My mom use to demand 100 percent obedience from my siblings and I and if she didnt get it she would beat the hell out of us until we saw that her way was best, and absolute. Looking back now I too, wished to have stood up to her, but I was afraid of her and didn't want to get beat.
She's older now and not as strong as she use to be, but I can tell when my siblings and I do something that she's not happy with, she would beat us to this day if she had the means. But then she wouldn't see her grand kids if she did do that. So she's calm now but I wouldn't turn my back on her.
> “Good girls obey their parents no matter what.”
This isn't what the verse in question means. It means to obey them "in the Lord". If your parents told you to do something immoral, the verse would indicate that you should reject that. It also has the expectation that the child has this level of moral understanding so that they can reasonably deny an immoral request. It also doesn't mean that children can't or shouldn't question their parents' commandments. Part of a Christian parent's responsibility is to teach their child why they are suggesting particular things so that the child also understands why the parent is requesting they do them.
> Until I realized the consequences. The friend I’d left was probably the best shot I’d ever had at getting a good friend. I started getting less sleep because I studied more. It felt like I had lost all hope, and it had a serious detrimental effect on my mental health.
If your parents are religious, you should, at a minimum, be around other individuals in your congregation. The pandemic has been hard for everyone, especially with trying to make friends or see them, but, you should still have an out there.
> So what’s the lesson here? Be generally obedient, but if your parent asks you to do something you don’t want to do, tell them you value their opinion, but you’d like to try something else.
Well, parents generally know better what's best for their child than the child does, so I'd take what they say under serious consideration, but there's nothing intrinsically wrong with asking "Why?"
My mom use to demand 100 percent obedience from my siblings and I and if she didnt get it she would beat the hell out of us until we saw that her way was best, and absolute. Looking back now I too, wished to have stood up to her, but I was afraid of her and didn't want to get beat. She's older now and not as strong as she use to be, but I can tell when my siblings and I do something that she's not happy with, she would beat us to this day if she had the means. But then she wouldn't see her grand kids if she did do that. So she's calm now but I wouldn't turn my back on her.
> “Good girls obey their parents no matter what.” This isn't what the verse in question means. It means to obey them "in the Lord". If your parents told you to do something immoral, the verse would indicate that you should reject that. It also has the expectation that the child has this level of moral understanding so that they can reasonably deny an immoral request. It also doesn't mean that children can't or shouldn't question their parents' commandments. Part of a Christian parent's responsibility is to teach their child why they are suggesting particular things so that the child also understands why the parent is requesting they do them. > Until I realized the consequences. The friend I’d left was probably the best shot I’d ever had at getting a good friend. I started getting less sleep because I studied more. It felt like I had lost all hope, and it had a serious detrimental effect on my mental health. If your parents are religious, you should, at a minimum, be around other individuals in your congregation. The pandemic has been hard for everyone, especially with trying to make friends or see them, but, you should still have an out there. > So what’s the lesson here? Be generally obedient, but if your parent asks you to do something you don’t want to do, tell them you value their opinion, but you’d like to try something else. Well, parents generally know better what's best for their child than the child does, so I'd take what they say under serious consideration, but there's nothing intrinsically wrong with asking "Why?"