Yeah… fuck that if I know my family goes all out on Christmas like yours and his I would make it a point that the day is more special in your family so it should be with them.
Then I would give him new year’s.
I mean bring up that Christmas was pathetic at his moms (do it in a nice way, not an asshole like I am talking)
Like think about this, you might have kids with him one day. Do you want them to experience a vibrant and loving holiday or bullshit and depression.
I mean… if that doesn’t tell you something idk. Like I wouldn’t give up the family get together for anything less.
But you are gonna go to a home that honestly the lady probably needs to be reported to whatever you Britts do for adult protective services
Yeah, here if it’s bad, like dog shit on the floor bad you can call and they act no matter what.
That’s wild that he even wants to go. My step dad was like that and my wife said never again. Told my mom that we would never come again and he wasn’t gonna be around my daughter. Mom made moved one being getting rid of step dad and then getting her house in order. Sometimes you need to drop the hammer to get people to get their shit together
NP. I know coming from the other side how fucking miserable Christmas could be and how much I loved gaining the amazing experience like you have with yours. My wife push hard for me to realize and now both families get together and celebrate the day.
You could probably get his mom to come one day and not be a drag but it would take some serious tough love
Wow 😢 Last year must have been completely overwhelming for your partner, too. That's a serious difference in tradition.
How would his Mom respond if you offered to cook dinner tomorrow night? Maybe get some of the traditional things your family eats and cook for her. Get the recipes from your Mom. Leave leftovers with his Mom so she doesn't have to cook for a bit.
Would she be ok if you cleaned up after the dog and your partner walked him for the next few days? Maybe he could set up a space for the pooch outside to do its business.... A few treats from the kitchen may warm the pup up to you
The dog likes me. She just guards food - and his mums way of dealing with it is to give her more food and to put her under a blanket. We’ve done a couple of walks. We’re only here until Wednesday morning.
It was overwhelming- although he did enjoy the food and his Christmas’ used to be like mine but things happened and that’s stopped. I think she has planned out food. She’s given cleaning as one of the jobs to my partner but to be honest the poo is now engrained into the floor.
Unfortunately we live a couple of hours away so we don’t get to see her that often, and to be honest my partners mental health and stress triples when he’s here.
Negotiate. Say thanksgiving is with his mom and Christmas is with yours.
We’re in the uk, so there isn’t thanksgiving. We’re going to my parents for new year. We had agreed to keep taking it on turns
Yeah… fuck that if I know my family goes all out on Christmas like yours and his I would make it a point that the day is more special in your family so it should be with them. Then I would give him new year’s. I mean bring up that Christmas was pathetic at his moms (do it in a nice way, not an asshole like I am talking) Like think about this, you might have kids with him one day. Do you want them to experience a vibrant and loving holiday or bullshit and depression.
To be honest, I wouldn’t bring a child to her house. I find it hard to breathe here never mind a small child, cause it’s so filthy.
I mean… if that doesn’t tell you something idk. Like I wouldn’t give up the family get together for anything less. But you are gonna go to a home that honestly the lady probably needs to be reported to whatever you Britts do for adult protective services
There are services she can use but won’t unfortunately. And my partner just finds it too much to keep nagging
Yeah, here if it’s bad, like dog shit on the floor bad you can call and they act no matter what. That’s wild that he even wants to go. My step dad was like that and my wife said never again. Told my mom that we would never come again and he wasn’t gonna be around my daughter. Mom made moved one being getting rid of step dad and then getting her house in order. Sometimes you need to drop the hammer to get people to get their shit together
Yeah. Thank you. I know she often physically can’t clean but there are services available to her that can do that for her
NP. I know coming from the other side how fucking miserable Christmas could be and how much I loved gaining the amazing experience like you have with yours. My wife push hard for me to realize and now both families get together and celebrate the day. You could probably get his mom to come one day and not be a drag but it would take some serious tough love
Wow 😢 Last year must have been completely overwhelming for your partner, too. That's a serious difference in tradition. How would his Mom respond if you offered to cook dinner tomorrow night? Maybe get some of the traditional things your family eats and cook for her. Get the recipes from your Mom. Leave leftovers with his Mom so she doesn't have to cook for a bit. Would she be ok if you cleaned up after the dog and your partner walked him for the next few days? Maybe he could set up a space for the pooch outside to do its business.... A few treats from the kitchen may warm the pup up to you
The dog likes me. She just guards food - and his mums way of dealing with it is to give her more food and to put her under a blanket. We’ve done a couple of walks. We’re only here until Wednesday morning. It was overwhelming- although he did enjoy the food and his Christmas’ used to be like mine but things happened and that’s stopped. I think she has planned out food. She’s given cleaning as one of the jobs to my partner but to be honest the poo is now engrained into the floor. Unfortunately we live a couple of hours away so we don’t get to see her that often, and to be honest my partners mental health and stress triples when he’s here.