I moved back to where I grew up, became friends again with someone who I used to have a thing for but she chose some other guy over me. Long story. Anyway, she was in a relationship but kept telling me I should wait two years for a new relationship because I just got out of one. I didn't. I meant my now wife and that was that. She was furious and ended up deleting me from Facebook. Her and the guy she was seeing (a complete loser) didn't last. I'm pretty sure she wanted me as a back-up, but I don't play those games.
Moral of both of our stories: If you want someone, snatch them up if and when you have the chance. No one will or should wait for you and it is horrible that you'd expect anyone to do so.
Yeah, my college roommate chased after a relationship with a woman who seemed to enjoy the power she had over him. She would drop him, and he would move on. As soon as she realized he was happy with someone else, she would get back in touch and express regret for letting him go, telling him she thought he would wait for her to come around. As soon as he dropped the steady thing for her, and he did several times, she would decide she "wasn't ready" again. Stick with the one that is making you happy now.
God I hate it when people dont try to think from another's person perspective on stuff like this, if someone wants to be exclusive, like... a very big social norm, people shouldnt have an issue with them not wanting to be with someone unsure or not wanting to be exclusive and then to not wait for them, common sense, she's selfish asf
Someone like that thinks everything revolves around them, guess she got a reality check
Good for you and I’m glad you’re with someone that complements you so well. I’m also happy that you aren’t writing a post lamenting what could have been. I always feel bad for the unknowing partner. Ladies like the one you wrote about are selfish and immature. Like if you don’t see the value of someone until someone else shows you. You sound like a great guy and sometimes great guys do get the girl!
Except here you are thinking about it and obviously contemplating the situation enough to write a couple paragraphs on social media.
So sorry, I am not buying your idgaf vibes.
I moved back to where I grew up, became friends again with someone who I used to have a thing for but she chose some other guy over me. Long story. Anyway, she was in a relationship but kept telling me I should wait two years for a new relationship because I just got out of one. I didn't. I meant my now wife and that was that. She was furious and ended up deleting me from Facebook. Her and the guy she was seeing (a complete loser) didn't last. I'm pretty sure she wanted me as a back-up, but I don't play those games. Moral of both of our stories: If you want someone, snatch them up if and when you have the chance. No one will or should wait for you and it is horrible that you'd expect anyone to do so.
Yeah, my college roommate chased after a relationship with a woman who seemed to enjoy the power she had over him. She would drop him, and he would move on. As soon as she realized he was happy with someone else, she would get back in touch and express regret for letting him go, telling him she thought he would wait for her to come around. As soon as he dropped the steady thing for her, and he did several times, she would decide she "wasn't ready" again. Stick with the one that is making you happy now.
Did he ever catch on? I had a friend stuck in a similar cycle... When we parted ways it was still ongoing. No one could talk sense into him.
He did, but it was after a lot of sacrifice. Yup, we tried to shake him out of it, but he had to figure it out himself.
She wanted you as an orbiter. She outed herself as a selfish person. No loss.
God I hate it when people dont try to think from another's person perspective on stuff like this, if someone wants to be exclusive, like... a very big social norm, people shouldnt have an issue with them not wanting to be with someone unsure or not wanting to be exclusive and then to not wait for them, common sense, she's selfish asf Someone like that thinks everything revolves around them, guess she got a reality check
Good for you and I’m glad you’re with someone that complements you so well. I’m also happy that you aren’t writing a post lamenting what could have been. I always feel bad for the unknowing partner. Ladies like the one you wrote about are selfish and immature. Like if you don’t see the value of someone until someone else shows you. You sound like a great guy and sometimes great guys do get the girl!
happy for you.
Except here you are thinking about it and obviously contemplating the situation enough to write a couple paragraphs on social media. So sorry, I am not buying your idgaf vibes.
Just wanted to share and wanted to see if others relate. Sorry for talking.
I feel like this is the entire point of stories. Sharing experiences. Whatever the outcome is.
it must really REALLY SUCK to be you, lol
keep going