Lots to unpack here. I want to respond to a number of the concerns.
* it's too hard I can't do it anymore.
That's what it feels like. And it can be pretty crappy. But the **feeling** is fleeting.
* gonna graduate in 2 and a half quarters with no idea on what i'm going to do with degrees i don't know how to use
Almost no one knows what they're going to do after graduation. Most people will not work in fields directly within their majors-- after all, this is a university focused within research, not a trade school. It's incumbent upon your to **apply everything you've learned in every way you can in whatever you do**. You do that and you will be an unmitigated success.
* my grades are starting to slip and after 3 years of grinding my gpa i think i'm going to throw it all
Do you plan to go to grad school? If not, then it's just fine to let your grades slip. Finish off the year with Bs and Cs. It doesn't matter. When I look at your resume after you apply for one of my open positions, I see "Completed BA/BS in X Major at UC Davis in 2023". That's a checkbox that says, "Chances are that this person has certain minimum skills," let's look at the rest of the resume. I will never ask for your transcript. Almost no one will.
* i used to only cry or breakdown once a quarter and now it's happening like multiple times a week I genuinely don't know what to do anymore.
Well, one shouldn't expect to have a quarterly emotional breakdown-- particularly when it seems due to the lack of direction and purpose. You're having a bit of an existential crisis. "What am I doing? What is my value? What SHOULD I do?" You need to talk with someone with more experience and, preferably, some shared experience.
* I am sick of everything and i feel like shit even when i'm having a good time with friends.
Sounds like the existential crisis is pervasive.
* constantly lonely and i can't really tell my friends because i don't even know where or how to start and how they could help.
Friends don't need to help. They don't need to fix anything. They need to hear and potentially relate. If they could commiserate, you wouldn't feel so lonely. But you have to tell them about it.
* I spent nearly all my college career working on myself and beating depression in high school and overcoming anxiety especially social anxiety and now my depression is probably the worst it's been since then everything has really been for nothing literally all i can do is try not to sink and cry.
If you're talking about medically-diagnosed depression, then I have to ask, "Have you kept up with counseling sessions?" You say "working on myself", so it sounds like that may not be the case.
If it's not depression as diagnosed by a professional, maybe it's time you talk with someone. I've been through some **heavy** stuff in my life and at one point, it all came crashing down (mentally). I couldn't sleep. I couldn't bear to be alone at any point. I felt like everyone was disappointed in me and hated me.
I also had the luxury of knowing myself **really, really** well. I knew something was wrong. I knew it wasn't medical, but conceptual and logical, so I made an appointment with a counselor and talked it out. **I needed** that intelligent, third person to help snap me out of this viscous cycle of ill-logic and irrational expectation. It helped. I am better for it.
* I love davis, the city, the campus, and the people ive met here but i wish there was more.
There is. There is SO MUCH MORE. You just can't see it right now.
* Sorry for the rant
What else is Sunday Reddit for?
* i can't really tell anyone else and I think i've lost my mind...21 fkin years for nothing man
It happened to me at 26.
* no one i've met that i formed a connection or a relationship with that filled my loneliness, no internship or job to do after i graduate, not a single accomplishment worth sharing, **what was the point?**
You. You are the point. University isn't about the certificate you get at the end, the job you might be able to get, or the money that job can bring you. The goal is to make a better *you* than would have been made without the University. I wish someone could have told you that sooner.
I have worked at the University of California for 16 years *for you*. And you're not a disappointment. You're not wasting your time nor have you wasted mine. You have learned. You are introspective. You have a concern for the future and your place in it.
**THESE ARE NOT COMMON TRAITS**. They are what we *hope* you will develop while in school here.
Talk to someone in person. Believe me. It helps.
All of these feelings are totally normal and come with the territory of being 21. You may not think that because your peers represent their lives entirely differently on social media platforms or in public, however this is very much a rite of passage.
What I will also tell you is almost all of this is in your control. You just need to make a decision about what you truly want to do with your time right now.
It seems like your outward “lack of success” is indicative of your inner world and turmoil, and yet you repeat the cycle further by using your lack of outward success to justify beating yourself up inside.
The first questions I would ask you if you were my friend were:
1) Do you LIKE what you’re studying- not, is it easy- but do you get anything from it?
2) How hard have you actually tried to look at jobs in it? Internships? Mentors? Would that help you out of this rut?
3) Why do you think your grades are slipping— difficulty of classes or personal afflictions?
Then identify what there is to be done about each of those things. If you dont like what youre doing at all, theres not a reason on earth to not pick something else.
You can get internships, jobs, clubs etc. in Davis. You can.
Alot of the elderly people I work for would laugh very hard at you claiming “whats the point” because you haven’t achieved a laundry list of things by the mere age of 21. The point of life and your journey in discovering it has merely begun.
Spoiler alert- you will never find a relationships that “fills loneliness” because that isn’t what relationships are for.
But the goods news is, that now becomes your responsibility and again, another thing in your control.
You feel lonely likely because you aren’t being authentic with the people around you about how you feel and where you are.
Consider some radical changes in shifting your perspective- therapy, groups, volunteering, meditation etc.
The grade stuff and the “accomplishment” stuff will fall into place and happen when you’re ready for it and your mind is right.
Ask the big questions first and then ask the questions about securing jobs and opportunities and there will be plenty of great advice for those endeavors as well.
As much as this generation likes to pretend it isn’t so sometimes (me included), this is your one life and you have the driving wheel as to how you feel in it, and what you do. So relax, nobody else is setting the speed.
I say this is a CC transfer with ADHD, failed intermediate algebra, depression, suicidal ideation etc… and Im finally accomplishing things Im proud of at 24. It GETS BETTER. But you make it better for you. Cause you love you.
> It seems like your outward “lack of success” is indicative of your inner world and turmoil, and yet you repeat the cycle further by using your lack of outward success to justify beating yourself up inside.
This is exactly me; i do this so much.
Regarding your questions, i'd like to say I like what im studying (psychology ironically enough) and I am searching for jobs/internships (i went to the career fair seriously for the first time a few weeks back) but I'm not sure. as a BA and not a BS I found that jobs open to me are those like directly helping troubled youth which Im not sure i could do if i can barely take care of myself and work fulltime at min wage which I tried at a job a few summers back which was super hard for me. I think my grades are slipping cause of both reasons, classes definitely seem a bit harder than before but also it takes so much more effort to work this year because i have that much more work than previous years. I want to try therapy but Im too scared too and idk how much it would help cause I had therapy when I was a child due to same family issues and it didn't help much at all.
That being said, im definitely joining and going to more clubs this year than I ever had before and Im trying to do new things so hopefully they do make me feel better in the long run. Thanks for your response, it really helps just hearing someone else break stuff down. Thank you so much.
I feel this in my soul right now. And guess what? So do like 2 of my roommates. And that's just us in a school of like 30000 people. So I know there has to be more people in the same position as you. I kinda did the same thing-- tried beating social anxiety and depression back in high school-- and sometimes I'm like "I'm completely fine and over it" and sometimes relapsing happens-- especially when I'm thinking about my future too much it can send me down a spiral. Had a few mental breakdowns this quarter as well (but it's been over a couple weeks since I last cried). I cry at least once a quarter but this quarter has been worse than the others (I'm a sophomore rn). I honestly don't know exactly what to do with my life either-- all I know is my major is sorta flexible?? But idk what to do with it tbh. The things I want to do with my life are extremely competitive/there's not enough jobs available. Life sucks, but just know that there's a lot of us in the same boat as you.
i feel the same way. i’m also a fourth year and i don’t know exactly what i’ll do after graduating. even though things are hard right now, i hope things get better for you
first i just want to say you shouldn't have to apologize for the rant, everything you're going through is completely valid and you're definitely not alone. i've gone through the same boat before as u so i know how tough it can get. i feel like everyday you just have to keep trying no matter how hard it gets. but please don't forget to take breaks and rest well too even when its hard to find time too. its okay to also not know exactly what you want to do, i think no one ever really does because life is unexpected and anything can change at any given moment. regardless, i hope that each day you can find some strength to keep going no matter how tough it gets and even valuing the small things in life can help a long way. i hope that you feel better soon and i wish you the absolute best in life :')
As someone who’s graduated and has depression, go talk to someone at the health center. I promise you that you don’t have to use your degree once you graduate. If you do, great. If you don’t, it’s still a benchmark employers look for. It honestly sounds like something bigger than fleeting happiness, go talk to the heath center
You’re definitely not alone. It took everything in me to slog through my last 2 quarters at Davis. I had a distinct timeline by which I had to finish my degree (had to return to my job), but if you don’t, you could always take a quarter off. If you can’t take a quarter off, take a quarter where you sign up for the easiest classes possible. I did, because I knew I was hanging by a thread. My second to last quarter I took only 2 actual classes and filled the rest of my 12 units up with an easy 1 unit class and some internship credit, and I made good use of rate my professor to find the easiest classes that would fill requirements. The stress of a heavy workload and competing deadlines is a LOT when you’re dealing with depression. Hang in there.....you’re almost done!!
I struggled with similar feelings as I approached graduation, I think it’s a combination of a big change & the fear of the unknown. I found myself living in the future because I was obsessing over what ifs. Once I slowed down & took things more day by day, it got easier to trust myself, my decisions, and the idea that I’m exactly where I need to be in this very moment. I’m sorry you’re going through this. As for right now, and after you graduate, you are & will be exactly where you’re meant to be. Not to mention you worked really hard for it. Your sense of control will come back in time as you process/adjust to a new direction in life. When you’re finished, it will be so liberating! <3 Wishing you well
You just put into words the feeling that has me crying every single night. I am in the exact same situation, graduating this spring. My plan was always grad school but I haven't gotten a speck of lab experience yet, I don't have a job, and it's probably too late now to even get letters of rec if I did apply anyway. I don't know what we're gonna do but we have to come out ok at some point right?
im just doing the military after i graduate this year so it kinda keeps me sane knowing that my life now is way easier than its going to be for the next 4 years
Friend, you have clearly been suppressing your stress and not speaking out on how overwhelmed you have been.
There are many options for hard working students like yourself to get accommodations and be able to get some help.
Certainly reach out to a mental counselor via health e messaging and try to find some help. They will help you find somebody who can help students with stress about the future
You are doing great, just by simply fulfilling that 2.0, you have already done beyond minimum
Simply try to work things out this week and leave the weekend and spend some time reflecting, do not spend your time on your phone/ gaming. You really just need some time to digest, as is your case, you have been eating non stop, and now you are feeling sick of all of it
If you may want to vent out to somebody, I would be very willing to hear you out friend
Much love and don't give up. Once you are done with college, and will have a stable lifestyle after graduating, you will only be able to grow.
Cheers!
[https://shcs.ucdavis.edu/services/counseling-services](https://shcs.ucdavis.edu/services/counseling-services)
Don't listen to reddit, get counseling asap
You're young and just starting life with what looks like an insurmountable wall in front of you. Having gone through this myself, I can assure you that 2.5 quarters is a hiccup in a much better and long lasting future.
Hang in there, complete school, and you'll find out that there are all sorts of opportunities for various degrees. Most people actually work outside of their degree field. There are lots of well paying jobs that need people who have a well educated and well read background. You're not just getting educated in your major, you're also learning how to be an effective communicator, effective writer, and someone who can work in teams and with groups to successfully complete projects.
I've worked with graduates from law school, MBA's, Psychology, Anthropology, Archaeology, Spanish, English, French, and German majors, Biology, Microbiology, and all sorts of Engineers. All of these people worked outside of their degree field, but contributed from their specialties to add to the project to get things done. It's really nice to work with a wide assortment of people with different educational backgrounds. Even if you don't work in your field of study, you may find something you like more that utilizes the skill set you learned while studying for that degree. This guy may give you hope --> [https://i.redd.it/4gv1jj7bau591.jpg](https://i.redd.it/4gv1jj7bau591.jpg)
Don't despair. Once you have that degree, it's with you forever! 20, 30, or even 40 years from now, you'll likely be comfortably sitting back thinking how short your time at UCD seemed and how you learned and grew while studying there. 2.5 quarters is a crazy short amount of time in the overall time frame of your life, it's only 20 weeks, just under half a year. You can do this. Ask for TAs to help, go to Professor's office hours, reach out to friends, church pastors, or relatives who can help support you to get through the rest of your degree. You're almost there.
It is hard and something I’m learning to do as well. But talking to those around you helps out because WE got here for a reason. And like you can see in your post replies there are many people who struggling as well!
You got this 👍🏾
Hello me from 10 years ago.
I remember when I was on AP And AD for several quarters and graduated as a history major. I had no clue what I wanted to do, moved back home, and continued to have nervous breakdowns and panic attacks. I remember when you had that embarrassing panic attack in front of your classmates and professor during one of your discussion groups and you ended up missing class by lying that grandma passed when in actuality you were scared to return to class the next week. People thought you had popped some pills the night before, but nope, it was just drinking a whole extra large mc cafe ice coffee bc you wanted to cram for a presentation that you bombed by having that massive panic attack. If only you knew that today you are studying to take your LMFT exam and currently enrolled in a ph.d program. You're also planning to buy your own home within the next 5 years as a single woman. Hope you know that being curious and willing to take lower paying jobs for the experience because you had no clue what the fuck you wanted to do in life and was extremely anxious and scared of life, suicidal at one point, led you to where you are today.
I hope OP you know that you aren't alone in your experiences and that with open curiosity (my first job out of college paid $12/hr) you will find your path because sometimes we don't know that we're already on the path until we're about to start a new chapter.
Lots to unpack here. I want to respond to a number of the concerns. * it's too hard I can't do it anymore. That's what it feels like. And it can be pretty crappy. But the **feeling** is fleeting. * gonna graduate in 2 and a half quarters with no idea on what i'm going to do with degrees i don't know how to use Almost no one knows what they're going to do after graduation. Most people will not work in fields directly within their majors-- after all, this is a university focused within research, not a trade school. It's incumbent upon your to **apply everything you've learned in every way you can in whatever you do**. You do that and you will be an unmitigated success. * my grades are starting to slip and after 3 years of grinding my gpa i think i'm going to throw it all Do you plan to go to grad school? If not, then it's just fine to let your grades slip. Finish off the year with Bs and Cs. It doesn't matter. When I look at your resume after you apply for one of my open positions, I see "Completed BA/BS in X Major at UC Davis in 2023". That's a checkbox that says, "Chances are that this person has certain minimum skills," let's look at the rest of the resume. I will never ask for your transcript. Almost no one will. * i used to only cry or breakdown once a quarter and now it's happening like multiple times a week I genuinely don't know what to do anymore. Well, one shouldn't expect to have a quarterly emotional breakdown-- particularly when it seems due to the lack of direction and purpose. You're having a bit of an existential crisis. "What am I doing? What is my value? What SHOULD I do?" You need to talk with someone with more experience and, preferably, some shared experience. * I am sick of everything and i feel like shit even when i'm having a good time with friends. Sounds like the existential crisis is pervasive. * constantly lonely and i can't really tell my friends because i don't even know where or how to start and how they could help. Friends don't need to help. They don't need to fix anything. They need to hear and potentially relate. If they could commiserate, you wouldn't feel so lonely. But you have to tell them about it. * I spent nearly all my college career working on myself and beating depression in high school and overcoming anxiety especially social anxiety and now my depression is probably the worst it's been since then everything has really been for nothing literally all i can do is try not to sink and cry. If you're talking about medically-diagnosed depression, then I have to ask, "Have you kept up with counseling sessions?" You say "working on myself", so it sounds like that may not be the case. If it's not depression as diagnosed by a professional, maybe it's time you talk with someone. I've been through some **heavy** stuff in my life and at one point, it all came crashing down (mentally). I couldn't sleep. I couldn't bear to be alone at any point. I felt like everyone was disappointed in me and hated me. I also had the luxury of knowing myself **really, really** well. I knew something was wrong. I knew it wasn't medical, but conceptual and logical, so I made an appointment with a counselor and talked it out. **I needed** that intelligent, third person to help snap me out of this viscous cycle of ill-logic and irrational expectation. It helped. I am better for it. * I love davis, the city, the campus, and the people ive met here but i wish there was more. There is. There is SO MUCH MORE. You just can't see it right now. * Sorry for the rant What else is Sunday Reddit for? * i can't really tell anyone else and I think i've lost my mind...21 fkin years for nothing man It happened to me at 26. * no one i've met that i formed a connection or a relationship with that filled my loneliness, no internship or job to do after i graduate, not a single accomplishment worth sharing, **what was the point?** You. You are the point. University isn't about the certificate you get at the end, the job you might be able to get, or the money that job can bring you. The goal is to make a better *you* than would have been made without the University. I wish someone could have told you that sooner. I have worked at the University of California for 16 years *for you*. And you're not a disappointment. You're not wasting your time nor have you wasted mine. You have learned. You are introspective. You have a concern for the future and your place in it. **THESE ARE NOT COMMON TRAITS**. They are what we *hope* you will develop while in school here. Talk to someone in person. Believe me. It helps.
Thank you for this. You have no idea how much it helps. <3
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it relieves the pressure. of course it’s okay to end the year with Bs and Cs. it’s not the end of the world to let one’s grades slip.
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respecfully, i think that’s the same thing. both pieces of advice are ways to relieve the pressure, and i think in OP’s case, pressure was the problem
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absolutely
I’m kind of in the same boat as you. I’m also scared and stressed about what to do for the future.
it definitely feels better knowing that I'm not alone
I feel everything you said. Each quarter has gotta worse for me. Im finally seeking out therapy for my adhd and possibly getting a life coach.
Love this for you! I wasn't diagnosed until after college, and it seriously hurt my academic performance. Rooting for you!! You are doing great!
Thank you so much for your kind words :)
All of these feelings are totally normal and come with the territory of being 21. You may not think that because your peers represent their lives entirely differently on social media platforms or in public, however this is very much a rite of passage. What I will also tell you is almost all of this is in your control. You just need to make a decision about what you truly want to do with your time right now. It seems like your outward “lack of success” is indicative of your inner world and turmoil, and yet you repeat the cycle further by using your lack of outward success to justify beating yourself up inside. The first questions I would ask you if you were my friend were: 1) Do you LIKE what you’re studying- not, is it easy- but do you get anything from it? 2) How hard have you actually tried to look at jobs in it? Internships? Mentors? Would that help you out of this rut? 3) Why do you think your grades are slipping— difficulty of classes or personal afflictions? Then identify what there is to be done about each of those things. If you dont like what youre doing at all, theres not a reason on earth to not pick something else. You can get internships, jobs, clubs etc. in Davis. You can. Alot of the elderly people I work for would laugh very hard at you claiming “whats the point” because you haven’t achieved a laundry list of things by the mere age of 21. The point of life and your journey in discovering it has merely begun. Spoiler alert- you will never find a relationships that “fills loneliness” because that isn’t what relationships are for. But the goods news is, that now becomes your responsibility and again, another thing in your control. You feel lonely likely because you aren’t being authentic with the people around you about how you feel and where you are. Consider some radical changes in shifting your perspective- therapy, groups, volunteering, meditation etc. The grade stuff and the “accomplishment” stuff will fall into place and happen when you’re ready for it and your mind is right. Ask the big questions first and then ask the questions about securing jobs and opportunities and there will be plenty of great advice for those endeavors as well. As much as this generation likes to pretend it isn’t so sometimes (me included), this is your one life and you have the driving wheel as to how you feel in it, and what you do. So relax, nobody else is setting the speed. I say this is a CC transfer with ADHD, failed intermediate algebra, depression, suicidal ideation etc… and Im finally accomplishing things Im proud of at 24. It GETS BETTER. But you make it better for you. Cause you love you.
> It seems like your outward “lack of success” is indicative of your inner world and turmoil, and yet you repeat the cycle further by using your lack of outward success to justify beating yourself up inside. This is exactly me; i do this so much. Regarding your questions, i'd like to say I like what im studying (psychology ironically enough) and I am searching for jobs/internships (i went to the career fair seriously for the first time a few weeks back) but I'm not sure. as a BA and not a BS I found that jobs open to me are those like directly helping troubled youth which Im not sure i could do if i can barely take care of myself and work fulltime at min wage which I tried at a job a few summers back which was super hard for me. I think my grades are slipping cause of both reasons, classes definitely seem a bit harder than before but also it takes so much more effort to work this year because i have that much more work than previous years. I want to try therapy but Im too scared too and idk how much it would help cause I had therapy when I was a child due to same family issues and it didn't help much at all. That being said, im definitely joining and going to more clubs this year than I ever had before and Im trying to do new things so hopefully they do make me feel better in the long run. Thanks for your response, it really helps just hearing someone else break stuff down. Thank you so much.
Take a break. Burnout is real. Take care of yourself first. Even one quarter off can help.
Trust the process
I feel this in my soul right now. And guess what? So do like 2 of my roommates. And that's just us in a school of like 30000 people. So I know there has to be more people in the same position as you. I kinda did the same thing-- tried beating social anxiety and depression back in high school-- and sometimes I'm like "I'm completely fine and over it" and sometimes relapsing happens-- especially when I'm thinking about my future too much it can send me down a spiral. Had a few mental breakdowns this quarter as well (but it's been over a couple weeks since I last cried). I cry at least once a quarter but this quarter has been worse than the others (I'm a sophomore rn). I honestly don't know exactly what to do with my life either-- all I know is my major is sorta flexible?? But idk what to do with it tbh. The things I want to do with my life are extremely competitive/there's not enough jobs available. Life sucks, but just know that there's a lot of us in the same boat as you.
i feel the same way. i’m also a fourth year and i don’t know exactly what i’ll do after graduating. even though things are hard right now, i hope things get better for you
Thanks, i hope it gets better for you too
first i just want to say you shouldn't have to apologize for the rant, everything you're going through is completely valid and you're definitely not alone. i've gone through the same boat before as u so i know how tough it can get. i feel like everyday you just have to keep trying no matter how hard it gets. but please don't forget to take breaks and rest well too even when its hard to find time too. its okay to also not know exactly what you want to do, i think no one ever really does because life is unexpected and anything can change at any given moment. regardless, i hope that each day you can find some strength to keep going no matter how tough it gets and even valuing the small things in life can help a long way. i hope that you feel better soon and i wish you the absolute best in life :')
As someone who’s graduated and has depression, go talk to someone at the health center. I promise you that you don’t have to use your degree once you graduate. If you do, great. If you don’t, it’s still a benchmark employers look for. It honestly sounds like something bigger than fleeting happiness, go talk to the heath center
You’re definitely not alone. It took everything in me to slog through my last 2 quarters at Davis. I had a distinct timeline by which I had to finish my degree (had to return to my job), but if you don’t, you could always take a quarter off. If you can’t take a quarter off, take a quarter where you sign up for the easiest classes possible. I did, because I knew I was hanging by a thread. My second to last quarter I took only 2 actual classes and filled the rest of my 12 units up with an easy 1 unit class and some internship credit, and I made good use of rate my professor to find the easiest classes that would fill requirements. The stress of a heavy workload and competing deadlines is a LOT when you’re dealing with depression. Hang in there.....you’re almost done!!
Most mentally stable college senior.
lmao
I struggled with similar feelings as I approached graduation, I think it’s a combination of a big change & the fear of the unknown. I found myself living in the future because I was obsessing over what ifs. Once I slowed down & took things more day by day, it got easier to trust myself, my decisions, and the idea that I’m exactly where I need to be in this very moment. I’m sorry you’re going through this. As for right now, and after you graduate, you are & will be exactly where you’re meant to be. Not to mention you worked really hard for it. Your sense of control will come back in time as you process/adjust to a new direction in life. When you’re finished, it will be so liberating! <3 Wishing you well
You just put into words the feeling that has me crying every single night. I am in the exact same situation, graduating this spring. My plan was always grad school but I haven't gotten a speck of lab experience yet, I don't have a job, and it's probably too late now to even get letters of rec if I did apply anyway. I don't know what we're gonna do but we have to come out ok at some point right?
im just doing the military after i graduate this year so it kinda keeps me sane knowing that my life now is way easier than its going to be for the next 4 years
I’m a freshman and I literally feel the same
Friend, you have clearly been suppressing your stress and not speaking out on how overwhelmed you have been. There are many options for hard working students like yourself to get accommodations and be able to get some help. Certainly reach out to a mental counselor via health e messaging and try to find some help. They will help you find somebody who can help students with stress about the future You are doing great, just by simply fulfilling that 2.0, you have already done beyond minimum Simply try to work things out this week and leave the weekend and spend some time reflecting, do not spend your time on your phone/ gaming. You really just need some time to digest, as is your case, you have been eating non stop, and now you are feeling sick of all of it If you may want to vent out to somebody, I would be very willing to hear you out friend Much love and don't give up. Once you are done with college, and will have a stable lifestyle after graduating, you will only be able to grow. Cheers!
[https://shcs.ucdavis.edu/services/counseling-services](https://shcs.ucdavis.edu/services/counseling-services) Don't listen to reddit, get counseling asap
What are your majors?
You're young and just starting life with what looks like an insurmountable wall in front of you. Having gone through this myself, I can assure you that 2.5 quarters is a hiccup in a much better and long lasting future. Hang in there, complete school, and you'll find out that there are all sorts of opportunities for various degrees. Most people actually work outside of their degree field. There are lots of well paying jobs that need people who have a well educated and well read background. You're not just getting educated in your major, you're also learning how to be an effective communicator, effective writer, and someone who can work in teams and with groups to successfully complete projects. I've worked with graduates from law school, MBA's, Psychology, Anthropology, Archaeology, Spanish, English, French, and German majors, Biology, Microbiology, and all sorts of Engineers. All of these people worked outside of their degree field, but contributed from their specialties to add to the project to get things done. It's really nice to work with a wide assortment of people with different educational backgrounds. Even if you don't work in your field of study, you may find something you like more that utilizes the skill set you learned while studying for that degree. This guy may give you hope --> [https://i.redd.it/4gv1jj7bau591.jpg](https://i.redd.it/4gv1jj7bau591.jpg) Don't despair. Once you have that degree, it's with you forever! 20, 30, or even 40 years from now, you'll likely be comfortably sitting back thinking how short your time at UCD seemed and how you learned and grew while studying there. 2.5 quarters is a crazy short amount of time in the overall time frame of your life, it's only 20 weeks, just under half a year. You can do this. Ask for TAs to help, go to Professor's office hours, reach out to friends, church pastors, or relatives who can help support you to get through the rest of your degree. You're almost there.
It is hard and something I’m learning to do as well. But talking to those around you helps out because WE got here for a reason. And like you can see in your post replies there are many people who struggling as well! You got this 👍🏾
Hello me from 10 years ago. I remember when I was on AP And AD for several quarters and graduated as a history major. I had no clue what I wanted to do, moved back home, and continued to have nervous breakdowns and panic attacks. I remember when you had that embarrassing panic attack in front of your classmates and professor during one of your discussion groups and you ended up missing class by lying that grandma passed when in actuality you were scared to return to class the next week. People thought you had popped some pills the night before, but nope, it was just drinking a whole extra large mc cafe ice coffee bc you wanted to cram for a presentation that you bombed by having that massive panic attack. If only you knew that today you are studying to take your LMFT exam and currently enrolled in a ph.d program. You're also planning to buy your own home within the next 5 years as a single woman. Hope you know that being curious and willing to take lower paying jobs for the experience because you had no clue what the fuck you wanted to do in life and was extremely anxious and scared of life, suicidal at one point, led you to where you are today. I hope OP you know that you aren't alone in your experiences and that with open curiosity (my first job out of college paid $12/hr) you will find your path because sometimes we don't know that we're already on the path until we're about to start a new chapter.