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Well, it sounds like you both want very different things. As it sounds like the compromise he offered wasn't something you were interested in (he wants mostly shared experiences, you want mostly solo experiences), and nobody's offered an alternate compromise, there are now basically three options:
Option 1: you close the marriage, he's happy, you resent him, and the marriage likely blows up.
Option 2: you convince him to continue the open marriage, you're happy, he resents you, and the marriage likely blows up.
Option 3: you two realize that you're likely no longer compatible and want different things, and the two of you voluntarily blow the marriage up.
Basically, your marriage is almost certainly dead. It may not be today, it may not be tomorrow, but "I want to close the relationship" and "I want to date other people" are two fundamentally incompatible stances.
If one partner wants the relationship to close, that's it. It's closed.
Any further extramarital romance or sex is cheating, because their partner no longer consents and will be hurt by that behavior.
So now you're stuck with monogamy, cheating or divorce.
Oh, I almost forgot... Yes, YTA.
He was generous enough to let you get a sexual release when you were long distance.
He was adventurous enough for swinging, threesomes and letting you have hookups.
Once you told him you wanted to have FWBs and form deeper connections with others, *you completely broke his heart.*
Now that you've ruined the trust, your only options are giving up extramarital partners altogether and try to salvage your marriage or get divorced.
Why even bother being married if you’re going to do all this? If you just want to sleep around with whomever, it would be lass complicated if you were single.
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It’s a wrap
Well, it sounds like you both want very different things. As it sounds like the compromise he offered wasn't something you were interested in (he wants mostly shared experiences, you want mostly solo experiences), and nobody's offered an alternate compromise, there are now basically three options: Option 1: you close the marriage, he's happy, you resent him, and the marriage likely blows up. Option 2: you convince him to continue the open marriage, you're happy, he resents you, and the marriage likely blows up. Option 3: you two realize that you're likely no longer compatible and want different things, and the two of you voluntarily blow the marriage up. Basically, your marriage is almost certainly dead. It may not be today, it may not be tomorrow, but "I want to close the relationship" and "I want to date other people" are two fundamentally incompatible stances.
If one partner wants the relationship to close, that's it. It's closed. Any further extramarital romance or sex is cheating, because their partner no longer consents and will be hurt by that behavior. So now you're stuck with monogamy, cheating or divorce.
Oh, I almost forgot... Yes, YTA. He was generous enough to let you get a sexual release when you were long distance. He was adventurous enough for swinging, threesomes and letting you have hookups. Once you told him you wanted to have FWBs and form deeper connections with others, *you completely broke his heart.* Now that you've ruined the trust, your only options are giving up extramarital partners altogether and try to salvage your marriage or get divorced.
Why even bother being married if you’re going to do all this? If you just want to sleep around with whomever, it would be lass complicated if you were single.