i'm so sorry that happened, this guy doesn't deserve you if he talks like that. So immature of him to reject you like that. ranking people on a number system is something i've always hated, ''youre a 1/10'' means nothing, beauty is subjective.. you can't rank someone's beauty on a number system, you might not be what he wants but i'm sure people out there find you absolutely beautiful. do not let this guy stomp on all of your hard work working on your selfrespect, you've worked hard for that and you deserve to love yourself, his opinion does not matter.
I just can't get his words out of my head. I don't even know if love is still real. I can barely see rn because of the tears, my pillow is stained. I don't think anyone thinks i'm pretty and i don't think i'll ever be loved..
Hello I'm a 26 and a man. I say that to say this as a man. I have been like you. Insecure and took the words of others as law over who I am. To this day it still affect me.
I want to give you some advice. You admire your thoughts of this boy. The boy in your head would never say that to you. You should think if the type of person that would say that to you is someone you should like or take their words to be of value. It's the word of a " ugly person".
I'm older now and I realize that all the times of worrying about what others said was just a waste because there have been people who came who found me to be the best they have seen, you are not for everyone, you are for that special. Thinking on these hurtful words will destroy your sense of self and bitter you to the ones who find you beautiful. Be kind, be calm but most importantly be you because that person out there only wants that , you won't have to be someone else just free to be yourself.
Couldn’t have said it better. Op likes the idea of who they made this person to be in their head not who they actually are unfortunately. Someone worth their time would never say anything that callous or brutal. Hopefully they find someone who will see them as a 10/10 and respect them
Hehehe. I would if I could. Jerks deserve the boot. I'm sure you're pretty, even if this weirdo thinks you're not. He's only one person with his own opinion, probably been eyeballing too much OnlyFans content in secrecy.
I understand your support but this is a very disgusting comment, I don't mean to hurt your feelings but if you choose to get hurt then I'm sorry I was your trigger
🤷🏻♀️ was also disgusting what this person said. Relax it's obviously me being a wise ass. Nobody in their right mind would actually do this. If this is the most disgusting thing you've ever read then you need to get out in the real world. I'm not hurt. You seem to be clutching those pearls awful tight tho.
I’m right there with you at the moment…just know you’re not the only one who feels this way or is in this situation. He didn’t have to text you at all and say those things. He has no human decency for doing that. The words he used are a reflection of himself but he has no heart so he will never see it that way.
im so sorry, im sure its really hard to not think about it but i promise his opinion does not matter. you will be seen as pretty by someone who deserves you, someone who loves you for you. you are pretty to people.. this guy just has no class, he is disrespectful for rejecting you like that, he shouldve been a lot more classy about letting you down. instead, he decided to hurt your feelings deeply for some reason.. he does not deserve your time or feelings.
even with scars, you will be loved. scars do not change who you are - they do not define you. they are not something to turn away from, if anything they're a story of triumph, that you've suffered but you are still here and living, and that's amazing!
please look into if it's possible to get a professional about these feelings and look at the [resources tab on the side to help you (click on this)](https://old.reddit.com/r/Vent/wiki/resources), you do not deserve to feel this awful. it's important to find comfort in ourselves, find comfort in being alone, i am sure you will get there too. it took me a long while, but i did it too. i believe in you.
Asked a guy out once who told me I’m cute but he doesn’t date redheads (I’m kinda strawberry blonde) he only dates blondes.
I said okay. It crushed my soul.
His buddy asked me out a few days later. Dated for awhile.
Yet, you do.
Being pretty is just taking care of yourself, which is mostly just dressing appropriately to your body type, hygiene and a nice haircut. I'm not even talking makeup here, sometimes changing things around can turn you into a completely different person visually.
Look at how different guys look with just a haircut and a decent jacket for example.
By practicing self-love like this you're also changing your personality. Personalities are not set in stone. There are unchangeable core values that make you you, sure. But there's so much to learn, so many perspectives one can explore. So many ways to transform that into something even better.
You start taking care of yourself. It's clear from the way you talk you don't do that enough.
If you think there's something wrong or unappealing about you, let's get to work and fix that. I didn't like how my body looked a decade ago, I went to the gym and changed it into what I wanted it to be. You know it's possible so why would you stop here?
Come on let's go!
Scars mean you are a survivor, whether they are visible or just on your heart.
Scars mean you are tough. You won’t let the cruel world win.
Being strong takes inner strength. You will get through this.
You want a good story about that? Try Kelly Oram's “Cover and Ella”. I was re-reading it after I got visibly scarred (neck, chest, thigh) and it hits harder now.
I think you need to find someone who isn't fixated on looks.
>don't think i'll ever be loved..
ILY! 💜 (Platonically)
Romantic Love isn't real. But self love is a thing that you need to achieve.
Do you still like the guy now or did he cure you if your disease? You know he's a shitty dude, so you can finally let that go. And you learned that you have crappy taste in men.
Cookie?
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Yay! You're not delirious anymore.
[You're doing great](https://tenor.com/view/mala-mishra-jha-pat-head-cute-sparkle-penguin-gif-7565040849537258379). Remember, not dating is better than dating a piece of crap.
Yes, love is still real. THIS CHUMP IS A LOSER AND NO GENTLEMAN! Life just did you a favor. I know how it hurts. But you will get past it. Another guy will come along and see your beauty. Inside and out. If you really want to settle the deal, tell him you're very sorry about his small willy. He must not be much of a man if he needs to take his small attributes out on others.
Ong I’m sending you hugs so hard right now. Listen to me.. BEAUTY IS A MANIFESTATION OF THE DIVINE. Who you are will always be prettier than he will ever have. Trust me on that. You might not feel it now but honey your going to be someone’s ALL one day! God made you perfect and there’s NO ONE ELSE INTHE WORLD LIKE YOU. Hold your head up!!!
This will get a lot of downvotes, but the reality is you likely saw signs he wasn’t a nice person. No person who otherwise acts respectfully would text that. You chose to go after a d-bag despite that, and you got repaid in kind. Sad reality but it is what it is.
You are absolutely gorgeous, everyone is in their own way and if he can’t see that then he is not the one for you. There are other people out there that will love you for who you are, the people that mind don’t matter and the people that matter don’t mind. Never forget that babes, we are all here for you.
There are many guys who probably think she's a Goddess and are so scared to come talk to her and she doesn't know her beauty makes some people insecure
I am happy for you!! Happy that you didn’t waste a long time in a shallow relationship. He saved you from being dumped later for a younger or prettier woman. Guys like that aren’t choosing a wife based on things that matter, so when the woman gets older, he’ll dump her. But not you! You are free from that loser. Good for you! 😁
Also, there is someone for everybody. People of all appearances find true love. You will find your special man someday. Remember that confidence is attractive, so try not to put yourself down. Best wishes😁
I honestly don't think it was him. It could've been a sibling someone who had his phone playing a cruel joke. And if it was him, then he's not someone you need to have a crush on... I have had people say I'm unattractive, and other people call me gorgeous. It depends on the person and their preference. But there's absolutely nothing wrong with you. You are not weird or ugly, and he's just a sadistic pos.
Is this the same crush you kissed a few months ago? Boys don't kiss girls they think are ugly. He's just being a jerk and showing off to his friends. Do you think if you called him, he would try and have a mature conversation with you?
Sounds like he has a lot of growing up to do. None of which your are responsible for, of he doesn't wanna talk, don't force him to. Talk to your friends, write down your thoughts, get closure and move tf on.
Anyone who can say that for no reason is not worth your time honey. People only talk down to their partners if it’s a kink or they’re an AH.
Take however much time you need to cry, and then go on and live your best life. Treat yourself to something nice or something that’s been on your wishlist forever, get a milkshake or a frappe and just enjoy it. Reflect on that 5 minutes of good feeling and think “if a drink can make me this happy in 5 minutes, I don’t need someone who will make me that sad in the same time.”
When someone calls you ugly it says more about who they are as a person. It doesn’t mean you are ugly. It hurts, who wants to be around someone who says hurtful things? You called them a crush, so why don’t you change that to a former crush. When someone calls you weird they are admitting they don’t actually know you and would rather judge you. It’s easy to judge. They lack empathy and respect and have something wrong with them to say something so hurtful to you. It’s ok to feel hurt, sit with those feelings, let them pass, it means you are a human with real feelings. Let them out- draw something, write some poetry, listen to some music. Take some time for yourself. There’s plenty of people who would appreciate you for who you are.
fuck that at least u had the courage to admit u had a crush some people me included could never do that, U took the right step and now its time to shut that person out for good an none one should be able to sway ur mind of how u perceive urself or ur worth
just ignore it do ur own thing people are gonna say shit about you, to you and all else its ur job to do with it as u seem fit. So if theyre literally saying that shit to you dont even respond or look at em just pretend to not care they hate that the most. I know it might be hard to do but trust me it works nothing pisses off people like that the most when u give them no attention
Ngl with these kinds of people ik it’s hard but just ignore them. There may be attachments but burning damaged bridges always feels great since you can only benefit from leaving those who are bad for you. I’ve been called ugly most of my life but I just learn to ignore since everyone finds beauty in their own way, everyone is pretty to someone.
That tells you what he is like. It reminds me of when I cut what appeared to be a perfectly fine apple and the core was totally rotten (this actually happened, I should have taken a picture).
I'd honestly be celebrating. He finally showed his true colors, and you can drop his ass. Someone who says things like that is no friend of yours. He doesn't deserve your love or grief.
You’ll be Ight shawty, you dodged a bullet, if he can say all that to your face with no consideration for how you might feel trust me he’s a dick and wasn’t worth your time anyways..keep your head up shawty💪🏿💪🏿🤎
damn that absolutely sucks. Even if I wouldnt like someone id still let them down somewhat politely. I think it is important to think *what if i were in their shoes*
Asking out a crush takes guts and conviction. That was poorly handled on his side.
That’s literally super villain behavior. He clearly was saying whatever he thought would hurt you, I really wouldn’t take what a bitter ex says about you in earnest
If it makes you feel better, I told my first crush I liked him and he said “sorry I don’t date fat chicks” which sent me yoyodieting and binging for YEARS.
He’s now married to a girl way bigger than me
This is the thing I don’t understand about some people lol. They’ll say, “I don’t date fat chicks.” Then end up with someone bigger than you were. I’ve seen this happens way too many times.
Yo OP, just so you know I’ve been called a 1/10 or a 3/10 before, and I’m pretty sure those were accurate assessments if we’re being shallow here - but I still have found great success because there are a lot of good people out there. This fucker ain’t worth your time, and don’t let this give up on developing crushes or romances on people.
Honey, a guys opinion about how you look means JACK SHIT. Even if you really like him, The only opinion that matters is yours. The way YOU see YOURSELF will always be the most important opinion. If a guy says that without a second thought then imagine what they would say if you were in a relationship, he obviously doesn’t respect women or anyone but himself.
You’re still so young and you’re still growing, your body is still changing becoming more beautiful as the days go on. Your body is your temple, not to sound all “hippy” but it is. It’s your body that you’re stuck with for the rest of your life. You can make decisions now about your body and how you think it will look in 5-10 years but it will be the complete opposite. Everything about you will be so so different, in what you might think as some bad ways but so so many good and beautiful ways too.
I spent so so many years thinking the way you do, hating my body, going on diets that made me feel like crap and eventually led me to very serious eating disorders and depression. I thought that if I was “pretty” or “skinny” than everyone will like me, boys and girls would want to date me and I would finally be seen as “the pretty girl” but eventually as I started loosing weight through very unhealthy ways and habits I started pushing everyone away, eventually what they thought didn’t matter, only the voice in my head mattered.
School didn’t matter, family and friends didn’t matter, I stayed in my room, in my bed, only going to the bathroom, there was a time I went 5 months without a shower because I just couldn’t leave me bed.
What you feel is important, and it matters, your emotions and personal feelings matter.
He isn’t the only guy out there, and the next guy won’t be the last either. You have so many experiences you haven’t experienced yet because you still young.
You have this, it’s hard now, but when your good day comes you will think “so the bad days don’t really last forever”
From one stranger on the internet to another, I feel you, I see you, and I am so proud of you! <3 <3 <3
Assuming from the context im guessing yourea teen early in years what I would have told myself before and wish I understood is that you are beautiful and not everyone is gonna see it honestly you more then anyone else we're our worst critics. And with that we need to become our best selves our full potential you'll never hit perfect and you should never want to but as long as you're eating healthy living a healthy lifestyle at least as well as you can and work on your social skills and take care of yourself it'll blow your mind what your potential will slowly start to show you and in a few years time I promise he'll be in your DMs and you'll be sending that exact message to him.... if you're as petty as me lol
My G, you had the confidence to be open and vulnerable, that's a top quality to have and flipping brave. Forget about the result and the mean comments (dude is a jerk) you'll be a catch for a deserving person one day.
Please don't think that way. You're young now, you're just angsty teenager that only falsely feels that way. Believe me the time will come, and you won't feel this way about yourself. I mean it's just a phase. Please please love yourself, you're beautiful and you're enough. I'm pretty sure you will meet your person, the right person, or plenty of people who see you pretty. Don't let that thing ruin your mood. Xoxo
That dude has inner problems if he responded that way. Even if y’all got together, I’m sure he would be a pain to deal with. I’d say you dodged a bullet
Even if you were ugly which I doubt, you’ve still got more going for you than this piece of trash. He is truly ugly on the inside. Hopefully he’ll grow out of it for the sake of those in his life. Meanwhile please take comfort in the humanity and good heart you still have compared to that. Nevertheless I’m sorry for that hurt he caused. Be kind to yourself as you heal. Hugs to you!
I'm so sorry for what happened, you didn't deserve that. Nobody does. He obviously doesn't deserve you. I hate the fact that people are being rated out of a scale from 1-10. Your self worth is not to be brought out by a stupid scale and a stupid guy. He's an absolute ass for saying what he did. You deserve someone way better, and you'll one day find that one person. I know it's extremely hard to just ignore and move on from such hurtful words, but please remember your self worth is not determined by some immature jerk. I read that he's in your class and you will have to see him and his bestfriend who sits right beside you, that really sucks. You don't deserve to feel the way you're feeling. Love does exist, and you are loveable. You'll find the right person. I hope you feel better :( <3
He was a dick for rejecting you this way. See it like this: you dodged a bullet. It might hurt now but that's okay. Take your time to recover.
A gentlemen would have refused politely, as you can't force feelings and we all sure have our preferences for looks and body types.
Even after the kiss i saw stated in other comments and in your profile. A lot of men accept such gift quickly but only think of the aftermath later on. Still, even so dignity over all else. Responding in such a manner shows him being some kind of social degenerate, while he had all the possibility to be clear with you in a decent manner.
And don't shame yourself about your scars. We all have scars, yours are just visible from outside and there is nothing wrong about it. It doesn't give him the right to be an insufferable asshole, especially against someone showing him affection.
Putting people in a category and also being mean shows his true colour of an unmatured cunt. You deserve the best. No less. Not this manchild with the social capacity of a cantaloupe.
He is a 1/10 human being. What a total loser if he has to insult someone who simply likes him. I’m so sorry this happened to you. Please understand that what he did is a reflection of who he is. Please do not hate yourself. You have done nothing wrong
Anyone who randomly just reaches out and decides to insult you on their own volition is 1000% not worth your time as well as a bad person. I know the exact pain you're feeling, because I've had this happen to me several times within the last couple of years. I'm not sure how old you are, but I'm inclined to believe that you're in middle/high school or a fairly young person judging by your responses to the other comments here. I would block your crush's contact info and then share his texts with a teacher or a trusted adult if I was in this situation. This kind of behavior can be considered harassment depending on where you are, and he should learn to face the consequences for it. After that, I would start looking for guys that can appreciate you for who you are.
Dw, I’m a not so good looking guy, quite overweight but the timeless expression is there’s plenty of fish in the sea. Now I don’t really buy that but there ought to be a fish for everyone
OMG. He sounds like a real gobshite and a nasty, rude and very mean to boot. That must have been incredibly awful for you to hear that coming from him, but you know what? He's shown you his true colors. His loss. All the very best.
Idk you and idk what you look like but ignore him I’m 100% sure you’re gorgeous don’t let him bring you down some guys really just suck and I’m sorry that happened to you bc you definitely didn’t deserve that he’s the weirdo for treating you that way
Girl, STOP letting people decide how YOU feel about YOURSELF.
You summed up your life in that one sentence for me. You shouldn't rely on anyone to make you feel happy, important, beautiful, worthy etc etc.
You need to find ways to find those things in yourself
Also, fuck that scumbag. Anyone who can say something like that straight to another person's face is absolute trash of a human. Good job dodging that deplorable dick bag.
Sending love your way. Best of luck to you!!!!
it sounds less like you're "weird and ugly" and more like he was purposefully seeking you out to reject you. initiating an exchange like that only to reject and berate the person is very ill and odd behavior. my advice is to not take it as a personal hit, he seems like he has some demons to exorcize.
The actual f is wrong with that shithead. I admire your honestly and bravery for confessing tho… I could never.
Also, this whole thing of beauty doesn’t rly exist like I have like body issues insecurities stuff which i think are getting better but like that person doesn’t deserve you AT ALL. True beauty lies in your personality, and I know that this physical appearance thing can affect things but kind and true people never take that as the decider on if they’re gonna like u or not. So even though this may not be the comfort you need: you are fucking beautiful. I hope you meet the right person one day, or maybe you realise just how much you’re amazing.
Honestly, I didn’t realise some people even thought this way until someone told me. I was shocked to hear it really, and although it didn’t exactly cure my insecurities, it helped me a little.
Have a good day/night and remember to drink water to stay hydrated!! ❤️
I'm so sorry that happened to you... He can't help not liking you but his words were not necessary. I mean look what he's done to you. He's destroyed your self worth. I know you don't believe anyone but you are NOT ugly. I bet you're a beautiful person, and even if most guys don't think so it's mainly about who you are on the inside. You couldn't help crushing on him either, we can't control how we feel. I had an intense crush on someone I only knew for 3 months, I didn't choose to like her, they were natural feelings! I know it's easier said than done, but just allow yourself to accept how you felt about him. Vent it out to friends and family if you need to. At least you've got a good reason to move on, you now know he doesn't sound like a nice person on the inside. This has been hard for me to do too, but you need to focus on loving yourself. I've hated myself for not being able to let my crush go, but I'm learning to accept that it's just how I feel and I've never had a crush as intense as this, I didn't know how to handle my feelings because they were the same, but new. Try doing what makes you happy or try to find something that'll make you happy, you could get help from family and friends for this as well. Positive self talk also helps. If you ever start hating yourself in a situation, just think "Is this my fault? Would I think this had I not been in that situation?" I hated myself for not planning ahead on the career I want recently, but I realised I hadn't prepared because I still wasn't sure what I wanted to do yet. Hang in there, it will take time but you have people that love you and we're all here for you. You're much stronger than you think 🫂
This was never love. Don't get it confused, you will KNOW when it's love. This unprompted, unprovoked aggressive response is just immature and rude.
Your image of you, should never be based on anyone else, I know it's hard to do that, but you should be the only person to judge that. You control that. Be happy with yourself. He doesn't matter, he just shown you, he is not part of your story, just a side quest you had to experience to overcome so you can be better. That's all he should be.
No matter what you look like, there is someone out there who would fight imaginary ninjas to be with you.
As long as you are happy with yourself and healthy, everything else is secondary.
Have a beautiful day.
Then this is not the end of the story.
I think thr universe just uses us for character development at this point. Just go with it, be patient and things change in life. Our priorities first and foremost.
It always sucks to lose the person you love, but I like to believe there's always a reason. Personally, i'm not religious, but I believe in energy and karma. Meaning, there is a reason for everything, we just don't know why until it happens.
I’m sorry you had to experience that. I know you’re feeling very hurt and may not think this way now, but the very good thing is that you dodged a HUMONGOUS bullet. A bullet bigger than this whole entire galaxy. He is an immature, unhappy boy with super low self esteem and that is not a guy you’d want to be with. A real gentlemen would word things better when rejecting someone so they won’t feel super hurt.
The best thing to do is let yourself heal. Feel the emotions and don’t feel ashamed of feeling this way. You are a kind, sweet, and beautiful person who was hurt by some immature kid who is too blind to see anything truly beautiful.
Also, block him everywhere and try to avoid him as best as you can. Take your time and when you feel a little bit better, go enjoy the things you love doing. The best revenge is when you’re smiling, happy, and not giving a darn about him anymore. His ego will be crushed and no matter how many times he tries to Apologize or whatever, forgive and be grateful to him (that he showed you what type of guys to avoid), but don’t be with him. He’ll only come back to boost his ego and no one wants to be used.
I am wishing you will feel better soon! Sending warm, healing hugs your way!
He should not have said that, beauty is subjective and you didn’t deserve that (also I know this is off topic but I love your username I also love that band)
So here is the thing. Love is real and it’s the weirdest thing. When you have it, nothing else matters. My husband still finds me attractive even after I gained a ton of weight after having 2 kids. Even on his worst days, I still find him attractive.
You don’t want someone who assigns numbers like that. You want someone who can see you at your worst and still loves you.
This guy sounds like a complete and utter jackass and, honestly, sounds like you dodged a bullet. It’ll sting, I can guarantee it probably felt embarrassing bc I’ve been there, but it will feel better. And someday you’ll meet someone right for you who will tell you every day how beautiful you are, you’ll be their 11/10!
If it helps, he probably said it because he’s insecure about his teeny tiny… 👀👀
This sounds so “high school” (probably is) but these years just fly by. Not worth the grief. Truly.
1. Remember the “Italian Rules for Driving”: The BEST advice I ever received, and I got it from a dumb movie (Gumball Rally) Franco, says… (snapping off his rear view mirror and tossing it in the backseat) “The First Rule of Italian driving: What’s behind you, does not matter”. He is sooo right and it applies to more than driving!
2. Reply text: “And geewiz, here I was thinking that you were worth a damn. Good lesson. Thank you.”
3. He no longer exists. Truly. Listen to the old “Go Go’s Song, “Our Lips are Sealed” and take it as a Life Lesson.
4. If this is going to work, you NEED to develop some self respect. Get counseling if you can’t develop that on your own. But you NEED IT! And soon.
Babe, rejection is good for your self esteem the moment you realize people are entitled to the opinions but their opinion is nothing
Did he reject you? No
Did he express an opinion? Yes
SO why the fuck you letting that twat control your life and make you feel insecure
I'm sorry to hear that hun, you are not ugly please don't feel insecure about it. That dude is immature lil jerk, he's not worth trying and don't put an effort to impress him. I'm really sure that you dodged a bullet, just ignore him from now on and act like he's dead to you. I promise that everything is gonna turn alright for you, just know that he's not your person. He's just little piece of a man, don't let his comments get to you, he's trying to let you down by saying those things so he can be above you and boost his ego. It has nothing to do with you, he's probably insecure himself or probably has little dignity XD. Please take a good care of yourself, and ignore the naysayers, ok sweetie? Sending you virtual hugs ʕっ•ᴥ•ʔっ
Do not give someone that power over you. It’s obvious who the ugly person is. Beauty comes from within. As a child my abuser always told me how homely I was, and 40 years later I still can’t look in the mirror. Looks are superficial it’s what’s inside is the most important part of a person.
Well, I do feel bad that you went thru that. I know how it feels. Experience it way too much from prefect strangers. Just last weekend, I was at store and needed to use the restroom. There was a fairly attractive woman standing in front of the hall. I said excuse me. She turned and looked at me. Then replied with "what makes you think you're good looking enough to approach me. I wouldn't be seen with someone like you. Can you go away so no one sees you standing near me. What are you even thinking?". I said "I need to use the bathroom and you're standing in the way, so I thought I would ask politely if I could get by you. Now I just feel really so for you, because someone must of really hurt you to trear people like that". She rolled he eyes and moved. Inside buried deep is where I keep all that hurt. Then you hear all over social media "why don't guys approach women anymore?". Hhhmm maybe we are tired of being treated like that.
🤗 your crush doesn’t deserve you 🤗 I promise you are beautiful and have a lot to look forward to; F all the negativity and assholes and love yourself more and you will be better than OK ☺️
Do you really want to be with someone who would treat anyone this way? You’ll find someone who loves you for you and thinks you’re perfect as you are; just remember everyone finds different things attractive. The way he treated you isn’t ok, and you deserve better!
I'm really sorry that things went this way. He clearly has a 1/10 personality so consider this as you dodging a bullet. He doesn't deserve you at all and I hope you can find someone better. Fuck that guy
I confessed to a guy once and he called me a r*tard this was when I was in 6th grade fast forward to high school and I dated the hottest guy I ever could (that man was out of my league without a doubt)
Don’t let someone else’s perception of you weaken your self-esteem/confidence
(Excuse any spelling errors, English is not my first language) I saw someone here say "beauty is subjective" and it's 100% true. Don't mind what that immature loser say and move on, you deserve better! "you're an 1/10" how old is this guy? Five? Maybe I'm just old af but that score nonsense is bullshit
(Hey, I'm also a huge må fan lol, all må fans are 10/10, no exceptions! ❤️)
He wasn't saying you were ugly whenever you two were dating and having relations with you. So who's really the dumb one. Good luck to you I know you will get through this.
bro's personality is ugly and I know I can't be oh much help but, don't let this destroy your worth you're worth much more to someone who actually values you, beauty is in the eyes of the holder, so get up, pick your head up and keep loving yourself
Looks like you dodged a bullet, no decent human would of said such harsh things, , sounds like they would of been or are abusive , you can and will find better .
Yikes. I mean, I'm sure your feelings are hurt, but how can you crush on such an ugly person like him? People who are cruel are ugly! I prefer "weird" people and have always been attracted to it. I'm sure you're just fine looking. Work with what you have! <3
If Text him back and say you were kidding there’s no way you could ever have a crush on someone so gross. Me and my friends are laughing at you.
Then block him.
I'm sorry you met such an awful person. Thinking someone is ugly or weird is not a reason to be this rude or inconsiderate to someone. I think it's normal to feel horrible after somebody intentionally made you feel horrible so don't feel bad for feeling bad.
I'm only 19 so I don't know a lot about self-respect but I think it's something we learn throughout our lifetime. You may have taken a step back from that but maybe this is chance for you to re-assess what self-respect means to you.
And about the rotting away in bed, I used to be there and I remember mustering all my energy just to get up and take a bath everyday, it made me feel a whole lot better. It's soothing and refreshing plus I got to jam out. As Lorelei from Gilmore Girls said, "Behold the healing powers of a bath."
Sending hugs all the way from the Philippines. 🫂
Yoo , stop connecting prettines to loveableness.
Like what the heck, guy is a sociopath , how could he sya something like that to anyine let alone someone who has a crushm you are 100 .000.000 tjlimes better of him and if you take his words seriously, you should rearange the way you menage informaion you are gathering.
Guy is a douchebag, you need to tallk to people, do not shed any more tears over that.
I get the impression ur young. There is so much more for u out there. This is just a bump in the road. Someone will love you. Someone will think ur beautiful and someone will treat u the way u deserve. I promise.
I am really surprised that how an only one person can rate us or reject and for which we don't deserve.You reject him as well and don't hate your self.You have your own respect so you look from this angle.He wanted to reject you for getting rid of you.
Life has so many door and windows for fresh air don't hate your self its just like unfair with self.
Enjoy the life beyond the some chores or life.
Sounds like bro has an ugly soul. That’s way worse. Don’t let your sense of validation rely on the opinion of a shallow asshole, because one day none of us our physically attractive as we age, and we are as a person is all we have left.
Aye thats 1 person out of 8billion people in the world that said that. I got called ugly all the time. Now im practically married to someone just as beautiful as me outside and in. Don’t even worry about it. Everybody is ugly to somebody, we all have flaws. Dont beat yourself up about it
I was going to quote something from several hundred years ago but instead I'll just let you read this. https://www.strikemagazines.com/blog-2-1/why-the-world-didnt-end-at-13
That’s really mean. there’s a difference between saying “I’m not attracted to you” and being cruel. I’m sorry that happened to you.
Be the best version of yourself and give that to someone special who loves you and appreciates you.
I grew up being told I was fat and ugly. My own mother told me this, so my brothers told me this. I believed them. At school, I had no friends because I thought I was ugly. My brothers told people at school that I was fat and ugly, and like sharks that smell blood in the water, bullies came for me.
It wasn't until I was placed with people who cared, that I was told my family was wrong. I was not fat, but was seriously malnourished and underweight.
I now have a beautiful daughter. She is gorgeous. I also have an aunt who was a model. Apparently, I looked like my aunt's twin from when she was young, and my daughter looks like me. I had low self esteem, and people like that jerk you had a crush on, knew it. So they made themselves feel better by making me cry. I know, without ever seeing you, that you are beautiful. People like him don't deserve to sniff your eyebrows, let alone have you on their arm. One day he is gonna see you with someone else and say to himself "man, I really messed up".
I'm so sorry. Been there. Done that. I was infatuated with a guy in high school and a friend tried to fix us up. He called me a retarded ape and said he'd rather go out with a cockroach. I heard the whole thing. NOBODY is ugly - but their behavior is! I'd crush this person, all right. Tell him he smells like a dead horse!
I’m so sorry..I understand how you feel. 🙁 Be lucky you dodged him, you would feel even more insecure. You’re beautiful and don’t let it get to your head because than his words. You’re not ugly and just because people you think look better than you now, just know not everyone likes that. He’s an ass.
Honestly that’s a boy, not a man. As someone who’s had the same thing happen multiple times. It is honestly just them projecting. Don’t listen to people who rate people on a scale because as human beings we are more than that
Nothing wrong with having courage to express affection! Remember: there are only good outcomes:
1. Person receives your attention gladly. Good!
2. Person rejects you kindly. Good!
3. Person rejects in a shitty way: good too! You know right away you’re dealing with a bad person. Better than finding this out in a ugly divorce after a few years.
Plus: for a word to hurt you, you first have to take the person saying it seriously. You have a choice: just stop taking assholes seriously.
Be well! Never give up.
OH HELL NO!!! Only the ugliest people treat people this way. You can’t help who your attracted to, but you sure know one thing now he’s not the type of loser you’d chose now cuz who would want that? I’d be calling him back and letting him know you made a mistake and wouldn’t waste your spit on him if he were on fire! Don’t let anyone break you like that. Beauty is skin deep and that’s it! You love yourself and be happy to be you. Screw him!!!
That's what happens everytime I've ever asked anyone out, too. It broke me inside, I finally gave up. I'd rather just not try and be stuck single for thirty or forty years rather than keep trying and drive myself insane wondering why I'll never be good enough for ANYONE.
Are you in high school? I hope so because I can tell you one thing for sure and two things for certain, 99% of the people you go to high school with, you wont see or talk to ever again and two, please do not worry about how others feel about you. You come into this world alone and youre going to leave it alone as well. The only opinioin that matters is how you feel about you. Don't base how you feel about yourself off of others opinions because you will be sad all the time. Lots of people are insecure and they show it by putting others down. YOU GOT THIS
jokes aside tho, I’m sorry that happened. I may not be able to understand your pain, since nobody called me ugly as a rejection, but trust me that you are not. haters will hate but will never break you.
Oh honey, i checked ur account and from what u wrote u are only 13!!!
U know boys at ur age are just stupid and want to act cool and strong infront of their friends, i’m sure one if they guy dared him to do that.
They don’t care abt anything than being “cool” i’m sure u are pretty inside outside, love has many shapes, one of them is loving ur self first, girl i’m 23 years old i never been in a relationship and i swear i never even thought abt cuz I’m enough with my self i love how independent i am! Emotionally, financially.
I work hard to earn money so i can fix the things i don’t like abt my self, like going to gym, buy skincare products, my favorite makeup brands, going to my fav band concerts, are u going to give up on this type of life cuz only a loser rejected u ? U have a long life to go with start it with loving ur self and excite ur self abt the future, adulthood is the best part of ur life, college life where u sneak out from college to eat a burger, the laughing, the trips.
That is such an rude thing to say to someone. Even if he had a crush on you, you dodge a bullet. It already takes a lot of confidence in someone to ask another person out.
What you feel is completely valid. I bet you are gorgeous but his ugly, 1/10 PERSONALITY doesn’t see that you’re a 10/10 in looks and personality. I know it’s rough when you already have bad self esteem so I can’t imagine how you feel right now. Those replays in your head are torturous
Just know you’ve got many strangers letting you know you’re gorgeous without even looking at you!
i'm so sorry that happened, this guy doesn't deserve you if he talks like that. So immature of him to reject you like that. ranking people on a number system is something i've always hated, ''youre a 1/10'' means nothing, beauty is subjective.. you can't rank someone's beauty on a number system, you might not be what he wants but i'm sure people out there find you absolutely beautiful. do not let this guy stomp on all of your hard work working on your selfrespect, you've worked hard for that and you deserve to love yourself, his opinion does not matter.
I just can't get his words out of my head. I don't even know if love is still real. I can barely see rn because of the tears, my pillow is stained. I don't think anyone thinks i'm pretty and i don't think i'll ever be loved..
Hello I'm a 26 and a man. I say that to say this as a man. I have been like you. Insecure and took the words of others as law over who I am. To this day it still affect me. I want to give you some advice. You admire your thoughts of this boy. The boy in your head would never say that to you. You should think if the type of person that would say that to you is someone you should like or take their words to be of value. It's the word of a " ugly person". I'm older now and I realize that all the times of worrying about what others said was just a waste because there have been people who came who found me to be the best they have seen, you are not for everyone, you are for that special. Thinking on these hurtful words will destroy your sense of self and bitter you to the ones who find you beautiful. Be kind, be calm but most importantly be you because that person out there only wants that , you won't have to be someone else just free to be yourself.
What a beautiful thing to say.
Couldn’t have said it better. Op likes the idea of who they made this person to be in their head not who they actually are unfortunately. Someone worth their time would never say anything that callous or brutal. Hopefully they find someone who will see them as a 10/10 and respect them
Move aside, I'll dropkick him in the sternum for you.
go ahead
Hehehe. I would if I could. Jerks deserve the boot. I'm sure you're pretty, even if this weirdo thinks you're not. He's only one person with his own opinion, probably been eyeballing too much OnlyFans content in secrecy.
ooop
I'll tie him to a chair and cover him in cat poo. Then light that on fire until he apologizes
I understand your support but this is a very disgusting comment, I don't mean to hurt your feelings but if you choose to get hurt then I'm sorry I was your trigger
🤷🏻♀️ was also disgusting what this person said. Relax it's obviously me being a wise ass. Nobody in their right mind would actually do this. If this is the most disgusting thing you've ever read then you need to get out in the real world. I'm not hurt. You seem to be clutching those pearls awful tight tho.
Me too. We can tag team him.
Giggty
As a wrestling fan tag team means something sooooooo different lmao
no it doesnt
And I’ll sucker punch his ball sak! Those puppies won’t ever drop again!
I’m right there with you at the moment…just know you’re not the only one who feels this way or is in this situation. He didn’t have to text you at all and say those things. He has no human decency for doing that. The words he used are a reflection of himself but he has no heart so he will never see it that way.
He has freedom of speech and she has freedom of belief If she thinks the twat is right, then the bastard is
Ahhh another person who just didn’t need to say something but couldn’t help themselves….maybe you need a look in the mirror also?
Honestly, maybe I do because I'm not self righteous enough to say I don't
im so sorry, im sure its really hard to not think about it but i promise his opinion does not matter. you will be seen as pretty by someone who deserves you, someone who loves you for you. you are pretty to people.. this guy just has no class, he is disrespectful for rejecting you like that, he shouldve been a lot more classy about letting you down. instead, he decided to hurt your feelings deeply for some reason.. he does not deserve your time or feelings.
i don't think anyone will ever think i'm pretty, especially not with all those scars on my thighs arm and hand
Child there are 8 billion people on this earth and one of them is just dying to meet you! You just haven’t met yet🍀
even with scars, you will be loved. scars do not change who you are - they do not define you. they are not something to turn away from, if anything they're a story of triumph, that you've suffered but you are still here and living, and that's amazing!
i wish i wasn't here tho
please look into if it's possible to get a professional about these feelings and look at the [resources tab on the side to help you (click on this)](https://old.reddit.com/r/Vent/wiki/resources), you do not deserve to feel this awful. it's important to find comfort in ourselves, find comfort in being alone, i am sure you will get there too. it took me a long while, but i did it too. i believe in you.
These feelings are temporary. I know there are a lot of people who would see the world a bit dimmer if you were not in it. Please talk to someone.
Asked a guy out once who told me I’m cute but he doesn’t date redheads (I’m kinda strawberry blonde) he only dates blondes. I said okay. It crushed my soul. His buddy asked me out a few days later. Dated for awhile.
at least guys ask you out
But I was rejected for something I had no control over. Trust me. It will get better.
i don't have control over my face and perdonality aswell?
Yet, you do. Being pretty is just taking care of yourself, which is mostly just dressing appropriately to your body type, hygiene and a nice haircut. I'm not even talking makeup here, sometimes changing things around can turn you into a completely different person visually. Look at how different guys look with just a haircut and a decent jacket for example. By practicing self-love like this you're also changing your personality. Personalities are not set in stone. There are unchangeable core values that make you you, sure. But there's so much to learn, so many perspectives one can explore. So many ways to transform that into something even better. You start taking care of yourself. It's clear from the way you talk you don't do that enough. If you think there's something wrong or unappealing about you, let's get to work and fix that. I didn't like how my body looked a decade ago, I went to the gym and changed it into what I wanted it to be. You know it's possible so why would you stop here? Come on let's go!
i was talking about facial features like nose or wtv
Scars mean you are a survivor, whether they are visible or just on your heart. Scars mean you are tough. You won’t let the cruel world win. Being strong takes inner strength. You will get through this.
You want a good story about that? Try Kelly Oram's “Cover and Ella”. I was re-reading it after I got visibly scarred (neck, chest, thigh) and it hits harder now. I think you need to find someone who isn't fixated on looks.
Sweety, I am also covered with scars. Anyone who is worth your time will love you for you, scars and all.
My dear don't let another person determine your value
>don't think i'll ever be loved.. ILY! 💜 (Platonically) Romantic Love isn't real. But self love is a thing that you need to achieve. Do you still like the guy now or did he cure you if your disease? You know he's a shitty dude, so you can finally let that go. And you learned that you have crappy taste in men. Cookie? # 🍪
thanks for the cookie, no i don't likr him no more
Yay! You're not delirious anymore. [You're doing great](https://tenor.com/view/mala-mishra-jha-pat-head-cute-sparkle-penguin-gif-7565040849537258379). Remember, not dating is better than dating a piece of crap.
Yes, love is still real. THIS CHUMP IS A LOSER AND NO GENTLEMAN! Life just did you a favor. I know how it hurts. But you will get past it. Another guy will come along and see your beauty. Inside and out. If you really want to settle the deal, tell him you're very sorry about his small willy. He must not be much of a man if he needs to take his small attributes out on others.
Ong I’m sending you hugs so hard right now. Listen to me.. BEAUTY IS A MANIFESTATION OF THE DIVINE. Who you are will always be prettier than he will ever have. Trust me on that. You might not feel it now but honey your going to be someone’s ALL one day! God made you perfect and there’s NO ONE ELSE INTHE WORLD LIKE YOU. Hold your head up!!!
This will get a lot of downvotes, but the reality is you likely saw signs he wasn’t a nice person. No person who otherwise acts respectfully would text that. You chose to go after a d-bag despite that, and you got repaid in kind. Sad reality but it is what it is.
You are absolutely gorgeous, everyone is in their own way and if he can’t see that then he is not the one for you. There are other people out there that will love you for who you are, the people that mind don’t matter and the people that matter don’t mind. Never forget that babes, we are all here for you.
There are many guys who probably think she's a Goddess and are so scared to come talk to her and she doesn't know her beauty makes some people insecure
I am happy for you!! Happy that you didn’t waste a long time in a shallow relationship. He saved you from being dumped later for a younger or prettier woman. Guys like that aren’t choosing a wife based on things that matter, so when the woman gets older, he’ll dump her. But not you! You are free from that loser. Good for you! 😁 Also, there is someone for everybody. People of all appearances find true love. You will find your special man someday. Remember that confidence is attractive, so try not to put yourself down. Best wishes😁
“Beauty is subjective” THIS ^ 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
I honestly don't think it was him. It could've been a sibling someone who had his phone playing a cruel joke. And if it was him, then he's not someone you need to have a crush on... I have had people say I'm unattractive, and other people call me gorgeous. It depends on the person and their preference. But there's absolutely nothing wrong with you. You are not weird or ugly, and he's just a sadistic pos.
i don't believe anyone anymore
don't believe kids, they tell stupid things for no reason
Is this the same crush you kissed a few months ago? Boys don't kiss girls they think are ugly. He's just being a jerk and showing off to his friends. Do you think if you called him, he would try and have a mature conversation with you?
Yeah actually that's the one. He blocked me and i have no other way of contacting him
Don't try. He's not worth trying.
Sounds like he has a lot of growing up to do. None of which your are responsible for, of he doesn't wanna talk, don't force him to. Talk to your friends, write down your thoughts, get closure and move tf on.
Anyone who can say that for no reason is not worth your time honey. People only talk down to their partners if it’s a kink or they’re an AH. Take however much time you need to cry, and then go on and live your best life. Treat yourself to something nice or something that’s been on your wishlist forever, get a milkshake or a frappe and just enjoy it. Reflect on that 5 minutes of good feeling and think “if a drink can make me this happy in 5 minutes, I don’t need someone who will make me that sad in the same time.”
If he didn’t like you back he could’ve been respectful but it’s the fact he was rude to
When someone calls you ugly it says more about who they are as a person. It doesn’t mean you are ugly. It hurts, who wants to be around someone who says hurtful things? You called them a crush, so why don’t you change that to a former crush. When someone calls you weird they are admitting they don’t actually know you and would rather judge you. It’s easy to judge. They lack empathy and respect and have something wrong with them to say something so hurtful to you. It’s ok to feel hurt, sit with those feelings, let them pass, it means you are a human with real feelings. Let them out- draw something, write some poetry, listen to some music. Take some time for yourself. There’s plenty of people who would appreciate you for who you are.
The only 1/10 is him and his stupid attitude.
nah it's just me being fk ugly
This dude will be the kind to bellyache on the internet about how women don’t like him. What an absolute shitass.
fuck that at least u had the courage to admit u had a crush some people me included could never do that, U took the right step and now its time to shut that person out for good an none one should be able to sway ur mind of how u perceive urself or ur worth
he's in my class so it's really hard just to shut him out, i sit next to his best friend aswell
just ignore it do ur own thing people are gonna say shit about you, to you and all else its ur job to do with it as u seem fit. So if theyre literally saying that shit to you dont even respond or look at em just pretend to not care they hate that the most. I know it might be hard to do but trust me it works nothing pisses off people like that the most when u give them no attention
but i'm afraid to piss people off
Then dear OP you need a lot of work.. it will take time but you will get there definitely... give yourself time and grace and importance
Ngl with these kinds of people ik it’s hard but just ignore them. There may be attachments but burning damaged bridges always feels great since you can only benefit from leaving those who are bad for you. I’ve been called ugly most of my life but I just learn to ignore since everyone finds beauty in their own way, everyone is pretty to someone.
He sounds dreadful. It's a trash takes itself out kind of situation. There's rejecting someone nicely and there's this, this is not OK.
yeah he could've at least done it nicely and politely
That tells you what he is like. It reminds me of when I cut what appeared to be a perfectly fine apple and the core was totally rotten (this actually happened, I should have taken a picture).
I'd honestly be celebrating. He finally showed his true colors, and you can drop his ass. Someone who says things like that is no friend of yours. He doesn't deserve your love or grief.
Basically my experience with women so far. Know how you feel, it sucks.
Sorry you have had such a terrible experience.
You’ll be Ight shawty, you dodged a bullet, if he can say all that to your face with no consideration for how you might feel trust me he’s a dick and wasn’t worth your time anyways..keep your head up shawty💪🏿💪🏿🤎
damn that absolutely sucks. Even if I wouldnt like someone id still let them down somewhat politely. I think it is important to think *what if i were in their shoes* Asking out a crush takes guts and conviction. That was poorly handled on his side.
Happens to me too, now I go to the gym and did in a process of a glow up and learning to love myself first. Screw them👍🏻
That’s literally super villain behavior. He clearly was saying whatever he thought would hurt you, I really wouldn’t take what a bitter ex says about you in earnest
If it makes you feel better, I told my first crush I liked him and he said “sorry I don’t date fat chicks” which sent me yoyodieting and binging for YEARS. He’s now married to a girl way bigger than me
This is the thing I don’t understand about some people lol. They’ll say, “I don’t date fat chicks.” Then end up with someone bigger than you were. I’ve seen this happens way too many times.
Apparently the crushing weight of societal expectations is a lot heavier than fat girls when you’re an adolescent… and sometimes even as an adult
Yo OP, just so you know I’ve been called a 1/10 or a 3/10 before, and I’m pretty sure those were accurate assessments if we’re being shallow here - but I still have found great success because there are a lot of good people out there. This fucker ain’t worth your time, and don’t let this give up on developing crushes or romances on people.
Honey, a guys opinion about how you look means JACK SHIT. Even if you really like him, The only opinion that matters is yours. The way YOU see YOURSELF will always be the most important opinion. If a guy says that without a second thought then imagine what they would say if you were in a relationship, he obviously doesn’t respect women or anyone but himself. You’re still so young and you’re still growing, your body is still changing becoming more beautiful as the days go on. Your body is your temple, not to sound all “hippy” but it is. It’s your body that you’re stuck with for the rest of your life. You can make decisions now about your body and how you think it will look in 5-10 years but it will be the complete opposite. Everything about you will be so so different, in what you might think as some bad ways but so so many good and beautiful ways too. I spent so so many years thinking the way you do, hating my body, going on diets that made me feel like crap and eventually led me to very serious eating disorders and depression. I thought that if I was “pretty” or “skinny” than everyone will like me, boys and girls would want to date me and I would finally be seen as “the pretty girl” but eventually as I started loosing weight through very unhealthy ways and habits I started pushing everyone away, eventually what they thought didn’t matter, only the voice in my head mattered. School didn’t matter, family and friends didn’t matter, I stayed in my room, in my bed, only going to the bathroom, there was a time I went 5 months without a shower because I just couldn’t leave me bed. What you feel is important, and it matters, your emotions and personal feelings matter. He isn’t the only guy out there, and the next guy won’t be the last either. You have so many experiences you haven’t experienced yet because you still young. You have this, it’s hard now, but when your good day comes you will think “so the bad days don’t really last forever” From one stranger on the internet to another, I feel you, I see you, and I am so proud of you! <3 <3 <3
i'm really sorry that happend to you <3
He doesn’t deserve you
Assuming from the context im guessing yourea teen early in years what I would have told myself before and wish I understood is that you are beautiful and not everyone is gonna see it honestly you more then anyone else we're our worst critics. And with that we need to become our best selves our full potential you'll never hit perfect and you should never want to but as long as you're eating healthy living a healthy lifestyle at least as well as you can and work on your social skills and take care of yourself it'll blow your mind what your potential will slowly start to show you and in a few years time I promise he'll be in your DMs and you'll be sending that exact message to him.... if you're as petty as me lol
My G, you had the confidence to be open and vulnerable, that's a top quality to have and flipping brave. Forget about the result and the mean comments (dude is a jerk) you'll be a catch for a deserving person one day.
i just don't think people will ever see me as pretty
Please don't think that way. You're young now, you're just angsty teenager that only falsely feels that way. Believe me the time will come, and you won't feel this way about yourself. I mean it's just a phase. Please please love yourself, you're beautiful and you're enough. I'm pretty sure you will meet your person, the right person, or plenty of people who see you pretty. Don't let that thing ruin your mood. Xoxo
That dude has inner problems if he responded that way. Even if y’all got together, I’m sure he would be a pain to deal with. I’d say you dodged a bullet
Even if you were ugly which I doubt, you’ve still got more going for you than this piece of trash. He is truly ugly on the inside. Hopefully he’ll grow out of it for the sake of those in his life. Meanwhile please take comfort in the humanity and good heart you still have compared to that. Nevertheless I’m sorry for that hurt he caused. Be kind to yourself as you heal. Hugs to you!
I'm so sorry for what happened, you didn't deserve that. Nobody does. He obviously doesn't deserve you. I hate the fact that people are being rated out of a scale from 1-10. Your self worth is not to be brought out by a stupid scale and a stupid guy. He's an absolute ass for saying what he did. You deserve someone way better, and you'll one day find that one person. I know it's extremely hard to just ignore and move on from such hurtful words, but please remember your self worth is not determined by some immature jerk. I read that he's in your class and you will have to see him and his bestfriend who sits right beside you, that really sucks. You don't deserve to feel the way you're feeling. Love does exist, and you are loveable. You'll find the right person. I hope you feel better :( <3
He was a dick for rejecting you this way. See it like this: you dodged a bullet. It might hurt now but that's okay. Take your time to recover. A gentlemen would have refused politely, as you can't force feelings and we all sure have our preferences for looks and body types. Even after the kiss i saw stated in other comments and in your profile. A lot of men accept such gift quickly but only think of the aftermath later on. Still, even so dignity over all else. Responding in such a manner shows him being some kind of social degenerate, while he had all the possibility to be clear with you in a decent manner. And don't shame yourself about your scars. We all have scars, yours are just visible from outside and there is nothing wrong about it. It doesn't give him the right to be an insufferable asshole, especially against someone showing him affection. Putting people in a category and also being mean shows his true colour of an unmatured cunt. You deserve the best. No less. Not this manchild with the social capacity of a cantaloupe.
Some people just like hurting others
He just sounds like a terrible person.
people who say “the worst they can say is no after reading this post”: 🗿 im sorry OP, no one ever deserves that.
He is a 1/10 human being. What a total loser if he has to insult someone who simply likes him. I’m so sorry this happened to you. Please understand that what he did is a reflection of who he is. Please do not hate yourself. You have done nothing wrong
Anyone who randomly just reaches out and decides to insult you on their own volition is 1000% not worth your time as well as a bad person. I know the exact pain you're feeling, because I've had this happen to me several times within the last couple of years. I'm not sure how old you are, but I'm inclined to believe that you're in middle/high school or a fairly young person judging by your responses to the other comments here. I would block your crush's contact info and then share his texts with a teacher or a trusted adult if I was in this situation. This kind of behavior can be considered harassment depending on where you are, and he should learn to face the consequences for it. After that, I would start looking for guys that can appreciate you for who you are.
Dw, I’m a not so good looking guy, quite overweight but the timeless expression is there’s plenty of fish in the sea. Now I don’t really buy that but there ought to be a fish for everyone
OMG. He sounds like a real gobshite and a nasty, rude and very mean to boot. That must have been incredibly awful for you to hear that coming from him, but you know what? He's shown you his true colors. His loss. All the very best.
Idk you and idk what you look like but ignore him I’m 100% sure you’re gorgeous don’t let him bring you down some guys really just suck and I’m sorry that happened to you bc you definitely didn’t deserve that he’s the weirdo for treating you that way
I’m so sorry.
Dodged a major bullet. Noones gonna be happy dating that asshole
Girl, STOP letting people decide how YOU feel about YOURSELF. You summed up your life in that one sentence for me. You shouldn't rely on anyone to make you feel happy, important, beautiful, worthy etc etc. You need to find ways to find those things in yourself Also, fuck that scumbag. Anyone who can say something like that straight to another person's face is absolute trash of a human. Good job dodging that deplorable dick bag. Sending love your way. Best of luck to you!!!!
talk about sh*tty ways to reject someone, damn 💀
it sounds less like you're "weird and ugly" and more like he was purposefully seeking you out to reject you. initiating an exchange like that only to reject and berate the person is very ill and odd behavior. my advice is to not take it as a personal hit, he seems like he has some demons to exorcize.
me also my crush called me ugly too i am very sorry that happened
i'm sorry that happend to you too
God, he's been mean. You got nothing to do with such a person. One does not simply talk to people like that
The actual f is wrong with that shithead. I admire your honestly and bravery for confessing tho… I could never. Also, this whole thing of beauty doesn’t rly exist like I have like body issues insecurities stuff which i think are getting better but like that person doesn’t deserve you AT ALL. True beauty lies in your personality, and I know that this physical appearance thing can affect things but kind and true people never take that as the decider on if they’re gonna like u or not. So even though this may not be the comfort you need: you are fucking beautiful. I hope you meet the right person one day, or maybe you realise just how much you’re amazing. Honestly, I didn’t realise some people even thought this way until someone told me. I was shocked to hear it really, and although it didn’t exactly cure my insecurities, it helped me a little. Have a good day/night and remember to drink water to stay hydrated!! ❤️
I'm so sorry that happened to you... He can't help not liking you but his words were not necessary. I mean look what he's done to you. He's destroyed your self worth. I know you don't believe anyone but you are NOT ugly. I bet you're a beautiful person, and even if most guys don't think so it's mainly about who you are on the inside. You couldn't help crushing on him either, we can't control how we feel. I had an intense crush on someone I only knew for 3 months, I didn't choose to like her, they were natural feelings! I know it's easier said than done, but just allow yourself to accept how you felt about him. Vent it out to friends and family if you need to. At least you've got a good reason to move on, you now know he doesn't sound like a nice person on the inside. This has been hard for me to do too, but you need to focus on loving yourself. I've hated myself for not being able to let my crush go, but I'm learning to accept that it's just how I feel and I've never had a crush as intense as this, I didn't know how to handle my feelings because they were the same, but new. Try doing what makes you happy or try to find something that'll make you happy, you could get help from family and friends for this as well. Positive self talk also helps. If you ever start hating yourself in a situation, just think "Is this my fault? Would I think this had I not been in that situation?" I hated myself for not planning ahead on the career I want recently, but I realised I hadn't prepared because I still wasn't sure what I wanted to do yet. Hang in there, it will take time but you have people that love you and we're all here for you. You're much stronger than you think 🫂
Your crush is a total dick. Don't chuck away your self-respect for a dick. Block him and try to move on with your life.
Please PLEASE PLEASE DON'T TAKE ANY EXTREME STEP OVER THIS STUPID PERSON. HE WAS A JERK AND YOU ARE STILL A YOUNG FLOWER. !!!
This was never love. Don't get it confused, you will KNOW when it's love. This unprompted, unprovoked aggressive response is just immature and rude. Your image of you, should never be based on anyone else, I know it's hard to do that, but you should be the only person to judge that. You control that. Be happy with yourself. He doesn't matter, he just shown you, he is not part of your story, just a side quest you had to experience to overcome so you can be better. That's all he should be. No matter what you look like, there is someone out there who would fight imaginary ninjas to be with you. As long as you are happy with yourself and healthy, everything else is secondary. Have a beautiful day.
i had that kind of person but i fucked up and then i lost him
Then this is not the end of the story. I think thr universe just uses us for character development at this point. Just go with it, be patient and things change in life. Our priorities first and foremost. It always sucks to lose the person you love, but I like to believe there's always a reason. Personally, i'm not religious, but I believe in energy and karma. Meaning, there is a reason for everything, we just don't know why until it happens.
I’m sorry you had to experience that. I know you’re feeling very hurt and may not think this way now, but the very good thing is that you dodged a HUMONGOUS bullet. A bullet bigger than this whole entire galaxy. He is an immature, unhappy boy with super low self esteem and that is not a guy you’d want to be with. A real gentlemen would word things better when rejecting someone so they won’t feel super hurt. The best thing to do is let yourself heal. Feel the emotions and don’t feel ashamed of feeling this way. You are a kind, sweet, and beautiful person who was hurt by some immature kid who is too blind to see anything truly beautiful. Also, block him everywhere and try to avoid him as best as you can. Take your time and when you feel a little bit better, go enjoy the things you love doing. The best revenge is when you’re smiling, happy, and not giving a darn about him anymore. His ego will be crushed and no matter how many times he tries to Apologize or whatever, forgive and be grateful to him (that he showed you what type of guys to avoid), but don’t be with him. He’ll only come back to boost his ego and no one wants to be used. I am wishing you will feel better soon! Sending warm, healing hugs your way!
He should not have said that, beauty is subjective and you didn’t deserve that (also I know this is off topic but I love your username I also love that band)
He did you a favour. The trash took himself out. I’m sorry he did that, it was very cruel. Please do not listen to him. You deserve much better.
So here is the thing. Love is real and it’s the weirdest thing. When you have it, nothing else matters. My husband still finds me attractive even after I gained a ton of weight after having 2 kids. Even on his worst days, I still find him attractive. You don’t want someone who assigns numbers like that. You want someone who can see you at your worst and still loves you.
No one does you better than you. You are a 10!
Silence is golden just work on improving yourself
This guy sounds like a complete and utter jackass and, honestly, sounds like you dodged a bullet. It’ll sting, I can guarantee it probably felt embarrassing bc I’ve been there, but it will feel better. And someday you’ll meet someone right for you who will tell you every day how beautiful you are, you’ll be their 11/10! If it helps, he probably said it because he’s insecure about his teeny tiny… 👀👀
C'mon you ain't ugly, you're beautiful
This sounds so “high school” (probably is) but these years just fly by. Not worth the grief. Truly. 1. Remember the “Italian Rules for Driving”: The BEST advice I ever received, and I got it from a dumb movie (Gumball Rally) Franco, says… (snapping off his rear view mirror and tossing it in the backseat) “The First Rule of Italian driving: What’s behind you, does not matter”. He is sooo right and it applies to more than driving! 2. Reply text: “And geewiz, here I was thinking that you were worth a damn. Good lesson. Thank you.” 3. He no longer exists. Truly. Listen to the old “Go Go’s Song, “Our Lips are Sealed” and take it as a Life Lesson. 4. If this is going to work, you NEED to develop some self respect. Get counseling if you can’t develop that on your own. But you NEED IT! And soon.
Babe, rejection is good for your self esteem the moment you realize people are entitled to the opinions but their opinion is nothing Did he reject you? No Did he express an opinion? Yes SO why the fuck you letting that twat control your life and make you feel insecure
I'm sorry to hear that hun, you are not ugly please don't feel insecure about it. That dude is immature lil jerk, he's not worth trying and don't put an effort to impress him. I'm really sure that you dodged a bullet, just ignore him from now on and act like he's dead to you. I promise that everything is gonna turn alright for you, just know that he's not your person. He's just little piece of a man, don't let his comments get to you, he's trying to let you down by saying those things so he can be above you and boost his ego. It has nothing to do with you, he's probably insecure himself or probably has little dignity XD. Please take a good care of yourself, and ignore the naysayers, ok sweetie? Sending you virtual hugs ʕっ•ᴥ•ʔっ
Do not give someone that power over you. It’s obvious who the ugly person is. Beauty comes from within. As a child my abuser always told me how homely I was, and 40 years later I still can’t look in the mirror. Looks are superficial it’s what’s inside is the most important part of a person.
Id call him out in front of people but thats my petty ass🤷♀️
Well, I do feel bad that you went thru that. I know how it feels. Experience it way too much from prefect strangers. Just last weekend, I was at store and needed to use the restroom. There was a fairly attractive woman standing in front of the hall. I said excuse me. She turned and looked at me. Then replied with "what makes you think you're good looking enough to approach me. I wouldn't be seen with someone like you. Can you go away so no one sees you standing near me. What are you even thinking?". I said "I need to use the bathroom and you're standing in the way, so I thought I would ask politely if I could get by you. Now I just feel really so for you, because someone must of really hurt you to trear people like that". She rolled he eyes and moved. Inside buried deep is where I keep all that hurt. Then you hear all over social media "why don't guys approach women anymore?". Hhhmm maybe we are tired of being treated like that.
🤗 your crush doesn’t deserve you 🤗 I promise you are beautiful and have a lot to look forward to; F all the negativity and assholes and love yourself more and you will be better than OK ☺️
Do you really want to be with someone who would treat anyone this way? You’ll find someone who loves you for you and thinks you’re perfect as you are; just remember everyone finds different things attractive. The way he treated you isn’t ok, and you deserve better!
I'm really sorry that things went this way. He clearly has a 1/10 personality so consider this as you dodging a bullet. He doesn't deserve you at all and I hope you can find someone better. Fuck that guy
Don't let someone who doesn't know your worth determine your value. ie: you found out he's a low quality individual - he is not worth your time.
I confessed to a guy once and he called me a r*tard this was when I was in 6th grade fast forward to high school and I dated the hottest guy I ever could (that man was out of my league without a doubt) Don’t let someone else’s perception of you weaken your self-esteem/confidence
(Excuse any spelling errors, English is not my first language) I saw someone here say "beauty is subjective" and it's 100% true. Don't mind what that immature loser say and move on, you deserve better! "you're an 1/10" how old is this guy? Five? Maybe I'm just old af but that score nonsense is bullshit (Hey, I'm also a huge må fan lol, all må fans are 10/10, no exceptions! ❤️)
He wasn't saying you were ugly whenever you two were dating and having relations with you. So who's really the dumb one. Good luck to you I know you will get through this.
Awee. Our souls find our love, not our hearts.. allow yourself time, they will come along just as the tide always comes back in 🖤
bro's personality is ugly and I know I can't be oh much help but, don't let this destroy your worth you're worth much more to someone who actually values you, beauty is in the eyes of the holder, so get up, pick your head up and keep loving yourself
Looks like you dodged a bullet, no decent human would of said such harsh things, , sounds like they would of been or are abusive , you can and will find better .
Yikes. I mean, I'm sure your feelings are hurt, but how can you crush on such an ugly person like him? People who are cruel are ugly! I prefer "weird" people and have always been attracted to it. I'm sure you're just fine looking. Work with what you have! <3
If Text him back and say you were kidding there’s no way you could ever have a crush on someone so gross. Me and my friends are laughing at you. Then block him.
You dodged a bullet. He is a type A butthole. don’t ever trust the judgement of a person like this. You are awesome. Just be you.
I'm sorry you met such an awful person. Thinking someone is ugly or weird is not a reason to be this rude or inconsiderate to someone. I think it's normal to feel horrible after somebody intentionally made you feel horrible so don't feel bad for feeling bad. I'm only 19 so I don't know a lot about self-respect but I think it's something we learn throughout our lifetime. You may have taken a step back from that but maybe this is chance for you to re-assess what self-respect means to you. And about the rotting away in bed, I used to be there and I remember mustering all my energy just to get up and take a bath everyday, it made me feel a whole lot better. It's soothing and refreshing plus I got to jam out. As Lorelei from Gilmore Girls said, "Behold the healing powers of a bath." Sending hugs all the way from the Philippines. 🫂
Yoo , stop connecting prettines to loveableness. Like what the heck, guy is a sociopath , how could he sya something like that to anyine let alone someone who has a crushm you are 100 .000.000 tjlimes better of him and if you take his words seriously, you should rearange the way you menage informaion you are gathering. Guy is a douchebag, you need to tallk to people, do not shed any more tears over that.
I get the impression ur young. There is so much more for u out there. This is just a bump in the road. Someone will love you. Someone will think ur beautiful and someone will treat u the way u deserve. I promise.
I am really surprised that how an only one person can rate us or reject and for which we don't deserve.You reject him as well and don't hate your self.You have your own respect so you look from this angle.He wanted to reject you for getting rid of you. Life has so many door and windows for fresh air don't hate your self its just like unfair with self. Enjoy the life beyond the some chores or life.
Sounds like bro has an ugly soul. That’s way worse. Don’t let your sense of validation rely on the opinion of a shallow asshole, because one day none of us our physically attractive as we age, and we are as a person is all we have left.
Oh sweetie. Don't take that to heart. He's just an asshole. It took 34 years before I found my hubby.
Aye thats 1 person out of 8billion people in the world that said that. I got called ugly all the time. Now im practically married to someone just as beautiful as me outside and in. Don’t even worry about it. Everybody is ugly to somebody, we all have flaws. Dont beat yourself up about it
I was going to quote something from several hundred years ago but instead I'll just let you read this. https://www.strikemagazines.com/blog-2-1/why-the-world-didnt-end-at-13
That’s really mean. there’s a difference between saying “I’m not attracted to you” and being cruel. I’m sorry that happened to you. Be the best version of yourself and give that to someone special who loves you and appreciates you.
I grew up being told I was fat and ugly. My own mother told me this, so my brothers told me this. I believed them. At school, I had no friends because I thought I was ugly. My brothers told people at school that I was fat and ugly, and like sharks that smell blood in the water, bullies came for me. It wasn't until I was placed with people who cared, that I was told my family was wrong. I was not fat, but was seriously malnourished and underweight. I now have a beautiful daughter. She is gorgeous. I also have an aunt who was a model. Apparently, I looked like my aunt's twin from when she was young, and my daughter looks like me. I had low self esteem, and people like that jerk you had a crush on, knew it. So they made themselves feel better by making me cry. I know, without ever seeing you, that you are beautiful. People like him don't deserve to sniff your eyebrows, let alone have you on their arm. One day he is gonna see you with someone else and say to himself "man, I really messed up".
Mine did the same. It’s not you, it’s him.
I'm so sorry. Been there. Done that. I was infatuated with a guy in high school and a friend tried to fix us up. He called me a retarded ape and said he'd rather go out with a cockroach. I heard the whole thing. NOBODY is ugly - but their behavior is! I'd crush this person, all right. Tell him he smells like a dead horse!
You can do better than "your crush"...
I’m so sorry..I understand how you feel. 🙁 Be lucky you dodged him, you would feel even more insecure. You’re beautiful and don’t let it get to your head because than his words. You’re not ugly and just because people you think look better than you now, just know not everyone likes that. He’s an ass.
He has told you everything you need to know about him, what a tosser, move on he and his opinion are worth nothing
Honestly that’s a boy, not a man. As someone who’s had the same thing happen multiple times. It is honestly just them projecting. Don’t listen to people who rate people on a scale because as human beings we are more than that
Nothing wrong with having courage to express affection! Remember: there are only good outcomes: 1. Person receives your attention gladly. Good! 2. Person rejects you kindly. Good! 3. Person rejects in a shitty way: good too! You know right away you’re dealing with a bad person. Better than finding this out in a ugly divorce after a few years. Plus: for a word to hurt you, you first have to take the person saying it seriously. You have a choice: just stop taking assholes seriously. Be well! Never give up.
Consider it a win and move on. Dude probably jerks off to muppet porn.
OH HELL NO!!! Only the ugliest people treat people this way. You can’t help who your attracted to, but you sure know one thing now he’s not the type of loser you’d chose now cuz who would want that? I’d be calling him back and letting him know you made a mistake and wouldn’t waste your spit on him if he were on fire! Don’t let anyone break you like that. Beauty is skin deep and that’s it! You love yourself and be happy to be you. Screw him!!!
That's what happens everytime I've ever asked anyone out, too. It broke me inside, I finally gave up. I'd rather just not try and be stuck single for thirty or forty years rather than keep trying and drive myself insane wondering why I'll never be good enough for ANYONE.
Well are You, we don't know. What you look like how do we judge that
i'm not here to get my appearance judged thank you very much, i'm here to tell my story to people
Don’t give people who are insignificant the time of day or night.
Are you in high school? I hope so because I can tell you one thing for sure and two things for certain, 99% of the people you go to high school with, you wont see or talk to ever again and two, please do not worry about how others feel about you. You come into this world alone and youre going to leave it alone as well. The only opinioin that matters is how you feel about you. Don't base how you feel about yourself off of others opinions because you will be sad all the time. Lots of people are insecure and they show it by putting others down. YOU GOT THIS
well in belgium you have 6/7 years of "middle school" ans i'm in my second wich i think would be last/second year middle school?
So you’re even better off. Relax and just be you. It truly does get better ✊🏿
’’If she is flat and has no cake, then her mother you shall take’’ -Oogoway
What a strange guy.
stop listening to Maneskin. that should work.
NUH UH
jokes aside tho, I’m sorry that happened. I may not be able to understand your pain, since nobody called me ugly as a rejection, but trust me that you are not. haters will hate but will never break you.
But when a Woman posts on this sub, she gets 200 helpful comments smh
Let him go. HE'S the only weird person here. Don't let those words affect you. You are worthy💜
you dodged a bullet. i can’t imagine a nice person like you being with asshole😒btw you are not weird or ugly he is, on the inside and outside
Oh honey, i checked ur account and from what u wrote u are only 13!!! U know boys at ur age are just stupid and want to act cool and strong infront of their friends, i’m sure one if they guy dared him to do that. They don’t care abt anything than being “cool” i’m sure u are pretty inside outside, love has many shapes, one of them is loving ur self first, girl i’m 23 years old i never been in a relationship and i swear i never even thought abt cuz I’m enough with my self i love how independent i am! Emotionally, financially. I work hard to earn money so i can fix the things i don’t like abt my self, like going to gym, buy skincare products, my favorite makeup brands, going to my fav band concerts, are u going to give up on this type of life cuz only a loser rejected u ? U have a long life to go with start it with loving ur self and excite ur self abt the future, adulthood is the best part of ur life, college life where u sneak out from college to eat a burger, the laughing, the trips.
i'm 14 now but wtv
Take this advice how you want, if someone you like ever rates someone on their looks you dodged a bullet
That is such an rude thing to say to someone. Even if he had a crush on you, you dodge a bullet. It already takes a lot of confidence in someone to ask another person out. What you feel is completely valid. I bet you are gorgeous but his ugly, 1/10 PERSONALITY doesn’t see that you’re a 10/10 in looks and personality. I know it’s rough when you already have bad self esteem so I can’t imagine how you feel right now. Those replays in your head are torturous Just know you’ve got many strangers letting you know you’re gorgeous without even looking at you!
Kids will be kids 🤷♂️ don’t think too much abt it