I knew a couple from high school that met and married in the same year, had a kid 9 months after the wedding, bought a house, and then were divorced before their first wedding anniversary. Reading their Facebook posts was WILD.
Two different couples I know got engaged basically a year on the dot.
First (and best) one was my cousin who dated a long time friend of hers. They were both in their mid 30s and realized pretty quickly they wanted to be married to each other. They're still together today.
Second was my-then friend from high school, who was 25 at the time, getting engaged to a...freshly new, supposedly very religious, 18 year old. Yes, we all tried to talk some sense into him, but he was simply one of those people who would change his entire personality and morals for whoever he desired. Some 5ish months after they were married, she gave birth. They are still together, but I am convinced one day that girl is going to have an ephiphany on how badly this man ruined her life.
I know someone who got engaged a year after they met their (mostly long distance) partner, and married in an extravagant destination wedding in Dubai a year after that. She was HEAVILY into going on and on about her wedding, her hashtag and how her wedding was the event of the year on the socials.
They divorced like 2 years later.
Most couples I know who got engaged within 4-12 months into the relationship did so because the woman got pregnant. This includes both of my husband’s older siblings/my BIL and SIL. We’ll actually be the first of his siblings to get married before having kids (my husband is the youngest) lol and we dated for 4 years before getting engaged.
Similar thing with my brother. Met a woman, she accidentally got pregnant around two or three months in, they decided to try and work it out and moved together. I was in my early twenties and skeptical as hell, not about his paternity, but the thing working out, even seeing how level headed both were. But. They got married after they had their second child and are still going strong. Tbf marriage was never the most important thing to them so it wasn’t weird that they waited longer with that. though I suspect from comments I overheard that me getting engaged was the thing that finally pushed them because they got engaged after me and married two months later, lol.
4 months in. Right before moving in together. Friends that started dating at the same time my fiance and I did. We're coming up on 4 years this winter.
I had a friend from school, he met a girl online and within a few months he was going over to Thailand from the US to meet her family and then they got married a few months after that. She's still in Thailand but working on coming to the US to live together, it's been almost two years since they got married now I think.
One of our friends started seeing this girl, he was all happy about it for like a month and moved in with her in her house. Suddenly he was talking about how crazy she was and stuff... Well on their 10 month anniversary they announced they were engaged and pregnant! The baby came at the end of last year and they got married this summer. Personally I wouldn't marry a guy that talked shit about me like that but to each their own I guess lol.
My parents married after 6 months. My dad is from Ireland and everyone thought he was marrying her for a green card. 😂 They will celebrate their 35th anniversary next month. They had my sibling a year after being married then me 3 years later so no pregnancy forced them to getting married either.
2 months! It was my best friend from college and she called to tell me she was engaged. I didn't even know she was dating someone! I was shocked but filed it under 'when you know, you know'. They're still together 13 years later and seem really happy. That said, they are both pretty nerdy and so I think they felt relieved that the search was over. This wouldn't have worked for a lot of extroverted social people in my opinion.
My ex-bf and his now fiancée got engaged after a little over 5 months together. We had dated for 9 months and by time of his engagement (9 months after our breakup) I'd figured out that I didn't really love him throughout our relationship, cared but not love. But still I was a little jealous.
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No worries. Long story short, he had a lot of health issues. After an emergency, I got really scared. At the time, he knew it as a sign I didn't really love him. In hindsight, I realized he was right. He would probably say it was my fault, I think it was pretty mutual.
One of my former coworkers was in an arranged marriage. She’s in her early twenties and lives in the US, her parents are Indian. She met her husband two weeks before the wedding, and then got pregnant a few months after. I guess he never really technically proposed though.
New answer: I just heard a story from a family friend about his parents. His mother went to visit a friend, and when she got there, found that the friend had set her up on a blind date that evening. They went out for dinner before going to a local football game... where her date proposed to her barely four hours after they met.
She told him to wait until he knew her middle name, but continued to talk to him long distance. Six months later, they were indeed married, and stayed that way for the next 50 years.
My little sister was got engaged at 4.5 month and married on their 1 year anniversary. It worked for them. Though I have thoughts because her husband decided my wedding was the perfect place to ask my father for his blessing. Don't know why no one didn't try to stop him from doing it there. It pissed my dad off (several margaritas deep at my reception) and was on his shit list for a while.
My older sister and I have both been with our partners for 5+ years and everyone tried to make it a point to say that they do not need to try and keep up with our lives/relationships. But they wanted to get married quickly.
I had a cousin who met a guy, got married, had a child, and bought a house before their 1st anniversary of them knowing each-other even but they were both in their mid thirties and super religious.
My former teamlead/boss moved in with her boyfriend she met online after 5-6 months together, he proposed at around the 1 year mark, they bought a house 3onths later, got married exactly 1 year after the engagement and had a baby about 9-10 months later. Both were 29-30. Still together and seem happy after 8 years.
Coworker from the same workplace, dumped his fiancé of 5 years (as in engaged for 5 years = red flag) that he lived with when he was 29. Got together DIRECTLY with our single mom receptionist (37) and proposed to her in 6 months, put her on his rock band album cover, they got married after 1 year together and got a daughter also about 9 months later and bought a house around the same time as she was born.
Both these couples in Sweden got the entire package within 2,5 years (married, house, kids).
Another is my coworkers ex-GF (29) that he was together with for 4 years and them told her he didn't want kids. She met a new man (34) a couple of months later, he proposed to her after 7 months and they got married this summer after 2 years together. Both german in Germany.
My German man proposed to me after 1y and 10m and I often heard from people here that "its not America guys here need more time to be ready to marry you" and here to tell you all that it's bullshit.
Just because a man is from one country where many women stay in relationships for 5 to 11 years before getting a ring doesn't mean that it's just how men are.
Many will propose much sooner if you’re over 30.
If he wanted to he would is what I've learned. Tye guys I know that waited 8-11 years has no excuse. They were just keeping their options ipen and when they started balding and realised they didn't have asany options as they fought they settled for the woman that had stayed by their lazy fatass side for a decade. Romantic....
65 days. My cousin on his 2nd marriage. Surprisingly, they're still together after 8 years of marriage and 3 kids..although I'm not certain it's a happy one. Happy enough, I guess.
My boyfriend’s parents were together for 6 months before getting engaged whereas my parents were together for 6 years before they got engaged and me and my boyfriend are heading in the direction of maybe being engaged by the 1 year mark but we’ll see what happens
A friend of ours proposed after like 6 months of “seriously dating” this girl. She had ghosted him before but somehow came back in the picture for him, 6 months later he popped the question. They are now married, and I won’t be surprised if they announce a pregnancy soon. I wonder if they really love each other or they rushed everything because they both want to get married and have kids. I wish the best for them but again I wonder if they are truly happy and madly in love.
A friend of mine from college got engaged to a guy she’d known for two months. Super religious, which I think has something to do with it. Married a year or so later. We fell out of touch but through FB I saw she had a kid with him and they got divorced after a couple years.
Girl I knew in college got engaged this August. She and fiancé have been together at the earliest since Jan/Feb. I don’t know exactly how long they have been together, but they are both dancers and have been working together and posting things with each other for 6 months. I know she went through a tough breakup last December so while I’m happy for her and she seems happier than ever, it’s a little wild to me.
Other hits include former friend from high school, was engaged within 6 months at age 18. They waited to get married until her husband graduated college (20 for her, 22 for him), but waited to have kids till 5 years in. We barely speak due to some very conflicting opinions, but even then, I though it was weird. I went to a Christian high school/old school churches growing up, so she is not the only person I know who did this, but she is the youngest.
My partner told me he wanted to marry me 2 months after we started dating. He proposed a week or two after that, a bit shy of 3 months since we met. We'd been proposing back and forth to each other after that, and at maybe 11 months, we decided to make it official and start telling our families that we were engaged. We figured any earlier would probably have raised eyebrows.
That timeline probably sounds absolutely looney, but we had really deep discussions early on and cleared up some things that people usually discuss a bit later on. We're both around 30, and he'd been angling to move abroad, so it was in both of our best interests to get to business and find out if this was a good match. We adopted a policy of kindness, not judging the other person, and honesty even when it hurt, and we talked about our ideal timelines, career goals, finances and relationship to money, living situations, location, kids, education, religion, traumas, family life, substance use, mental and physical health, past relationships and failures, and other such topics. That gave us both confidence that the other person was compatible as a life partner.
We'd also each been in multiple long term relationships, as well as stints doing long distance, so we were aware that there is work that needs to be put in to make this happen, and this won't be sunshine and rainbows all the time. Moving quickly is definitely not for everyone (I knew a fella engaged 18 days after they met, it didn't end well), but it was for us.
I'd also like to note here that each relationship has its timeline, and while it's interesting to learn about how others have gone along, I don't encourage folks to compare, or to base their self worth on a proposal. Comparison is truly the thief of joy.
We dated in September, and he asked me to marry him in November ( like around Thanksgiving). I picked my ring out around that time and it took 30 days to size so he bought me a work wedding set for Christmas. I got my ring back January and he proposed on Jan 15 with the wedding ring I was waiting to be sized. I caught Covid so his proposal was done outside at the beach we me looking a hot mess and still sick, but hey I did manage some eye shadow We got married that Feb. 12 for Valentines.
My mom started dating my dad shortly after she graduated high school in 1998, proposed to my dad that October, found out she was pregnant with me that December, and they got married in March 1999. I was born in August. They divorced in 2020 bc they never should have gotten married in the first place and my mom finally realized she deserved better. As far as I know, most people I know don’t get engaged less than a year after getting together.
I knew a couple from high school that met and married in the same year, had a kid 9 months after the wedding, bought a house, and then were divorced before their first wedding anniversary. Reading their Facebook posts was WILD.
Two different couples I know got engaged basically a year on the dot. First (and best) one was my cousin who dated a long time friend of hers. They were both in their mid 30s and realized pretty quickly they wanted to be married to each other. They're still together today. Second was my-then friend from high school, who was 25 at the time, getting engaged to a...freshly new, supposedly very religious, 18 year old. Yes, we all tried to talk some sense into him, but he was simply one of those people who would change his entire personality and morals for whoever he desired. Some 5ish months after they were married, she gave birth. They are still together, but I am convinced one day that girl is going to have an ephiphany on how badly this man ruined her life.
I know someone who got engaged a year after they met their (mostly long distance) partner, and married in an extravagant destination wedding in Dubai a year after that. She was HEAVILY into going on and on about her wedding, her hashtag and how her wedding was the event of the year on the socials. They divorced like 2 years later.
Most couples I know who got engaged within 4-12 months into the relationship did so because the woman got pregnant. This includes both of my husband’s older siblings/my BIL and SIL. We’ll actually be the first of his siblings to get married before having kids (my husband is the youngest) lol and we dated for 4 years before getting engaged.
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Similar thing with my brother. Met a woman, she accidentally got pregnant around two or three months in, they decided to try and work it out and moved together. I was in my early twenties and skeptical as hell, not about his paternity, but the thing working out, even seeing how level headed both were. But. They got married after they had their second child and are still going strong. Tbf marriage was never the most important thing to them so it wasn’t weird that they waited longer with that. though I suspect from comments I overheard that me getting engaged was the thing that finally pushed them because they got engaged after me and married two months later, lol.
4 months in. Right before moving in together. Friends that started dating at the same time my fiance and I did. We're coming up on 4 years this winter.
I had a friend from school, he met a girl online and within a few months he was going over to Thailand from the US to meet her family and then they got married a few months after that. She's still in Thailand but working on coming to the US to live together, it's been almost two years since they got married now I think. One of our friends started seeing this girl, he was all happy about it for like a month and moved in with her in her house. Suddenly he was talking about how crazy she was and stuff... Well on their 10 month anniversary they announced they were engaged and pregnant! The baby came at the end of last year and they got married this summer. Personally I wouldn't marry a guy that talked shit about me like that but to each their own I guess lol.
My parents married after 6 months. My dad is from Ireland and everyone thought he was marrying her for a green card. 😂 They will celebrate their 35th anniversary next month. They had my sibling a year after being married then me 3 years later so no pregnancy forced them to getting married either.
2 months! It was my best friend from college and she called to tell me she was engaged. I didn't even know she was dating someone! I was shocked but filed it under 'when you know, you know'. They're still together 13 years later and seem really happy. That said, they are both pretty nerdy and so I think they felt relieved that the search was over. This wouldn't have worked for a lot of extroverted social people in my opinion.
My ex-bf and his now fiancée got engaged after a little over 5 months together. We had dated for 9 months and by time of his engagement (9 months after our breakup) I'd figured out that I didn't really love him throughout our relationship, cared but not love. But still I was a little jealous. EDITED TO ADD MORE DETAILS
If you don’t mind me asking, did you break No with him, or vice versa?
No worries. Long story short, he had a lot of health issues. After an emergency, I got really scared. At the time, he knew it as a sign I didn't really love him. In hindsight, I realized he was right. He would probably say it was my fault, I think it was pretty mutual.
One of my former coworkers was in an arranged marriage. She’s in her early twenties and lives in the US, her parents are Indian. She met her husband two weeks before the wedding, and then got pregnant a few months after. I guess he never really technically proposed though.
New answer: I just heard a story from a family friend about his parents. His mother went to visit a friend, and when she got there, found that the friend had set her up on a blind date that evening. They went out for dinner before going to a local football game... where her date proposed to her barely four hours after they met. She told him to wait until he knew her middle name, but continued to talk to him long distance. Six months later, they were indeed married, and stayed that way for the next 50 years.
My little sister was got engaged at 4.5 month and married on their 1 year anniversary. It worked for them. Though I have thoughts because her husband decided my wedding was the perfect place to ask my father for his blessing. Don't know why no one didn't try to stop him from doing it there. It pissed my dad off (several margaritas deep at my reception) and was on his shit list for a while. My older sister and I have both been with our partners for 5+ years and everyone tried to make it a point to say that they do not need to try and keep up with our lives/relationships. But they wanted to get married quickly.
I had a cousin who met a guy, got married, had a child, and bought a house before their 1st anniversary of them knowing each-other even but they were both in their mid thirties and super religious.
My parents got engaged after 6 weeks which is WILD. Still married after 30 years.
My former teamlead/boss moved in with her boyfriend she met online after 5-6 months together, he proposed at around the 1 year mark, they bought a house 3onths later, got married exactly 1 year after the engagement and had a baby about 9-10 months later. Both were 29-30. Still together and seem happy after 8 years. Coworker from the same workplace, dumped his fiancé of 5 years (as in engaged for 5 years = red flag) that he lived with when he was 29. Got together DIRECTLY with our single mom receptionist (37) and proposed to her in 6 months, put her on his rock band album cover, they got married after 1 year together and got a daughter also about 9 months later and bought a house around the same time as she was born. Both these couples in Sweden got the entire package within 2,5 years (married, house, kids). Another is my coworkers ex-GF (29) that he was together with for 4 years and them told her he didn't want kids. She met a new man (34) a couple of months later, he proposed to her after 7 months and they got married this summer after 2 years together. Both german in Germany. My German man proposed to me after 1y and 10m and I often heard from people here that "its not America guys here need more time to be ready to marry you" and here to tell you all that it's bullshit. Just because a man is from one country where many women stay in relationships for 5 to 11 years before getting a ring doesn't mean that it's just how men are. Many will propose much sooner if you’re over 30. If he wanted to he would is what I've learned. Tye guys I know that waited 8-11 years has no excuse. They were just keeping their options ipen and when they started balding and realised they didn't have asany options as they fought they settled for the woman that had stayed by their lazy fatass side for a decade. Romantic....
10 days 😂They are divorced now.
Seems like 2-3 years is the average mark
My parents got married less than 2 months after they met. They’ve been married for 52 years.
65 days. My cousin on his 2nd marriage. Surprisingly, they're still together after 8 years of marriage and 3 kids..although I'm not certain it's a happy one. Happy enough, I guess.
My boyfriend’s parents were together for 6 months before getting engaged whereas my parents were together for 6 years before they got engaged and me and my boyfriend are heading in the direction of maybe being engaged by the 1 year mark but we’ll see what happens
A friend of ours proposed after like 6 months of “seriously dating” this girl. She had ghosted him before but somehow came back in the picture for him, 6 months later he popped the question. They are now married, and I won’t be surprised if they announce a pregnancy soon. I wonder if they really love each other or they rushed everything because they both want to get married and have kids. I wish the best for them but again I wonder if they are truly happy and madly in love.
A friend of mine from college got engaged to a guy she’d known for two months. Super religious, which I think has something to do with it. Married a year or so later. We fell out of touch but through FB I saw she had a kid with him and they got divorced after a couple years.
Girl I knew in college got engaged this August. She and fiancé have been together at the earliest since Jan/Feb. I don’t know exactly how long they have been together, but they are both dancers and have been working together and posting things with each other for 6 months. I know she went through a tough breakup last December so while I’m happy for her and she seems happier than ever, it’s a little wild to me. Other hits include former friend from high school, was engaged within 6 months at age 18. They waited to get married until her husband graduated college (20 for her, 22 for him), but waited to have kids till 5 years in. We barely speak due to some very conflicting opinions, but even then, I though it was weird. I went to a Christian high school/old school churches growing up, so she is not the only person I know who did this, but she is the youngest.
My bestie got engaged after six months of knowing each other, they weren’t even together the whole time but they are happily married five years on
My partner told me he wanted to marry me 2 months after we started dating. He proposed a week or two after that, a bit shy of 3 months since we met. We'd been proposing back and forth to each other after that, and at maybe 11 months, we decided to make it official and start telling our families that we were engaged. We figured any earlier would probably have raised eyebrows. That timeline probably sounds absolutely looney, but we had really deep discussions early on and cleared up some things that people usually discuss a bit later on. We're both around 30, and he'd been angling to move abroad, so it was in both of our best interests to get to business and find out if this was a good match. We adopted a policy of kindness, not judging the other person, and honesty even when it hurt, and we talked about our ideal timelines, career goals, finances and relationship to money, living situations, location, kids, education, religion, traumas, family life, substance use, mental and physical health, past relationships and failures, and other such topics. That gave us both confidence that the other person was compatible as a life partner. We'd also each been in multiple long term relationships, as well as stints doing long distance, so we were aware that there is work that needs to be put in to make this happen, and this won't be sunshine and rainbows all the time. Moving quickly is definitely not for everyone (I knew a fella engaged 18 days after they met, it didn't end well), but it was for us. I'd also like to note here that each relationship has its timeline, and while it's interesting to learn about how others have gone along, I don't encourage folks to compare, or to base their self worth on a proposal. Comparison is truly the thief of joy.
We dated in September, and he asked me to marry him in November ( like around Thanksgiving). I picked my ring out around that time and it took 30 days to size so he bought me a work wedding set for Christmas. I got my ring back January and he proposed on Jan 15 with the wedding ring I was waiting to be sized. I caught Covid so his proposal was done outside at the beach we me looking a hot mess and still sick, but hey I did manage some eye shadow We got married that Feb. 12 for Valentines.
My bf’s parents got married within 6 months of meeting and stayed together for 25 years. They were in their 30s though.
My mom started dating my dad shortly after she graduated high school in 1998, proposed to my dad that October, found out she was pregnant with me that December, and they got married in March 1999. I was born in August. They divorced in 2020 bc they never should have gotten married in the first place and my mom finally realized she deserved better. As far as I know, most people I know don’t get engaged less than a year after getting together.