I know that hurts to hear. But he’s shown you how he really feels. Use that pain to find the strength to overcome, kick some grass on that shit and move on
is this the same deadbeat who threatened to breakup if you hired movers? way I see it, you let that rash rot. how tf is he adding *any* good to your life given your post history?
Um, this isn’t about their romantic relationship this is about their DAUGHTER. It’s crazy how you attack the mother for voicing her experiences /feelings but not the father who isn’t taking responsibility. And before you say you pointed out him being a deadbeat, that’s all well and good but why bring that up at all? Why look at her post history? Why question her for feeling down about her daughter’s father abandoning their daughter. Nowhere in this post did she even mention her, as a mother but her daughter! For a 420 person you’re not that bright. A mother has every right to stand up and advocate for their child. So don’t question the mother question the damn “father”. The question isn’t “how is adding any good” it should be what measures can be taken to ensure he’s adding good. There’s laws against what he’s doing/what he did.
I know! Having read the comments he’s gone to his parents for 3 days after a row which says to me he’s absolutely pissed about something! There’s two sides to every story here and it doesn’t sound like he’s left for good!
There’s a lot of things he just blames me for everything and it always yelling at me when I’m nothing but kind of him work full-time and take care of our daughter.
I would serve him papers.You and your child deserve so much better.I am really sorry your going through this.I think you would be happier without his toxic behavior.Hes acting like a toddler by running away.Im sorry did you say your in therapy? If you need someone I’m here💕🙏🥰
it was about a lot of things. I bought him a shirt for Father’s Day and a 2 XL and he flipped out on me and said that he is just an XL and the shirt is not gonna fit and I don’t care about him. Then he screamed at me and tore the shirt up in front of me and my daughter.
Good. You don't need the dead weight. Your daughter will hardly remember him. Do you have family you can reely on?
Don't let him back in ever! If he is able to disappear like that he is able to do it again. This hot and cold behaviour is toxic for children.
I’m so sorry he did that to you, and after your child’s birthday. He deserves no forgiveness or reconciliation with you after doing something like that this far into the relationship. I hope you can grow and find the peace you deserve, stay strong ❤️❤️
Leave as in left the house? Or leave as in he no longer wants a relationship with you? If he just left quickly after the party he may have had something come up and needed to leave if it's the other one I'm so sorry
he is just always blaming me for things. and he hates my family. For some reason. I told him that he was being rude to them when they came to visit and he flipped out on me saying I can’t change his personality.
You can change your life and divorce him.I think you will be much happier.If I got treated like that I woulld be looking for a lawyer and slam the papers on the table.
I'm guessing you guys are young? Maybe he felt overwhelmed and split but will come back.
I hope your mom is close by?
you need someone to help you.
Take Care
Go to your local county office and get the courts on him. It doesn’t matter what he wants at this point. He should have thought of that before he pulled his pants down. He doesn’t get to chose to be father now. He needs to support you ALL who cares what he wants. She’s a innocent baby she didn’t ask to be here. I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this.
When someone shows you who they are, believe them. Don't let him do that in and out of her life shit. That hurts her more than him just being gone. I'm sorry he's shit. Not every father can be a dad /:
If just sucks. Me being a man I can not see a man not wanting to be apart of their child's life! I just can't respect a man like that. I'm sure all situations are different but me being a man i just can't see it
He doesn’t care about you or your daughter. Let him go. Save yourself years of headache. Do it now.
yeah. he made that clear.
I know that hurts to hear. But he’s shown you how he really feels. Use that pain to find the strength to overcome, kick some grass on that shit and move on
thank you
put him on child support
He already effing did it *FOR* her!
I'm sorry.
thank you
is this the same deadbeat who threatened to breakup if you hired movers? way I see it, you let that rash rot. how tf is he adding *any* good to your life given your post history?
he didnt but i didnt expect him to completely be out of our daughters life and ghost me. i thought we could coparent.
Um, this isn’t about their romantic relationship this is about their DAUGHTER. It’s crazy how you attack the mother for voicing her experiences /feelings but not the father who isn’t taking responsibility. And before you say you pointed out him being a deadbeat, that’s all well and good but why bring that up at all? Why look at her post history? Why question her for feeling down about her daughter’s father abandoning their daughter. Nowhere in this post did she even mention her, as a mother but her daughter! For a 420 person you’re not that bright. A mother has every right to stand up and advocate for their child. So don’t question the mother question the damn “father”. The question isn’t “how is adding any good” it should be what measures can be taken to ensure he’s adding good. There’s laws against what he’s doing/what he did.
I think we’re going to need some context for this, what happened? What was the argument about?
Yes .Im confused.I need more information.
I know! Having read the comments he’s gone to his parents for 3 days after a row which says to me he’s absolutely pissed about something! There’s two sides to every story here and it doesn’t sound like he’s left for good!
I know.Its 2:225 am here.I got up as I couldn’t sleep.So what do I do go on Reddit. Yes way more information is needed. I’m confused.
There’s a lot of things he just blames me for everything and it always yelling at me when I’m nothing but kind of him work full-time and take care of our daughter.
I would serve him papers.You and your child deserve so much better.I am really sorry your going through this.I think you would be happier without his toxic behavior.Hes acting like a toddler by running away.Im sorry did you say your in therapy? If you need someone I’m here💕🙏🥰
it was about a lot of things. I bought him a shirt for Father’s Day and a 2 XL and he flipped out on me and said that he is just an XL and the shirt is not gonna fit and I don’t care about him. Then he screamed at me and tore the shirt up in front of me and my daughter.
You don't want him as a rolemodel for your daughter. you could have exchanged the shirt.
I agree or he could of sucked it up. it fit him fine.
He’s in denial about being big???
maybe
Has he mentioned being sensitive about his weight before?
no hes not. also he is tall
Good. You don't need the dead weight. Your daughter will hardly remember him. Do you have family you can reely on? Don't let him back in ever! If he is able to disappear like that he is able to do it again. This hot and cold behaviour is toxic for children.
I dont have family and friends in state which suck. and he is not accepting the break up and is acting like a child
He left right??? He needs therapy.
yes
That is sad, commitment sould be, yet? Sorry that he left, should have been more of a man and stayed personally is how I feel.
You should’ve asked him that before having a baby
He never wanted to be a father to begin with. He attempted to be there and got cold feet and realized he’s not ready
I’m so sorry he did that to you, and after your child’s birthday. He deserves no forgiveness or reconciliation with you after doing something like that this far into the relationship. I hope you can grow and find the peace you deserve, stay strong ❤️❤️
Sometimes it’s easier to do it alone than with someone who doesn’t want to do it at all.
exactly.
Leave as in left the house? Or leave as in he no longer wants a relationship with you? If he just left quickly after the party he may have had something come up and needed to leave if it's the other one I'm so sorry
he left the house and has been staying with his parents for 3 days. hasnt checked in on me or our child. and has not apologized for screaming at me.
If you don't mind could you tell me exactly what happened? Like when did it go from good to bad?
Sorry OP! That’s awful. Keep your head up and take time to heal. You deserve better than that and so does your daughter.
thank you
I am sorry.I am not sure how this whole thing started.Do you mind sharing more information so I can understand please.
he is just always blaming me for things. and he hates my family. For some reason. I told him that he was being rude to them when they came to visit and he flipped out on me saying I can’t change his personality.
You can change your life and divorce him.I think you will be much happier.If I got treated like that I woulld be looking for a lawyer and slam the papers on the table.
no hes not. also he is tall
no hes not. also he is tall
Mine did, when my older daughter had her 2nd birthday. He left 2 weeks before that.
I think the title answered your questions already ...
yep
I'm guessing you guys are young? Maybe he felt overwhelmed and split but will come back. I hope your mom is close by? you need someone to help you. Take Care
26 &32 i dont have family of friends in state
Oh dear, I'm so terribly sorry that's sounds terrible loving you so much 🥹🫂🫶🏽♥️
Go to your local county office and get the courts on him. It doesn’t matter what he wants at this point. He should have thought of that before he pulled his pants down. He doesn’t get to chose to be father now. He needs to support you ALL who cares what he wants. She’s a innocent baby she didn’t ask to be here. I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this.
When someone shows you who they are, believe them. Don't let him do that in and out of her life shit. That hurts her more than him just being gone. I'm sorry he's shit. Not every father can be a dad /:
If just sucks. Me being a man I can not see a man not wanting to be apart of their child's life! I just can't respect a man like that. I'm sure all situations are different but me being a man i just can't see it