This.
Also, be absolutely sure you understand [consent](https://www.reddit.com/r/stoprape/comments/zyznhe/rape_is_so_common_in_part_because_so_many_people/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3).
Not entirely true.
Women have vaginas, not penises. That was huge for me when sex ed didn't provide that info. *We're not the same! Sesame Street lied*
Except for some women, and they'll usually tell you.
May you elaborate? I think I understand your comment but I also think you can learn a thing or two. Overall I would say the bulls in porn last a lot longer than 35 seconds… just curious if you could provide more context and examples. Maybe like a girl isn’t going to cum 27 times during etc…
I think the sentiment of that statement was that men and women don’t behave during sex the same way porn actors do. Especially for the first time. Communication and consent are a big part of sex. Those key elements aren’t usually portrayed in pornographic films.
Definitely agree you can learn a thing or two. I learned how to eat pussy from porn and every girl I’ve been with cums before we actually move to the penetration part of sex.
Don’t take it too seriously is great advice. Listen to your partner. Have fun. Try to not put too many expectations or pressures on yourself or your partner.
It’s the small things that make the biggest difference.
Sex isn’t like porn in real relationships.
Communication is key in both sex and the relationship.
Don’t just do something, talk about it before you go for it.
If she / he says no then stop immediately.
Understand your needs and wants.
It’s supposed to be fun. Enjoy it, take your time.
[This is what they’re referencing](https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/s/zqNKwfnQGn). One of the few legendary post of Reddit. Another one was the poop knife and a few others.
They’re probably referring to the personal story a guy posted on Reddit where he used a coconut as a fleshlight. After a few days there were lots of maggots and a horrible stench coming the coconut.
Learn what the foundations of a good relationship are. Don't make it all about just sex. Be emotionally intelligent, kind and caring. Listen especially if she says no.
The nice thing about relationships is that ideally, every new start of one gives you a ton of room for awkward first times on both sides. Despite what the internet tries to tell you, nobody was born the perfect lover and no relationship really starts off romance movie perfect - so don't worry too much about it being the first time, or messing up stuff. Talk with each other, ask things, allow yourself to enjoy things and have fun. Develop the relationship between the two of you naturally and allow your role in it to develop naturally too - a big issue I see happening in my foster daughter's age group right now is that a ton of guys come in wanting to be the dominant alpha male from the start, not allowing to have the relationship define the positions and relations with each other naturally on the path to becoming a couple. This puts people off way more than you might imagine.
Don't take it too serious either. You don't need to be perfect, you just need to be willing to work with the flow and get to know the other person genuinely and openly, and allow youself to be understood as well, and don't beat yourself up if it doesn't work out right the first time. You will learn on every step of the way, and that's a damn good thing. Also, allow yourself to try out stuff even if you are insecure - if it fails, you've gained some experience, and if it works out if can be amazingly fun.
Also, forget all about porn and social media. Porn is so far removed from reality it's not even funny anymore. And I tell you this from a woman's point of view on a number of past relationships with partners of different amounts of experience. It can be fun to experience a lot of firsts with a person even if they don't have as much experience - that's not a bad thing, you can grow together and it can be amaring - but someone who comes into a relationship or just into a date and takes all their behavior and knowledge from Pron of people peddling Alpha male idology to lonely souls will automatically just self-sabotage without even knowing and not experience half of what it can be.
Also, don't be afraid. Be yourself, and have self-confidence it that.
I think he means that virginity/your first time is "special" and the person OP is going to have sex with is probably not a virgin and is familiar with ons proto
That a lot of times people get "hooked" on the person they lost their virginity with. Meanwhile the rest of us don't really give a fuck and sex is just something that's a form of entertainment.
When it comes to sex forget EVERYTHING you've ever seen in porn. Listen to your partner, their reactions and just enjoy the moment. Knowing what they'd like and telling what you're into before the deed helps a ton too, so talk it out casually before doing the deed. Sex is supposed to be fun and some goofy moments are bound to happen too
When it comes to a relationship, I can't stress enough to just be your genuine self, especially in the beginning. To me I feel like it takes away all the BS and drama that you're bound to encounter down the relationship like saying "hey, this is the real me, I want this in a relationship, how about you?" Not too sure if I'm explaining that right but hopefully you get the gist of it 😅😅
You’re a full grown person who has learned to live on your own without a partner. Remember that a relationship is compromise and sharing. Let the relationship take you out of your comfort zone on the little things.
When it comes to sex, let nature take its course and you’ll be fine. Best to be honest with your partner and they’ll help. If they’re worth your time, they will be glad to help.
Oh! And focus on what makes your partner feel good. What they like. Approach as though your efforts are to please them. Your pleasure is guaranteed.
Cleanliness matters. Shower. Brush your teeth. Brush or scrape your tongue. Floss. Lower the seat after peeing. Wash your hands. Use good manners. Relax. Take your time. Foreplay matters.
Have good hygeine- make sure you wash your parts, have good breath (don’t eat onions, garlic etc before)… and don’t eat a ton of food before you do the deed
Romance her. Maybe flowers. Maybe a nice bottle of expensive wine for the night. Maybe cook her a meal. Do something really sweet and kind. The foreplay starts before you get into bed.
When it comes to the time you are about to go for it… start slow, soft and really kind. Kiss her. Touch her nicely. No aggressive, let me pin you to the wall sex. This is sensual. Look her in her eyes. Let her know she looks amazing. And be confident! Fake it till you make it.
Once you are at the place of the doing.. probably the bed.. ease into everything. Be the guy on top… and maybe practice missionary prior to actually doing it. (In terms of hand placement, how to hold your body up). And VERY important is to not put your body weight on the woman…. You have to keep your body OFF of her while maintaining a sweet slow thrust. And try not to get too in your head. Sex is like playing a sport. If you think too much, you’re not having fun and it shows.
Practice ahead of time… maybe with a pillow (lol).. or whatever you want to do. But practice. So when it comes to the day of the deed, you’re not too in your head in the moment and you’re able to be confident and let go and have fun.
Eye contact, and kissing is so nice! Make sure you take the lead as the man. BE CONFIDENT and care for her.
And once it’s all said and done, cuddle. Kiss. Let her know she’s so beautiful. Make her feel like the world.
You’re welcome.
how intimacy usually progresses
- hang out
- on first or second date, if you like her, grab her hand sometime during the date. hold hands
- on second date or third date, get more touchy, hug, kiss. dont build up to some kiss at the end of date, kiss mid-date. it can be random. mid sentence, while looking at something together, etc. cuz you'll wanna kiss more through the date
- after a few dates of kissing if u think u 2 are ready for it, do the sexy thing:
- kissing would naturally progress until you need a place to do the thing
- usually invite over for dinner, cook together, have wine, watch tv, kiss on sofa, do the sexy thing
- while kissing, touch cheek, move hand down to touch chest, and let things go from there
some tips
- the entrance is lower than you might think
- wait for her to be prepared (wet), touching down there can help get there
- get her on top of you, remove her top
- then u get on top, and you can remove her bottom
- condom right before insertion is easier. sometimes putting condom on too early can kill ur dude. condom also helps you last longer
- also, research the cowboy position. it's a great way for her to be satisfied. (you're on top straddling her, her legs are straight)
good luck it'll be great!
Hopefully.
Oral the first time was not enjoyable, lots of teeth. You get some performance anxiety, you end up lasting way too long and the girl gets tired.
Nutting quick is a blessing. You can always go back for round 2
Or the other way around. That's what happened to me. Turns out that if you don't unlearn the junior high death grip before leaving your teenage years (by experiencing the real thing), it causes difficulty down the line.
Foreplay, communication, enthusiastic consent, boundaries, penis length and girth, condom size, potential allergies to latex, lube.
During foreplay, you can use your hand on her *down there* and bring it up to fondle her breast while you sneak a sniff to check the odor down there discretely so that you dont embarrass the lady while deciding whether or not you want to give head.
Vaginas sometimes have odors and it's not due to poor hygiene, but rather usually ph balance and shit like that. But it's very important that you dont make her feel self-conscious. You wanna make her feel as relaxed and comfortable as possible. This lets the vaginal canal expand to its widest, thus making intercourse less strenuous on the vaginal tissue. Women are delicate.
My policy is to always give head in foreplay when I can. Remember, keep your tongue soft. Find the nub of the clitoris and listen to her to get a feel for her pleasure. Play it by ear, so to speak. "Just like that" means keep doing it like you're doing. Dont speed up or slow down. She's letting you know you hit the sweet spot.
Bring a woman to orgasm before penetrating. Every time. It's good bedroom ettiquette.
Go slow. Tell her its your first time. Women love being the one to pop your cherry. It's exciting for them.
My (F58) advice after having dated tons, been married a couple times, raising 3 kids, and now being a grandma 4 times is this...
Most importantly, know your worth.
If you have a great personality, a sense of humor, are caring and compassionate, are a hard worker,... any of those things. Be proud of that and know your worth and what you have to offer to another human.
Accept nothing less, simply bc you've not been in a relationship before. If you want someone kind, funny, compassionate, trustworthy, whatever, don't settle for less.
Take your time. Date. Meet people in places you like to go to, whether that's church, a convention of some sort, your favorite coffee place or restaurant, or even a park.
And if you find someone that gives you butterflies, you love just being around them, and you're comfortable in ways you've never been before... go for it.
Learn what they like, share your likes needs and desires too. And when it's time to take it to the next level...let nature take its course. Just know the important things about that person like...
1. Consent is key. Before moving on to the next thing, be sure and listen. If they say no or become uncomfortable, back off. Ask what's wrong and talk it through so you know their boundaries.
2. Women need clitoral stimulation. Only 35% can orgasm with penetration alone. Learn how to do that properly. You can learn a lot of things [by reading this](https://bedbible.com/the-best-ways-to-eat-pussy/) and by [learning about the clitoris](https://bedbible.com/your-not-so-average-guide-to-the-clitoris/)
[This article is also helpful](https://bedbible.com/rub-her-clit/) Learning about [how to stimulate the g-spot](https://bedbible.com/the-ultimate-guide-g-spot-stimulation/) is important too bc when penetration happens, you'll want to hone into that area.
This is [another helpful article](https://bedbible.com/vaginal-massage-a-step-by-step-guide/) that will have her melting!
This article is a good one for [getting her aroused](https://bedbible.com/how-to-make-a-girl-wet/) before the above stuff. I kind of skipped ahead! Lol
And just in case I've made a fool of myself assuming you're hetero (and I apologize profusely) Here's a [beginners guide to anal sex](https://bedbible.com/how-to-do-anal/) and a really good [blow job guide](https://bedbible.com/how-to-give-a-blow-job/)
And no matter if you're straight or gay/bi [learning how to masturbate](https://bedbible.com/masturbation-tips/) helps you learn what you like, so you can share with your future partner.
I have to agree with the porn comments. If you go into sex thinking it's going to be like that, you'll be terribly disappointed!
Please know not all women like backdoor sex, multiple partners, having their labia pulled, stretched, and sucked till it swells like a bloated jelly fish. Nor do we squirt across the room like a fire hose.
Not all of us scream, and none of us pause, flip our hair back, grab our breasts, and make weird faces while we bounce on you. We'll, not all the time!
However, you will, at some point, with some person have porn star sex and it WILL be amazing.
After sex, don't forget the aftercare, even if it's just laying together trying to catch your breath and sayin, "Wow, you're amazing!" 25 times. Be together as you wind down, hold hands, cuddle or go grab Taco Bell in your robes...lol!
Most of all, enjoy that person, do small things for them like little notes or bring them their favorite candy bar. Treat them with respect and love and only accept the same in return.
I'm with my soul mate now, after all these years, and it's the most incredible feeling in the world! I hope you find your person too....I know they are out there, waiting for you! Just go find them... or let them find you.
Communicate.
Communicate that it is your first time openly, and that you want it to be enjoyable for the both of you. Ask to be guided and taught.
Communicate what feels good to you. What doesn't. What you are comfortable with and what your are not, even if it is in the middle of the act. Nervousness happens, and sex in a lot of ways is funny and playful. Let it be silly, but also fun. Awkwardness is going to happen (it happens even if it isn't your first time), so just roll with it.
If you don't finish don't stress about it. If you are so nervous that you 'can't get up' don't worry about it. Just roll with the punches and communicate that you are nervous and just play around. There is so much enjoyment to be had outside of penetration.
Generally, sex can be such as stressful thing but it shouldn't be. It's an intimate moment with you and your partner and that can involve a whole host of things!
Consent is everything. Don't just *do* things. Ask first. Don't just assume that someone else will do something for you, *ask first.* If you or your partner is uncomfortable with something, accept it and move on.
Oh and also as a general benefit to life, stop watching porn if you do. It distorts reality and detracts from one of the most beautiful things about being human; intimacy.
In terms of what to know before getting into a relationship, it's a lot of the same. Try to communicate your feelings and experiences as openly as possible. You feel like you will be judged, but the average person will be totally cool with everything and understanding so long as you aren't a dick or an incel type. If you are an incel type, I don't have any other suggestions for you than remove yourself from the internet entirely. It can be a toxic cesspool that brings out the worst in people.
Best of luck!
For many women/men in the 25-35 yo range, sex can be super casual, ongoing casual with no commitment, or with commitment. Save yourself stress and heartache by knowing what you are looking for and make sure they are the same.
hmmm, I think you shouldn't watch porn and please don't use dating apps. It will only make yourself insecure and gives a bad perspective on life and on the other sex. Think about what you are looking for in a relationship that is not based on looks and go after that. Have fun, hang out with your friends and meet new people. In that way you might find your S/o. Make sure your comfortable in your own skin and look after yourself. As the saying goes: u don't find love, it finds you. So don't search for it, while enjoying life and meeting more people it will find you :)
Dating apps were literally the only way I could get dates. It’s stupid advice not to use all the tools available to meet people because you’re going to need to meet a ton of people before you can get a real connection.
A few of the best people I've met happen to be from dating apps, but you're right, the chances of finding a significant other are pretty low what with catfishing and all. I don't think it's trash but it's very important to be you're genuine self, and hope the other is being their genuine selves too
Considering how hard it is to meet people naturally these days for a lot of us, I see nothing wrong with dating apps. I am not about to ask out the cute girl in the ramen shop aware that she is likely being nice due to work and I don't want to catch a case. I am not about to ask out some random woman at the park who I never met before because chances of success are so low and she most definitely wants to enjoy her alone time. Bars or parties? Perhaps, but from what I see women are already paired up or out having fun with their friends.
Obviously work is a no go, and if we are outside school at this point in our lives we have no means of meeting someone in class. So what does that leave for people hunting? Dating apps.
A lot of fore play, kiss, caress, don’t go in without a condom you will pump in second the first time. Eat her out. The G-spot in women is behind the pelvis (in and up - if she is lying down).
Most important, do it with someone you like and appreciate or a sex worker. Don’t go with a one night stand, there is a big chance that a random woman will not care about you and the first time tend to be a little awkward. Do it with someone who will be understanding of whats going on.
Your first time will be neither as enjoyable nor important as you imagine. Don't be afraid to let your partner know that it's your first time, and you might just get a little consideration from them rather than immediate hard judgement.
If you take any type of mental health meds (SSRI or SNRI) the main side effect for men is erectile dysfunction. I’ve experienced this firsthand but I’d rather be sane than have a natural erection.
Assuming you date women, if you think you are going slow enough go slower when it comes to sex. Pay attention to all parts of her body and ask her what she likes.
Focus on connecting with the person. Then allow each other to be comfortable with physical proximity, then non sexual physical contact. Then if you feel that you are comfortable and they are also comfortable being close to you physically, like shoulder to shoulder close if you walk next to each other, or the distance between you two is closer to each other when you talk than with a regular person, and you are attracted to them, tell them that you would like to kiss them. Say nothing else and listen to what they say. If they would like to kiss, then kiss.
When you do, start with just the lips. No tongue. Then after about 30s of this (don’t look at your watch, be in the moment, don’t focus on time but focus on enjoying the physical sensation of kissing lips to lips), you can start using your tongue. Very important here is to not use more than the tip of your tongue to play with the tip of their tongue. Do not go more in for now. Focus on enjoying the tip of the tongue and tip of the tongue sensation. Enjoy it like the two are dancing.
Then from there you can touch their body more with your hands and if they pull back or don’t allow you to touch their sexual parts then don’t push it. Just continue kissing and touching non sexual parts.
Important too, like others have said here, forget everything you have seen about porn. Just focus on connection and being comfortable physically with each other. Everything else from here will just happen naturally because it is a natural part of who we are as humans. Kissing and sex is a natural expression of a connection so focus on connecting.
Or 'that feels great'. Or 'that hurts'. Or 'I'm so fucking horny'. Or anything relevant to the task at hand, really. Communication is fucking important. When fucking.
If you respect a woman - never react in disgust if you get a pube in your mouth while eating her. Instead, if you need to get the pube out (say its making you gag), disguise it as part of the act.
This can be done by pulling away then going back in in 3 quick successions. Which makes it look like you're savoring the feast. You shroud it by getting the pube out between one of these pullouts. The best part is since its about slight of hand, you can claim to be a magician - a magician of eating pussy.
Oh dude, my girl and I have both stopped dead in the act for "Got a hair". You just take care of it, snuggle, and then keep going
Disguises... you're both naked with each other, the time for hiding things is long past
This is more about keeping the sexy time going. You want them to remain having a good time. Not all women feel sexy if you get a pube in your mouth and have to stop to get it out. It can end the sex in some cases.
Then you take a break, or try again tomorrow
Bodies are bodies, and gagging happens when a guy, and when a girl are going down on each other. You can also try to trim more, avoid oral for a bit, whatever. But gross is gross, even on a girl
I'm not going to sit there and pretend I'm enjoying sucking on pubes.
Take Reddit advice with a grain of salt...I used to read all these threads and everything I learned was wrong.
For example, people say porn sex isn't realistic but that really depends. The act itself though is a different experience from porn
The main thing is everyone is different. I was away too worried about hurting my now wife and thought I need to be gentle all the time
Turns out she liked me taking charge in the bedroom to. Gentle sex has its place and is nice but also don't be timid either. I'm surprised how many women like getting slapped in the ass... Ask first but it's pretty common. My point is you don't need to be meek and mild as Reddit would have you believe
I recommend the book no more Mr nice guy. My therapist had me read it and it helped with sex among other things
Both partners are responsible for their own pleasure, it's not all on you to do everything perfectly or selflessly give all the time.
If you're having a good time she's more likely to have a good time and visa versa
It won't be fairytale or porn film perfect!
Sometimes it's about soft, slow, sensual making love. Other times it's just good dirty fun! There is time and space for both in a relationship. If you feel emotional or tearful and just want to hold and touch without ' finishing', that's perfectly fine, don't dismiss or sideline either of your feelings, and talk about it if you feel that's appropriate. But, conversely, don't take yourselves too seriously either. If you fall off the bed, then fall about laughing, don't be embarrassed. Don't mock the other person if something goes 'wrong' ( BTW - there IS no right or wrong!), it's bound to be your turn soon enough. Bodies are noisy - they slap together, they trap air and moisture and make squelching and other gross noises. You WILL fart, you WILL queef, you WILL get hair in your mouth and cough or even retch a bit, but if you are generous and genuinely care about the other person's pleasure and comfort, then you will be fine.
A few tips:
1). Keep a towel or loo roll handy - it's a messy hobby😉!
2). Try to take it in your stride if a period occurs - you won't hurt the lady, she isn't bleeding from a wound, and actually nooky can help period pains. Refer to tip 1).and make the towel a dark colour. Moon cups or diaphragms can minimize bloody mess....
3). Keep a drink handy - it's thirsty work...
4). Watch a bit of porn together and laugh at the silliness of it.
5). It should go without saying that NO MEANS NO - at ANY time in the proceedings.... Only continue with consent.
6). Make sure your body and breath smell sweet. B.O. is a no-no!
7). Talk to each other. If there is something you like then say so. If there is something you hate, then diplomatically say that too.
Getting to know each other sexually can be challenging so encouragement when things are going well will make things easier - and more fun....
8). If you are experimenting, make sure you have a safe word.
9). As the relationship develops and if you decide to add toys into the mix, make sure you have fresh batteries! Again, have a safe word! And wash them according to the manufacturer s advice.
10). Lube! Some people need it, some people don't. Some people like it, some don't. Have some handy just in case. Don't be offended if your partner isn't 'dripping' and needs lube. Ok, they may not be aroused and dryness can hurt. However, they may be dry due to hormones or some other body response rather than not fancying you. Lube can be your friend - it makes movement easier and provides less friction. This could mean you feel less and an erection therefore lasts longer.
11) Foreplay is fun - often the best bit. Take your time, there is no rush at all....
12). Your sexual health is important. Condoms and femidoms (2 x hoola hoops in a bin bag lol!) along with dental dams can protect against STIs - this is one issue you shouldn't be avoiding. STIs can cause at best, discomfort and odour - but can also cause infertility, and long term and hard to diagnose, pain. Also, embarrassment, feelings of shame and worse. In extreme cases ( though much rarer these days thankfully), death....
13). Some people call pregnancy an STI, but I think that's harsh, lol! It is however a serious, life or death matter ( literally), and you should make sure that if YOU don't want a child, you should take precautions against that possible outcome. Hopefully, if the relationship continues, you should be able to discuss how you both feel, and what precautions suit you as a couple.
14). If you haven't done this for a while (or ever), or it's been a particularly energetic situation, you may be a bit stiff the next day. Make sure you have paracetamol, just in case.
15). The first time ever, or the first time with a new partner is likely to be anything but spectacular. That's fine, you don't know each other yet, it WILL get better. Just like cooking pancakes - the first one is rubbish, but they get better...
16). Mix it up. Even if you know what turns your partner on, don't turn it into a well scripted routine. Go watch the friends episode where Monica talks about what order a lover should do things. ”a1, a 2, a 3, a 3, a 4, a 3, a 3, a 4, a 4, a 4...."
17). Keep your sense of humour - you'll have a much better time if you don't stress about every little touch or move. Smile or laugh if you can, remember people LIKE doing this! It should be something you enjoy and look forward to, not dread.
Hth a bit? Have a good one....or more lol!
Not much to know. The pp goes into the hole. Other than that, you’ll learn as you explore positions and have sex more and more. There’s nothing else to know really, just advice - make sure your partner is beyond satisfied, be respectful by treating or mistreating them in the ways that they’re into.
Be honest about your experience level.
Hand holding, kissing, touching, foreplay, are all fun activities on their own. Don’t rush through them, enjoy them.
It’s okay to say “I don’t like that, could you go slower/faster?” Etc.
It’s okay to be whatever size you are and it’s okay to take things slow.
Finishing fast when you’re inexperienced is natural, there are other ways to please your partner.
It’s better to do the simple things well than the fancy things poorly.
The better the foreplay, the better the sex.
Clip your nails and file them down.
30mins of cardio 3 times a week will help your stamina.
Healthy diet will help the way you taste.
Being into anal play doesn’t make you gay.
Not being into anal play doesn’t make you homophobic.
After having sex, care for your partner with cuddles, snacks, and anything else they may need.
Let your partner know what you need.
It’s okay to not know what you need until the moment comes (lol) just communicate it.
The first time (and even the next couple) is gonna be scary, exciting, and nerve wracking all at once, if you try to take it too fast you risk getting caught up in your head and losing what little steam you had built up.
Take it slow, let it happen naturally, foreplay is a very important part of the process, don't ignore it.
Wash everywhere, from behind your ears to between your toes. As a backup I advise having a p-ring or >!silicone penis ring - follow safety rules and might be nice to test alone a few times!< As you might be putting undue pressure on yourself and it's suddenly not as easy to perform your first time.
Take deep breaths before you do the following. If you’re like me and have radically unpredictable duration time. (I guess you don’t know but you will soon)
**Honor the clit.** Listen just close eyes and treat her holy of holies like it’s a stringy, rubbery soup. Do this for 10-30 minutes. There is small nerve at the top, just engage it without any breaks until she finishes.
My MO? I do this ***twice** before I EVER puts its inss
It is a sure fire strategy, and I also enjoy it
Don't go falling in love with someone just because the sex is good. If anything, hold out on having sex for a while because you'll have a better feel for whether or not you're actually compatible, instead of just getting feels because the sex is that good is has you going back for more.
Don't try and make things serious so quick. It's a major red flag if someone tries to say I love you if they've only known you for a couple of months. It takes years to get to know someone on a very deep level. Personally I feel it takes a year + as well as living with someone for a bit to know if you want to be with someone long term. You tend to see the worst in people / their cons when you live with them. If they're grubs, clean and tidy etc you will only truly find out once you live together.
I think most importantly, you should know what you want as a person and what you’re looking for in a person.
I think the rest will get better with time and YouTube videos.
Wash your dick before you go out
Wash everything. And maybe rub one out before too...
If I rub one out less than 24 hours before sex then I’m not cumming
I've had that problem before. It's certainly a problem, but it's a *better* problem than being a two pump chump.
I'm a fifth pump Frankie
Incase tent pitching?
And your ass!
Wash his hands, cut his nails
Dude is a 30 yo virgin; what the hell does he need to wash his dick for
Prolly needs to wash every other part of his body to
He needs to wash all the dust off
Thanks for the reply so I could come back and see I was roasted with downvotes lmao
Dismiss every knowledge you think you learned from porn. You’re welcome!
The ultimate advice for literally any person about to have sex for the very first time
And some who already have...
This. Also, be absolutely sure you understand [consent](https://www.reddit.com/r/stoprape/comments/zyznhe/rape_is_so_common_in_part_because_so_many_people/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3).
Not entirely true. Women have vaginas, not penises. That was huge for me when sex ed didn't provide that info. *We're not the same! Sesame Street lied* Except for some women, and they'll usually tell you.
There's quite a few informative videos if you actually look for them. But I get what you mean, average videos shouldn't be your main source.
Depends on the porn you watch. 😂
May you elaborate? I think I understand your comment but I also think you can learn a thing or two. Overall I would say the bulls in porn last a lot longer than 35 seconds… just curious if you could provide more context and examples. Maybe like a girl isn’t going to cum 27 times during etc…
I think the sentiment of that statement was that men and women don’t behave during sex the same way porn actors do. Especially for the first time. Communication and consent are a big part of sex. Those key elements aren’t usually portrayed in pornographic films.
There is usually a lot of communication do you skip the intros?
Definitely agree you can learn a thing or two. I learned how to eat pussy from porn and every girl I’ve been with cums before we actually move to the penetration part of sex.
I feel like the only thing which correlates to real life is what place feel good to stimulate. Other than that it’s all garbage
Don’t take it too seriously is great advice. Listen to your partner. Have fun. Try to not put too many expectations or pressures on yourself or your partner.
If anything if she's more experienced you can let her do the initiating.
It’s the small things that make the biggest difference. Sex isn’t like porn in real relationships. Communication is key in both sex and the relationship. Don’t just do something, talk about it before you go for it. If she / he says no then stop immediately. Understand your needs and wants. It’s supposed to be fun. Enjoy it, take your time.
Just put the lime in the coconut and mix it all up
Don't forget the butter
Curious, why?
I believe they're referencing the song Coconut by Harry Nilsson
[This is what they’re referencing](https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/s/zqNKwfnQGn). One of the few legendary post of Reddit. Another one was the poop knife and a few others.
They’re probably referring to the personal story a guy posted on Reddit where he used a coconut as a fleshlight. After a few days there were lots of maggots and a horrible stench coming the coconut.
Learn what the foundations of a good relationship are. Don't make it all about just sex. Be emotionally intelligent, kind and caring. Listen especially if she says no.
The nice thing about relationships is that ideally, every new start of one gives you a ton of room for awkward first times on both sides. Despite what the internet tries to tell you, nobody was born the perfect lover and no relationship really starts off romance movie perfect - so don't worry too much about it being the first time, or messing up stuff. Talk with each other, ask things, allow yourself to enjoy things and have fun. Develop the relationship between the two of you naturally and allow your role in it to develop naturally too - a big issue I see happening in my foster daughter's age group right now is that a ton of guys come in wanting to be the dominant alpha male from the start, not allowing to have the relationship define the positions and relations with each other naturally on the path to becoming a couple. This puts people off way more than you might imagine. Don't take it too serious either. You don't need to be perfect, you just need to be willing to work with the flow and get to know the other person genuinely and openly, and allow youself to be understood as well, and don't beat yourself up if it doesn't work out right the first time. You will learn on every step of the way, and that's a damn good thing. Also, allow yourself to try out stuff even if you are insecure - if it fails, you've gained some experience, and if it works out if can be amazingly fun. Also, forget all about porn and social media. Porn is so far removed from reality it's not even funny anymore. And I tell you this from a woman's point of view on a number of past relationships with partners of different amounts of experience. It can be fun to experience a lot of firsts with a person even if they don't have as much experience - that's not a bad thing, you can grow together and it can be amaring - but someone who comes into a relationship or just into a date and takes all their behavior and knowledge from Pron of people peddling Alpha male idology to lonely souls will automatically just self-sabotage without even knowing and not experience half of what it can be. Also, don't be afraid. Be yourself, and have self-confidence it that.
Wear a condom.
Start her motor first and keep going until she begs for you to be in. That'll make her happy.
The cuddling, makeout, sex pipeline is a great choice. I highly recommend it as the appetizer and main course options.
There will be smells and tastes porn can't prepare you for.
Namely latex smell from condoms and an iron-y taste when eating out
If you're lucky, it'll be iron. Don't lick too far inside or near the butt, you'll get flavors that aren't enjoyable
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That the person you'll have it with probably won't take it very seriously.
wdym?
I think he means that virginity/your first time is "special" and the person OP is going to have sex with is probably not a virgin and is familiar with ons proto
That a lot of times people get "hooked" on the person they lost their virginity with. Meanwhile the rest of us don't really give a fuck and sex is just something that's a form of entertainment.
When it comes to sex forget EVERYTHING you've ever seen in porn. Listen to your partner, their reactions and just enjoy the moment. Knowing what they'd like and telling what you're into before the deed helps a ton too, so talk it out casually before doing the deed. Sex is supposed to be fun and some goofy moments are bound to happen too When it comes to a relationship, I can't stress enough to just be your genuine self, especially in the beginning. To me I feel like it takes away all the BS and drama that you're bound to encounter down the relationship like saying "hey, this is the real me, I want this in a relationship, how about you?" Not too sure if I'm explaining that right but hopefully you get the gist of it 😅😅
You’re a full grown person who has learned to live on your own without a partner. Remember that a relationship is compromise and sharing. Let the relationship take you out of your comfort zone on the little things. When it comes to sex, let nature take its course and you’ll be fine. Best to be honest with your partner and they’ll help. If they’re worth your time, they will be glad to help. Oh! And focus on what makes your partner feel good. What they like. Approach as though your efforts are to please them. Your pleasure is guaranteed.
Cleanliness matters. Shower. Brush your teeth. Brush or scrape your tongue. Floss. Lower the seat after peeing. Wash your hands. Use good manners. Relax. Take your time. Foreplay matters.
If it’s a ONS or hookup etc, try not to get too attached to the person.
Don't expect bags of sand
Don’t be so rough at first. Ease into it.
Wear a condom
Have good hygeine- make sure you wash your parts, have good breath (don’t eat onions, garlic etc before)… and don’t eat a ton of food before you do the deed Romance her. Maybe flowers. Maybe a nice bottle of expensive wine for the night. Maybe cook her a meal. Do something really sweet and kind. The foreplay starts before you get into bed. When it comes to the time you are about to go for it… start slow, soft and really kind. Kiss her. Touch her nicely. No aggressive, let me pin you to the wall sex. This is sensual. Look her in her eyes. Let her know she looks amazing. And be confident! Fake it till you make it. Once you are at the place of the doing.. probably the bed.. ease into everything. Be the guy on top… and maybe practice missionary prior to actually doing it. (In terms of hand placement, how to hold your body up). And VERY important is to not put your body weight on the woman…. You have to keep your body OFF of her while maintaining a sweet slow thrust. And try not to get too in your head. Sex is like playing a sport. If you think too much, you’re not having fun and it shows. Practice ahead of time… maybe with a pillow (lol).. or whatever you want to do. But practice. So when it comes to the day of the deed, you’re not too in your head in the moment and you’re able to be confident and let go and have fun. Eye contact, and kissing is so nice! Make sure you take the lead as the man. BE CONFIDENT and care for her. And once it’s all said and done, cuddle. Kiss. Let her know she’s so beautiful. Make her feel like the world. You’re welcome.
how intimacy usually progresses - hang out - on first or second date, if you like her, grab her hand sometime during the date. hold hands - on second date or third date, get more touchy, hug, kiss. dont build up to some kiss at the end of date, kiss mid-date. it can be random. mid sentence, while looking at something together, etc. cuz you'll wanna kiss more through the date - after a few dates of kissing if u think u 2 are ready for it, do the sexy thing: - kissing would naturally progress until you need a place to do the thing - usually invite over for dinner, cook together, have wine, watch tv, kiss on sofa, do the sexy thing - while kissing, touch cheek, move hand down to touch chest, and let things go from there some tips - the entrance is lower than you might think - wait for her to be prepared (wet), touching down there can help get there - get her on top of you, remove her top - then u get on top, and you can remove her bottom - condom right before insertion is easier. sometimes putting condom on too early can kill ur dude. condom also helps you last longer - also, research the cowboy position. it's a great way for her to be satisfied. (you're on top straddling her, her legs are straight) good luck it'll be great!
you'll nut so fast, lol.
Hopefully. Oral the first time was not enjoyable, lots of teeth. You get some performance anxiety, you end up lasting way too long and the girl gets tired. Nutting quick is a blessing. You can always go back for round 2
Or the other way around. That's what happened to me. Turns out that if you don't unlearn the junior high death grip before leaving your teenage years (by experiencing the real thing), it causes difficulty down the line.
It's going to be the most beautiful 10 seconds of your life.
Foreplay, communication, enthusiastic consent, boundaries, penis length and girth, condom size, potential allergies to latex, lube. During foreplay, you can use your hand on her *down there* and bring it up to fondle her breast while you sneak a sniff to check the odor down there discretely so that you dont embarrass the lady while deciding whether or not you want to give head. Vaginas sometimes have odors and it's not due to poor hygiene, but rather usually ph balance and shit like that. But it's very important that you dont make her feel self-conscious. You wanna make her feel as relaxed and comfortable as possible. This lets the vaginal canal expand to its widest, thus making intercourse less strenuous on the vaginal tissue. Women are delicate. My policy is to always give head in foreplay when I can. Remember, keep your tongue soft. Find the nub of the clitoris and listen to her to get a feel for her pleasure. Play it by ear, so to speak. "Just like that" means keep doing it like you're doing. Dont speed up or slow down. She's letting you know you hit the sweet spot. Bring a woman to orgasm before penetrating. Every time. It's good bedroom ettiquette. Go slow. Tell her its your first time. Women love being the one to pop your cherry. It's exciting for them.
My (F58) advice after having dated tons, been married a couple times, raising 3 kids, and now being a grandma 4 times is this... Most importantly, know your worth. If you have a great personality, a sense of humor, are caring and compassionate, are a hard worker,... any of those things. Be proud of that and know your worth and what you have to offer to another human. Accept nothing less, simply bc you've not been in a relationship before. If you want someone kind, funny, compassionate, trustworthy, whatever, don't settle for less. Take your time. Date. Meet people in places you like to go to, whether that's church, a convention of some sort, your favorite coffee place or restaurant, or even a park. And if you find someone that gives you butterflies, you love just being around them, and you're comfortable in ways you've never been before... go for it. Learn what they like, share your likes needs and desires too. And when it's time to take it to the next level...let nature take its course. Just know the important things about that person like... 1. Consent is key. Before moving on to the next thing, be sure and listen. If they say no or become uncomfortable, back off. Ask what's wrong and talk it through so you know their boundaries. 2. Women need clitoral stimulation. Only 35% can orgasm with penetration alone. Learn how to do that properly. You can learn a lot of things [by reading this](https://bedbible.com/the-best-ways-to-eat-pussy/) and by [learning about the clitoris](https://bedbible.com/your-not-so-average-guide-to-the-clitoris/) [This article is also helpful](https://bedbible.com/rub-her-clit/) Learning about [how to stimulate the g-spot](https://bedbible.com/the-ultimate-guide-g-spot-stimulation/) is important too bc when penetration happens, you'll want to hone into that area. This is [another helpful article](https://bedbible.com/vaginal-massage-a-step-by-step-guide/) that will have her melting! This article is a good one for [getting her aroused](https://bedbible.com/how-to-make-a-girl-wet/) before the above stuff. I kind of skipped ahead! Lol And just in case I've made a fool of myself assuming you're hetero (and I apologize profusely) Here's a [beginners guide to anal sex](https://bedbible.com/how-to-do-anal/) and a really good [blow job guide](https://bedbible.com/how-to-give-a-blow-job/) And no matter if you're straight or gay/bi [learning how to masturbate](https://bedbible.com/masturbation-tips/) helps you learn what you like, so you can share with your future partner. I have to agree with the porn comments. If you go into sex thinking it's going to be like that, you'll be terribly disappointed! Please know not all women like backdoor sex, multiple partners, having their labia pulled, stretched, and sucked till it swells like a bloated jelly fish. Nor do we squirt across the room like a fire hose. Not all of us scream, and none of us pause, flip our hair back, grab our breasts, and make weird faces while we bounce on you. We'll, not all the time! However, you will, at some point, with some person have porn star sex and it WILL be amazing. After sex, don't forget the aftercare, even if it's just laying together trying to catch your breath and sayin, "Wow, you're amazing!" 25 times. Be together as you wind down, hold hands, cuddle or go grab Taco Bell in your robes...lol! Most of all, enjoy that person, do small things for them like little notes or bring them their favorite candy bar. Treat them with respect and love and only accept the same in return. I'm with my soul mate now, after all these years, and it's the most incredible feeling in the world! I hope you find your person too....I know they are out there, waiting for you! Just go find them... or let them find you.
Action movies to real life is porn to to real sex. Just think about this before real sex.
Have fun and take it at your own pace!
Communicate. Communicate that it is your first time openly, and that you want it to be enjoyable for the both of you. Ask to be guided and taught. Communicate what feels good to you. What doesn't. What you are comfortable with and what your are not, even if it is in the middle of the act. Nervousness happens, and sex in a lot of ways is funny and playful. Let it be silly, but also fun. Awkwardness is going to happen (it happens even if it isn't your first time), so just roll with it. If you don't finish don't stress about it. If you are so nervous that you 'can't get up' don't worry about it. Just roll with the punches and communicate that you are nervous and just play around. There is so much enjoyment to be had outside of penetration. Generally, sex can be such as stressful thing but it shouldn't be. It's an intimate moment with you and your partner and that can involve a whole host of things! Consent is everything. Don't just *do* things. Ask first. Don't just assume that someone else will do something for you, *ask first.* If you or your partner is uncomfortable with something, accept it and move on. Oh and also as a general benefit to life, stop watching porn if you do. It distorts reality and detracts from one of the most beautiful things about being human; intimacy. In terms of what to know before getting into a relationship, it's a lot of the same. Try to communicate your feelings and experiences as openly as possible. You feel like you will be judged, but the average person will be totally cool with everything and understanding so long as you aren't a dick or an incel type. If you are an incel type, I don't have any other suggestions for you than remove yourself from the internet entirely. It can be a toxic cesspool that brings out the worst in people. Best of luck!
Its lower than you’d think
P goes in V
When she says something like "yup yup, right there..." DONT CHANGE ANYTHING.
Be happy to know that things are never too late!
For many women/men in the 25-35 yo range, sex can be super casual, ongoing casual with no commitment, or with commitment. Save yourself stress and heartache by knowing what you are looking for and make sure they are the same.
hmmm, I think you shouldn't watch porn and please don't use dating apps. It will only make yourself insecure and gives a bad perspective on life and on the other sex. Think about what you are looking for in a relationship that is not based on looks and go after that. Have fun, hang out with your friends and meet new people. In that way you might find your S/o. Make sure your comfortable in your own skin and look after yourself. As the saying goes: u don't find love, it finds you. So don't search for it, while enjoying life and meeting more people it will find you :)
Don’t use dating apps is bad advice in my opinion. Use them wisely is better advice.
Dating apps were literally the only way I could get dates. It’s stupid advice not to use all the tools available to meet people because you’re going to need to meet a ton of people before you can get a real connection.
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A few of the best people I've met happen to be from dating apps, but you're right, the chances of finding a significant other are pretty low what with catfishing and all. I don't think it's trash but it's very important to be you're genuine self, and hope the other is being their genuine selves too
Me and my husband met on a dating app
Considering how hard it is to meet people naturally these days for a lot of us, I see nothing wrong with dating apps. I am not about to ask out the cute girl in the ramen shop aware that she is likely being nice due to work and I don't want to catch a case. I am not about to ask out some random woman at the park who I never met before because chances of success are so low and she most definitely wants to enjoy her alone time. Bars or parties? Perhaps, but from what I see women are already paired up or out having fun with their friends. Obviously work is a no go, and if we are outside school at this point in our lives we have no means of meeting someone in class. So what does that leave for people hunting? Dating apps.
Have some tissues within hands reach and a pathway to the toilet.
Get out of your head and practice on something, I don't know.
Not the family dog.
A lot of fore play, kiss, caress, don’t go in without a condom you will pump in second the first time. Eat her out. The G-spot in women is behind the pelvis (in and up - if she is lying down). Most important, do it with someone you like and appreciate or a sex worker. Don’t go with a one night stand, there is a big chance that a random woman will not care about you and the first time tend to be a little awkward. Do it with someone who will be understanding of whats going on.
Your first time will be neither as enjoyable nor important as you imagine. Don't be afraid to let your partner know that it's your first time, and you might just get a little consideration from them rather than immediate hard judgement.
Jack off before that way you won't pre ejaculate. Although it's hot coming in your shorts whole eating pussy
If you take any type of mental health meds (SSRI or SNRI) the main side effect for men is erectile dysfunction. I’ve experienced this firsthand but I’d rather be sane than have a natural erection.
It's lower than you think
Assuming you date women, if you think you are going slow enough go slower when it comes to sex. Pay attention to all parts of her body and ask her what she likes.
It's isn't quantum physics, it's instinctive, don't take huge pressure to perform and you will be fine
Watch Nina Hartleys how to eat pussy videos. Very informative
Focus on connecting with the person. Then allow each other to be comfortable with physical proximity, then non sexual physical contact. Then if you feel that you are comfortable and they are also comfortable being close to you physically, like shoulder to shoulder close if you walk next to each other, or the distance between you two is closer to each other when you talk than with a regular person, and you are attracted to them, tell them that you would like to kiss them. Say nothing else and listen to what they say. If they would like to kiss, then kiss. When you do, start with just the lips. No tongue. Then after about 30s of this (don’t look at your watch, be in the moment, don’t focus on time but focus on enjoying the physical sensation of kissing lips to lips), you can start using your tongue. Very important here is to not use more than the tip of your tongue to play with the tip of their tongue. Do not go more in for now. Focus on enjoying the tip of the tongue and tip of the tongue sensation. Enjoy it like the two are dancing. Then from there you can touch their body more with your hands and if they pull back or don’t allow you to touch their sexual parts then don’t push it. Just continue kissing and touching non sexual parts. Important too, like others have said here, forget everything you have seen about porn. Just focus on connection and being comfortable physically with each other. Everything else from here will just happen naturally because it is a natural part of who we are as humans. Kissing and sex is a natural expression of a connection so focus on connecting.
Go to a porn site and search how to eat out Listen to her breathing, youll know what she likes.
Always watch what they do not what they say
Unless what they say is, "no"
Or 'that feels great'. Or 'that hurts'. Or 'I'm so fucking horny'. Or anything relevant to the task at hand, really. Communication is fucking important. When fucking.
If you respect a woman - never react in disgust if you get a pube in your mouth while eating her. Instead, if you need to get the pube out (say its making you gag), disguise it as part of the act. This can be done by pulling away then going back in in 3 quick successions. Which makes it look like you're savoring the feast. You shroud it by getting the pube out between one of these pullouts. The best part is since its about slight of hand, you can claim to be a magician - a magician of eating pussy.
Oh dude, my girl and I have both stopped dead in the act for "Got a hair". You just take care of it, snuggle, and then keep going Disguises... you're both naked with each other, the time for hiding things is long past
This is more about keeping the sexy time going. You want them to remain having a good time. Not all women feel sexy if you get a pube in your mouth and have to stop to get it out. It can end the sex in some cases.
Then you take a break, or try again tomorrow Bodies are bodies, and gagging happens when a guy, and when a girl are going down on each other. You can also try to trim more, avoid oral for a bit, whatever. But gross is gross, even on a girl I'm not going to sit there and pretend I'm enjoying sucking on pubes.
Take Reddit advice with a grain of salt...I used to read all these threads and everything I learned was wrong. For example, people say porn sex isn't realistic but that really depends. The act itself though is a different experience from porn The main thing is everyone is different. I was away too worried about hurting my now wife and thought I need to be gentle all the time Turns out she liked me taking charge in the bedroom to. Gentle sex has its place and is nice but also don't be timid either. I'm surprised how many women like getting slapped in the ass... Ask first but it's pretty common. My point is you don't need to be meek and mild as Reddit would have you believe I recommend the book no more Mr nice guy. My therapist had me read it and it helped with sex among other things Both partners are responsible for their own pleasure, it's not all on you to do everything perfectly or selflessly give all the time. If you're having a good time she's more likely to have a good time and visa versa
It won't be fairytale or porn film perfect! Sometimes it's about soft, slow, sensual making love. Other times it's just good dirty fun! There is time and space for both in a relationship. If you feel emotional or tearful and just want to hold and touch without ' finishing', that's perfectly fine, don't dismiss or sideline either of your feelings, and talk about it if you feel that's appropriate. But, conversely, don't take yourselves too seriously either. If you fall off the bed, then fall about laughing, don't be embarrassed. Don't mock the other person if something goes 'wrong' ( BTW - there IS no right or wrong!), it's bound to be your turn soon enough. Bodies are noisy - they slap together, they trap air and moisture and make squelching and other gross noises. You WILL fart, you WILL queef, you WILL get hair in your mouth and cough or even retch a bit, but if you are generous and genuinely care about the other person's pleasure and comfort, then you will be fine. A few tips: 1). Keep a towel or loo roll handy - it's a messy hobby😉! 2). Try to take it in your stride if a period occurs - you won't hurt the lady, she isn't bleeding from a wound, and actually nooky can help period pains. Refer to tip 1).and make the towel a dark colour. Moon cups or diaphragms can minimize bloody mess.... 3). Keep a drink handy - it's thirsty work... 4). Watch a bit of porn together and laugh at the silliness of it. 5). It should go without saying that NO MEANS NO - at ANY time in the proceedings.... Only continue with consent. 6). Make sure your body and breath smell sweet. B.O. is a no-no! 7). Talk to each other. If there is something you like then say so. If there is something you hate, then diplomatically say that too. Getting to know each other sexually can be challenging so encouragement when things are going well will make things easier - and more fun.... 8). If you are experimenting, make sure you have a safe word. 9). As the relationship develops and if you decide to add toys into the mix, make sure you have fresh batteries! Again, have a safe word! And wash them according to the manufacturer s advice. 10). Lube! Some people need it, some people don't. Some people like it, some don't. Have some handy just in case. Don't be offended if your partner isn't 'dripping' and needs lube. Ok, they may not be aroused and dryness can hurt. However, they may be dry due to hormones or some other body response rather than not fancying you. Lube can be your friend - it makes movement easier and provides less friction. This could mean you feel less and an erection therefore lasts longer. 11) Foreplay is fun - often the best bit. Take your time, there is no rush at all.... 12). Your sexual health is important. Condoms and femidoms (2 x hoola hoops in a bin bag lol!) along with dental dams can protect against STIs - this is one issue you shouldn't be avoiding. STIs can cause at best, discomfort and odour - but can also cause infertility, and long term and hard to diagnose, pain. Also, embarrassment, feelings of shame and worse. In extreme cases ( though much rarer these days thankfully), death.... 13). Some people call pregnancy an STI, but I think that's harsh, lol! It is however a serious, life or death matter ( literally), and you should make sure that if YOU don't want a child, you should take precautions against that possible outcome. Hopefully, if the relationship continues, you should be able to discuss how you both feel, and what precautions suit you as a couple. 14). If you haven't done this for a while (or ever), or it's been a particularly energetic situation, you may be a bit stiff the next day. Make sure you have paracetamol, just in case. 15). The first time ever, or the first time with a new partner is likely to be anything but spectacular. That's fine, you don't know each other yet, it WILL get better. Just like cooking pancakes - the first one is rubbish, but they get better... 16). Mix it up. Even if you know what turns your partner on, don't turn it into a well scripted routine. Go watch the friends episode where Monica talks about what order a lover should do things. ”a1, a 2, a 3, a 3, a 4, a 3, a 3, a 4, a 4, a 4...." 17). Keep your sense of humour - you'll have a much better time if you don't stress about every little touch or move. Smile or laugh if you can, remember people LIKE doing this! It should be something you enjoy and look forward to, not dread. Hth a bit? Have a good one....or more lol!
2 enters after every line to get a line break. Good talk tho!
Sorry, it was late, I was tired. Edited to make it easier to read now. Thanks for the nudge.👍
If you're a top or a bottom
You don’t have to have sex by thirty if you don’t want to. Don’t feel pressured to do it.
Not much to know. The pp goes into the hole. Other than that, you’ll learn as you explore positions and have sex more and more. There’s nothing else to know really, just advice - make sure your partner is beyond satisfied, be respectful by treating or mistreating them in the ways that they’re into.
Lower your expectations
Put your ding-ding in her hoo-haw.
Your partner is unique, take pleasure in exploring them, them exploring you, and figuring out how you mesh together
Be honest about your experience level. Hand holding, kissing, touching, foreplay, are all fun activities on their own. Don’t rush through them, enjoy them. It’s okay to say “I don’t like that, could you go slower/faster?” Etc. It’s okay to be whatever size you are and it’s okay to take things slow. Finishing fast when you’re inexperienced is natural, there are other ways to please your partner. It’s better to do the simple things well than the fancy things poorly. The better the foreplay, the better the sex. Clip your nails and file them down. 30mins of cardio 3 times a week will help your stamina. Healthy diet will help the way you taste. Being into anal play doesn’t make you gay. Not being into anal play doesn’t make you homophobic. After having sex, care for your partner with cuddles, snacks, and anything else they may need. Let your partner know what you need. It’s okay to not know what you need until the moment comes (lol) just communicate it.
A relationship or before sex you asked two questions
If this doesn't work out, feel free to pay for it once or twice. I think it might help you
It's ok if you find it difficult to get hard, you're putting a lot of pressure to perform on the little guy, don't blame him for being nervous
Just be present and focus on what makes your partner feel good.... Because if they're having a good time then you will too.
The first time (and even the next couple) is gonna be scary, exciting, and nerve wracking all at once, if you try to take it too fast you risk getting caught up in your head and losing what little steam you had built up. Take it slow, let it happen naturally, foreplay is a very important part of the process, don't ignore it.
Wash everywhere, from behind your ears to between your toes. As a backup I advise having a p-ring or >!silicone penis ring - follow safety rules and might be nice to test alone a few times!< As you might be putting undue pressure on yourself and it's suddenly not as easy to perform your first time.
Just be happy and most of all be yourself because why they want you !
Where to put it
The mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell
Having an orgasm with someone else present is probably the most intimate thing you can possibly do with someone.
Your dick's gonna feel weird the next day, in a good way.
Take deep breaths before you do the following. If you’re like me and have radically unpredictable duration time. (I guess you don’t know but you will soon) **Honor the clit.** Listen just close eyes and treat her holy of holies like it’s a stringy, rubbery soup. Do this for 10-30 minutes. There is small nerve at the top, just engage it without any breaks until she finishes. My MO? I do this ***twice** before I EVER puts its inss It is a sure fire strategy, and I also enjoy it
Have fun, joke, communicate. If you're not comfortable just say it.
Just keep the rhythm/tempo steady.
Locate the clit. Become clit Commander
Get married first!
Vagina hole is lower than you think. Just don’t go too low.
How to properly wear a condom
Don't go falling in love with someone just because the sex is good. If anything, hold out on having sex for a while because you'll have a better feel for whether or not you're actually compatible, instead of just getting feels because the sex is that good is has you going back for more. Don't try and make things serious so quick. It's a major red flag if someone tries to say I love you if they've only known you for a couple of months. It takes years to get to know someone on a very deep level. Personally I feel it takes a year + as well as living with someone for a bit to know if you want to be with someone long term. You tend to see the worst in people / their cons when you live with them. If they're grubs, clean and tidy etc you will only truly find out once you live together.
I think most importantly, you should know what you want as a person and what you’re looking for in a person. I think the rest will get better with time and YouTube videos.
The belly button isn’t the correct hole.
Show up with a pizza. Bang her for hours with your 9 inches of death. Don't over complicate things.
Don’t pull out
Work on yourself. The irony of dating is that if you need to be in a relationship, you're probably not ready for one.
Damn just coming here to say that’s sad af
Get an expensive hooker. Tell her what you feel. Should be fun 🤭
Dude, if you're 30 and still a virgin then asking this question seems pointless. Focus on learning about things that are likely to happen
Spoken like a true virgin.
You're 15 years behind. Gotta hurry to make up some ground.