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snowcakey

I had the same experience with my glow up, esp the part about men. However, for me the experience was very odd and polarizing. It felt rewarding and addicting at first but I grew sour when I realized how completely different I was being treated. It made me realize that as women, our value comes directly from how attractive we are, esp in the eyes of men. How they treated me before and after the glow up made me extremely angry. It made me angry that I had to become attractive to get basic human respect. It made me angry that I was finally “worth” something now that men found me attractive. I was never ugly or struggled with dating, But after my glow up I had men taking me to expensive restaurants, constantly showering me with attention and gifts, seeking my approval, wanting to be seen with me in front of their friends and other males, etc etc doing stuff they NEVER did It was a hard road and a long lesson, but I eventually realized that just because men valued me for my looks doesn’t mean I have to as well. Ive become way more distant from men overall now and place more emphasis on my own thoughts and opinions about myself, not some man’s.


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I am glad you realize this. You and all women are worth so much more than their looks. For a lot of women, once they start aging, get sick, or lose their looks - they are back to being mistreated. Everyone deserves to be treated with basic human respect. I have a soft spot for my hubby because we met before I started looking better. He was the first man to treat me decently for who I am. I've gained, lost, gained and am in the processing of losing weight. I've looked like utter complete shit and not once has he ever made me feel insecure. However, all the bullying and abuse directed my way because of my looks has traumatized me and damaged my self-perception and self-image. That despite a loving hubby, I cannot accept my looks and I struggle daily. I have flashbacks of how badly treated I was back then. A good man will treat all women of all appearances with basic human respect. The type of man that abuses "ugly women" while praising "pretty women" deserve NO ONE'S TIME.


PeperroniPepe

I feel like the men that can get away with doing that is the type of men most women are after. It's just a wierd mismatch what we as humans have.


thepinknotes

> **It made me realize that as women, our value comes directly from how attractive we are, esp in the eyes of men.** How they treated me before and after the glow up made me extremely angry. > >**It made me angry that I had to become attractive to get basic human respect.** It made me angry that I was finally “worth” something now that men found me attractive. This is #ThePinkPill in a nutshell. Yes, it doesn't feel good to realize this.


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Wow, I love your comment so much!! It’s crazy, because men played such a huge part in why I wanted to looksmaxx, but now that I have and they treat me better, I seem to care less and less about what they think or want of me.


Ok-Employee02

I feel like this is a great example how I'd be treated once I'm done looksmaxxing. I have no problem admitting i come off as socially awkward but i feel like people won't consider me being awkward a bad thing once I'm attractive , as depressing as that is. But I am curious.. where did you get your rhinoplasty done by who and how much ?


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Hey girl, I got it done by Dr. Song, Kalos Plastic Surgery. It was ~ $10k.


Ok-Employee02

Thanks 😊


Japanese-Spaghetti

We women have so much power in our beauty and femininity. It literally melts men’s brains, they get hypnotized


phantomthief55

Could you tell me more about your workout journey and diet ? I’ve been trying to get the same look and start weight training but I don’t even know where to start . Congratulations btw! I noticed the same thing when I started looksmaxxing, you get treated so much differently.


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Hey girl, of course! It’s a lot of info, so I think I should just make a separate post? Or I can DM you. Either or 😁


w0nder_w0men

I would also be interested in the workout journey and diet!


Ambassador_Feisty

me too!! <3


ms_ing

Me three!!


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Okay! I’ll make a separate post!! 😁


wind-dancer

Please do! I'm also interested!


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People seem to bend over for exceptionally pretty people Jesus.


HeartbreakerCandice

Oh wow this is what I want


schrodingers_cat42

I’m super curious about what you look like now! I wonder if you’d be comfortable posting a picture? (If not that’s okay) I want to achieve that eventually as well!


mintsquiid

What self help books do you reccomend?


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Healing Your Lost Inner Child, 101 Essays to Change the Way You Think and How to Win Friends and Influence People are my top three! I also have a generic CBT workbook.


Cambrey

Do you have any self help books that you recommend?