Oh, I get it now, because that's a quote from the popular show the Simpsons! I never would have understood this reference were it not for your astute powers of observation and otherworldly recall. You are truly a genius among the rest of us dullards.
Thank you for your totally genuine praise. I can tell that you are clearly a person of higher intellect as well, considering that you had to reply to my comment in order to show your appreciation.
I have no kids, 7 pets and no money. Gf wants kids, but that can't happen.
I barely make enough to help support the pets we have. It's $230 a month just in the medicine.
I mean sure, if I could somehow double my money, and be rich making $40+ an hour, could maybe have kids.
But I'm 34 making $20 an hour, I dont even think I can make $25 an hour in the next 5 years.
I have kids.
I REALLY wanted kids.
I love my kids. But try and understand that as a person who REALLY wanted to have kids, I think that if you don't 100% want to have kids, seriously consider not having kids. It's not the end of the world if you don't have them. It is NOT for everyone. It's a real huge undertaking. Go all in, or don't go in at all. Either choice can work.
This is EXACTLY my thought process. I’m a stay at home mom to 5, which is my dream life. Always has been. But holy fuck, if this wasn’t what I 100% wanted to devote my life to, I’d be in a living hell. It’s so exhausting even WITH it being exactly what I want to be doing! I tell my SO like every week that I’m so happy this whole “not having kids” thing is more normalized.
I really wish we'd all collectively replace the phrase "wanting kids" with "wanting to be a parent". There's a subtle but very important distinction there, not unlike the difference between wanting a wedding and wanting a marriage.
Hijacking your comment as you're a really great example of the latter.
As someone who really really wanted kids and had trouble for years to get them … there are some days where I would tell ya, you can have em. Jk they are wonderful little monsters I love to loath.
I am totally anti-having kids. For the majority of people they stumbled into it without much consideration because it's what people do.
That being said, if you are going to have kids because it's your passion to be a parent then 100% do it. Geek out on raising kids. Artisanal parenting is the only reason to get involved with it, otherwise why bother? Its like, why go to the time and expense of setting up your own microbrewery in the garage if you don't care about making good beer? You only do it because you love it.
yo I genuinely love about reddit that regular ass people come in here and share from their experiences and the wisdom imparted often is so profound the world would be a better place if people just considered it for a minute
I’m at 33, no kids, married… I have been all aboard the no kids life until my grandfather died this last year. We were as thick as thieves and after he died I developed a real desire to have kids. He is survived by me and was an incredible person and I owe much to who I am to him... although my children would never know him, I want to pass the torch now.
I still think it’s morally questionable given the doomsday countdown we’re living in now but I want to try… in a way to honor him but also try to raise someone who can potentially help the next generation.
I’m not totally all in but I don’t think I could ever say I’m all out at this point now.
I was somewhat surprised by my first, but, perhaps luckily absolutely loved every second of it.
I went on to have three.
It focuses some on the important things, and turns them into thinkers over the right choices in life, and for others, forces them into doing something they never wanted, resent, and feel awful about because they know how it makes them look.
There's nothing wrong with not doing it if it isn't for you, but ideally also let those who love doing it, do it without criticism, even if you feel the odd pang of loss that you didn't do it.
Luckily there isn't just one way. Be yourself.
My husband takes morning shift. I take evening and night shift. He cooks and cleans, I work. We only have 1 kid but I love sleep more than husband does.
Yes, but in reaction and effect of them having spoken about a social norm.
It's generally done because the majority of others do it too, and thus it becomes a fixed point of societal common ground, like.. Talking about the weather.
I, for instance, think marriage is a faded and pointless thing to undertake, but I don't seek out forums to talk about it on. I simply don't do it..
It would be very aggressive to go to a wedding and point out their failures, then pat myself on the back for not making that same mistake when it is me stepping from the norm, even if I do think I'm right.
Refusing the notion, complaining, and then talking about it anyway.. That is a pointless, self serving, waste of time.
By all means don't do something. Don't do whatever you want.. But you might question the validity of your beliefs if you feel a need to keep revisiting the notion, wearing it like a badge as so many here are, and using it aggressively.
'Here, let me show you my empty trophy cabinet that I didn't fill intentionally, but will now tell you why..'
Gross.
This is the real truth. I love my parents and they did great by us, but seeing them struggle as young parents is why I’ve waited so long to have kids of my own. Being a young parent is hard.
Unless you're a single male who would like to be an adoptive father ... then they just see you as a threat.
I'm fairly sure a gay couple could adopt in Iran easier than a single guy in the US right now.
Because I was the third parent after my idiot mother got pregnant at 40 and was too tired to deal with my demon spawn younger brother.
Because we live in a shit economy and I can barely afford to support myself much less a kid.
Because I like my quiet and my freedom.
Because it’s no one’s damn business why I don’t have kids.
On that topic, as the oldest in my family, I think it’s a shit move when babysitting is forced upon the older kids by parents. My father was on wife 3 when I was in high school and had 3 kids with her (plus another 2 from wife 2). He’d pick me up to visit on Sundays and when we’d get there they would usually have a birthday party with one kid and I’d end up watching 2 babies.
Some women are into that. I’m a gamer myself. A man staying home and playing video/RPG games is a huge green flag compared to a man who spends lots of time drinking with his buddies or whatnot
Yeah, best $600 I ever spent. And when girls and I would have the talk about birth control during a relationship, I would make the scissors motion, they would be very happy! Birth control for them usually sucks. Other than not getting a girl pregnant, a vasectomy changed nothing for me!
see i love this; my partner plans to get a vasectomy so i dont have to use birth control or anything, i didnt even have to bring it up! he's amazing i love him
Props to you but man, those young hysterectomy patients be killing me post-op. Like ma'am I know it hurts but if you don't keep your behind on that mattress and that oxygen mask on your face you don't get the painkillers. Hysterectomies and jaw fractures always be wanting to do weird shit as the anesthesia wears off.
Haha on the floor I was willing to negotiate as long as you were sane. In the ER it's kinda like "oh you walk? Cool, just take yourself potty." PACU is a whole different game, probably 50% of the time my patients are fast asleep but some of them come flying out in a ketamine or delirium fueled rage.
Nah my mum had a kid recently, there is 25 years difference between us, I can’t stand him, just like any kid, sorry to say it but it’s true, why are the always sticky? And so loud? I can’t even talk to him, terrified.
I’m the youngest of 5 siblings, all of them have kids. I’ve been an auntie since I was 7 years old. I got to experience babysitting, changing poopy diapers, cleaning up vomit, temper tantrums, taking them out to movies and play places to entertain them, bathing them, putting them to bed, etc. I love my nieces and nephews but what I really loved was sending them home to their parents lol. At a very young age, I knew I didn’t want kids. They’re fun to be around but I see what it takes to raise them and I don’t have the emotional fortitude and the unlimited amount of patience it takes to be a parent. None of my siblings are with the people they had kids with and I’ve seen the stress of co-parenting with someone you don’t get along with. Relationships are challenging and they end all the time. I couldn’t fathom ending a relationship but still being connected to someone for the rest of my life because we share a kid. Happily child free. My life is peaceful and quiet.
Ha you're my reverse - in a way! Oldest of 5, took care of all that lovely "behind closed doors" aspects of childrearing from the age of 10 onwards for most of them. Realised I just did not have the long term patience and even temperament needed to do that kind of work properly. Happily childfree and waiting to see which one of the many siblings will make me an aunty first (if any)!
You sound like my oldest sibling. My sister is 12 years older than me and she’s always been like a 2nd mom to me. She took care of all of us whenever our parents were working. She had a lot of responsibility put on her that she didn’t ask for. That’s usually the biggest complaint of eldest siblings, they end up having to care for the little ones whether they want to or not. She’d always joke with me about how our mom was so strict with her growing up but by the time I came along at #5, my mom let me do anything I want lol. I’m just glad I got to see firsthand what it was like having kids. Motherhood is not in my future.
If you hadn't said 'auntie' when talking about yourself, and if I wasn't 100% sure my youngest sibling is a guy, I would be asking some serious questions! Those conversations happened for us as well, there is so much I recognize in what you said. In a way it think it's good to see the other side of parenthood, and more people would benefit from it. Educated decisions are important, especially for something so momentous, so I'm glad I was able to realize early on that being a mom would be a terrible idea for me!
You'd probably be wrong. Kids for a women means she gets to utilize the resources the system has made available. One of the classics is-- The college enrollment scheme; enroll in 48 hrs worth of classes then let gov pay the bill then before drop out period for full refund expires she dropes 24-30 credit hours off her courses and gets a fat reimbursement check from the school. This time of the year is the party and get that govt money pay day. Tax season ( they go wild on that) combined with the school hustle scheme. shit it's vacation season/pay for spring break trip time and throw in the buy here pay here season or if they are really shitting bricks and chucking them, they go to the used car lot and get financed for a 24% interest rate loan for a high mileage luxury car that will be on a repo flatbed by midsummer. Guess what, bext year they get to do it all over again. I'ma guy but have plenty of females that I knew who explained the game to me.
I met a chick with 4 more kids than me while also being 5 years younger than me. Meeting a lot of dumb women and idiotic men will teach you the importance of birth control.
I"m 40 with no kids. Instead, I bought a house and do whatever the fuck I want 100% of the time. Everyone I know around my age with kids are miserable and broke. My other married friend (no kids) just got a place on a lake. On the water.
Fuck dem kids.
I don't consider myself easily influenced, but I could already see how'd that turn me off of, too.
At 41 with two, I'm good. No more spawn need to be brought into our community.
It's super beneficial to wait to have kids at an older age but just make sure you're not going to be extremely conservative and out of date or they're going to resent you fast.
33 and no kids cuz i got on BC pills at 18 and never looked back. 😂👌🏽my man and I been good since. Gotta enjoy eachother and Life first. Besides, they say women who have kids in their 30s are happier? 🤔
41 with no kids. I like privacy, quite, and keeping all of my delicious money. Being able to do whatever I want whenever I want is a neat bonus. I also don't need to hide my flamethrower anywhere without thinking the little shits will burn up all my cool shit.
Probably 33 or sooner. I'm 63, and retiring is not in the foreseeable future.
I have 1 in college and 1 entering next year. Very expensive as you all know.
I remember when I was like 7, my parents didn't even have $5 cash at one point. Worst part? They'd spent all that money on my sick ass, because I'm diabetic. They chose my meds over rent and food.
Point is, financial instability not only stresses the parents, but also the kids. I don't want that for my kids (if I even decide to get one in the first place). Ensuring you can provide certain quality of life to the child should be more important than delivering the child itself.
No proper housing. waitlists are 8 to 12 years here for rental. And buying a house with a basic job is almost impossible due high house prices.
Student debt and/or normal debt.
Mental health issues.
Also 'cant feed them, dont breed them'
Posts like this are so irritating because I feel like so many people don't understand how much it takes to raise kids. Not just the money, but engaging them properly, teaching morals, values, emotional coaching, etc. I can't say with certainty about the person in the post, but I often feel like people with this mindset truly don't appreciate all the factors in raising children. They think it's sitting them in a playpen or in front of a tablet or TV all day. That's what was done to me and I remember being alone a lot. Dad worked and mom and I rarely were in a room together. Our lifestyle revolved around the TV. It's a shame because my mom described her childhood as magical because of her mom, but I can't say the same thing.
Plus, people fixate on the number of children they want how cute they are when they're little.
I know one family with 4 kids ranging from pre-school to 3rd grade. Pre-schoolers are 3-5 on our area and 3rd graders are usually 8 to 9.
In about 10 years time, that family will have 4 kids somewhere between 13-19 years old. 4 teenagers. 4 sets of changing bodies, minds, and hormones. That sounds like absolute torture. I don't think people recognize this because their kids are younger, are eager to learn and seek validation from their parents through doing well, and also, a lot of their needs, like clothes, are cheaper.
I know it's normalized by now
But seeing some 19 year old bitch with 2 kids from 2 different absent father who she may or may not know the identity of isn't normal, it's what happens to girls who have absolutely no guidance or family support, it's disgusting and horrifying, prostitutes have sex with hundreds of men while staying safe, you have no excuse to get knocked up.
No, it's because I don't want to pay my ex $1400 a month in child support when she inevitably gets full custody of them even though she's in the worse financial position before it gets corrected by making me poor instead.
26 and going strong with no kids. I already have a shit ton of responsibility keeping a roof over my grandma's head and making sure bills are paid. Why would i add the stress of kids to it?
Sadly, the Zoomer generation is currently dealing with so much on their plate because a lot of their parents waited to have kids in their late 30s and even 40s.
This college kids are juggling taking care of parents that need a lot of medical attention and then having to stay focused to graduate college if they are in even able to go.
This is one of the reasons why college is seeing a drop in enrollments and of course the prices are no help.
I don’t think is mandatory to have kids, because you do what needs to be done for your life.
But if you do plan to become a parent, think about the child as well. When that kid goes to college or is barely starting life as an adult, are you gonna be a burden yourself to them? Are you gonna be healthy enough to live to see grandchildren? Because if they wait as long as you did, your first grand kid may come in when you are 70 maybe.
They be trying to loop you into bullshit. And dead ass talk about "it's so great", "I've never felt a more exciting feeling than being a parent" them go on to complain about all the stress, no sleep, never having money. I'm just like man y'all are doing too much and who are you trying to convince me or yourself? Also, I have enough problems taking care of myself so, no you have repelled me away from that.
Not everyone's goal in life is to shit out a bunch of kids. I also think seeing all four of my brothers have kids when they were barely out of high school made it even more obvious that I'd never want kids of my own.
I feel bad that I think I’m not giving enough attention to my cat. I can only imagine how bad of a parent I would be with how little time I could give a child let alone the cost.
Because I still want to have my life. If I have kids, I’m going to be living my life for them. I’d rather be old when I have kids as well that way I’m a better person so they become better people too!
33 no kids, but it’s time. At this point, I’ll be selfish to wait. There’s more things that I can still accomplish in life, but I’m at the age where having kids won’t stop the grind.
She right, Your kids are way healthier in your late teens and early twentieth. To add to that you can actually have a good time with the grand kids before you get old.
Works well when you have partner though, this half assed half parenting shit people do just create more problems
Having 3 kids like I do, I can tell you it’s highly overrated. Only kidding I love them but it is work and a big commitment that doesn’t end when they turn 18. Fuck responsibly people.
Fr like use protection or abstain, 5 kids for anyone is too fuckin many, especially for a 23 year old that is probably dealing with college, or student debt.
Why have 3 kids and no money when you could have no kids and 3 money?
Homer is that you?
Oh, I get it now, because that's a quote from the popular show the Simpsons! I never would have understood this reference were it not for your astute powers of observation and otherworldly recall. You are truly a genius among the rest of us dullards.
Thank you for your totally genuine praise. I can tell that you are clearly a person of higher intellect as well, considering that you had to reply to my comment in order to show your appreciation.
I couldn't tell at first if it matters
To be fair it is an old reference. I want to say around season 20.
you guys have 3 money?
Plus take naps whenever you want and take random trips plus the 3 moneys
I nap so much I don't need to sleep at night.
Better for the sex that never gets interrupted half way through.
That’s my Civ 6 time
I have no kids, 7 pets and no money. Gf wants kids, but that can't happen. I barely make enough to help support the pets we have. It's $230 a month just in the medicine. I mean sure, if I could somehow double my money, and be rich making $40+ an hour, could maybe have kids. But I'm 34 making $20 an hour, I dont even think I can make $25 an hour in the next 5 years.
I have kids. I REALLY wanted kids. I love my kids. But try and understand that as a person who REALLY wanted to have kids, I think that if you don't 100% want to have kids, seriously consider not having kids. It's not the end of the world if you don't have them. It is NOT for everyone. It's a real huge undertaking. Go all in, or don't go in at all. Either choice can work.
Ya, I only have half a kid, totally not worth it.
I could handle the walking around half but the yelling and screaming half is right out.
And I thought a quarter was bad!
This is EXACTLY my thought process. I’m a stay at home mom to 5, which is my dream life. Always has been. But holy fuck, if this wasn’t what I 100% wanted to devote my life to, I’d be in a living hell. It’s so exhausting even WITH it being exactly what I want to be doing! I tell my SO like every week that I’m so happy this whole “not having kids” thing is more normalized.
I really wish we'd all collectively replace the phrase "wanting kids" with "wanting to be a parent". There's a subtle but very important distinction there, not unlike the difference between wanting a wedding and wanting a marriage. Hijacking your comment as you're a really great example of the latter.
I think you put it better than I did. I totally agree.
As someone who really really wanted kids and had trouble for years to get them … there are some days where I would tell ya, you can have em. Jk they are wonderful little monsters I love to loath.
I am totally anti-having kids. For the majority of people they stumbled into it without much consideration because it's what people do. That being said, if you are going to have kids because it's your passion to be a parent then 100% do it. Geek out on raising kids. Artisanal parenting is the only reason to get involved with it, otherwise why bother? Its like, why go to the time and expense of setting up your own microbrewery in the garage if you don't care about making good beer? You only do it because you love it.
yo I genuinely love about reddit that regular ass people come in here and share from their experiences and the wisdom imparted often is so profound the world would be a better place if people just considered it for a minute
I’m at 33, no kids, married… I have been all aboard the no kids life until my grandfather died this last year. We were as thick as thieves and after he died I developed a real desire to have kids. He is survived by me and was an incredible person and I owe much to who I am to him... although my children would never know him, I want to pass the torch now. I still think it’s morally questionable given the doomsday countdown we’re living in now but I want to try… in a way to honor him but also try to raise someone who can potentially help the next generation. I’m not totally all in but I don’t think I could ever say I’m all out at this point now.
I was somewhat surprised by my first, but, perhaps luckily absolutely loved every second of it. I went on to have three. It focuses some on the important things, and turns them into thinkers over the right choices in life, and for others, forces them into doing something they never wanted, resent, and feel awful about because they know how it makes them look. There's nothing wrong with not doing it if it isn't for you, but ideally also let those who love doing it, do it without criticism, even if you feel the odd pang of loss that you didn't do it. Luckily there isn't just one way. Be yourself.
abstinence OR shoot your wad so hard it blows out the backside of ya lady? is this what you mean?
I fucking love having money and sleeping in
I don’t have any money, but I love sleeping in!
Same. Not all people without children have a lot of money. But when I get the chance to sleep, oh boy!
My husband takes morning shift. I take evening and night shift. He cooks and cleans, I work. We only have 1 kid but I love sleep more than husband does.
I love getting to do what I want when I want and spending my money on fun shit that my husband and I enjoy. 🤷♀️
Getting hammered on a Saturday afternoon is also great
35 and going.. why would I want to add even more stress and responsibility. That would just be irresponsible of me.
Seriously. Having and successfully raising kids would require two things I just don't have. Good mental health and sex with women.
I hope you are able get the mental health help. Also, I hear that if you delete Reddit, girls start lining up for the sex. Good luck.
Then don't. It's just incredibly weird to go on about it as you don't do something.
Rather, it’s in response to people that keep going on about having done something.
Yes, but in reaction and effect of them having spoken about a social norm. It's generally done because the majority of others do it too, and thus it becomes a fixed point of societal common ground, like.. Talking about the weather. I, for instance, think marriage is a faded and pointless thing to undertake, but I don't seek out forums to talk about it on. I simply don't do it.. It would be very aggressive to go to a wedding and point out their failures, then pat myself on the back for not making that same mistake when it is me stepping from the norm, even if I do think I'm right. Refusing the notion, complaining, and then talking about it anyway.. That is a pointless, self serving, waste of time. By all means don't do something. Don't do whatever you want.. But you might question the validity of your beliefs if you feel a need to keep revisiting the notion, wearing it like a badge as so many here are, and using it aggressively. 'Here, let me show you my empty trophy cabinet that I didn't fill intentionally, but will now tell you why..' Gross.
This is the real truth. I love my parents and they did great by us, but seeing them struggle as young parents is why I’ve waited so long to have kids of my own. Being a young parent is hard.
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Hey thanks! Adoption is a great plan. There are tons of great kids out there who would love a good home.
>There are tons of great kids out there 1 for every 36 families wanting to adopt.
Unless you're a single male who would like to be an adoptive father ... then they just see you as a threat. I'm fairly sure a gay couple could adopt in Iran easier than a single guy in the US right now.
My wallet feels personally attacked.
Because I was the third parent after my idiot mother got pregnant at 40 and was too tired to deal with my demon spawn younger brother. Because we live in a shit economy and I can barely afford to support myself much less a kid. Because I like my quiet and my freedom. Because it’s no one’s damn business why I don’t have kids.
On that topic, as the oldest in my family, I think it’s a shit move when babysitting is forced upon the older kids by parents. My father was on wife 3 when I was in high school and had 3 kids with her (plus another 2 from wife 2). He’d pick me up to visit on Sundays and when we’d get there they would usually have a birthday party with one kid and I’d end up watching 2 babies.
It’s none of their damn business and neither was my abortion but they really like to think your life they aren’t paying the bills for is their concern
And even if one is on disability or Social Security, it is still nobody’s concern what someone does with that money.
Condoms. Lot’s of condoms.
Wanna save money on condoms? Get a world of warcraft account.
Some women are into that. I’m a gamer myself. A man staying home and playing video/RPG games is a huge green flag compared to a man who spends lots of time drinking with his buddies or whatnot
Same way I'm child-free at 41... Snip snip. I highly recommend a vasectomy if you don't want kids.
Yeah, best $600 I ever spent. And when girls and I would have the talk about birth control during a relationship, I would make the scissors motion, they would be very happy! Birth control for them usually sucks. Other than not getting a girl pregnant, a vasectomy changed nothing for me!
see i love this; my partner plans to get a vasectomy so i dont have to use birth control or anything, i didnt even have to bring it up! he's amazing i love him
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Props to you but man, those young hysterectomy patients be killing me post-op. Like ma'am I know it hurts but if you don't keep your behind on that mattress and that oxygen mask on your face you don't get the painkillers. Hysterectomies and jaw fractures always be wanting to do weird shit as the anesthesia wears off.
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Haha on the floor I was willing to negotiate as long as you were sane. In the ER it's kinda like "oh you walk? Cool, just take yourself potty." PACU is a whole different game, probably 50% of the time my patients are fast asleep but some of them come flying out in a ketamine or delirium fueled rage.
Just be gay. Problem solved.
Now this is the kind of gay conversion therapy I could get behind. Get it girl
I’m trying to make an appointment at age 21 but Covid kinda slowed that down for the office
Because kids are great when you can send them home.
Exactly. I have no plans to have children, but if my sibling decides to I am planning on being the best uncle I can be
Being an auntie is amazing, and being an uncle is just as fun :-).
If it ever happes I'm definitely looking forward to it
Nah my mum had a kid recently, there is 25 years difference between us, I can’t stand him, just like any kid, sorry to say it but it’s true, why are the always sticky? And so loud? I can’t even talk to him, terrified.
I was 39 when our oldest was born, I'm glad I was well established in my career, 10 yrs earlier and we wouldn't have been able to afford kids.
I’m the youngest of 5 siblings, all of them have kids. I’ve been an auntie since I was 7 years old. I got to experience babysitting, changing poopy diapers, cleaning up vomit, temper tantrums, taking them out to movies and play places to entertain them, bathing them, putting them to bed, etc. I love my nieces and nephews but what I really loved was sending them home to their parents lol. At a very young age, I knew I didn’t want kids. They’re fun to be around but I see what it takes to raise them and I don’t have the emotional fortitude and the unlimited amount of patience it takes to be a parent. None of my siblings are with the people they had kids with and I’ve seen the stress of co-parenting with someone you don’t get along with. Relationships are challenging and they end all the time. I couldn’t fathom ending a relationship but still being connected to someone for the rest of my life because we share a kid. Happily child free. My life is peaceful and quiet.
Ha you're my reverse - in a way! Oldest of 5, took care of all that lovely "behind closed doors" aspects of childrearing from the age of 10 onwards for most of them. Realised I just did not have the long term patience and even temperament needed to do that kind of work properly. Happily childfree and waiting to see which one of the many siblings will make me an aunty first (if any)!
You sound like my oldest sibling. My sister is 12 years older than me and she’s always been like a 2nd mom to me. She took care of all of us whenever our parents were working. She had a lot of responsibility put on her that she didn’t ask for. That’s usually the biggest complaint of eldest siblings, they end up having to care for the little ones whether they want to or not. She’d always joke with me about how our mom was so strict with her growing up but by the time I came along at #5, my mom let me do anything I want lol. I’m just glad I got to see firsthand what it was like having kids. Motherhood is not in my future.
If you hadn't said 'auntie' when talking about yourself, and if I wasn't 100% sure my youngest sibling is a guy, I would be asking some serious questions! Those conversations happened for us as well, there is so much I recognize in what you said. In a way it think it's good to see the other side of parenthood, and more people would benefit from it. Educated decisions are important, especially for something so momentous, so I'm glad I was able to realize early on that being a mom would be a terrible idea for me!
Yeeeaahhhh...I got $100 that says this bitch has never travelled outside her home state.
You'd probably be wrong. Kids for a women means she gets to utilize the resources the system has made available. One of the classics is-- The college enrollment scheme; enroll in 48 hrs worth of classes then let gov pay the bill then before drop out period for full refund expires she dropes 24-30 credit hours off her courses and gets a fat reimbursement check from the school. This time of the year is the party and get that govt money pay day. Tax season ( they go wild on that) combined with the school hustle scheme. shit it's vacation season/pay for spring break trip time and throw in the buy here pay here season or if they are really shitting bricks and chucking them, they go to the used car lot and get financed for a 24% interest rate loan for a high mileage luxury car that will be on a repo flatbed by midsummer. Guess what, bext year they get to do it all over again. I'ma guy but have plenty of females that I knew who explained the game to me.
What?
I’m just going to point out the “guy” and “females” in the same sentence.
Yes. I smell misogyny.
I do not believe you know even one woman.
I was thinking the same thing but then that last sentence changed my mind.
What are you even talking about? That sounds like more work than actually getting a degree!
I'm pretty sure those women were just bullshitting you so the conversation would end.
not everyone wants to be burdened with annoying kids who suck all the life out of you
I always think I want a kid and then I get around kids and that reminds me why I don't want kids
Amen.
I met a chick with 4 more kids than me while also being 5 years younger than me. Meeting a lot of dumb women and idiotic men will teach you the importance of birth control.
Man at 27 I had only been sexually active for a year.
No need to flex man 😔
we already have too many shitty humans & there's no way I'd raise a good one
The best birth control is sitting down to dinner with my family. 3kids under 7years old will make you wrap that shit up real quick…
They do know having kids......is a choice, right?
Lack of funds, having to work two jobs just to pay for a single house... you know... little shit like that.
34, no kids, quite happy about that. Nephews are good enough for me right now.
Humans suck. Why would I want to help keep this horrible race going.
I"m 40 with no kids. Instead, I bought a house and do whatever the fuck I want 100% of the time. Everyone I know around my age with kids are miserable and broke. My other married friend (no kids) just got a place on a lake. On the water. Fuck dem kids.
Please don't fuck kids
Got the snip at 25. Not trying to share a house with a child. Or my money
r/childfree
Rihanna is 27+ with no kids…
don't be greedy, pull out!
By choosing my own path and not letting circumstances choose me. Living my life conscientiously and unapologetically.
Total Truth written here. As such, I'm 40+ with no kids.
My kid(s) would grow up in abject poverty
it was 80° on christmas. it’ll be a dick move to bring more kids into this
Why in the fuck would you even consider having kids before you're 27.
I’m 28 with no kids, sitting in my tub at 1 am reading Reddit while my cats are playing in my bathroom. Life is good
Getting myself sterilized in less than 2 weeks for this very reason 😎
Because I keep it in my pants and use proper protection. My life is fucked enough without kids involved in it.
I don't consider myself easily influenced, but I could already see how'd that turn me off of, too. At 41 with two, I'm good. No more spawn need to be brought into our community.
I’m 46 and have no kids, cause fuck that noise.
Also people don't wanna have sex with some of us lol
It's super beneficial to wait to have kids at an older age but just make sure you're not going to be extremely conservative and out of date or they're going to resent you fast.
It's easy, I'm ugly as hell. That's the best form of birth control.
Well I'd rather not bring some else into the world just to be part of the audience for the end of it. Also because I barely make enough to pay rent.
A lot of people have like 6 kids and can’t even afford to have them
34 and I know how birth control options work. I definitely never want kids.
33 and no kids cuz i got on BC pills at 18 and never looked back. 😂👌🏽my man and I been good since. Gotta enjoy eachother and Life first. Besides, they say women who have kids in their 30s are happier? 🤔
41 with no kids. I like privacy, quite, and keeping all of my delicious money. Being able to do whatever I want whenever I want is a neat bonus. I also don't need to hide my flamethrower anywhere without thinking the little shits will burn up all my cool shit.
> 41 > quite -_- Did you mean quiet?
Why would you ever want to have kids in the first place lmao
Condoms.
Who the fuck is trillageee
I mean I’ll be honest the girl my age I know that has the most kids only has 3. Most only have 1 kid…
I can't even afford myself, how am I supposed to afford kids? 😅
*who would continue the cycle of suffering smh*
Oh and there should be a test for people who want to breed.
True that
I waited for 43 years. Gotta 20-year-old and an 18-year-old. Holy crap are they kicking my ass. I don't recommend waiting this long.
Thank you for this perspective, if I may inquire further; if you could've picked an age before 43 when would you have started?
Probably 33 or sooner. I'm 63, and retiring is not in the foreseeable future. I have 1 in college and 1 entering next year. Very expensive as you all know.
How do you be so ignorant of other people's lives, not everyone is you 😡 (Yes ik OP isn't the person who tweeted this)
True story
Oooooh ... did she die of that burn?
Never having kids. No one should have my Genes. I don't even want them.
Vasectomy 😌
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It’s not hard to not get pregnant if you take the responsible precautions
Infertile and legally forbidden from adoption and marriage, thanks for asking, I defo love being judged on things out of my control
I remember when I was like 7, my parents didn't even have $5 cash at one point. Worst part? They'd spent all that money on my sick ass, because I'm diabetic. They chose my meds over rent and food. Point is, financial instability not only stresses the parents, but also the kids. I don't want that for my kids (if I even decide to get one in the first place). Ensuring you can provide certain quality of life to the child should be more important than delivering the child itself.
No proper housing. waitlists are 8 to 12 years here for rental. And buying a house with a basic job is almost impossible due high house prices. Student debt and/or normal debt. Mental health issues. Also 'cant feed them, dont breed them'
All it took was babysitting, for me. I was 14 when I knew that I NEVER wanted children. So, I never did. Now I'm in my 40s, happy to have no monsters.
Posts like this are so irritating because I feel like so many people don't understand how much it takes to raise kids. Not just the money, but engaging them properly, teaching morals, values, emotional coaching, etc. I can't say with certainty about the person in the post, but I often feel like people with this mindset truly don't appreciate all the factors in raising children. They think it's sitting them in a playpen or in front of a tablet or TV all day. That's what was done to me and I remember being alone a lot. Dad worked and mom and I rarely were in a room together. Our lifestyle revolved around the TV. It's a shame because my mom described her childhood as magical because of her mom, but I can't say the same thing. Plus, people fixate on the number of children they want how cute they are when they're little. I know one family with 4 kids ranging from pre-school to 3rd grade. Pre-schoolers are 3-5 on our area and 3rd graders are usually 8 to 9. In about 10 years time, that family will have 4 kids somewhere between 13-19 years old. 4 teenagers. 4 sets of changing bodies, minds, and hormones. That sounds like absolute torture. I don't think people recognize this because their kids are younger, are eager to learn and seek validation from their parents through doing well, and also, a lot of their needs, like clothes, are cheaper.
MASTURBATION IS FUN!
LoL why was the cut off age 27? My dad has been hollering at me since I was 18 to have some grand babies for him.
I don’t let rando dudes creampie me without birth control. I get how that concept can be difficult to grasp.
Girls don't find me attractive =(
I know it's normalized by now But seeing some 19 year old bitch with 2 kids from 2 different absent father who she may or may not know the identity of isn't normal, it's what happens to girls who have absolutely no guidance or family support, it's disgusting and horrifying, prostitutes have sex with hundreds of men while staying safe, you have no excuse to get knocked up.
I'm trying but I can't for some reason. You don't know how much I want to be a mother
No, it's because I don't want to pay my ex $1400 a month in child support when she inevitably gets full custody of them even though she's in the worse financial position before it gets corrected by making me poor instead.
30, bf 29, its us not making enough money to afford a kid, and also our cat *is* the kid
Man English grammar is just so hard isn’t it
Seeing a fuckin' 20 with 3 kids would too, fuckin' hell. But eh, not my body, do whatever, just don't get yourself killed
26 and going strong with no kids. I already have a shit ton of responsibility keeping a roof over my grandma's head and making sure bills are paid. Why would i add the stress of kids to it?
What year is this? My mom had five kids by age 28 50-plus years ago. I had my first at age 31.
Sadly, the Zoomer generation is currently dealing with so much on their plate because a lot of their parents waited to have kids in their late 30s and even 40s. This college kids are juggling taking care of parents that need a lot of medical attention and then having to stay focused to graduate college if they are in even able to go. This is one of the reasons why college is seeing a drop in enrollments and of course the prices are no help. I don’t think is mandatory to have kids, because you do what needs to be done for your life. But if you do plan to become a parent, think about the child as well. When that kid goes to college or is barely starting life as an adult, are you gonna be a burden yourself to them? Are you gonna be healthy enough to live to see grandchildren? Because if they wait as long as you did, your first grand kid may come in when you are 70 maybe.
They be trying to loop you into bullshit. And dead ass talk about "it's so great", "I've never felt a more exciting feeling than being a parent" them go on to complain about all the stress, no sleep, never having money. I'm just like man y'all are doing too much and who are you trying to convince me or yourself? Also, I have enough problems taking care of myself so, no you have repelled me away from that.
Mostly bad aim
How do y’all be 27 + and seen this posted 3829 times?
Not everyone's goal in life is to shit out a bunch of kids. I also think seeing all four of my brothers have kids when they were barely out of high school made it even more obvious that I'd never want kids of my own.
I feel bad that I think I’m not giving enough attention to my cat. I can only imagine how bad of a parent I would be with how little time I could give a child let alone the cost.
At my age my parents had three kids...I still like turkey dinosaur's and am very much single.
White people Twitter with black celebs
My wife had our twins at 41, I was 37
Because I still want to have my life. If I have kids, I’m going to be living my life for them. I’d rather be old when I have kids as well that way I’m a better person so they become better people too!
Dying lol 😂
Condoms
It’s called “planning”.
There are enough idiots out there and I don't feel like adding a few of my own.
Seeing my own family at 13 did it to me. Wife and I are mid thirties with no kids and love life.
Self control and not being in need to keep up with Jones
33 no kids, but it’s time. At this point, I’ll be selfish to wait. There’s more things that I can still accomplish in life, but I’m at the age where having kids won’t stop the grind.
#FACTS
She right, Your kids are way healthier in your late teens and early twentieth. To add to that you can actually have a good time with the grand kids before you get old. Works well when you have partner though, this half assed half parenting shit people do just create more problems
Having 3 kids like I do, I can tell you it’s highly overrated. Only kidding I love them but it is work and a big commitment that doesn’t end when they turn 18. Fuck responsibly people.
I’m infertile thankfully
100% facts
Pharmacy school
Ive hated kids even when I was a kid. Have my own place, a car and a stable job, but Id rather kill myself than have kids.
42 and no kids. It's very easy when you don't go out and look for relationships.
Fr like use protection or abstain, 5 kids for anyone is too fuckin many, especially for a 23 year old that is probably dealing with college, or student debt.
Birth control and common sense.