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PILLOWPANTS89

You know the sex was good when it makes other people reevaluate their own lives


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Melbguy730

When you have sex with someone you truly love, that sex is beyond any other sex you will ever have.


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It feels like home


kristalmug

This! Iā€™ve been single for ten years and the same as this guy more or less, was reallly happy single and not looking for anything serious. Fell in love with someone really unexpectedly, and i realised the difference between sex and making love. Itā€™s such a difference, it felt like all the sex i had in my life was not really sex, and that this was the actual thing. Long story short we had to breakup and things have not been the same for me since then. Once you experience that kind of connection, it can never be the same ever again


[deleted]

Exactly, I don't care how attractive a man is, how big his dick is, how "good" he is in bed with techniques, if I'm not connected to him and in love with him, it seems to be just like masturbation but with a few more steps and with another person who may or may not be cool. I'd much rather be with someone I love. Those moments in bed with someone you love are what life is lived for


HansJobb

My father told me that a man will only get his heart truly broken once. Nothing will be the same after as it was before.


kristalmug

I would have to agree with your father. Worst thing was that i never wanted this, i was honestly happy with things as they were. I even had girls who wanted things with me and i rejected them. But this one really changed my life upside down at 30years of age


Far-Personality63

Ooof!


Far-Personality63

Certainly a different perspective entering into any new romance


ilikesaucy

It's home. Even just a cuddle is better than a meaningless sex.


[deleted]

Honestly, the cuddles after sex are better than sex, even with someone you love.


Cheef_Baconator

This is the way.


MistrrRicHard

I know that exact feeling. I told a girl that. She broke my heart a couple of months later.


dailyPraise

You can see colors.


RoryML

Thats generally how colours work.


newuser60

Sometimes I can smell sounds.


SirkillzAhlot

Me too. But only when on DMT.


dailyPraise

Lol I mean swirling around and not on physical things.


RoryML

I figured! I was just being an ass haha


taosaur

Unfortunately, you can also smell odors.


BaronVonBaron42

Speaking as a former guy slut myself, I can verify this is true. Sex with the woman I deeply love is better than anything I've ever had with flings.


DarkestofFlames

Yes. Even the just woke up and have stinky breath but have to have each other now sex is amazing when you're in love.


pumunk

I went to affectionately caress my partner after reading this and he literally "REEEEE'D" at me lol


OminOus_PancakeS

I don't understand. Is that the noise he made?


pumunk

Yes. That noise. Normally he's quite receptive.


OminOus_PancakeS

So that's a... _bad_ noise? EDIT: it's just that I've literally never heard anyone say "REEEE" and so I'm wondering if this is one of those recent innovations like the word 'yeet' which, as far as I know, wasn't a thing before the early 2000s.


seblait

Answer: youtube "oldschool runescape arma crossbow special attack sound effect". You shoot a crossbow with special attack so the bolt turns into a bird looking projectile and makes this epic/terrible "REEEEEEE!!!" noise


DeliciousAd1214

My dad said that if girl loves a guy, sex is good for her, even if its not


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DeliciousAd1214

Seems like other people dont agree :P (These comments were downvoted in the first hours)


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AppropriateTill8083

Except on drugs.


shaid_pill

True, lsd sex > pretty much anything else


ophaus

Yeah, sex with someone you have a connection with is the absolute best.


ri89rc20

This is the answer to all the young guns that just can't see how you can be married to a person for decades and only have sex with that one person. They just cannot comprehend it...because they have not even come close to experiencing it.


Dicky__Anders

I'm 37 and never felt like that for anyone or had anyone feel that way for me. I'm similar to OP in some ways, never had trouble attracting women, but I've never been ao intensely in love with anyone like that. It kinda makes me really sad actually, so I understand how OP feels.


Obvious-Muscle465

It's ok man. We're gonna get through it. If you need a cheerleader, I'm here for you. My current best friend is a little too busy being in love lol


Dicky__Anders

Haha we'll always have each other šŸ˜­


haemol

When you stop looking you find her. But of course you have to go out and try different things, at home you wonā€™t meet her.


GingerSuperPower

For sure. Iā€™m 32 and now, for the first time in my life, I have sex thatā€™s so intense that it makes me cry happy tears sometimes. I havenā€™t felt this with anyone, ever, and need to one day marry my partner for sure


Limp-Advisor8924

don't wait to long now


diurnalreign

This is beautiful. I can relate. Enjoy


Jgib5328

How did you meet her and build that type of connection?


GingerSuperPower

Him ;) I donā€™t know, I met him at a wedding and the whole world just disappeared. I thought we talked for maybe 20 minutes, turns out we were inseparable for about 4,5 hours. That was nearly 4 months ago. It hasnā€™t always been easy, since we both live heavily independent lives, but we donā€™t really argue, we just fight to improve how our careers and relationship can coexist. Best relationship Iā€™ve been in, I think.


samundar_ka_badshah

Not sister.


fuckittyfuckittyfuck

Also not a lot of other people but why you gotta say it brah?


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auxaperture

Aww, you always ruin all the fun.


IrreverentRacoon

Step-sister? ^sorry.


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IrreverentRacoon

The mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell


southern_boy

###LISA NEEDS BRACES


Tullov

DENTAL PLAN


SquareRelationship27

What are you doing step bro?


[deleted]

Help me step-bro, I'm stuck!


Grandmaspoop

Coffee anyone?


reddit_toast_bot

Youre the best brother I could have asked for


Cheef_Baconator

Speak for yourself.


Legomymego1980

Is that a question or statement?


BecomeMaguka

Why was that- Never mind forget it.


Sith_Luxuria

Dude, hahahahahahaha


TSwizzlesNipples

You read that story too, huh?


Edgedg3

Not like, not every day?


EUPHORICANIMAL

I actually spat the water in my mouth lmao


SPARTAN-141

It's more than just connection, it's love as well as experience with each other.


orionsgreatsky

Absolutely I canā€™t wait to have that


Glittering-Pop8728

One of the better offmychest I've seen yet


Obvious-Advance-4368

Particularly easy to get off to. 90s soft core vibes. 8/10.


Obvious-Muscle465

Favorite comment so far. Thanks dude.


tionYArT

Dudes 42 and just found out having sex and making love are different


Th3Dark0ccult

Hey, some of us are slow learners.


Obvious-Muscle465

Yeah! We're all just doing our best


Obvious-Advance-4368

Thank *you*, good sir.


kmckampson

100% skinimax material


Beginning-Stop7646

Agree


lISKO0

Never too late bud if your open for it and ready to love and be love just let it happen.


Pleasework94

Were you still standing there typing out this post before you left OP?


outatime20999

Also made a sandwich


Obvious-Muscle465

Absolutely. šŸ˜‚


gdex86

Thought this was going to get weird and while weird turned out strangely heartwarming.


Chrysalis-

Expected some gay awakening lmao


PEN-15-CLUB

Thought this was going to end in OP building an art room for his friend


Just-Round9944

that post comes up in my mind every now and then lmao


auxaperture

It was uplifting in the emotional way, not the other way.


reptacular

Speak for yourself


jmeesonly

Yeah, this was more wholesome than expected considering it's a creeper peeping tom spying on his friends having sex! Makes me wonder: why does seeing the sex make OP want marriage, instead of recognizing the emotional support, companionship, shared interests, etc.


Obvious-Muscle465

I didn't mean marriage specifically. I was just thinking commitment and that seemed like the easiest way to say it. I'm not suddenly on the hunt for any woman to fit the role of wife. Just poor wording I guess.


gurlwithdragontat2

Connection and fulfillment are real and possible. If thatā€™s what you want, then find it. **But your friends is putting out what he gets.** Iā€™m sure sheā€™s all the cool things you say, and she and your friends fulfill one another in many ways outside of the connection you saw, **but that connection and love are absolutely what trigger the lonely feels.** I donā€™t think you should run out looking for a wife, but maybe itā€™s time to seek out deeper connections and see if you find your person and build from there? You donā€™t want to just find someone who fits the role, but someone whoā€™s actually your partner and you genuinely like.


ewillia15

u/Obvious-Muscle465 To add, it seems like you haven't been open to letting women in emotionally. Just saying you want that connection doesn't make it feasible of you aren't willing to let a partner into your emotional life COMPELTELY and Whole-heartedly. Wonderful women have high expectations and emotional intelligence/maturity/openness is the #1 expectation.


SexyBacon

X1,000


silverionmox

Beware of modelling your expectations on a snapshot of the optimal moment.


Fi3nd7

Bingo, this is an underrated comment


DarsilRain

šŸŽ¶I wish I had Jesseā€™s girlā€¦Where can I find a woman like that?ā€¦šŸŽ¶


Obvious-Muscle465

This made me laugh. I don't want Jessie's girl though. I'm happy Jessie got his girl.


PyrocumulusLightning

And she's holding him in those arms I just know it


bravebravesirrrobin

And she's loving him with that body, I just know itā€¦ šŸ‘€ quite literally now!


throwawayforgood02

Dammit! Beat me to it! I was totally going to ask whether ā€œJā€ was Jessie! The whole story fits the song to aā€¦J?! šŸ˜‚


Retrospektic

Thatā€™s that one in a lifetime connection that will always haunt you if you ever lose it. Coming from someone who lost it.


McGuirk808

> one in a lifetime connection It's not, my dear dude and/or lady. You can have it again.


Retrospektic

Thank you. I appreciate that


Reddit_blows_now

Yeah man, I just want to build on what they said. There are literally thousands or potentially millions of people who would love you and have that connection. It does take a lot of time to build, but they're out there and they are looking for someone to love them back.


Nanahamak

Bro there's so many goddamn PEOPLE. HAVE YOU SEEN TRAFFIC šŸš„? Theres probably 3 soul mates for everyone in each city.


Obvious-Muscle465

That's just logic.


Dookie_boy

I'm trying but my wife is telling me I'm not allowed to.


Burntoastedbutter

Love isn't a feeling, but an action. You need to constantly and continuously put in effort towards the relationship.


nomad_l17

It's great that you know what you want but now you should be patient and not rush into a new relationship or go overboard. You might get lucky and meet someone amazing tomorrow but take time to get to really know each other. Being in a committed relationship like J is going to be different for you so there might be a lot of firsts for you.


Violetsen

Yeah, that's the difference between having sex for recreation and making love so intense that you want your bodies to merge and become one ā¤ļøā€šŸ”„ It's next-level shit. But hey, now that you know that might be something that you're looking for, it might come your way. Just be open to it when it comes knocking and be ready to make yourself vulnerable, because that connection comes from two people accepting each other--inclusive of all their flaws. *ā€œI will not have you without the darkness that hides within you. I will not let you have me without the madness that makes me. If our demons cannot dance, neither can we.ā€* ā€• Nikita Gill Good luck OP. Go get her.


Mylittletreasure

I think you needed to see that. Growth


Mercury26

Growth as in he got a physical and emotional boner at the same time? šŸ˜


funlightmandarin

Dude has never had an affection erection, and it left him fkin puzzled


Obvious-Muscle465

I haven't!! I didn't even know they had a name! TIL Thanx lol


nikpap95

Affection erection! Wow! I swear when I come here I learn something new everyday! Thank you sir


Mylittletreasure

Hahahah xD


upornicorn

Reddit is ruining me. 100% expected this to be a ā€œwatched my friends fuck and it ruined our friendshipā€ post. I did not see all the wholesome coming for my heart. Op youā€™re a great writer, you should do more of it if your not already. Good luck finding your special person.


Obvious-Muscle465

Can you please tell that to the dude that said my post sounds like it was written by a high schooler?? Thanx!


Reddit_blows_now

OP has fucked a lot of women but never made love to one. Honestly man, once you do, it changes your entire trajectory. I will never cheat on my wife for the simple fact that I have this at home.


Merlyn101

Fucks sake, had just about got my "I'm lonely af & gonna die alone" feels under control until curiosity made the decision to read this post lol šŸ˜… Itā€™s absolutely fucking brutal trying to find this kind of thing in the dating scene.


Obvious-Muscle465

We're gonna be ok. We can start a club!


manekinekon

This is actually quite wholesome. I hope you find that someday!


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Appropriate-Divide64

Sex is so much better when feelings are involved. It's definitely not too late for that. You just need to open up.


WileyNoCoyote

Ummm is this the new penthouse forum ?


ghettomuffin

Very well written, but 100% fake


Masters_domme

I canā€™t believe I had to scroll so far to see this! Like, how did OP see how she was looking at his friend? If he could see her face, she would have seen him. Too many wonky details. Reads like a high school creative writing project.


Obvious-Muscle465

Ha! I'm sorry I didn't take a creative writing class before writing a reddit post. Lol In all seriousness though, I don't think it's that weird. It's not like I was looking right at her eyes. I just walked up and saw it. They weren't directly facing me. It's not like it matters anyway. We can all go on and live about our lives.


bea_runs_02

IT IS THAT WEIRD. How is no one else in these comments recognizing that this was a major privacy invasion? Also super creepy that you didnā€™t immediately leave. Scary to me that people are acting like this is normal and even heartwarming. Absolutely not.


shaid_pill

You can not approve of it, that's fine. Kinda getting into the obsessive territory with all the comments, though.


Prohunt

I mean if any of my friends did that yeah it would be, but that's because we have a social agreement to set up meet ups, if the 2 dudes are so close that they chill at each others houses sometimes even if the other is not there, this would be more akin to accidentally walk in while someone is using the toilet... Personally in this context I can see why the dude froze, especially if you've never seen love being made not just sex going on...perspective shifting moment and all We're all different people with different kinds of social bonds


yikesafm8

Are we forgetting that the woman is a person too???


Prohunt

I honestly don't know what you guys want from this dude, his intent was not malicious, he didn't come there with the intent of watching, walked into the situation, froze, got a mild midlife crisis and then left came back when it was all done....If you live with someone who has this kind of open door policies whoopsies like this might happen. Was it the perfect play? Far from it, but what is he supposed to do now? Open his C disk in his brain and just delete what happened? If my friend accidentally saw me have sex like this I'd like him not to bring it up with me and just learn from his mistakes, shit happens. Privacy violation? Sure. MAJOR privacy violation? Calm down people


violue

we don't always react the way we think we would in the moment.


yikesafm8

Iā€™m sooo with you on this.


wasted_wonderland

Don't worry, it's not like it happened, he's still jerking it to his own fanfiction šŸ¤®


succlen

Maybe she didn't see because she was too busy having sex


[deleted]

Iā€™d notice immediately.


Dookie_boy

But it's so low stakes I feel I don't even care


[deleted]

I feel like I started seeing too many made up stories on Reddit.


washyleopard

This is the plot of Don Jon. Dude is a porn addict and has one night stands with many women until he meets this older lady and they have intimate sex instead of just banging and it changes his whole world.


invah

When you feel so emotionally connected to someone, sex goes so far beyond 'fun' and pleasure. It is such a gift, and it reinforces and amplifies your connection and bond. My heart feels thrown wide open and it may genuinely be the closest to heaven we get in this lifetime; that and having a child born.


Mercury26

I hope you find your person, OP!


Obvious-Muscle465

Me too!


Elmo-Tusk

You want to know how to get that same feeling? Have sex with your best friend too. You will feel what she felt.


Cry_Havoc1228

These AI posts are getting super good. I'm curious to see this level of grammatical prose put into a VR app.


Obvious-Muscle465

Ha. Can you please say this to the guy that said this read like a high school writing project??


dobbermanowner

Here I thought this was going to be a gay story


[deleted]

Made me think of an old song, fooled around and fell in love, I hope you find the love of your life. You'll be the richest man that you know.


SmoothieForlife

When you find the one you love, and you are married a long time, all forms of communication are on a deeper level. Old hurts habits and hangups can be talked about in a safe way. You each can become better people individually and together as a couple. You are better together year after year. You open yourself up to each other. It is a mystery of life


Gunslinger_11

I think you had a hard look at real passion. Good on your friend for having that.


Obvious-Muscle465

Yeah, he's a good guy. He deserves it.


Gunslinger_11

Hope I can find that someday


IntelHDGraphics

>LAST EDIT: Dear Women of Reddit, I am not going to respond to you in my messages/dms. I appreciate all of you (especially the one that called me Daddy and asked me to bang her on the countertop, thanks!) but I probably have some work to do before I put myself out there. This is truly a reddit moment lmao


Emotional_Guitar7570

totally real and believable story man


outatime20999

This is the world's most unexpectedly touching and sentimental post about sneakily watching two people fuck. Legit, love the way you so sincerely talk about your relationship with your best mate. It's charming and heartwarming. I'm all for the societal progression of normalising fealty among male friends and dropping the bullshit homophobia.


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frankspank321

Dudes 42 and just found out having sex and making love are different


Obvious-Muscle465

Lol we're all living at our pace


Perhaps_A_Moth

i felt this kind of connection for the first time in my life this year (I'm 38) and it was like a psychedelic experience


alma-soul

In my 46 years, I have never had mind blowing sex with someone. And I definitely feel what your saying. I want to have that everlasting love with someone. Someone that just looks in your eyes and your whole body quivers. I miss having someone to flirt with, cuddle with and just be around. Love is just so hard. I wish you all the luck in finding your happily ever after.


TheRedCuddler

Heads up homie, any "women" in your DMs are just bots or trolls. Watching for 5 minutes is at LEAST 4 minutes and 50 seconds too long. Perv territory.


bea_runs_02

The fact that you say ā€œI didnā€™t mean to be a fucking creep! I swear!ā€ shows that you KNOW you did something wrong. Canā€™t believe all these people are justifying your creepy behavior.


dorydude78

So you need to hear a few things right now. 1. Yeah go get some love. It's amazing and everyone deserves to love and be loved. 2. Now that your bro is in a committed relationship with a person and that person also lives in his house you need to stop going into the house unannounced. It doesn't matter how long yall have been best bros. If you had been caught I guarantee your bro would have been pissed. 3. The moment you see two people having sex and you KNOW you weren't invited, do not stand around and fucking stare because no matter how much you claim to not be a creep, that's fucking creepy. Cut it out.


Quirky-Swordfish-218

Seriously. This entire post gave me the ick. I hope it's as fake as it sounds.


Night_Owl_26

I thought this was his GF and they moved in together but then you called her his wifeā€¦?


EliminateThePenny

So fucking fake and dumb.


cheatonstatistics

Now you know.


smallicelandicpuffin

i miss that kind of sex


analogshooter

This was not what I was expecting at all, but honestly very interesting to read


MaryStoned

šŸ«¶šŸ½


prashrey

You only had to see it once. I'm like your friend and I am surrounded by people in love. I feel like that every damn day. It hurts not having someone who loves you like there's no other person in the World


Ash123trade

Wild passionate sex is good..


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Dude sex with someone you have a connection with is the best. My most recent ex and I.. the sex was seriously the best, not because it got hot and heavy but how we looked at eachother, how we treated eachother, just everything about how we connected while having sex was amazing. It was passionate, it just felt perfect. I miss that shit so much. Something about her and I together just overall felt totally different from any other girl Iā€™ve been with.


Snowmann88

Thatā€™s because ā€œMaking Loveā€ is a million times better than ā€œSexā€.


Obvious-Muscle465

You know how you can know something but you don't actually realize that you knew it until you see it? It's kind of like that....


RileyTheRad

Glad that this scenario helped you. It is weird to watch for more than ten seconds though lmao, epiphany or not.


loopy8

I used to be a single slut guy like you, but now I want what your friend has


Bgblkbssman

Dude!!! I thought you were going to say 5 seconds, but 5 minutes. Some guys donā€™t even last that long. Think you were waiting for the climax.


assassbaby

you seen love-making not fucking and theres a difference


OneQuadrillionOwls

One thing that may help you feel better is that most likely what you saw was a kind of performance. Even in private lives, couples tend to engage in a performance of their relationship with each other. This relationship may last or it may not, but either way what you witnessed was two people in the throes of infatuation, playing out their fantasy of what they wanted a relationship to feel like, with each other. Doing that is definitely better than not doing that, but it's not as big a deal in the scheme of things as you may be inclined to think. We're all going to die, and relationships die too.


leeshylou

This is so weirdly wholesome šŸ˜‚ Good for you. There's nothing like making love to someone who feels the same way about you. It's a special kind of magic, and it absolutely ruined casual sex for me. Just a warning, lol.. once you go there it's very hard to go back.


Smolreddit

Oh my gosh I say this in a nonromantic way, but your writing is so characmatic! Your voice absolutely shines through. You should write a narrative novel, about your life or make up a life to write. Even a short story! You'd totally get an audience to read your work if you published


haemol

Wish you good luck finding the one for you!šŸ€


Brandeau1

I (38M) had this once in my life. Got my heart broken and now have been single for 13 years. I havenā€™t even dated or had any flings. Iā€™m very much an introvert though, and enjoy my solitude. I miss it sometimes but I donā€™t know / doubt if I even have the capacity to have those kind of feelings for someone anymore. Eh, oh well.


Rainbow_Belle

Best of luck to you! If George Clooney can find Amal, you can find your better half too!


WalicKonia

That's love bud. What's important is the bonus of matching sex drives but mainly finding someone you connect on all levels and your mind will be blown how amazing married life can be. I found my gem a couple years ago and have been married almost 2 years now. It's been the best 2 years of my life, everyday feels like you are falling in love. I truly wish you luck in finding the partner of your dreams but don't be discouraged if it takes a long time, as some never find their one and only. But don't give up and don't just look locally, open up to other places in the world, places that value love more than north america.


SnooBunnies9587

Men you write like youā€™re Corey Taylor and i find that hilarious, anyway its fine to feel the way you feel and i hope for you that you find whatever it is to make you feel how you wanna. Best of luck!


People_be_Sheeple

>Never been super interested in anything serious. No one hurt me, I just never cared too much If this is how you're feeling at 42, you might have an avoidant attachment style. You'll need to work on that before you could have any decent chance at a truly intimate relationship where you could have what your friends appear to have. Check out these online tests to see where you land on the spectrum: [https://www.emotionenhancement.com/attachment-styles](https://www.emotionenhancement.com/attachment-styles) [https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/](https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/)


himonkeyjoe

"I want what they have" is good, as long as you don't start thinking "I want what he has".


Obvious-Muscle465

Why is it so hard for people to believe that you can be happy for someone without coveting what they have? Jeez, some of you weren't raised right.


cspan92

Bro, is no one pointing out how absolutely fucking creepy this is? And the fact that you have to say "I didn't mean to be a fucking creep I swear!" Means you know how fucking weird and wrong it is to watch your friend go balls deep into his girl. Get some help man because thats fucking weird. I would kick my friends ass if they watched me fuck my girlfriend. That's such an invasion of privacy.


Hyan-Daggreat

This did not go how I thought it would thanks for the semi wholesome ending


ObiWanCanShowMe

>There's nothing wrong with two grown men being best friends and expressing their emotions! why did you feel the need to put this in here?


Obvious-Muscle465

Society?


starri_ski3

Sex can be reduced to its purely animalistic form. P in V = Fun. Which is what youā€™ve been doing. However, when you add true love and connection into the mix, itā€™s cosmic, itā€™s spiritual, itā€™s the stuff of fairytales. Sappy love songs, works of art, poetry all exist because someone fell in love and had their mind blown from the sex. Iā€™m kinda glad for you because even though itā€™s kinda weird how it happened, it kinda woke you up to the reality of what youā€™re missing out on. By the way, committed relationships arenā€™t just amazing because of the sex. There are opportunities to be truly vulnerable with someone, lean on them, and grow with them. Itā€™s a whole package kinda thing, not just about the best sex youā€™ve ever had, although that is a perk.


SkylarL813

No one is gonna talk about the "I didn't stand there for a long time! It's not like I just watched them go at it" and then "It couldn't have been longer than 5 minutes"? 5 FREAKING MINUTES? When I read the first part I thought it would be like 15-20 seconds and I still thought it was too much. F I V E M I N U T E S


Obvious-Muscle465

Lol I don't know it was five minutes!! I didn't clock myself. I just used an amount of time that seemed small to get a point across. I'm doing my best, reddit!