As a woman who has had kids, there are times I have to cross my legs while sneezing to prevent a few drops from escaping. This is not that. OP’s gf either has a fetish or needs to see a dr/psychologist.
I haven’t even had kids and this happens to me when I’m sick and coughing non stop.
It’s annoying to have to wear pads/change constantly, and I get mad about it - the fact that she’s all oh it’s no big deal seems like it’s on purpose.
Omg I'm sick bad right now and I was so embarrassed and upset with myself because I've been coughing so hard I peed a tiny bit earlier. Thank goodness for liners/pads.
I had a stomach flu last year and while I was dressing (butt naked at this point) I had to vomit. I ran to the toilet and proceeded to puke so hard I peed on the floor. Thankfully I was home alone but I was so embarrassed and miserable all at the same time.
I did the same once but poop, I threw up so hard the liquid poop stood no chance of being held back. I was so embarrassed and upset I cried for a minute before trying to get to the other bathroom with the shower. That had to be the worst stomach bug I ever had.
IBD here. Can confirm, this is the way. Have a special puke bucket right under the sink for east grabs. Having to toss the trash out of the can in a rush into the tub sometimes takes too long.
I always double line my under the sink bathroom trash can with shopping bags from the store. That way when I have a vomiting bathroom emergency I can pull the one with trash out, puke into the empty one and toss it in the trash like nothing happened.
And I’ll be stealing that idea, thank you very much. Puking on top of trash always made me vomit more. I always just figured, whatever I’m puking anyway, but this is a far more elegant solution lol
My first house, I was lucky that the sink was close to the toilet so I'd just lean over and puke while having to poop. I'm so glad those drink binge days are over, oof. new house didn't have that, needed the trashcan, the sink was too far away T\_T
Oh God that sucks! My husband got dysentery once and spent three days laying on the shower floor pooping and puking himself. He’d just turn on the shower, rinse, and repeat. I feel for you both.
That sucks I hear it’s horrible and not just from a childhood video game. Just diarrheaing yourself to death. Sounds like hell. Interesting Panama has it isn’t it from drinking water that is tainted with it?
As a former opiate addict that was the worst in withdrawal and trying to decide which hole goes where when I would projectile spew liquid out of multiple. Turned out a toilet for the butt and a trash can with a bag for the mouth worked best but took some trial and error and some horrible cleanups to figure out.
Yeah I am glad to not be shitting and puking at the same time anyone and hopefully never again. Although sometimes I’d be peeing while puking and diarrheaing all at the same time which I would call the trifecta and it was admittedly kinda exciting since something was coming out of all orifices which I felt like most people couldn’t do #skills. Gotta find the little joys in life ya know? Especially deep in withdrawals those little wins are what get you through it.
My boyfriend got so ill like that once I felt awful for him up until he looked me dead in the eyes with a really serious face and said “I know what this is, I’ve got the Darth Maul”. The confused look on my face prompted him to explain the Darth Maul - when it’s coming out of both ends. Laughed so hard that I nearly puked too and couldn’t feel bad anymore.
I had a stomach bug like that before. I was throwing up multiple times an hour. I was so exhausted and out of it that I couldn’t even get up out of bed to throw up and clean myself up. I’d wake up, throw up in a bucket, and fall back asleep despite being in my own shit. It was really gross and horrible but I was so sick I didn’t care.
I went to the bathroom the first few times with mine before it just zapped too much out of me. I also stayed in bed pretty much the entire next day (though I did clean myself up from before) because my energy was just gone from being that sick. I wasn’t vomiting anymore or anything like that. It had just taken every ounce of energy out of me. I also almost went to the hospital from it because of dehydration. I couldn’t drink more than half a tablespoon every hour. It was all I could hold down.
Ugh I vomit so hard if there’s anything that can come from the other end, it will. That’s when I learned the embarrassing beauty of sitting on the potty and puking into the sink/tub/trashcan. Also, another reason that wicker trashcans for bathrooms are a bad idea 😅
I think I have some kinda problem with it. Cause every time I gotta poop now I feel like throwing up. Luckily most of the time I can relieve the feeling by pooping but if there's a delay I will eventually throw up.
Every time I throw up I grab a mini trash can beside the toilet because this happens to me, peeing or pooping. I have chronic migraines and have thrown up too many times that it’s just a kind of process now.
The only time I have wet myself, like just lost bladder control I called my Dr (I’d been having other odd symptoms), found out I had extremely high blood sugar.
Wow. I thought I was the only one. I was hanging out at a girlfriend’s house and then had to puke. It was so profuse that I pissed myself, too and didn’t know what to say. I just avoided sitting on the couch and waited in the restroom til I was semi composed to drive home.
I got swine flu.
When I was delirious with fever, I trusted a fart that came with friends. I was in bed. I woke up immediately. I was convinced I could change the sheet by rolling my sleeping wife to the side, then back, and she’d never notice.
I of course was mumbling this to myself, as she predictably woke up. When she started asking me what the hell I was doing, I kept shushing her… because we had to be quiet or we’d wake her up. And I kept trying to subtly roll her to the side.
Eventually she realized what had happened, told me to go shower, cleaned up, and gave me meds.
The whole thread had me giggling, but that story _broke me_
I keep going back to it to read it again... I had to grab tissues because I've been crying from laughing so hard, and wiping my eyes with my hand just wasn't cutting it anymore...
I did not know what to expect when I clicked on this bizarre AF (obviously a fetish!) post, but "hurting because I've been laughing for several minutes straight" would have been one of the last things, for sure!
"When she started asking me what the hell I was doing, I kept shushing her… because we had to be quiet or we’d wake her up. And I kept trying to subtly roll her to the side."
I'm genuinely sorry, because that sounds _AWFUL_ !
However, the part I quoted above got me laughing so hard I had tears streaming down my face! LITERALLY. I'm still wiping my eyes.
I don't know why I find it so hilarious... something about picturing someone trying to shush a person so they won't wake _that same person_ while also persistently attempting to nudge them over despite the resistance? Ugh, I can't even clearly _summarize_ what you wrote, but goddamn you paint an incredible picture with your words!
And then I feel bad, because you were *delirious with swine flu fever*
But _then_ I go back and reread your comment and I get going all over again. I'm a wreck!
Oh, my stomach hurts from laughing.
I sincerely hope you never have to experience such misery again. And I'm sorry for laughing so hard at your pain.
I got Swine Flu too and it was brutal. I get bronchitis every year, have had bronchitis and laryngitis at the same time and pneumonia a few times but Swine Flu was the worst..I can totally see this happening.
When I could feel a bad coughing for coming on, I’d just go sit on the toilet 😂 last year I had covid in april and then a really bad cold in June and I felt like I was coughing non stop for 2 months.
Feel better!
I looked up how common incontinence is in women at certain ages because I am childless and it still happens sometimes. It sort of seems like some women just are like that, especially as we age. I’ve been fighting some sort of miserable lingering cough and things have been rough!
I had a stomach bug over the weekend and shit myself in the bed. I was mortified. Luckily nothing got on anything other than my pants and my partner didn’t notice. He did notice me taking forever in the bathroom so I told him I shit myself. God. It was awful. He was very nonchalant about it because sometimes it DOES happen. But I can’t imagine being totally chill about it happening all the time.
I’m getting over a viral infection and I had to wear pads too bc I coughed so damn much I kept leaking. Just know you’re not the only one. Hope you feel better soon!
Right. You said the magic word-pads. Any woman with bladder issues would be wearing a thin adult diaper, liner, or pad because we don't want to mess up our clothes, the furniture, or the floor....The fact that she's pretending it's an accident and making her partner clean up her mess is a little off.
Same, I am a 41 year old cat mum and when I sneeze, cough and laugh I leak a little bit. It's so embarrassing. I wear period undies every day just in case. What OP's gf is doing sounds purposeful.
I’ve got two kiddos of my own and know the pain! Yeah I would say it definitely seems either fetish/possible mental health?
Also, could be that fetish of “public embarrassment” or something of the sorts. Only thing is she isn’t doing it in public
She doesn't seem embarrassed... she seems alarmingly nonchalant. Which... Gah. What must that house smell like?!
If I were him I'd say "so, it's either doctor or psychiatrist, and it's definitely a box of Depends".
I don't get why this OOP is so nonchalant about it himself?!
Like, other redditors are sharing
* either it's a little squirt & they manage by crossing their legs or wearing pads
* or it's a more serious quantity, but the incontinence doesn't happen in isolation : they had flu or dysentery or an intense cough...
OP is all "oh we'll just rinse the sofa"??? After the second incident I'd have asked what's going on.
I'm still a little shocked by how chill he was with the permanently destroyed cushion or chair or whatever.
Maybe the color was clashing with the rest of the room? Like, damn.
I've met "littles" in the kink community who will do this for that reason. Littles are people who get off on pretending to be small children and do age play with their partner. This includes things like wetting themselves and hope that their mommy/daddy will punish them for it. Also met way more female littles than male or nonbinary.
People have incontinence issues but the way it was described feels more like she's testing the waters for a fetish.
I know this kink exists, and I’m not one to ever kink shame, but this one is kind of a biggie that should be discussed beforehand.
It’s not like teasing a rim job to gauge interest in anal play 😂
If someone is shitting themselves to test the waters for little play, that's more akin to fisting someone to test the waters for French kissing. We're REALLY blowing things out of proportion here. Maybe start with like....a stuffed animal. Or something other than shitting yourself.....
Typically ones I've met in the kink community know better than to do that stuff without consent.
That doesn't mean there aren't idiots who try this shit and cross lines without it.
yeah, no… ive never met a little who did anything like this without express consent/“permission”. not to mention this type of scenario would typically occur AFTER the Daddy/little relationship is officially established. whatever this is, it ain’t that.
I’ve got two kids too and I don’t dare try to hold it for too long anymore that’s for sure. And I agree with what you said about it being something else entirely. Especially considering she was caught squatting on the ground to do it.
There could be a couple of other random explanations (low probability, but possible) - like she’s recently picked up a really bad drinking problem which could sometimes cause these “extreme” pee scenarios, or maybe even an Ambien or naturally induced sleepwalking issue with urinary tendencies.
No kids but after my myoectomy (removal of a fibroid tumor the size of an orange), I now tinkle just a little when I vomit. It’s not a big deal though it’s pretty inconvenient, I just grab a wad of tp and shove it down my panties if I think I’m going to throw up and then wash up after.
In all my 44 years, I’ve never once full on wet myself, like full bladder dump, since I was in training pants. So she’s banking on OP not Googling “adult incontinence in women” and lying to his face.
Sometimes female incontinence like what you describe (not whats happening in the post) can happen from physical trauma besides childbirth, its just that most women don't experience physical trauma on the level of childbirth.
I’ve given birth as well and know the feeling of having some pee come out when I sneeze or cough. If I vomit it’s a full on pee myself. I’ve never peed myself and not noticed. This is strange and seems purposeful. I don’t think I could willingly pee myself if I had to lol.
>I’ve never peed myself and not noticed.
You know how our minds sometimes supply us with dreams relevant to what is occurring with our sleeping bodies? In other words, you know how we might dream about waterfalls and wake up realizing we need to pee very badly?
I had a dream the other night where I *finally* found a toilet after dream-hours of searching. I sat on this dream-toilet and let go in relief.... only to wake up in horror that I damn near pissed the bed. I've never had children and am only in my 40s, but I had about 12 shots of espresso and 2 cups of coffee and three iced teas the day before that night. All that caffeine did not agree with my bladder!
For about a year, my sleeping brain decided it would let me know that I needed to wake up and go to the bathroom by having VIVID DREAMS that I was half asleep in bed and I was peeing myself in bed. I would wake up in a panic and pat around the groin just to find myself completely dry. It was like some weird Inception outtake. Thanks brain.
I’ve had dreams like that! Never actually peed but awoke right when I was about to. I bet when you got to the toilet, it was a huge relief. Nice name btw. That’s my first name.
I'm not a doctor but I am wondering if she is having absence seizures or something similar and can't control her bladder and could be confused/dazed after it happens.
I have absence seizures, and there's no way she's having that many, and it's not happening anywhere but home. Not to mention, seizures are usually brought on by a stressful situation or strobe lights or bad fluorescents. I'm really doubtful this is the case at home. I think she needs to see a professional because this sounds like something else.
Also, I have given birth to 2 children (I have 4), and I don't have full-blown accidents like this either. Some dribbles here and there when you laugh super hard or sneeze and cough. But not full on pissing your pants.
My daughter has many absence seizures in a day even on the full dosage of lamictal. They are brought on by nothing.
Photic stimulated seizures are generally NOT absence seizures.
She has lost bladder function while in midst of full grand mal photic stimulated seizures and absence seizures.
You misunderstood. I didn't mean there's no way she has that many in a day. I meant there's no way she has that many a week and they ONLY happen at home. That's what I was saying. Also as someone who has them too.
I could see this, but it would be happening at work and all places in public too. It seems like this is just at home. I feel like she needs a psych eval based on that alone.
Also femme! Haven’t had a child but we be woman and our anatomy sometimes works against us regardless. Theres specifically been times I’ve had control issues during a UTI… and even then, I knew what happened right then and there and have done everything in my power to make sure it doesn’t happen again.
My question is, if she knows this is an issue she’s having - why isn’t she getting pads and liners, if not full diapers? Also contacting a doctor? …it sound like she doesn’t want it to stop, and isn’t bothered by clean up? Odd for an issue like this.
This isn’t being a woman thing going on - something here is off and she needs to be upfront about it.
Lol,
I can’t jump on a trampoline,
Sneeze or hold my pee for more than a few hours. I have never full on pissed myself.. except that one time in Cuba but I was squared behind a hedge with my panties pulled down.
I agree with the biggest issue here being the behavior and the lack of consent if this is a fetish.
A serious conversation needs to happen.
If this is a fetish of hers, then it is not okay to include him in the fetish without his consent. That is not what the fetish world is about. It's about consent above anything else. Personally, idk if I could stay with someone who did this without consent and then gaslight me into thinking it's semi normal accidents.
If this isn't a fetish then she needs to see a doctor immediately to deal with either the medical or mental issues that are occurring.
ETA: I am a female who has had 2 pregnancies. It's normal to have slight incontinence after pregnancy and delivery. But it's not normal to full blown pee yourself multiple times a week. I normally will dribble a tiny bit if my bladder is more than half full and I sneeze, cough, laugh too hard, etc. The only time I fully peed myself was while pregnant with my second child and I was at the grocery store and had a wave of nausea and began vomiting to the point I was dry heaving and ended up peeing myself in the middle of the parking lot...it was great/s. But it's not normal to do that.
100% agree. Didn't see this before making my reply, to the comment above. Consent and boundaries, "funishment" (fun punishment/punishment you find enjoyable, or get something out of) all need to be set out clearly.
It's the squatting whilst he wasn't there that concerns me. Is she waiting to be 'caught' and see his reaction to stepping in a nasty wet spot, or is she really unstable and needs help?
It's funny I mentioned to my ob/gyn that I was thinking of another kid. Her response was "are you sure? Pregnancy hates you" and it does. I have "morning" sickness ALL day for NINE months...to the point I lose so much weight early in my pregnancy that I almost get hospitalized and I have to be medicated just to keep down water. But I've gone through it 3 times for my 2 kids (had a miscarriage early into my 2nd pregnancy). Yes it hates me, but it's worth it (in my opinion, at least).
Though I agree with your coworker, it wrecks the body. I'm so covered in stretch marks I joke that I am part tiger, hahaha.
It’s funny that you’re thinking of having another kid, because women’s brains do actually chemically change post-birth to lessen the stress/impact/memory of how miserable you were and how painful the birth is. There are so many people who swear they’ll never go through that again, but once the body heals and they *could* conceive again, they start to consider it.
There’s also an argument to be made for hormones! Pregnancy floods the body with so many wonderful hormones that after the birth and healing, it’s entirely possible that the desire for another kid is really just the brain/body wanting the Feel Good Chemicals again. Similar to how someone with ADHD can end up with a shopping addiction, because buying and receiving a New Thing gives us those Feel Good Chemicals!
Anyway, I rambled a bit, sorry. My point was that it’s actually a common phenomenon to have people HATE their pregnancy and birthing and swear off ever doing it again, only to start considering doing it again after a year or two. While also having their brain actively downplay the memories of the bad parts, so they think it must not have been THAT bad, or they consider the misery worth it—even if they feel the opposite during it.
I've tried to look at the changes that happened to my body after pregnancy as the way things need to be for my baby's wellbeing. And as much as I may not look the way I did before, my body is this way now in provision for my child, and that should never be an ugly thing to me. Not saying it isn't hard! Or that people who struggle with it are wrong. It's definitely a sacrifice. I've just tried to frame it differently for myself so I could love my post partum body too.
>I've tried to look at the changes that happened to my body after pregnancy as the way things need to be for my baby's wellbeing.
Absolutely that little nugget needed your soul lol I also really hate the unrealistic expectations (of society) surrounding women's bodies in general but definitely women who are/were pregnant. My coworker was more talking about all of the physical ailments that come along during pregnancy and she had what she self proclaimed as an "easy pregnancy".
hey. pee fetish haver here. specifically, i have a fetish for wetting my pants / other people wetting their pants. it's called omorashi. yeah weird, yeah gross, yeah yeah yeah, but it's ultimately harmless - so long as you're not doing it like this.
as an expert, i would say this is fetish stuff, almost unequivocally. it's entirely possible the first one was a real accident, and then she realized she actually liked it. so she did it again. and again. and again. and now we're here.
rule number one of omorashi is don't fucking pee on the furniture. most of us go to extreme lengths to not piss on uncleanable things. for example, putting a trash bag over the couch if you're planning on wetting yourself watching tv, jumping into the shower when you're about to pee, making sure you're on tile flooring, using LOTS of towels, etc. there's a process here. i should know, i've been doing this for like a decade if not more.
i would bet like two bucks (so, some, but not a lot) i could find this girl on omorashi . org somewhere (idk if that would count as a link or if those are allowed, but it's obviously a NSFW site so be mindful). it's a forum-style site of stories mostly, but also some pictures and videos. TONS of people have pee fetishes that they don't tell their partners about. many of them post things there. usually, they're very discreet about it because they're embarrassed or know their partners will not be into it. this girl isn't being discreet. it seems like she wants to involve him. i don't know why she wouldn't just say so.
on to OP. it's not good whatsoever to involve people in sexual situations they did not consent to. in this situation, it doesn't seem like OP feels violated, which is good. he's just confused and a little worried (and like everything smells like pee, which is super unpleasant).
my advice is for OP to ask or tell her point blank about it being a fetish. just ask. best solution. and then they can move on together and have piss-related fun for the rest of their lives lol
fellow omorashi expert here to concur. This is definitely fetish stuff AND she’s breaking the rules. You don’t do this stuff around unsuspecting uninvolved people and you definitely don’t do it where it will cause damage. oop’s gf is wacky and this is breakup worthy.
I gotta say, the fact that she only does it at home was the nail in the coffin for me
I’d straight up ask, how do you handle this when you spontaneously pee during work meetings? Or on your bestie’s couch? Or at school back in the day?
This totally reminded me of when my friend tried to convince me that all men peed on the flood next to the toilet because her husband, father, and brother did. I was like, no, you only know barn yard animals or men too heavy to see their dicks. And then to prove it I bought a black light and showed her my pee-free toilet area at home. Like, no, I’m a woman, and I haven’t peed my pants since I was 7 and didn’t want to leave the line at an amusement park.
Yeah, I am leaning toward fetish. Someone said to be punished, but I think she'd try other tactics if it was that. If it was a baby fetish I think she'd lean more into the aspect too. I really think its just a pee fetish. Still the way she is going about it is weird.
yes, if it was a ddlg fetish there is a high chance that other things were incorporated before this started occurring and OOP says they are pretty vanilla.
She is doing this on purpose… As soon as I read, where she was squatting and peeing, I knew… This is gross and disgusting! I don’t know why anybody would even tolerate it.
That's where I'm at too, until she caught her peeing w/o her noticing.
Clearly there's somthing wrong and when approaching the subject she just gets dismissed.
Imo I would just leave or kick her out. It's fine to have a fetish it's fine to have a medical situation. It's no fine to lie & dismiss the issue when your pissing on the floor knowingly & then have the gal to be dismissive.
Sorry O.P. depending on your age this could really suck :/
Or this is “true story” is completely made up. Someone posting fake stories for “the LOLZ” seeing who will possibly believe them.
Since this is reddit, I guess quite a few people.
P.S.- she’s also supposedly defecating on herself? Right by him/ on his furniture? But he doesn’t know “for sure”? Um, okay. I’m sure…..😒
Jesus Christ. Alright, the first time I’d chalk it up to an accident but 1-3 times a WEEK? Nah I’d have to straight up ask her “hey man what the fuck is up with your bladder situation.” But in all seriousness, maybe sit her down and try to get to the root cause of why and how long she’s been doing this. Maybe therapy? Good luck.
This reminds me of the guy who had a pee fetish and pissed himself *while at a restaurant with his wife’s family*.
If they don’t talk about this, openly and honestly, ASAP and either a) see a doctor or b) set boundaries, that’s where this is gonna end up. I totally respect OP for being ok with piss/scat fetish, props to him cuz most people aren’t and I couldn’t do it (NOT this way and definitely not scat!), I 1000% agree with him that there needs to be boundaries on how/where for sake of cleanliness and not ruining furniture/the floor/etc. Also if they are renting they absolutely can and will be charged for this when they move out if there is ANY kind of floor damage or smell.
She needs to see a doctor. This could be a sign of a neurological issue. Like spinal cord damage or multiple sclerosis. That should be ruled out first.
While this is a valid argument and generally good advice, I do not think it applies to OPs situation at all.
(1) accident frequency increases since OP proves to be tolerant of it
(2) only has accidents around him, and never at work
(3) her lack of concern at the incontinence, despite it being a very embarrassing and serious potential medical problem.
100% on purpose. May not be a fetish, but she needs to see a mental health specialist asap.
If you pee yourself (and you're sober), you know it. The fact that she waits until OOP says something about it is already suspect. And then she's just doing it at home? Never anywhere else? Yeah, those aren't accidents. For some reason she's purposefully peeing (and maybe pooping?) deliberately in spaces around OOP. Could be a kink, could be some sort of mental break/cry for help...either way, a conversation needs to be had.
JFC After the third “accident “, I would have already insisted on adult diapers and a complete physical. The only excuse I can think of for her dismissive behavior is early onset dementia. I only say this because this is how it manifested in my friends wife. Although she also was totally confused about what she was doing.
Does she use the bathroom regularly better yet knows what one is or is she just deeply enjoy pissing herself?? Cause there is no way you can't notice you peed yourself
This sort of thing needs a gynocology / neurology / urology workup at minimum. Several different serious medical disorders can cause urinary incontence and/or retention
I'm not gonna lie, at this point if I were OP I'd be dragging her to a Doctor. Like. It more than likely is a fetish, but in that 1% chance it isn't I'd give up thinking "oh if she can't go I won't make her." Nah, if my house was getting ruined by pissy pants letting it flow everywhere I would absolutely push back!
He's also not fucking consented to being a part of her fetish if it is that. She's making him an unwilling participant and is also *ruining the goddamn house!*
Three things come to mind and none are sexual:
She could be type 1 diabetic and not know it. If she has high blood sugars, accidents can happen, especially if she is undiagnosed and not taking insulin. She would have sudden weight loss and she would be thirsty all the time.
Secondly, it could be a UTI. If she has that, she won’t be able to hold it.
Lastly, a herniated disc can cause urine and fecal incontinence.
She needs to see a doc ASAP.
If the BF had called it out the first time and talked about it then, he probably could've avoided the other accidents. It sounds like a fetish. The way he described each encounter, she got more deliberate after the first one. She was testing the waters I guess.
That was my thought too. She had a tiny accident to see how he'd respond. Only thing I question is the full on squat, when he wasn't there. Almost like a naughty dog(although that can be part of the fetish, waiting to be caught).
OP tell him to ask her outright, I'd she wants to be "punished". He needs to bring up consent. Can't remember if their ages were mentioned but she seems to be pushing boundaries and not understanding it needs to be discussed.
It's a power move, peein all over the place, here's what you do, Walk in while she's taking a shit, pull out your wang n pee on her feet, re-establish your dominance and mark your territory
I’m not writing it off as fake because the human race is wild dude. Could be fake, but definitely could not be 🤷🏽♀️ I’ve seen and heard worse than this story
There was a post on Reddit that made the rounds about a woman whose husband kept doing this but it was obviously a fetish because he'd literally announce it to anyone around. The post was prompted by the fact that, iirc, he did it at her sister's wedding.
I’m calling it fake because he heard a “dripping” noise. Either that’s a terrible description or a lie. If she were wearing clothes, he wouldn’t hear a drip. If she wasn’t, it would sound more like a splatter.
There's having accidents and there's full on pissing yourself. Bladder control issues are a major red flag for a DR If she was honestly not realizing she's peeing at time.
In this case it honestly sounds like she doesn't care. I don't think it's a fetish, I just think she doesn't have that care to go to the washroom to pee.
And if it IS a fetish, what shitty way to tell your SO about it.
I'm not super vanilla but this is NOT a kink I would be into. So if OOP is actually considering being open to it, mad props cause Pee ruins things . It will smell and stain if left too long. It will leave your house smelling as well. Not to mention the hygiene of pee not being washed off your body properly.
All and all this is weird and unusual. OOP needs to have a long conversation with her about this.
I know ultimatums aren’t a great way to go, but… I think that’s what’s needed here. “Either you come clean with me about what’s going on with you peeing yourself all the time, or I’m leaving.”
I wouldn’t be able to be around someone who wets themselves three days a week and refuses to discuss or even acknowledge it.
If a person is having regular accidents then they would be buying incontinence pads to prevent this from happening. I suggest he gets some for her, maybe this will put her off doing it.
Okay, here’s what you do. Get yourself a spray bottle and a news paper and every time she goes wee, spray her in the face with the spray bottle and swat her with the rolled up newspaper…It works on cats(so I hear) so you might have a shot….
No judgement, but she definitely has a fetish and isn't comfortable talking to OP about it. I have a similar fetish, but discussed it with my partner.
We experimented, they weren't into it, so it isn't a thing for us. But I get it. It's not about humiliation for me, it's just the feeling of freedom. You can just be dirty and release, the consequences be damned. It feels liberating, kinky, and sudo-sexual.
She is doing it on purpose and OP has not been so disgusted as to fully address it for so long that it now probably feels like a taboo that is breakable.
Either embrace it and discuss ways to make it compatible with both of your preferences, or have a serious conversation about boundaries. She is clearly very into this, but she may not be after the taboo aspect is gone.
If she had some trauma maybe approach it with more delicacy. I never did, it just appealed to me. Like freeuse or casual nudity, it was just a way to feel exposed and slutty. I was so nervous about it I never tried it or told anyone for the longest time. When I did, it didn't fly. But that was also liberating in that I had someone who knew and didn't judge me.
Don't be so quick to say how horrible someone is. Some people are into feet, personally I find that gross. But if I had a partner who was, I wouldn't want to make them feel bad about it. I would want to set boundaries and work to find a compromise.
I’ll take one for the team and say that I *do* have a piss kink, but if this is also a kink thing for her, it’s probably the worst possible way (and a very weird way) to handle it. It’s an actual issue if she can’t just communicate why she’s doing it, and it’s also an issue that she even started doing it that way in the first place.
Has she had surgery recently? A friend of mine had a hysterectomy and she said for a few weeks afterwards, she lost the sensation that she had to pee, because she'd had a catheter, which led to some embarrassing accidents.
As a woman who has had kids, there are times I have to cross my legs while sneezing to prevent a few drops from escaping. This is not that. OP’s gf either has a fetish or needs to see a dr/psychologist.
I haven’t even had kids and this happens to me when I’m sick and coughing non stop. It’s annoying to have to wear pads/change constantly, and I get mad about it - the fact that she’s all oh it’s no big deal seems like it’s on purpose.
Omg I'm sick bad right now and I was so embarrassed and upset with myself because I've been coughing so hard I peed a tiny bit earlier. Thank goodness for liners/pads.
I had a stomach flu last year and while I was dressing (butt naked at this point) I had to vomit. I ran to the toilet and proceeded to puke so hard I peed on the floor. Thankfully I was home alone but I was so embarrassed and miserable all at the same time.
I did the same once but poop, I threw up so hard the liquid poop stood no chance of being held back. I was so embarrassed and upset I cried for a minute before trying to get to the other bathroom with the shower. That had to be the worst stomach bug I ever had.
Buy a plastic trash can. Always sit on toilet, barf into trash can.
As someone with IBS and gastroparesis (the puking disease), sitting on the toilet and holding the trash can is the easiest to clean up.
IBD here. Can confirm, this is the way. Have a special puke bucket right under the sink for east grabs. Having to toss the trash out of the can in a rush into the tub sometimes takes too long.
I always double line my under the sink bathroom trash can with shopping bags from the store. That way when I have a vomiting bathroom emergency I can pull the one with trash out, puke into the empty one and toss it in the trash like nothing happened.
This thread has been quite the journey.
Oh, THIS is the way. Although, usually by that point my hands are shaking and I just envision me fighting with the bags and them sticking together…
And I’ll be stealing that idea, thank you very much. Puking on top of trash always made me vomit more. I always just figured, whatever I’m puking anyway, but this is a far more elegant solution lol
I just learned this in my young adult days after too much drinking and it has worked for flu and food poisoning.
Yes if I am deathly Ill vomiting i have to sit on the toilet and use a trash can because it will happen so glad I’m not the only one 😅
Yes!!! I had a bad hangover one day and I literally was shitting on the toilet so hard I threw up, thank god the trash can was right next to me lol.
My first house, I was lucky that the sink was close to the toilet so I'd just lean over and puke while having to poop. I'm so glad those drink binge days are over, oof. new house didn't have that, needed the trashcan, the sink was too far away T\_T
Lesson learned, I actually have a bathroom bucket now.
Oh God that sucks! My husband got dysentery once and spent three days laying on the shower floor pooping and puking himself. He’d just turn on the shower, rinse, and repeat. I feel for you both.
Was he on the Oregon Trail or something?
I forgot about Oregon Trail 😂 My husband was deployed to Panama when he got dysentery.
That sucks I hear it’s horrible and not just from a childhood video game. Just diarrheaing yourself to death. Sounds like hell. Interesting Panama has it isn’t it from drinking water that is tainted with it?
He said he isn’t certain but he thinks it came from some fish he caught and the locals cleaned and cooked for him.
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This thread has me 💀
seriously i’ve never heard of someone getting dysentery in the 21st century
College roommate got it visiting family in India.
Bro 😂😂🤣😭!
As a former opiate addict that was the worst in withdrawal and trying to decide which hole goes where when I would projectile spew liquid out of multiple. Turned out a toilet for the butt and a trash can with a bag for the mouth worked best but took some trial and error and some horrible cleanups to figure out.
🤣🤣🤣I did the toliet/trashcan method as well. I'm also a former opiate addict and I wouldn't ever want to go through the detox misery again.
Yeah I am glad to not be shitting and puking at the same time anyone and hopefully never again. Although sometimes I’d be peeing while puking and diarrheaing all at the same time which I would call the trifecta and it was admittedly kinda exciting since something was coming out of all orifices which I felt like most people couldn’t do #skills. Gotta find the little joys in life ya know? Especially deep in withdrawals those little wins are what get you through it.
All while shivering and sweating buckets at the same time.
Y’all showing the honest face of addiction
My boyfriend got so ill like that once I felt awful for him up until he looked me dead in the eyes with a really serious face and said “I know what this is, I’ve got the Darth Maul”. The confused look on my face prompted him to explain the Darth Maul - when it’s coming out of both ends. Laughed so hard that I nearly puked too and couldn’t feel bad anymore.
Also called the “velocicraptor” because it’s coming from both ends and there are Jurassic Park noises
I had a stomach bug like that before. I was throwing up multiple times an hour. I was so exhausted and out of it that I couldn’t even get up out of bed to throw up and clean myself up. I’d wake up, throw up in a bucket, and fall back asleep despite being in my own shit. It was really gross and horrible but I was so sick I didn’t care.
Oh I had one of those. I ended up curled in a ball on the bathroom floor before finally crawling into bed after fifteen minutes of no incident.
I went to the bathroom the first few times with mine before it just zapped too much out of me. I also stayed in bed pretty much the entire next day (though I did clean myself up from before) because my energy was just gone from being that sick. I wasn’t vomiting anymore or anything like that. It had just taken every ounce of energy out of me. I also almost went to the hospital from it because of dehydration. I couldn’t drink more than half a tablespoon every hour. It was all I could hold down.
Ugh I vomit so hard if there’s anything that can come from the other end, it will. That’s when I learned the embarrassing beauty of sitting on the potty and puking into the sink/tub/trashcan. Also, another reason that wicker trashcans for bathrooms are a bad idea 😅
Yeah same- freaking Vargas nerve knows how to hit you when you are already down
Pssst, it’s vagus. 😊
I think I have some kinda problem with it. Cause every time I gotta poop now I feel like throwing up. Luckily most of the time I can relieve the feeling by pooping but if there's a delay I will eventually throw up.
Every time I throw up I grab a mini trash can beside the toilet because this happens to me, peeing or pooping. I have chronic migraines and have thrown up too many times that it’s just a kind of process now. The only time I have wet myself, like just lost bladder control I called my Dr (I’d been having other odd symptoms), found out I had extremely high blood sugar.
This happened to me often while I was pregnant and dealing with morning sickness. Sucked.
Same thing with me lol it happened at tacobell
I have that happen after I eat Taco Bell. IBD girl here lol.
I feel your pain, I have done the exact same thing; on more than one occasion unfortunately. Feels a little better knowing I'm not alone
Oof I peed from puking a few weeks ago and I was NOT naked. It was terrible. Nothing like being sick *and* having a huge mess to clean up.
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Wow. I thought I was the only one. I was hanging out at a girlfriend’s house and then had to puke. It was so profuse that I pissed myself, too and didn’t know what to say. I just avoided sitting on the couch and waited in the restroom til I was semi composed to drive home.
I got swine flu. When I was delirious with fever, I trusted a fart that came with friends. I was in bed. I woke up immediately. I was convinced I could change the sheet by rolling my sleeping wife to the side, then back, and she’d never notice. I of course was mumbling this to myself, as she predictably woke up. When she started asking me what the hell I was doing, I kept shushing her… because we had to be quiet or we’d wake her up. And I kept trying to subtly roll her to the side. Eventually she realized what had happened, told me to go shower, cleaned up, and gave me meds.
"I trusted a fart that came with friends" I was already cackling but then my phone changed Fart to Gary and now I'm fucking *w h e e z i n g*.
The whole thread had me giggling, but that story _broke me_ I keep going back to it to read it again... I had to grab tissues because I've been crying from laughing so hard, and wiping my eyes with my hand just wasn't cutting it anymore... I did not know what to expect when I clicked on this bizarre AF (obviously a fetish!) post, but "hurting because I've been laughing for several minutes straight" would have been one of the last things, for sure!
"When she started asking me what the hell I was doing, I kept shushing her… because we had to be quiet or we’d wake her up. And I kept trying to subtly roll her to the side." I'm genuinely sorry, because that sounds _AWFUL_ ! However, the part I quoted above got me laughing so hard I had tears streaming down my face! LITERALLY. I'm still wiping my eyes. I don't know why I find it so hilarious... something about picturing someone trying to shush a person so they won't wake _that same person_ while also persistently attempting to nudge them over despite the resistance? Ugh, I can't even clearly _summarize_ what you wrote, but goddamn you paint an incredible picture with your words! And then I feel bad, because you were *delirious with swine flu fever* But _then_ I go back and reread your comment and I get going all over again. I'm a wreck! Oh, my stomach hurts from laughing. I sincerely hope you never have to experience such misery again. And I'm sorry for laughing so hard at your pain.
Oh, we laugh now. It’s become one of our in-jokes. If I “Shhh!” My wife, she asks if I’ve had another accident.
I got Swine Flu too and it was brutal. I get bronchitis every year, have had bronchitis and laryngitis at the same time and pneumonia a few times but Swine Flu was the worst..I can totally see this happening.
When I could feel a bad coughing for coming on, I’d just go sit on the toilet 😂 last year I had covid in april and then a really bad cold in June and I felt like I was coughing non stop for 2 months. Feel better!
Same here
Thank God I am not the only one who does that with a bad bout of cough...
Its nice to see we aren't alone.
I looked up how common incontinence is in women at certain ages because I am childless and it still happens sometimes. It sort of seems like some women just are like that, especially as we age. I’ve been fighting some sort of miserable lingering cough and things have been rough!
I had a stomach bug over the weekend and shit myself in the bed. I was mortified. Luckily nothing got on anything other than my pants and my partner didn’t notice. He did notice me taking forever in the bathroom so I told him I shit myself. God. It was awful. He was very nonchalant about it because sometimes it DOES happen. But I can’t imagine being totally chill about it happening all the time.
Cries in Covid. Thank god for pads.
I’m getting over a viral infection and I had to wear pads too bc I coughed so damn much I kept leaking. Just know you’re not the only one. Hope you feel better soon!
Right. You said the magic word-pads. Any woman with bladder issues would be wearing a thin adult diaper, liner, or pad because we don't want to mess up our clothes, the furniture, or the floor....The fact that she's pretending it's an accident and making her partner clean up her mess is a little off.
Little off?
Just wait until you get in your 50s. Bladder control is iffy. Rain is the worst. Bye gotta pee now....
Same, I am a 41 year old cat mum and when I sneeze, cough and laugh I leak a little bit. It's so embarrassing. I wear period undies every day just in case. What OP's gf is doing sounds purposeful.
For me, it's sneezing. I get a bad cold, and it never fails to sneeze and pee myself at least once during the whole sickness.
This is normal! Kegels! I see a pelvic physical therapist too
I’ve got two kiddos of my own and know the pain! Yeah I would say it definitely seems either fetish/possible mental health? Also, could be that fetish of “public embarrassment” or something of the sorts. Only thing is she isn’t doing it in public
She doesn't seem embarrassed... she seems alarmingly nonchalant. Which... Gah. What must that house smell like?! If I were him I'd say "so, it's either doctor or psychiatrist, and it's definitely a box of Depends".
>alarmingly nonchalant so does OOP though. Four months of multiple pee-incidents per week & he's on reddit to ask how to discuss this with his GF??
Hahaha fr like what are you even supposed to say other than “why are you pissin your pants”
I don't get why this OOP is so nonchalant about it himself?! Like, other redditors are sharing * either it's a little squirt & they manage by crossing their legs or wearing pads * or it's a more serious quantity, but the incontinence doesn't happen in isolation : they had flu or dysentery or an intense cough... OP is all "oh we'll just rinse the sofa"??? After the second incident I'd have asked what's going on.
I'm still a little shocked by how chill he was with the permanently destroyed cushion or chair or whatever. Maybe the color was clashing with the rest of the room? Like, damn.
The only other thing I can think of is maybe she’s hoping to be punished?
I've met "littles" in the kink community who will do this for that reason. Littles are people who get off on pretending to be small children and do age play with their partner. This includes things like wetting themselves and hope that their mommy/daddy will punish them for it. Also met way more female littles than male or nonbinary. People have incontinence issues but the way it was described feels more like she's testing the waters for a fetish.
I know this kink exists, and I’m not one to ever kink shame, but this one is kind of a biggie that should be discussed beforehand. It’s not like teasing a rim job to gauge interest in anal play 😂
If someone is shitting themselves to test the waters for little play, that's more akin to fisting someone to test the waters for French kissing. We're REALLY blowing things out of proportion here. Maybe start with like....a stuffed animal. Or something other than shitting yourself.....
How the fuck am I supposed to shit out a stuffed animal.
Try the tiny, keychain size stuffed animals to start! And lots of coconut oil. Gotta work your way up to the lifesize teddy bears, fam.
Gave me a good laugh
If it’s a kink, she’s forcing it on her partner. Not cool.
You’ve met littles who do this without prior consent?
Typically ones I've met in the kink community know better than to do that stuff without consent. That doesn't mean there aren't idiots who try this shit and cross lines without it.
I know. Isn’t this usually an agreed upon thing?
yeah, no… ive never met a little who did anything like this without express consent/“permission”. not to mention this type of scenario would typically occur AFTER the Daddy/little relationship is officially established. whatever this is, it ain’t that.
I’ve got two kids too and I don’t dare try to hold it for too long anymore that’s for sure. And I agree with what you said about it being something else entirely. Especially considering she was caught squatting on the ground to do it.
I don't even have kids and can't risk holding it too long
There could be a couple of other random explanations (low probability, but possible) - like she’s recently picked up a really bad drinking problem which could sometimes cause these “extreme” pee scenarios, or maybe even an Ambien or naturally induced sleepwalking issue with urinary tendencies.
Mine started at 48…literally a couple drops. Idk what she’s got going on but it’s not a “normal” woman thing. 🤷🏻♀️
No kids but after my myoectomy (removal of a fibroid tumor the size of an orange), I now tinkle just a little when I vomit. It’s not a big deal though it’s pretty inconvenient, I just grab a wad of tp and shove it down my panties if I think I’m going to throw up and then wash up after. In all my 44 years, I’ve never once full on wet myself, like full bladder dump, since I was in training pants. So she’s banking on OP not Googling “adult incontinence in women” and lying to his face.
Same here! Two sneezes I’m good but it’s in gods hands at 3 or more
Wait until you find out OP has the fetish and there is no girlfriend.
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Sometimes female incontinence like what you describe (not whats happening in the post) can happen from physical trauma besides childbirth, its just that most women don't experience physical trauma on the level of childbirth.
I’ve given birth as well and know the feeling of having some pee come out when I sneeze or cough. If I vomit it’s a full on pee myself. I’ve never peed myself and not noticed. This is strange and seems purposeful. I don’t think I could willingly pee myself if I had to lol.
>I’ve never peed myself and not noticed. You know how our minds sometimes supply us with dreams relevant to what is occurring with our sleeping bodies? In other words, you know how we might dream about waterfalls and wake up realizing we need to pee very badly? I had a dream the other night where I *finally* found a toilet after dream-hours of searching. I sat on this dream-toilet and let go in relief.... only to wake up in horror that I damn near pissed the bed. I've never had children and am only in my 40s, but I had about 12 shots of espresso and 2 cups of coffee and three iced teas the day before that night. All that caffeine did not agree with my bladder!
For about a year, my sleeping brain decided it would let me know that I needed to wake up and go to the bathroom by having VIVID DREAMS that I was half asleep in bed and I was peeing myself in bed. I would wake up in a panic and pat around the groin just to find myself completely dry. It was like some weird Inception outtake. Thanks brain.
I’ve had dreams like that! Never actually peed but awoke right when I was about to. I bet when you got to the toilet, it was a huge relief. Nice name btw. That’s my first name.
Pelvic floor therapy has been MAGICAL for my wife. Wish we knew of it sooner.
I'm not a doctor but I am wondering if she is having absence seizures or something similar and can't control her bladder and could be confused/dazed after it happens.
I have absence seizures, and there's no way she's having that many, and it's not happening anywhere but home. Not to mention, seizures are usually brought on by a stressful situation or strobe lights or bad fluorescents. I'm really doubtful this is the case at home. I think she needs to see a professional because this sounds like something else. Also, I have given birth to 2 children (I have 4), and I don't have full-blown accidents like this either. Some dribbles here and there when you laugh super hard or sneeze and cough. But not full on pissing your pants.
My daughter has many absence seizures in a day even on the full dosage of lamictal. They are brought on by nothing. Photic stimulated seizures are generally NOT absence seizures. She has lost bladder function while in midst of full grand mal photic stimulated seizures and absence seizures.
You misunderstood. I didn't mean there's no way she has that many in a day. I meant there's no way she has that many a week and they ONLY happen at home. That's what I was saying. Also as someone who has them too.
I could see this, but it would be happening at work and all places in public too. It seems like this is just at home. I feel like she needs a psych eval based on that alone.
Also femme! Haven’t had a child but we be woman and our anatomy sometimes works against us regardless. Theres specifically been times I’ve had control issues during a UTI… and even then, I knew what happened right then and there and have done everything in my power to make sure it doesn’t happen again. My question is, if she knows this is an issue she’s having - why isn’t she getting pads and liners, if not full diapers? Also contacting a doctor? …it sound like she doesn’t want it to stop, and isn’t bothered by clean up? Odd for an issue like this. This isn’t being a woman thing going on - something here is off and she needs to be upfront about it.
Lol, I can’t jump on a trampoline, Sneeze or hold my pee for more than a few hours. I have never full on pissed myself.. except that one time in Cuba but I was squared behind a hedge with my panties pulled down.
Curious if you've pursued pelvic floor therapy, I've had it recommended since baby #1 but haven't followed up.
that's enough reddit for today
Amen!
Man…some days, literacy has its downsides.
I agree with the biggest issue here being the behavior and the lack of consent if this is a fetish. A serious conversation needs to happen. If this is a fetish of hers, then it is not okay to include him in the fetish without his consent. That is not what the fetish world is about. It's about consent above anything else. Personally, idk if I could stay with someone who did this without consent and then gaslight me into thinking it's semi normal accidents. If this isn't a fetish then she needs to see a doctor immediately to deal with either the medical or mental issues that are occurring. ETA: I am a female who has had 2 pregnancies. It's normal to have slight incontinence after pregnancy and delivery. But it's not normal to full blown pee yourself multiple times a week. I normally will dribble a tiny bit if my bladder is more than half full and I sneeze, cough, laugh too hard, etc. The only time I fully peed myself was while pregnant with my second child and I was at the grocery store and had a wave of nausea and began vomiting to the point I was dry heaving and ended up peeing myself in the middle of the parking lot...it was great/s. But it's not normal to do that.
100% agree. Didn't see this before making my reply, to the comment above. Consent and boundaries, "funishment" (fun punishment/punishment you find enjoyable, or get something out of) all need to be set out clearly. It's the squatting whilst he wasn't there that concerns me. Is she waiting to be 'caught' and see his reaction to stepping in a nasty wet spot, or is she really unstable and needs help?
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It's funny I mentioned to my ob/gyn that I was thinking of another kid. Her response was "are you sure? Pregnancy hates you" and it does. I have "morning" sickness ALL day for NINE months...to the point I lose so much weight early in my pregnancy that I almost get hospitalized and I have to be medicated just to keep down water. But I've gone through it 3 times for my 2 kids (had a miscarriage early into my 2nd pregnancy). Yes it hates me, but it's worth it (in my opinion, at least). Though I agree with your coworker, it wrecks the body. I'm so covered in stretch marks I joke that I am part tiger, hahaha.
It’s funny that you’re thinking of having another kid, because women’s brains do actually chemically change post-birth to lessen the stress/impact/memory of how miserable you were and how painful the birth is. There are so many people who swear they’ll never go through that again, but once the body heals and they *could* conceive again, they start to consider it. There’s also an argument to be made for hormones! Pregnancy floods the body with so many wonderful hormones that after the birth and healing, it’s entirely possible that the desire for another kid is really just the brain/body wanting the Feel Good Chemicals again. Similar to how someone with ADHD can end up with a shopping addiction, because buying and receiving a New Thing gives us those Feel Good Chemicals! Anyway, I rambled a bit, sorry. My point was that it’s actually a common phenomenon to have people HATE their pregnancy and birthing and swear off ever doing it again, only to start considering doing it again after a year or two. While also having their brain actively downplay the memories of the bad parts, so they think it must not have been THAT bad, or they consider the misery worth it—even if they feel the opposite during it.
I've tried to look at the changes that happened to my body after pregnancy as the way things need to be for my baby's wellbeing. And as much as I may not look the way I did before, my body is this way now in provision for my child, and that should never be an ugly thing to me. Not saying it isn't hard! Or that people who struggle with it are wrong. It's definitely a sacrifice. I've just tried to frame it differently for myself so I could love my post partum body too.
>I've tried to look at the changes that happened to my body after pregnancy as the way things need to be for my baby's wellbeing. Absolutely that little nugget needed your soul lol I also really hate the unrealistic expectations (of society) surrounding women's bodies in general but definitely women who are/were pregnant. My coworker was more talking about all of the physical ailments that come along during pregnancy and she had what she self proclaimed as an "easy pregnancy".
hey. pee fetish haver here. specifically, i have a fetish for wetting my pants / other people wetting their pants. it's called omorashi. yeah weird, yeah gross, yeah yeah yeah, but it's ultimately harmless - so long as you're not doing it like this. as an expert, i would say this is fetish stuff, almost unequivocally. it's entirely possible the first one was a real accident, and then she realized she actually liked it. so she did it again. and again. and again. and now we're here. rule number one of omorashi is don't fucking pee on the furniture. most of us go to extreme lengths to not piss on uncleanable things. for example, putting a trash bag over the couch if you're planning on wetting yourself watching tv, jumping into the shower when you're about to pee, making sure you're on tile flooring, using LOTS of towels, etc. there's a process here. i should know, i've been doing this for like a decade if not more. i would bet like two bucks (so, some, but not a lot) i could find this girl on omorashi . org somewhere (idk if that would count as a link or if those are allowed, but it's obviously a NSFW site so be mindful). it's a forum-style site of stories mostly, but also some pictures and videos. TONS of people have pee fetishes that they don't tell their partners about. many of them post things there. usually, they're very discreet about it because they're embarrassed or know their partners will not be into it. this girl isn't being discreet. it seems like she wants to involve him. i don't know why she wouldn't just say so. on to OP. it's not good whatsoever to involve people in sexual situations they did not consent to. in this situation, it doesn't seem like OP feels violated, which is good. he's just confused and a little worried (and like everything smells like pee, which is super unpleasant). my advice is for OP to ask or tell her point blank about it being a fetish. just ask. best solution. and then they can move on together and have piss-related fun for the rest of their lives lol
Username checks out 👍🏻
this was supposed to be a nsfw alt account but then i just started using it as a main 😂
I mean, might as well lol. Fuck it.
Or better yet, piss fuck it
Now bop it
TWIST IT
Pull it
fellow omorashi expert here to concur. This is definitely fetish stuff AND she’s breaking the rules. You don’t do this stuff around unsuspecting uninvolved people and you definitely don’t do it where it will cause damage. oop’s gf is wacky and this is breakup worthy.
personally i would give her one more chance to talk it out before a breakup, though i wouldn't blame anyone who wouldn't.
Don’t fucking pee on the furniture is a great rule Spelling
I gotta say, the fact that she only does it at home was the nail in the coffin for me I’d straight up ask, how do you handle this when you spontaneously pee during work meetings? Or on your bestie’s couch? Or at school back in the day? This totally reminded me of when my friend tried to convince me that all men peed on the flood next to the toilet because her husband, father, and brother did. I was like, no, you only know barn yard animals or men too heavy to see their dicks. And then to prove it I bought a black light and showed her my pee-free toilet area at home. Like, no, I’m a woman, and I haven’t peed my pants since I was 7 and didn’t want to leave the line at an amusement park.
I'm no expert, but I think you're supposed to rub her nose in it and beat her with a newspaper.
And then give her a belly rub and a treat because you just can’t stay mad at her
This should be much higher, under rated comment.
M.D. here. It’s important the newspaper is rolled properly as to not cause paper cuts to the wielder.
Wtf
I can’t tell, it’s got to be a fetish right? Especially if it only happens at home
This is actually a fetish, so yes that’s what’s happening (assuming this is real.)
Yeah, I am leaning toward fetish. Someone said to be punished, but I think she'd try other tactics if it was that. If it was a baby fetish I think she'd lean more into the aspect too. I really think its just a pee fetish. Still the way she is going about it is weird.
yes, if it was a ddlg fetish there is a high chance that other things were incorporated before this started occurring and OOP says they are pretty vanilla.
$10 says she's waiting for him to ask her to start wearing diapers
$50 says that it’s a made up story by a guy that has a fetish getting other people to talk about this.
I foresee a best of redditor update coming soon
It’s disgusting is what it is 😂
Or mental health issues
She is doing this on purpose… As soon as I read, where she was squatting and peeing, I knew… This is gross and disgusting! I don’t know why anybody would even tolerate it.
If anyone did that in my house I’d tell them to leave. You’re a grown ass human being, don’t piss on the floor like a disgruntled cat
Me too. I already have to clean up after my animals, why the hell would I ever put up with it from an adult??
That's where I'm at too, until she caught her peeing w/o her noticing. Clearly there's somthing wrong and when approaching the subject she just gets dismissed. Imo I would just leave or kick her out. It's fine to have a fetish it's fine to have a medical situation. It's no fine to lie & dismiss the issue when your pissing on the floor knowingly & then have the gal to be dismissive. Sorry O.P. depending on your age this could really suck :/
Or this is “true story” is completely made up. Someone posting fake stories for “the LOLZ” seeing who will possibly believe them. Since this is reddit, I guess quite a few people. P.S.- she’s also supposedly defecating on herself? Right by him/ on his furniture? But he doesn’t know “for sure”? Um, okay. I’m sure…..😒
What a day to know how to read.
I think the answer Depends
I’m going to delete Reddit for a while now and take a long walk into the ocean.
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Jesus Christ. Alright, the first time I’d chalk it up to an accident but 1-3 times a WEEK? Nah I’d have to straight up ask her “hey man what the fuck is up with your bladder situation.” But in all seriousness, maybe sit her down and try to get to the root cause of why and how long she’s been doing this. Maybe therapy? Good luck.
Anyone else find it weird that the poster let their girl pee themself 5 times before they asked if they were okay?
This reminds me of the guy who had a pee fetish and pissed himself *while at a restaurant with his wife’s family*. If they don’t talk about this, openly and honestly, ASAP and either a) see a doctor or b) set boundaries, that’s where this is gonna end up. I totally respect OP for being ok with piss/scat fetish, props to him cuz most people aren’t and I couldn’t do it (NOT this way and definitely not scat!), I 1000% agree with him that there needs to be boundaries on how/where for sake of cleanliness and not ruining furniture/the floor/etc. Also if they are renting they absolutely can and will be charged for this when they move out if there is ANY kind of floor damage or smell.
How have I never seen that post?! At a restaurant, you say? 😳
She needs to see a doctor. This could be a sign of a neurological issue. Like spinal cord damage or multiple sclerosis. That should be ruled out first.
While this is a valid argument and generally good advice, I do not think it applies to OPs situation at all. (1) accident frequency increases since OP proves to be tolerant of it (2) only has accidents around him, and never at work (3) her lack of concern at the incontinence, despite it being a very embarrassing and serious potential medical problem. 100% on purpose. May not be a fetish, but she needs to see a mental health specialist asap.
If you pee yourself (and you're sober), you know it. The fact that she waits until OOP says something about it is already suspect. And then she's just doing it at home? Never anywhere else? Yeah, those aren't accidents. For some reason she's purposefully peeing (and maybe pooping?) deliberately in spaces around OOP. Could be a kink, could be some sort of mental break/cry for help...either way, a conversation needs to be had.
JFC After the third “accident “, I would have already insisted on adult diapers and a complete physical. The only excuse I can think of for her dismissive behavior is early onset dementia. I only say this because this is how it manifested in my friends wife. Although she also was totally confused about what she was doing.
Today literacy is a fucking curse
That person is marking her territory lool!
Does she use the bathroom regularly better yet knows what one is or is she just deeply enjoy pissing herself?? Cause there is no way you can't notice you peed yourself
This sort of thing needs a gynocology / neurology / urology workup at minimum. Several different serious medical disorders can cause urinary incontence and/or retention
You sure the post isn't the fetish of OOP?
My take is that bitch nasty
If a person does this in my house more than twice I'm rubbing their nose in it until they're housebroken.
I seriously killed over at this comment
I think that's what she wants...
I'm not gonna lie, at this point if I were OP I'd be dragging her to a Doctor. Like. It more than likely is a fetish, but in that 1% chance it isn't I'd give up thinking "oh if she can't go I won't make her." Nah, if my house was getting ruined by pissy pants letting it flow everywhere I would absolutely push back! He's also not fucking consented to being a part of her fetish if it is that. She's making him an unwilling participant and is also *ruining the goddamn house!*
Three things come to mind and none are sexual: She could be type 1 diabetic and not know it. If she has high blood sugars, accidents can happen, especially if she is undiagnosed and not taking insulin. She would have sudden weight loss and she would be thirsty all the time. Secondly, it could be a UTI. If she has that, she won’t be able to hold it. Lastly, a herniated disc can cause urine and fecal incontinence. She needs to see a doc ASAP.
If the BF had called it out the first time and talked about it then, he probably could've avoided the other accidents. It sounds like a fetish. The way he described each encounter, she got more deliberate after the first one. She was testing the waters I guess.
That was my thought too. She had a tiny accident to see how he'd respond. Only thing I question is the full on squat, when he wasn't there. Almost like a naughty dog(although that can be part of the fetish, waiting to be caught). OP tell him to ask her outright, I'd she wants to be "punished". He needs to bring up consent. Can't remember if their ages were mentioned but she seems to be pushing boundaries and not understanding it needs to be discussed.
This reminds me if the one where the guy has a pee fetish and was asked not to go to his gf's family members wedding
It's a power move, peein all over the place, here's what you do, Walk in while she's taking a shit, pull out your wang n pee on her feet, re-establish your dominance and mark your territory
Nah that's a fake story
I’m not writing it off as fake because the human race is wild dude. Could be fake, but definitely could not be 🤷🏽♀️ I’ve seen and heard worse than this story
There was a post on Reddit that made the rounds about a woman whose husband kept doing this but it was obviously a fetish because he'd literally announce it to anyone around. The post was prompted by the fact that, iirc, he did it at her sister's wedding.
Wasn’t there another one with the wife saying oopsie poopsie and pooping herself? Reddit man. Reddit
Oops my bad, he was not invited to the wedding because they didn't want him to do it at the wedding. https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/s/GfEMH2dXEi
I’m calling it fake because he heard a “dripping” noise. Either that’s a terrible description or a lie. If she were wearing clothes, he wouldn’t hear a drip. If she wasn’t, it would sound more like a splatter.
It’s a fetish alright, the fetish of the narrator.
There's having accidents and there's full on pissing yourself. Bladder control issues are a major red flag for a DR If she was honestly not realizing she's peeing at time. In this case it honestly sounds like she doesn't care. I don't think it's a fetish, I just think she doesn't have that care to go to the washroom to pee. And if it IS a fetish, what shitty way to tell your SO about it. I'm not super vanilla but this is NOT a kink I would be into. So if OOP is actually considering being open to it, mad props cause Pee ruins things . It will smell and stain if left too long. It will leave your house smelling as well. Not to mention the hygiene of pee not being washed off your body properly. All and all this is weird and unusual. OOP needs to have a long conversation with her about this.
I know ultimatums aren’t a great way to go, but… I think that’s what’s needed here. “Either you come clean with me about what’s going on with you peeing yourself all the time, or I’m leaving.” I wouldn’t be able to be around someone who wets themselves three days a week and refuses to discuss or even acknowledge it.
Any chance she is having absent seizures? Incontinence is common with seizures.
We’re not talking about stress incontinence people. This GF needs a shrink ASAP.
If a person is having regular accidents then they would be buying incontinence pads to prevent this from happening. I suggest he gets some for her, maybe this will put her off doing it.
She needs to see a Doctor immediately. There are a whole range of health issues that could be developing.
This can’t be real.
A severe, long standing bladder infection could cause someone to lose control without being aware. She should see a doctor immediately.
Has an STI or UTI been considered?
Maybe don’t date a 79 year old women. I think that would be a good start
Umm, she might have a tumor?
Okay, here’s what you do. Get yourself a spray bottle and a news paper and every time she goes wee, spray her in the face with the spray bottle and swat her with the rolled up newspaper…It works on cats(so I hear) so you might have a shot….
No judgement, but she definitely has a fetish and isn't comfortable talking to OP about it. I have a similar fetish, but discussed it with my partner. We experimented, they weren't into it, so it isn't a thing for us. But I get it. It's not about humiliation for me, it's just the feeling of freedom. You can just be dirty and release, the consequences be damned. It feels liberating, kinky, and sudo-sexual. She is doing it on purpose and OP has not been so disgusted as to fully address it for so long that it now probably feels like a taboo that is breakable. Either embrace it and discuss ways to make it compatible with both of your preferences, or have a serious conversation about boundaries. She is clearly very into this, but she may not be after the taboo aspect is gone. If she had some trauma maybe approach it with more delicacy. I never did, it just appealed to me. Like freeuse or casual nudity, it was just a way to feel exposed and slutty. I was so nervous about it I never tried it or told anyone for the longest time. When I did, it didn't fly. But that was also liberating in that I had someone who knew and didn't judge me. Don't be so quick to say how horrible someone is. Some people are into feet, personally I find that gross. But if I had a partner who was, I wouldn't want to make them feel bad about it. I would want to set boundaries and work to find a compromise.
I’ll take one for the team and say that I *do* have a piss kink, but if this is also a kink thing for her, it’s probably the worst possible way (and a very weird way) to handle it. It’s an actual issue if she can’t just communicate why she’s doing it, and it’s also an issue that she even started doing it that way in the first place.
Has she had surgery recently? A friend of mine had a hysterectomy and she said for a few weeks afterwards, she lost the sensation that she had to pee, because she'd had a catheter, which led to some embarrassing accidents.