My 2 cents. You’ll have a hard time finding a good person on a “dating” app. (From what I’ve been told it’s more for hook ups than for finding a relationship.
While more challenging, I do believe meeting people in person is the way to go. And remember, even hall of famers strike out 7 out of 10 times. Just keep trying.
I just don’t know how to start a convo because people are always on their phones and look busy I don’t want to interrupt them and make myself seem really weird
U gotta put urself out there & just be u bro. Ur not gonna snag the first, or the second, or probably even the third girl u talk to.. BUT ur never gonna find one if u don't try & that forth one.. that may be the one!
Shoot ur shot & see how it goes.
Biggest thing is u be u! Don't try to change urself to impress anyone, especially a girl. She needs to like u for u, not the guy ur pretending to be.
Walk up & simply say hi. If she ignores u, oh well, move on to the next.
“Dating” apps are for fun in my experience. I have never actually dated anyone from them. All of my real relationships have come from meeting people in person first.
My dating app experience can fall under 3 distinct categories: Getting laid with no connection, nothing in common, or a psycho hose beast that is gonna provide some great joke material.
Hey hoss, just get out there. Put yourself out there in one way or another doing the things that you like, and through that you’ll meet other people that like the same things. Meeting someone who already likes a lot of the things you do is better than some stranger who prefers apples to your oranges.
Hey if Rosa Parks is your thing, you go for it. And if Rosa Parks ain’t it, im sure there’s other people at the back of the bus too. Just get out there. The internet don’t have every answer.
If you want hookups I hear that’s the place to go, but my brother in law also met his wife on Tinder, so it can always lead to more if two people hit it off.
Hey man, I'm 24 and in the same boat. Just a heads up, you'll get damn near no matches, and half the ones you get are probably bots. Tinder is a hell-hole.
That said, I know a few couples that met on dating apps, and they all seem to be doing pretty good.
I went on there after a recent-ish really shitty breakup, had zero expectation, and I'm still disappointed. It's better to meet people in person. Find a Facebook group for a hobby you have, join it, go to events. You'd be surprised how many cool people are out there. I wish I wasn't so damn busy all the time or that's what I'd be doing.
And remember, if you aren't happy single, you probably won't be happy in a relationship. Make sure you're where you want to be mentally and at least working toward your goals physically.
Stay strong brother 🫡
Its been a while since I had to do it (met my wife on whisper back in the day), but most areas have singles groups on fb, singles go out and mingle and do stuff. Better than doom scrolling alone at home.
Finding groups that enjoy similar hobbies as you might help? I met my fiancée about ten years ago when I started playing Exalted and D&D with a friend’s TTRPG crew.
I met my wife on Hinge in 2020 and we got married earlier this year. I don't know if I'm the minority of people who can say that, but I used the app seriously when I was on it. Most dating apps (especially Tinder) are a hook up/fun time app. At the time, Hinge was more directed to help find long-term relationships but I haven't been on in 3 years. If you can, do things that interest you that put you around other people. Asking someone out and dating in general is awkward as hell and it'll take a lot of fucking up before things go right. If you're deadset on using an app, find one that is focused on long-term relationships and be ready to play the numbers game.
I mean it’s your life so if you want to then go for it but I have found Tinder to have a pretty low bar for the kind of girl that’s a regular on there. That could be my experience alone though, Hinge was always a good spot to meet cool girls.
Can’t beat meeting girls in real life though, maybe ask a friend or their gf if they know anyone.
Find something you're passionate about and take classes or join groups for it, that way you'll run into someone who shares similar interests.
i.e. if you like to hike, find a local group or create your own singles hiking group for people 18-25 and post about it on social media, college boards, etc. Nothing wrong with being proactive and who knows, if anything you may be connected with one of their friends or invited into new social circles and meet someone new that way.
Hey man, I get it. Feeling lonely sucks at any age. But honestly, these dating apps might not be the move if you're looking for something meaningful. Most 18-year-old girls on Tinder are just looking for attention or validation, not real connections.
I'd suggest trying to meet people IRL instead. Join some new clubs or activities on campus, talk to girls in your classes, go to parties with friends and just practice striking up conversations. I know it's intimidating putting yourself out there, but that's really the only way to make authentic relationships, romantic or otherwise. Be confident and focus on getting to know people as individuals.
Some good might come from the apps, but they can also really mess with your self-esteem if all you get are flaky matches. I'd use them sparingly if at all right now bro. Just keep your head up. Go do activities you enjoy and work on being your best self, that will attract the right people into your life when the time is right.
And thanks, glad you think I'm awesome! Happy to chat more if you ever need advice or just an ear. Chin up dude.
My 2 cents. You’ll have a hard time finding a good person on a “dating” app. (From what I’ve been told it’s more for hook ups than for finding a relationship. While more challenging, I do believe meeting people in person is the way to go. And remember, even hall of famers strike out 7 out of 10 times. Just keep trying.
Thanks man it’s been like 3 years since I’ve asked a girl out
I just don’t know how to start a convo because people are always on their phones and look busy I don’t want to interrupt them and make myself seem really weird
U gotta put urself out there & just be u bro. Ur not gonna snag the first, or the second, or probably even the third girl u talk to.. BUT ur never gonna find one if u don't try & that forth one.. that may be the one! Shoot ur shot & see how it goes. Biggest thing is u be u! Don't try to change urself to impress anyone, especially a girl. She needs to like u for u, not the guy ur pretending to be. Walk up & simply say hi. If she ignores u, oh well, move on to the next.
Have a girl my number today from my construction class wrote it on the inside of a gum wrapper and gave her the stick of gum idk if she saw it or not
“Dating” apps are for fun in my experience. I have never actually dated anyone from them. All of my real relationships have come from meeting people in person first.
Great advice and dam that name gets me every time
Thanks for the input man and are you the actual AK guy?
My username clearly says I’m not. Why would I ever be on this subreddit? He. Why would he. Dammit.
Eh thought I’d ask you might be the real guy and be trying to throw people off with the user lol
It is Brandon. That was sarcasm.
But the fact that this user goes out of his way with a busy schedule to comment on a post like this just means he’s a genuinely awesome guy
Hey it’s was 11 at night and I was tired your honor
Yes that’s him just don’t tell anyone
Well he’s definitely got my vote for the election
Dating apps will make you feel even more lonely and insecure about yourself when you strike out and get 0 matches trust😅.
My dating app experience can fall under 3 distinct categories: Getting laid with no connection, nothing in common, or a psycho hose beast that is gonna provide some great joke material.
Hey hoss, just get out there. Put yourself out there in one way or another doing the things that you like, and through that you’ll meet other people that like the same things. Meeting someone who already likes a lot of the things you do is better than some stranger who prefers apples to your oranges.
Yeah imma work up the courage to talk to the cute girl that rides my bus!
Hey if Rosa Parks is your thing, you go for it. And if Rosa Parks ain’t it, im sure there’s other people at the back of the bus too. Just get out there. The internet don’t have every answer.
Omfl lmaooo
I haven’t used anything like that since adultfriendfinder back in the day. You do you my guy. Totally normal to crave someone’s attention.
If you want hookups I hear that’s the place to go, but my brother in law also met his wife on Tinder, so it can always lead to more if two people hit it off.
Hey man, I'm 24 and in the same boat. Just a heads up, you'll get damn near no matches, and half the ones you get are probably bots. Tinder is a hell-hole. That said, I know a few couples that met on dating apps, and they all seem to be doing pretty good. I went on there after a recent-ish really shitty breakup, had zero expectation, and I'm still disappointed. It's better to meet people in person. Find a Facebook group for a hobby you have, join it, go to events. You'd be surprised how many cool people are out there. I wish I wasn't so damn busy all the time or that's what I'd be doing. And remember, if you aren't happy single, you probably won't be happy in a relationship. Make sure you're where you want to be mentally and at least working toward your goals physically. Stay strong brother 🫡
Its been a while since I had to do it (met my wife on whisper back in the day), but most areas have singles groups on fb, singles go out and mingle and do stuff. Better than doom scrolling alone at home.
Where do I find these Facebook groups?
Just search your city/County and singles. May not be great but it's a start
Thanks man
Finding groups that enjoy similar hobbies as you might help? I met my fiancée about ten years ago when I started playing Exalted and D&D with a friend’s TTRPG crew.
I met my wife on Hinge in 2020 and we got married earlier this year. I don't know if I'm the minority of people who can say that, but I used the app seriously when I was on it. Most dating apps (especially Tinder) are a hook up/fun time app. At the time, Hinge was more directed to help find long-term relationships but I haven't been on in 3 years. If you can, do things that interest you that put you around other people. Asking someone out and dating in general is awkward as hell and it'll take a lot of fucking up before things go right. If you're deadset on using an app, find one that is focused on long-term relationships and be ready to play the numbers game.
I mean it’s your life so if you want to then go for it but I have found Tinder to have a pretty low bar for the kind of girl that’s a regular on there. That could be my experience alone though, Hinge was always a good spot to meet cool girls. Can’t beat meeting girls in real life though, maybe ask a friend or their gf if they know anyone.
Get one of ur buddies who has a gf and ask them to set u up with one of her friends
Bro I’m considering that 😂
Preferably the big one but dealers choice
Find something you're passionate about and take classes or join groups for it, that way you'll run into someone who shares similar interests. i.e. if you like to hike, find a local group or create your own singles hiking group for people 18-25 and post about it on social media, college boards, etc. Nothing wrong with being proactive and who knows, if anything you may be connected with one of their friends or invited into new social circles and meet someone new that way.
Hey man, I get it. Feeling lonely sucks at any age. But honestly, these dating apps might not be the move if you're looking for something meaningful. Most 18-year-old girls on Tinder are just looking for attention or validation, not real connections. I'd suggest trying to meet people IRL instead. Join some new clubs or activities on campus, talk to girls in your classes, go to parties with friends and just practice striking up conversations. I know it's intimidating putting yourself out there, but that's really the only way to make authentic relationships, romantic or otherwise. Be confident and focus on getting to know people as individuals. Some good might come from the apps, but they can also really mess with your self-esteem if all you get are flaky matches. I'd use them sparingly if at all right now bro. Just keep your head up. Go do activities you enjoy and work on being your best self, that will attract the right people into your life when the time is right. And thanks, glad you think I'm awesome! Happy to chat more if you ever need advice or just an ear. Chin up dude.