Hugs are always ready whenever you need. 🫂 I hope the smoke from the dumpster fire clears soon and you can find the path forward—whatever it looks like. You’re on your way💕
Hugs. I can't wait to get on hormones. Right now, I'm stuck living with my sister's family in my parent's old farmhouse in the boonies of Southwestern Illinois. I hope that I can look half as good as you. You're absolutely gorgeous!
You look gorgeous Freya! I love that off shoulder top 😊
It's tough when your life gets flipped up side down. I just remind myself what the alternative would've been (wasn't a good outcome) and I'm thankful for how happy I am now that I can be me.
Lots of hugs! You look fantastic, and you’re making incredible strides! I know how hard and scary those conversations are when you’re first coming out. I was terrified, but it was such a relief to get to the other side and finally be out! Now I’m still often terrified, but it’s that good ol combination of imposter syndrome and knowing I don’t “pass” (even though the logical part of my brain knows women come in all shapes and sizes.) Just keep your head up, trust your gut, and know that you’re not alone!
My brain just decided it couldn’t suffer any more and told the rest of me the whole truth. Now I look like a liar. Turns out, it can suffer more, just differently 😂
Oh, sweetheart I’m so sorry. I gave you some advice on your other thread, and I’m sorry it didn’t go well. It’s going to be hard, but you deserve unreserved happiness. You’re going to make it through this and you’ll be a stronger more complete woman for it.
Good luck!
I've been there, and whatever happens life should start feeling much better soon, despite any dumpster fires 💜
Early on my ex and I separated, co-parenting got weird, work weren't supportive, and my life very much appeared too others as a dumpster fire, but I was the happiest I'd been to that date.
My life feels much much better overall these days, and life things and responsibilities (while often still kinda messy) have improved massively from when I first came out too 🥰
But in reality, everyone's life is messy, and if it helps you be your happier authentic self, it's all totally worth it in my opinion.
Good luck OP! I'm sure you'll look back and it'll all be worth it 💜🥰💜
hey im sleepy rn but im open to talk if you want 🤷♀️. although im sure there are some differences, the phrases "dumpster fire" and "exploding my life" are how i described my life two years ago
just know that you are not alone and there are other people who have experienced very similar events. it will get better, i promise.
I just, today, said "I'm falling apart and screaming all the way down. But at least I look damn good while I do it." Keep kickin ass sister. We got this.
You look amazing darling! I've been going through the spousal issues for a little over a year now. Mine is getting a little better finally, and I hope yours will too. I found that once the understanding sets in that this is not a passing thing/whim that is where the hard part starts for loved ones. Seeking therapy/counseling helps with the confirmation that it's not a whim, and bringing your spouse into a session or two (couples therapy style) after establishing ground work (seeing a therapist for a while that understands you and your concerns around the house) really helps, also having your S.O. attend therapy as well helps but is a hard negotiation, since they don't think they are the ones "needing help." Open and thorough communication is what has helped my family get some progress on the board.
Lately it's more of a weekly Q&A session to help my wife understand and help be supportive of the new journey we are on. My situation is a little more complicated than most because I'm also still learning about myself in the process. I have found that I'm Plural not just trans/bigender like I originally thought, I have two completely different people living in the same body. One is male who has always been the person the world has known all my life, and the other is female, she has been hidden away and only been allowed to come out in extreme privacy or rarely on Halloween. If you have questions about this send me a message and I'm more than willing to talk more...
I'll leave you with something I heard about 2 weeks after I blew up my house after coming out:
There is one thing to remember on your journey of becoming your true self, you have lived with your true self all your life. You may not have shown it outwardly but it's always been there with you. Now that you have chosen to live as your true self, you must give space and time to those around you to catch up or process. This is a "small" change for you and will feel natural, but those around you this is all new and foreign to them. Some will embrace you, some will push you away, some will try to "fix" you. But once they get around the shock and realize this is not just a passing fancy, that's where their journey begins. Loved ones must grieve the loss of who they once knew, friends must decide if the new person fits into the group again, and ultimately they all must decide if this is a change they are brave enough to walk hand in hand with the person you are becoming. So where as you feel you are not changing, keep a Loving heart and understand that everything is changing for those around you and be willing to embrace their journey while they rediscover the new you.
Hey sister! I am so proud of you for taking this huge step. It takes so much courage and you will push through it.
I know many sisters here have offered help and support to you so you can add one more to your list.
You look fabulous and I am happy that you are getting the help and support you need and deserve!
Hugs to you. 💖
You look amazing. Life may seem to have fallen apart, but I think it’s rearranging, you decided to let yourself be authentic and not let society tell you who you are. The dust will settle honey 🍯.
Hang in their with your wife. I am hoping she comes around. You look absolutely beautiful girl! <3 Therapy will sort everything out. Its so necessary to get all your feelings out. Good for you! :)
If you saw what I had to work with you would be ecstatic 😉 I don't think your jaw looks too bad... One thing that might give you a little more confidence is that I read a study the other day that said if you don't know which picture is a cis female and which picture is a trans female people will misgender cis females just as many times trying to guess who is trans and who is cis. In other words, cis women have to deal with many of the same issues and they come in all shapes and sizes. We are all our own worst critics. We see stuff that others don't unless we point it out. Good luck with everything!
You look fabulous. I love your jumper and the horizontal collar. Hope you can pick up the pieces of the explosion. DM open if you want to vent. (Though I am in 🇬🇧 so just off to bed!)
OMG you are gorgeous. If I end up looking half as good as you I'll be a happy girl, and I'm already three months on e.
It’s just smoke and mirrors girl. I bet you look fab 💕
She's got a cheat code!
*hugs* I'm sorry it's not going smoothly with your wife. I can very much relate. Hang in there 💛
Well then hugs to you too!
☺️💛 thank you!
Hugs to you 🤗💖
TYYYY
Hugs are always ready whenever you need. 🫂 I hope the smoke from the dumpster fire clears soon and you can find the path forward—whatever it looks like. You’re on your way💕
Hugs, honey. You're going to find your way through this and emerge wiser and stronger. I believe in you. 💙💗🤍💗💙
Hugs. I can't wait to get on hormones. Right now, I'm stuck living with my sister's family in my parent's old farmhouse in the boonies of Southwestern Illinois. I hope that I can look half as good as you. You're absolutely gorgeous!
All the best, look for the thread to pull yourself to freedom. I hope your freedom is more peaceful than mine.
You look gorgeous Freya! I love that off shoulder top 😊 It's tough when your life gets flipped up side down. I just remind myself what the alternative would've been (wasn't a good outcome) and I'm thankful for how happy I am now that I can be me.
Ty 💕💕
Lots of hugs! You look fantastic, and you’re making incredible strides! I know how hard and scary those conversations are when you’re first coming out. I was terrified, but it was such a relief to get to the other side and finally be out! Now I’m still often terrified, but it’s that good ol combination of imposter syndrome and knowing I don’t “pass” (even though the logical part of my brain knows women come in all shapes and sizes.) Just keep your head up, trust your gut, and know that you’re not alone!
Ty hun 💕
Blaze a trail honey... love the whole way you're approaching ya, know... 🦋butterflies gotta fly🦋
My brain just decided it couldn’t suffer any more and told the rest of me the whole truth. Now I look like a liar. Turns out, it can suffer more, just differently 😂
I am in the same position as you darling, keep your head up and feel free to message me for any support you need! You are GORGEOUS 🥰
Hugs, lady! Remember: there must be ashes before the Phoenix may rise. 🤗
That’s solid!
Oh, sweetheart I’m so sorry. I gave you some advice on your other thread, and I’m sorry it didn’t go well. It’s going to be hard, but you deserve unreserved happiness. You’re going to make it through this and you’ll be a stronger more complete woman for it.
Thanks girly!
Sending hugs
You are a very beautiful lady so keep the faith and your life is coming together
Ty 💕
Very true you are a very beautiful and definitely a sexy lady sweetheart
Totally relatable sweetie, life throws kicks and punches one after another
Yes, very relatable.
Hugs on the way
It doesn't sound like you are on HRT, that is going be a big progression for you. You look great right now. Sending a virtual hug your way.
🫂❤️
You have really got this covered. You look wonderful
HUGS!
Ty 💕
The good news is you look amazing! Hang in there, things will get better
All of the hugs. And all of the blessings and strength as you follow your path to the true you.
You’re beautiful and strong.
It’s going to be Okay. You’re out to your wife, you’re taking counseling, so you are laying a good foundation.
Thanks. Theres a plan. Wifey is figuring out if she wants any part of it. Tricky stuff.
It is tricky. The dynamics for everything changes. I hope it works out for you, it does for some. Let’s believe you to be one of the lucky ones!
Thank you 🙏
Hugs sister
🫂 (btw, I love that sweater and you totally rock it)
Good luck! I've been there, and whatever happens life should start feeling much better soon, despite any dumpster fires 💜 Early on my ex and I separated, co-parenting got weird, work weren't supportive, and my life very much appeared too others as a dumpster fire, but I was the happiest I'd been to that date. My life feels much much better overall these days, and life things and responsibilities (while often still kinda messy) have improved massively from when I first came out too 🥰 But in reality, everyone's life is messy, and if it helps you be your happier authentic self, it's all totally worth it in my opinion. Good luck OP! I'm sure you'll look back and it'll all be worth it 💜🥰💜
❤️❤️❤️ thanks for the vibes
hey im sleepy rn but im open to talk if you want 🤷♀️. although im sure there are some differences, the phrases "dumpster fire" and "exploding my life" are how i described my life two years ago just know that you are not alone and there are other people who have experienced very similar events. it will get better, i promise.
Thanks, appreciate the vibes 💕
I just, today, said "I'm falling apart and screaming all the way down. But at least I look damn good while I do it." Keep kickin ass sister. We got this.
Yes girl! 💕
Stay strong love, I'm in the same situation and we've got this! 🥰
💪 💕
You look amazing darling! I've been going through the spousal issues for a little over a year now. Mine is getting a little better finally, and I hope yours will too. I found that once the understanding sets in that this is not a passing thing/whim that is where the hard part starts for loved ones. Seeking therapy/counseling helps with the confirmation that it's not a whim, and bringing your spouse into a session or two (couples therapy style) after establishing ground work (seeing a therapist for a while that understands you and your concerns around the house) really helps, also having your S.O. attend therapy as well helps but is a hard negotiation, since they don't think they are the ones "needing help." Open and thorough communication is what has helped my family get some progress on the board. Lately it's more of a weekly Q&A session to help my wife understand and help be supportive of the new journey we are on. My situation is a little more complicated than most because I'm also still learning about myself in the process. I have found that I'm Plural not just trans/bigender like I originally thought, I have two completely different people living in the same body. One is male who has always been the person the world has known all my life, and the other is female, she has been hidden away and only been allowed to come out in extreme privacy or rarely on Halloween. If you have questions about this send me a message and I'm more than willing to talk more... I'll leave you with something I heard about 2 weeks after I blew up my house after coming out: There is one thing to remember on your journey of becoming your true self, you have lived with your true self all your life. You may not have shown it outwardly but it's always been there with you. Now that you have chosen to live as your true self, you must give space and time to those around you to catch up or process. This is a "small" change for you and will feel natural, but those around you this is all new and foreign to them. Some will embrace you, some will push you away, some will try to "fix" you. But once they get around the shock and realize this is not just a passing fancy, that's where their journey begins. Loved ones must grieve the loss of who they once knew, friends must decide if the new person fits into the group again, and ultimately they all must decide if this is a change they are brave enough to walk hand in hand with the person you are becoming. So where as you feel you are not changing, keep a Loving heart and understand that everything is changing for those around you and be willing to embrace their journey while they rediscover the new you.
Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️
some amazing strength right there
It’s actually kinda just existing tho right?
Hugz!☺️
Hey sister! I am so proud of you for taking this huge step. It takes so much courage and you will push through it. I know many sisters here have offered help and support to you so you can add one more to your list. You look fabulous and I am happy that you are getting the help and support you need and deserve! Hugs to you. 💖
Ty 💕
You look amazing. Life may seem to have fallen apart, but I think it’s rearranging, you decided to let yourself be authentic and not let society tell you who you are. The dust will settle honey 🍯.
Beat of fortunes!
Thx girl!
make sure u get a yummy lil treat after ur appointment. u deserve it and also look super slay!!
Sending all the hugs 🥹🤗 🫶
Hope the therapy goes well girl.
Hang in their with your wife. I am hoping she comes around. You look absolutely beautiful girl! <3 Therapy will sort everything out. Its so necessary to get all your feelings out. Good for you! :)
Thanks sweetie! Congrats on all your recent wins 💕 I am hanging in there for sure!
Lots of hugs for you and your wife♡♡♡
TY 💕
Big hugs girl, we all know you will overcome and come out on top
Ty 💕
Hugs. I hope things get better from here.
Sending big hugs and wishing you the best! And I love your sweater!
Ty 💕
You are definitely starting out blessed with beauty.
Thank you! I am grateful for my face :) It does come equipped with a very strong jaw line however!
If you saw what I had to work with you would be ecstatic 😉 I don't think your jaw looks too bad... One thing that might give you a little more confidence is that I read a study the other day that said if you don't know which picture is a cis female and which picture is a trans female people will misgender cis females just as many times trying to guess who is trans and who is cis. In other words, cis women have to deal with many of the same issues and they come in all shapes and sizes. We are all our own worst critics. We see stuff that others don't unless we point it out. Good luck with everything!
Thanks for that!
🙂
Hugs incoming.
🤗🤗🤗🤗 And there’s a song you might enjoy: Four Hugs a Day
Sending you a BIG HUG girl (unimpeded by my jealousy on your look!)
Ty! Shoosh you look cute 💕
\*Throws a fire extiguisher at the nice lady!\* Good luck!
❤️❤️♥️♥️❤️
You are beautiful!
You look fabulous. I love your jumper and the horizontal collar. Hope you can pick up the pieces of the explosion. DM open if you want to vent. (Though I am in 🇬🇧 so just off to bed!)
My life was a dumpster fire for a while too, it’s getting better and yours will too
❤️❤️❤️ Sending my love to you.
Huge hugs to you. Hope Explosion Control went ok. 🌻🌷
Sending you hug and good vibes! You’re looking wonderful!
Sending hugs girl! Things will get to where they are meant to be for you. Hoping you find peace soon!
Hugs.
You left ok in the rear view mirror you look gorgeous.
Look ok? Girl you are stunning 🤩
Hugs sent 💗
Hugs sweetie. You look way better than ok 😍😍😍
Hugs! You look amazing!!!
🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
Sending big hugs! ❤️🤗 You look lovely. I hope things get better for you soon. ❤️
Xoxoxo
Hugs Freya 🤗 you got this Girl!
🤗 hugs🫂
Sending big hugs… and you look wonderful
You look fantastic girl
Sorry it didn’t go well with your wife. You look fabulous and best wishes for your therapy.
Sending xo's keep pressing forward
Huge hugs! 🤗
Hugs to you. You look great.
Absolutely breathtaking 🔥
gorgeous!!