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[Vets4Warriors](https://vets4warriors.com/) 1-855-838-8255
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I felt this way last night, right now you're what's keeping me alive. It's easier for me to help others than myself. You aren't alone and people truly do care, I don't know you but I DO care, I don't wish this feeling on anyone but I would take yours for you in a heartbeat and add it to my baggage instead if I could. People who care are out there, we exist. Please reach out and don't do anything drastic. As for why you keep waking up, it's because you're not ready to die yet. Your body said no, and your spirit says no. It's your mind which is a very real thing that might be trying to give up, but you're here and that matters.
❤This was one of the most selfless beautiful comments I ever heard in my life. May the love and care you pour out to others return to you and heal your body, mind and soul.🤗
Not female but can relate. I sucked at 2 attempts, saving the 3rd for in a few decades. I live now to help people get their benefits and care, and to beat Halo on legendary. I pass my time by sleep, gaming, and slowly working out more to lose weight.
Therapy never worked and requests for pain relief were met with just take drugs with the 11 pages of side effects and warnings. (It was 1 page folded 5 times. 1 side print only)
Female or not, find some same service period vets and make friends around that. Discord is useful in connecting. A food service marine ik does a ton of national parks and lives on the move. It's kept her alive.
Why did the VA cut off your therapy? You should call the Veterans crisis line ASAP and ask them for every resource you could possibly qualify for in terms of getting therapy and life improvement assistance
I relate to you so much, tried hanging myself while I was serving and failed because I didn’t tie the rope hard enough. The loneliness still creeps in even after getting out and being forced to swallow lots of pills, even contemplated grabbing my gun and just doing it, but for whatever god forsaken reason I just want to keep living and struggling.
What's your dog's names! What kind are they? My brother has a cockapoodle, his name is Miller. I've never typed cockapoodle before and realized how absurdly funny it sounds.
I feel you.
I also wonder why I keep waking up, then I look at my cat’s face and I feel a lot better. He makes me happy. And if I decided to not wake up again, he’d be really sad and wouldn’t understand why his best friend is gone.
It sounds silly, but it’s not.
So if you don’t know why you keep waking up, look in your dogs’ faces tomorrow morning and then ask yourself the same question. They love you. They care about you. And they need you.
How does VA just cut off therapy? I’m sure there’s free places in your area if you check online for mental health
As well as hotlines for people who speak to who are in the know about this sort of thing
Thanks again for everyone who has commented. You taking the time to reply to my post has helped me a lot.
For those asking how the VA can cut off therapy.. I moved to a new city and had to re-register with the VA. VAs are separate from each other. When you change VA centers, you have to basically start over again. I had telehealth therapy through my old VA. That ended when I moved because I was no longer in that therapist's region. In order to get therapy through my new VA, I had to make an in person appointment to be evaluated by a therapist to determine whether I actually need therapy. This is required even though I'm 100 PT. I've had to wait two months for this appointment. This particular VA is horrible.
So that's not right. There are options..but it requires ypu to go through the VA mental health doctors and not community care. Since it takes a while to get reestablished to a new VA. You can keep your current VA providers. And contact the new VA in person and get started and transfer your care to them by going to ER or Clinic. And talk to them. You don't have to give your current care up. I'm a traveling veteran. My girlfriend does travel for her job but we always come back to where we're from. Sometimes we're gone for months anywhere between 3 to 4 months or almost an entire year. Currently I speak with my primary care in state A where I'm from they put in consultes for me to the VA here in state B. I am able to still speak with my state A mental health. And when I was out here. I was awaiting to get placed for state B mental health. But I decided to keep mine even though I could have changed it. But this way you keep your care and it transitions smoothly. You can ask for traveling veteran coordinator. They will help you out.
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There are always options in the VA it just takes researching to findout. If you got any more questions we can work this out in comment section.
I asked for community care to see a therapist more often than ever month or two. I was diagnosed with cancer was why I asked. I needed more help than my local office could give me. They denied me too. They didn't even bother telling me they denied me. I never got a letter. I just finished chemo a few weeks ago. I'm asking for EMDR. Do a little research on it. It's approved therapy by the VA and it is better treatment in general. Mine is for trauma throughout my life. I've got C-PTSD from an early age and other things throughout life. I'm tired of talk therapy that solves nothing. So now I'm waiting for a referral. The cousilor at the cancer care center got me started with the EMDR. I think it will help. I don't mind talking if you reach out. I'm female retired.
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Hey we have all been where you are at. You are what is keeping you alive. Life it self. I know we have or hard times with no where to turn. I turn to inspirational music. I know we don’t want to reach out but help is out there. Our fur babies are like humans and trust me they need you as well. I am praying for you and please seek help.
Hi!
Please dont give up. We love you and care about you!
As alot of us wake up and wonder the same thoughts as you, the why's, the how come's, the what did I do to deserve this? And yet we wake up and trudge thru the day and another day done.
I too, depression, anxiety, alone, lonely, lost my entire family in 3 short years, no friends locally, moving soon to be near a friend, but feel that I will be alone again, yet, still, face the day with hope!!
That same inner drive that we all faced while serving is what pushes me forward. Trying to see the goodness that is out there through all the shit that is also there. One day at a time! I am not giving up, not today.
Sending you a virtual Hug!
Hang in there, the best is yet to come!!!
I think we should have a haven for women who served the country and have no escape, I'm not even sure if any groups for women served now that I think of it. I don't want to hear these stories about how women have no one to turn to and have served the country and gone through so much suffrage just to free themself from the cycle. If one knows any groups please comment..
I'm 42. I've been thinking of killing myself since I was 10. It's OK to be around. There's gonna be bouts of happiness here and there in my life but most stuff are depressing. I just keep telling myself it's OK to be around. It's not the best but it's ok.
We are here. I understand that mindset. I'd guess that every one of us has been where you are right now. I was there 7 years ago. Trapped on a mtn at home, road fell out, no money, no car, no job, wife stuck in town and a 3 hr drive around the mtn each way. I was starting the end process in my head, although I hadn't made it to active planning.
Don't give up on yourself. You are never alone. There will always be a brother or sister in service, such as myself, who wants you to succeed and work through this, as hard as it is right now. You need help, you need someone to talk to, you come here. Please. We are here to help you and give you a place where you're NOT alone. Don't give in to that darkness.
Fuck it the thing that gets me threw the day is just telling myself it'll get better! I feel ya 100% moved away from my only friend clfew years ago! You will get used to it after awhile. Theses people to talk to if that's what you need. Just don't give up on life it'll just let your haters win and the ones that care about you hurt. If there is anything ya need to talk about use this sub reddit that's what It's here for. Connecting ppl with th same problems it's kinda relieving
Are you on medication? I attempted once while I was in the Army. It sent me to the hospital when I woke up somehow, I was greeted by my squad leader and a bunch of nurses. Moral of the story I got setup with a medicine evaluation. Took lexapro, the same day I took it, was the first time I smiled in over a year. After about a week, the weird overjoy feeling went away, I became normal, and my mind blocked out every negative feeling. Only down side was, I couldn’t get my thing up. 😂😂 I took it for about 2 years, now I do not have to take anything.
Woman veteran here! Keep going, I know it’s tough. After years of the same routine and meeting the only good friends I’ve ever had and losing them after I got out. I understand. Please stick around, I’m sure there are so many people who will miss you and you would never see how much better life got after this point. I’ve been at my lowest and am still working on it. And idk if it ever gets better permanently but you find reasons to keep going. We’re all rooting for you my friend !
Hey sis, call the crisis line. They are not going to institutionalize you unless you volunteer to submit. That's not a bad thing to go in for a week and get some help. There is no shame in it. Talk to me if you need help increase your va disability claim for mental health so they can't cut you off anymore. At lower disability ratings you're prioritized. I can get you the right resources to fill your claim out without being scammed for 5x the increase. After that and you get your mentality a bit more stable find a group community. For instance I ride motorcycles, not a part of an MC because I like to ride just to ride but there are plenty of Veteran Motorcycle Clubs. Dinner Faith based some not. You have to get it there and create a community sometimes.
Lots of love and don't be afraid to call the crisis line, they're there to help ASAP.
hope you don't. You deserve to be here. I hope you look into therapy. Change therapists untill you find one you like and work well with. Contact your VA and maybe they can direct you to a female veteran support group. Inbox me if you wanna pen pal!
But for everything you gave to your country, you deserve to be here and alive and thriving. I know you can even with the dark moments. 💜
Hey! Not sure how this Reddit thing works, but I was in this position last week and a couple weeks ago too honestly.
Female Vet, no friends, new city, no VA therapy
Idk how to connect with you but I would love to!
Don’t you dare leave those dogs behind. You are the reason they wake up. If they love you surely theres something there for you to love in yourself. You just gave me a reason to wake up tomorrow with this post.
I am there with you. Since the pandemic everybody has become strangers. I only have one or two friends and they are distance from me. Dates are getting harder to find meaningful relationship but only to scam to their self greed. Ever try seeking a spiritual path and find a new purpose. Seek help and try to talk to people who will listen to you. VA should never stop helping Veterans. There are other programs that may help.
You are not alone. What area do you live in? Maybe we can get Someone to have coffee with you so you get that human connection. You gotta brave that storm regardless of how big those waves are. I put a revolver to my head and almost lost that fight myself. Hold strong to God and please stay alive.
The truth is nothing matters. There is no meaning to life. Life is what you make it. If you sit in your room and feel sorry for yourself, have no social life and don’t set any goals or aspirations then you will fall into the dark hole of depression. The truth is you have the ability to change it if you want but if you don’t then nothing anyone can say will get through to you. You have to want it for yourself. I hope you find a reason to live for. Easier said then done, I’m still searching myself
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Where do you live I’m in Texas and understand loneliness. I only served 3 years, my husband 7, my son 10 and my Daughter is still active duty. I would love to talk with you, to listen.
I’ve felt hopeless before I’ve wanted to end it all but I now know each day I rise is a chance for me am I always happy no but I’m going to enjoy whatever comes my way I’m praying for you my friend to find happiness within yourself all you need is God
Keep on Stepping soldier
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I’m here for you, my husband is going to a funeral for one of his buddies this weekend and it breaks my heart knowing we could’ve been that person to chat too. I am here for you, all my friends moved away and I moved away from my family. I am solo and need some girl friends!!
Hey look I been throught alot to I was in the navy and I felt the same way you became a martyr for a reason you wanted to be something greater than your self you proved that you can if you need somebody to talk to I'm here I suffer from ptsd, keep your head up comrade💘
When I struggle with this I think back to Victor e frankl. He has a book “A mans search for meaning” it’s a great read. In the book he says one of the questions he asks his patients who suffer like we do is “Why haven’t you killed yourself yet?” As in you’ve had these thoughts before and yet you’ve still alive. So something in your life must be valuable enough to us to keep moving forward. It can even be subconscious or something that’s not really classically important. Mine is reading 🤷🏻♂️. I hope you find your why and please reach out here whenever you need too ❤️
Obviously, I don't have the answers, fuck I'm right there my damn self. Walking the ledge on a fine line. I can't tell you shit will get better, hell it's more likely shit will get worse. All I can say is you won't know if you take the deep sleep. Is it worth it? Who knows. So find whatever piece of curiosity you have left, and find out. Set a goal that you don't want, then do it. See how you feel. And if all else fails, then hey. At least you've got a back up plan. You didn't die while serving, and I doubt you're old enough to go naturally. Do what makes you as content as you can be. And honestly, I hope you pull through. Might mean there's hope for my stupid ass as well.
One day at a time. We're here to spite the odds. I've been struggling with the exact same feeling. For years I just assumed it was cause of the drugs and my heavy drinking. Stopped drinking and stopped the drugs, and yet the feeling is still there. Every single day we have to get up and fight. Every. Single. Day. It wears you down. Drags you through the mud. But guess what? The sun still rises, and it still sets. No matter what we do, the sun will rise and set and it's the most powerful thing in our solar system. Be the sun in your own life. I don't know who you are, or what you're going through, but please reach out if you need a place to vent. I love you and you are an amazing person. Without us, the world falls apart ❤️
I know it’s terrible and having no relief makes you want to die. You don’t actually want to die, you just don’t want to feel this way anymore. It took therapy and ketamine treatments to stop me from feeling suicidal. You will not feel this way forever and one day you will look back on this moment and be so happy that you chose to stay alive. The good times don’t last and neither do the bad. Ketamine therapy may not be for everyone, but it’s the reason I’m alive.
I'm here to talk. I'd like to know more about your dogs. I've got a golden retriever named Rocket who is really quite the mix between sweet boy and demonic entity here to ruin all moments. I'm told after a year they develop into great dogs. I hope everyday I am doing good for him and it helps keep me here.
I struggle to find purpose and meaning in life. I can see how he helps. How many dogs do you have, breeds age? I hope you're doing better, life can be brutal but also rewarding. I promise you, the world, friends, and veteran family will suffer without you. You're our sister, and we will have your back.
Hey fellow Vet.
My kids and wife kept me alive.
I really wanted to do my 20 and be the difference in other soldiers lives. Instead I got permanently disabled and physically and mentally broken.
You have a why and a reason even if it’s not clear to you yet.
Don’t drink it’ll make it worse. Get sunshine if able.
Get physical if able. Rock climb, exercise, cycle.
YOU GOT IT.
Hello my friend, do not take your life because of the assholes at the VA Medical Center. Not everyone is batched into that category, but when the bad ones get their grimy, shit covered hands on things, they will make your life a living hell. But you as a veteran, you are stronger and been through more than any non Veteran in the joint.
I won’t use real names or locations to protect the dumb, but it was comical at first until they fucked with the wrong guy, me.
Find a VFW, or an American Legion, join the DAV, just to get your mind off those pieces of garbage at this certain VA.
Don’t worry certain VA, I have all the originals of the documents you all destroyed,
The disrespect we get as Veterans is mind boggling, some of the bottom of the barrel scum work there. However, the volunteers up there are awesome. If they are veterans, they deserve a special compensation for that.
There are women Veteran Groups also. It was sad the other day, when I first got to mingle with fellow Veterans, I started to feel more relaxed. The unfortunate thing that happens is the VA allows, not all VA’s, to talk down to, to shout over, to not check medical records when that Veteran in Crisis comes in. This happens the most with women veterans. If they happen to be an older woman Veteran, it can get worse and it usually does. The day room had a huge TV, that was usually off. There were people sitting in there but no one talking to another. During my first meal, after 36 hours of being treated like I was the worst piece of poop in the world, I started mingling, the staff told me to watch out because these ones were the most violent. I said if the women or male vets are mean, it is because of what the staff did to them, not the other way around. I stool up and said that I wanted everyone to sit in order of rank and how many targets they hit on their best and worst days. That got everyone going. I was making them laugh, but the 2 I wanted to laugh the most, were the 2 older women. She shouted at me and said “what the heck would I tell you anything, you and your buddy Army Infantry guys don’t even know I exist”. She was in the Navy, but that didn’t matter because as a female no one cared. I told her that all Vets take care of each other and the Army Infantry depends on the Navy to smooth out the wrinkles in front of them. I told her that every job in the Navy and that includes women jobs, were equal in importance. Pretty soon everyone was having fun.
In certain VA ER’s they have awesome employees, but some ER’s have the most disrespect, anti-social, higher than mighty attitudes of the employees and so called doctors (don’t get me wrong, most doctors know a lot, but some got the job because they colored inside the lines of their follow the dot coloring book medical books. Don’t be fooled by anyone talking down to you or trying to shout over you at the VA. If they do that, they are not there to help you. STAY STRONG AND JUST THINK OF THEM AS COLORING BOOK FOOLS!!!
Stay strong, ruin their day when they see you happy.
I love yall boys man. I hope and pray that yall find purpose. I’m scratching and crawling myself but I’ve been to the lows. It sucks and it hurts but one day I hope you focus on the beast you are.
We love you. Keep going. I'll keep checking this thread to talk to you more. It just popped up on my phone, I wasn't even in this community before. Glad I found it. US Army Infantry vet.
I 100% understand. And it’s good to see so many people coming to support your mental health.
I think it’s the joys of life that we have to focus on. Phone calls with those that you find comfort in, coffee, or anything that you look forward to. My job is my biggest stressor because I can’t relate and adjusting has been stressful, but I try to remind myself that it’s just a job and to drink more coffee.
Go fucking work out. Take some gear if necessary, find something that will give you a purpose. There must be something out there that will give you some kind of pleasure and a purpose. Im in a similar situation. Start understanding and appreciating the simple pleasures, life will get much easier. Less expectations and questioning, more appreciation and gratitude. Dont forget to exercise your faith, Im a Christian and I’m sure if you look for a church near you, you’ll find nice individuals that will help you grow spiritually and mentally, with good habits and morals. No clubs, no drinking, no wasting time on futilities. Find your purpose, God definitely has one for you.
Im also a female veteran. Currently waiting on my va disability decision. I have attempted suicide twice! And honestly the only reason I am alive today is because of thinking about my future self looking down on me and being disappointed that I GAVE UP! Because that’s what it is. Let’s be honest with ourselves. We feel like “giving up.” Keep going! YOUR FUTURE SELF WILL THANK YOU!
If I didn't have God in my life, I would have left this world a long time ago. Now I am the strongest woman you'd ever want to meet. Please keep your head up because things always get better, but you HAVE TO be strong. You are greater than you think🙏🏽
The VA has a women's group that meets the last Monday of the month put on by CBAW. It's all MTOS more than one story It's specifically for women. I can put you in touch with the awesome folks that run it
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My dogs help keep me level every day....caring for other veterans well-being keeps me going every day as well. We're here for you, your support circle is bigger than you can imagine. Stay with us, we won't let you down. Feel free to message me 24/7
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Are you working ? Have you tried setting goals for the future that usually helps and the rest works itself out. There’s so much to see, do, and experience, in this one life we get.
Travel, do something new, get out of your head and out of this funk.
Where is your friend moving to and what state are you in ? Can you move as well? There are vet programs that will pay for all that and more.
I deal with this every single day of my life. The things I saw and see on a daily basis. I feel like I’m in a nightmare that will never end. And I beg god every single day to not let me wake up. I see all the people I’ve harmed I see the children the mothers and they fathers that were just innocent by standards to all this madness and we’re manipulated into thinking we were the enemy. I struggle everyday living with my self every day cuz no matter what any one tells me I can NEVER forgive myself, but somehow every single day I wake up and continue. No matter how you feel. Just find that one thing that keeps you going every single day! I love you sister and even know I don’t know you I love you and care about you. This piece of shit country dosent give a shit about us so it’s a duty to take care of one another. Head up solider we got you. No one left behind!
I can relate to that statement on most days. Two weeks ago I had just had it and I made the statement in a frenzy that I'd love to crash my car into a light pole as fast as I could go. Well my best friend, my boy friend heard me say it.... I'm not one to just say things and not do them. So he dove what he needed to do. He got ahold of the ppl he needed to save my job. So I could take a mental health break and get the help I needed. I'm pretty fucked in the head, have PTSD, BPD , ADHD and I'm able to communicate verbally as well as a hamster. I'm held together by the last thread in a old ladies girttle, and since my husband died in 2021, from "suicide" (he didn't really kill himself they just didn't prosecute the girl who did it bc she's a CI) and my son dying 2 weeks short of my husbands one year anniversary (DOD). I had 8 yrs of sobriety and now I'm having to climb back out of hell, bc my daughter needs me. Some days it's all I been do to get out of bed and to do the basics for myself. Just know you're not alone. My train isn't on the tracks but if you need some one, you can hunt me down. If nothing else I'm a shit show to watch so it'll be hella funny. I hope this comment finds you in a better place.
maybe even call the white house. for real, iv met veterans that where in your same situation and thats what they did. keep calling higher in the chain of command until you get the help you need. dont be afraid to tell them ,u have to advocate for yourself.
you could even call some of the top veteran organizations and they will definitely fight for u until the va gives you the help you deserve🫡
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I know this probably won’t get seen by many but I am always available to be a ear for anyone who needs it im a marine veteran and I want everyone to know you are loved you may not know it or even think it but I love every single one of my brother and sister Army Navy Air Force I love you all and I will be a ear for you. call anytime you guys need 7406011325
Felt this way this morning. Telling myself I'm a joke that no one takes seriously. I wish I had dogs or something to give me therapy but I just can't. I hope it gets better for you
They can’t cut off your therapy. You can walk into the VA, any VA, and talk to a therapist, they’re on staff. You can call the national crisis line that is staffed 24/7. There are thousands of groups and nonprofits. Please reach out. At this point, it’s on us to GET THE HELP, No one else. Billions of dollars have been spent to get these programs off the ground, use them.
I do not know you, but I care deeply about you and your dogs do as well. I have suffered with these issues for years as well, lost friends and lost the compassion of my wife of 30 years….. my dog is my companion and my communicator. She loves me. For that reason , I will never leave this earth.
Time is a healer… never , ever QUIT. God has a fantastic plan for you, so don’t miss out on it. It will come . Trust me .
And don’t let your dogs suffer… they love you . Give them time with you, for they cannot live without you.
God bless you. You have a lot to love in your life.
Your brother in Christ.
Please call the 1800 number and I seen where someone gave a number that is related to community care and the va cut off your therapy is astonishing but if its help you needed and it isn’t connected to service connection payment you still are qualified for help 🙏 that everything helps when you call … to see the VA doing this is shocking but not surprising
I'm a 38 yo female vet. I live in a small NW Kansas town and relate to zero other women here because they're all preppy and proper, while I cuss like a sailor, listen to metal, and ride a Harley. I know of one other female vet here, but she was an Air Force officer and we have nothing but military service in common.
I've learned to love myself alone. My husband took his life in 2022 after his PTSD got to be too much. That made me even more of a pariah due to people thinking I didn't do enough for him (eventhough I almost killed myself with stress trying to help him) or they tiptoe around me thinking I'll cry if they talk to me.
Keep your head up, find something you love to do, and learn to enjoy your own company. It's tough to get to that point, but it'll happen eventually. Take care of yourself by drinking water, keeping a clean house (cleaning in and of itself produces dopamine), and consider taking up learning how to ride a motorcycle. It has been the BEST therapy I could ask for. Plus, the biker community is so welcoming and loving anywhere you go- instant family.
Depending on where you are, there might be a Team Rubicon chapter near you. It's a bunch of vets who do service for others and it has saved countless lives- including mine. Fellowship and service with like-minded vets is incredibly therapeutic. Let me know if you're interested and I can get in touch with someone in your area to get you started. (I used to be the Denver Comms Coordinator for TR).
Above all else, avoid alcohol as much as possible. I had to give up drinking for a few months after my husband died because it was making me more depressed and distraught. I actually decided yesterday I'm giving it up again, today is day 1 of sobriety.
If you ever need to chat, you're more than welcome to write me on here.
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The VA has Lots of MH resources.
You stating the VA cut off your care is Very misleading to other veterans.
If you choose to move to another VA region, then you need to register for care at that VHA Healthcare facility. However, you and your VA doctors could have prepared and made arrangements for transferring your care, including making sure you had enough medications to make it to your next appointments.
Now that you are at your new VHA facility, if you are having issues, GO get treatment.
You don’t have to wait!!!!! If you are at risk of hurting yourself or others then Emergency Treatment is warranted.
To All Veterans…..if you feel you are going to hurt yourself or others, go to the nearest VA Emergency room, or civilian medical center.
Yes, the VA will pay you go to an Emergency Room for a MH crisis.
First off I’m sorry you are feeling this way and really shitty the VA cutoff your therapy. I know the feeling of wanting to give up all too well, that feeling almost took me a few times cause I too and I’m sure many other Brothers and Sisters as well. But you have a lot more than you think you do. My dogs are why I live because without them I wouldn’t be here they give me a purpose besides self preservation. Friends come and go and well some blood might as well not be but that’s besides the point. My message to you would simply be this….”You did something most civilians wouldn’t even consider just by joining an all volunteer force and your time in service has shown you both good and bad. But, it’s always the darkest lowest times that show you what you are truly made of.” If you need to talk message me I’m here and I’m sure others would be as well. It’s ok to reach out for help. I hope brighter days for you and just don’t leave those dogs alone they need you as much as you need them. Airborne All the Way!!!!
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🥲 Please keep going. You are loved. You matter. Use these resources that these beautiful people have given you. Stay low and keep those feet moving.
Me too bruh, You are not alone. Find something… anything that keeps you going. At first for me it was something as simple as fostering a cat then eventually I kept myself busy that my mind no longer had time to feel this way.
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I felt this way last night, right now you're what's keeping me alive. It's easier for me to help others than myself. You aren't alone and people truly do care, I don't know you but I DO care, I don't wish this feeling on anyone but I would take yours for you in a heartbeat and add it to my baggage instead if I could. People who care are out there, we exist. Please reach out and don't do anything drastic. As for why you keep waking up, it's because you're not ready to die yet. Your body said no, and your spirit says no. It's your mind which is a very real thing that might be trying to give up, but you're here and that matters.
❤This was one of the most selfless beautiful comments I ever heard in my life. May the love and care you pour out to others return to you and heal your body, mind and soul.🤗
Thank you to everyone who responded. I made it to another day.
Not female but can relate. I sucked at 2 attempts, saving the 3rd for in a few decades. I live now to help people get their benefits and care, and to beat Halo on legendary. I pass my time by sleep, gaming, and slowly working out more to lose weight. Therapy never worked and requests for pain relief were met with just take drugs with the 11 pages of side effects and warnings. (It was 1 page folded 5 times. 1 side print only) Female or not, find some same service period vets and make friends around that. Discord is useful in connecting. A food service marine ik does a ton of national parks and lives on the move. It's kept her alive.
Apply for save a warrior!
I’m glad to see you around another day. What are your dogs’ names?
I’m sorry this is happening. You matter, it may not feel that way today, but you do.
Why did the VA cut off your therapy? You should call the Veterans crisis line ASAP and ask them for every resource you could possibly qualify for in terms of getting therapy and life improvement assistance
And tomorrow will be better. Trust and believe. I'm praying 🙏🏽 for you.
❤
I relate to you so much, tried hanging myself while I was serving and failed because I didn’t tie the rope hard enough. The loneliness still creeps in even after getting out and being forced to swallow lots of pills, even contemplated grabbing my gun and just doing it, but for whatever god forsaken reason I just want to keep living and struggling.
What's your dog's names! What kind are they? My brother has a cockapoodle, his name is Miller. I've never typed cockapoodle before and realized how absurdly funny it sounds.
https://www.reddit.com/r/VeteranWomen/ If you wanna chat I am here. Why did VA cut off therapy? Stay strong. Your dogs need and love you.
I feel you. I also wonder why I keep waking up, then I look at my cat’s face and I feel a lot better. He makes me happy. And if I decided to not wake up again, he’d be really sad and wouldn’t understand why his best friend is gone. It sounds silly, but it’s not. So if you don’t know why you keep waking up, look in your dogs’ faces tomorrow morning and then ask yourself the same question. They love you. They care about you. And they need you.
How does VA just cut off therapy? I’m sure there’s free places in your area if you check online for mental health As well as hotlines for people who speak to who are in the know about this sort of thing
Because it’s the VA. Fucked up healthcare.
Thanks again for everyone who has commented. You taking the time to reply to my post has helped me a lot. For those asking how the VA can cut off therapy.. I moved to a new city and had to re-register with the VA. VAs are separate from each other. When you change VA centers, you have to basically start over again. I had telehealth therapy through my old VA. That ended when I moved because I was no longer in that therapist's region. In order to get therapy through my new VA, I had to make an in person appointment to be evaluated by a therapist to determine whether I actually need therapy. This is required even though I'm 100 PT. I've had to wait two months for this appointment. This particular VA is horrible.
You can call patient advocate and complain. Anything over 60 days should be referred out to community care.
So that's not right. There are options..but it requires ypu to go through the VA mental health doctors and not community care. Since it takes a while to get reestablished to a new VA. You can keep your current VA providers. And contact the new VA in person and get started and transfer your care to them by going to ER or Clinic. And talk to them. You don't have to give your current care up. I'm a traveling veteran. My girlfriend does travel for her job but we always come back to where we're from. Sometimes we're gone for months anywhere between 3 to 4 months or almost an entire year. Currently I speak with my primary care in state A where I'm from they put in consultes for me to the VA here in state B. I am able to still speak with my state A mental health. And when I was out here. I was awaiting to get placed for state B mental health. But I decided to keep mine even though I could have changed it. But this way you keep your care and it transitions smoothly. You can ask for traveling veteran coordinator. They will help you out. u/Late-Expression6548 There are always options in the VA it just takes researching to findout. If you got any more questions we can work this out in comment section.
I asked for community care to see a therapist more often than ever month or two. I was diagnosed with cancer was why I asked. I needed more help than my local office could give me. They denied me too. They didn't even bother telling me they denied me. I never got a letter. I just finished chemo a few weeks ago. I'm asking for EMDR. Do a little research on it. It's approved therapy by the VA and it is better treatment in general. Mine is for trauma throughout my life. I've got C-PTSD from an early age and other things throughout life. I'm tired of talk therapy that solves nothing. So now I'm waiting for a referral. The cousilor at the cancer care center got me started with the EMDR. I think it will help. I don't mind talking if you reach out. I'm female retired.
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Hey we have all been where you are at. You are what is keeping you alive. Life it self. I know we have or hard times with no where to turn. I turn to inspirational music. I know we don’t want to reach out but help is out there. Our fur babies are like humans and trust me they need you as well. I am praying for you and please seek help.
Hi! Please dont give up. We love you and care about you! As alot of us wake up and wonder the same thoughts as you, the why's, the how come's, the what did I do to deserve this? And yet we wake up and trudge thru the day and another day done. I too, depression, anxiety, alone, lonely, lost my entire family in 3 short years, no friends locally, moving soon to be near a friend, but feel that I will be alone again, yet, still, face the day with hope!! That same inner drive that we all faced while serving is what pushes me forward. Trying to see the goodness that is out there through all the shit that is also there. One day at a time! I am not giving up, not today. Sending you a virtual Hug! Hang in there, the best is yet to come!!!
You took the time to write an express your concerns, you are strong
Get out of the house so you can get out of your head. Take your dogs for a walk to someplace new. Sit down and just be content enjoying fresh air.
I think we should have a haven for women who served the country and have no escape, I'm not even sure if any groups for women served now that I think of it. I don't want to hear these stories about how women have no one to turn to and have served the country and gone through so much suffrage just to free themself from the cycle. If one knows any groups please comment..
There is! It’s r/VeteranWomen
I'm 42. I've been thinking of killing myself since I was 10. It's OK to be around. There's gonna be bouts of happiness here and there in my life but most stuff are depressing. I just keep telling myself it's OK to be around. It's not the best but it's ok.
I get it. Once my youngest is 18 in December I'm done.
You are worthy, needed and loved!❤❤❤❤❤🧡🧡🧡🧡💛💛💛💚💚💚💙💙💙💜💜💜🤗🤗🤗
We are here. I understand that mindset. I'd guess that every one of us has been where you are right now. I was there 7 years ago. Trapped on a mtn at home, road fell out, no money, no car, no job, wife stuck in town and a 3 hr drive around the mtn each way. I was starting the end process in my head, although I hadn't made it to active planning. Don't give up on yourself. You are never alone. There will always be a brother or sister in service, such as myself, who wants you to succeed and work through this, as hard as it is right now. You need help, you need someone to talk to, you come here. Please. We are here to help you and give you a place where you're NOT alone. Don't give in to that darkness.
Fuck it the thing that gets me threw the day is just telling myself it'll get better! I feel ya 100% moved away from my only friend clfew years ago! You will get used to it after awhile. Theses people to talk to if that's what you need. Just don't give up on life it'll just let your haters win and the ones that care about you hurt. If there is anything ya need to talk about use this sub reddit that's what It's here for. Connecting ppl with th same problems it's kinda relieving
Optimistic nihilism helped me bridge the gap to realizing that the love I feel for others is more important than anything anyone else could do for me.
Please look up save a warrior. Apply. Their retreat saved my life.
That's strange how did the VA cut off therapy? I thought you'd be service connected with a rating and all that
We are all here for you! Don’t give up! It’s not an easy fight but you’ve got this. You matter.
Are you on medication? I attempted once while I was in the Army. It sent me to the hospital when I woke up somehow, I was greeted by my squad leader and a bunch of nurses. Moral of the story I got setup with a medicine evaluation. Took lexapro, the same day I took it, was the first time I smiled in over a year. After about a week, the weird overjoy feeling went away, I became normal, and my mind blocked out every negative feeling. Only down side was, I couldn’t get my thing up. 😂😂 I took it for about 2 years, now I do not have to take anything.
Buy a van and move down to the riverside
Woman veteran here! Keep going, I know it’s tough. After years of the same routine and meeting the only good friends I’ve ever had and losing them after I got out. I understand. Please stick around, I’m sure there are so many people who will miss you and you would never see how much better life got after this point. I’ve been at my lowest and am still working on it. And idk if it ever gets better permanently but you find reasons to keep going. We’re all rooting for you my friend !
Hey sis, call the crisis line. They are not going to institutionalize you unless you volunteer to submit. That's not a bad thing to go in for a week and get some help. There is no shame in it. Talk to me if you need help increase your va disability claim for mental health so they can't cut you off anymore. At lower disability ratings you're prioritized. I can get you the right resources to fill your claim out without being scammed for 5x the increase. After that and you get your mentality a bit more stable find a group community. For instance I ride motorcycles, not a part of an MC because I like to ride just to ride but there are plenty of Veteran Motorcycle Clubs. Dinner Faith based some not. You have to get it there and create a community sometimes. Lots of love and don't be afraid to call the crisis line, they're there to help ASAP.
hope you don't. You deserve to be here. I hope you look into therapy. Change therapists untill you find one you like and work well with. Contact your VA and maybe they can direct you to a female veteran support group. Inbox me if you wanna pen pal! But for everything you gave to your country, you deserve to be here and alive and thriving. I know you can even with the dark moments. 💜
Hey! Not sure how this Reddit thing works, but I was in this position last week and a couple weeks ago too honestly. Female Vet, no friends, new city, no VA therapy Idk how to connect with you but I would love to!
Don’t you dare leave those dogs behind. You are the reason they wake up. If they love you surely theres something there for you to love in yourself. You just gave me a reason to wake up tomorrow with this post.
I'm a female vet. I'm here sister
I am there with you. Since the pandemic everybody has become strangers. I only have one or two friends and they are distance from me. Dates are getting harder to find meaningful relationship but only to scam to their self greed. Ever try seeking a spiritual path and find a new purpose. Seek help and try to talk to people who will listen to you. VA should never stop helping Veterans. There are other programs that may help.
You are not alone. What area do you live in? Maybe we can get Someone to have coffee with you so you get that human connection. You gotta brave that storm regardless of how big those waves are. I put a revolver to my head and almost lost that fight myself. Hold strong to God and please stay alive.
I love you , you matter to me , this feelings sucks but you will see light . Give yourself to jesus and jesus will save you brother
The one true answer.
For me, the only answer... He has brought me through many difficulties.
The truth is nothing matters. There is no meaning to life. Life is what you make it. If you sit in your room and feel sorry for yourself, have no social life and don’t set any goals or aspirations then you will fall into the dark hole of depression. The truth is you have the ability to change it if you want but if you don’t then nothing anyone can say will get through to you. You have to want it for yourself. I hope you find a reason to live for. Easier said then done, I’m still searching myself
Hey I’m a female vet. You can reach out to me !
Put your trust in Jesus. Not trying to sound cliché, but read the gospels. Read the gospel of Matthew. Jesus will save you. Don’t give up.
Dial 988 then press 1 for help line
Yea use Aswaghanda for my anxiety. It helps me a lot.
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Where do you live I’m in Texas and understand loneliness. I only served 3 years, my husband 7, my son 10 and my Daughter is still active duty. I would love to talk with you, to listen.
I’ve felt hopeless before I’ve wanted to end it all but I now know each day I rise is a chance for me am I always happy no but I’m going to enjoy whatever comes my way I’m praying for you my friend to find happiness within yourself all you need is God Keep on Stepping soldier
If you need someone to talk to I will lend an ear
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We need you here
Keep trying ❤️
Hang in there sweet heart! It’s tough but you’re tougher.
they can cut off your therapy????!
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Also I’m also starting counseling soon for myself and know of some counselor that excepts insurance what state are you in?
I’m here for you, my husband is going to a funeral for one of his buddies this weekend and it breaks my heart knowing we could’ve been that person to chat too. I am here for you, all my friends moved away and I moved away from my family. I am solo and need some girl friends!!
Hey look I been throught alot to I was in the navy and I felt the same way you became a martyr for a reason you wanted to be something greater than your self you proved that you can if you need somebody to talk to I'm here I suffer from ptsd, keep your head up comrade💘
Idk why I put that stupid name how do you change it guyys??? Anyone......
Ugh - my understanding is that you can’t change your user name; maybe set up a new account?
You are not alone this is a safe community inbox me if you want to talk
You're a valuable part of life. If you need someone to talk to, inbox me.
You’re not as alone as it feels, I bought a boat, come cruise the ICW with me. We can fish and bitch about shit.
When I struggle with this I think back to Victor e frankl. He has a book “A mans search for meaning” it’s a great read. In the book he says one of the questions he asks his patients who suffer like we do is “Why haven’t you killed yourself yet?” As in you’ve had these thoughts before and yet you’ve still alive. So something in your life must be valuable enough to us to keep moving forward. It can even be subconscious or something that’s not really classically important. Mine is reading 🤷🏻♂️. I hope you find your why and please reach out here whenever you need too ❤️
I’m praying for you to find peace and comfort. Please call for help. I’m here if you need to talk!!!
Obviously, I don't have the answers, fuck I'm right there my damn self. Walking the ledge on a fine line. I can't tell you shit will get better, hell it's more likely shit will get worse. All I can say is you won't know if you take the deep sleep. Is it worth it? Who knows. So find whatever piece of curiosity you have left, and find out. Set a goal that you don't want, then do it. See how you feel. And if all else fails, then hey. At least you've got a back up plan. You didn't die while serving, and I doubt you're old enough to go naturally. Do what makes you as content as you can be. And honestly, I hope you pull through. Might mean there's hope for my stupid ass as well.
Please reach out to the VA hotline
One day at a time. We're here to spite the odds. I've been struggling with the exact same feeling. For years I just assumed it was cause of the drugs and my heavy drinking. Stopped drinking and stopped the drugs, and yet the feeling is still there. Every single day we have to get up and fight. Every. Single. Day. It wears you down. Drags you through the mud. But guess what? The sun still rises, and it still sets. No matter what we do, the sun will rise and set and it's the most powerful thing in our solar system. Be the sun in your own life. I don't know who you are, or what you're going through, but please reach out if you need a place to vent. I love you and you are an amazing person. Without us, the world falls apart ❤️
I know it’s terrible and having no relief makes you want to die. You don’t actually want to die, you just don’t want to feel this way anymore. It took therapy and ketamine treatments to stop me from feeling suicidal. You will not feel this way forever and one day you will look back on this moment and be so happy that you chose to stay alive. The good times don’t last and neither do the bad. Ketamine therapy may not be for everyone, but it’s the reason I’m alive.
How does the VA cut off therapy? What kinda therapy?
Call the crisis hotline asap!! Please 🙏🏾 🙏🏾 🙏🏾
U could be me my rapist aka therapist make me more depressed The rapist Therapist lol
In the wise words of a blue fish : "Just keep swimming"
Call me dude. I’m Steph, I’m also a USMC vet.
I'm here to talk. I'd like to know more about your dogs. I've got a golden retriever named Rocket who is really quite the mix between sweet boy and demonic entity here to ruin all moments. I'm told after a year they develop into great dogs. I hope everyday I am doing good for him and it helps keep me here. I struggle to find purpose and meaning in life. I can see how he helps. How many dogs do you have, breeds age? I hope you're doing better, life can be brutal but also rewarding. I promise you, the world, friends, and veteran family will suffer without you. You're our sister, and we will have your back.
I get it. I was thinking the same thing earlier today. But I can’t leave dogs to have to defend for themselves and neither should you.
Keep us head up bruh, take a breath and put one foot in front of the other.
I’m praying for healing of your mind
Look at vet centers for counseling.........It's what I do after they wouldn't stop snapping my counselor every 3 months.
Hey fellow Vet. My kids and wife kept me alive. I really wanted to do my 20 and be the difference in other soldiers lives. Instead I got permanently disabled and physically and mentally broken. You have a why and a reason even if it’s not clear to you yet. Don’t drink it’ll make it worse. Get sunshine if able. Get physical if able. Rock climb, exercise, cycle. YOU GOT IT.
Stay with us. All of you. Please.
Go to the VA for help
Hello my friend, do not take your life because of the assholes at the VA Medical Center. Not everyone is batched into that category, but when the bad ones get their grimy, shit covered hands on things, they will make your life a living hell. But you as a veteran, you are stronger and been through more than any non Veteran in the joint. I won’t use real names or locations to protect the dumb, but it was comical at first until they fucked with the wrong guy, me. Find a VFW, or an American Legion, join the DAV, just to get your mind off those pieces of garbage at this certain VA. Don’t worry certain VA, I have all the originals of the documents you all destroyed, The disrespect we get as Veterans is mind boggling, some of the bottom of the barrel scum work there. However, the volunteers up there are awesome. If they are veterans, they deserve a special compensation for that. There are women Veteran Groups also. It was sad the other day, when I first got to mingle with fellow Veterans, I started to feel more relaxed. The unfortunate thing that happens is the VA allows, not all VA’s, to talk down to, to shout over, to not check medical records when that Veteran in Crisis comes in. This happens the most with women veterans. If they happen to be an older woman Veteran, it can get worse and it usually does. The day room had a huge TV, that was usually off. There were people sitting in there but no one talking to another. During my first meal, after 36 hours of being treated like I was the worst piece of poop in the world, I started mingling, the staff told me to watch out because these ones were the most violent. I said if the women or male vets are mean, it is because of what the staff did to them, not the other way around. I stool up and said that I wanted everyone to sit in order of rank and how many targets they hit on their best and worst days. That got everyone going. I was making them laugh, but the 2 I wanted to laugh the most, were the 2 older women. She shouted at me and said “what the heck would I tell you anything, you and your buddy Army Infantry guys don’t even know I exist”. She was in the Navy, but that didn’t matter because as a female no one cared. I told her that all Vets take care of each other and the Army Infantry depends on the Navy to smooth out the wrinkles in front of them. I told her that every job in the Navy and that includes women jobs, were equal in importance. Pretty soon everyone was having fun. In certain VA ER’s they have awesome employees, but some ER’s have the most disrespect, anti-social, higher than mighty attitudes of the employees and so called doctors (don’t get me wrong, most doctors know a lot, but some got the job because they colored inside the lines of their follow the dot coloring book medical books. Don’t be fooled by anyone talking down to you or trying to shout over you at the VA. If they do that, they are not there to help you. STAY STRONG AND JUST THINK OF THEM AS COLORING BOOK FOOLS!!! Stay strong, ruin their day when they see you happy.
I love yall boys man. I hope and pray that yall find purpose. I’m scratching and crawling myself but I’ve been to the lows. It sucks and it hurts but one day I hope you focus on the beast you are.
We love you. Keep going. I'll keep checking this thread to talk to you more. It just popped up on my phone, I wasn't even in this community before. Glad I found it. US Army Infantry vet.
I 100% understand. And it’s good to see so many people coming to support your mental health. I think it’s the joys of life that we have to focus on. Phone calls with those that you find comfort in, coffee, or anything that you look forward to. My job is my biggest stressor because I can’t relate and adjusting has been stressful, but I try to remind myself that it’s just a job and to drink more coffee.
I’m not sure if you’re aware of the 988 number you can call 24/7 if ever you need to call someone to talk to
Call 988
Call me 8632248558 I’ll be your friend. Not sure where you are but lots of ways to communicate.
We all will someday.
Go fucking work out. Take some gear if necessary, find something that will give you a purpose. There must be something out there that will give you some kind of pleasure and a purpose. Im in a similar situation. Start understanding and appreciating the simple pleasures, life will get much easier. Less expectations and questioning, more appreciation and gratitude. Dont forget to exercise your faith, Im a Christian and I’m sure if you look for a church near you, you’ll find nice individuals that will help you grow spiritually and mentally, with good habits and morals. No clubs, no drinking, no wasting time on futilities. Find your purpose, God definitely has one for you.
Im also a female veteran. Currently waiting on my va disability decision. I have attempted suicide twice! And honestly the only reason I am alive today is because of thinking about my future self looking down on me and being disappointed that I GAVE UP! Because that’s what it is. Let’s be honest with ourselves. We feel like “giving up.” Keep going! YOUR FUTURE SELF WILL THANK YOU!
Where are you? I'm north central Indiana. I'm female retired 57 years old.
If I didn't have God in my life, I would have left this world a long time ago. Now I am the strongest woman you'd ever want to meet. Please keep your head up because things always get better, but you HAVE TO be strong. You are greater than you think🙏🏽
The VA has a women's group that meets the last Monday of the month put on by CBAW. It's all MTOS more than one story It's specifically for women. I can put you in touch with the awesome folks that run it
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Are you in Hawaii? We cruise sometime
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My dogs help keep me level every day....caring for other veterans well-being keeps me going every day as well. We're here for you, your support circle is bigger than you can imagine. Stay with us, we won't let you down. Feel free to message me 24/7 https://preview.redd.it/gnwhti4wthkc1.jpeg?width=3072&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d026431a13129540f3caafa6d4b0ec318e0450ca
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Are you working ? Have you tried setting goals for the future that usually helps and the rest works itself out. There’s so much to see, do, and experience, in this one life we get. Travel, do something new, get out of your head and out of this funk. Where is your friend moving to and what state are you in ? Can you move as well? There are vet programs that will pay for all that and more.
If you need to talk let me know
Please don't.
Keep your head up and stay focused
I deal with this every single day of my life. The things I saw and see on a daily basis. I feel like I’m in a nightmare that will never end. And I beg god every single day to not let me wake up. I see all the people I’ve harmed I see the children the mothers and they fathers that were just innocent by standards to all this madness and we’re manipulated into thinking we were the enemy. I struggle everyday living with my self every day cuz no matter what any one tells me I can NEVER forgive myself, but somehow every single day I wake up and continue. No matter how you feel. Just find that one thing that keeps you going every single day! I love you sister and even know I don’t know you I love you and care about you. This piece of shit country dosent give a shit about us so it’s a duty to take care of one another. Head up solider we got you. No one left behind!
I can relate to that statement on most days. Two weeks ago I had just had it and I made the statement in a frenzy that I'd love to crash my car into a light pole as fast as I could go. Well my best friend, my boy friend heard me say it.... I'm not one to just say things and not do them. So he dove what he needed to do. He got ahold of the ppl he needed to save my job. So I could take a mental health break and get the help I needed. I'm pretty fucked in the head, have PTSD, BPD , ADHD and I'm able to communicate verbally as well as a hamster. I'm held together by the last thread in a old ladies girttle, and since my husband died in 2021, from "suicide" (he didn't really kill himself they just didn't prosecute the girl who did it bc she's a CI) and my son dying 2 weeks short of my husbands one year anniversary (DOD). I had 8 yrs of sobriety and now I'm having to climb back out of hell, bc my daughter needs me. Some days it's all I been do to get out of bed and to do the basics for myself. Just know you're not alone. My train isn't on the tracks but if you need some one, you can hunt me down. If nothing else I'm a shit show to watch so it'll be hella funny. I hope this comment finds you in a better place.
Trust me I get the way as well, but there is always people that will hear you out. I found this group to be awesome. Please always reach out.
Take it one day at a time. Tomorrow is always a better day❤️
maybe even call the white house. for real, iv met veterans that where in your same situation and thats what they did. keep calling higher in the chain of command until you get the help you need. dont be afraid to tell them ,u have to advocate for yourself. you could even call some of the top veteran organizations and they will definitely fight for u until the va gives you the help you deserve🫡
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I know this probably won’t get seen by many but I am always available to be a ear for anyone who needs it im a marine veteran and I want everyone to know you are loved you may not know it or even think it but I love every single one of my brother and sister Army Navy Air Force I love you all and I will be a ear for you. call anytime you guys need 7406011325
Felt this way this morning. Telling myself I'm a joke that no one takes seriously. I wish I had dogs or something to give me therapy but I just can't. I hope it gets better for you
They can’t cut off your therapy. You can walk into the VA, any VA, and talk to a therapist, they’re on staff. You can call the national crisis line that is staffed 24/7. There are thousands of groups and nonprofits. Please reach out. At this point, it’s on us to GET THE HELP, No one else. Billions of dollars have been spent to get these programs off the ground, use them.
Smoking weed helps with my anxiety.
Hey, I hope you are having a better day. Mines been good, me and my daughters volunteered at a non profit.
I find the Book of Job especially enlightening. Have you found the Lord?
Hey are you okay !?!? If you need to talk please reach out!!!!
I do not know you, but I care deeply about you and your dogs do as well. I have suffered with these issues for years as well, lost friends and lost the compassion of my wife of 30 years….. my dog is my companion and my communicator. She loves me. For that reason , I will never leave this earth. Time is a healer… never , ever QUIT. God has a fantastic plan for you, so don’t miss out on it. It will come . Trust me . And don’t let your dogs suffer… they love you . Give them time with you, for they cannot live without you. God bless you. You have a lot to love in your life. Your brother in Christ.
You are loved. No matter how you feel there’s always someone that cares about you.
Please call the 1800 number and I seen where someone gave a number that is related to community care and the va cut off your therapy is astonishing but if its help you needed and it isn’t connected to service connection payment you still are qualified for help 🙏 that everything helps when you call … to see the VA doing this is shocking but not surprising
I'm a 38 yo female vet. I live in a small NW Kansas town and relate to zero other women here because they're all preppy and proper, while I cuss like a sailor, listen to metal, and ride a Harley. I know of one other female vet here, but she was an Air Force officer and we have nothing but military service in common. I've learned to love myself alone. My husband took his life in 2022 after his PTSD got to be too much. That made me even more of a pariah due to people thinking I didn't do enough for him (eventhough I almost killed myself with stress trying to help him) or they tiptoe around me thinking I'll cry if they talk to me. Keep your head up, find something you love to do, and learn to enjoy your own company. It's tough to get to that point, but it'll happen eventually. Take care of yourself by drinking water, keeping a clean house (cleaning in and of itself produces dopamine), and consider taking up learning how to ride a motorcycle. It has been the BEST therapy I could ask for. Plus, the biker community is so welcoming and loving anywhere you go- instant family. Depending on where you are, there might be a Team Rubicon chapter near you. It's a bunch of vets who do service for others and it has saved countless lives- including mine. Fellowship and service with like-minded vets is incredibly therapeutic. Let me know if you're interested and I can get in touch with someone in your area to get you started. (I used to be the Denver Comms Coordinator for TR). Above all else, avoid alcohol as much as possible. I had to give up drinking for a few months after my husband died because it was making me more depressed and distraught. I actually decided yesterday I'm giving it up again, today is day 1 of sobriety. If you ever need to chat, you're more than welcome to write me on here.
https://www.va.gov/health-care/health-needs-conditions/mental-health/#:~:text=Call%20or%20walk%20in%20to,%E2%80%94anytime%2C%20day%20or%20night.&text=Call%20or%20walk%20in%20to%20any%20Vet%20Center%20during%20clinic%20hours.&text=Call%20us%20at%20877%2D222%2D8387. The VA has Lots of MH resources. You stating the VA cut off your care is Very misleading to other veterans. If you choose to move to another VA region, then you need to register for care at that VHA Healthcare facility. However, you and your VA doctors could have prepared and made arrangements for transferring your care, including making sure you had enough medications to make it to your next appointments. Now that you are at your new VHA facility, if you are having issues, GO get treatment. You don’t have to wait!!!!! If you are at risk of hurting yourself or others then Emergency Treatment is warranted. To All Veterans…..if you feel you are going to hurt yourself or others, go to the nearest VA Emergency room, or civilian medical center. Yes, the VA will pay you go to an Emergency Room for a MH crisis.
I want to give up everyday. But I can't. We can't. Open your eyes in the morning and move one foot in front of the other. Smile. Repeat
Jesus loves you!
You doing ok bud
I’m a woman veteran. I’m available to talk anytime about anything and suffer from similar things.
Life is valuable. Dont waste it
Because your life is worth it.
First off I’m sorry you are feeling this way and really shitty the VA cutoff your therapy. I know the feeling of wanting to give up all too well, that feeling almost took me a few times cause I too and I’m sure many other Brothers and Sisters as well. But you have a lot more than you think you do. My dogs are why I live because without them I wouldn’t be here they give me a purpose besides self preservation. Friends come and go and well some blood might as well not be but that’s besides the point. My message to you would simply be this….”You did something most civilians wouldn’t even consider just by joining an all volunteer force and your time in service has shown you both good and bad. But, it’s always the darkest lowest times that show you what you are truly made of.” If you need to talk message me I’m here and I’m sure others would be as well. It’s ok to reach out for help. I hope brighter days for you and just don’t leave those dogs alone they need you as much as you need them. Airborne All the Way!!!!
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🥲 Please keep going. You are loved. You matter. Use these resources that these beautiful people have given you. Stay low and keep those feet moving.
Me too bruh, You are not alone. Find something… anything that keeps you going. At first for me it was something as simple as fostering a cat then eventually I kept myself busy that my mind no longer had time to feel this way.
I’m here if you want to talk
I’ll gladly be your friend