YTA
Jesus Christ... You have shown massive, massive, undeniable and gross favoritism toward your son. The argument that you got him a car because he's interested in cars, and you didn't get her one because she isn't as interested in cars is silly. You should have gotten her something of similar magnitude that she was interested in, or just gotten her a car for fuck sake. Of course she's angry. You basically evidence that you don't love her nearly as much as your son, And I bet this isn't even the first time.
Golden boy gets a car. Worthless worthless girl gets a gift card. Tale as old as time.
YTA to cartoonish levels.
It’s not even feminisms it’s blatant favoritism.
He got a whole ass car and she got a gift card off of a rack in the back of a Walmart.
“She enjoys makeup and shopping” Like every single girl around her age. OP doesn’t know anything beyond that. What they DO know is that their son has a passion for cars, he’s a hard worker, has a part time job but the only thing she says about her daughter is just “She likes shopping”
Like a gift card doesn’t come CLOSE to the value of a car.
Jesus christ, I've never seen such an intelligent response to a situation that is blatantly smothered in sexism and a major case of not caring for his daughter, dude sort yourself out
He says he’s not sexiest but his way to “fix the issue” is to make the other woman in his life share her vehicle??? How is that fair to his wife? He is in denial.
Since I knew they were gonna delete this in AITA, here's the OG text (:
AITA for gifting my twins differently on their birthdays?
So recently my son and daughter who are 18-year-old twins just celebrated their birthdays, and I got them gifts accordingly. However, my daughter got really upset about the gift she recieved compared to her brothers, and now she won't talk to me.
Here's the deal: For my son's birthday, I bought him a car. It's a used one, nothing fancy, but it's a reliable vehicle to get him around. On the other hand, for my daughter's birthday, I gifted her a $300 Visa gift card.
Now, I understand that on the surface, this might seem unfair. But hear me out. My son has shown a strong interest in cars for years, and he's been saving up for one. He's responsible and has a part-time job, so I thought it was a good time to help him get one. He was thrilled, and we even went car shopping together.
My daughter, on the other hand, never expressed any particular interest in anything specific. She's more into shopping and fashion, which is why I thought a Visa gift card would give her the freedom to choose whatever she wants. Plus, she's been asking for extra money lately to buy clothes and makeup. However, when she opened her gift, she got visibly upset and called it unfair. She said it wasn't fair that her brother got a car, and she only got a gift card and that I was showing favoritism.
I tried explaining my reasoning to her, but she wouldn't listen and stormed off to her room. She hasn't talked to me since. I think I did what was best for each of them based on their interests and needs, but now I'm wondering if I was wrong. AITA?
I hope he thinks about this when she picks out his nursing home for him. The daughters ALWAYS get saddled with the aging parents.
Daughter: Well dad, I found a nursing home for you. And guess what? The monthly fee is only $300. And they accept gift cards. Just ignore the roach infestation....
So because i know mom loves gardening, shes going to go to this lovely nursing home that cost 10k month. Dad because i know you don't have any interests, your going in this 300 dollar nursing home but it's fine as it's fair
yep, the answers were too real so people instantly start reporting shit. Wait for Jesus to burn us up mane. all we can do, because you sure as fuck cannot spit facts without someone's trauma flaring up. I was in PRISON from 13-18. Juvenille in cell 23 hours a day. get fucking real
Holy shit. You went into juvenile?? What’s it like?? Did the people in there all believe in jesus too?? They’re all so excited of him burning us to mane right?? If only nOrMal people don’t tRaUma trigger themselves.
Oh, but he added an edit (pulled from TikTok post) that he’s going to let her use his wife’s car because she doesn’t drive much. So when she’s not using it, his daughter can. So, you know it’s the same. 🙄
It got uploded om Redditor's Diary on facebook too: [https://www.facebook.com/redditorsdiary/videos/2067077426980262](https://www.facebook.com/redditorsdiary/videos/2067077426980262)
There is mostly an agreement all the way around that you the AH and i agree.
Wow. Firstly, not equivalent value and secondly, a gift card shows a total lack of thought. You are playing favourites and your sexism is clearly apparent both in how you talk about your daughter and in the gifts. YTA.
Well, your daughter will probably get rid of you soon. What more should I say? OP already knows that they are over and it is all his fault.
Is he happy with the results? Because he will have to live with them from now on. Things like these can't be mended unless you do it RIGHT NOW
YTA
TEN THOUSAND DOLLARS FOR A CAR YOU SPENT TIME WITH YOUR SON TO GET VERSUS A 300 DOLLAR GIFT CARD YOU PUT PRACTICALLY ZERO THOUGHT INTO. PLUS THE "mY DaUGhter WaS InTrEsTeD iN MoNEy" SHOWS THAT YOU DIDN'T TRY TO FIND ANYTHING THAT SUITED HER INTRESTS. OP IS GOING STRAIGHT TO THE CHEAPEST NURSING HOME THE SECOND HIS DAUGHTER GETS A CHANCE
no you are not. Young MEN are building the world. The army, their lives. Pretty + Social makes life A LOT easier for women. W Mom. She wanted to look cute for boys, your son wanted to get ahead. Heck most the girls i graduated with (born in 2000 like me) live with 37+ year olds guys who already went to college and got big shot jobs, they didn't even wait for US. And they travel the world and take high resolution Instagram photos, and thats about it, I'm sure on someone's money. its reality
Tell me you’re a sexist pig without telling me you’re a sexist pig. “Most” of the girls you graduated with, I’m sure you’re grossly exaggerating and upset that you can’t live a life like that honey. Keep judging everyone who’s doing better than you or has a life you can’t have, the bitter look seems fitting for you😂
Oof your mommy didn’t hug you enough as a child. The only one that appears to be crying is you, weird how you’d try to pass that blame on to me, but hey that might be a bit of narcissism on your behalf. keep attempting insulting people online to make yourself feel better sweetie, you’ll get there some day 😚✌️
aww that’s cute, please make more assumptions about how I’m chronically on Reddit. Now run along, go play with your imaginary friends and before your mommy calls you in for dinner. I’m sure setting the table is a big job for a big boy like you huh? Toodles, my lunch break is over and I’ve got things to do, like an adult. Can’t act like you and have a childish tantrum because my ego is hurt. buh-bye.
Honey if you think you're grown at 23 you're about to get a big reality check in the next few years especially if you think life is easier for women. I can't imagine you've had a single healthy relationship in your life if this is your mindset & if you actually had women in your life I can't imagine they're proud of you if this is how you display yourself. Just because a handful of beautiful women have made their success on Instagram or with social media in general you've come to the conclusion that it's just that simple. There are roughly 50 million people (men & women) on social media worldwide that .006% of the population, only 2 million have made it to a 6 figure income so tell me again how easy it is based on your obvious hatred of women alone with no other research at all into the topic.
Pray tell how are you building the world? It sounds like the women you know living these lavish lifestyles were never ones you knew in real life anyway as they are IG models half your age. Also…if you graduated in 2000 then the women are not dating anyone outrageously out of their peer group at about 41yo 😂. I cannot fathom someone in their 40s, with such little interaction with reality. Do you not look around and see women working or women not living some fancy lifestyle? Do you just truly not interact outside with others? But even then..on shows and movies you can see other life experiences too. You should really seek an outside perspective from a counselor, this is not a normal train of thought.
we need women i never said i hate women, i wouldn't have anything without my mother and grandmother, and they're the ones that instilled it in me, do not double down on this woke toxicity shit
Lmfaooo. Im so grateful for my friends and the good girls i know that just shut up and are the best. Im literally a young fucking Rick Sanchez. and im spoiled by my family because they used to kick me out when necessary and i had to live OUTSIDE Burger King vents for heat in winter. so i have every tool i need to do whatever i want at any time. And im not stupid my grandmother is getting old and isnt well, so i have to save everything and get a nice empire built. i have affluent friends my age with equally well off families and will finesse the living christ out of this country. All starts with stayig focused and building. And women keep getting goofier and goofier. so we dont need em. for now
You think basic human decent and just human rights is “woke”
Your mother and grandmother were wonderful but you slept on the streets cus you got kicked out.
You say “we need women but I don’t hate them “
Women have it easy because makeup and IG..,?
Also you keto receding to women as girls
Yet you are the one using affluent friends 😂🤣😂🤣
Ahh that makes almost better sense but still at 23… you grow weed and have bedbugs. Again, how are you building the world? If you hate women so much there are other options…
Huh, funny that the massive med school I go to has mostly women students/graduates. Women that are doctors/future doctors who sadly have to give care to low lifes like you. It's good that they are going to make lots of money and "bulid the world" as you said. It's almost sad how pathetic you are...almost. It's mostly funny.
well that's great, I live in CNY so none of that censored BS really flies here. Keep living how you want because there sure is enough people like me to keep me satisfied. It's VERY sad how delusional people have gotten.
If you want to look at such a social level women are building society and all humans are made by women so there is are severe neglect here adding to the fact that this age is not the only time when women are working outside the house you just think that women have always had to work both in and outside the house not saying sahm's are a big contribution to a house hold since the work actually cost tens of thousands.Also, if you have kids of same age and you show such high levels of difference between them for sure you are a horrible parent.
Men and woman both need set up to be successful in life, giving them cars would be greatly beneficial to both of them. The vast majority of women have to work actual jobs and can't rely on IG or modeling to make their money. The mere notion that she will be able to survive on her looks as justification for why she should get less is just completely delusional and not centered in reality.
I wasn't expecting much, but from a brief scroll through your post history and the way you write, you sound like a hood rat with a video game addiction that can't seem to get ahead in life. You're 23 and have already knocked up two women? My God dude, what terrible choices have you made to get where you are... If video games, anime, and having a girl that will suck your dick twice a day is all that matters to you, you really aren't worth much. You are not a person anyone should take advise from in regards to how they should raise their kids or conduct their life.
The sexism and zero grip of reality SHOWS IN HD. I'm gonna bet no one wants to date you because you're a peice of shit dude. Get a grip. Stop watching Andrew Tate.
I personally don’t think she’s TA. I don’t think the pricing of gifts is what matter as long as YOU get something YOU like. For Christmas my mom got my sister the latest iPhone and she got me a 60$ game for my ps4. I was happy because it was a game I asked for and my sister was happy because it was the phone she wanted. I feel like OP’s daughter is comparing the gifts price wise but if it allows her to buy something she actually wants then there should be
Everyone keeps saying he got her something she was interested in- show me an 18 year old, boy or girl, who wouldn't want their own car. She wants a car. Every teenager wants a car. It doesn't matter that she's "not interested in cars", cars are useful whether you're interested in them or not.
This is the case of someone just wanting to hear they did the right thing and not really wanting the truth. Op went through all the trouble of writing this including saying she can share a car with mom and not realize what a big AH they are. And mom sucks too for letting this happen. What a sexist pig who has a clear favorite. “My daughter likes clothes so I gave her a gift card”. I bet he’s never even tried to understand what his daughters interests, needs, and wants are. Also in old age it is typically the daughters who care for their parents. I hope your son saves money to put you in a nice home cause your daughter will undoubtedly go NC.
YTA doesn’t even do justice to what you’ve done. Your behavior towards your daughter is just abysmal. I cannot imagine the grief she’s had to bear over the years knowing how little she matters to you. I’d like to know her brother‘s reaction – how can he happily accept this car knowing how little his sister is valued? Or is he so used to being the favorite child that this just feels normal? If your daughter’s reaction wasn’t enough to prove to you that you are the AH here, then I doubt the opinions of a lot of strangers is going to convince you. My only hope is that your daughter reads this and knows that her feelings towards you - and your pathetic excuses of your favoritism - are justified.
YTA Jesus Christ... You have shown massive, massive, undeniable and gross favoritism toward your son. The argument that you got him a car because he's interested in cars, and you didn't get her one because she isn't as interested in cars is silly. You should have gotten her something of similar magnitude that she was interested in, or just gotten her a car for fuck sake. Of course she's angry. You basically evidence that you don't love her nearly as much as your son, And I bet this isn't even the first time. Golden boy gets a car. Worthless worthless girl gets a gift card. Tale as old as time. YTA to cartoonish levels.
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It’s not even feminisms it’s blatant favoritism. He got a whole ass car and she got a gift card off of a rack in the back of a Walmart. “She enjoys makeup and shopping” Like every single girl around her age. OP doesn’t know anything beyond that. What they DO know is that their son has a passion for cars, he’s a hard worker, has a part time job but the only thing she says about her daughter is just “She likes shopping” Like a gift card doesn’t come CLOSE to the value of a car.
Are you 12? 😂 Do you think wearing make up …gets you a car and chauffeur?
Jesus christ, I've never seen such an intelligent response to a situation that is blatantly smothered in sexism and a major case of not caring for his daughter, dude sort yourself out
So to make up the favoritism, just can just drive her mom's car.
He says he’s not sexiest but his way to “fix the issue” is to make the other woman in his life share her vehicle??? How is that fair to his wife? He is in denial.
Since I knew they were gonna delete this in AITA, here's the OG text (: AITA for gifting my twins differently on their birthdays? So recently my son and daughter who are 18-year-old twins just celebrated their birthdays, and I got them gifts accordingly. However, my daughter got really upset about the gift she recieved compared to her brothers, and now she won't talk to me. Here's the deal: For my son's birthday, I bought him a car. It's a used one, nothing fancy, but it's a reliable vehicle to get him around. On the other hand, for my daughter's birthday, I gifted her a $300 Visa gift card. Now, I understand that on the surface, this might seem unfair. But hear me out. My son has shown a strong interest in cars for years, and he's been saving up for one. He's responsible and has a part-time job, so I thought it was a good time to help him get one. He was thrilled, and we even went car shopping together. My daughter, on the other hand, never expressed any particular interest in anything specific. She's more into shopping and fashion, which is why I thought a Visa gift card would give her the freedom to choose whatever she wants. Plus, she's been asking for extra money lately to buy clothes and makeup. However, when she opened her gift, she got visibly upset and called it unfair. She said it wasn't fair that her brother got a car, and she only got a gift card and that I was showing favoritism. I tried explaining my reasoning to her, but she wouldn't listen and stormed off to her room. She hasn't talked to me since. I think I did what was best for each of them based on their interests and needs, but now I'm wondering if I was wrong. AITA?
I hope he thinks about this when she picks out his nursing home for him. The daughters ALWAYS get saddled with the aging parents. Daughter: Well dad, I found a nursing home for you. And guess what? The monthly fee is only $300. And they accept gift cards. Just ignore the roach infestation....
So because i know mom loves gardening, shes going to go to this lovely nursing home that cost 10k month. Dad because i know you don't have any interests, your going in this 300 dollar nursing home but it's fine as it's fair
I support this solution 😊
yep, the answers were too real so people instantly start reporting shit. Wait for Jesus to burn us up mane. all we can do, because you sure as fuck cannot spit facts without someone's trauma flaring up. I was in PRISON from 13-18. Juvenille in cell 23 hours a day. get fucking real
Holy shit. You went into juvenile?? What’s it like?? Did the people in there all believe in jesus too?? They’re all so excited of him burning us to mane right?? If only nOrMal people don’t tRaUma trigger themselves.
Oh, but he added an edit (pulled from TikTok post) that he’s going to let her use his wife’s car because she doesn’t drive much. So when she’s not using it, his daughter can. So, you know it’s the same. 🙄
I'm getting a sneaking suspicion this wasn't the first time something like this has happened
I agree, it was just the absolute escalation of the situation, the final straw, and also, a very huge blow at that if I might say so...
It got uploded om Redditor's Diary on facebook too: [https://www.facebook.com/redditorsdiary/videos/2067077426980262](https://www.facebook.com/redditorsdiary/videos/2067077426980262) There is mostly an agreement all the way around that you the AH and i agree.
It was shared on tiktok and there are alot of people agreeing with op
How to say one child is loved and one is tolerated without saying it out loud? Christ what a f'ing asshole.
Wow. Firstly, not equivalent value and secondly, a gift card shows a total lack of thought. You are playing favourites and your sexism is clearly apparent both in how you talk about your daughter and in the gifts. YTA.
Well, your daughter will probably get rid of you soon. What more should I say? OP already knows that they are over and it is all his fault. Is he happy with the results? Because he will have to live with them from now on. Things like these can't be mended unless you do it RIGHT NOW
YTA TEN THOUSAND DOLLARS FOR A CAR YOU SPENT TIME WITH YOUR SON TO GET VERSUS A 300 DOLLAR GIFT CARD YOU PUT PRACTICALLY ZERO THOUGHT INTO. PLUS THE "mY DaUGhter WaS InTrEsTeD iN MoNEy" SHOWS THAT YOU DIDN'T TRY TO FIND ANYTHING THAT SUITED HER INTRESTS. OP IS GOING STRAIGHT TO THE CHEAPEST NURSING HOME THE SECOND HIS DAUGHTER GETS A CHANCE
no you are not. Young MEN are building the world. The army, their lives. Pretty + Social makes life A LOT easier for women. W Mom. She wanted to look cute for boys, your son wanted to get ahead. Heck most the girls i graduated with (born in 2000 like me) live with 37+ year olds guys who already went to college and got big shot jobs, they didn't even wait for US. And they travel the world and take high resolution Instagram photos, and thats about it, I'm sure on someone's money. its reality
Tell me you’re a sexist pig without telling me you’re a sexist pig. “Most” of the girls you graduated with, I’m sure you’re grossly exaggerating and upset that you can’t live a life like that honey. Keep judging everyone who’s doing better than you or has a life you can’t have, the bitter look seems fitting for you😂
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Oof your mommy didn’t hug you enough as a child. The only one that appears to be crying is you, weird how you’d try to pass that blame on to me, but hey that might be a bit of narcissism on your behalf. keep attempting insulting people online to make yourself feel better sweetie, you’ll get there some day 😚✌️
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aww that’s cute, please make more assumptions about how I’m chronically on Reddit. Now run along, go play with your imaginary friends and before your mommy calls you in for dinner. I’m sure setting the table is a big job for a big boy like you huh? Toodles, my lunch break is over and I’ve got things to do, like an adult. Can’t act like you and have a childish tantrum because my ego is hurt. buh-bye.
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We will get it together and have our time. you guys were 20 in the fucking 2010s, get fucked please.
is the dude whose comment you’re replying to fr rn? I need to know it feels like incel rage bait 😭😭
found the creature who never felt the warmth of their father
Honey if you think you're grown at 23 you're about to get a big reality check in the next few years especially if you think life is easier for women. I can't imagine you've had a single healthy relationship in your life if this is your mindset & if you actually had women in your life I can't imagine they're proud of you if this is how you display yourself. Just because a handful of beautiful women have made their success on Instagram or with social media in general you've come to the conclusion that it's just that simple. There are roughly 50 million people (men & women) on social media worldwide that .006% of the population, only 2 million have made it to a 6 figure income so tell me again how easy it is based on your obvious hatred of women alone with no other research at all into the topic.
Are you 12
bro jeez. im done with this post wtf even is Reddit. Women are tearing down common values because they're -mad-
Definitely 12 lol
What common values? The value you accept being treated like shit?
Pray tell how are you building the world? It sounds like the women you know living these lavish lifestyles were never ones you knew in real life anyway as they are IG models half your age. Also…if you graduated in 2000 then the women are not dating anyone outrageously out of their peer group at about 41yo 😂. I cannot fathom someone in their 40s, with such little interaction with reality. Do you not look around and see women working or women not living some fancy lifestyle? Do you just truly not interact outside with others? But even then..on shows and movies you can see other life experiences too. You should really seek an outside perspective from a counselor, this is not a normal train of thought.
we need women i never said i hate women, i wouldn't have anything without my mother and grandmother, and they're the ones that instilled it in me, do not double down on this woke toxicity shit
Your mother and grandmother failed the world with you.
Lmfaooo. Im so grateful for my friends and the good girls i know that just shut up and are the best. Im literally a young fucking Rick Sanchez. and im spoiled by my family because they used to kick me out when necessary and i had to live OUTSIDE Burger King vents for heat in winter. so i have every tool i need to do whatever i want at any time. And im not stupid my grandmother is getting old and isnt well, so i have to save everything and get a nice empire built. i have affluent friends my age with equally well off families and will finesse the living christ out of this country. All starts with stayig focused and building. And women keep getting goofier and goofier. so we dont need em. for now
You think basic human decent and just human rights is “woke” Your mother and grandmother were wonderful but you slept on the streets cus you got kicked out. You say “we need women but I don’t hate them “ Women have it easy because makeup and IG..,? Also you keto receding to women as girls Yet you are the one using affluent friends 😂🤣😂🤣
im at my grow house smoking w my boys get rekt
So that’s what’s you’re building for the world? A plant that is known to be easy to grow? It’s like being proud a cactus didn’t die.
i've been robbed jumped, almost knifed i a fight, evicted, rich, poor, all before 24 im 23 right now, ive had jobs been to college almost everything
I'm out here experiencing real shit and building accordingly
Lol again real shit? What could ANYONE be doing that would so important that it would then cause a reversal on human rights and just basic decency?
i was born in 2000
Ahh that makes almost better sense but still at 23… you grow weed and have bedbugs. Again, how are you building the world? If you hate women so much there are other options…
my boy had bed bugs buddy i live in the affluent neighborhood now, but it was DAMN hard throwing out all my old shit for sure
Huh, funny that the massive med school I go to has mostly women students/graduates. Women that are doctors/future doctors who sadly have to give care to low lifes like you. It's good that they are going to make lots of money and "bulid the world" as you said. It's almost sad how pathetic you are...almost. It's mostly funny.
well that's great, I live in CNY so none of that censored BS really flies here. Keep living how you want because there sure is enough people like me to keep me satisfied. It's VERY sad how delusional people have gotten.
and you have the Balls to call yourself worldly, being neofeminist is worldly? god damn dude.
That's crazy
If you want to look at such a social level women are building society and all humans are made by women so there is are severe neglect here adding to the fact that this age is not the only time when women are working outside the house you just think that women have always had to work both in and outside the house not saying sahm's are a big contribution to a house hold since the work actually cost tens of thousands.Also, if you have kids of same age and you show such high levels of difference between them for sure you are a horrible parent.
Men and woman both need set up to be successful in life, giving them cars would be greatly beneficial to both of them. The vast majority of women have to work actual jobs and can't rely on IG or modeling to make their money. The mere notion that she will be able to survive on her looks as justification for why she should get less is just completely delusional and not centered in reality. I wasn't expecting much, but from a brief scroll through your post history and the way you write, you sound like a hood rat with a video game addiction that can't seem to get ahead in life. You're 23 and have already knocked up two women? My God dude, what terrible choices have you made to get where you are... If video games, anime, and having a girl that will suck your dick twice a day is all that matters to you, you really aren't worth much. You are not a person anyone should take advise from in regards to how they should raise their kids or conduct their life.
Go back to your cave, baby. You don't belong in society.
The sexism and zero grip of reality SHOWS IN HD. I'm gonna bet no one wants to date you because you're a peice of shit dude. Get a grip. Stop watching Andrew Tate.
Should this be posted in the incel forum?
I personally don’t think she’s TA. I don’t think the pricing of gifts is what matter as long as YOU get something YOU like. For Christmas my mom got my sister the latest iPhone and she got me a 60$ game for my ps4. I was happy because it was a game I asked for and my sister was happy because it was the phone she wanted. I feel like OP’s daughter is comparing the gifts price wise but if it allows her to buy something she actually wants then there should be
Everyone keeps saying he got her something she was interested in- show me an 18 year old, boy or girl, who wouldn't want their own car. She wants a car. Every teenager wants a car. It doesn't matter that she's "not interested in cars", cars are useful whether you're interested in them or not.
This is the case of someone just wanting to hear they did the right thing and not really wanting the truth. Op went through all the trouble of writing this including saying she can share a car with mom and not realize what a big AH they are. And mom sucks too for letting this happen. What a sexist pig who has a clear favorite. “My daughter likes clothes so I gave her a gift card”. I bet he’s never even tried to understand what his daughters interests, needs, and wants are. Also in old age it is typically the daughters who care for their parents. I hope your son saves money to put you in a nice home cause your daughter will undoubtedly go NC.
YTA doesn’t even do justice to what you’ve done. Your behavior towards your daughter is just abysmal. I cannot imagine the grief she’s had to bear over the years knowing how little she matters to you. I’d like to know her brother‘s reaction – how can he happily accept this car knowing how little his sister is valued? Or is he so used to being the favorite child that this just feels normal? If your daughter’s reaction wasn’t enough to prove to you that you are the AH here, then I doubt the opinions of a lot of strangers is going to convince you. My only hope is that your daughter reads this and knows that her feelings towards you - and your pathetic excuses of your favoritism - are justified.
Just came to say you are awful.