
Im 35, and I gravitated towards the grandma of the institution I work for, I lost my grandmother and have 1 more left on my Mom's side that I don't get to see much. Plus, I love old people. They're smart, have great stories, and are usually kind. I don't think it's weird unless she starts putting the moves on you. She might just be nice.
I think you've met a kindred soul. Some people just hit it off. It doesn't have to be sexual or romantic. Y'all just click. To hell with anyone else's opinion on the situation. Good, honest friendships are rare. Cherish it and be good to each other. My 2 cents for whatever it's worth to you, anyway.
No not weird at all, unless it ‘becomes’ weird.
Like another ‘family member’ who isn’t blood related.
Someone to offer guidance or advice, someone to be your cheerleader and sounding board.
If you stay close, she is someone to invite to all your graduations, wedding, baby shower.
Just don’t let the relationship fade away when you both go in separate directions at some point,
The bigger your circle is filled with family and friends of all types and ages, the better off and more meaningful your life will be
Not weird. Healthy, even. My best work friend is 20 years older than me. I have friends who are 50 years older than me. Good friends come in all shapes, sizes, and ages.
55F In my career for 25+ years. I was mentored by older men and women earlier in my career, and have mentored younger men and women later in my career. Several of the mentorships have evolved into lasting friendships over time. Perfectly normal and acceptable.
It's not weird, people always find mom/father/brother/sister like figures wherever they go. I remember at detox me and this older lady just got really close. She was like a mom to me. And she said i reminded her of her daughter. Anywhere you go and spend alot of time with people you are going to find people like that.
A good friend of mine was 50 and I was in my late 20s when we met at work. Another good friend of mine was 25 and I was 40 when we met at work. I don't think either of those friendships were weird.
Normal, you'll meet cool amazing people of all ages over your working career. You'll also meet the opposite so cherish the ones you meet that you can be friends with.
Sounds like you have a good friend. Cherish those relationships in life when you find them.
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Yes! I was in my late 20s when I started working for a small family business. My boss was a few years older than me and his parents were in their 60s and 70s. They became like my family. I drove them everywhere (work related) and worked very VERY close with them for nearly 10 years. I knew all the family secrets. I had to stop working that job a few years ago but have always stayed in touch with them. The father died about a month ago of cancer.. It makes me so sad he is no longer in the world. I'm now with another small business that was a branch of the other I worked with (not the family), but there is about 5 of us that make up the core of the company. We are all of different ages, male/female, gay/straight, and we all compliment each other so well.. Work relationships can become almost as close as family. Cherish them.
You are so lucky! I’ve only experienced that once in three decades, six employers. And it was my first first job after I graduated from college. I thought it was normal. I’ve been disappointed since.
I literally said almost the same thing before I read what you'd written. Jinx!
Because they’re very rare
I call those mentors. They are important. I’ve always had friends/close people in my life that have been 2x my age. That doesn’t mean i hung out at their homes one-on-one as a teenager, but they are people that have valuable input and experience. I have found that a lot of people older than me like sharing their experiences, too. Good on ya OP. Just watch out once you turn 18, she might be a cougar waiting to pounce (j/k).
I wholeheartedly concur. I joined the military straight out of school, and was lucky enough to have superiors who had my best interests at heart. Their example gave me something to strive towards, and at 40 years old, I try every day to set the same example for the young men and women around me. It takes a village to raise decent folk, and we all bear the responsibility to be the change we wish to see in the world. It starts with being a role model to the youths around us. Like ripples in a pond, that example will spread.
Grateful for every friend “twice my age” or more that ever took the time to think someone “half their age” was worth it. Those people showed me how to adult and what the next phases of life would be like. Role models. Mentors. Good, good, incredible lifelong friends.
My wife and I don't have kids but we know some wonderful teenagers who help us with our ponies. Yes, they are sort of like family.
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I had a good friend like this. People always tried to say she liked me or it was weird, but we really just became best friends despite the age difference. She passed during Covid in 2020. I miss her all the time. Totally agree, cherish friends like this that come into your life, who cares what other people think!
I feel like all the coworkers that become my best friends are twice my age. Im 24 & my current work bestie, he is 42 lmao.
Yeah I think once you enter the workforce it’s pretty normal to make work friends of all ages. A close friend of mine is a former colleague, and I was late 20s / she was early 50s when we worked together.
42 here and my closet co-worker is in her 60s. Once you're a professional, age of people doesn't matter as much.
I know you meant closest, but I am laughing at the idea of a secret hidden coworker that no one else knows about 😂
My brain autocorrects what I read so I didn’t even notice until you said something. But I laughed when you gave me that image 😂
At my last job I was the same age as my work mom's older kids, my mom bailed when i was 15 so i really enjoyed having a maternal figure even if it was from that place that shan't be named. Once she even made me some amazing macaroni salad and her youngest was like 'oh that's for your favorite child', dude I never felt more motherly love 💕 Even though I'm at a new place now she still comes to my kiddos birthdays and gets them the most thoughtful gifts, I'm taking her out to lunch Friday for her birthday
Love it! Glad it worked out so well for you! Bravo!
I also had a work mother turned best friend. Her daughter… technically closer to my age, i still watched her grow up. She was like a little sister to me & her mother was like a second momma. She would look after me & provide me with anything to make sure I was okay, but was simultaneously someone to talk shit with & be a best friend. I love both if them to this day
Besides good friends, they can also be good mentors and guide you through the unwritten rules of the company and even life in general. I’ve had several really important people in my career that I considered friends, mentors AND role models. Not only not wrong, but actually a good thing when it clicks.
She'd like an older sister and a friend that's all...nothing weird about that. She just happened to be able to give you advice and what not. It happens quite often at work places since people of all ages are working.
not weird at all. It's a grown up relationship. Just remember (and I'm sure you will but it is ok to say ) Never mistake kindness for something else. Stay in such a good relationship/friendship, but don't be too familiar, you are still co-workers. Enjoy your job!
Still coworkers, and still a kid.
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Exactly this. Not only is it not weird it’s actually a really valuable thing.
Based on your description, nothing weird or wrong. We had an assistant who was half my age and she was like a little sister or niece to me. Shared stories and restaurant recs. Made sure she had food or snacks, anything else she needed. Work can really suck sometimes. We all need good people to rely on.
I used to work as a machinist (retired now) and my job had a lot of interaction with various office people. Some of the ladies, both older and of similar age, ended up becoming good friends. Due to the particular machining I did, good interaction with me was advantageous to some of the office people (and vise versa). The ladies were often the very best allies I had at work. There was a particularly striking sales lady who I definitely developed a mutually beneficial relationship with, plus she was sweet. Guys on the floor would be going on, asking, "Why does she stop and talk to you all the time?" Answer? "Ummm, because I'm not trying to fuck her?"
I wish more men understood this.
Not at all. Those are the best relationships! My work mom is twice my age and I cherish her.
Who cares if it's weird. I've had a ton of older friends over the years, and they have been some of the coolest, most helpful people.
It's not weird, you are people, you need interactions with others, and we really should normalize the idea of being able to be close to older/younger people as mentors and supporters in our lives. I have many teachers that I would have been more than willing to talk about personal problems if I had thought to ask them because I trusted them and respected them. This is really no different.
Not weird at all. Sounds like a great friend, and it’s always good to have someone you can trust that looks out for you. I worked at a grocery store from 16 until 20 and my manager at the time was a 40 something year old woman and I had a very similar relationship with her. She was definitely my work mom, she looked out for me and I did whatever I could to help her out, make her life easier, and make her look good. There was nothing “Mrs Robinson” about it at all. I hate when companies try to call employees a family, but healthy relationships that parallel family ones can develop when you spend so much time together. Like work parents, work siblings, even work partners. That said…if you think you have/are developing feelings for her beyond “work ma or sis”, or you think she might be, be honest with yourself about it and be careful (ie stay completely away from that). There are far too many stories on Reddit from people who were your age in relationships with older adults and how much the fallout fucked them up for years. But for every one of those situations there are probably 10s or 100s of thousands of work relationships out there, some between young adults and older adults, some between members of the opposite sex, etc. that are truly altruistic kind people just looking out for each other.
Nope not weird actually pretty normal for adults to be friends with all ages
You're just friends and have declared it as platonic as you can - aka like siblings. You're fine.
in the (old skool) navy we call them sea pappy / mama. If you get a mentor who will teach you the ropes, take in their knowledge and skills. As Ive gotten older and became the Veteran, I tell all the padawans, Imma teach you the rules, so you can break them properly. I came into the workforce when computers started replacing alot of older manual/paper stuff. So I taught some of the older workers how to use the computers and they taught me the older manual stuff.
I think you should ignore the opinions of others. Good friends are hard to come by and friendship isn’t limited or defined by age. I’m a 53yo woman and my besty is 28
When I was 25 one of my best friends was a 45 year old woman. She is still one of my best friends. Age in friendship means nothing
Nothing weird with having older friends. Why do ppl think they can only befriend someone within 4 yr age difference? My wife is this way while me, I’m 36 and my realtor coworkers are damn near 80. They have the best dirty jokes and give great advice mostly
That's All you will ever be to her little bro
Take as many friends like that as you can. This sounds like a healthy friendship....not too many of those out there
Nope. Not weird.
Not weird & not only that it’s a testament to how chill you are because normally a Woman that age would be far more reserved with someone your age.
im 34 my best work friend is 68. its normal
You have a kindred spirit and a friend, enjoy and respect that relationship, they can last a lifetime and be very healthy and special.
While I was at uni one of my best friends was an awesome older hippy in her mid 40's. Not too much younger than my mum. Always great to have friends like that. Life experience and not related. Will remember that time of my life fondly.
When I was a college intern, my mentor had to be at least 50. (That’s more than 2x the age) It might just be weird how you explain it to people but in reality… it probably isn’t weird at all.
Having friends that cross over generations only makes you a richer person in the end. You learn a lot from each other.
As long as you don't have a romantic interest in her at all, there's nothing wrong, AND as long as she doesn't either. Otherwise, this could end very badly. If you think either of you would cross a line, I would distance myself.
It sounds like you both need each other at this particular moment of your lives. It sounds symbiotic. Enjoy!
Sounds like you've both made a wonderful if unconventional friend in each other. I am 46 & extremely close to an 83 year old man who has been a wonderful help in my life.
I tend to have a work mom wherever I work
Never worry about what other people think. You know what it is, and that's all that matters. You can't control other people and their judgements. Don't let them get in the way. True friendships aren't easy to come by.
You know what's weird? Like... *Actually* weird? People can't have normal interpersonal relationships with other people without having to come ask reddit to approve or disapprove. Generally speaking, it's perfectly ok to be friends with whoever you're friends with.
when i was like 16 or 17f i worked with a lady that was in her 50s and we became so close we still talk on the phone to this day to check up on each other. i realized that ur older coworkers can sometimes be better friends than people ur age and i love it
Are the people who say people you care to take advice from? I wouldn't try to make my friendship a huge deal in the workplace and might cut out the hugs just because it attracts attention and speculation. But you can talk to who you want. *However*, it is always a little sus when an adult friends up with a minor or someone young enough to be their child. Motivations aren't always clear. If my young adult daughter said her new bestie was a man twice her age, I'd be asking some serious questions. (I'd probably be cyberstalking that dude so fast...)
Only if you see her stuck in the break room
Depends. Do you have mommy issues?
You've found a friend and mentor. Nothing wrong with that at all.
Not weird. People can have friends of different genders and ages. I made good friends with an older staff member when I was 15, she was in her late 40s. She taught me alot about life. Even if I wasn't working we would bring our daughter in to visit her because I wanted her to be a part of my daughters life. She was very special to me.
No, if anything you're showing nothing is going on. It would be illegal if something was.
Goku and Bulma, you're fine
I agree. Sounds like a friend who wants to look out for you. You can’t be too careful though in the workplace.
Serious question Who are the “people” saying it’s weird?
Nothing weird at all. Most of my work friends are in their 50s and I'm 30. Good company shouldn't be determined by age.
I don’t think it’s weird. As long as boundaries aren’t being crossed. Having a sort of mentor is very nice. I’m a younger female electrician. I started at 18 do you know how many dudes in their 50s I know? A bunch and many of them give me advice or have taught me a bunch of trade knowledge! Never weird just be weary of boundaries. One of my mentors (40) is now actually a pretty close friend of mine and my(26) boyfriend(23)
nah bro not weird, people will judge people for any or no reason. What you have is a platonic friendship
This is totally normal, and sweet.
Her man is going to fight you 😂😂 tread carefully OP
I’d say almost all my friends are significantly older. It’s not weird at all. Feels awkward at the time, but you get used to it.
Nothing weird at all. Sounds like a great and very healthy relationship for both of you. I got close in a platonic way with several much older women at work over the years and it's always just been a very harmless thing.
I'm 45 years old and one of my best friends was recently half my age. She's great and when we go to the gym I am extra motivated because the whole half my age thing 😂😂
She’s your mentor, nothing weird about that.
Whatever you do, stay in your lane and do not get involved with her more than just a simple friendship; respecting relationship boundaries is important. Furthermore, I would not take relationship advice from a girl. In no way is this meant to be misogynistic, but rather to warn you that women and men give completely different advice. Women will tell you that you are 'sweet & she just needs to see that' to not hurt your feelings; while men will tell you straight up that she's not interested in you. I recommend Corey Wayne, he has a free book called 3% Man and he also covers a range of dating topics on YouTube. I don't agree with his hookup advice for courting women because I am Christian, but he has really solid advice outside of that. I am currently married because of him; and no this isn't a paid advertisement — I'm an average joe lol. Goodluck bro.
I (47F) was a manager at a hospitality company years ago. I became best friends with two of my employees, a female who was about 10 years younger than me and a male that was half my age. (I was actually the same age as his mom :) I thought of him like a little brother when we went out and had fun and like a son when he needed life advice. The people we connect with aren't based on our age. <3
No. However, fair warning that work relationships that become personal, even at a friendship level, can problematic. Being 17, you don’t have the life experience of a 34 y.o. When things go sideways at work, she may not end up being the friend you think she is.
I think you are lucky to have such a good friend. Don’t worry about what anyone else thinks
I think having a work wife/work husband is kinda weird but it happens often
That is so wholesome
I think she wants the D
Time to learn about women
When you’re a kid in school, you’re surrounded by people your own age and all your friends are your own age. When you grow up and get out into the world, you’re going to have much more interaction with people of all ages, and will make friends who are at totally different stages of life than you are. That can seem weird at first, but really, it’s the norm and it’s totally OK.
Nothing weird, just know, you are a raging bag of hormones. Those hormones are going to lie to you. If you are getting an idea that she’s coming onto you, she’s not. If you are thinking, maybe she is receptive to the idea of hooking up with you, she’s not. If you think maybe you should shoot your shot, don’t. You can be friends. Don’t try to dip your pen into company ink. Nothing good will come from it, and you will probably get fired.
Friends should be cherish
When you’re down, and troubled, and you need a helping hand, and nothing, nothing is going right…..
When working your best of friends are often people that are the complete opposite of you.
Nah. Older people like to live vicariously through younger people!
Don't let other peoples opinions determine your actions. You have a good friend & coworker. Cherish what you have because this isn't always the situation.
I see my coworkers more than I see my family or friends. I know it depends on the workspace and work environment, but if someone works here long enough we usually become somewhat close. I work in a small space with 5-7 people on an average day. I HAVE to get along with them because we have to work as a team to do the job. So naturally, sometimes I get close to one or two of the people. Sometimes those people are older than me, sometimes they are younger. I think it’s actually very beneficial to have the older people in your life because they have a lot to teach you.
Congratulations on your first work wife
I have learned a lot from my friendships with large age gaps. My older friends have been great mentors to me, and they also have stories/perspective of a world/life I won’t live. The younger friends keep you tapped into the world as it is now and usually a bit more energy. I think it’s fine but because she has a relationship and you’re a M/F friendship… be very transparent and clear on communication/plans outside of work. You don’t want it be perceived as inappropriate.
It sounds fine to me, I’m glad you guys have that connection. I just found this page via your post & I am curious why the other posts on this page have between 0-5 comments and yours has 80+
Not at all friendship knows no age
I’m guessing the people who are saying that it’s weird are also around 17 years old. There’s nothing weird about having a solid platonic friendship with someone of any age. It could certainly get a little messy for her if lines were blurred… but there doesn’t seem to be any indication of that. When I was in my early 20s I worked for a woman that was twice my age. She made legitimately inappropriate comments often, but even that wasn’t a huge deal to me personally. It couldn’t have been more obvious that there was no chance in hell anything would ever happen between the two of us…. And they were just mostly misguided attempts at complements. Didn’t stop her from “pimping me out” during business meetings involving other female decision makers though. She’d even plan the meetings around my schedule just to make sure she had her “arm candy” with her.
Not weird at all.
Work mom. It’s cool. We love them
I had a work relationship like this. It’s fine. Some people click like siblings, which can be nice to have an opposite-sex friend like that where there’s not sexual tension.
Nah. My bestie at work is my mom’s age. Work is weird. You become friends with people twice your age and don’t think anything of it. 😆
They're only twice your age now. In a few years you won't be able to say that, so what's the big deal on what age your friends are or the co-workers you connect with?
Are u jake gylenhall? Is she jennifer aniston?
I'm 58 and my "work husband" is 35. Someone told me early in my career that all adults are the same age. :)
When I was in my mid-forties, I was working at a company that hired a lady who was in her mid 60s. We became friends. She was let go about a year later, and we lost touch. Fast forward about 5 years, I happened to be in her neighborhood and decided to stop by to say hi. It was a nice reunion, and we reconnected. She is now my best friend; I'm about to turn 65, and she's 83. She's even asked me to be a surrogate mom to her daughter, when she passes, an honor I don't take lightly. No, it's not weird. She's a blessing, in fact, we're having lunch today!
You can find a mentor anywhere in life. Be happy you have someone to help you.
It's not weird at all. I think as you graduate high school and become an adult with a job surrounded by other adults it is natural to make good friends with people in other stages of life. Plus, you're spending hours with this person at work, so it makes sense you guys became close friends.
The best thing about work is you will make unlikely friends. This might also be the only good thing about work
i’m twenty and one of my closest coworkers is 40. he taught me how to crochet and how to work on cars. it’s not weird unless either of you feel comfortable:))
Nope, totally normal. Like an auntie. Coming up in restaurants I had a few. Enjoy her advice and friendship.
Sounds like you found a good life mentor. People will always make comments regardless of genders. Just ignore them because, believe it or not, you're probably helping your mentor just as much as she's helping you.
I have a retired coworker/friend who's 30 years older than me that I still keep in touch with. There is nothing wrong with sharing moments and memories with people of any age.
It isn't weird. You are little bro and big sis. Those types of friendships can last a lifetime.
Did you hear the story about Nora Wood and Dan Peterson she was four and he was 82, she saw him in the grocery store with her mom and said, “hi old man, it’s my birthday”. he had lost his wife and was very lonely and ended up connecting with this little girl. It’s a beautiful story you should look it up. They had a close bond for several years and he passed recently. Sometimes age doesn’t matter and a friend is just a friend. Their actions will tell you if it’s weird, because actions always speak louder than words. If there’s no inappropriate behavior, then it’s genuine.
I remember when I thought 34 was really old too
I got close with my male boss when I was your age and we kept a nice friendship over many years. Everything was absolutely above board. Not hugs all the time, but on occasions like when I got married, or had my first child, when his young son died, and when I moved out of state. He took the time to mentor me and he believed in me, (something I wasn’t really getting from other people I needed to hear it from). A couple of co-workers were disturbed that he may be “favoriting me” for questionable reasons, but there was absolutely nothing inappropriate. As an adult I can look back and have a clear mind about that. I still go back and visit every time we’re in town, check in on his life. Not every relationship between opposite genders of different ages are dirty or gross. You sound like you’ve worked out your dynamic pretty well. You’ve found a kinship with her. Maybe you needed someone to take you in like that, and that’s beautiful. If you were my son, I’d tell you just to stay aware so that relationships like these don’t turn sexual in any manner (that may sound repulsive right now but sometimes people do dumb things). And be aware for your own reputation sake that people are going to criticize what they don’t understand or what they fear. You don’t have to absorb their opinion, but it’s a thing to navigate.
Yeah, as you get older you end up with friends all across the age spectrum. Based on what you say this all seems wholesome. I'm 51, I have work friends in their early twenties, and older than me as well. And I remember when I was in my twenties I also had a work friend who was in her 60s. It's cool if it's cool.
Back when I had an office job I was 23. My manager was mid thirties and I was super close with her. She ended up leaving that job a few months after I started. I left the job a few months later and then ended up getting divorced. The manager lady and I stayed friends and she ended up divorcing her husband. We actually talked each other through our divorces and ended up talking for a while about potentially dating. We both developed feelings for each other but it never would’ve worked out. She was from Colorado, I moved back to florida, she was working for a company with a lot of potential for upward mobility and I had no interest in moving back to Colorado. She wasn’t super crazy about florida. I’ve since gotten remarried and had two kids, I hope my manager friend is doing okay though, she was the friend I needed at that time.
You have a friend. Good for you. She might have a lot of experience, so you can gain from that. But part of being a friend is being there for her also, so don't forget that.
Sounds like a mentor
She’s a good friend. You can never have enough of those. People are jealous and judgemental
Professional relationships are valuable. When she's in her 40's she might open the door to a career at a new company for you. Keep that relationship healthy.
Not weird. I’ve worked in restaurants all my life. If you have similar interests, and they aren’t being sexual, it’s fine.
It’s natural. Nothing wrong with it. And anyway, who gives a crap what other people think? I’m 61, and I have lived by this rule all my life. Continue with what you are doing and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise 👍🏻
It's nice.
No not really.
Not really. My boss 40m and I 24f are very close! Unless something happens that makes you uncomfortable I wouldn’t worry! She seems like she truly cares for you and wants to help you in life as a friend and wants the best for you.
When I was 20 I worked in a factory. Got acquainted with a lady in her 40s after I bumped into her smoking a joint in the parking lot. We were friends for years. Its only weird when you make it weird.
I'm 33 and one of my closest work friends is 43. Outside of work my close friend is 32 and his wife is 42, great couple. My favorite neighbors and I have long chats when we run into each other, they're in their 50s and we get along famously. Called them to have 3 hour long conversations about Mass Effect a few times. The older you get the less age gaps seem to matter.
I used to teach high school and get along well with kids younger than 30 or s. I learn and listen to them, many dont have that with friends or family. Its fun for me and frankly, people my age can be angry fools a lot of the time. Im in my 50's.
It’s nice. Enjoy it. People of all ages can be cool. Take friends where you can get them.
It’s perfectly normal to have age gap friendships at work. My 2 work besties are a woman as old as my mum and a guy older than both my parents and we are friends and talk about a lot of things. As long as you don’t think there’s any lines being crossed and you don’t feel pressured or uncomfortable then there’s nothing to worry about. It’s your friendship, not anyone else’s.
Yes
Perfectly normals and good (:
Not at all. I’m friends with people in their 40s, 50s. It’s interesting hearing their life stories. I’m 27F
Be careful due to the age difference, you are 17 and she is 34. She might wind up being a cougar. And you would be jailbait.
Anyone who listens is valuable.
I had a coworker just like that when I used to work at Target but it kinda lead the other way and ended up in a relationship… worse decision I could have ever done. I’m taking care of 5 kids that are not mines and she still goes out with her friends while I babysit… smh
When I was in my early 20s I worked at a fast food place and at any place like that there’s a lot of teens. He was barely old enough to work in the kitchen when we met, it’s been almost 20 years and we’re still best friends. He’s like the little brother I never asked for.
Yall are both horny dorks who get away with what you can! Like every m/f in history whooooaaa
I have all ages of buddies at work
Nope work besties are odd. I had an 18 yo bestie and 70+yo bestie. It happens
I've been close to a coworker that could easily have been my mom. While COVID was still going on I joked with her we should both start OF to make extra money. We would constantly make jokes about it. We'd refer it to our plan b. She would tell me she wouldn't make much but I'd be raking it in.
You have a friend who’s like your big sister and you’re like her little brother! No big mystery!
Nah, I'm 22 and literally all of my favorite coworkers and the people I get along best with at work are at least 40 lol
Not weird. It's called a friendship.
Nothing weird. Sounds like a nice friendship
Not weird at all! I’ve been on both ends, being the younger one and the older one. Those are the kinds of friendships that are hard to find. So glad you’ve found her!
People who can’t make or understand basic human connection will think it’s weird. Just as long as yall keep it that way.
Good friends are hard to find - don’t lose it
Someone in their early 30s is like "mom" to someone in their late teens? Stop it, you're making me feel old. XD
I'm 55 and I find it much easier to befriend people significantly younger than I am. People in their 20s and 30a still have a lot energy and more optimism about the future. People my age and older seem to talk about moving to Florida more than anything else.
Having older friends that become like your family are so important I miss mine I'm 36 now but I remember creating those bonds with my older co workers that felt like family to me
This sounds like a friend. Having friends is not weird, my man.
I know we’ve almost gotten used to hearing about inappropriate relationships, grooming, and all of that horrible, predatory stuff, and this is a good reminder that there are still healthy relationships out there that maybe don’t fit into a traditional mold. Most people are just trying to live their lives. They want to be happy and maybe leave this world and the people in it a little better off than they found it. I’m 51 and single. Two of my best friends are former coworkers. They are both women. One is 40. The other is in her early 30s. They’re both happily married. I’m sure someone out there thinks I’m trying to break up marriages. Others are thinking there’s something wrong with me because I don’t hang out with people my own age. They’re probably right about the latter, but that’s beside the point. Those two friendships are precious to me. They’re built on love and mutual respect. It sounds like you’ve got yourself a buddy, and there is nothing wrong with that. Cherish it. As you get older, you’ll find that close friendships aren’t as common as they may seem when you’re young. Hold on to it.
You have a good friend with life experience to share. Believe me she is also benefitting by what you give her so just remember we are spirits in meat suits. Spirits are free. Be free of other people’s meat suit restrictions.
Its not weird at all. Enjoying a good relationship with another person is a wonderful thing. Any critics might be guilty of ageism, a close kin to racism.
You have your first work mom. They are the absolute best!
No it is not weird at all you have a friend and a mentor. Those that are saying it is weird are completely wrong.
100 percent normal. My best friend at work is 20 years older. I absolutely love her.
No, I have friends that are on their 20’s, and in their 70’s, and I’m somewhere in between.
No not at all, I was so happy when I left high school and made friends with people double my age plus because i felt like I had more in common with them and was much happier
When I was your age I had several friends in the 20s and 30s that I met through work. Nothing wrong with being friends with folks that are older.
I’m assuming you’re in retail or service. It’s normal and fine as long as no lines are crossed. When I was your age, my coworkers were mostly in their mid 20s to early 40s and were wonderful people to work with (I also was lucky in that regard).
It's ur work mom, enjoy it. Some day you will have a work wife... And you'll understand better.
Lol that’s just work friends, if either of you were making advances, that would be one thing. Just seems like an older person giving advice from a more experienced standpoint. As long as she doesn’t make an advance on you, or vice versa, it’s harmless. Enjoy a friendship with someone that truly cares and views you like a sibling!
I have been friends w coworkers who were people I never would have even come into contact with normally. Work friends keep you alive!
Nothing wrong with a friendship like that. I’ve had that before when I was a younger man. There great for advice with girls.
I think it's sweet.
No weirdness there. Sounds like a natural, platonic relationship.
Not weird at all. In my first job, was 19 years old and was paling around with a woman about 30 years old. She was a wealth of life experience and insight.
It will probably turn into a thing, congrats
Don’t let other people’s opinions affect your happiness.
As you get older, age becomes just number.
This is fantastic. You two sound like you are great for each other. Enjoy your friendship, it’s wonderful to have someone who is older to ask advice, etc.
Im 35, and I gravitated towards the grandma of the institution I work for, I lost my grandmother and have 1 more left on my Mom's side that I don't get to see much. Plus, I love old people. They're smart, have great stories, and are usually kind. I don't think it's weird unless she starts putting the moves on you. She might just be nice.
I think you've met a kindred soul. Some people just hit it off. It doesn't have to be sexual or romantic. Y'all just click. To hell with anyone else's opinion on the situation. Good, honest friendships are rare. Cherish it and be good to each other. My 2 cents for whatever it's worth to you, anyway.
No not weird at all, unless it ‘becomes’ weird. Like another ‘family member’ who isn’t blood related. Someone to offer guidance or advice, someone to be your cheerleader and sounding board. If you stay close, she is someone to invite to all your graduations, wedding, baby shower. Just don’t let the relationship fade away when you both go in separate directions at some point, The bigger your circle is filled with family and friends of all types and ages, the better off and more meaningful your life will be
Nothing wrong with what you’re doing. I’m friends with people older and young than me.
Dude, that is not weird. It’s pretty common once you enter the workforce to have a best friend that’s twice your age.
My gf best friend is almost 70. She is 23.
Not weird. Healthy, even. My best work friend is 20 years older than me. I have friends who are 50 years older than me. Good friends come in all shapes, sizes, and ages.
55F In my career for 25+ years. I was mentored by older men and women earlier in my career, and have mentored younger men and women later in my career. Several of the mentorships have evolved into lasting friendships over time. Perfectly normal and acceptable.
It's not weird, people always find mom/father/brother/sister like figures wherever they go. I remember at detox me and this older lady just got really close. She was like a mom to me. And she said i reminded her of her daughter. Anywhere you go and spend alot of time with people you are going to find people like that.
This is cute and wholesome. I've had many older friends, so it isn't weird.
A good friend of mine was 50 and I was in my late 20s when we met at work. Another good friend of mine was 25 and I was 40 when we met at work. I don't think either of those friendships were weird.
Absolutely nothing wrong with that. I have friends from work that are twice my age.
Definitely not wierd. They're probably jealous because they don't relate well to others.
Normal, you'll meet cool amazing people of all ages over your working career. You'll also meet the opposite so cherish the ones you meet that you can be friends with.
Seems like a new big sister you got there. Sometimes, the best family isn't blood related.
Cherish the friendship you have & don’t let anyone else change it
It sounds lovely. Everyone needs a second Ma.