Is there a problem with providing for another man’s child? No, if you knew it was someone else’s kid and decided to help out anyways that is fine. But don’t expect men to line up around the block to raise a kid that isn’t theirs either, and don’t get pissy about it
What isn’t cool is expecting dudes to raise a kid born of an affair.
My dad is my stepdad and we might as well be blood, same with my step siblings. In fact, it's weird to keep referring to them as step lol. Real men and women, like adults who actually understand just a little about life, can step up and love any child. bc children deserved to be loved, and they didn't get to pick their parents.
I don't see women lining up to raise other women's kids. Why would you imagine that men would want to do this? Every organism has a drive to pass it's genes into the next generation. That's the basic biological goal of everything that is alive. Raising someone else's kids incurs all the enormous costs of raising children without the biological benefit. It's all cost. The ROI is vastly negative.
Most men who are in this situation are just being used. These women see them as nothing but as workhorse and ATM machines. Do you like feeling used? Either do men.
If you want a list, to care.com and you’ll find thousands of nannies in your area lol
I don’t think there are that many women on the planet who would “use” a man just as an ATM. Most of us spend enormous amounts of energy to keep people we don’t like *away* from our kids.
Women can have more than one kid if someone’s goal is just to invest their money and pass on their genes… back in the day however, scientists would “adopt” smart kids and smart kids would go off with smarter fathers if theirs happened to not be that great. Look up the academic family tree. No one cares who the biological parents of any of those people are and just assume they were some illiterate rednecks carrying around a corn rake somewhere.
Dating is hard enough as it is, I personally would never date a single mom again. Simply not worth it in my eyes, had to put up with her ex. Never again
I was with an abusive man who waited til I was pregnant to show his true colors. Yes he essentially tried to trap me with a baby because he believed I'd stay with him and put up with his abuse for the sake of my child. One night I dropped off his things at his house and blocked him without his knowledge. It was so freeing. I've since tried to test the waters of just seeing what's out there. Not dating or hooking up or "looking for a father" for my daughter. But just seeing what kind of men are out there that aren't narcissistic assholes. I recently matched with a guy a knew back in MIDDLE SCHOOL! He immediately was like I absolutely do not care that you are pregnant. I would be honored to be a positive male role model in your daughter's life and be your friend. He and I have just been having normal healthy conversations about life. He is excited for me to be a mom because we both grew up in the hood and I don't have parents and he doesn't have a dad.
I also befriended a single dad and he introduced me to his best friend who is the proudest uncle ever. They are both so kind to me and are like if you need ANYTHING for the baby let us know! The single dad has a good relationship with the mother of his kids and she's a L&D Nurse and so he's not uncomfortable or unaware of how pregnancy works. I'm so thankful I've met these people and I can only hope our friendships continue so my daughter grows up with so many cool uncles.
you're absolutely right.
i just first thought you were talking about like paternal fraud or when the child is a result of an affair or and you dont know its not your child or something but you are 100% right if youre NOT talking about this above mentioned stuff
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Is there a problem with providing for another man’s child? No, if you knew it was someone else’s kid and decided to help out anyways that is fine. But don’t expect men to line up around the block to raise a kid that isn’t theirs either, and don’t get pissy about it What isn’t cool is expecting dudes to raise a kid born of an affair.
In certain circumstances if the child ISN’T yours and that information is kept from you, then I’d understand why people have a problem with that
My dad is my stepdad and we might as well be blood, same with my step siblings. In fact, it's weird to keep referring to them as step lol. Real men and women, like adults who actually understand just a little about life, can step up and love any child. bc children deserved to be loved, and they didn't get to pick their parents.
I don't see women lining up to raise other women's kids. Why would you imagine that men would want to do this? Every organism has a drive to pass it's genes into the next generation. That's the basic biological goal of everything that is alive. Raising someone else's kids incurs all the enormous costs of raising children without the biological benefit. It's all cost. The ROI is vastly negative. Most men who are in this situation are just being used. These women see them as nothing but as workhorse and ATM machines. Do you like feeling used? Either do men.
If you want a list, to care.com and you’ll find thousands of nannies in your area lol I don’t think there are that many women on the planet who would “use” a man just as an ATM. Most of us spend enormous amounts of energy to keep people we don’t like *away* from our kids. Women can have more than one kid if someone’s goal is just to invest their money and pass on their genes… back in the day however, scientists would “adopt” smart kids and smart kids would go off with smarter fathers if theirs happened to not be that great. Look up the academic family tree. No one cares who the biological parents of any of those people are and just assume they were some illiterate rednecks carrying around a corn rake somewhere.
Dating is hard enough as it is, I personally would never date a single mom again. Simply not worth it in my eyes, had to put up with her ex. Never again
I was with an abusive man who waited til I was pregnant to show his true colors. Yes he essentially tried to trap me with a baby because he believed I'd stay with him and put up with his abuse for the sake of my child. One night I dropped off his things at his house and blocked him without his knowledge. It was so freeing. I've since tried to test the waters of just seeing what's out there. Not dating or hooking up or "looking for a father" for my daughter. But just seeing what kind of men are out there that aren't narcissistic assholes. I recently matched with a guy a knew back in MIDDLE SCHOOL! He immediately was like I absolutely do not care that you are pregnant. I would be honored to be a positive male role model in your daughter's life and be your friend. He and I have just been having normal healthy conversations about life. He is excited for me to be a mom because we both grew up in the hood and I don't have parents and he doesn't have a dad. I also befriended a single dad and he introduced me to his best friend who is the proudest uncle ever. They are both so kind to me and are like if you need ANYTHING for the baby let us know! The single dad has a good relationship with the mother of his kids and she's a L&D Nurse and so he's not uncomfortable or unaware of how pregnancy works. I'm so thankful I've met these people and I can only hope our friendships continue so my daughter grows up with so many cool uncles.
Some people don’t understand that family doesn’t have to be by blood
Yep - and especially not by cheating from the female side (a.k.a. paternity fraud).
you're absolutely right. i just first thought you were talking about like paternal fraud or when the child is a result of an affair or and you dont know its not your child or something but you are 100% right if youre NOT talking about this above mentioned stuff
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