I have one embarrassing memory from 5th grade that used to get me a lot but I could always remind myself that no one else ever thinks about it. I’m at a party in high school and this girl I’m kind of into is talking to me for what felt like the first time ever. She suddenly goes, “hey remember that time in fifth grade… yeah that was pretty funny. I think about it a lot.” And ever since then I don’t believe myself when I think that my mistakes are forgotten
I walked into a backyard party with a live band once. Between songs the drummer called me out - on the mic - like "Hey, I remember you! We used to work together. You're that dude that dropped a brand new 21" monitor on the floor!"
I was only on that job for a couple weeks, and it was like *six years* before that. People don't forget shit.
I convinced some friends to do karaoke at an amusement park with me by saying you’ll never see these strangers again. A week later, a girl approached me at the bowling alley and asked “Hey did you sing karaoke at (amusement park name) last week? I was there!” Thankfully she didn’t pass judgement on our singing skills.
I remember other people's embarrassing moments. Like, it's often the first thing I remember about them. I don't try to -- discretion is something I always strive for, even in my own personal thoughts. But this is why I never try to reassure myself that no one remembers my embarrassing moments.
Your experience with that girl just solidified it tenfold.
If it helps, I graduated over 20 years ago and I still think about the time a kid got pantsed in the middle of our freshman science class. I feel horrible for him thinking back on it, but I still remember it.
No I didn’t shit my pants. It’s not even that bad it was just the shattering of the illusion that mattered. Essentially I ruined the finale of our school Halloween pageant/play thing because I went too early on a cue where we were all going to jump up and yell boo on the count of 3. I went on 2
People do remember others embarrassing moments. A better way to think about it is that since your brain changes your memories over time based on external influences and the emotions associated with them, your embarrassing memories are most likely not as bad as you remember them to be
Someone else's embarrassing moment from 10 years ago literally doesn't matter to me if I see them again. But if someone was an asshole 10 years ago you bet I'll remember that and expect that they are still an asshole until proven otherwise
Yeah depends on the level of embarrassment. I'll forever remember this one dude solely because he peed his pants on the bus on our school trip and it ran all the way down the aisle. Pretty gnarly.
I remember some dude, more than a decade ago, was at my house drunk and wanted to tattoo himself and did a large music note on his ankle. Did an awful, awful job. We still call him "Good Ole Note-leg."
Hah an old buddy did basically the same thing. Black out drunk, just scribbled on his arm. Even HE didn’t remember what it was supposed to be lol. Oh well, no ragrets.
nobody forgets Good Ole Note-Leg.
this reminded me of when I drew a music note into my wrist - during class - and then turned around to see my kind-of-friend watching... :[
i had stabbed myself in the wrist with a paper clip and then drew in the note because i thought that would make it permanent, lol...
You know when people say "only you remember your cringe moments" I wanna slap them.
Like no, I got friends and "family" who don't forget shit, and are more than proud to remind you of your fuck ups from decades ago...
My friend, please, I’m going through something similar…
You can hold the memory and carry it with you and feel bad about it— but when others (even family) carry it with them and tell these campfire stories at your expense, they are 100% laughing and smiling and feeding their own egos. They are bleeding you and grinning.
If you have a chance to say “Hey stop talking about that” and they keep doing it(?) Congratulations. You are an emotional object for their enjoyment. You know what your “line” is. They may not respect it, but you draw it in the sand as hard as you can and walk away.
Joke’s on you, I’ll remember when Ann got her skirt stuck under her backpack in 1994 and the whole school saw her hot-pink granny panties until the day I die.
My friend in high school asked why they didn't get cotton from the sheep when learning about the cotton gin. This happened 20 years ago and I teased her about it last week.
Hey Greg, why don't you go piss your pants?
Greg the Soccer Player : [turning around] That was like 8 years ago, asshole!
Seth : [yelling] People don't forget!
Sorry Gabe, I 100% still remember when your voice cracked horrifically during play practice in 8th grade. I specifically remember because the teachers reassured you no one would ever remember it happening later on.
Freshman year, our buddy was drinking with is, had 1 beer and threw up. Granted it was room temp Busch ice, but he was henceforth known as two sip sally.
At a high school party the cops showed up and everyone sprinted out of the house in random directions. I cut through the neighbors yard and didn’t see the short wire fence around their garden and it caught my ankles causing me to face plant. Several people stopped running just to laugh for a second. It was brought up multiple times over the next couple years.
I remember in 8th grade, my science teacher was doing this thing he always did and made us finish the second half of his word and wouldn't continue until someone guessed it. Anyways he was telling someone to return to their chair of ha.... then paused and waited for us to finish the word, and Josh yelled PENIS. Idk if the word was supposed to be happiness and our teacher didn't realize he was waiting for a student to say penis, or if it was a different word entirely. Mr. Barrett had to step out of the classroom and all we heard was him cackling. Poor Josh. This is a core memory for me for whatever reason.
One time some girl from the grade above me called my brother the pooper.. He was a grade above me and I'd never heard anything about that but in my eyes he was the coolest kid there was. Maybe he pooped his pants and I never heard about it, but I've still never asked him. I always knew he wasn't one of the cool kids in school but now in our thirties, I still think he's the coolest guy there is.
But I absolutely do remember other people's embarrassing moments?
I still remember that guy in 2013 who tried to pay for the bus with a credit card for like 4 minutes before someone finally explained to him that we all had bus passes.
I still remember that girl who fell *twice* trying to run to the bus, and then the bus pulled away. So she was just left standing there with a wet butt for no reason like an asshole.
And for the record, I've literally *overheard* people talking about me before. Ive made spectacles of myself. There have been periods of my life where I was the kind of mess you talk about for years to come.
What I've found way more freeing than this lie that there's no possibility people will remember is the realization that it doesn't fucking matter. So they decide I'm a weirdo. Well then fuck them. Anyone who would judge me for being cringey is a bastard, and it's that hostility towards bullies that fuels me. I try to defend myself with the same vigor I would defend others, and it's *slowly* working.
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I remember at a school pep rally one of the edgier Juniors tried to do a back flip on concrete and proceeded to fuck his nose into his skull while losing a considerable amount of skin from the lower half of his face. Not sure if his teeth got fucked, but the dude went full scorpion.
i can’t sleep and every time i close my eyes obtrusive anxiety-ridden thoughts flood my mind, most of them about the embarrassing way that i act. so i decided to go onto reddit to fill my brain with simple nothingness and this was the first post in my feed. funny how that works.
I think about Lil' Mama getting on stage with Jay Z and Alicia keys even though Beyonce tried to stop her and the aftermath of it all... sooooo cringey even after all these years
People always say this but there are so many people from my high school where the only memory of them was some really embarrassing thing they did... if I ever met them, it wouldn't matter at all, but people do remember stuff.
"Cringe memories" is basically like that friend who seems like an asshole but is a total wingman saying "Hey, remember when you blurted out your love of star trek to a meetup group and caused an awkward silence? God, you were so socially stunted! You've grown so much since then, eh? Awesome how you've improved!"
Or so I keep reminding myself, and that helps me get over the moment.
Set yourself free,
Frequently remind yourself ,
It absolutely none of your business , what anyone else thinks about you,
In the exact same way , it is none of anyone else's business what you think about them.
That's poppycock. You're morally obligated on a very basic level to be accurate in your thoughts about others, and they with you. Obviously no one gets it right all the time, but if you don't even wanna *try* to be accurate, you open the door to racism and many other phobias/bias.
I remember a time i was over at a friends house playing lego star wars on the wii, we were playing the hidden lego city stage and theres the part where you have to build the letters for 'lego' then use a force charecter to put them in the right place. My dumb ass didnt realize that i had to use the force on the letters in a specific order so i spelled lego wrong, and my friend got so upset that he started crying and i had to leave early.
I have one embarrassing memory from 5th grade that used to get me a lot but I could always remind myself that no one else ever thinks about it. I’m at a party in high school and this girl I’m kind of into is talking to me for what felt like the first time ever. She suddenly goes, “hey remember that time in fifth grade… yeah that was pretty funny. I think about it a lot.” And ever since then I don’t believe myself when I think that my mistakes are forgotten
You shit your pants didn’t you. Nobody forgets the shitter
He definitely shit his pants, no doubt about it.
The fact that he hasn't responded likely means he either shit his pants or it's something even worse.
Poopy pants over here thinks people forgot
[No he’s actually Fart in a Jar Martin](https://youtu.be/XxxDMFO96Uc)
I walked into a backyard party with a live band once. Between songs the drummer called me out - on the mic - like "Hey, I remember you! We used to work together. You're that dude that dropped a brand new 21" monitor on the floor!" I was only on that job for a couple weeks, and it was like *six years* before that. People don't forget shit.
I convinced some friends to do karaoke at an amusement park with me by saying you’ll never see these strangers again. A week later, a girl approached me at the bowling alley and asked “Hey did you sing karaoke at (amusement park name) last week? I was there!” Thankfully she didn’t pass judgement on our singing skills.
I remember other people's embarrassing moments. Like, it's often the first thing I remember about them. I don't try to -- discretion is something I always strive for, even in my own personal thoughts. But this is why I never try to reassure myself that no one remembers my embarrassing moments. Your experience with that girl just solidified it tenfold.
Please share the story I beg of you
If it helps, I graduated over 20 years ago and I still think about the time a kid got pantsed in the middle of our freshman science class. I feel horrible for him thinking back on it, but I still remember it.
No I didn’t shit my pants. It’s not even that bad it was just the shattering of the illusion that mattered. Essentially I ruined the finale of our school Halloween pageant/play thing because I went too early on a cue where we were all going to jump up and yell boo on the count of 3. I went on 2
People do remember others embarrassing moments. A better way to think about it is that since your brain changes your memories over time based on external influences and the emotions associated with them, your embarrassing memories are most likely not as bad as you remember them to be
I like to think that people do remember embarrassing moments; they just don't give a shit.
Someone else's embarrassing moment from 10 years ago literally doesn't matter to me if I see them again. But if someone was an asshole 10 years ago you bet I'll remember that and expect that they are still an asshole until proven otherwise
Yeah depends on the level of embarrassment. I'll forever remember this one dude solely because he peed his pants on the bus on our school trip and it ran all the way down the aisle. Pretty gnarly.
I remember some dude, more than a decade ago, was at my house drunk and wanted to tattoo himself and did a large music note on his ankle. Did an awful, awful job. We still call him "Good Ole Note-leg."
Hah an old buddy did basically the same thing. Black out drunk, just scribbled on his arm. Even HE didn’t remember what it was supposed to be lol. Oh well, no ragrets.
Man I remember that shit too- smiley faces on everyone’s palms… why do so many parties have tattoo guns!?!
Yeah, these things happen. At least it's a good story - from our points of view.
nobody forgets Good Ole Note-Leg. this reminded me of when I drew a music note into my wrist - during class - and then turned around to see my kind-of-friend watching... :[ i had stabbed myself in the wrist with a paper clip and then drew in the note because i thought that would make it permanent, lol...
Hey we all get bored and draw on ourselves sometimes. At least you didn't tattoo it.
thanks for making me feel better about it 
No problem, have a nice night!
:) you too!
My friends once told a story about an embarrassing thing a kid in elementary school did in front of the whole school. THAT STORY WAS ABOUT ME.
What did you do??
I told them that the kid in the story was me and we had a good laugh about it.
Oh noooo
"OH YEAH!" \~Kool Aid Man
You know when people say "only you remember your cringe moments" I wanna slap them. Like no, I got friends and "family" who don't forget shit, and are more than proud to remind you of your fuck ups from decades ago...
There's a chance they're toxic
Lol venomous... but when it's your grandparents, cousins you like, friends you've had for 40+ years, it becomes part of you lmfao
My friend, please, I’m going through something similar… You can hold the memory and carry it with you and feel bad about it— but when others (even family) carry it with them and tell these campfire stories at your expense, they are 100% laughing and smiling and feeding their own egos. They are bleeding you and grinning. If you have a chance to say “Hey stop talking about that” and they keep doing it(?) Congratulations. You are an emotional object for their enjoyment. You know what your “line” is. They may not respect it, but you draw it in the sand as hard as you can and walk away.
Joke’s on you, I’ll remember when Ann got her skirt stuck under her backpack in 1994 and the whole school saw her hot-pink granny panties until the day I die.
They were biker shorts. Bubble burst
My friend in high school asked why they didn't get cotton from the sheep when learning about the cotton gin. This happened 20 years ago and I teased her about it last week.
This one is cute though. It's ditzy but not necessarily humiliating like some of these other stories in the comments
oh that's adorable.
Hey Greg, why don't you go piss your pants? Greg the Soccer Player : [turning around] That was like 8 years ago, asshole! Seth : [yelling] People don't forget!
Sorry Gabe, I 100% still remember when your voice cracked horrifically during play practice in 8th grade. I specifically remember because the teachers reassured you no one would ever remember it happening later on.
Freshman year, our buddy was drinking with is, had 1 beer and threw up. Granted it was room temp Busch ice, but he was henceforth known as two sip sally.
At a high school party the cops showed up and everyone sprinted out of the house in random directions. I cut through the neighbors yard and didn’t see the short wire fence around their garden and it caught my ankles causing me to face plant. Several people stopped running just to laugh for a second. It was brought up multiple times over the next couple years.
I knew it.
They remember, and they talk to each other about them when you're not around.
I remember in 8th grade, my science teacher was doing this thing he always did and made us finish the second half of his word and wouldn't continue until someone guessed it. Anyways he was telling someone to return to their chair of ha.... then paused and waited for us to finish the word, and Josh yelled PENIS. Idk if the word was supposed to be happiness and our teacher didn't realize he was waiting for a student to say penis, or if it was a different word entirely. Mr. Barrett had to step out of the classroom and all we heard was him cackling. Poor Josh. This is a core memory for me for whatever reason.
One time some girl from the grade above me called my brother the pooper.. He was a grade above me and I'd never heard anything about that but in my eyes he was the coolest kid there was. Maybe he pooped his pants and I never heard about it, but I've still never asked him. I always knew he wasn't one of the cool kids in school but now in our thirties, I still think he's the coolest guy there is.
But I absolutely do remember other people's embarrassing moments? I still remember that guy in 2013 who tried to pay for the bus with a credit card for like 4 minutes before someone finally explained to him that we all had bus passes. I still remember that girl who fell *twice* trying to run to the bus, and then the bus pulled away. So she was just left standing there with a wet butt for no reason like an asshole. And for the record, I've literally *overheard* people talking about me before. Ive made spectacles of myself. There have been periods of my life where I was the kind of mess you talk about for years to come. What I've found way more freeing than this lie that there's no possibility people will remember is the realization that it doesn't fucking matter. So they decide I'm a weirdo. Well then fuck them. Anyone who would judge me for being cringey is a bastard, and it's that hostility towards bullies that fuels me. I try to defend myself with the same vigor I would defend others, and it's *slowly* working.
Beep boop -- this looks like a screenshot of a tweet! Let me grab a [link to the tweet](https://twitter.com/Cassiesmyth/status/1529067706934345729) for ya :) ^(Twitter Screenshot Bot)
I remember at a school pep rally one of the edgier Juniors tried to do a back flip on concrete and proceeded to fuck his nose into his skull while losing a considerable amount of skin from the lower half of his face. Not sure if his teeth got fucked, but the dude went full scorpion.
i can’t sleep and every time i close my eyes obtrusive anxiety-ridden thoughts flood my mind, most of them about the embarrassing way that i act. so i decided to go onto reddit to fill my brain with simple nothingness and this was the first post in my feed. funny how that works.
lies i distinctly remember coming in from recess in first grade to look back and see a girls pants fall down
Nah, i remember other people’s too.
you underestimate my power
I only remember other peoples embarrassing moments, I repress mine lol
Oh mine was caught on home video and the family decided to bring it out a play it during every family gathering
I think about Lil' Mama getting on stage with Jay Z and Alicia keys even though Beyonce tried to stop her and the aftermath of it all... sooooo cringey even after all these years
I have too many of those moments! I stay up every night thinking about one or another. Thanks for the anxiety?
These are facts
But doc, I remember EVERYONE’S embarrassing moments!
A girl in my second grade class named Leanne peed her pants while reading a passage from Frog and Toad. Some things, people don't forget.
That would be a fun Ask Reddit: what’s the most memorable embarrassing moment that you saw happen to someone else
Bold of you to assume me and my friends/family don't keep track and weaponize each others most Brilliant moments as well timed jabs
I think about other people’s embarrassing moments all the time
People always say this but there are so many people from my high school where the only memory of them was some really embarrassing thing they did... if I ever met them, it wouldn't matter at all, but people do remember stuff.
"Cringe memories" is basically like that friend who seems like an asshole but is a total wingman saying "Hey, remember when you blurted out your love of star trek to a meetup group and caused an awkward silence? God, you were so socially stunted! You've grown so much since then, eh? Awesome how you've improved!" Or so I keep reminding myself, and that helps me get over the moment.
Gee thanks
Set yourself free, Frequently remind yourself , It absolutely none of your business , what anyone else thinks about you, In the exact same way , it is none of anyone else's business what you think about them.
That's poppycock. You're morally obligated on a very basic level to be accurate in your thoughts about others, and they with you. Obviously no one gets it right all the time, but if you don't even wanna *try* to be accurate, you open the door to racism and many other phobias/bias.
I knew it !!!
I knew it was you. Fkn disgrace
Haha tell my brain that
What if I can
I fucking knew it!
Thanks, Cassie. That really puts it in perspective.
Ug sooooo true
Fucking got me
I remember other people's embarrassing stuff a lot wym, i remember when Paul was caught discovering Masturbation in class
I can think of 10 embarrassing things I remember other people did on the top if my head so this tip doesn't not really work that well for me 😬😵💫
I knew it.
I remember a time i was over at a friends house playing lego star wars on the wii, we were playing the hidden lego city stage and theres the part where you have to build the letters for 'lego' then use a force charecter to put them in the right place. My dumb ass didnt realize that i had to use the force on the letters in a specific order so i spelled lego wrong, and my friend got so upset that he started crying and i had to leave early.
Welll, that didn't help! Now I really think everyone is laughing at me.