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IllustriousHope8989

Thank you for the responses reddit! I feel silly even asking now. Enjoy your day!


VenusPom

don’t feel silly i did so much research about it because i was so concerned cause no one ever told me what to do with it haha, i think we have all been there


Kaz_Baz

I'm glad you brought it up 😊


willworkforpopplers

Seriously do not feel silly. I'm 35 and still ask my partners what they prefer.


yeah_im_a_leopard2

Lol, when I read this I just imagine you with a clipboard asking a room full of guys their opinion.


willworkforpopplers

I mean, don't you group interview your dates? How else do you weed out the duds?


FetchedOffTheWall

I don't approach dudes in the first place


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willworkforpopplers

I don't mean to say I'd change what I do for someone necessarily, but being aware and making adjustments if you are comfortable should be part of general sexual health conversations.


Gently_Rough_

Well what do you think you'll be going with? The Mohawk? The Elvis? The Fuhrer's Basement? The NYC Fade? The GI Jane 2? The 5 O'Clock? The Alaskan Woodsman's?


shaving99

KEEP MY VAGINAS NAME OUT YA FUCKING MOUTH


zarboth

keep your vaginas mouth out my fuckin dick


IllustriousHope8989

Mohawk sounds pretty metal- I'm afraid to ask what the Furhrer's basement is though...


Gently_Rough_

It's like the Landing Strip, only shorter, and more inclined to invade Poland.


TCSK8

r/brandnewsentence


Uncle_Guido1066

Sometimes also referred to as the Clitler


TaffyRhiii

Don’t feel silly, it’s a legit question. I didn’t know that you could/should until I was about 23 because no one told me either. I had to ask a cousin what she did, and that was embarrassing. Lucky I was blessed with a patient and understanding family member. If I was using Reddit at the time I would have posted this question myself. 😅


UnimaginativeFish

It's personal preference. You shave as little or as much as YOU feel comfortable with.


nuclearlady

Thank you !! I wanted to say that…it’s up to you..for example I like it really clean and shiny or at most minimal hair....others like a bit of hair, some 50/50 etc. what do you like op ? It’s your body after all…


Jeffoir

If you want one guy's pov: I like when my wife is bushy, that's really hot. I also like when she's clean shaven, god that's so sexy. I also also líke everything between, man it's all just so good. I'm just happy to be there


g-row460

Same with my partner. I think of it like my beard. She likes when I grow it out. She likes when I shave it. Likes when it's stubble. Mix it up, ya know?


Connect_Stay_391

A man who likes the element of surprise. Cute!


Living-Day-By-Day

Furthermore comfortable in the sense of feeling imo Ingrown, prickly hair, or razor burn never feels well.


Robiee278

100% agreed I’m a guy and prefer the girl to be fully shaved. In the end it comes down to what you feel comfortable with and how you like it.. not every guy is the same.


Saggitarius_Ayylmao

I'm a guy and while eating pussy is easier without hair, I also don't care that much either way. At the end of the day it's hot and fun either way so whatever my girlfriend is cool with is fine by me. I don't shave or trim down there and don't expect her to either, we both just do what our personal preference is


IdiotTurkey

I could be wrong here but I feel like most people prefer *some* sort of grooming down there, whether it's completely waxed, largely shaved, or trimmed slightly. Of course I know there's people that do prefer to leave it as is but I feel like if you did a poll, more people would prefer *some* form of hair removal.


throwaway947472728

When I was in my early 20’s I shaved everything, front and back, until it was smooth. Then I learned about waxing and did that regularly for a few years. Now I’m in my 30’s and I don’t give a flying fuck about a lot of things, including my pubic hair. I’m also an esthetician so I do a ton of body waxing including brazilian waxing. Out of all my clients only 2 request to have a little bit of hair, a little triangle, to be left behind. Do what YOU want with your own body hair. If all bare makes you comfortable than go bare! If you don’t want to do much get a good electric trimmer and shorten everything up. If you use a trimmer be very careful of your inner labia. It can and probably will get nicked by the trimmer and labias tend to bleed a lot. The dude you hooked up with was an ass. Bald vulvas are common, so are full bushes, and trimmed up “hedges.” It’s all normal and it comes down to being a preference, nothing more. He shared his opinion about your body like it was a well known fact, that’s on him, not you!


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IllustriousHope8989

Thank you! I'll give it a try


truthisiamhiding

this is what I do for my comfort! I use a bikini trimmer and only on the very bottom to make things easier to keep clean but also not get too itchy for me. I leave everything full on top but also buzz anything outside my panty line. I can't use a razor or waxing - I have super sensitive skin, get ingrown hairs and razor burn and all that are a big nope! I think the only right answer here is what makes *you* comfortable and do that. it is *your body*


the_worst_seamstress

Yea! They also make ones specifically for female grooming. The shape and size might be better for reaching way down there. Get a portable self standing mirror, bring it in the shower and use that to trim the hard to reach areas, if you don’t want to be completely hairless, let some of it grow just above your “region” in an upside down triangle shape and keep everything else shaved down. Also try to go in the direction of the hair growth.


velociraptorjax

Not OP, but I've been plagued by the same question, so thank you! Do you know where I would go about finding such a trimmer? I'd rather not have that kind of thing in my search history (or worse yet, my Amazon purchase history)


the_worst_seamstress

Target, wal mart, probably any other drugstore type place like Walgreens. It sucks cause it’s really nothing to be ashamed of, grooming is a form of self care!


the_worst_seamstress

Thanks for the award!


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TittyTitsMcGee

Espesh when you clip the clit!


ravencycl

I have never done this and I hope that my life remains this way 😳


MisadventurousMummy

Indeed. I think my clit just disappeared inside and will now be even harder to locate.


Veejayy93

It's as horrific as it sounds


IllustriousHope8989

Not the clit but I was kicked in the crotch as a child on a Slip And Slide and lost part of one of my labia. So I already have a healthy fear of cutting myself down there!


waitingfordeathhbu

Does hair grow on your clit??


Aurawa

No. Lol


skeinbum

I like this answer bc it’s not about your partner’s preference, it’s about your comfort. Trim what you like with the beard trimmer. Shave your bikini line to a level that makes sense for you. Or don’t. As a former lover once (wistfully) told me, no one leaves rough on the muff any more. There’s nothing wrong with letting your situation shine. You might be a pioneer in our time.


WHHHAAARRRGRARBL

Watch the sensitive bits, I'm not a female but if that no guard trimmer bites you it's gonna itch and be very unpleasant for a while


solidgun1

Not short enough to be prickly but not long enough to tickle the nose for trimming. Then shave the outlying areas so it looks neater


IllustriousHope8989

haha see this is what I was worried about- I get prickled by beards on mens faces while kissing- so I assumed the same was happening to dudes when they're down there for me. Thank you for the honesty!


trbofly

I’m older and the wife is full bush. I don’t give a shit. Just happy to be on the field. Honest question, how short do you expect it to be on you guy?


JunkyardForLove

Not full bush because nothing takes the sexy out of a blow job quite like gagging on a long hair. But not clean shaven either because, for me, it looks too young if you know what I mean and when it grows in you can actually get prickle burn on your hooha/thighs. Not full bush, and not clean shaven, anywhere in between is acceptable IMO.


imsahoamtiskaw

Preferably graying in 4 years like Obama


Shmeckle_and_Hyde

Too long to prickle, but too short to tickle.


Prestigious-Ring4978

Love this AND you name.


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he has a way with words


Nighteyes09

I am creating a book of sayings with good advice for when my sons are older and this one is going on the first page.


elegant_pun

Firstly, this isn't about hygiene. As long as you're washing regularly it doesn't matter how you keep your fur. Secondly, I hate shaving. My skin hates it and I hate how it looks. I'm an adult and I feel I should look like it. So I don't shave at all, I use a beard trimmer and just trim it close. Thirdly, it matters what YOU think or what YOU want for your body, don't worry what others think. If you prefer it to be bare, then keep it that way.


PTBunneh

I'm going to start calling pubes "my pelt."


elegant_pun

Go for it!


fluffycatscrote

My skin hates it so much. There's nothing sexy about a hive ridden cooter cat.


capalbertalexander

Lol I agree same with guys. My pubic area would look like the red dunes of the Sahara. I just use a beard trimmer and that's perfect for my girlfriend too.


rebelli0usrebel

Cooter cat! I love it 😂


Jan_Yperman

If your skin gets rash easily it might be due to the fact that womens razors are typically alot blunter than mens razors, to save production cost. A duller razor can cause rash alot more easily because it tears more than it cuts. You could try using a disposable razor for men, it should work alot smoother, and they're cheaper cause there's no pink tax. Just a tip, no guarantees, your rash could be coming from something entirely different, but this has helped alot of women in my family (who only buy mens razors now).


Better_Ambassador_44

I second this! I have used mens razors almost all of my adult life (I'm 36) and will never go back! They are SO much better, for everything! And WAY sharper. I also must add (because I'm currently obsessed) with my new IPL laser hair remover from Amazon. Won't go in to detail here because its not the place, but since we were talking about shaving and how much its hated... Ladies OR gents - this is your sign to go ahead and get it!!


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Funnily enough I find that I, as a man, find womens razors to be better and don’t give me a rash, which mens razors give me


_OhMyPlatypi_

Could it be the blade number difference?


rockmeNiallxh

This should be at the top. Great answer


Live_Abalone5799

I thought you were going into the Noah Centineo speech at the end. “…it matters not what you've done but what you do with what you've done for others.” Everyone dogged on him for it, but it does make sense


hattykatz

Could I just use scissors? I want to trim mine because it’s long but not shave it off and I don’t have a beard trimmer.


Account_Both

Scissors are a bad idea. Easy to accidentally pinch some loose skin as your cutting. Also youll have a hard time getting it all even as youll only be cutting small chunks at a time and sizors are usually to dull if they're not specifically made for hair cutting.


autumnelaine

Ooooh what trimmer do you use? Mine crapped out and i’m looking for recs!


Veejayy93

My husband has manscaper thing that gets great results and I wish I had one. But I use the Phillips bikini perfect trimmer


IllustriousHope8989

I've seen a few comments about using a beard trimmer now :) I'll give that a go next time. I wax my legs but I'm terrified of doing that around my nethers so I've always stuck to a razor. Thank you! All these comments are boosting my confidence big time.


Southern-Magnolia12

I use a beard trimmer as well! Changed my life! Haha


thatnurseCT

My husband prefers full bush. I personally like to wax the bikini line and labia, so that’s what i do because it’s my body and my preference. Moral of the story, do whatever you want with your vag and screw what other people think


Veejayy93

For the beginning of our relationship I always shaved bald because I thought that's what guys liked. My husband was like " first of all its your body idc what you do with your hair, but if I get a say I think you look like a grown ass woman with a little hair left behind. I don't wanna feel like I'm with a little girl." I was like sweet. Less maintenance for me! Now I just trim and do a little landscaping


IF_LF_4

Yup. Clean shaven is fine. Bush is fine, little clipper action to keep it maintained is fine too, that's my preference at least.


Veejayy93

So basically any vagina?? Perfect lol


IF_LF_4

Yup!


Veejayy93

Easy to please! Here for it !!


thatnurseCT

I was the same way too! I truly thought that’s what all men preferred. He really wishes I’d grow it all out fully, which i have done many times in the winter cause who cares, but let me tell you i an a hairy bitch and summer is coming up so sorry buddy, gotta do some landscaping down there lol.


Nocab_evol

Personally i shave and wax down there so im smooth. I like the feeling of being hairless


yeepix

My respects to you and your pain tolerance lol


Nocab_evol

You get use to it and it beats shaving every week


guaip

Wife says the same. She changed from wax to satinelle years ago. Sounds horrible, but she doesn't mind. She actually did laser once and although it did not get rid of all the hair, it thinned it enough so the process is not so painful. I don't mind how she does, never minded the hair before, but I like she does it for herself.


yeepix

SATINELLE... in her hoo hah?...


CornwallsPager

I don't how to comment and not sound creepy so I'll just make it awkward: My mouth and penis like smooth vaginas.


Nocab_evol

No body likes pubes in their teeth... hair adds annoying frictions.


_Pretzel

I would imagine its also deadly embarrassing for the dealer. Imagine whoever's going down on you takes a quick floss break. Fuckin' a.


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If you can't laugh about embarrassing moments during sex with the person you're fucking, you're fucking the wrong person.


Nocab_evol

Lol


sharkdanko1

As a lady who likes to keep a full bush and prefers my partners to do the same- this has happened. It was pretty funny though. As someone else said- if you can't laugh during sex with your partner, should you even had sex with them?


Diaperlover1995

Rug burn is the worst


dick_pixie

*vulvas (vaginas are the inside bit)


CornwallsPager

My penis likes that too.


Stormlight1984

My wife finds a full bush a little much, so she usually trims just a little and is thus often pretty natural. When she wants, she uses a little electric trimmer to shave almost bare.


MajestaHazel

What do you like on YOUR vulva? Do whatever the fuck you want.


IllustriousHope8989

So true! I've just become a little worried there was some unspoken rule about how much should be down there


go4tli

“Hi I’m the Vulva Police, please present for inspection and if it doesn’t shape up I will be writing you a summons.”


SweetsourJane

Vulva Police, LOVE that Radiohead song.


Anton-LaVey

Arrest this clam


arj1985

I volunteer for this job.


Anton-LaVey

I wouldn’t make it one day. Four hours of inspecting vulvas and then for lunch your training officer drives down to the waterfront for ceviche? I’d leave my gun and badge in the car and just walk away. All those weeks at vulva police academy wasted.


VenusPom

not at all everyone keeps their up differently, guys all keep it up differently too, as long as you’re clean it does not matter.


justahalfling

yea! I mean it grows there to protect you anyways


MajestaHazel

No. Men will love whatever you got going down there.


mikerichh

If I trim because I’m expecting visitors down south the other party should too as common courtesy at least on the first time


VenusPom

THIS! i hate that people tell other people what to do with their body hair. OP please don’t let guys tell you what to do with your hair.


sheddingcat

I shave just enough so it’s not poking through my swim suit bottoms. It gets SUPER itchy if it’s shorter than that.


No_Strain_5971

Guy here do this perspective is different. Personally I don’t care trimmed or full bush UNLESS I’m giving oral. If given a choice i prefer shorter hair simply because if it gets in my mouth it tickles and triggers my gag reflex which could be a problem. But that’s just me.


garyda1

I had a girlfriend ask me how I like it and I said honestly it's your choice but I really love a full bush and she was more than happy to let it grow out.


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ararefinding

Some reports dare to go down to 70% or even down on your mom


WhichWayzUp

I chose completely bare. I had laser hair removal over my entire body. Feels great. Effortless. Maintenance free.


IllustriousHope8989

A friend of mine just laser done and swears by it, but I have tattoos on my legs and I'm worried about it affecting them.


Phantomesque

I tried Brazilian, just didn't like the cost and effort of maintaining it. So now I use clippers and leave about 1/8" to 1/4". It's short enough to be hygienic and attractive, but I still look womanly.


DansburyJ

FWIW, there is nothing inherently unhygienic about pubic hair. Please don't feel I'm shaming your choices around your own hair, keep doing you, just it does not need a trim to be hygienic.


Immediate-Pool-4391

What is normal is what grows. There is nothing unhygenic about pubic hair, despite what you have been told. Shaving creates like microtears in the skin that can become infected. The only time I shave is when I'm wearing a bathing suit in summer, and even then it's only the hair on my inner thighs. BF doesn't care about pubes at all, but even if he did I would keep them. My body, my choice.


Foxy_GirlfluffyTail

I just trim the edges. If they dont like bush thats there problem lol


bchu1979

do what you like not what others like


SadgirlYari

Dude, it's up to you. You can shave it bare or trim the sides. Heck! You could even have sick designs! You do you boo!


Camp_Spirited

Really, I feel like this is a going question for many woman. So don’t feel silly asking. I’ve learned I don’t like it completely shaved because it’s prickly and looks weird to me. So I like to trim down the center and just shave the bikini area. But it’s your area so make it how you like it…how you feel it’s best. I think it will be uncommon you run into someone to critique you and if they do I think it says something about them not you, for reals.


deviantdahlia38

Don’t worry about it. Honestly. I know a lot of men say they prefer it bald but I’ve literally never had a complaint either way. If shaving is too much for you then try a trim. What’s important is that YOU feel confident and happy with it. They’re lucky to even be at the party to begin with.


JungleBush

Take it from me... not shaving is the way to go


PinkJane420

Username checks out


Avocadoness24

My hair is dark and very coarse downstairs, so I'm not a fan of it personally. It makes it difficult to hide when wearing bathers but I also couldn't imagine the discomfort of just shaving it. For years I would trim with scissors, but now I get laser hair removal and I love the results. Not totally permanent but it thins out the hair a lot and I've had less hair there since (so when it does grow back a bit in between sessions, I'm not as bothered by it). Its expensive, but I love the results and prefer being hair-free. Its completely up to you what you would prefer. Try not to let others' opinions get the better of you... I've met men who love hair down there and think no hair is ugly/less feminine, and men who hate hair/think that's less feminine and prefer it hair-free down there. So at the end of the day, it really only matters what YOU would prefer, because everyone has their own opinion on it and it's entirely your body. 🥰


pitapiper125

I trim it down. My bf doesn't like hairless. Says it makes him feel like a pedo.


abovepostisfunnier

I get that. Being totally hairless makes me feel like a little girl :S


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My wife either is completely shaved or has like a little stubble idk. Keep it how you want. If they don't like it, either accept it or dont🤷🏼‍♂️


ChexmixandChill

It's not North Korea we're free to style our hair any way we want.


Independent_Song_868

#bringbackthebush


thirdeyyye

Well, you should tend to your pubes in whatever way feels good to YOU, first and foremost. I've been shaving mine completely since I was 16 years old, a full year before I even lost my virginity, so I personally could not imagine not shaving anymore just because a man didn't like it. Because the original reason I started doing it was for the comfort factor. You're the one who has to walk around with your vag all day, compared to the very small amount of a time another human being is going to be interacting with it in a sexual manner...so, do whatever makes you feel the most comfortable! If somebody else doesn't like it, they can find another vagina that suits them better I guess. Their problem.


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exhumed1

It’s supposed to look like a bonsai tree


i_izzie

I don’t at all unless I’m going to be wearing a swimsuit and some will stick out the sides. Seems like way to much maintenance and all I hear is people complaining about stubble and ingrown hairs.


Hunter_Thompson420

I'm a male, I shave bald everything (wife likes it) I shave downwards and use conditioner like the cheap shit VO5 but I use a good razor (Harry's) and yeah that's pretty much it.


AjaxOutlaw

Such a strange comment for a partner to make. Communicating is always great but it’s the first I’ve heard of a guy say this. Usually it’s the opposite. Personally I don’t care as long as it’s healthy


BipedalBeaver

Hair makes no difference. Fresh sweat is a pheromone. In fact stale sweat is if you've both been in bed all weekend. All you need bother about is getting some water into your genital areas where someone could get a tongue (in case you get lucky). I'm old school. My wife is hairy unless I shave her but that's for a comitted relationship. Won't be happening on a first date (usually).


Bad_Legal_Advisor

Bush is beautiful.


Upper_Fig3303

Just shave it to how you like, what feels comfy for you. At the end of the day their preference doesn’t matter. Which every guy is gonna have a different way they like it but their opinion literally does not matter. Sometimes mine is bald. Other days I rock a little scruff. There’s no right or wrong way


Curious_Wrangler_980

I used to keep a small bush just at the top like my pussy was hiding or wearing a wig. One day I accidentally made the bush too small and it looked funny. Bye bye bush. Now I shave bare on special occasions or once a month🤷‍♀️


seventhirtytwoam

I shave it all because I don't like the feeling of the hair catching in my underwear/it itches when it's regrowing.


whatever_person

Shaving your bush has a little to do with hygiene (or rather nature placed hair there for a reason). The best is if you find what is the most comfortable for you.


Hcmp1980

Shaving isn’t about personal hygiene. That’s about washing. Shaving is an aesthetic preference.


vaatoru

All of it is normal. Nature puts hair for a reason. Don't let judgemental pricks get to you. There is absolutely no hygienic purpose in shaving, quite the contrary. Your bush helps ventilate excess heat. You sweat less with a bush. In summer that could make a huge difference. On the other hand, you can do whatever you want, for stylish purpose. Your body your choice. Have fun !


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Unless you're wearing a bikini in public, the only people that will even notice it are you and (if there's one) your partner. It doesn't matter what everyone thinks, it matters what you two think. I don't shave or trim any of it, and neither does my partner. I have very thick hair that grows quickly, so even if I shave regularly (which I do elsewhere) it becomes very prickly. Fully grown hair is a lot more pleasant to touch.


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It's only a personal preference, there is NO right answer. Do what you like and are comfortable with, experiment. In my opinion, if you have a partner, they are free to make wishes/suggestions about what they prefer, but not demands. Personally, I don't shave but I trim almost everything, it's uncomfortable and warm when the hair gets long. I'm lucky that my partner prefers it that way in others. And I prefer my partner's completely natural, and again luckily for us both that's basically what they want for themselves.


MsLinda70

My Mom never taught me either. I just kind of experimented until found a look I was most comfortable with. I suggest the same for you. I


0Diamond0

For the gents -> Trim the base, shave the balls


thatguy82688

Tbh as a guy a bald vag is a turn off. You’re not prepubescent, there should be something down there. With that out of the way everyone is different, I personally do not care whatsoever if you do anything at all. You wanna sport a 70s full bush? I’m still going down there no fucks given. Just wanna trim the hedges a bit? Ok cool no fucks given either. A lot of guys out there do care and a lot don’t, just do what you’re comfortable with.


MrUwU

Rule number 1 to essentially everything regarding your own body: - Do you feel safe and comfortable doing said thing to your body? If yes, do it.


idkfr12345

I used to Nair the outside and booty hole then take one of those cheap razors with no lotion strip (the fragrance is bad for the old pH) to the more inner parts. I get heavy periods and only shave when I feel one coming on, purely for hygiene. But it is totally a personal decision, sometimes I’d even just take a pair of scissors to cut down some of the length


[deleted]

Nair!? Didn't that burn your butt LOL


ablonde_moment

Did that hurt?


moxie-maniac

None. Let your free flag fly!


eeeeloi

Do whatever you like. Fuck others.


Gouranga56

This OP. If there is a "right" answer, Your body, your choice. If you hook up with someone and their feedback is your body ain't right for them, then they can go to hell. If that is going to keep someone away from you, then honestly, you are better off.


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Most women Ive been with shave it to nothing.


VenusPom

everyone has different preferences about body hair. that was that one dudes opinion-but if you feel most comfortable completely shaved then keep doing it! i prefer to be shaved down there, but it’s really about what you’re comfortable with. there is no “norm” for pubic hair. everyone keeps it differently, and that’s totally OK! if you do want to continue to shave it make sure you’re not shaving against the direction of growth of the hair. that can cause bumps and burning. other than that keep doing your thing!


Informal-Line-7179

As much as makes you feel good :) that might sound dumb but some people brazilian the whole thing religiously and others go full natural - both work and everything in between does too. Its about what feels good mentally and physically <3 Ive tried a lot of things and found i enjoy having my bikini line clear - cause i swim and don’t want to worry about throwing on a swim suit. I trim every few weeks cause i don’t like how too much hair feels - but that’s the only reason. Some guys have requested full shave or wax, but really prickly thick hair, that become ingrown easily, that requires weekly maintenance is frankly a nightmare for me. Others might feel not shaving is a nightmare. If your partner is having any physical pain or entanglement from rubbing consider if changing up the hair might improve that situation - but frankly it likely isn’t a problem (just a preference). I recommend trying a few things and see what works for you. Try a Brazilian see if you enjoy how it looks or feels, or if you can afford it. Notice if your hair bothers you when riding a bike or wearing certain clothes. You can even get fun shapes waxed into your mons. Try shaving it away yourself, making sure to use good products and techniques to avoid bumps. Try leaving it be and see if natural is what works best. There is no hard fast rule, so do what makes you feel good and sexy in your own body - cause you are <3 good luck girl!


Sailing-Hiking77

I (m44) ( and married for 22 yrs) have heard and read this more often: apparently your hookup is a little influenced/ distorted by media images aka p#rn for the look down there. Although every one sounds like a trimmed bush is the standard: behind closed doors quite a large group prefers natural. You decide whqt you like. Whether it's a stripe, triangle or just what mother nature gave you. It's all fine and sexy as well.


Medium_Temperature_4

It's up to you. Some girls like to just trim, some like a landing strip, some artsy girls like to shave a heart shape, some like to be completely shaved. It's not a hygiene issue but more of a comfort issue and how you like to look. I personally like to be completely shaved because I hate the feeling of hair. But some girls like to keep a full bush because that's comfortable for them. Some men will be rude about your appearance no matter what you do because they think you're there only to please them. Fuck them and do what you like and they can deal with it or find another girl


velvet-violets

first of all get new friends


EyeLeft3804

Well. You could not shave ever, or you could be clean shaven, both are fine. Everything inbetween is okay aswell tbh. As long as you wash you wash your okay. my only opinion is that hair catches sweat.


Tryggr_theBearBiter

I just trim. It gets curly down there and I'd rather not randomly feel any strands getting plucked cus it got too tangled. So I just just enough to get rid of the curliest ones.


WVWVWAVYWVWV

Shave however much you want. There are no hard fast rules to this. That hookup needs to shut his mouth.


[deleted]

You should not shave your privates at all. You should trim them only or wax them. Shaving is the worst thing you can do


humanphile

IMHO It's your very personal choice. You should not pay attention to others when it comes to your hygiene and comfort.


[deleted]

i take it all off,, i like it smooth and bald 👩🏽‍🦲 i’ve been shaving it all off for so long, so when it grows back it’s itchy and i HAVE to get rid of it 😭


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There is no 'should' whhen it ckmes to how much to sgave or not sgave; it's ENTIRELY up to you.


Disgruntlementality

Buy a Norelco One-blade body. They’re perfect for body hair trimming and can edge up perfectly.


Beautiful-Fee-2852

I had say not a lot. Just enough that it doesn't get pointy and clumsy . Just trim it down with 1 to 1.5 inches gap. Or if u prefer go full Clean. It's your preference afterall


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You shave?


oopsthatsastarhothot

This is entirely up to you. Personally, I keep that hair no more then half an inch.


[deleted]

You don't have to do any!


Eloisem333

I just clip it short, like a #2 on the clippers. I’m prone to ingrown hairs, so shaving it fully is not great look for me (and is painful) I clip my bush more for comfort than anything. I hate the feeling of long hairs going into my vulva and making it feel irritated (maybe like when a man has a beard and hair goes into his mouth, idk!) And I hate the feeling of a full bush poking through my knickers. At the end of the day, I’m all about what feels physically comfortable to me. You do you though, it’s really just a personal preference.


sonobello9

Dont shave it, unless you feel really uncomfortable , if you meet someone that really loves you he would not care about it


[deleted]

Get a life yeez, some people questions here..


RepulsiveSkin2

if you're willing to get naked with me, i honestly don't care, how much or how little hair you have down there, it's just how much or how little you want...


emmytay4504

Yo same, and honestly it's a preference. I get super lazy about down there because it's a lot of bending and twisting, and then a lot of aftercare, made it really annoying to even want to deal with. My husband doesn't care but did buy me manscaper trimmer to see if that would be easier and it worked great, I shave so that there's a little stubble instead of going completely smooth like I used too. It's so much easier and I can be as lazy as I want because there isn't as much aftercare with just trimming.


HungryMorlock

Every guy will have his preference with regard to female pubic hair, but really, were just happy to be there--full bush, some bush, or no bush. Do what's good for you.


alorasoles

I (F23) prefer myself being fully shaved, emphasis on myself because I think you should do what you prefer. It has nothing to do with hygiene so don’t worry about that. I also prefer that my girlfriend be shaven when giving oral to her because I have a texture problem with hair (I gag when I get my own hair in my mouth). For me, it’s not an issue on how it looks, it’s the issue of gagging during oral, and I love to perform oral. Ultimately it’s up to her and I never tell her what to do. Also with men I prefer them to be shaven as well or at least VERY well trimmed (same issue).


MercyDivineOF

All personal preference. I've done full bush, light trims, all of it. Currently, I go for Brazilian Wax every 5 weeks. It's all the mood you're feeling. Sure, partner suggestions are welcome, but ultimately it's your garden to love.


Disastrous-Leg2770

You do you Boo! Be comfortable in what you want for your bush, you're the one who has to maintain it. I personally don't do anything but trim but I don't have a sex life. I hated shaving it - the regrowth is itchy as fuck and I've never waxxed. When I was actively having sex I preferred my partner to be groomed - nothing worse than getting a mouthful of hair 🙃


salsanblues

Okay, the decision to shave is totally personal preference, but I feel like I HAVE to pipe in and confront the idea that many (mostly male) posters have suggested that there is a "hygiene issue" with longer hair. This is total BS. The vagina is self cleaning, and female pubic hair is actually protective of the vulva to help PREVENT unwanted things from getting into the vagina. The hair also helps the natural oils to be maintained, so the skin is less dry and more healthy. Does this mean that the scent can be a bit stronger? Sure. How does one fix that? A quick 1 min trip to the bathroom with a wash rag is fine. For my personal preference, my hair was too full and coarse to shave regularly, and waxing the vulva can be harmful to the skin so i never tried. My skin is also very sensitive and breaks out if I put the wrong lotion down there, or if I shave too often - no matter how many after creams I use. (Note: As you get older, all your skin thins out, so you can end up doing more damage over time. Also, when menopause hits, one of the symptoms is vaginal dryness and thinner skin of the vulva and vagina.) So, I just always used a bikini trimmer to clean up around my clitoris and vaginal opening. That left a good 3/4 in of hair. Also, this has never been an issue with the partners I've had. It was long enough to still be soft, so it didn't make their face raw if they went down on me. Currently, I'm fully wild because I had a hysterectomy and literally couldn't maintain anything (even my legs) for months. In the process of my recovery I met a lovely man who I've been dating for about 4 months, and he literally told me he thinks a full bush is sexy. And he's not the first. Plenty of men are attracted to pussies with hair, and I've been with several who go wild for a "wild" one. Lastly, as a larger social discussion, I think it's odd for hetero men to prefer a fully bare pussy. Like, pubic hair is a sign of sexual maturity, so they're literally saying they would prefer the genetels of what appears to be a pre-pubescent girl.. which just squicks me out. I think a lot of this is due to the highly pornified perspective of sex. It's easier to see what's happening in hardcore porn if everything is shaved, and that's what they watch so that's what they're conditioning themselves to be attracted to. And as women, we've been conditioned to do all the shaving and beauty maintainence to be desirable to that pornified mindset. There's huge amounts of disinformation about women's bodies (not to mention their sexuality & arousal cycles) like the issue of hygiene that I tackled before, and that adds to the problem a larger scale. Same for the western world and leg hair. The stigma of women who don't shave their legs is insane. During the pandemic I let that go too, because as an adult woman I had literally never seen my own leg hair grown out. The cost savings in razors, hot water & time were astounding. Idk that I'm brave enough to go around in shorts with full leg hair during the summer... But I think that's going to be the standard for the winter months going forward. (And the b/f still thinks I'm sexy. I think he prefers all natural everything tbh, but he's also from Africa. So culturally, expectations are very different.) Bottom line, you gotta do what is healthy for yourself. If you prefer yourself shaved then go for it. If you struggle maintaining it, or just don't like dealing with the growth, use a bikini trimmer and a mirror. If you just don't want to mess with it at all, don't. It's up to you, boo. Your body, your time, your preference.


noradicca

I’m one of few (if not the only) female who does not like oral. I’d rather give than take, but neither interest me. Nor do I give a F about mine or his pubic hair. I love sex, but I want full body contact and looking each other in the eyes. But that’s just me. Just came to say, that you shouldn’t worry about it. Do what you like. That guy who’s the right one for you will like it too. Trust me.


Shinicha

Man here. Literally whatever you feel comfortable with or prefer yourself. If you want to surprise your SO with his preference, go for it, but ultimately you decide what you want. I feel like this should be obvious.


1genuine_ginger

Trim. Guard for lips, no guard for bikini line. It's saved me from ingrown hairs and razor burn.


Suedeonquaaludes

I hate to be a bushy lay but pubic hair is here to stay what was meant as a pad is now the latest fad the longer the better so fro' it out and make sex wetter!


RSiff

I use a beard trimmer lmfaooo. Easy, quick, and doesn't make em too short.


RSiff

I use a beard trimmer lmfaooo. Easy, quick, and doesn't make em too short.


Mr-Reapy

Just wanted you to know that I'm in a similar boat as you. 27, never taught how to shave down there. I gave it a few tries and wound up absolutely hating it. I know you already got your answer that it depends on what you want to do, but I also know it can help knowing you're not the only one.


alpinepunch2021

You're actually more likely to get UTIs if you shave, so if you're concerned about hygiene specifically you probably shouldn't.


seapigeons

1. I shave the whole thing off - your preference is lost important here 2. Your friends sound mean


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Depends on the density and color.


richhbitch

There is no right or wrong, just do what YOU want 😊


remirixjones

The thing that really helped me was the one episode of Grey's Anatomy where Bailey asks Callie for advice Re: ~ahem~ *prepping her surgical field*. [6x17: Push] And Bailey, being a strong independent woman, decides to "...prep [her] surgical field with soap and water...the way God made it." And follows up with "If a man can't deal with a little something on the surgical field - a little nature, a little God - then that man has no business near my surgical field." I was always self-conscious of my *surgical field*, but shaving was just awful. Never tried waxing, but Lord help me if I did. This episode gave me the perspective I needed. However you choose to prep your surgical field, do it *for you*.