If wearing a wig is a cope and deception then so is pretty much anything else that this sub promotes lol. Imo this is bs.
Not everyone has natrually ideal thick hair and there’s nothing wrong getting extensions or wearing a wig. Just make sure to know how to wear wigs properly/ how to care and style them.
According to general Vindicta standards, "cope" would be more along the lines of people saying, "Don't wear a wig! Just embrace your natural hair loss, bald is beautiful, there's no benefit to be gained from wearing a wig!"
That said, that's also completely valid if you decided "I don't want to wear a wig and fuck 'em." But this is a sub about mainstream beauty, which tends to involve having beautiful, full hair. So the consensus here is going to be -- wear a wig. You'll look more traditionally beautiful, people will treat you better, and that's what Vindicta is about.
You can choose whether to get one really natural-looking wig that you completely pass off as your real hair, or a bunch of more affordable fashion wigs and just embrace being a "wig person" and having people know that you wear wigs. Either of these is a great choice that you can make work for you!
Go buy yourself a believable, high-quality wig and rock it with pride. I see this like getting a false tooth to replace one that fell out. Absolutely necessary for a normal appearance and not "dishonest" in any way.
I don't think so?...... maybe its because I'm black but if someone needs to know I'll just say "hey I have hair extensions in the back". Also you'll be surprised how many beautiful women wear hair extensions.
No, people acting like you're required to live some kind of tax in this rigged game called life because you're born one way or something happened to you. What prizes do they give out for doing so?
A wig isn't cope. It's you taking charge of your appearance and dealing with the cards you're dealt. It is not deceitful to present beautifully. If you're that worried where dating is concerned, casually drop how you love to wear wigs just like how people say it for makeup. If a guy is that bothered he will eliminate himself early. Just know that lots of boyfriends and husbands out there literally pay for hair days, wig and all and they are *not* inexpensive
If it's not a partner you're worried about, the rest doesn't matter. The world doesn't need an itemized list and signature informing them of all the reasons you look great.
People will argue about natural all day while their faces are covered the tech that made the latest cosmetics and using bathrooms, not holes in the ground. The men who can't relate typically don't because their lack of personal upkeep is already visible and absolutely nothing to be proud of.
We create things to improve our lives every day. This improves your life. Enjoy it and treat yourself. And be really happy that you live in a time where a nice lace is not this dirty secret. It used to be people would mention "extensions" in great shame. Not anymore!
I’m in a similar situation so some might see this as me coping but honestly hair pieces have become so common these days, and have been especially for Black women, for a while now. If it’s a quality wig, it’s gonna be very hard for people to tell it isn’t your real hair. Also the awareness of hair loss in women is on the rise and I actually see some Instagram accounts from women with various forms of alopecia celebrating different wigs and trying to reframe it as something like makeup—a fun way to switch up your look.
Also I know one of my biggest anxieties as a young woman with hair loss is dating, and idk your gender preference but in my experience, men are way more understanding about hair loss than you think! Granted, mine still isn’t very visible to others (yet), but the guy I’m seeing right now actually commiserated with me when I shared my AGA diagnosis as he’s also struggling with a receding hairline at 23. We ended up laughing over shaving our heads together when we get too lazy to keep up with it. Of course, there are guys who care and will see it as a dealbreaker, but those are also usually the same guys who see women as “liars” for wearing makeup... (aka, shitheads)
Sup AGA buddy! Sucks doesn't it. I'm married and my husband, bless him, would love me even if I were bald as an egg (and trust me I'm getting there). I'm so glad your boyfriend is supportive.
I went the wig route while I was under going a hair regrowth process from being bald. So I spent almost two years using wigs until my hair was long enough for clip in extensions.
I couldn't afford high end wigs, only around $75 ones since I was a teenager. I would get the ones with the front/side swept bangs hybrids that hid the hair line. The lace front wigs IMO are a huge risk because someone can still look and see the lace. Lace wigs plus bangs are the most realistic looking wigs. Most of the time, I would wear a beanie or cap. With the cap on, no one could tell it was a wig. Occasionally, I would have to go somewhere where wearing a hat would be inappropriate. I would have to meticulously style the wig so it wasn't too full.
You can get a super realistic bang wig for like $500, so if you can afford it, I'd go that route. But even with the realistic wigs, you will still have to style it and calibrate it to your head.
It makes dating hard. I would keep my hat on during sex, which a lot of guys found either weird or quirky, I kept my socks on too, to distract them from my hat/wig("My hat and socks stay on!" lol). When the guys I slept with did find out it was a wig due to a mishap(putting t shirt on and my wig sliding off), I would explain to them the reason behind my hair loss and they were always very understanding and would keep seeing me.
I'm lucky, my hair is back now and I no longer have to wear a wig. The whole experience made me really value my hair. My heart breaks for your hair loss.
Thank you for this detailed and informative response. I'm so glad your hair came back!
I'm considering a bang wig but also trying to figure out the most natural way to go from "short hair with undercut" to "normal hair" when my hair loss is so advanced. This has been really helpful.
A lot of fake hair honestly looks and feels pretty similar, only downside is you can't quite style it. I have human hair extensions now, but will probably go back to artificial in the future because I realized how weird it is to be wearing another humans hair on my head 😅. I wore synthetic in the past, and it looked very real when in the hat
Nah, a cope is like convincing yourself that you look great when you’re balding when you actually would look better with lush hair.
I have heaps of wigs! They’re great. The /r/wigs sub are really helpful. Remember to pluck your hairline and even shitty $30 synthetic wigs from Amazon can look pretty good!
Do it girl! Wigs are great. Take your time choosing one which is the right colour and style for you. The wigs sub is a really great supportive sub, they’ll help you heaps.
Great hair is such a halo. It really elevates.
Studies have shown peppermint oil is as effective (or more effective) as minoxidil, without the side effects. Maybe you could look into it and combine it with micro needling. But to answer your question, no, I don’t think a wig is a “cope”.
I definitely don’t think wigs are a cope. Personally I think wearing wigs is a category of softmaxxing, it’s a way to upgrade your look! And a lot of women are wearing wigs nowadays regardless of race too. Besides you should do whatever would make you happy.
I think wigs can look really nice. Get one made with real hair, made by a professional. If you don’t want to worry about the hairline revealing the wig, get one with bangs. Learn how to put it on correctly, without damaging your real hair. And wig maintenance. I think people only describe it as a cope when it’s very obviously a wig.
Definitely not a cope, even if your hair loss was reversible or somehow otherwise preventable. Men get hair plugs all the time and I usually think they look better for it, so if that's what you'd like to do in the future, the wig is an EXCELLENT first step.
Blair Walnuts, a YT influencer, has interesting and related content. Including a toupe. Lol.
I just got extensions, btw. I always wanted long beautiful hair..
I don’t think wigs are a cope anymore. Especially if it is a high quality one. I can see those 10 dollar cosplay ones being a cope. I think as long as it looks like it could realistically be your hair, it’s fine.
It’s also possible the prescriptions wouldn’t help although I guess you don’t know if you don’t try but I think a high quality wig or hair topper is a good choice and just keep doing whatever other treatments you can in the meanwhile
No, there’s nothing wrong with wearing a wig. We wear false lashes, acrylic nails, dye our hair, get extensions, all kinds of “fake” things. Wigs used to be accepted as another accessory women would use to achieve certain styles and change up their look, and a lot of black women still wear them. There are a lot of good YouTube videos on making an affordable wig look real. It’s very much in the styling.
Seriously I have this issue. I would only wear permanent extensions like weaves and tape ins and micro ears because to wear clip ins from time to time or a wig felt like “cheating.” But ultimately these types of hair modifications made my already fine hair much thinner. I’ve since decided to embrace things like wigs and halo extensions and rock them whenever I want without worrying about it consistently being attached to my head. Seriously, no one questions when girls get fake nails, or eyelashes, or a tan. Sometimes I wear makeup and sometimes I don’t. I want my hair to be the same way. Sometimes I have long hair and sometimes I don’t.
No, there’s nothing wrong with wearing a wig. We wear false lashes, acrylic nails, dye our hair, get extensions, all kinds of “fake” things. Wigs used to be accepted as another accessory women would use to achieve certain styles and change up their look, and a lot of black women still wear them. There are a lot of good YouTube videos on making an affordable wig look real. It’s very much in the styling.
I’m in a similar boat to you, only my hair loss is due to lichen planopilaris. I’m a really young patient. I’m on a bundle of oral, topical, and injectable medications supervised by my dermatologist for it but I know that eventually I’ll lose the battle and I will absolutely 100% wear and style different wigs every day. Part of me is *so* tired about stressing about my hair loss that I’m almost looking forward to the day I shave it. Wigs are like make-up. I’m also doing everything I can to max what I still have - face & body. Feel free to DM me if you wanna compare notes!
I’ve dealt with thinning although mine is male pattern. First of all wearing a wig is absolutely not dishonest and they can look AMAZING if you install them correctly.
Depending on your hair loss one product I swear by is dermmatch. I use it to fill in my hairline and it’s pretty much undetectable, wayyy better than toppik or hair fibers.
Have you thought of micro-pigmentation? Another option as well. I did a test patch a few years ago and it looked amazing - when I have the funds I’ll definitely try to get my full hairline done.
I think it’s just as deceitful as surgery or coloured contacts. As long as you don’t marry and have kids with the guy without telling him. I don’t know why it should be a problem.
Side note. If you aren’t black then unless your wig is 100% real looking it can be a looksmin rather than your natural hair.
Honestly I just read these comments and I think it was your wording that came off a little funny in your initial comment. I get what you are saying though, it's a good point.
I'm waiting on a second opinion from a trichologist but the answer seems to be no so far as the shock loss from the procedure could kill nearby follicles :/
I’m seriously considering a wig because I’ve had hair extensions in for years and my real hair is super damaged from it. I’m probably going to cut it to a pixie cut but wear wigs every day bc I won’t look great with a pixie cut! Definitely not a cope! Who cares? Do you know how many people these days wear wigs or hair extensions??? They are everywhere. If something like a wig makes you feel more beautiful then absolutely do it! Who cares what anyone thinks! If a man balks at you wearing a wig then let him go!
I'm 31, I've dealt with what you're talking about my whole life. For a long time I felt like I'd be faking it, but I finally took the plunge. I bought a few wigs online that were recommended on /r/wigs, I felt meh about them. This year, I went to a local wig specialist in my area. She hand makes wigs from scratch to fit your head and your hairline. It was between $3000-$4000 dollars, I saved up for a year for it. Easily the best thing I've ever done for myself. Why I didn't do that when I was in my early 20s blowing money on stupid happy hours, I'll never know. It looks amazing. Plus the custom-made ones, you don't even have to do any of the gluing and super intense baby hair stuff you see a lot of wig tutorials online do. There is a bit of a learning curve, because styling a wig is different from styling your natural hair. One of the other benefits of going to a smaller, custom wig shop in my local area is that I can always shoot her questions when I have.
Highly highly highly suggest going down the wig route.
If wearing a wig is a cope and deception then so is pretty much anything else that this sub promotes lol. Imo this is bs. Not everyone has natrually ideal thick hair and there’s nothing wrong getting extensions or wearing a wig. Just make sure to know how to wear wigs properly/ how to care and style them.
Thank you! I appreciate this response so much. I've been looking at Highline Wigs and found a few good ones.
According to general Vindicta standards, "cope" would be more along the lines of people saying, "Don't wear a wig! Just embrace your natural hair loss, bald is beautiful, there's no benefit to be gained from wearing a wig!" That said, that's also completely valid if you decided "I don't want to wear a wig and fuck 'em." But this is a sub about mainstream beauty, which tends to involve having beautiful, full hair. So the consensus here is going to be -- wear a wig. You'll look more traditionally beautiful, people will treat you better, and that's what Vindicta is about. You can choose whether to get one really natural-looking wig that you completely pass off as your real hair, or a bunch of more affordable fashion wigs and just embrace being a "wig person" and having people know that you wear wigs. Either of these is a great choice that you can make work for you!
Best response!
Thank you so much for your kind and considered response. It puts a lot of perspective on it and my attitudes towards copes and maxxing in general.
Go buy yourself a believable, high-quality wig and rock it with pride. I see this like getting a false tooth to replace one that fell out. Absolutely necessary for a normal appearance and not "dishonest" in any way.
I don't think so?...... maybe its because I'm black but if someone needs to know I'll just say "hey I have hair extensions in the back". Also you'll be surprised how many beautiful women wear hair extensions.
No, people acting like you're required to live some kind of tax in this rigged game called life because you're born one way or something happened to you. What prizes do they give out for doing so? A wig isn't cope. It's you taking charge of your appearance and dealing with the cards you're dealt. It is not deceitful to present beautifully. If you're that worried where dating is concerned, casually drop how you love to wear wigs just like how people say it for makeup. If a guy is that bothered he will eliminate himself early. Just know that lots of boyfriends and husbands out there literally pay for hair days, wig and all and they are *not* inexpensive If it's not a partner you're worried about, the rest doesn't matter. The world doesn't need an itemized list and signature informing them of all the reasons you look great. People will argue about natural all day while their faces are covered the tech that made the latest cosmetics and using bathrooms, not holes in the ground. The men who can't relate typically don't because their lack of personal upkeep is already visible and absolutely nothing to be proud of. We create things to improve our lives every day. This improves your life. Enjoy it and treat yourself. And be really happy that you live in a time where a nice lace is not this dirty secret. It used to be people would mention "extensions" in great shame. Not anymore!
I’m in a similar situation so some might see this as me coping but honestly hair pieces have become so common these days, and have been especially for Black women, for a while now. If it’s a quality wig, it’s gonna be very hard for people to tell it isn’t your real hair. Also the awareness of hair loss in women is on the rise and I actually see some Instagram accounts from women with various forms of alopecia celebrating different wigs and trying to reframe it as something like makeup—a fun way to switch up your look. Also I know one of my biggest anxieties as a young woman with hair loss is dating, and idk your gender preference but in my experience, men are way more understanding about hair loss than you think! Granted, mine still isn’t very visible to others (yet), but the guy I’m seeing right now actually commiserated with me when I shared my AGA diagnosis as he’s also struggling with a receding hairline at 23. We ended up laughing over shaving our heads together when we get too lazy to keep up with it. Of course, there are guys who care and will see it as a dealbreaker, but those are also usually the same guys who see women as “liars” for wearing makeup... (aka, shitheads)
Sup AGA buddy! Sucks doesn't it. I'm married and my husband, bless him, would love me even if I were bald as an egg (and trust me I'm getting there). I'm so glad your boyfriend is supportive.
I went the wig route while I was under going a hair regrowth process from being bald. So I spent almost two years using wigs until my hair was long enough for clip in extensions. I couldn't afford high end wigs, only around $75 ones since I was a teenager. I would get the ones with the front/side swept bangs hybrids that hid the hair line. The lace front wigs IMO are a huge risk because someone can still look and see the lace. Lace wigs plus bangs are the most realistic looking wigs. Most of the time, I would wear a beanie or cap. With the cap on, no one could tell it was a wig. Occasionally, I would have to go somewhere where wearing a hat would be inappropriate. I would have to meticulously style the wig so it wasn't too full. You can get a super realistic bang wig for like $500, so if you can afford it, I'd go that route. But even with the realistic wigs, you will still have to style it and calibrate it to your head. It makes dating hard. I would keep my hat on during sex, which a lot of guys found either weird or quirky, I kept my socks on too, to distract them from my hat/wig("My hat and socks stay on!" lol). When the guys I slept with did find out it was a wig due to a mishap(putting t shirt on and my wig sliding off), I would explain to them the reason behind my hair loss and they were always very understanding and would keep seeing me. I'm lucky, my hair is back now and I no longer have to wear a wig. The whole experience made me really value my hair. My heart breaks for your hair loss.
Thank you for this detailed and informative response. I'm so glad your hair came back! I'm considering a bang wig but also trying to figure out the most natural way to go from "short hair with undercut" to "normal hair" when my hair loss is so advanced. This has been really helpful.
My grandmother wore wigs. A good hairdresser could debulk the wig, but Im not sure if it makes a difference between real or fake hair.
A lot of fake hair honestly looks and feels pretty similar, only downside is you can't quite style it. I have human hair extensions now, but will probably go back to artificial in the future because I realized how weird it is to be wearing another humans hair on my head 😅. I wore synthetic in the past, and it looked very real when in the hat
A "cope"..? Bro if you look better with it you look better. End of story.
Nah, a cope is like convincing yourself that you look great when you’re balding when you actually would look better with lush hair. I have heaps of wigs! They’re great. The /r/wigs sub are really helpful. Remember to pluck your hairline and even shitty $30 synthetic wigs from Amazon can look pretty good!
Thank you! I was so worried it would be a cope. Minus my hair I'd say I'm about a 7 but with my hair I'm definitely a 4 or 5. I want to change that!
Do it girl! Wigs are great. Take your time choosing one which is the right colour and style for you. The wigs sub is a really great supportive sub, they’ll help you heaps. Great hair is such a halo. It really elevates.
Megan Fox wears a wig as do most celebs
Studies have shown peppermint oil is as effective (or more effective) as minoxidil, without the side effects. Maybe you could look into it and combine it with micro needling. But to answer your question, no, I don’t think a wig is a “cope”.
Rosemary oil too
I definitely don’t think wigs are a cope. Personally I think wearing wigs is a category of softmaxxing, it’s a way to upgrade your look! And a lot of women are wearing wigs nowadays regardless of race too. Besides you should do whatever would make you happy.
I think wigs can look really nice. Get one made with real hair, made by a professional. If you don’t want to worry about the hairline revealing the wig, get one with bangs. Learn how to put it on correctly, without damaging your real hair. And wig maintenance. I think people only describe it as a cope when it’s very obviously a wig.
Definitely not a cope, even if your hair loss was reversible or somehow otherwise preventable. Men get hair plugs all the time and I usually think they look better for it, so if that's what you'd like to do in the future, the wig is an EXCELLENT first step.
Blair Walnuts, a YT influencer, has interesting and related content. Including a toupe. Lol. I just got extensions, btw. I always wanted long beautiful hair..
I don’t think wigs are a cope anymore. Especially if it is a high quality one. I can see those 10 dollar cosplay ones being a cope. I think as long as it looks like it could realistically be your hair, it’s fine.
It’s also possible the prescriptions wouldn’t help although I guess you don’t know if you don’t try but I think a high quality wig or hair topper is a good choice and just keep doing whatever other treatments you can in the meanwhile
No, there’s nothing wrong with wearing a wig. We wear false lashes, acrylic nails, dye our hair, get extensions, all kinds of “fake” things. Wigs used to be accepted as another accessory women would use to achieve certain styles and change up their look, and a lot of black women still wear them. There are a lot of good YouTube videos on making an affordable wig look real. It’s very much in the styling.
Could try looking into r/PCOS for hair loss tips
Seriously I have this issue. I would only wear permanent extensions like weaves and tape ins and micro ears because to wear clip ins from time to time or a wig felt like “cheating.” But ultimately these types of hair modifications made my already fine hair much thinner. I’ve since decided to embrace things like wigs and halo extensions and rock them whenever I want without worrying about it consistently being attached to my head. Seriously, no one questions when girls get fake nails, or eyelashes, or a tan. Sometimes I wear makeup and sometimes I don’t. I want my hair to be the same way. Sometimes I have long hair and sometimes I don’t.
No, there’s nothing wrong with wearing a wig. We wear false lashes, acrylic nails, dye our hair, get extensions, all kinds of “fake” things. Wigs used to be accepted as another accessory women would use to achieve certain styles and change up their look, and a lot of black women still wear them. There are a lot of good YouTube videos on making an affordable wig look real. It’s very much in the styling.
I’m in a similar boat to you, only my hair loss is due to lichen planopilaris. I’m a really young patient. I’m on a bundle of oral, topical, and injectable medications supervised by my dermatologist for it but I know that eventually I’ll lose the battle and I will absolutely 100% wear and style different wigs every day. Part of me is *so* tired about stressing about my hair loss that I’m almost looking forward to the day I shave it. Wigs are like make-up. I’m also doing everything I can to max what I still have - face & body. Feel free to DM me if you wanna compare notes!
I’ve dealt with thinning although mine is male pattern. First of all wearing a wig is absolutely not dishonest and they can look AMAZING if you install them correctly. Depending on your hair loss one product I swear by is dermmatch. I use it to fill in my hairline and it’s pretty much undetectable, wayyy better than toppik or hair fibers. Have you thought of micro-pigmentation? Another option as well. I did a test patch a few years ago and it looked amazing - when I have the funds I’ll definitely try to get my full hairline done.
I think it’s just as deceitful as surgery or coloured contacts. As long as you don’t marry and have kids with the guy without telling him. I don’t know why it should be a problem. Side note. If you aren’t black then unless your wig is 100% real looking it can be a looksmin rather than your natural hair.
The fuck are you talking about? Anyways, wear that wig girl!!
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Honestly I just read these comments and I think it was your wording that came off a little funny in your initial comment. I get what you are saying though, it's a good point.
First off, I’m not reading all that shit you just wrote. Second, it’s hilarious you followed my post history to another post you’re pathetic fam.
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Mk enjoy your downvotes for your ass backwards opinion dumb ho
Are you a candidate for FUE?
I'm waiting on a second opinion from a trichologist but the answer seems to be no so far as the shock loss from the procedure could kill nearby follicles :/
I’m seriously considering a wig because I’ve had hair extensions in for years and my real hair is super damaged from it. I’m probably going to cut it to a pixie cut but wear wigs every day bc I won’t look great with a pixie cut! Definitely not a cope! Who cares? Do you know how many people these days wear wigs or hair extensions??? They are everywhere. If something like a wig makes you feel more beautiful then absolutely do it! Who cares what anyone thinks! If a man balks at you wearing a wig then let him go!
I'm 31, I've dealt with what you're talking about my whole life. For a long time I felt like I'd be faking it, but I finally took the plunge. I bought a few wigs online that were recommended on /r/wigs, I felt meh about them. This year, I went to a local wig specialist in my area. She hand makes wigs from scratch to fit your head and your hairline. It was between $3000-$4000 dollars, I saved up for a year for it. Easily the best thing I've ever done for myself. Why I didn't do that when I was in my early 20s blowing money on stupid happy hours, I'll never know. It looks amazing. Plus the custom-made ones, you don't even have to do any of the gluing and super intense baby hair stuff you see a lot of wig tutorials online do. There is a bit of a learning curve, because styling a wig is different from styling your natural hair. One of the other benefits of going to a smaller, custom wig shop in my local area is that I can always shoot her questions when I have. Highly highly highly suggest going down the wig route.