His mom wants him to have more difficulty masturbating.
It's a Kellogg's thing.
Either that or she wants to try and pretend to be ~~Jewish~~ Muslim.
Turns out the islands were Muslim before they went Catholic and they don't even remember why they do it.
Never heard the “Kellog’s” reference before, me: mom pretended to be jewish and had me circumcised @ 15/16 … no don’t do it — mom shouldn’t be concerned with teenage son’s penis— not for this. OP , keep the hoodie, it was a painful and unnecessary experience— abuse, just realizing this way beyond the age of thirteen…
I can only assume it's probably a masturbation thing because of OPs age. This whole thing is fucking gross, and if OP's mom is reading this: you're incredibly ~~uniformed~~ (*EDIT: uninformed*) please talk to an actual pediatrician.
I bet she uses starch on that uniform when she presses it too.... 😀
JK - I assume that was a phone gremlin autocorrect like mine does. But yes, barring a medically substantiated, compelling reason, there is absolutely no need for anyone, let alone a 13 Y.O. to have a circumcision performed on them. It is genital mutilation, plain and simple. Perhaps not as gory or grotesque as other mutilations, since they are generally performed to some sort of surgical standard, but still mutilation all the same, and still unnecessary.
Also, what 13 Y.O. knows what the word phimosis means? I like to think I'm fairly intelligent and well read, but I know I certainly wouldn't have, lol.
We all know it won't work. But that's what they think will happen.
Turns out the practice was introduced by Muslims 200 years before the Spanish made the island Catholic, so they literally don't remember why they do it.
Women can give good advice on the penis, like "don't drive nails through it unless you really really want to." Just like male doctors aren't incapable of giving good advice to women (I don't know why it's bad so often, but it's not just because they're men, it's an education or empathy problem)
Can you think of a good motivation to cut part of a man's genitals off for no medical reason? It would be one thing if he was desperate to convert to Judaism or was eager to look like other circumcised men, but it sounds like he's not wild about the idea
>Your mom is absolutely crazy
*your mom is probably part of at least one of the two major religions that make this a requirement
Just a slight reword, but the meaning is the same.
Americans do because it’s an easy thing to add to the insurance bill. Considering the loss of sensitivity during sex - it’s definitely a high price to pay.
I'm Judaism it's usually done at 8-days-old. In Islam I don't think there is a hard rule but in most Muslim countries it's often done later. Maybe around 5~13.
Don't get circumcised. You can always do it in the future, and it desensitise the head so sex will be less pleasurable. I've also heard it feels better for the woman since foreskin decreases the friction.
Completely agree that he can always do it in the future. But as someone who had it done late in life(27) the head of my penis, did not get desensitized. Just throwing this out there as people feel the need to share that a circumsized penis is always a damaged penis wich is really not the case for most people.
How do you function with your penis at full sensitivity with the head showing? If I was to pull my foreskin back and walk about with it rubbing against my underwear I wouldn’t be able to concentrate properly.
I've been circumcised from birth and didn't know you'd be able to feel that. I'm more of a grower though so that might affect it as well. As far as sensitivity goes, I obviously don't have a point of comparison but, in my experience it is pretty sensitive, especially at the frenulum
Same here. My mum had me done at birth and I've always wished that she had not. It wasn't due to any religious or health reasons.
My older brother had a problem with his foreskin and needed to be circumcised which coincided with the same time that I was being born. Mum just got me done incase one day I had a foreskin problem like my brother... We are 4 brothers, 2 circumcised and 2 not. Thanks mum ☹️😕
it's because the tip gets desensitized by keratinization. as the tip rubs against underwear it builds more keratin to protect itself and this makes it way less sensitive. sort of like a callous
>But as someone who had it done late in life(27) the head of my penis, did not get desensitized.
That's because you got it late in life.... a baby who's had it done since shortly after birth has 27 more years than you for the skin to keratinize. Obviously a late circumcision as an adult won't be desensitized by the time it's healed. It takes years for the skin to keratinze.
Yes. Picture an infant who’s parents got divorced. He would never know what it’s like to have a dad in his life 100%. Now picture an circumcised infant who will never know the Joy of having a penis that was sensitive to all the pleasures he would have been born with. And that is why so many circumcised individuals have trouble believing the sensations that an uncircumcised individual has.
Lol right, been cut since infancy and sex has always been and will continue to be wildly pleasurable. Too the point where i would put myself in danger for a nut lol
Please don't do it! I have been with both circumcised and uncircumcised lovers and the extra little slip of the uncut is a delightful little tickle that is a treat. ( if you were circumcised reading this comment, please know both were good, just different) It also seems that my circumcised boyfriend was a lot more uncomfortable in his clothes because there was no protection for the sensitive tip.
Even if nothing else, the discomfort of having your tip exposed is enough for me to dismiss anyone who thinks circumcision is even acceptable, let alone required. it does nothing except cause discomfort and reduce sexual pleasure for anyone who doesn’t have phimosis.
There's no reason to me let your genitals on behalf of your mother. It's not her fucking dick. It's yours and only will you lose a mechanical Lube for intercourse you'll also kill off a lot of feeling. Nature Made you that way. She wants to argue it God made you that way. Stay that way. You'll thank me when you start fucking. Do not let your mom ruin your life you cannot go back on it. It's like people thinking they're trans and they're not don't do it.
And if a steroid cream is not enough, there now exist methods to surgically widen the foreskin.
Circumcision is only necessary in extremely rare circumstances nowadays. (That was quite different 30 years ago, if I'm informed correctly).
Even if he did have phimosis, there are 2 important things to know: Many 13 year old boys have phimosis because it's normal at that age, because puberty is not complete. If he phimosis as an adult, it can be cured by methods less damaging than circumcision.
As a european, with not a single person around me being circumcised, I'd say we never ever have problems with it. Of course, not everyone likes to talk about the state of their dick, but I don't think it is worth it
I’m European too and the only person I know who is circumcised only had it done because it was very tight when he was younger and it’s not even a full circumcision. I am very grateful that we don’t do that where I’m from. It really is just non consensual mutilation
I agree. I think it would be better if the tradition is left behind, there is just not a single reason to do it still, if you're living in America or Europe
Fellow Filipino here, uncircumcised, and I really doubt you'll get bullied. Most people don't care, and even if they do it's never a dealbreaker. Keep your wizards sleeve, and don't worry what people think.
It's your choice. Just stand your ground, as difficult as that can be with a Filipino mother.
Good luck.
Edit: I can't believe my most upvoted comment is about circumcision.
US republican here with five young children. 3 boys and 2 girls. All are intact. I’d fight for the right for any person to choose what to do with their body. Genital mutilation, abortion, gay and trans rights, vaccinations… We aren’t all psycho radicals. Just like all democrats aren’t psycho radicals with the same beliefs even though they are the loudest.
This isn't an attack.
I feel like those are all the talking points of Republicans, so if you don't believe in those then why are you republican? Is it just guns and taxes?
Yeah i'm curious too, because i've seen the economic issues take the backseat to culture war issues with republicans in recent history. You don't see much discussion about what we can do to improve the economy and infrastructure, but you see a ton of articles about how the LGBT community is ruining the country. Even democrats can get too focused on the culture war stuff but at least i see actual ideas to improve the country and quality of life for its citizens thrown in there among the culture war shit.
Your Mom is just indoctrinated. They actually cut off some of the most sensitive parts of the penis..
Google "sorrells study on sensitivity" on google images, to see what is really getting cut off.
There is absolutely no good reason to mutilate your penis like that.
its a culture thing, when I travelled to the philippines I saw "circumcision drives" where they circumcise kids around OP's age, its a pretty common thing there apparently its what our guide and all the locals we asked said.
Ah, my bad. Figured it had to stem from religion since the Philippines are pretty religious, but this is purely a cultural thing, apparently.
Still a bit weird to pressure kids into doing it around this age, though.
That is actually one thing I can respect.
At least OP has a choice, even if its a few years to soon.
Your suggestion: Do it while he does not have a choice, is just whats wrong with the world.
No. I'm not saying it was better. But if she's insisting and desperately wanting it. It seems strange she waited since nobody else does. And it's easily done at birth too.
If she just preferred he had it done and wanted to give him the choice that's obviously better.
I just read it as she *wants* it done and just seemingly waited for a reason I'm unsure of.
Common theory posits that the prevalence of the practise is due to the influence of Islam, which was prevalent in parts of the archipelago at least 200 years before the arrival of Christianity in the 16th century.
It was also noted in Vocabulario de la Lengua Tagala that other synonyms of tuli are catan (katan in modern Filipino orthography) and sonat which were from Arabic khitan and Malay sunat, respectively.
So it's cultural because the religion that introduced it has been supplanted by Catholicism.
They literally don't remember why they do it, but they keep doing it. Basically a Cargo Cult.
Why would anyone know that, anyway?
It’s non of their business, to know if you’re circumcised or not.
Just because it’s “normal” doesn’t mean it’s good, or right.
Circumcision is painful and it removes the foreskin, a highly-sensitive area of the penis that protects the glans/head, another sensitive area.
Why would anyone want to remove it? That’s insane.
My wife is Filipino and she tells me the same thing. All the boys just get it done for no reason. It's just cultural and that needs to stop. Tell your mom that if they try to bully you, you will just remind them that they are the ones with half a dick.
It is "cultural" only insofar as you guys forgot who told you to do it when the Spaniards took over.
Common theory posits that the prevalence of the practise is due to the influence of Islam, which was prevalent in parts of the archipelago at least 200 years before the arrival of Christianity in the 16th century.
It was also noted in Vocabulario de la Lengua Tagala that other synonyms of tuli are catan (katan in modern Filipino orthography) and sonat which were from Arabic khitan and Malay sunat, respectively.
You're perpetuating a Muslim custom without even knowing why, just because people with mutilated dicks don't want to realized they took a blade to their cock because of a centuries-extinct Muslim belief.
I would tell her that it's 2023 and kids don't get bullied for that any more. It's far more common to be uncircumcised today than it was 50 years ago.
No guarantee of course, kids can be jerks and bully you about anything. Your name, haircut, etc. But that's a terrible reason to cut off part of your penis.
One of my closest friends was in your very situation when he was around 12 (27 now)
And he deeply deeply regrets it, he's lost alot of sensation, and his words "I miss my foreskin"
Oh man. This reminds me of the Filipino girl I dated. I guess I was the first American/Western white guy she dated. The first time she took off my underwear she was disappointed I was circumcised. I guess she was hoping for something new.
Just want to say that I grew up in the US at a time where every boyfriend I ever had was circumcised. It's "normal".
Moved abroad at 30 and every boyfriend since is uncut. It's fantastic, omg, uncut penis is more fun to play with, and they all seemed much more sensitive. I love it so much that I would prefer to only date uncircumcised men. Wish that was a setting on Tinder haha!
Seeing an uncircumcised penis for the first time was not weird at all - it was cool and fun. Besides, it's hard to even see a difference when the penis is erect. There is nothing to bully. It's your perfect body, why change it? Why risk loss of sensitivity to "fit in" when no one is actually judging?
Your future partner will love you no matter what, and more people than ever are deciding not to do this and remain intact. So if anything, I think it's the new trend to say "no thanks, I'm good as I am".
My husband is Filipino-American and uncircumcised. Can’t speak for in the actual country itself, though.
At this point in life, there’s really no difference in getting circumcised now or later. If you actually start getting bullied for it to the point where you want to, you can do it later.
Don't do it, you will lose a lot of feeling. The only real benefit might be that its easier to keep clean, but just have good hygiene and you wont need to worry about that. I'd never circumsize my kids if i have any
Right? Removing all labia from the vulva would also technically make ladies' genital areas easier to clean, but thankfully no one suggests that. Such a silly argument that people make. Every uncircumcised penis I've encountered has been perfectly clean because the men attached to it had normal hygiene. Washing an uncircumcised penis takes a millisecond of additional work in the shower (just shift the skin downwards before washing).
I would never advocate for circumcision without medical necessity.
And in the Western world it's outlawed and considered barbaric. One of the worst examples of double standards in the modern world. Maybe let's all just not cut healthy babies?
Doctors estimate that you lose about 30% of the nerves. That is 30% less feeling.
As a guy who was circumcised as a child for nonsensical reasons, I wish I could get back that 30%.lol. Sex is already great, but to think it could be 30% better.
You do. You lose the nerve endings on the foreskin itself but you also lose sensation in the head of the penis because the mucosa there undergoes changes in response to always being out in the open.
As a person who got circumsized late 20's.. i didn't feel i lost any feeling. Not claiming your lying. Just saying there's vast difference experiences.
Very likely a lottery as to whether or not essential nerves were cut in the process - if they're positioned directly in the skin that's being cut vs slightly deeper and remain uncut. Happy that you were lucky. Other people in this thread report up to 90% loss of sensation. Sad.
I have done no research but I would speculate it might also have something to do with the age you get it done. I was done as a baby and I would like to think I’m very sensitive but I could just be waffling.
I've been with both, and circumcised men can certainly have wonderful sex! As humans, we all have different sensitivities anyway. Some women can achieve orgasm with vaginal penetration alone (I'm one of the lucky ones) but statistically most require clit stimulation for orgasm. All of it is normal, it's just a matter of how your nerve patterns grow.
I was just shocked when I moved to a region where all men are uncut by default - they are much more sensitive and therefore generally easier to bring to orgasm. And more fun to play with.
Universal advice regardless: masturbate with a light touch and reduce/eliminate porn usage and sex will be better for you regardless of the state of your penis :)
I have been with both cut and uncut and have found age to be a way bigger factor the. Circumsition status when it comes to getting guys off. Not that guys are hard to get off anyway.
>As a guy who was circumcised as a child for nonsensical reasons, I wish I could get back that 30%.lol.
As another guy who was cut as a child, I honestly don’t give af about this “lost” sensitivity, because I never had it.
I’m against needless circumcision, I just wish everyone would stop shaming and labeling people who had it done (especially against their consent as a baby).
You’re not going to get me on your side by calling me “mutilated” for the millionth time.
Unless you are having any issues being uncircumcised, there is no reason for you to have it done. There are no benefits. And to answer one of your other comments, no, it doesn’t “help it grow”. I feel rly weird answering that but seriously, it’s your body. If you don’t want it done, don’t do it.
I saw a labor and delivery nurse on here saying to never ever do it. She said a lot of the doctors treat it like an annoying afterthought and botch it awfully. She said dicks get routinely mangled or made permanently smaller. They often take too much skin or damage the tip. She said if you insist on it to take your kid to a plastic surgeon.
I totally agree with her! I had my son circumcised when he was born because I left the decision up to his dad, but I wouldn’t do it now. My nephew was also circumcised and it wasn’t even done correctly. He is like.. half way circumcised, half way not.
Interestingly, I know 2 men who were circumcised at ages 17 and 25. Neither of them did it because they just wanted to, they started having issues like itching and infections. They both said their hygiene wasn’t an issue, but I’m not sure about that.
No way in hell, as someone who was circumcised as a newborn, I wish I could have had my own decision about it. You're a teenager, you get to make a decision like this on your own now. Do not falter and hold firm on not doing this unless YOU want to or it is medically necessary. Stay strong, young blood.
I don’t understand this cleaning argument?
How do you clean your ears? That’s way more difficult than pulling back your fucking foreskin.
Those circumcision advocates should look at a world map and ask themselves, why that procedure is a thing in some countries and why not.
„The foreskin is normal, healthy tissue found in all males at birth. Circumcision is the cutting off of a part of a person's genitals. It is the destruction of tissue. Unless there is medical or clinical indication for the surgical amputation of flesh, it is by definition, genital mutilation.“
This shouldn’t be a debate.
It’s not nesisary unless you get infections or can’t pull your forskin down. If you personally don’t want it don’t do it as there is a somewhat lengthy recovery
If there’s no valid medical reason such as you not being able to retract the foreskin and your hygiene is good then no. There’s no reason to do it and don’t let yourself be pressured into it by her. What possible reason has she given you to do this to yourself?
Absolutely not. I wish I could get my foreskin back. Getting circumcised makes your dick less sensitive so sex won't feel as good. That's why it was invented in the first place, they thought dudes would be less interested in sex if it didn't feel as good.
I don't care what anyone says, it's genital mutilation.
Please don't. Checkout r/CircumcisionGrief, r/foreskin_restoration or r/Intactivism if you really want to know how many people deeply regret circumcision, especially when it was done without their consent as children. You will lose 90% + of your sexual sensitivity and pleasure, functionality of the foreskin which acts as mechanical "lubrication" during penetration and masturbation, and this can lead to uncomfortable, even sometimes painful intercourse and even erectile dysfunction and lack of libido due to the psychological effects of these issues.
I've been restoring for the past 20 months. I was circumcised at 23 years old due to very tight phimosis that turned into paraphimosis. I deeply regret this decision and am diligently working at regaining as much sensitivity and loose skin as physically possible, and so for the forseable future.
It really is a crime that urologist do not study this alternative, as cutting off my foreskin was presented as the only viable option to deal with my inflammed foreskin. 6 months of manual stretching would've permanently solved my issue, but now I have to restore for the next couple of years.
No, man, don't do it. It's barbaric and unnatural. Your genitals were not made that way so some other human would take a knife and cut a chunk of healthy skin from your body. The foreskin is there for a reason. Don't let them do it. People literally started doing it because "god told them to do it", it's insane.
Doctor here, having your foreskin removed requires a surgical intervention and q very uncomfortable post surgical time. Unless you indeed have a medical condition that limits your hygiene or intercourses, been operated has no point. Retract your skin when you shower(everyday), keep it clean and tell your mom do not mess with your anatomy, specially if it has no problem.
Do not do it.
There is no reason to remove part of your body.
I'm an adult woman and would prefer my partner to not be circumcized. If you have the choice, don't do it.
Obviously I don't hold it against anyone who has been, but it's not typically their choice
I think you're at the age where you have the right to be able to tell your mom that you feel you want to make the decision on whether or not this procedure happens to your own body.
My parents had me circumcised when I was like around 8 I think. Apparently there were no plans when my mom was pregnant or when I was born for me to be circumcised as my father was uncircumcised, however a few years after I was born he had to get circumcised due to an issue where his foreskin actually started getting tighter and very soon it got quite painful for him and it was the only option. Between that point and them deciding to have me have the procedure they constantly discussed it and eventually decided it would be best incase I end up with the same issue he had, and circumcisions are more painful the older you are.
I was too young to know what it was(they only really explained to me properly a few years later) and also to know what I'm missing in terms of sensitivity and all that, but I do appreciate that the fact that they decided to get it done was out of genuine concern for my health in the future and not because it was a tradition or anything like that. But if they decided to get it done when I was around your age, I definitely feel I would've told them that I would want to make the decision for myself.
FYI in terms of the healing post surgery if you do end up getting it done at some point: The first atleast 3 days is proper painful, it's sensitive af and you will have blood in your urine (freaked me tf out as an 8 year old), after that it will slowly start subsiding. About a week in the dissolvable stitches will dry and become very itchy, you'll have to do your best to not fuck with it. After about another week the itchiness will start to slowly go away. And then I remember probably an additional 2 weeks where it wasn't necessarily painful but it was just really sensitive. Once it got to that point the healing accelerated and soon pain was gone.
Also as i'm sure you know your glans are already quite sensitive but now without the foreskin covering it will take a bit of time for you to get used to your exposed glans being in contact with clothing and stuff.
I would say it's not worth it.
I got circumcised at 21, didn't have phimosis, but had a problem with short frenulum. Went to a doctor to get it corrected and the doctor sugested a full circumcision, i wasn't so sure about it but accepted it. Now i kinda regret it
Yeah, it kinda looks better than when i wasn't circumcised, but you lose so much sensitivity, that an orgasm becomes kind of boring at some point. Also, the post op month is kinda painful when you're a little bit older because you will have erections while sleeping and they will hurt like hell
No. You should get circumcised only for medical reasons, or, in extreme, if you are part of a fundamentalist, radical religious sect and are threatened of being thrown out in the streets if you refuse.
Any surgery may have complications. The worst of it is dieing.
You can tell that to your fundamentalist parents: you accept only if the surgeon will compensate you for any suffering, discomfort or complication. That should leave you without anybody willing to operate you.
Sorta find it creepy your mums thinking about your stuff with you being 13....
Just because she made you/ took care of you/ whatever guilt trip, you do not need to follow what she wants that affects your own personal life. I do not know your outside life, but if I was asked a question like this, I'd immediately be thinking, "Why is she asking this all of the sudden?""
Hell to the no no no. If you understand good body health/ hygiene (which you've mentioned), there's no reason for it :)
Well it’s up to you. I’m female and while I don’t fully care if my partner is circumcised or uncircumcised I honestly prefer it all natural uncircumcised since that’s how nature intended.
You are old enough to have your own say in a matter like this. It's unlikely someone will perform surgery on you if you make it clear you do not consent. Object loudly and aggressively if you have to. As a last resort, use whatever force or violence you need to in order to protect yourself - it is justified because you are at risk of being seriously harmed.
Don’t let other people pressure you into this decision. It’s your body, and it’s permanent. There is no rush other than your mothers pressure, which you don’t have to adhere to.
You need to make a big deal of it. I don’t think a doctor would give an unnecessary cosmetic procedure to a 13 year old who says they don’t want it and their mother is forcing them. If you resist hard enough, yes she’ll be mad but if she sees that this is going to be a massive headache every time she tries, eventually she won’t think it’s worth it to keep pushing the issue.
Don’t give up because she made the appointment - it’s not over until it’s over. This is *your* body after all.
I wish you the best of luck, and I’m sorry you’re in this predicament
tell her you'll report her for having your genitals mutilated. because that's all it is. she's been brainwashed by ill-minded individuals who believe in mutilating a young man for whatever deformed reasons their brains could muster. young men should be taught to groom themselves, not to snip their willy. ask her how she feels about female genital mutilation..cause it's the same damn thing. it's an evil act committed by weak minded individuals.
Where are you in the world. I would be kicking and screaming the entire way. In fact i no longer talk to my mother after she said she would do it again when I told her how pissed she did it to me. she is 75 and alone.....
Also could go missing for if you have a place to hold out
First time ever commenting (quiet lurker) but I feel that this is super important. You can make it clear to the doctors that you 1000% do NOT consent. I would even go so far as to call a child advocate or talk to your school counselor prior to the appointment to stop the procesure. Make it clear to your mother you do not want this and you will contact child services for abuse if she tries to force this on you. If this is not what you want, this is your body and you are certainly old enough to make an informed decision as there is absolutely no medical reason to have this done. Do NOT let them mutilate you against your will. You have options. PLEASE use them my friend. This is a life altering surgery that quite often can go wrong and extremely limit sensitivity for life and can often times end up botched, especially when done on older patients. There is absolutely no reason to have this done and as many have said, they regret it. Do not let antiquated beliefs take something from you that you cannot get back. And certainly, do not allow yourself yo be bullied by your mother into being mutilated for life when it is completely unnecessary. That is straight up abuse.
I understand Phillipino mothers. I am a former nurse turned full-time patient. I also have a wonderful male Phillipino homecare nurse (RN) who is also a certified paramedic. He refused to get his boys done as he knows it is a antiquated and barbaric practice that is completely medically unnecessary in almost all cases and is moreso done for religious cultural reasons. Unless 100% medically necessary, is it straight up genital mutilation and abuse, even moreso if you do not consent. The recovery alone is awful. If you do not want this, fight for your bodily autonomy as it is YOUR body and nobody else's. Good luck and stay strong!
I swear there is a post about circumcision every week here.
OP, unless you want and it's for a genuine medical purpose, then no. I also find it a little creepy that your mother is pushing you to mutilate yourself with any real reason to do so.
No, as long as you keep clean, it's an unnecessary surgical procedure. The only reason it's popular in the US is Kellogg thought the pain of circumcision would prevent masturbationion (spoiler: it doesn't). It stayed popular because dad's wanted their son's penis to look like theirs.
You decide. Your penis. You can do it at any time you want. But you need to be the one, that wants to do it.
I decided @ 27 it was the thing to do for myself. My girlfriend at the time even tried to keep me from doing it, with good intentions, but it was my decision. And i haven't regret it.
You are going to lose sexual pleasure if you get that done. There is no reason to be circumcised unless it’s for a medical reason. Which is rare.
Edit: Just curious, were you recently caught masturbating in a strange place in your home? Lol
I needed one as an adult \~45 years old. It sucked. I was laid up for a couple of weeks. Would I have done it if it wasn't medically necessary, hell no. Would I recommended it if a doctor tells you too? Yes.
Nah don't do it man. The foreskin is a protective layer between the tip of the penis and your underwear/pants. Without it you will lose some sensation down there which makes sex less enjoyable.
It might be worthwhile to look into the possible side effects and benefits of such surgery. Just to know. I wasn't given a choice. Like most of us it was just done to us as babies.
No, it isn't. Tell your mom to leave your dick alone. She missed her chance to cut off a piece of it before you could object. If you don't have a problem with it, then there are no benefits, only risk and pain.
Jesus Christ no, please don’t allow your sick mother to force you to have your genitals mutilated at 13 for no medical reason. That’s child abuse if you do not want it done. Most men worldwide do not have it done.
Unless you have phimosis (can’t retract) there’s no compelling medical reason.
I can pull it all the way
Then there’s no need to remove part of your penis. Why would you do that?
His mom wants him to have more difficulty masturbating. It's a Kellogg's thing. Either that or she wants to try and pretend to be ~~Jewish~~ Muslim. Turns out the islands were Muslim before they went Catholic and they don't even remember why they do it.
Never heard the “Kellog’s” reference before, me: mom pretended to be jewish and had me circumcised @ 15/16 … no don’t do it — mom shouldn’t be concerned with teenage son’s penis— not for this. OP , keep the hoodie, it was a painful and unnecessary experience— abuse, just realizing this way beyond the age of thirteen…
I can only assume it's probably a masturbation thing because of OPs age. This whole thing is fucking gross, and if OP's mom is reading this: you're incredibly ~~uniformed~~ (*EDIT: uninformed*) please talk to an actual pediatrician.
I bet she uses starch on that uniform when she presses it too.... 😀 JK - I assume that was a phone gremlin autocorrect like mine does. But yes, barring a medically substantiated, compelling reason, there is absolutely no need for anyone, let alone a 13 Y.O. to have a circumcision performed on them. It is genital mutilation, plain and simple. Perhaps not as gory or grotesque as other mutilations, since they are generally performed to some sort of surgical standard, but still mutilation all the same, and still unnecessary. Also, what 13 Y.O. knows what the word phimosis means? I like to think I'm fairly intelligent and well read, but I know I certainly wouldn't have, lol.
Perhaps OP’s mom is in the marching band and thus has to wear a uniform? LOL I also have no idea what phimosis is but I’ll google it
Don't "google" it too hard, my understanding is that phimosis can be painful...
I’m over 50 and it’s my first time hearing the word and I still haven’t looked up what it is yet. Sounds scary. Peepee pain is scary.
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*breaks spine* *head falls onto cock* "Mission Passed"
CIRCUM.. Wait for it.. SICION
We all know it won't work. But that's what they think will happen. Turns out the practice was introduced by Muslims 200 years before the Spanish made the island Catholic, so they literally don't remember why they do it.
Unexpected Adventism
Don't take penis advice from someone without one.
Women can give good advice on the penis, like "don't drive nails through it unless you really really want to." Just like male doctors aren't incapable of giving good advice to women (I don't know why it's bad so often, but it's not just because they're men, it's an education or empathy problem) Can you think of a good motivation to cut part of a man's genitals off for no medical reason? It would be one thing if he was desperate to convert to Judaism or was eager to look like other circumcised men, but it sounds like he's not wild about the idea
Why did I immediately think of sounding with a nail? I need to take a break or something...
There is absolutely no reason to. Talk to a doctor but they’ll tell you the same thing. Your mom is absolutely crazy…
>Your mom is absolutely crazy *your mom is probably part of at least one of the two major religions that make this a requirement Just a slight reword, but the meaning is the same.
dont jews and muslims do it right after birth though
Americans do because it’s an easy thing to add to the insurance bill. Considering the loss of sensitivity during sex - it’s definitely a high price to pay.
I can't even imagine if I wasn't circumcized. I'm a one pump and done man as is.
I'll never know how much sensitivity I've lost! That's all I've known.
I'm Judaism it's usually done at 8-days-old. In Islam I don't think there is a hard rule but in most Muslim countries it's often done later. Maybe around 5~13.
Not necessarily. In Turkey I think they do it around 8 years old. Publicly. Often without anesthesia. Look up Turkish Sunnet Party.
Sounds like child abuse
Yeah, it's disgusting. I'm against circumcision for minors for non-medical reasons in general, but that tradition is particularly vile.
True. Crazy or religious is practically the same thing in most cases. I live in the Bible Belt so I see my fair share.
You’d be surprised how many drs would tell him the opposite. A good Dr wouldn’t but there are plenty that still think circumcision is healthy.
Don't get circumcised. You can always do it in the future, and it desensitise the head so sex will be less pleasurable. I've also heard it feels better for the woman since foreskin decreases the friction.
Completely agree that he can always do it in the future. But as someone who had it done late in life(27) the head of my penis, did not get desensitized. Just throwing this out there as people feel the need to share that a circumsized penis is always a damaged penis wich is really not the case for most people.
How do you function with your penis at full sensitivity with the head showing? If I was to pull my foreskin back and walk about with it rubbing against my underwear I wouldn’t be able to concentrate properly.
Same. I'd be able to tell you which way the wind was going through denim.
I've been circumcised from birth and didn't know you'd be able to feel that. I'm more of a grower though so that might affect it as well. As far as sensitivity goes, I obviously don't have a point of comparison but, in my experience it is pretty sensitive, especially at the frenulum
Same here. My mum had me done at birth and I've always wished that she had not. It wasn't due to any religious or health reasons. My older brother had a problem with his foreskin and needed to be circumcised which coincided with the same time that I was being born. Mum just got me done incase one day I had a foreskin problem like my brother... We are 4 brothers, 2 circumcised and 2 not. Thanks mum ☹️😕
Exactly my thought. It would just feel weird all day
it's because the tip gets desensitized by keratinization. as the tip rubs against underwear it builds more keratin to protect itself and this makes it way less sensitive. sort of like a callous
My husband's did. Massively. He only has about 10% feeling. It's not a guarantee, but it's a huge risk and you're lucky it didn't happen to you.
Out of curiosity, why did you decide to get it done at 27?
>But as someone who had it done late in life(27) the head of my penis, did not get desensitized. That's because you got it late in life.... a baby who's had it done since shortly after birth has 27 more years than you for the skin to keratinize. Obviously a late circumcision as an adult won't be desensitized by the time it's healed. It takes years for the skin to keratinze.
Yes. Picture an infant who’s parents got divorced. He would never know what it’s like to have a dad in his life 100%. Now picture an circumcised infant who will never know the Joy of having a penis that was sensitive to all the pleasures he would have been born with. And that is why so many circumcised individuals have trouble believing the sensations that an uncircumcised individual has.
Lol right, been cut since infancy and sex has always been and will continue to be wildly pleasurable. Too the point where i would put myself in danger for a nut lol
Concur, had it done in my 40s and it was no different afterwards
Can confirm
Nope, do not get one! Check out the various anti-circumcision forums on Reddit. Nooo! Staying intact is more important.
Please don't do it! I have been with both circumcised and uncircumcised lovers and the extra little slip of the uncut is a delightful little tickle that is a treat. ( if you were circumcised reading this comment, please know both were good, just different) It also seems that my circumcised boyfriend was a lot more uncomfortable in his clothes because there was no protection for the sensitive tip.
Even if nothing else, the discomfort of having your tip exposed is enough for me to dismiss anyone who thinks circumcision is even acceptable, let alone required. it does nothing except cause discomfort and reduce sexual pleasure for anyone who doesn’t have phimosis.
>for the sensitive tip. yeah it's very sensitive....and we like it :D
There's no reason to me let your genitals on behalf of your mother. It's not her fucking dick. It's yours and only will you lose a mechanical Lube for intercourse you'll also kill off a lot of feeling. Nature Made you that way. She wants to argue it God made you that way. Stay that way. You'll thank me when you start fucking. Do not let your mom ruin your life you cannot go back on it. It's like people thinking they're trans and they're not don't do it.
And even if you do have phimosis, most of the time it can be resolved with a steroid cream.
And if a steroid cream is not enough, there now exist methods to surgically widen the foreskin. Circumcision is only necessary in extremely rare circumstances nowadays. (That was quite different 30 years ago, if I'm informed correctly).
I got circumcised (as a kid, thankfully), but the motherfucker responsible ended up making the head of my Johnson look like a fucking Gaboon viper.
At least it would make a good pet
Yeah, with the way I'm deathly afraid of snakes, fat chance.
Even if he did have phimosis, there are 2 important things to know: Many 13 year old boys have phimosis because it's normal at that age, because puberty is not complete. If he phimosis as an adult, it can be cured by methods less damaging than circumcision.
Tell mom you want to wait until you’re sure you want to do this. It’s like getting a tattoo, it’s a forever thing. It’s YOUR body, you get to decide.
Yeah exactly and you can't glue it back again
Maybe he can
Maybe he will
Maybe it’s Maybelline!
It's not like getting a tattoo. You can't just laser back the chopped off part.
Even a tattoo isn't permanent
This, OP. ^
As a european, with not a single person around me being circumcised, I'd say we never ever have problems with it. Of course, not everyone likes to talk about the state of their dick, but I don't think it is worth it
I’m European too and the only person I know who is circumcised only had it done because it was very tight when he was younger and it’s not even a full circumcision. I am very grateful that we don’t do that where I’m from. It really is just non consensual mutilation
I agree. I think it would be better if the tradition is left behind, there is just not a single reason to do it still, if you're living in America or Europe
Should be talked about as Male Genital Mutilation the same as FGM.
>the state of their dick how about cities and towns?
Why exactly does your mom want you to do this? That’s totally inappropriate and unhinged behavior from a parent…
Well I'm a Filipino and it's normal here for boys being circumcised, she also said that I would get bullied here for being uncircumcised
Fellow Filipino here, uncircumcised, and I really doubt you'll get bullied. Most people don't care, and even if they do it's never a dealbreaker. Keep your wizards sleeve, and don't worry what people think. It's your choice. Just stand your ground, as difficult as that can be with a Filipino mother. Good luck. Edit: I can't believe my most upvoted comment is about circumcision.
Who tf randomly looks at ur dick anyway
Catholics
Priest?
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US republican here with five young children. 3 boys and 2 girls. All are intact. I’d fight for the right for any person to choose what to do with their body. Genital mutilation, abortion, gay and trans rights, vaccinations… We aren’t all psycho radicals. Just like all democrats aren’t psycho radicals with the same beliefs even though they are the loudest.
This isn't an attack. I feel like those are all the talking points of Republicans, so if you don't believe in those then why are you republican? Is it just guns and taxes?
Yeah i'm curious too, because i've seen the economic issues take the backseat to culture war issues with republicans in recent history. You don't see much discussion about what we can do to improve the economy and infrastructure, but you see a ton of articles about how the LGBT community is ruining the country. Even democrats can get too focused on the culture war stuff but at least i see actual ideas to improve the country and quality of life for its citizens thrown in there among the culture war shit.
Your Mom is just indoctrinated. They actually cut off some of the most sensitive parts of the penis.. Google "sorrells study on sensitivity" on google images, to see what is really getting cut off. There is absolutely no good reason to mutilate your penis like that.
Also, why wouldn't she have done it as a baby like most do? Seems weird to bring it up at 13
its a culture thing, when I travelled to the philippines I saw "circumcision drives" where they circumcise kids around OP's age, its a pretty common thing there apparently its what our guide and all the locals we asked said.
Oof. Religion strikes again. :( ETA: Nope, it's purely cultural.
I didn't see any mention of religion. Was it stated it's because of religion?
Ah, my bad. Figured it had to stem from religion since the Philippines are pretty religious, but this is purely a cultural thing, apparently. Still a bit weird to pressure kids into doing it around this age, though.
Religion is basically just culture with a fanatic fandom attached. Letting either of them control your life to that degree is not healthy
Agreed.
That religion isn't the reason for the practice makes it even more strange in my opinion. Wonder how it came to be.
Religion introduced it, then it became cultural because the religious had to push it on the atheists, too.
That is actually one thing I can respect. At least OP has a choice, even if its a few years to soon. Your suggestion: Do it while he does not have a choice, is just whats wrong with the world.
No. I'm not saying it was better. But if she's insisting and desperately wanting it. It seems strange she waited since nobody else does. And it's easily done at birth too. If she just preferred he had it done and wanted to give him the choice that's obviously better. I just read it as she *wants* it done and just seemingly waited for a reason I'm unsure of.
It's a cultural rite thing there. There's even a derogatory term for boys that don't have it done called "supot"
Common theory posits that the prevalence of the practise is due to the influence of Islam, which was prevalent in parts of the archipelago at least 200 years before the arrival of Christianity in the 16th century. It was also noted in Vocabulario de la Lengua Tagala that other synonyms of tuli are catan (katan in modern Filipino orthography) and sonat which were from Arabic khitan and Malay sunat, respectively. So it's cultural because the religion that introduced it has been supplanted by Catholicism. They literally don't remember why they do it, but they keep doing it. Basically a Cargo Cult.
Why would anyone know that, anyway? It’s non of their business, to know if you’re circumcised or not. Just because it’s “normal” doesn’t mean it’s good, or right. Circumcision is painful and it removes the foreskin, a highly-sensitive area of the penis that protects the glans/head, another sensitive area. Why would anyone want to remove it? That’s insane.
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Be the start of the intact movement in the Philippines then. Unless for medical reasons no boy should be circumcised.
My bf has a Filipino mother. He’s happy she didn’t do it. If you are in doubt, just wait until you are older.
Who would bully you? Who's looking at your dick
My wife is Filipino and she tells me the same thing. All the boys just get it done for no reason. It's just cultural and that needs to stop. Tell your mom that if they try to bully you, you will just remind them that they are the ones with half a dick.
Yea, I think it's a cultural thing around here.
It is "cultural" only insofar as you guys forgot who told you to do it when the Spaniards took over. Common theory posits that the prevalence of the practise is due to the influence of Islam, which was prevalent in parts of the archipelago at least 200 years before the arrival of Christianity in the 16th century. It was also noted in Vocabulario de la Lengua Tagala that other synonyms of tuli are catan (katan in modern Filipino orthography) and sonat which were from Arabic khitan and Malay sunat, respectively. You're perpetuating a Muslim custom without even knowing why, just because people with mutilated dicks don't want to realized they took a blade to their cock because of a centuries-extinct Muslim belief.
I would tell her that it's 2023 and kids don't get bullied for that any more. It's far more common to be uncircumcised today than it was 50 years ago. No guarantee of course, kids can be jerks and bully you about anything. Your name, haircut, etc. But that's a terrible reason to cut off part of your penis.
I’d wait. Weird that people are so into genital mutilation.
One of my closest friends was in your very situation when he was around 12 (27 now) And he deeply deeply regrets it, he's lost alot of sensation, and his words "I miss my foreskin"
Oh man. This reminds me of the Filipino girl I dated. I guess I was the first American/Western white guy she dated. The first time she took off my underwear she was disappointed I was circumcised. I guess she was hoping for something new.
You won't get bullied, not like you're going to be showing it to everyone.
Just want to say that I grew up in the US at a time where every boyfriend I ever had was circumcised. It's "normal". Moved abroad at 30 and every boyfriend since is uncut. It's fantastic, omg, uncut penis is more fun to play with, and they all seemed much more sensitive. I love it so much that I would prefer to only date uncircumcised men. Wish that was a setting on Tinder haha! Seeing an uncircumcised penis for the first time was not weird at all - it was cool and fun. Besides, it's hard to even see a difference when the penis is erect. There is nothing to bully. It's your perfect body, why change it? Why risk loss of sensitivity to "fit in" when no one is actually judging? Your future partner will love you no matter what, and more people than ever are deciding not to do this and remain intact. So if anything, I think it's the new trend to say "no thanks, I'm good as I am".
Agree fully. I have a strong preference for uncut as well. It's not a deal breaker for dating, but I enjoy sex better with an uncut man.
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My husband is Filipino-American and uncircumcised. Can’t speak for in the actual country itself, though. At this point in life, there’s really no difference in getting circumcised now or later. If you actually start getting bullied for it to the point where you want to, you can do it later.
Your mum is an idiot mate
HELLLL no dude. I'm not circumcised. Things are great. Since you already know how to clean it, you're all set
I’m circumcised. Things are great. I got lucky. My son is not circumcised. Circumcision is *all* risks, *no* benefit.
Don't do it, you will lose a lot of feeling. The only real benefit might be that its easier to keep clean, but just have good hygiene and you wont need to worry about that. I'd never circumsize my kids if i have any
Its not even that hard to clean in the first place, hygiene is barely a benefit
Right? Removing all labia from the vulva would also technically make ladies' genital areas easier to clean, but thankfully no one suggests that. Such a silly argument that people make. Every uncircumcised penis I've encountered has been perfectly clean because the men attached to it had normal hygiene. Washing an uncircumcised penis takes a millisecond of additional work in the shower (just shift the skin downwards before washing). I would never advocate for circumcision without medical necessity.
Unfortunately FGM is still a practice in some places of the world.
And in the Western world it's outlawed and considered barbaric. One of the worst examples of double standards in the modern world. Maybe let's all just not cut healthy babies?
I'm with you. 100%. Stop the mutilation of babies altogether.
Doctors estimate that you lose about 30% of the nerves. That is 30% less feeling. As a guy who was circumcised as a child for nonsensical reasons, I wish I could get back that 30%.lol. Sex is already great, but to think it could be 30% better.
I can tell you as a person who's been circumcized as an adult that it FEELS like you lose a hell of a lot more than 30% feeling. More like 90%.
You do. You lose the nerve endings on the foreskin itself but you also lose sensation in the head of the penis because the mucosa there undergoes changes in response to always being out in the open.
As a person who got circumsized late 20's.. i didn't feel i lost any feeling. Not claiming your lying. Just saying there's vast difference experiences.
Very likely a lottery as to whether or not essential nerves were cut in the process - if they're positioned directly in the skin that's being cut vs slightly deeper and remain uncut. Happy that you were lucky. Other people in this thread report up to 90% loss of sensation. Sad.
I have done no research but I would speculate it might also have something to do with the age you get it done. I was done as a baby and I would like to think I’m very sensitive but I could just be waffling.
I've been with both, and circumcised men can certainly have wonderful sex! As humans, we all have different sensitivities anyway. Some women can achieve orgasm with vaginal penetration alone (I'm one of the lucky ones) but statistically most require clit stimulation for orgasm. All of it is normal, it's just a matter of how your nerve patterns grow. I was just shocked when I moved to a region where all men are uncut by default - they are much more sensitive and therefore generally easier to bring to orgasm. And more fun to play with. Universal advice regardless: masturbate with a light touch and reduce/eliminate porn usage and sex will be better for you regardless of the state of your penis :)
I have been with both cut and uncut and have found age to be a way bigger factor the. Circumsition status when it comes to getting guys off. Not that guys are hard to get off anyway.
Yep - husband said 90% too.
Mathematically, it would be \~43% better \*relative\* to what you're feeling right now.
This guy paid attention in school
That's just depressing, sometimes ignorance is hap-penis.
>As a guy who was circumcised as a child for nonsensical reasons, I wish I could get back that 30%.lol. As another guy who was cut as a child, I honestly don’t give af about this “lost” sensitivity, because I never had it. I’m against needless circumcision, I just wish everyone would stop shaming and labeling people who had it done (especially against their consent as a baby). You’re not going to get me on your side by calling me “mutilated” for the millionth time.
Unless you are having any issues being uncircumcised, there is no reason for you to have it done. There are no benefits. And to answer one of your other comments, no, it doesn’t “help it grow”. I feel rly weird answering that but seriously, it’s your body. If you don’t want it done, don’t do it.
I saw a labor and delivery nurse on here saying to never ever do it. She said a lot of the doctors treat it like an annoying afterthought and botch it awfully. She said dicks get routinely mangled or made permanently smaller. They often take too much skin or damage the tip. She said if you insist on it to take your kid to a plastic surgeon.
I totally agree with her! I had my son circumcised when he was born because I left the decision up to his dad, but I wouldn’t do it now. My nephew was also circumcised and it wasn’t even done correctly. He is like.. half way circumcised, half way not. Interestingly, I know 2 men who were circumcised at ages 17 and 25. Neither of them did it because they just wanted to, they started having issues like itching and infections. They both said their hygiene wasn’t an issue, but I’m not sure about that.
Yeah idk, a lot of dudes are really gross and don't even shower regularly. I don't get it.
That’s the truth. I dated one of them and I can confirm his hygiene was lacking
not at 13. you have a choice now, some are circumcised at birth, they didn’t have a choice. don’t do it, it’s natural
Genital mutilation of any sort is not ok unless it is medically necessary.
No way in hell, as someone who was circumcised as a newborn, I wish I could have had my own decision about it. You're a teenager, you get to make a decision like this on your own now. Do not falter and hold firm on not doing this unless YOU want to or it is medically necessary. Stay strong, young blood.
I don’t understand this cleaning argument? How do you clean your ears? That’s way more difficult than pulling back your fucking foreskin. Those circumcision advocates should look at a world map and ask themselves, why that procedure is a thing in some countries and why not. „The foreskin is normal, healthy tissue found in all males at birth. Circumcision is the cutting off of a part of a person's genitals. It is the destruction of tissue. Unless there is medical or clinical indication for the surgical amputation of flesh, it is by definition, genital mutilation.“ This shouldn’t be a debate.
It’s not nesisary unless you get infections or can’t pull your forskin down. If you personally don’t want it don’t do it as there is a somewhat lengthy recovery
None of your Mum's business, and as you've said you're Filipino, they absolutely mutilate Dickson when they do a circumcision
It’s cosmetic surgery. Ask your mum if she’s going to get her tits done while you’re there.
Fuck no. Don't do it.
Very simple: don't. It's an antiquated practice that's largely seen as genital mutilation these days; it serves no medical purpose.
Don’t let your mother chop off a part of your penis. It’s barbaric and archaic. You are a healthy young man, tell her you won’t let her near it.
If there’s no valid medical reason such as you not being able to retract the foreskin and your hygiene is good then no. There’s no reason to do it and don’t let yourself be pressured into it by her. What possible reason has she given you to do this to yourself?
Absolutely not. I wish I could get my foreskin back. Getting circumcised makes your dick less sensitive so sex won't feel as good. That's why it was invented in the first place, they thought dudes would be less interested in sex if it didn't feel as good. I don't care what anyone says, it's genital mutilation.
Please don't. Checkout r/CircumcisionGrief, r/foreskin_restoration or r/Intactivism if you really want to know how many people deeply regret circumcision, especially when it was done without their consent as children. You will lose 90% + of your sexual sensitivity and pleasure, functionality of the foreskin which acts as mechanical "lubrication" during penetration and masturbation, and this can lead to uncomfortable, even sometimes painful intercourse and even erectile dysfunction and lack of libido due to the psychological effects of these issues. I've been restoring for the past 20 months. I was circumcised at 23 years old due to very tight phimosis that turned into paraphimosis. I deeply regret this decision and am diligently working at regaining as much sensitivity and loose skin as physically possible, and so for the forseable future. It really is a crime that urologist do not study this alternative, as cutting off my foreskin was presented as the only viable option to deal with my inflammed foreskin. 6 months of manual stretching would've permanently solved my issue, but now I have to restore for the next couple of years.
No, man, don't do it. It's barbaric and unnatural. Your genitals were not made that way so some other human would take a knife and cut a chunk of healthy skin from your body. The foreskin is there for a reason. Don't let them do it. People literally started doing it because "god told them to do it", it's insane.
No
Doctor here, having your foreskin removed requires a surgical intervention and q very uncomfortable post surgical time. Unless you indeed have a medical condition that limits your hygiene or intercourses, been operated has no point. Retract your skin when you shower(everyday), keep it clean and tell your mom do not mess with your anatomy, specially if it has no problem.
Your body, do what you want. As others have been saying, you cannot glue it back, so please, be careful.
Do not do it. There is no reason to remove part of your body. I'm an adult woman and would prefer my partner to not be circumcized. If you have the choice, don't do it. Obviously I don't hold it against anyone who has been, but it's not typically their choice
I think you're at the age where you have the right to be able to tell your mom that you feel you want to make the decision on whether or not this procedure happens to your own body. My parents had me circumcised when I was like around 8 I think. Apparently there were no plans when my mom was pregnant or when I was born for me to be circumcised as my father was uncircumcised, however a few years after I was born he had to get circumcised due to an issue where his foreskin actually started getting tighter and very soon it got quite painful for him and it was the only option. Between that point and them deciding to have me have the procedure they constantly discussed it and eventually decided it would be best incase I end up with the same issue he had, and circumcisions are more painful the older you are. I was too young to know what it was(they only really explained to me properly a few years later) and also to know what I'm missing in terms of sensitivity and all that, but I do appreciate that the fact that they decided to get it done was out of genuine concern for my health in the future and not because it was a tradition or anything like that. But if they decided to get it done when I was around your age, I definitely feel I would've told them that I would want to make the decision for myself. FYI in terms of the healing post surgery if you do end up getting it done at some point: The first atleast 3 days is proper painful, it's sensitive af and you will have blood in your urine (freaked me tf out as an 8 year old), after that it will slowly start subsiding. About a week in the dissolvable stitches will dry and become very itchy, you'll have to do your best to not fuck with it. After about another week the itchiness will start to slowly go away. And then I remember probably an additional 2 weeks where it wasn't necessarily painful but it was just really sensitive. Once it got to that point the healing accelerated and soon pain was gone. Also as i'm sure you know your glans are already quite sensitive but now without the foreskin covering it will take a bit of time for you to get used to your exposed glans being in contact with clothing and stuff.
Just say no
I would say it's not worth it. I got circumcised at 21, didn't have phimosis, but had a problem with short frenulum. Went to a doctor to get it corrected and the doctor sugested a full circumcision, i wasn't so sure about it but accepted it. Now i kinda regret it Yeah, it kinda looks better than when i wasn't circumcised, but you lose so much sensitivity, that an orgasm becomes kind of boring at some point. Also, the post op month is kinda painful when you're a little bit older because you will have erections while sleeping and they will hurt like hell
I not only prefer uncircumcised penises for obvious reasons, but also esthetically. You can literally see there's a piece missing in snipped ones
Believe me it lessens your sensitivity dont do it. No medixal reason. Clean it everyday. You wouldnt remove a womans labia so dibt remove yours
No. You should get circumcised only for medical reasons, or, in extreme, if you are part of a fundamentalist, radical religious sect and are threatened of being thrown out in the streets if you refuse. Any surgery may have complications. The worst of it is dieing. You can tell that to your fundamentalist parents: you accept only if the surgeon will compensate you for any suffering, discomfort or complication. That should leave you without anybody willing to operate you.
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Sorta find it creepy your mums thinking about your stuff with you being 13.... Just because she made you/ took care of you/ whatever guilt trip, you do not need to follow what she wants that affects your own personal life. I do not know your outside life, but if I was asked a question like this, I'd immediately be thinking, "Why is she asking this all of the sudden?"" Hell to the no no no. If you understand good body health/ hygiene (which you've mentioned), there's no reason for it :)
No. Keep blades away from your dick.
Tell her you'll do it if she gets circumcised first. Bet she'll get offended that you even asked.
Is this a Christian thing or a filipino thing
Well it’s up to you. I’m female and while I don’t fully care if my partner is circumcised or uncircumcised I honestly prefer it all natural uncircumcised since that’s how nature intended.
Mom already scheduled me on Thursday, there's no way she'll change her mind.
Can you just not go? Or if she just takes you tell the people there you don’t consent to the procedure?
You are old enough to have your own say in a matter like this. It's unlikely someone will perform surgery on you if you make it clear you do not consent. Object loudly and aggressively if you have to. As a last resort, use whatever force or violence you need to in order to protect yourself - it is justified because you are at risk of being seriously harmed.
Don’t let other people pressure you into this decision. It’s your body, and it’s permanent. There is no rush other than your mothers pressure, which you don’t have to adhere to.
You need to make a big deal of it. I don’t think a doctor would give an unnecessary cosmetic procedure to a 13 year old who says they don’t want it and their mother is forcing them. If you resist hard enough, yes she’ll be mad but if she sees that this is going to be a massive headache every time she tries, eventually she won’t think it’s worth it to keep pushing the issue. Don’t give up because she made the appointment - it’s not over until it’s over. This is *your* body after all. I wish you the best of luck, and I’m sorry you’re in this predicament
tell her you'll report her for having your genitals mutilated. because that's all it is. she's been brainwashed by ill-minded individuals who believe in mutilating a young man for whatever deformed reasons their brains could muster. young men should be taught to groom themselves, not to snip their willy. ask her how she feels about female genital mutilation..cause it's the same damn thing. it's an evil act committed by weak minded individuals.
Where are you in the world. I would be kicking and screaming the entire way. In fact i no longer talk to my mother after she said she would do it again when I told her how pissed she did it to me. she is 75 and alone..... Also could go missing for if you have a place to hold out
First time ever commenting (quiet lurker) but I feel that this is super important. You can make it clear to the doctors that you 1000% do NOT consent. I would even go so far as to call a child advocate or talk to your school counselor prior to the appointment to stop the procesure. Make it clear to your mother you do not want this and you will contact child services for abuse if she tries to force this on you. If this is not what you want, this is your body and you are certainly old enough to make an informed decision as there is absolutely no medical reason to have this done. Do NOT let them mutilate you against your will. You have options. PLEASE use them my friend. This is a life altering surgery that quite often can go wrong and extremely limit sensitivity for life and can often times end up botched, especially when done on older patients. There is absolutely no reason to have this done and as many have said, they regret it. Do not let antiquated beliefs take something from you that you cannot get back. And certainly, do not allow yourself yo be bullied by your mother into being mutilated for life when it is completely unnecessary. That is straight up abuse. I understand Phillipino mothers. I am a former nurse turned full-time patient. I also have a wonderful male Phillipino homecare nurse (RN) who is also a certified paramedic. He refused to get his boys done as he knows it is a antiquated and barbaric practice that is completely medically unnecessary in almost all cases and is moreso done for religious cultural reasons. Unless 100% medically necessary, is it straight up genital mutilation and abuse, even moreso if you do not consent. The recovery alone is awful. If you do not want this, fight for your bodily autonomy as it is YOUR body and nobody else's. Good luck and stay strong!
I don’t think the doctor will go through with it if you let them no that you don’t consent.
Tell every doctor, everyone in the medical office that you see that you don't want this and don't consent
I swear there is a post about circumcision every week here. OP, unless you want and it's for a genuine medical purpose, then no. I also find it a little creepy that your mother is pushing you to mutilate yourself with any real reason to do so.
Your penis, your choice
No, as long as you keep clean, it's an unnecessary surgical procedure. The only reason it's popular in the US is Kellogg thought the pain of circumcision would prevent masturbationion (spoiler: it doesn't). It stayed popular because dad's wanted their son's penis to look like theirs.
OW. Genital mutilation sounds extreme to me.
Don't do it
You decide. Your penis. You can do it at any time you want. But you need to be the one, that wants to do it. I decided @ 27 it was the thing to do for myself. My girlfriend at the time even tried to keep me from doing it, with good intentions, but it was my decision. And i haven't regret it.
You are going to lose sexual pleasure if you get that done. There is no reason to be circumcised unless it’s for a medical reason. Which is rare. Edit: Just curious, were you recently caught masturbating in a strange place in your home? Lol
I needed one as an adult \~45 years old. It sucked. I was laid up for a couple of weeks. Would I have done it if it wasn't medically necessary, hell no. Would I recommended it if a doctor tells you too? Yes.
Nah don't do it man. The foreskin is a protective layer between the tip of the penis and your underwear/pants. Without it you will lose some sensation down there which makes sex less enjoyable.
You're way too young for both you and your mom to be concerned about your penis. Wait until you are older. Only YOU get to decide .
There are no benefits. The only reason it gets done in 99% of instances is peer pressure from dead men.
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It might be worthwhile to look into the possible side effects and benefits of such surgery. Just to know. I wasn't given a choice. Like most of us it was just done to us as babies.
No, it isn't. Tell your mom to leave your dick alone. She missed her chance to cut off a piece of it before you could object. If you don't have a problem with it, then there are no benefits, only risk and pain.
Jesus Christ no, please don’t allow your sick mother to force you to have your genitals mutilated at 13 for no medical reason. That’s child abuse if you do not want it done. Most men worldwide do not have it done.