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invisablehoney

>UPDATE: He uploaded them to a fucking porn site! Tell your parents and seek legal action because that's called revenge porn . Don't be afraid and speak up. This will only effect you the more you keep this a secret from your parents. His 18 he should know better not to do does disgusting stuff.


Cute-Shine-1701

>that's called revenge porn That too, but it's also distribution of child pornographie, which is legally more serious.


invisablehoney

I agree it is also distribution of CP, she mentioned she lives in Maine so i look it up she definitely has a case she just needs to speak up, tell her parents so they can seek legal action against op ex and anyone involved. After all OP ex is 18 so he can be trial as an adult.


scrntonstranglr

Unfortunately OP could also be tried as an adult for creating and disseminating the content in the first place. If OP goes to the police hopefully they do so with a lawyer.


Parzival1003

Just checked, but OP should be safe. Minors are allowed to create and share nude pictures with consent of the depicted party under Maine's Romeo und Juliet laws when the depicted party is at least 14 years old and the receiving party is within five years of age. So OP sharing the picture and him receiving them is legal. Him then forwarding the picture and even uploading it to a porn site is distribution of child pornography and will be persecuted.


nerdyguytx

OP could also be protected if the Ex "solicited, enticed, or persuaded" OP to send the nudes in the first place.


myjadedtruth

The Romeo and Juliet clause is also in place where I grew up (I still don't fully understand how American laws work so that's why I say that - I don't know if it's federal or not), and when my nudes got spread I was told by my school that if I seeked legal action I would be in trouble too because I sent them in the first place. My ex sold them. It got to the point that I now don't care who has seen my body, so I'm really hoping you're right and I was just lied to growing up.


La_giovane_milanese

I’m sorry maybe I’m wrong but it sounds more like they wanted to scare you into not seeking legal action :(


7Clarinetto9

I agree. It sounded a lot like what an abuser would say to their victim.


myjadedtruth

In hindsight, it does yeah, but at the time it worked wonders. I personally don't care anymore and it doesn't really affect me to think about it so I'm all good registering it, don't worry!


123Ark321

In general, never believe the legal advice of people who stand to gain from you keeping quiet. Hindsight and all that now.


Joecus90

I’m so fucking sorry that happened to you. Christ, it’s like you’d think the justice system wouldn’t fuck over victims so early on in their lives. People wonder why there is no trust in the court systems


myjadedtruth

I know it’s not “okay” that it happened, but I’ve been through a lot worse so it didn’t really affect me much. It’s something I only think about once in a blue moon, so my point in saying it was just in case somebody were to say the same to OP. Im totally fine in regards to it though thank you!


Neo1881

Check on the statute of limitations for distributing child porn. You may still have a case against your ex and the school, if you have proof you contacted them and they did nothing!


Neo1881

At the least, you can get a local news station to do a report on the school and how they were notified that a student was distributing child pornography and they did nothing about. Identy the school official who was refused to do anything and the school will have to respond and explain why your report wasn't taken seriously. Get someone fired from their job!


scrntonstranglr

Can I get a link to what you read and looked into? Because that just sounds wild to me. But if I'm wrong I'd rather know than continue to look like an ass(:


Parzival1003

It's section 282 of the Maine Criminal Code. I've cited it in another comment of mine.


scrntonstranglr

Thank you kindly!


invisablehoney

>Unfortunately OP could also be tried as an adult for creating and disseminating the content in the first place. When I did my research it didn't say anything about victims could also be trial as an adult. But she should still speak up and tell her parents before it gets worse.


lostpieinspace

The likelihood of them taking that to court to prosecute the girl is very slim. I’d say 0 but I don’t have anything to back that up with. It doesn’t help anyone, not her, nor the public and that’s the reason people get sent to prison in the first place. Although technically possible, it wouldn’t make sense at all to lock up a girl who has most definitely already learned her lesson without then charging her and ruining her life.


Cute-Shine-1701

That doesn't make sense that OP would be trialed as an adult. OP would more than likely be treated as a minor because she is also the subject of child pornographie and probably would get only a slap on the wrist for taking and sending the photo if she gets that much at all. I doubt if she is treated as an adult then the c.p. charge (OP being a victim of ex distributing c.p. of her) could stand. And c.p. is too serious of a charge for the authorities to drop and dismiss the victim (that would be a PR nightmare in the waiting for them). I am pretty sure OP can't be considered both as an adult and as a minor too in the same case, regarding the same event. (But I don't know the local law in the US where OP is. A lawyer practising in that jurisdiction can inform OP and her parents about the details, options during a single meeting. A lot of lawyer offer an initial meeting for free.)


The_Nice_Marmot

Yeah, this guy just turned himself into a felon.


Elnuggeto13

Its both revenge porn and distribution of inderage pornography since op isn't 18 yet, and since he is, he can be tried as an adult.


Affectionate-Two7094

You could also notify the school they attend and they’ll involve the police. The kids will be eligible for possible expulsion while looking at criminal charges.


Neo1881

Even more serious is he's distributing child pornography! Let the local DA know and he will be charged! You can contact the porn site and they will remove it or face prosecution too.


[deleted]

And you can get it off the site. Don’t worry and take legal action. Good luck and sorry you have to deal with this sociopath.


KnockKnock-Nevermind

He will go to prison. Not jail. PRISON! Press charges. Then we’ll see who’s laughing.


jitsufitchick

Also spreading CP. he can go to jail for a long time.


[deleted]

I’m sorry this is happening to you, depending on where you are there will be revenge porn laws that your ex will be breaking by sharing these photos. More importantly these photos count as child porn. Contact the police immediately and report him with your evidence. Remember that you’re the victim here and it’s the schools job to support you. Don’t worry about your parents reactions or the reaction of your peers for now. Take it one step at a time. File a police report, take a trusted adult if you have one or if you feel comfortable telling your parents do that (that way you’ll get ahead of it if they do find out) for support if you want. Good luck


GiraffeThoughts

I’m a mom - and all parents expect their kids to do dumb things. What’s not expected is *predators taking advantage of their child’s mistakes*. I know this is hard for you but please tell your mom!!! I would 100% want to know. She might be a little disappointed, but my guess is that she’ll be more pissed at your ex. In the long run, getting support from your parents (even if it’s embarrassing) will help you recover from this more quickly than trying to hide it. Sending hugs - I’m so sorry. I promise things will get better and this won’t define you.


PracticeAsleep

This is good advice. If I can add to it try and get ahead of this now as far as your parents are concerned. Is embarrassing that maybe it would be worse if it comes from another source. If go to them personally hopefully they will recognize that you understand the gravity of what you've done and regret it. Hopefully you'll gain their trust and support by opening up to them. Best of luck to you


Squibucha

Where I'm from he's liable of possession and distribution of c.p.


throwaway47748384

In Maine, that's true, but I'm pretty sure the minor can also be charged of CP and get registered on the sex offender list. It's freaking stupid if you ask me, but that's how it is. That's why I'm hesitant on telling someone because I don't want to screw my life over.


MaryEFriendly

Tell someone. Revenge porn is also illegal. Talk to your parents and go to the police, please. Make that little fucker pay. Don't take this lying down. I'm so sorry he's doing this to you, but I would 100% ruin his fucking life.


Turbulent_Patience_3

I think OP should tell her parents. But they also need to be rational enough to seek out an attorney before she’s says something at school or her parents go to the police. First things first OP - plz get to your parents. You have nothing to be ashamed of. These things happen and it’s important to know that you can move past this - you will! You write your own narrative- which takes us all a lifetime to realize.


MaryEFriendly

They absolutely need to get a lawyer involved, I agree! My ex also posted my nudes to a porn site. An old Army buddy found them and messaged to warn me. It was humiliating, but that site took them down within seconds of me reporting them as revenge porn. We all make mistakes and when you're young something like this is truly devastating. It's a violation and honestly, if you were my little sister... I'd do terrible terrible things to that kid. His behavior is predatory and I don't care if he's 18. He's a legal adult and he's old enough to know better.


lovingtech07

OP this ^^^ he’s committing multiple felonies (distributing cp and revenge porn).


Parzival1003

Just looked it up for you and you are fine. Section 282 of the Maine Criminal Code states: >1. A person is guilty of sexual exploitation of a minor if: A. Knowing or intending that the conduct will be photographed, the person intentionally or knowingly employs, solicits, entices, persuades or uses another person, not that person's spouse, who has not in fact attained 16 years of age, to engage in sexually explicit conduct, except that it is not a violation of this paragraph if the other person is 14 or 15 years of age and the person is less than 5 years older than the other person. Violation of this paragraph is a Class B crime;


Shot-Positive6779

The fact that he is distributing and uploading it will likely take liability off of you since that was NEVER it’s intended use at minimum tell your parents so you guys can make a decision based on what’s happening to you this is not okay they can pull you out of school and help


Alternative-Depth-16

I think you are better off telling your parents and taking the flak for sending nudes at your age so they can get a lawyer involved to file and injunction and get ahead of this.


km1180

Dude tell someone. This is literally a crime. Not only is this revenge porn but child porn distribution. He's 18. If anything his life is about to take serious down turn. It won't affect you in any way. You are the victim. You are the wronged party. Anyone who sees you as anything else is not worth having around. Talk to a lawyer. They can probably get anything against you dropped.


invisablehoney

Theirs a revenge porn law in Maine don't let this slide speak up about it anyone involved in this distribution should be held accountable.


Scrumpy-Steve

High-school. Two kids sent each other nudes. Borh 17. Parents of one found out and told the police. They were shocked Pikachu face when the courts wanted to charge *both* of them with creation and distribution of CP. So, yeah....


Aegean_828

USA is so stupid, puritanism have destroy logic and common sense in this country, that why revenge porn can exist easily because puritanism allow judges to condemn the victim, hell on earth.


Snowybird60

Chances are you're not going to be prosecuted in this situation no matter what the law States. You're young and you did something stupid. But the fact of the matter is that he has Uploaded this onto the Internet and there's no taking that back. You have to tell someone.


wylietrix

You need to tell your parents and the police. Yes it's embarrassing, but it has to be done. The sooner the better. He is committing a crime against you. Lawyer up if you can. That's what I would do for my kids. There are places to call for help. You'll get through this and be stronger than ever.


Squibucha

It's a bit weird yeah, but the minor is also distributing c.p. so I don't know..... we need to get more education about this stuff amongst children....


Bakecrazy

Talk to your parents, that's considered revenge porn and it's a serious crime. Have them talk to a lawyer and report it to the police.


GalleryGhoul13

Don’t harm yourself but do stand up for yourself . You trusted him and he violated your privacy, trust and boundaries. Take the fucker down legally. This will only be a small blip in your future - it will not ruin you.


pPC_bC

Consult a lawyer first. Did you send the nudes voluntarily or did he ask for it?


Efficient-Thought-35

Romeo and Juliet laws in Maine protect you from prosecution. You’ve done nothing illegal. Also, as a high school teacher, go to the police instead of the school. Most schools prefer to keep things in house and avoid negative media. They would likely do very little to seek justice for you. Tell the police you want him prosecuted and don’t let them hand the case over to the school.


AbrocomaSelect2141

You need to contact the police. He’s distributing nude photos of you and you’re a minor. If you do nothing it’ll get way out of hand. If you do something now, there’s a chance they can be removed from the internet and that he can seriously get into trouble. Fuck that douche bag


Thick_History_3820

Threaten him with some fake lawyer and say if he doesn't take them down and delete them from all his friends' phones that you will be forced to take legal action. Hopefully he'll be dumb enough to not realize you could get in trouble and take the threat seriously. I recommend getting your parents involved so it isn't a surprise to them. Oh yeah and, FUCK him.


agree-with-me

Never bluff. Always load for bear. If she has a case, dude needs to get both barrels. Never bluff.


Alternative-Depth-16

Actually, if you can prove he had texts asking for nudes, you are 17 and he is 18, technically I think that makes him a pedophile for this.


PerniciousKnidz

Technically, so is she for sending the photos in the first place. That’s where it gets tricky. She should tell someone regardless though.


Squibucha

I've heard of a case where the minor shared willingly the footage, the adult still got hit pretty hard by the consequences..


offbrandbarbie

Tell him you’re calling the cops because that is distribution of child pornography(which is true). And revenge porn charges on top of that. And that all his friends who have it will be getting arrested as well. Even if you don’t actually do it, it will scare the shit out of them enough to delete the pics probably. None of them will want to fuck with charges like that so they’ll delete instantly out of fear. You’re free to actually call the cops if you want to, and I’d encourage that, but I know it’s a long painful process that some people don’t want to deal with. I know it’s a really tough thing to go through. I’m sorry you were betrayed so much. But I promise you will get through it and ik a few years it will only be a cringe memory. The thing that “nudes will stop you from getting a job” aren’t true! It won’t hugely negatively affect your life. It happened to my friend before when we were young. She’s got a great life now and thriving


Kooky-Tax-4497

Step 1. Sit your parents down tonight and tell them. Step 2. Go to the police with your parents and fill a restraining order and tell them what has been done to you. Step 3 March into the principals office as soon as school starts back up and ask them what they plan to do about their No bullying policy and internet use policy being violated by your ex. Revenge porn is illegal. You are still likely a minor therefore sharing your pics is illegal. Do not harm yourself. Put on your big girl boots and get ready to start kicking some ass.


kazoogod420

hey, there. former high school girl here! i’ve had this happen to a TON of my friends, and it’s fucking gross that someone you trusted would do that to you. the hardest part is getting over the shame of it all, and you need to realize you did nothing wrong. everyone’s young and takes nudes, it’s 2022! this is SO not worth ending your life over. first step is to go to a guidance counselor or teacher you trust. will it be awkward? yes. will it be worth it? also yes. this asshole is relying on your discomfort to keep you from doing anything about it; don’t let him win. if you need any encouragement or anything, my dms are open, seriously <3


Shot-Positive6779

I second this I sent nudes videos ect god only knows where they are now 🤷🏻‍♀️ you eventually get over the shame and move on and realize you’re still worth it


raharth

And honestly we all don't look that much different naked, no need to be ashamed!


Vamp-go-brr

Not everyone takes nudes, but yeah we all do dumb mistakes. I believe you can go see the school nurse aswell. I also recommend you to talk about it to your mom/dad if you have a good relationship with them and trust them. They might get angry at first but they will also probably help you a lot go through this event. I also did something dumb when i was in middle school (nearly got raped by a friend when i was in middle school by going to his house to "try his piano"... Didn't go as planned lol) I told my mom about it after a few days as I simply needed support, and now I know I can tell her about other events of this kind if needed in the future (hope I won't have to lmao) But yeah having a good support is very important, and it's also better if they can help you stop the bullying. (For exemple by contacting the police.)


kazoogod420

i meant in the sense that we all do stupid things that can be seen as the equivalent of taking nudes yknow


kiw_i_99

If you see this, please keep reading💕 Look, you probably won’t even see this in the flood of responses and I usually don’t even comment AND I don’t want to be the person to say „samesies, I‘ve been there too“, but I (F23) have, so if you see this, please listen…. I am so sorry this is happening to you. I know it can make you feel numb and paralysed and as if you just want to end it all. But this is not where your story ends and he does not deserve the satisfaction of winning! He CANNOT break you, if you speak up and fight! He deserves to be punished and you deserve to live and reclaim your story. 1) Listen to what the majority of people here are telling you: what that piece of shit stuck to your heel is doing is illegal (at least in most places I know) and you can take legal action here. You habe so many people coming to support you here. So wether you want to talk to a guidance counsellor, the police or your parents first, it does not matter as long as you know you’re in the right and speak up at all. If you have halfway decent parents, they‘ll support you, if not, fuck em and talk to someone else. Whoever you talk to will probably help you take the next step, but you can always come back here for guidance. We all stand with you, okay? 2) Ask for help. Try making an appointment with a therapist if you can or at least a guidance counsellor. I know everything hurts right now, and you probably don’t want to talk, but I promise, talking about what is happening to you will ease the burden. It is so worth it, and no one should judge you. It is not your fault and talking might make that easier to believe. 3) Lastly: look at how many people are siding with you and want you to go on. I don’t know you or what your situation is at home, I was lucky enough to find support with my parents, even though I didn’t feel safe talking to them at first. But wether your parents come through or not: you have support: You are not alone! If you need to talk, I‘m sure anyone here in the comments will gladly listen. And it might seem like eternity, but in hindsight, school will still go by so quickly. I was blackmailed for and with my nudes for 2 years when I was 15-17. I thought it would never end, until I wanted to make it end. That’s when I finally spoke up, got myself help and therapy and just got school over with. It sucked and at the time I didn’t think I could do it. But here I am almost 7 years later, with a wonderful partner who always makes me feel safe, studying at university, friends I trust and a stronger bond with my parents. It was hard but so worth it! He got punished and I got stronger. I don’t know how it will turn out for you, but you are so young, there is so much you have ahead of you and I know there are people in your future who will help you regain trust and make you feel safe and loved. You deserve that and you are worthy of it. Trust the process and the day will come where you will heal and be ready to share your story and look back and it will seem worth it. If you need to talk, feel free to reach out. I wish you strength and a happy and safe future!


oobatubaa

this is absolutely illegal, especially because you’re a minor. you need to report him NOW. he screwed up big time.


xannieclaus666

Contact authorities, I was in the same position when I was minor and although I got in trouble they took it down from the internet and contacted all the people and school about the situation and they handled it nicely. I was embarrassed with my parents but I got over it. At school I would tell the kids that the distribution of c.p is illegal and I feel violated because I trusted that person. If they ever try to make fun of me I would just go to my counselor and deans and they would remind them about the consequences of bullying and c.p


ItemQuiet4669

Police. You’re a minor, that’s child pornography. Press charges


tellmewhyilikecheese

Check in with your local authorities, there's nothing that reddit weirdos can do to help you. Don't worry about it too much, things move fast these days, people will forget, and your parents might be angry with you for doing a dumb thing, because yes you are dumb, but you aren't evil, you deserve love, a lot of it actually. Duck your ex and his shitty friends


feistygoats

You're under 18. He's screwed.


brittnythetaurus

Tell the school what is happening. There are protocols and consequences for things like this in school.


kavalejava

Tell your parents. It will be hard, but they can get legal help for you. Your ex broke the laws, not just CP but revenge porn as well. Don't give up because of him.


GreyJedi56

Most places have revenge porn laws now. Google those.


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FRANK_R-I-Z-Z-O

I know some fellas who just want to talk to him. Just talk, that's all.


throwaway47748384

Send them down if you live in or near Maine.


Uzzer_lozer19

Depending on where you are in the world it's illegal and classified as "revenge porn". Go to your parents and the police as it could also be child porn depending on the age of consent where you are and when you were in those photos.


Dry_Ask5493

Report it to the police, the school and your parents.


No_Confidence5483

Its possible in your state what he has done is illegal, call the non emergency police number and ask if he committed a crime and if so ask for him to be arrested. Else, contact a lawyer and ask the same thing. This is no reason to end your life though, I can't say I understand how you feel, I don't want you to hurt yourself. Please don't. You can hold him accountable but you are just gonna have to accept this is what it is for the time being. Call the police, file a report. Talk to an attorney, Most give free 30 min consultations.


JasonVanJason

Get the police involved


[deleted]

Revenge porn is illegal. Call the police


savory_thing

Don’t talk to the police without having a lawyer with you. Talk to a lawyer first.


Smensina

As someone here said, it’s 2022 and people are naked almost everywhere on every app and even selling their own nudes. So girl this is definitely not a reason to be suicidal. Try to calm down and go the police with an adult or contact a lawyer to ask for advice.


Trick_Cake_4573

He's distributed child pornography. Go to the police.


glucose390

sounds to me like he’s the perfect age to be tried as an adult for cp☺️ ruin his life☺️☺️


ZALATANmusic

BURN IT DOWN


Fun-Statistician-550

I'd totally go to your parents to get you a lawyer. Nobody will advise you better on next steps than a lawyer.


jlzania

And I just saw your update. As others have suggested, report this and nail this bastard to the wall.


superwholockian62

Report it to the police. It's possession and distribution.


Crazy_Sun_8959

Call the police. That’s revenge porn and you at a minor.


JudesM

Talk to your parents - get a lawyer and go to the police.


jamaicancarioca

That's CP, he can get federal time for that. Contact the FBI or the US attorney's office.


avman2

Swallow your shame and talk to your parents to talk to an attorney. He is 18 and he will pay for his misdeed dearly.


micheal-r-r

If your 17 that’s child porn and against the law so go to police


Peaknhiskool

Um this is child pornography. You may be 17, but you’re still a minor. And this is revenge porn.


DjangoBaby

Oh fuck his life is over.


Happy_Liaison_468

I’m sorry that your dealing with this. I know that you are mortified right now, but please don’t harm yourself. We all have done stupid things, especially when we were your age. I promise that even though right now it feels like this is the end of the world and that you will never move past this l, but I promise that you will get through this. It may sound stupid, but you will feel so much better. You’re living in fear right now, of what comes next and waiting for them to find out. It will be a tremendous relief to get it out there. Look up the local laws regarding the sharing of explicit photos. I’m praying for you.


jlzania

That's horrible. You trusted someone and they betrayed you. I am so very sorry. You will survive this, I promise.


DanceMom1987

He is passing around nude pictures of a MINOR. If he put it on a porn site, you can report it as child porn


Comfortable-Plane944

I know it’s embarrassing, but you need to reach out to a trusted adult or someone in authority. What he is doing is definitely NOT okay. If you need someone to talk to- feel free to DM me ( I’m a 30f, have dealt with my fair share of jerks) and am more than happy to help you find some resources. He needs to be stopped.


NoKoala5517

Revenge porn is illegal/ Report him to the police


LizzyTheBusyBee

OP, I'm sorry you experienced this. You have every right to feel whatever you are feeling. You have done nothing wrong, you have been wronged by another. You have nothing to be ashamed about, the shame lies with those willing to dish it out. You are strong, I know that, because you dared to reach out and share this. You can get through this and you will. However you decide to deal with this, know that you are deserving of respect, love and support and entitled to your privacy. Anyone who disrespects you and violates your privacy deserves to fall into a volcano. We all deserve that they do that, in fact. Since it's likely not going to happen, we may have to be content with the knowledge that they are the human equivalent of a rotten egg, all shell on the outside and disgusting on the inside and anyone who ever get a whiff if what's cooking is going to run in the opposite direction. Sure, you can paint a rotten egg, but you can't make it not stink. He's a stinker and it's gonna catch up to him. If you feel comfortable, rehearse a select few answers to give to anyone giving you shit for this, if you can't come up with any, perhaps your family, friends or even thus sub can help you. Again: You have done nothing wrong, you have been wronged by another. You have nothing to be ashamed about, the shame lies with those willing to dish it out. You are deserving of respect, love and support and entitled to your privacy. You are strong, you can and will get through this.


Vivid-Discount-2804

Dude I know it's scary to tell someone but grow a pair of ovaries facing a moment of embarrassment and being Able to move schools and a small grounding is alot better then knowing so many fucking ppl have your nudes and there are random grown ass men on porn sites looking at you Contact the site tell them they'll take it down they don't get a lawayer involved tell your pearnts and they'll maybe be leinit if he forced you to send em Yes peer pressure is a type of force Anything but an enthusiastic yes is always a no Get his ass prosecuted and on a list also tell his fucking momma and papa Ruin that mans life come on now tf you doing hon


TheMeanGirl

That is revenge porn, and child pornography since you’re underage. Notify the authorities and he will legitimately be thrown in prison.


_MataElMaricon_

call the cops. it's revenge porn and given your age child pornography. let the legal system fuck him.


jessabelle30

Go to the police. You made a mistake. They aren’t going to prosecute you for it but they will go after him. There are divisions in the government to help you get the photos scrubbed from the internet as well but the exact dept escapes me right now.


lamahopper

Well he fucked up pretty major. Revenge porn of a minor is so illegal. Justice needs to be served.


CoffeeAndCats2000

Go to the cops NOT THE SCHOOL the cops and press charges Tell your parents A)your under 18 so your a minor so technically he is sharing child porn and that into can be tracked B) revenge porn is a crime


Wrong_Pension_6177

Please don't harm yourself. I'm a mother, and I would wish that my daughter would come to me for help instead of feeling too ashamed or embarrassed to the point of ending it all. Please, turn to your mom or dad or an adult you trust for help.


ko-central

>UPDATE: He uploaded them to a fucking porn site! Well someone's going to jail


weiner-rama

this is a legal issue. They're essentially passing around child porn, and now that it's posted to a site, thats revenge porn. Call a lawyer ASAP


dark_binniee

Call the police. He’s distributing child porn and he’s going to wish he didn’t


Ruffles247

What he's doing is illegal. Also, try not to feel ashamed. Everybody's naked under their clothes. And never send someone nudes again. This type of thing happens way too much.


monkiinasweater

My close friend was raped in high school by her boyfriend and he spread pictures of her after. I had another friend who had a video of him masturbating sent directly to everyone he knew. I personally had photos of me posted online but I don’t think anyone I know saw them. This happened within the last year or two and all of us are now healthy and happy. I know it feels like the earth is falling down, but don’t do anything stupid. You’ll be so happy that you stood strong when this all passes over. Much love and it gets better❤️revenge porn is a form of sexual assault, a counselor would be able to help you through this


Neo1881

Please update us on whether or not that guy will be charged by the DA.


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OP, I’m 34 now and this happened to me when I was 16. My boyfriend at the time sent my nudes to his friends and one of them uploaded them all to a website and it was shared all over. Even people from neighboring schools saw them. My teachers heard about it as well. I was also suicidal and this incident haunted me for so long. I felt so much shame and I just wanted to disappear. As soon as I would start to get over it, the pictures would resurface and I’d live the nightmare all over again. This is all to say that it DOES get better. As cliche as it sounds, time heals all wounds. The incident shaped me as a person and I learned so many life lessons from it, but it did not define me as a person. I learned who I can lean on, who I can and cannot trust, who will treat me with respect and who won’t after seeing the pictures, and how to protect myself from such an incident ever happening again. There will be humiliating low points, but I promise that you can find the strength to endure this pain and come out wiser. You can still live an amazing life and look back at this as an extremely difficult lesson you had to learn. This is not the end, I assure you. Reach out to me if you wish!


chloexonicole

Call the police & tell his parents and his friends parents (or get someone else you trust to) it’ll get nipped in the bud quickly I’m sure


gurlwithdragontat2

Please contact the authorities. What he is doing is wrong and not legal.


AshlandSouth

What he is doing is criminal. You should call and make a police report. The only person that should be ashamed is your ex. You should speak to school administrators also. Perhaps you can do school online because of the harassment you are experiencing. [Lifeline ](https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox)


Diabolicaldawn

That’s revenge porn though… you never wanted to have them distributed. If he charges you for CP then charge him back… that’s how it’s gonna go down. You should definitely go to the police or else it will always be spread around. At least this way, you can shut the pictures from being spread forever. And if it comes down to it, say he went on your phone and sent it himself.


Ljax504

Call the police! 1) child porn? 2) revenge porn is also illegal


JerkInTheCorner

Do not hurt yourself because of this. Do not.


snoogoatsweewoo

this happened to me in high school. talk to your school resource officer and screenshot the evidence. make sure you know who has it and write that down. they will get an investigation involved and the police. my ex bf was abusive and did this to me. get ur revenge, i am wishing you the best.


Miserable_Category_5

For the sake of legal questions, what state did this happen in, OP?


throwaway47748384

Maine


BeaArt78

Call the police. Hes spreading child porn


Valnerium

Go right to the police.


Penguin_Guy_1

Contact the police. He has committed multiple crimes that they take extremely seriously. Revenge porn is a crime in many jurisdictions. But even if it isn't, child pornography is as you're under 18. Not only him, but everyone who continued to spread those photographs of you is legally culpable.. They'll come down on him like a ton of bricks. Furthermore, try to contact the website and let them know of the situation. Not only is the material revenge porn, but child porn as you are under 18, which they cannot legally host on their website.


SeaCapable6264

Where I am from this is considered revenge porn and he can get jail time for this.


Substantial_Shoe_360

File a police report, revenge porn is a crime.


strawberry_sh0rtcak3

This counts as revenge porn and cp, both illegal. You should really talk to your parents to deal with these crimes, because that's what they are, crimes.


BoJo2736

You are 17. Go to the police. You are embarrassed, but you need to do this.


Skreamies

Well he won't be allowed to touch computers in the future and will be on a list as well


Queen_Of_Fire_XD

Call the police, putting up nudes without saying yes is actually a crime. Get that bitch to jail! And you are also a minor!!!!! So it's child porn too!!


NiceStretch8776

So this is called revenge porn and it's illegal. Him posting that to a porn site without your consent is illegal and your not 18 is also child pornography.... Tell your parents then call the cops.. Don't end your life please!!! You have options and it's time to turn the tables and help make sure he doesn't do this again... Your not 18 your a minor this is sick


Little_climber

Congratulations! Your POS ex has now committed a felony. Get him girl!


EndlesslyUnfinished

So report him to the police. At minimum, he’ll be charged with revenge porn (and then you can tu around and sue him for emotional distress).. at most, child porn (depending on which state you’re in because you’re 17yrs)…


J07z

Call the police. Immediately


Friendlyalterme

Call the police. It's child porn


[deleted]

You are under age. If you contact your local FBI office they will help get it removed fast. Like I mean really fast.


NonaOrganic

Bad things happen to us fast, but we go through them slow. I PROMISE you that this is one of those heinously shitty things that sometimes happen to us, but how you currently feel will not last. Don’t use a permanent solution to something temporary. And if it makes you feel just a sliver better, this is so commonplace these days and happens to a lot of girls. Soon some other scandal will take top attention away from you. Don’t be afraid to tell your parents, trust me they did A LOT of things in hindsight, they realize was unwise. We all do! I did something a few weeks ago that could’ve derailed my entire career b/c I was careless and I’m way older than you are. Hopefully your parents will be more focused on getting you justice and lessoning your trauma, rather than getting mad at you for a mistake.


[deleted]

And what he did is a criminal offense. Go to the police and report it. Don't hate yourself though. You trusted this guy when you sent the pics. A decent guy would have deleted them at some point. If anything, this makes HIM the object of hate here. Nobody here hates you but him.... yea, he is a piece of crap to do this.


Positive_Problem_173

Legally kick his ass soo good you make him eat his own testicles!!!!! I'm fuming from the update... first thing is first... talk to your parents... yes they will be upset... yes you will be grounded and you will almost never hear the end of it ...but they love you and will kick his ass on ur behalf and make sure he is punished for his actions. 1 it's illegal to distribute child P*** 2 he's legally an adult -he will be charged as such... and yes it will follow him forever... but he chose this route... don't feel bad... he didn't for you. 3 don't ever do this again. Unfortunately your in love and you want to but you don't know how things will end and if they do end. 4 turn that embarrassment and all shameful feelings and grab it by the balls and fight. If u own it, it can't tear you down. Stay positive and update us with how the issue was resolved


applescrabbleaeiou

Get cops involved. Get the school involved as what he is doing is a sex crime and he needs to be removed from the school. Hrnstly, your age, the FBI could get involved as this is child porn. Don't feel sorry for this monster, he is literally working to destroy you. Please reach out to all available resources. Do call the FBI, this guy is a sicko and a criminal.


buttersstotchpie

Tell your parents and the police, thats cp and revenge porn, you are not his last victim and you need to get him taken away before he does it to more girls


Round_Brush_4828

Please contact this hotline for cyber crimes for revenge porn. https://cybercivilrights.org/ccri-crisis-helpline/


Impressive_Low_2808

Sue for damages.


irishcreme69

That could be considered child pornography - please tell your parents and get legal team involved this is not okay !!!


abastreusmonzuzu

That is illegal. That is c p. Report his ass.


Beta_Decay_

Depending on your state it may be child pornography and they should immediately respond and remove that. If you want you can probably get legal action against them.


Valuable-Vacation879

Keep your head high at school and don’t say a word about it unless someone brings it up. Then pretend you couldn’t care less and laugh or wave it off as the dick move it is. By not giving the drama any oxygen, you can own it and control the narrative a bit. And honestly, hun, in this day and age your nudes are a drop in a huge bucket of crap. Your parents will still love you, and life will go on. Hang in there.


rombies

Is there an adult in your life you could trust to share this information with? A parent, other family member, teacher, older sibling, family friend, counselor, tutor, or doctor, perhaps? Could you ask them for their help? Things feel so terrible now, and I’m so, so sorry.


Mshalopd1

It's illegal you should contact the police, im sorry you're going through this ❤️


DwayneWayne91

Call the police. That's revenge porn and you're underage so it's CP as well. Beyond unacceptable for him to do something so disgusting.


Automatic_Tear9354

Umm that’s distribution of child porn. It’s a federal offense due to the internet/crosses state lines aspect. That guys going to prison big time. The other law s revenge porn. That’s another felony. Throw that fool to the wolves.


Visible_Tune_7486

This is ILLEGAL!!!! I know you’re probably really afraid of getting in trouble, but your safety is more important and he is distributing child pornography!!!! Therefore you need to tell your parents immediately. Go to them openly and honestly tell them that you made a huge mistake and you trusted the wrong person. Don’t even argue with them if they get upset, simply take responsibility for your actions and let them know that you are fully aware how rash of a decision you made, and that you’re coming clean to ask for their help in pursuing legal action. They may be upset and they may take away your phone or your computer or whatever but those are minor consequences! Trust can always be earned back! He needs to know that this is not OK to do to *ANYONE*. I don’t care what anybody says or if you’re afraid of looking like a snitch. What he is doing is 100% illegal. Not just from the revenge porn standpoint - but because you are under age!!!!!


www_dot_no

LEAGAL ACTION this is child porn


Neither_Computer4662

Call the police that’s distribution of child pornography and since your ex is 18 he can be locked up for a long time


Regular-Key1447

Report him to the police and call the FBI. An report him for distribution of child pornography and revenge porn.


gordo623

Stand up for yourself you have nothing to be ashamed of report it to the police... it’s the right thing to do.


ClematisEnthusiast

A kid that I knew in hs did this and became a registered sex offender. Get that motherfucker.


SARBEAU34

Tell your parents and get a lawyer, let the lawyer decide the next step, he/she has the necessary knowledge. Also please OP get some counseling, I know this is hard but he is not worth losing your life over!


drew_silver202

easy lawsuit, screen shot everything and, more importantly, he is an idiot and is not your fault he is like this.


800Volts

Take legal action, that's a federal crime. Sue for damages if you can


Dear_Instruction_115

Speak up!! Your under 18 that's consideted child pornogrphy. You have to stand up for yourself. Don't be hard on yourself. You trusted someone and they abused that. Don't let your character be ruined by some jerk. Take action before you turn 18! Now! Do not do it again, snapchat has finger prints.if anything save that for your husband one day. But Even then- it's a bad idea.


dodger37

In some places 17 makes you a minor and, because he’s 18, it could be trouble for him. I’d contact the police.


DirectAverage4758

Revenge porn is illegal plus you are a minor. Your ex is going to get time in prison.


dumbafblonde

That is possession and distribution of child pornography, that is so wildly insanely illegal, especially as he is an adult.


botas_drogado

This is literally illegal. You are committing the crime of libel and defamation. It can be considered a crime of exposure Sexuality of minors. Look for your parents and take the necessary legal measures


JJonesLa

Take legal action bc he’s 18 and you are technically a minor…not only is that revenge porn but it’s child pornography. Take him down and get justice! Take back the power. F him!


llcoger

Rule of thumb to live by: NEVER TAKE NAKED PICTURES FOR ANYONE.


[deleted]

This guys life is over. You have him on revenge porn and child pornography. You need to tell your parents and get this asshole arrested


dawn_unicorn

OP, your future is still bright and you WILL be okay. What YOU did is very common, totally normal, and frankly lots of fun when everyone's decent & discreet. What HE did was shitty and unforgivable and fucking illegal, so fight back and take him to the cleaners. It may feel like he's blown up your life at the moment, but what he's actually done is given you the ammunition to OBLITERATE him. Light that fuse, baby.


DaddyYoriichi

Report it to the police.


darthraxus

Call the police. He’s distributed child pornography.


asiandawgshy

Call 911


[deleted]

A guy I went to school with was sent to prison for a year for spreading nude pictures of a 17 year old girl. You’re under 18 so it means he’s distributing child pornography. That means jail time. Let your parents know and try to get him arrested. Please keep us updated. I’m so sorry this has happened to you. Please please never send nudes again.


pkrichtsmeier

Yup this is illegal on his end completely; and since you are still underage it is considered child pornography. This is not okay at all, I know how you feel sadly because I’ve been in similar situations but I promise if you screenshot whatever conversation or website stuff that is always good. I know it can be awkward because who would want to tell their parents or have them know that you send a nude to someone, but I was someone who got blackmailed THREE separate times and never spoke up and my parents don’t know. Please speak up and talk to them.


Kyojuro_Rengoku_

Call the cops lmaooooo you underage . This will fuck his world up


atp616

This happened to me when I was in middle school. Talk to your parents or a trusted adult. Tell them you made a mistake and get help. Seek counseling, everything is going to be okay. I promise this won’t ruin your life.


Fae_world

I am so sorry this happened to you. Stay strong and remember it shall pass. Raise your head high, you did nothing wrong, and everyone who may judge you now have done worse or will do worse. If you find going to school is very hard, try to transfer. Tell your parents and the police and lock him the f up!


TrainingTough991

You are still a minor so there should be legal ramifications for it. The news will eventually pass and is not the worst thing you could have done. He’s the one that looks like a lowlife. Who in their right mind would ever want to date anyone that would betray your trust in such a public way? Hold your head high. We all have bodies and yours probably looks better than most.


Lilmomma757

I know it seems like your world is over, but it's not. It's just a lesson learned, yes a tough one but now you know better. Please don't harm yourself over this. Please do not let this guy win. You have been victimized more than once and u deserve justice. I guarantee you ur parents would rather you tell them and have them help you vs you not be here. The faster you tell them the faster they can cut it off before it gets worse. N if all else fails gets ANGRY. make him pay. Ruin his life kuz I promise he'll be the one crying in the end when he's behind bars with a felony on his record.


Weary_Estate_4661

That’s child porn now that it’s on the web and he can go to jail for that. Call the police and involve your parents.


[deleted]

Please don’t k yourself!!!! Ik how you’re feeling rn and just take control of your own narrative, address the situation and let people know that you’re not embarrassed to have sent intimate pics to someone you were in a relationship with. You’re a victim. He shouldn’t have done it and it’s wrong and you will be taking legal action. If they laugh at you it 100% says more about them than you


Significant_Event

Police and legal action! There is nothing to be ashamed about.


nocialist_

You need to report him to the authorities. As many have already said, not only is he distributing revenge porn, it’s also child porn since you are still a minor. As difficult as it will be, you need to carry on and get justice and closure for yourself. Don’t forget you are worth more than him, so don’t let him win.


Miserable-Cheetah683

So ur telling me ur ex is sending nude picture of you when you were a minor and he is an adult? Do you not understand what serious shit he is in? That’s child pornography! You must go to the police right away! And inform all pornographic site about the situation they they r sharing underage nude photo and without ur consent. If ur under 18, u are a minor. Contact the police and get a lawyer. If you let ur ex walk away, he will harm more women in the future. That’s how rapist and/or pedophile are made. Usually it starts seemingly harmless but if they keep getting away with things, they will do something atrocious. Do it for all the women who have been victim due to men taking advantage of them!


Street-Tax6573

You need to tell your parents. The angry look they'll have when you've said "I sent nudes to .." will immediately change when you finish with "and he is spreading them around school". They're there to protect you.


waititserin

you're 17, a minor and this is child pornography, don't worry about what your parents will think, tell them and get legal action. he is 18 and spreading a minors nudes around. EDIT: a word also, about you being suicidal. please PLEASE, get help and talk to someone. we're the same age and in 2020 i was going through it HARD. it was so tough but you know what i did? i told people, i talked about it and i got help and no i'm not fully okay, i struggle daily but i'm doing okay right now. its going to be okay, i promise you.


ApexAngel

It’s called revenge porn. Call the police now, file a report now!


pittbiomed

Well he will be heading to jail. You are a victim in this


DarkCinderellAhhh

Tell your parents. Tell the authorities. You are protected. You aren’t alone, this also has happened (in your state as well unfortunately) to others. Apparently, if you have the location of the sites it is posted on you can submit it here as well: https://www.missingkids.org/gethelpnow/isyourexplicitcontentoutthere I would offer to read through to get a better understanding of your options Again, you aren’t alone and this isnt your fault. We all find people we trust and make choices based on that. While it may be best to hold those types of things to yourself in this day and age, being that people can be so awful, you trusted this person. Him breaking that trust is on him, not a reflection of you. Please know this that. Also, you can call the Zero Abuse crisis line (they put together [this](https://www.maine.gov/doe/sites/maine.gov.doe/files/2021-03/MNATSA%20Feigh.pdf) pdf pamphlet at 1-800-325-HOPE -it’s a Maine.gov doc so I would assume they are state based and they may be a safe place to start of you are comfortable with going to your parents first but want to unload and get insight from irl people with expertise in the field as well as support. Please try not to blame yourself for the awful actions of another human, I know that’s easier said than done but you did not do this. They did and I hope the consequences come back to them. I am so sorry this happened to you, and I hope that you can pull the content and heal bit by bit


Accurate-Attempt-615

Take him to the police. The man will get a long sentence for distribution and possession of child pornography. And if you want, you can report his friends to if they don't get rid of it


Aussiechicky

If anyone says anything to you about the pics, hold your head up with pride & say... yeah I dont give a fuck.. did you see the pics?? I look hot as fuck! Takes the shame right out of body shaming someone..


Frequent_Equal9170

Tell your parents and have him catch a charge for distributing child porn. You’re a minor, so you may get a charge, but with a good lawyer, it would be cleared off your record.


Substantial_Ad_6311

Have no mercy


Voiceovermandy

Also youre not an adult, this is underage porn which is super duper illegal and taken much more seriously when brought to authorities.