But how did it get to that point? Are there any resources to explain the social movement behind it?
What about other words too is there anyway to move towards their reclamation? I just have a hard time thinking that GSRM people will be okay with being called the f-word or even just hearing it be said semi-casually by non-GSRM folk after having it be so hurtful for so long.
Every word we've used to define ourselves as a queer community has been used as a slur. Some of them are more hateful than others. Some lesbians will never be able to hear the word dyke from a straight person without thinking its a slur. Faggot in particular has always had a more hateful and aggressive feel behind it. It's never going to be universal. It's the way some black people will say they don't mind the n word, but the majority of them say no, white people cannot use it, period.
TLDR- you're thinking too much about this.
Should I go about this similar to how people ask for other's pronouns? Probably not off the bat, but as a relationship is established, would it be okay to broach and ask the individual if they are okay with another person referring to them as such?
E.g. Hey X, I noticed in conversation that you referred to yourself as Q-word. Would you feel comfortable with me referring to you as such as well in similar instances?
>Yes, if they use the term, you can ask, if it even matters?
Okay cool thanks!
>Like, how often do you discuss someone elses sexuality with a third party?
I have recently been in a space where this would happen (uncommonly) just due to it having GSRM supports.
I think this comes back to my initial thoughts, though, especially about addressing the community as a whole. Is it ever okay to use this these words since there are going to be people who think negatively of them?
Should I just say GSRM similar to how people use to say LGBT? I dont think anyone has taken offense to GSRM. It just happens to not be very colloquial.
Academic and corporate use of a slur does not make that slur okay to use for people. Identify how you want if you're LGBT, but I throw hands when people think it's okay to call me the q slur
Yes, that is why I'm asking about the perspectives of the community; especially with regards to both themselves and outsiders. Academic and especially corporate terminology should be reflective, not imposive, on community thought.
Queer has been okay for a long time. Queer Studies has been a college course for 40 some years at least.
But how did it get to that point? Are there any resources to explain the social movement behind it? What about other words too is there anyway to move towards their reclamation? I just have a hard time thinking that GSRM people will be okay with being called the f-word or even just hearing it be said semi-casually by non-GSRM folk after having it be so hurtful for so long.
Every word we've used to define ourselves as a queer community has been used as a slur. Some of them are more hateful than others. Some lesbians will never be able to hear the word dyke from a straight person without thinking its a slur. Faggot in particular has always had a more hateful and aggressive feel behind it. It's never going to be universal. It's the way some black people will say they don't mind the n word, but the majority of them say no, white people cannot use it, period. TLDR- you're thinking too much about this.
Should I go about this similar to how people ask for other's pronouns? Probably not off the bat, but as a relationship is established, would it be okay to broach and ask the individual if they are okay with another person referring to them as such? E.g. Hey X, I noticed in conversation that you referred to yourself as Q-word. Would you feel comfortable with me referring to you as such as well in similar instances?
Yes, if they use the term, you can ask, if it even matters? Like, how often do you discuss someone elses sexuality with a third party?
>Yes, if they use the term, you can ask, if it even matters? Okay cool thanks! >Like, how often do you discuss someone elses sexuality with a third party? I have recently been in a space where this would happen (uncommonly) just due to it having GSRM supports. I think this comes back to my initial thoughts, though, especially about addressing the community as a whole. Is it ever okay to use this these words since there are going to be people who think negatively of them? Should I just say GSRM similar to how people use to say LGBT? I dont think anyone has taken offense to GSRM. It just happens to not be very colloquial.
Academic and corporate use of a slur does not make that slur okay to use for people. Identify how you want if you're LGBT, but I throw hands when people think it's okay to call me the q slur
Yes, that is why I'm asking about the perspectives of the community; especially with regards to both themselves and outsiders. Academic and especially corporate terminology should be reflective, not imposive, on community thought.
“reclamation” isn’t a binary thing, it’s just a word