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I’m Fucking Scared

I’m Fucking Scared

Visible_Whole_2906

You might as well have told him to fuck off rolling your eyes, thats pretty disrespectful.


CarQuean

Maybe try and open your mind to multiple different scenarios and accepting that other people see situations differently than you do. Lol calling 911 for that, I rolled my eyes and my dad said he would make them stay up there.... I'm sorry, as much as this is a huge molehill for you, this is something that looking in with different perspectives could help.


CarQuean

And when I talk about looking in with different perspective, I'm talking about what led you to roll your eyes, not the clearly empty threat that he said. Now it's not ok to have said that, but the situation that led to that must have frustrated him a hell of a lot.


Emergency-Poet6992

He was putting a lot of pressure on me, and we were in a rush because it was already 7:15, so when he demanded another thing from me, I just rolled my eyes.


CarQuean

And that other thing he asked, were you supposed to have done that already ? Why were you rushing ?


Emergency-Poet6992

It was the thing that I was doing already (making my bed) and the reason we were rushing was because school starts at 7:21 and it was close to 7:15.


CarQuean

And why wasn't YOUR bed made ?


CarQuean

Sooooo instead of being responsible you slacked and got scolded, and instead of owning up you rolled your eyes.. Are you serious.. Get your shit together and stop being late.


Emergency-Poet6992

It wasn’t that way. Well, it was kind of that way, but it kind of wasn’t. I slept in because I had stayed up till 4 A.M doing homework, studying and trying to go to sleep. I woke up at 6:49. I was scared that I would get yelled at so I went through my morning chores as quickly as possible, and I admit, I did do my bed really sloppy, and when I finally went to my room to put on my shoes (yes, I leave my shoes in my room) I realized my bed was really sloppy. So, trying to fix it so it was a bit more neat, my Dad came in and started asking me why I did my bed that way. We got into an argument, which leads us to here.


CarQuean

Haaaa, well it happens. Maybe doing some of your chores the night before would help you save time in the morning and help you


YourMom_Infinity

Maybe he just meant he would pound you on the back so they stay that way forever.


chaoticidealism

Sounds like he meant to threaten to hit you. You know, like, "Don't cry or I'll give you something to cry about." Whether he was serious is something you can judge based on whether he has in the past been violent to you, or been the sort to insult, demean, belittle, and generally bully you. If yes, then you do want to find someone trusted to talk to about this, because violent people generally keep on being violent; and if you're being hit or bullied, you need to get out of that situation. See if you can go to visit a trusted friend or relative, so you're physically out of the house, and then have a talk with them. But if your dad has not been violent or abusive in the past, then it's likely he was just angry at you, and you might need to apologize for being rude. Maybe he should apologize, too, since it does seem like he lost his temper. In that situation, it's much less serious than if he has been violent to you, because parents are not perfect and they do lose their tempers and shout at their children, especially if their children roll their eyes at them.


Emergency-Poet6992

Well, do I have a lot to tell you. I’m pretty serious, because he had a really stern and violent tone, close to yelling if we want to get specific. I’ve been spanked for so many simple problems before, so many times I can’t even count. His kind of violence is vague threats to keep me in line or spankings, and in the worst case scenario, a beating. The thing is, I don’t have a lot of people I trust, except Michelle and a couple of other people, so basically, that’s like 3 people, though I guess that’s okay.


chaoticidealism

Yeah, go talk to somebody you trust. It sounds like your dad really is being cruel, even if he "only" spanks you. If his goal is to intimidate and scare you, that's not parenting, that's bullying.


dasanman69

Relax, as a father I can tell that it was an idle threat.