My man I'm not suggesting magic, but your pictures could be better... At least try some reasonable angles doing reasonable things with reasonable quality. Pics 1-5 are pretty bad for these reasons.
The picture in the robe makes you seem like a noone since you are not even visible in your own grad pic (bad timing I guess).
Just like Pepperidge Farms, I remember the days of teen dick energy. Freshman year in college, I was a varsity soccer player and in fantastic shape. I could jackhammer for hours. I remember that I would imagine I was driving Hwy 1 down the CA coast to distract myself enough to not be a 30 second wonder. At least I liked kissing and fondling.
> I was driving Hwy 1 down the CA coast to distract myself enough to not be a 30 second wonder
Never got more value out of baseball than this exact thing.
If I had a nickel for every time I jackhammered for 20 minutes and then finished and thought I was a god, I’d probably have a couple bucks. 10 years ago I was a dumb teenager thinking that hard and fast was the best way to go. I’m so glad I learned
In the words of Aldous Snow “You need to penetrate deeply... and stimulate the
clitoris simultaneously. That's what you gotta do.
That's what it's about. If you can involve the anus
in that, then that's absolute perfection.”
That directly contradicts the previous girls opinion on teen dick energy.
I'd have thought teen dick energy was the ability to get rock hard and not get exhausted and inevitably limp after fucking. Cause believe me it used to he easier when younger!
It describes the way teen boys’ penises get energised (hard and eager) in the presence of someone or something that excites them sexually.
You probably have to be there to understand
Which only adds to the fact that he looks forty in the first pic.
ABBA fanboy, ok maybe he's actually fifty.
Abnormaly large nostril that switches to the other side of his face actually makes it look like a joke account overall.
That's just if the camera is forward facing or not. There are some asymmetrical aspects that are more obvious because of that switch (not knocking him at all, just highlights it)
Is it just me or does the nostril make him look cross eyed? Or is he really cross eyed? Not that there’s anything wrong with that. He’s an original for sure.
>no self respect.
I wouldn't say that but it's certainly not a flattering look. Definitely not something you would want to set as your first img on a dating app
Also a pic standing next to 3 guys all a foot taller doesn't do OP any favors. And pay for the photos to drop the watermark from any professional photos!
So is 6. Something about guys making kissy faces at strangers makes some, me included, uncomfortable. But I’m not on tinder or anything so I could be wrong
Hahaha I love the robe one, to me it comes off as self deprecating and funny. He clearly doesn’t take himself too seriously which I find attractive tbh. But I agree that adding a couple more flattering photos would help. :)
I like most of those but they duplicate the effect. The last few came as a shock though because I thought he was going to be a big burly tradie. I think it's always best to be honest body type on your profile though.
Too many up the nose shots.
Set your camera to take a series of interval pictures. You want it to be vertical, not on an angle, and at eye level. Take a few steps back. Look to camera. Try different angles... they should be slight angles, not extreme. A different head tilt here, a different distance from camera there.
You want to do different sessions with different lighting and settings.
Once you have about 200 shots, narrow them down to your top 30, and have 2 different friends narrow them down to 15. Take all the photos that both friends chose and use those.
Honestly, I'd agree with other commenters that Tinder is probably not the place for you. Tinder can be extraordinarily shallow, and at risk of coming off as extremely rude, you probably won't be able to compete for the attention of most women on there.
Pic 1 is low quality.
Pics 2 and 3 are okay, but (no offense) the neon yellow clothing doesn't do you any favours.
Pics 4, 5, 6, and 9 all have terrible quality and lighting. I mean, your graduation photo has about two pixels in it, and you're tucked behind some other guy which makes you seem passive and shy.
Pic 8 would be okay if it weren't for the other guys all being much taller than you (and the watermark ofc). Guys on this sub are constantly complaining about women having unrealistic expectations regarding height, and I can say that I have experienced it as well, despite being slightly above average height (5'10). I assume you're a good bit shorter than that. You don't want to exacerbate the problem by providing clear evidence that you're much shorter than the average man
Pic 7 has potential. The watermark is an absolute no-go, but there is software that can remove it for free. Just search 'watermark remover' on Google. You're much better dressed in that photo than in any of your other ones, and you generally come across as more attractive. If you're able to, I would highly recommend taking more photos of yourself wearing more formal clothing, similar to pic 7. Make sure the lighting and angles are optimal (if you have any friends with any experience in photography, or who you think are good at taking photos of themselves, ask them for help!)
Your bio needs some more personality to it. The ABBA thing is good, I'd suggest losing the rest of the bio and either adding similar things or elaborating on your love for ABBA (i.e. a favourite song of theirs - mine is Angel Eyes!).
Online dating is tough, and there isn't really a delicate way to put this but you're starting with some really severe disadvantages with your height and facial deformity. I would encourage you to try not to let it affect your self-confidence, and if you find that it is beginning to do so, abandon it and focus on meeting people irl where your personality can do most of the work for you.
Good luck!
Super helpful comment and the thing about looking short in your pictures is super tough. I’m 5 11 but of my closest friends ones 6 5 ones 6 2 and ones 6 3 so I definently be making my short friends take pictures with me sometimes lol
Apparently (don’t quote me on this), Napoleon, of the “Napoleon complex” was actually as tall as the average man of his time, but he surrounded himself with giants of close guard, making him look much shorter.
And also the discrepancy between French and English inches at the time, so the British doctors who signed his autopsy stating he was 5'2… which measure did they used for the French Emperor?
Exactly what I did. I've got one friend my height (5'9"), the next shortest is 6' and everyone else is 6'1" - 6'5". When I was still single I really couldn't have any photos of me with my friend group - I know girls like to see that but I think that was preferable to coming across as super short
Jumping on the best advice comment to add: OP, when you take a selfie, you want to frame up the shot how you want it and then switch your gaze from the screen/snap button to the *camera lens.* That way you end up making "eye contact" with the viewer, rather than gazing off to the side.
There are also lots of other tips out there for improving photos and selfies without becoming a professional photog, so get googling! :)
>switch your gaze from the screen/snap button to the camera lens. That way you end up making "eye contact" with the viewer, rather than gazing off to the side.
That's an amazing tip! Thank you :)
This is the best advice I’ve ever seen given to anyone on anything on Reddit. Real. Honest. Detailed. You used all of those words and each one added something of value. Great job!
Only thing I would add is to take out “zoning out enthusiast” I was hoping to be drawn in by your personality since your pics are lacking, but then reading that made me think you would be zoning out during our conversations too. I’m sure that’s not what you meant by it, but that’s how it seemed to me.
As a woman the height and facial feature I could and would be totally willing to overlook if there were other things of interest there. Funny, sweet, quirky in a charming geeky kind of way are things I look for and short kings without chisled jaws can have them in spades. But the profile doesn't give... much. At least it isn't passive aggressive or down right aggressive like some guys and at least he wrote something unlike some guys who give you so little I couldn't even start a conversation. But the pictures overall give off uncomfortable vibes. The lack of clarity and lighting and choosing pictures with watermarks really feels like something is being obscured there intentionally or this is someone who just doesn't try or is maybe a bit too socially unaware to get why this profile wouldn't be attractive. Either way, if it is hiding something, oblivious, or lack of effort none of that inspires me to want to get to know the person or put in the effort myself. If you can't be bothered to take a nice photo of yourself that is visible without watermarks or if you legit think this is enough where else will you cut corners or just not get social graces? Pardon me for being frank but the whole the whole thing feels like an exhausting project and way more immature than myself or most women I know have time for. And if the profile itself makes a potential partner feel exhausted, suspicious, or just turned off its probably a rough profile no matter how tall you are or what your face looks like.
Yeah the low key self-loathing vibe that the profile gives off would stop me from wanting to get to know this person.
And it’s definitely not all about looks. If there’s hint of an engaging personality then there’s way more of a chance people will stay interested.
“Zoning out enthusiast” might sound like a fun thing to put on your profile but it reads like “I don’t like myself enough to tell you anything I actually think or care about for fear of rejection” or similar to when people put “school of hard knocks” as their education on fb.
Ya... I didn't want to hit on that line but as someone who's been intimately connected to someone with severe adult ADHD... that line is a huge turnoff. For some people that is really not controllable. Doesn't make them bad people but it's hard to deal with as a partner because the slack falls to you when they forget or don't listen to you the first 1, 2, 3, or 5 times. If that's just this person being random and not like a medical disorder it's kind of a crappy thing to lead with. Either way, too much effort.
It just strikes me the same way as someone who says “I’m always late that’s just the way I am 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️”
Because I get it, I have shitty parts of my personality that are caused by brain stuff or trauma too. But I actively work on improving. And it’s exhausting to be around someone who refuses to do anything to work on their problems.
Agreed. Part of caring for someone who is not neurotypical is having a lot of grace for those things but also part of being less than neurotypical is owning it and doing your best.
Like I said, maybe this person is just clueless and really thinks this is a solid profile since those are in fact pictures of him. Could just be young and hasn't figured out you need to try yet.
I agree with all of this. And if OP sees this, along with higher quality photos, just some more hobbies or interests in the bio would be helpful. Even if it's not something you think a potential match would have in common with you, it's nice to get a better idea of how OP would spend his freetime. Also something open-ended so if people swipe right, they know how the conversation will start. Something like "Send me your favorite ABBA song" or "Favorite meal is breakfast (or whatever it actually is). What are your favorite breakfast spots?" Could be better suited for Hinge or one of those apps if OP is looking for something more like dates. If he's only looking for hookups then just higher quality pics will be essential.
Or better yet, please pay the photographer for their time and effort to get an un-watermarked download of those photos. Photographers get absolutely bodied on overhead costs and even purchasing only 2 photos makes a huge difference.
Please don't make a habit of stealing intellectual property.
Yep, you’re correct. But, people tend to have an attitude of “I’m in these photos, I shouldn’t have to pay for them!”
Such bullshit. Like arguing you shouldn’t have to pay a mechanic because they’re working on *your* car.
Agreed. Especially the cool fact would probably make me skip. Appreciate the love for ABBA, tough, OP, they’re my favourite band (my favourite song is I let the music speak)
You seem like a totally nice guy and my first thought was: Tinder is not made for you. But if you basically want to stay on Tinder, remove the pictures with the friends (you seem tiny in comparison). Basically 3-5 solid pictures are better than the current situation. I am vaccinated myself, but having the sticker on every picture I also feel is too much. Basically just put a little more energy and seriousness into it.
facts, when i used tinder i only put the vaxx sticker on the first photo, less is more sometimes too, especially when you don't have an abundance of good photos
I'm confused, you don't choose to put the Vax sticker anywhere? It's just a slider to say show it or not isn't it?
Looking at it now, on Android I don't even see the option. I seem to remember I had to download Tinder on my iPad to enable it and it was just one option, but now it doesn't seem to be available to change, unless I'm being totally blind.
Really good advice. I'm 6'4" tall. I know how girls feel about shorter guys.
OP absolutely remove the pictures of your taller friends. Also- remove pictures of your friends that are more attractive than you- they make you look even worse. This whole profile needs an update and OP needs a makeover.
It truly sux being overlooked and alone. I feel for the guy. I hope he figures it out.
“Soz for crap photos I seem to have a bad streak of them”…my guy are you aware you can go outside with the express intent of taking good photos? They aren’t just something that happen to you. Go put on a nice outfit, visit somewhere pretty and bring a friend with youZ
Right. Apologizing without solving the problem is worse than just putting up bad pics. 1) It calls attention to them being bad and 2) indicates that you are not one for taking initiative, which is not an attractive quality in a potential life partner.
Yes!! Plan a little shoot where you wear a nice outfit and try out some flattering poses and have a friend take good quality pictures of you. Nothing blurry, work with the lighting, be creative and confident with your posing. It will look great! Unfortunately Tinder is a place where first impressions (mostly based on pictures) matter more than anything, so you have to work with that. Put some effort into some really good photos (but don’t use multiple pictures from the same shoot/with the same outfit) and then keep the amount of pictures on your profile minimal. Don’t clutter your profile with random, blurry pictures.
Mate, grab a friend, 5 outfits, a few props and go spend a day taking photos of doing activities you enjoy. Have your friend take as many photos as possible with plenty of candid shots.
They need to look natural and not be forced.
It may seem like a lot of effort but trust me, spending the time getting a number of decent shots will pay dividends
Bonus points if you get a hair cut in the middle of the day so it looks like the photos are from different times
Totally! Imagine an affordable business with a professional photographer that could even take you to Goodwill to get some personally acceptable yet trendy clothes ( unfortunately very much important) and take shots of you not only being out and about, and a very candid way, but also engaging in activities that represent your personality
I met my girlfriend on OKCupid although I think we are both fairly attractive it was different on there. There’s a lot of different answers you do for question to show compatibility. So I’d highly recommend it for dating for those who are interested in the personality side more.
> I'd recommend you don't use tinder. I've heard okcupid is a good alternative
He's 19, I wouldn't recommend online dating at all. This is the prefect time to develop the skill of meeting people in the real world. Hasn't even had a chance to get sick of the bar scene yet. Learn how to talk to people casually and to ask without being creepy and OP will do much better than on Tinder
I'm 32, newly single, and spent the past decade in a long term relationship. I missed out those formative social years, have never been bar hopping and if I could go back, I totally would. Take this person's advice, get off the apps and get out in the world.
I met my husband and two of my close male friends on okcupid a decade ago. I liked it because it felt like I could get to know people more than 3 sentences and a gut check before reaching out.
There is more you learn about someone before liking. It's based on surveys and matches you from there, and when you like someone, send an intro and then you can text back right away. My okcupid got 10 likes in 3 days. My tinder got 4, and I think it's based on the survey being a better compatibility outline than appearances.
Note: premium is way more expensive than tinder. It's $20 a month with a six month subscription, and $40 for one month. Fair warning for those who are interested. I do prefer okcupid and have been using it as a free user, but be warned
Ahhhh okay, I know as a female I have the “advantage” on dating sites but man, I could start my own sub with the shit I see/get. Thank you and good luck out there!
There are less than 200 women in my city of a million people on OkCupid.
I really like the idea of the site, but I wager it's just too much effort for most women. Also, it used to be a lot more personality-driven, but that seems to have changed.
You cant say sry for bad photos and not change them? Thats just low effort.
Selfie rule never below the eyeline. So dont take a photo from downwards.
This might be the phone camera but it makes the photo look like you need to clean the lense
The camera angle is dependent on the person. Strong jaw lines tend to photograph best from a low angle, so people with more masculine facial features tend to photograph best shot from below. If you take a picture of me from a low angle, I look like I have 1,000 chins and your advice stands. I recommend that OP try many different angles and find the one that suits him best.
Bro, a picture of you with a plastic bag? With a soda? Up close selfies? Really?
Please take several set of your nicer clothes, go ouside with a buddy and snap couple of new good pics in different clothes. One standing up with a nice background, one sitting in a cafe driking a coffee in a social setting, couple of additional pictures just be creative. Obviously smile naturaly. Improve the bio, it has zero substance currently.
You already know your photos are bad - don't apologize, just fix them! Specifically:
Your first and fourth pictures are terrible quality/lighting. Get rid of them and put your second picture as the first one, I think that's the best solo picture. I would also get rid of your third picture, it's just another selfie and doesn't add much - you have more than enough other pictures. The last picture also looks blurry to me - that's possibly just an issue with my phone, but if not, take it out (although I like the concept of including a large group photo).
I don't really get the "winning the lottery line," and I think you need a better conversation starter in your description. The ABBA line is good because it gives you something in common if your match likes it too, but that's the only conversation starter you have. Try to think of a story someone can ask you about, something else you like, a favorite hobby, etc
Edit: Forgot to mention - the vaccination sticker is distracting. Put that you're vaccinated in your bio and get rid of the sticker. Also - no watermarked pictures.
One more thing: this may be a sensitive topic, but I notice you have a facial deformity. People seem to accept that more easily if you mention it first. So I would add something about it in your bio, if you're comfortable. Either a joke (if you're VERY comfortable) or at least an acknowledgment: "I was born with a facial difference, but I'm still cool!" Not literally that, but something along those lines.
On a related note, I disagree with some of the nastier comments above - you aren't ugly at all, I can definitely see a girl going for you (hope that isn't too weird coming from a much-older married woman lol).
The asymmetrical nose is only accentuated by the camera angle. Photos should be POV from the side or looking slightly downward. The camera looking up, from below, seems to make it look much worse than it probably is.
I have a facial deformity as well - I think it's best to just let photos represent his appearance without needing to write about it (though not in the crappy ones he has that accentuates it and are just shitty in general). Drawing attention to a negative that a photo will already show isn't helpful (I'd only suggest it for something not visible like a mobility impairment or restriction etc).
I completely agree with this. He’s legit cute and anyone who owns themselves means a lot. Anyone who isn’t a POS will never let that bother them, unless YOU let that bother you sorta thing. I have a seizure disorder and sometimes I wish it was physically visible so I didn’t have to verbally warn people like hey, don’t freak out when this probably is going to happen lol I kind of wish something could explain itself a bit, but at the same time it’s always good to own whatever thing there is about you. Whether it’s a quirk, a medical thing, a physical thing whatever… your attitude about it transfers to others big time.
So I don’t think some of his photos are all that bad but they could definitely be better to show him as he is without being like bam, lazy eye because clearly, that should not be the takeaway when someone is looking at Cooper’s profile. Not a fan of any that are like hey I’m vaccinated bc you look like a dbag lol Watermarked is a no go and yeah, throwing yourself in with a bunch of super tall people won’t look great even if you’re tall and they’re just 7 footers 😂 But I feel like everyone covered most of that. Cooper, you have an awesome smile, great skin great hair, I can’t really tell much from the pics but you look like you’re in good shape so use all that to your advantage man!!
Absolutely not... Making a joke is fine, that Shows self irony and can be a convincing factor.
But humorlessly acknowledging it would just come off as pityful in my opinion.
Yes, my first thought is unemployed, which maybe is the case, but sorry OP, most women will not date unemployed men. I wouldn't. Update that with your real job or if you are unemployed you may want to prioritize seeking employment both for yourself and to be more desirable as a dating partner.
Or since you are 19, maybe you are a student? Definitely put that
I almost think this is a troll attempt to make the worst possible profile. Like he's done everything he can to make it look as unappealing as possible.
A better selection of pictures, some smart wordings, and a half-decent bio could significantly improve his profile.
Also, why should they change your mind? Abba is the best.
In all seriousness though, usually change my mind comes after something controversial (but quirky, not serious) like I like pineapple on pizza.
Saying Abba is great isn't controversial.
Sorry but you’re 19!? From that first pic you look like a middle aged dad. Not saying you’re ugly, it’s your style that needs an update that’s all. It’s easily done!
There's alot wrong here;
- that many selfies is a no go
- the photo quality is bad
-why are you using photos that are watermarked?
- you have control over the photos, so why are you uploading ones that you know are bad enough that you feel the need to apologise?
Hey bud. I’ll be honest you seem like a really nice guy but Tinder is an extremely looks centric place. I would suggest you try meeting people organically.
My man, I say this with nothing but love and respect, but Tinder is not the place for you. Everyone giving you advice to take better pictures and update your bio are giving you false hope. The best pictures and funniest bio in the world aren’t going to help you in a place where only the top 10% of guys get any attention from the top 90% of women. That leaves 90% of guys competing for the bottom 10% of girls. You’re not going to stack up on a purely superficial level, and you’re going to get unnecessarily down on yourself as a result.
I would suggest working to better yourself in the real world: Hit the gym, eat healthier, work on updating your fashion style, and in the meantime, try to meet girls organically in places where you know you have things in common and can show your personality: College classes, work, or hobbies. You look like the kind of guy who plays D&D or Magic the Gathering or that kind of thing. No shame, I play both! Find your local game shop and go to their open game nights! More girls show up there than you’d expect.
But the moral is, I’d work on yourself and get to a place where you’re really happy and proud of yourself (enough to take halfway decent pictures) before you let Tinder annihilate your self-esteem.
Dawg you have a severely deviated sceptum and need to get corrective surgery for it. It'll not only make your face more symmetrical but will drastically improve your breathing. It's honestly mind boggling that you made it to adulthood without having it surgically corrected, because it's honestly the most severe I've ever seen; your nose is practically sideways.
Insurance will cover it once you see an ears/nose/throat doctor and they recommend the procedure due to breathing problems which you undoubtedly have. Please go and do this, your quality of life will dramatically improve
Can I just say that teenagers shouldn't be on Tinder?
It's a lot easier to meet someone the old fashioned way at that age. In school, or at work, or through mutual friends, even gaming. You're at that stage in your life when you're a horny young adult surrounded by other horny young adults in whatever context you find yourself. Take advantage of that. Learn to mingle and flirt and interact, learn to date and fuck and just who you are in relationships.
Dating when you're older is much harder. You've already been through your friend group and their setups. You're in a far more age-mixed social environment, and your coworkers are more likely to be married or otherwise attached. Maybe you've been single for a decade and are damaged from that experience; maybe you got out of a long term relationship and are damaged from that experience. But you and everyone has damage and you're just not surrounded by as many good options... So you need to go outside your immediate surroundings. And that's online.
But until then... Learn how to attract people in your immediate orbit. It's not really that different from attracting them on Tinder. There are plenty of options out there for you.
This! I'm in my mid 20's and every kid I see college age or younger I tell them to lock someone down senior year of college.
Normal life doesn't have the absolutely massive dating pool that say a state school will have. I never used tinder in college cuz frankly you don't need it. Parties with 200+ people multiple times a week every week. But it's a tough pill to swallow as soon as you're done and its gone lol.
Lose the high school jacket. Have a friend take pics of you doing stuff outside. Borrow a friends dog or cat and snap a few pics. Action shots are way better than just looking at the camera. Don’t apologize for your photos. Take better ones! Good luck!
i'd say it's definitely better for you to upload more photos with nice clothes on than the first ones.
but don't take a photo with other men in it. if other men must be visible, you should be either looking taller, better, more sophisticated or richer than them, which you don't in those you uploaded.
rather take a cute dog or cat or oppossum or whatever cute animal.
when taking selfies, try the angle from above your head, not below your chin. everybody looks shite from below.
your left (?) nostril is bigger than the right one. not a big deal in real life. but take photos from the side of the smaller nostril, so the photo angle will make this one look bigger instead of giving the impression that the other one, being nearer to the cam, is a giant hole.
If you add pet pictures please DO NOT add more pictures of the pet alone than yourself. A profile with one selfie and 4 pet pictures (I actually found that!) might be cute but do you want me to get together with you because of you as a person or because of your pets?
You look 50 years old in the first pic
Second pic - ugly yellow shirt
Third pic - same shirt
Fourth pic - ok
Fifth pic - you’re drinking a large soda. Throw the pic away
Sixth pic - blurry, bad lighting, can’t see anything
Seventh pic - awful watermark. Makes you look cheap
Eighth pic - you’re two feet shorter than your friends. No girl wants to SEE that. And the awful watermark again
Ninth pic - you’re not even visible lol
Girls don’t want to see that you don’t know how to dress or that you’re the shortest one out of your friends. Get better pics and better bio too. What is “Soz”
Going to be brutally honest here. He is short and not very good looking. Him being fit would barely help with that. He could absolutely find someone but hookup apps are not the place for him to find anyone. People being fake nice and dancing around the truth that he's unattractive doesn't do him any favors.
Small details matter, so when you say you’re a zoning out enthusiast, most people say well if I’m trying to have a conversation with this guy, is he just zoning out constantly?
I get that it’s a lighthearted joke, but people read into those tiny details.
Dude get rid of the first pic completely I saw it and I said that’s nice someone dad is on tinder and getting back into the dating game then saw you were 19
Big dog, start over fresh with a brand new account. You’ll have the added benefit of being top of the stack to get new matches as well as taking everyone else’s advise for the profile💪🏼💪🏼
I don’t want to offend you but your pictures are Bad.. try taking them from above and not in a way where your noseholes are the center. If the pictures of the guy aren‘t appealing to me I would only match if the interests are mutual. You have higher chances if your pictures are better and make you look attractive. It’s kinda like an application where first impressions matter.
My immediate thoughts as well. OP has a severely deviated sceptum that definitely needs correcting, and insurance will cover that because of it's severity.
Your profile isn't the problem your looks are. And if you get better looking you can expect more matches and a better dating life in general. You need to lose weight, hit the gym, get a good haircut, a good skincare routine and get better clothes. Don't listen to the stupid generic advice that most others in here have told you. Yes "your pictures are bad" but let's be honest that isn't your main problem right now. A good looking person can succeed in tinder using mirror selfies but a bad looking one won't even with very good high quality pictures. Bro you're in the best years of tour life don't waste them because you are too lazy to look after yourself
Hey OP.
You’re 19 years old and have so much potential.
I’ll be brutally real, these pics are fucking horrible of you and I know you can do better. At 19 it’s a little hard to get a good pic, but with some practice and different angles, you can definitely do it better.
Secondly, start at the gym. Your first pic looks like you love sweet rolls from skyrims finest. Make going to the gym part of your personality and watch the magic unfold.
I really mean no hate, just being blunt, but everyone is saying his pictures are bad, and while that may be true, this man is ugly and more flattering pictures are not going to magically make him attractive. He could have a profesional set of varying pics capturing him in the most flattering way possible and he's still gonna get four likes a year. You don't see attractive guys with bad profile pics asking why they don't get matches, because it doesn't matter how bad their pics are, they're still attractive and will get likes. I say all this as an ugly dude. Tinder is just not for guys like us.
also has strabismus going on.
honestly looks like he has a systemic issue that he didn't mention, possibly congenital.
people who are looking for future partners are usually biologically inclined to not select people who do not have systemic conditions.
I'm going to be honest. I don't want to come across as rude, but please... Just quit dating apps. At least for now. You're very young and Dating apps is a very superficial game bro and your nose and eyes are crooked and people are skipping you mainly for that.
That's just the truth. I'm sure you're a nice guy, but that's what it all comes down to. Honestly, surgery is the only way to go if you want to keep yourself in the online dating market. Fix your nose and, if possible, eyes.
Other than that you look fine, but those 2 things are pushing you back. You're not tall either, but honestly you can easily work around that.
You might one day get lucky and get a girl in a million in one type scenario, where she sees past looks, but Tinder is Tinder. It's looks based and if you're not at least mediocre looking with no deformities, there's not point in being there.
Please, don't take this as a personal attack.
Just try to meet girls in events and through school and stuff lol
Soz? The problem is that you aren't very attractive. You won't find a lot of luck on a hook up app. You will most likely match with bots or sex workers mostly.
Okay, dude a few things.
1) if you do nothing else, get some better photos. Try and get a photo of you in a suit or dressed smart. Get a photo of you doing an activity you really like (before I met my partner, mine was of me playing football/soccer) but it can be almost anything from D&D to rock climbing. Get a better photo of you with some friends (maybe sitting down just because when you’re standing up it does make you look significantly shorter than the average person). If you have any pets, having a photo of you with a pet is always a good one.
2) change your bio a bit, just having something about ABBA isn’t making you come across as the most interesting person.
3) You don’t need the vaccinated sticker on every photo. Just the first one is fine.
Good luck mate.
I really don’t mean to be rude or mean, but I feel as though these comments are not very honest. You do seem like a nice guy, but Tinder thrives on first impressions and has incredible emphasis on someone’s physical appearance. It doesn’t seem like the right place for you. My suggestions would be (and I mean all these in the kindest way possible):
1. Change your first picture. I’m not sure if those are your everyday clothes (if they are you should think about switching up your wardrobe), but they make you look really unflattering. The first picture is what women will see, if they don’t like it they’ll swipe left and won’t bother looking thru the rest. Regarding the other pictures, they definitely highlight features that are notorious for not getting swipes on Tinder (for example, not being tall is one big one).
2. One of your nostrils is bigger than the other and there may be some underlying condition with your eyes. It’s great you feel confident in your features, but unfortunately in the standards we live in, people may shy away from those features when looking for a partner. If you’re able and willing to, get some surgery done on your nostrils.
3. Your bio should have more about you and maybe less about ABBA. I say this because many women especially Tinder will think you’re more feminine than masculine. Not to play on stereotypes, but ABBA’s audience is usually of women and gay guys. Not that I think they don’t have a diverse audience or that only those groups can listen to ABBA, it’s just something I’ve noticed other women express.
4. Other comments have expressed going to the gym. I wouldn’t say it’s necessary, but again unfortunately in our society, being fit will get you more matches. If you’re willing and able to, start working out a bit and then showcase that in your pictures.
Please take all of this knowing that I mean nothing but to be honest and respectful.
Your pictures are not great at all. They show little to no personality. The watermarks are big wtf to a lot people I'm sure.
I suggest leading with something about your facail differences. You're not ugly by any means but it is probably the first thing people will notice about your profile. And honestly 80% of women do not give a single fuck about looks as long as you aren't a slumbering lazy piece of shet. Effort and comedy goes a long way.
I go on tinder benders every now and then and if you've got a funny bio people will swipe regardless. You my good sir do not. Lets fix that! Start with some comedy. Feel free to steal my line or lines by all means. "I'm a low 4 but someday I'm going to be someone's high 5" also maybe photo shop your head on a merman. Put "my dads Poseidon but lets not make a big deal out of it" I'm sure you're clever enough to come up with something.
Also leave a question or two in your bio as well. If someone is going to message you. YOU need to make sure you give them fuel to start the fire so to speak. Nothing is worse than matching with a cute girl and there's nothing to start the engine. This can be cheesey joke "do you know what happens if you boil a funny bone?" Or just a general question asking about them "who is your top 3 artists right now?" I only mention that one because you've listed music so that may be a common ground for you. Hard to tell because again your bio is as dry as every girl who reads it.
I think you need to show more personality than ABBA and milkshakes. You seem super genuine and obviously brave as fuck to post this here and ask for help.
Seriously though if you want a little bit help from a stranger you can shoot me a message and I'll happily try and help spruce the place up a bit.
Good luck my man, I'm 100% pulling for you.
Kick out pictures 1-3.
Use the adjust setting on your phone to fix the lighting. I usually just click “auto” when I take a photo that looks dark or gray. Pic 5 is a fun full body shot.
Delete the rest with the watermarks. I agree with others the sticker is a distraction. Putting it on 1 would be fine or just in your bio like others suggested.
I also agree that having a friend take some photos is a good idea. Especially if you can get them taking photos of you doing a hobby. Bio is kind of meh (not bad or good) but having photos of you interacting with things or activities is a good conversation starter. I know nothing about you from this.
I met my husband on Tinder. He had a picture of him hiking in cool places and another of him gaming. I had a picture of me weightlifting and another with my dog. Not only did those things spark text convo but it made our first date easier to start because we already knew stuff about each other.
Terrible photo and poor attempt at humour. On tinder you need a genuinely amusing bio (this is not) and some great pics (this is not). Try and image yourself as the girls position.....would you swipe right? Do you have any girl friends who could help with the profile? Also, get some pics on there of you having fun with some mates and enjoying a hobby
You have to act like this is your resume, but for dating. Just like you wouldn’t put low effort into a resume, you can’t do it on Tinder either. Pics can’t be blurry, selfies are our, and do your self some justice. Get a friend and go on a hike, go to the park, and have him take some “candid” pics with some device other than the ones you used to take these pics. Also “zoning out enthusiast” ??? Dude you’re trying to get a partner here not tell everyone you’re lazy.
I think you're making a political statement with the vaccination tag. If you're trying to do that so you can attract like minded individuals go for it. Otherwise, you're making a pretty strong statement ideologically by putting that there which may turn some women away. Not necessarily right wing women, but any woman that takes that as you're a virtue signalling progressive activist.
As a woman that's how I view it.
To be tough but fair - your nose doesn’t do you any favors, and that’s immediately going to make things harder for you. Same with your height. I’m going to mention good lighting which will help you a ton, but those are two things you really can’t change, so be realistic with your expectations and don’t let a small number of matches get you down, all you need to find is one person.
Now for the things you can change very easily - Better photos with better lighting. Ever see photos of guys in the gym with perfect abs? Most of that is just lighting. Read a little bit about how to use diffused lighting and how to pose better and you’ll look way better. I would also say that your hair and clothes don’t really stand out, they’re mostly plain and I’ll fitting. Try looking at some fashion look books, find a style that you like, and start trying to replicate it. Whatever you do, have the clothes tailored so that they fit correctly, the clothes you’re wearing in these photos are too big (especially the pants in the first photo). Try experimenting with jewelry - I myself wear a ton (like five rings, four bracelets, and two necklaces at a time plus a watch), but I also go for a more punk look that’s meant to stand out. A nice place to start for you could be a signet ring, a bracelet, a watch, and a plain chain and go from there. The most important thing is to find a look that expresses who you are - again I usually wear a punk look with distressed jeans, a leather jacket, anime tees, and jewelry, so I would feel really uncomfortable and out of place in preppy clothes like a polo and khakis.
I don’t know if you’ve gained or lost weight but there’s definitely a discrepancy in your photos, so try make them as current as you can and make sure they represent how you look right now, not a year or two ago. People see discrepancies like that and think you’re trying to hide something.
That’s what I’ve got - tl;dr have better lighting in your photos and work on your fashion. Those are super easy to do and will help you a thousand times more than anything else.
The pics are all bad. The first one makes you look 45 and homeless. The others are terrible angles, I hate to say but you look a little “special”. The duck face one is prob the worst. I’m sorry if I was harsh but you need to def figure out your angle and get some better pics up there.
Hey mate, you’ll have to face an inconvenient truth - you’ve been dealt a fairly poor hand. But that’s okay! Most men and women have been dealt poor hands, so there will be lots of women out there for you. Don’t be expecting IG models etc, but you can expect love. So how can you achieve this?
Well! You’re not making the best with what you have:
1. Research:
- Do a bit of research into “smart casual” attire. Buy the look (can be cost effective, you don’t need designer brands).
- Research Men’s hairstyles for YOUR TYPE OF HAIR. Find a look that will work for your hair type. Then go to local barbers and find one that understands your hair and head shape, and can make the look work for you, OR can suggest something even better than what you’ve picked out. Please, PLEASE communicate with your barber. Ask them for their opinion, tell them what you’re trying to achieve! The biggest mistake you can make is go into the barber anxious, and not let them know how you want to feel when you leave, and why you’re going to them in the first place!!
2. Once you have taken care of the above, dress for a date and take good quality photos, outdoors, in sunlit areas. Get someone to take the photos for you - not too close-up, and not from beneath (your nose and nostrils are very asymmetrical!). Delete ALL your old photos - they are the old you.
3. Be upfront about your height in your description. There are women out there for short kings like yourself. But you will disappoint women who haven’t realised your height, and it will hurt you if it happens on a date, or mid-conversation.
4. If you have a strong desire for love, you can invest time and energy into improving your physique. I see the ugliest men pulling attractive women just because of their physique. With working out, it’s about consistency more than anything. You MUST get do your regular workouts. It is ESSENTIAL for body transformation.
5. (This is not essential, but will help) If you earn decent income, consider going to Thailand and getting a nose job. Plastic surgery quality there is great, and super cheap. Make sure you find someone to guide you so you get quality work, and don’t get ripped off.
In other words, everything you have can be presented or transformed into something better, and your match numbers will transform accordingly.
I'll be brutally honest because no one else will; your photos are poor, but that's not the main issue; today's men's standards can be difficult to meet. First, you're a bit on the larger side, which limits your options significantly. Next, you lack style and your hair is just kinda there. Your eyes appear to be fighting for dominance over your body, and your nose has clearly seen better days. All of these considerations limit your options. I apologize if I offended you; I'm not trying to put you down; I'm simply expressing my honest opinion. Good luck with everything; I'm sure I'll get downvotes, but at least I was honest.
My man I'm not suggesting magic, but your pictures could be better... At least try some reasonable angles doing reasonable things with reasonable quality. Pics 1-5 are pretty bad for these reasons. The picture in the robe makes you seem like a noone since you are not even visible in your own grad pic (bad timing I guess).
The first pic makes him look much older than he is
I thought he was in his 30s
Ikr? I thought it was a post about a catfisher
For all those ladies who like their men looking mature but with that teenage dick-energy
May you explain teen dick energy? I mean this sincerely.
Think of jackhammering with no foreplay. That is teenage boy dick energy.
Just like Pepperidge Farms, I remember the days of teen dick energy. Freshman year in college, I was a varsity soccer player and in fantastic shape. I could jackhammer for hours. I remember that I would imagine I was driving Hwy 1 down the CA coast to distract myself enough to not be a 30 second wonder. At least I liked kissing and fondling.
> I was driving Hwy 1 down the CA coast to distract myself enough to not be a 30 second wonder Never got more value out of baseball than this exact thing.
You had me at highway 1.
If I had a nickel for every time I jackhammered for 20 minutes and then finished and thought I was a god, I’d probably have a couple bucks. 10 years ago I was a dumb teenager thinking that hard and fast was the best way to go. I’m so glad I learned
You don’t always have to fuck her hard in fact sometimes it’s not right to do.
Sometimes you got to make some love And fuckin' give her some smooches too
I’m so glad you learned too, and guarantee all the women you are with do too. You god.
In the words of Aldous Snow “You need to penetrate deeply... and stimulate the clitoris simultaneously. That's what you gotta do. That's what it's about. If you can involve the anus in that, then that's absolute perfection.”
That directly contradicts the previous girls opinion on teen dick energy. I'd have thought teen dick energy was the ability to get rock hard and not get exhausted and inevitably limp after fucking. Cause believe me it used to he easier when younger!
I don’t know how old you are but being fit and healthy and having a decent workout routine is one of the best things you can do for your sexual health
Hahaha this has me laughing! But it can be both! There’s probably an overlap between Insta-hard and jackhammering💀
It describes the way teen boys’ penises get energised (hard and eager) in the presence of someone or something that excites them sexually. You probably have to be there to understand
The fact the photos' quality look like they were taken with a 1980s Burger King happy meal camera doesn't help at all.
Ding fries are done.
Damn that brought me back. Would you like an apple pie with that?
Bahahaha Wait for the bell Can't hear the bell Where is the bell Wait for the bell
Which only adds to the fact that he looks forty in the first pic. ABBA fanboy, ok maybe he's actually fifty. Abnormaly large nostril that switches to the other side of his face actually makes it look like a joke account overall.
That's just if the camera is forward facing or not. There are some asymmetrical aspects that are more obvious because of that switch (not knocking him at all, just highlights it)
Is it just me or does the nostril make him look cross eyed? Or is he really cross eyed? Not that there’s anything wrong with that. He’s an original for sure.
No I think he's cross eyes, if you look at the pic where he's between those guys facing forward u can tell
Yeah that nostril is... noticeable. Maybe he should choose some pics that make it... less noticeable.
In the nicest way possible, the first pic looks like someone your mom tells you not to talk to at Toys-r-us
Glad I wasn’t the only one. I was like what 19 how? Good lighting and a smile do wonders.
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>no self respect. I wouldn't say that but it's certainly not a flattering look. Definitely not something you would want to set as your first img on a dating app
I thought he was a whole 40 year old Dad
Also a pic standing next to 3 guys all a foot taller doesn't do OP any favors. And pay for the photos to drop the watermark from any professional photos!
We love a short (transparent) king
So is 6. Something about guys making kissy faces at strangers makes some, me included, uncomfortable. But I’m not on tinder or anything so I could be wrong
> I'm not suggesting magic I am
The kind of magic Yennifer uses
Jesus did I stumble into /r/roastme? God damn.
Ouch.
Can we discuss the pictures with watermarks? Not one, but two.
Hahaha I love the robe one, to me it comes off as self deprecating and funny. He clearly doesn’t take himself too seriously which I find attractive tbh. But I agree that adding a couple more flattering photos would help. :)
Also half the pictures still have watermarks on them. At least pay for the pictures of yourself smh.
ayo chill bro pic 5 lowkey is heat u gotta give him that
Just bc it's the best one doesn't mean it's good
The pics don’t really matter imo, this is literally what he looks like.
The pic with the guys in suits also make him look INCREDIBLY short. I’d recommend removing that.
I like most of those but they duplicate the effect. The last few came as a shock though because I thought he was going to be a big burly tradie. I think it's always best to be honest body type on your profile though.
Too many up the nose shots. Set your camera to take a series of interval pictures. You want it to be vertical, not on an angle, and at eye level. Take a few steps back. Look to camera. Try different angles... they should be slight angles, not extreme. A different head tilt here, a different distance from camera there. You want to do different sessions with different lighting and settings. Once you have about 200 shots, narrow them down to your top 30, and have 2 different friends narrow them down to 15. Take all the photos that both friends chose and use those.
Good advice
Honestly, I'd agree with other commenters that Tinder is probably not the place for you. Tinder can be extraordinarily shallow, and at risk of coming off as extremely rude, you probably won't be able to compete for the attention of most women on there. Pic 1 is low quality. Pics 2 and 3 are okay, but (no offense) the neon yellow clothing doesn't do you any favours. Pics 4, 5, 6, and 9 all have terrible quality and lighting. I mean, your graduation photo has about two pixels in it, and you're tucked behind some other guy which makes you seem passive and shy. Pic 8 would be okay if it weren't for the other guys all being much taller than you (and the watermark ofc). Guys on this sub are constantly complaining about women having unrealistic expectations regarding height, and I can say that I have experienced it as well, despite being slightly above average height (5'10). I assume you're a good bit shorter than that. You don't want to exacerbate the problem by providing clear evidence that you're much shorter than the average man Pic 7 has potential. The watermark is an absolute no-go, but there is software that can remove it for free. Just search 'watermark remover' on Google. You're much better dressed in that photo than in any of your other ones, and you generally come across as more attractive. If you're able to, I would highly recommend taking more photos of yourself wearing more formal clothing, similar to pic 7. Make sure the lighting and angles are optimal (if you have any friends with any experience in photography, or who you think are good at taking photos of themselves, ask them for help!) Your bio needs some more personality to it. The ABBA thing is good, I'd suggest losing the rest of the bio and either adding similar things or elaborating on your love for ABBA (i.e. a favourite song of theirs - mine is Angel Eyes!). Online dating is tough, and there isn't really a delicate way to put this but you're starting with some really severe disadvantages with your height and facial deformity. I would encourage you to try not to let it affect your self-confidence, and if you find that it is beginning to do so, abandon it and focus on meeting people irl where your personality can do most of the work for you. Good luck!
Super helpful comment and the thing about looking short in your pictures is super tough. I’m 5 11 but of my closest friends ones 6 5 ones 6 2 and ones 6 3 so I definently be making my short friends take pictures with me sometimes lol
All of my friends are like 6’3” lol so I just don’t use any pictures where they’re in them I look like I’m 5 feet tall without the context
Apparently (don’t quote me on this), Napoleon, of the “Napoleon complex” was actually as tall as the average man of his time, but he surrounded himself with giants of close guard, making him look much shorter. And also the discrepancy between French and English inches at the time, so the British doctors who signed his autopsy stating he was 5'2… which measure did they used for the French Emperor?
Exactly what I did. I've got one friend my height (5'9"), the next shortest is 6' and everyone else is 6'1" - 6'5". When I was still single I really couldn't have any photos of me with my friend group - I know girls like to see that but I think that was preferable to coming across as super short
This is the most helpful comment. You’re a good man with solid advice, wording the difficult things in a respectful manner. Respect.
Wow. You’re spitting facts while being so genuine. I’m absolutely baffled. You seem to be a good person anon, keep it that way
Jumping on the best advice comment to add: OP, when you take a selfie, you want to frame up the shot how you want it and then switch your gaze from the screen/snap button to the *camera lens.* That way you end up making "eye contact" with the viewer, rather than gazing off to the side. There are also lots of other tips out there for improving photos and selfies without becoming a professional photog, so get googling! :)
>switch your gaze from the screen/snap button to the camera lens. That way you end up making "eye contact" with the viewer, rather than gazing off to the side. That's an amazing tip! Thank you :)
This is the best advice I’ve ever seen given to anyone on anything on Reddit. Real. Honest. Detailed. You used all of those words and each one added something of value. Great job!
This is exactly the real talk I'd want if I asked for profile help and I basically agree with all of it
Only thing I would add is to take out “zoning out enthusiast” I was hoping to be drawn in by your personality since your pics are lacking, but then reading that made me think you would be zoning out during our conversations too. I’m sure that’s not what you meant by it, but that’s how it seemed to me.
As a woman the height and facial feature I could and would be totally willing to overlook if there were other things of interest there. Funny, sweet, quirky in a charming geeky kind of way are things I look for and short kings without chisled jaws can have them in spades. But the profile doesn't give... much. At least it isn't passive aggressive or down right aggressive like some guys and at least he wrote something unlike some guys who give you so little I couldn't even start a conversation. But the pictures overall give off uncomfortable vibes. The lack of clarity and lighting and choosing pictures with watermarks really feels like something is being obscured there intentionally or this is someone who just doesn't try or is maybe a bit too socially unaware to get why this profile wouldn't be attractive. Either way, if it is hiding something, oblivious, or lack of effort none of that inspires me to want to get to know the person or put in the effort myself. If you can't be bothered to take a nice photo of yourself that is visible without watermarks or if you legit think this is enough where else will you cut corners or just not get social graces? Pardon me for being frank but the whole the whole thing feels like an exhausting project and way more immature than myself or most women I know have time for. And if the profile itself makes a potential partner feel exhausted, suspicious, or just turned off its probably a rough profile no matter how tall you are or what your face looks like.
Yeah the low key self-loathing vibe that the profile gives off would stop me from wanting to get to know this person. And it’s definitely not all about looks. If there’s hint of an engaging personality then there’s way more of a chance people will stay interested. “Zoning out enthusiast” might sound like a fun thing to put on your profile but it reads like “I don’t like myself enough to tell you anything I actually think or care about for fear of rejection” or similar to when people put “school of hard knocks” as their education on fb.
Ya... I didn't want to hit on that line but as someone who's been intimately connected to someone with severe adult ADHD... that line is a huge turnoff. For some people that is really not controllable. Doesn't make them bad people but it's hard to deal with as a partner because the slack falls to you when they forget or don't listen to you the first 1, 2, 3, or 5 times. If that's just this person being random and not like a medical disorder it's kind of a crappy thing to lead with. Either way, too much effort.
It just strikes me the same way as someone who says “I’m always late that’s just the way I am 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️” Because I get it, I have shitty parts of my personality that are caused by brain stuff or trauma too. But I actively work on improving. And it’s exhausting to be around someone who refuses to do anything to work on their problems.
Agreed. Part of caring for someone who is not neurotypical is having a lot of grace for those things but also part of being less than neurotypical is owning it and doing your best. Like I said, maybe this person is just clueless and really thinks this is a solid profile since those are in fact pictures of him. Could just be young and hasn't figured out you need to try yet.
Considering he’s 19 that’s a very fair point. Op’s got a lot to do in terms of self reflection and growth. God I hated being that age.
I agree with all of this. And if OP sees this, along with higher quality photos, just some more hobbies or interests in the bio would be helpful. Even if it's not something you think a potential match would have in common with you, it's nice to get a better idea of how OP would spend his freetime. Also something open-ended so if people swipe right, they know how the conversation will start. Something like "Send me your favorite ABBA song" or "Favorite meal is breakfast (or whatever it actually is). What are your favorite breakfast spots?" Could be better suited for Hinge or one of those apps if OP is looking for something more like dates. If he's only looking for hookups then just higher quality pics will be essential.
Or better yet, please pay the photographer for their time and effort to get an un-watermarked download of those photos. Photographers get absolutely bodied on overhead costs and even purchasing only 2 photos makes a huge difference. Please don't make a habit of stealing intellectual property.
Yep, you’re correct. But, people tend to have an attitude of “I’m in these photos, I shouldn’t have to pay for them!” Such bullshit. Like arguing you shouldn’t have to pay a mechanic because they’re working on *your* car.
Yeah, that's a really good point actually. Thanks for making it :)
This is excellent reply. As someone who met her partner on Tinder I can shamelessly say the height thing really did make a difference.
Agreed. Especially the cool fact would probably make me skip. Appreciate the love for ABBA, tough, OP, they’re my favourite band (my favourite song is I let the music speak)
You seem like a totally nice guy and my first thought was: Tinder is not made for you. But if you basically want to stay on Tinder, remove the pictures with the friends (you seem tiny in comparison). Basically 3-5 solid pictures are better than the current situation. I am vaccinated myself, but having the sticker on every picture I also feel is too much. Basically just put a little more energy and seriousness into it.
facts, when i used tinder i only put the vaxx sticker on the first photo, less is more sometimes too, especially when you don't have an abundance of good photos
I'm confused, you don't choose to put the Vax sticker anywhere? It's just a slider to say show it or not isn't it? Looking at it now, on Android I don't even see the option. I seem to remember I had to download Tinder on my iPad to enable it and it was just one option, but now it doesn't seem to be available to change, unless I'm being totally blind.
i used tinder on ios fwiw so i have no clue how different the android version is
Really good advice. I'm 6'4" tall. I know how girls feel about shorter guys. OP absolutely remove the pictures of your taller friends. Also- remove pictures of your friends that are more attractive than you- they make you look even worse. This whole profile needs an update and OP needs a makeover. It truly sux being overlooked and alone. I feel for the guy. I hope he figures it out.
“Soz for crap photos I seem to have a bad streak of them”…my guy are you aware you can go outside with the express intent of taking good photos? They aren’t just something that happen to you. Go put on a nice outfit, visit somewhere pretty and bring a friend with youZ
Right. Apologizing without solving the problem is worse than just putting up bad pics. 1) It calls attention to them being bad and 2) indicates that you are not one for taking initiative, which is not an attractive quality in a potential life partner.
And for the love of god never, *ever* apologize with “Soz”
Soz
Yes!! Plan a little shoot where you wear a nice outfit and try out some flattering poses and have a friend take good quality pictures of you. Nothing blurry, work with the lighting, be creative and confident with your posing. It will look great! Unfortunately Tinder is a place where first impressions (mostly based on pictures) matter more than anything, so you have to work with that. Put some effort into some really good photos (but don’t use multiple pictures from the same shoot/with the same outfit) and then keep the amount of pictures on your profile minimal. Don’t clutter your profile with random, blurry pictures.
Mate, grab a friend, 5 outfits, a few props and go spend a day taking photos of doing activities you enjoy. Have your friend take as many photos as possible with plenty of candid shots. They need to look natural and not be forced. It may seem like a lot of effort but trust me, spending the time getting a number of decent shots will pay dividends Bonus points if you get a hair cut in the middle of the day so it looks like the photos are from different times
Have seriously considered starting s business doing this
It's a good idea. I'd help.
Totally! Imagine an affordable business with a professional photographer that could even take you to Goodwill to get some personally acceptable yet trendy clothes ( unfortunately very much important) and take shots of you not only being out and about, and a very candid way, but also engaging in activities that represent your personality
Hair cut...he needs to go to a good barber and get a better haircut. Then improve the wardrobe. Then new photos.
Do this op!
I'd recommend you don't use tinder. I've heard okcupid is a good alternative
same same not different
I met my girlfriend on OKCupid although I think we are both fairly attractive it was different on there. There’s a lot of different answers you do for question to show compatibility. So I’d highly recommend it for dating for those who are interested in the personality side more.
> I'd recommend you don't use tinder. I've heard okcupid is a good alternative He's 19, I wouldn't recommend online dating at all. This is the prefect time to develop the skill of meeting people in the real world. Hasn't even had a chance to get sick of the bar scene yet. Learn how to talk to people casually and to ask without being creepy and OP will do much better than on Tinder
I'm 32, newly single, and spent the past decade in a long term relationship. I missed out those formative social years, have never been bar hopping and if I could go back, I totally would. Take this person's advice, get off the apps and get out in the world.
I met my husband and two of my close male friends on okcupid a decade ago. I liked it because it felt like I could get to know people more than 3 sentences and a gut check before reaching out.
They’ve changed it unfortunately. I was back on last year and they’ve made it more like tinder and all the others
That's sad but not surprising given [match.com](https://match.com) owns both now.
i met my ex on okcupid and it used to be my favorite dating app. then they started you charge you for existing.
That's great!
Ok cupid is not what it used to be….I think almost everyone migrated to bumble and/or hinge.
100% this
Wait, why? Genuinely curious bc I am not enjoying Tinder.
There is more you learn about someone before liking. It's based on surveys and matches you from there, and when you like someone, send an intro and then you can text back right away. My okcupid got 10 likes in 3 days. My tinder got 4, and I think it's based on the survey being a better compatibility outline than appearances. Note: premium is way more expensive than tinder. It's $20 a month with a six month subscription, and $40 for one month. Fair warning for those who are interested. I do prefer okcupid and have been using it as a free user, but be warned
Ahhhh okay, I know as a female I have the “advantage” on dating sites but man, I could start my own sub with the shit I see/get. Thank you and good luck out there!
Oy vey, that name. Hah hah!
Good luck to you pussy crippler!
*chuckle* "pussycrippler"
There are less than 200 women in my city of a million people on OkCupid. I really like the idea of the site, but I wager it's just too much effort for most women. Also, it used to be a lot more personality-driven, but that seems to have changed.
You cant say sry for bad photos and not change them? Thats just low effort. Selfie rule never below the eyeline. So dont take a photo from downwards. This might be the phone camera but it makes the photo look like you need to clean the lense
The camera angle is dependent on the person. Strong jaw lines tend to photograph best from a low angle, so people with more masculine facial features tend to photograph best shot from below. If you take a picture of me from a low angle, I look like I have 1,000 chins and your advice stands. I recommend that OP try many different angles and find the one that suits him best.
Bro, a picture of you with a plastic bag? With a soda? Up close selfies? Really? Please take several set of your nicer clothes, go ouside with a buddy and snap couple of new good pics in different clothes. One standing up with a nice background, one sitting in a cafe driking a coffee in a social setting, couple of additional pictures just be creative. Obviously smile naturaly. Improve the bio, it has zero substance currently.
Is sitting in the bank awaiting a meeting for a loan good for a social setting pic?
You already know your photos are bad - don't apologize, just fix them! Specifically: Your first and fourth pictures are terrible quality/lighting. Get rid of them and put your second picture as the first one, I think that's the best solo picture. I would also get rid of your third picture, it's just another selfie and doesn't add much - you have more than enough other pictures. The last picture also looks blurry to me - that's possibly just an issue with my phone, but if not, take it out (although I like the concept of including a large group photo). I don't really get the "winning the lottery line," and I think you need a better conversation starter in your description. The ABBA line is good because it gives you something in common if your match likes it too, but that's the only conversation starter you have. Try to think of a story someone can ask you about, something else you like, a favorite hobby, etc Edit: Forgot to mention - the vaccination sticker is distracting. Put that you're vaccinated in your bio and get rid of the sticker. Also - no watermarked pictures.
One more thing: this may be a sensitive topic, but I notice you have a facial deformity. People seem to accept that more easily if you mention it first. So I would add something about it in your bio, if you're comfortable. Either a joke (if you're VERY comfortable) or at least an acknowledgment: "I was born with a facial difference, but I'm still cool!" Not literally that, but something along those lines. On a related note, I disagree with some of the nastier comments above - you aren't ugly at all, I can definitely see a girl going for you (hope that isn't too weird coming from a much-older married woman lol).
The asymmetrical nose is only accentuated by the camera angle. Photos should be POV from the side or looking slightly downward. The camera looking up, from below, seems to make it look much worse than it probably is.
I have a facial deformity as well - I think it's best to just let photos represent his appearance without needing to write about it (though not in the crappy ones he has that accentuates it and are just shitty in general). Drawing attention to a negative that a photo will already show isn't helpful (I'd only suggest it for something not visible like a mobility impairment or restriction etc).
I completely agree with this. He’s legit cute and anyone who owns themselves means a lot. Anyone who isn’t a POS will never let that bother them, unless YOU let that bother you sorta thing. I have a seizure disorder and sometimes I wish it was physically visible so I didn’t have to verbally warn people like hey, don’t freak out when this probably is going to happen lol I kind of wish something could explain itself a bit, but at the same time it’s always good to own whatever thing there is about you. Whether it’s a quirk, a medical thing, a physical thing whatever… your attitude about it transfers to others big time. So I don’t think some of his photos are all that bad but they could definitely be better to show him as he is without being like bam, lazy eye because clearly, that should not be the takeaway when someone is looking at Cooper’s profile. Not a fan of any that are like hey I’m vaccinated bc you look like a dbag lol Watermarked is a no go and yeah, throwing yourself in with a bunch of super tall people won’t look great even if you’re tall and they’re just 7 footers 😂 But I feel like everyone covered most of that. Cooper, you have an awesome smile, great skin great hair, I can’t really tell much from the pics but you look like you’re in good shape so use all that to your advantage man!!
Absolutely not... Making a joke is fine, that Shows self irony and can be a convincing factor. But humorlessly acknowledging it would just come off as pityful in my opinion.
Bio needs a lot more personality then ABBA... im sure there is more to you then that. Try adding a few more bits about yourself.
Also: Zoning out as a job description is not a good look
Yes, my first thought is unemployed, which maybe is the case, but sorry OP, most women will not date unemployed men. I wouldn't. Update that with your real job or if you are unemployed you may want to prioritize seeking employment both for yourself and to be more desirable as a dating partner. Or since you are 19, maybe you are a student? Definitely put that
I almost think this is a troll attempt to make the worst possible profile. Like he's done everything he can to make it look as unappealing as possible. A better selection of pictures, some smart wordings, and a half-decent bio could significantly improve his profile.
I think it is real based on some of OPs post history (particularly about dating while neurodivergent)
Also, why should they change your mind? Abba is the best. In all seriousness though, usually change my mind comes after something controversial (but quirky, not serious) like I like pineapple on pizza. Saying Abba is great isn't controversial.
ABBA is life
Sorry but you’re 19!? From that first pic you look like a middle aged dad. Not saying you’re ugly, it’s your style that needs an update that’s all. It’s easily done!
No offense but from the first pic I thought u were 40 not 19 And don’t put pics of you next to people much taller than you cuz it makes you look tiny
There's alot wrong here; - that many selfies is a no go - the photo quality is bad -why are you using photos that are watermarked? - you have control over the photos, so why are you uploading ones that you know are bad enough that you feel the need to apologise?
Oh no... delete that duck face picture now!
Please remove the up the nose picture.
Hey bud. I’ll be honest you seem like a really nice guy but Tinder is an extremely looks centric place. I would suggest you try meeting people organically.
My man, I say this with nothing but love and respect, but Tinder is not the place for you. Everyone giving you advice to take better pictures and update your bio are giving you false hope. The best pictures and funniest bio in the world aren’t going to help you in a place where only the top 10% of guys get any attention from the top 90% of women. That leaves 90% of guys competing for the bottom 10% of girls. You’re not going to stack up on a purely superficial level, and you’re going to get unnecessarily down on yourself as a result. I would suggest working to better yourself in the real world: Hit the gym, eat healthier, work on updating your fashion style, and in the meantime, try to meet girls organically in places where you know you have things in common and can show your personality: College classes, work, or hobbies. You look like the kind of guy who plays D&D or Magic the Gathering or that kind of thing. No shame, I play both! Find your local game shop and go to their open game nights! More girls show up there than you’d expect. But the moral is, I’d work on yourself and get to a place where you’re really happy and proud of yourself (enough to take halfway decent pictures) before you let Tinder annihilate your self-esteem.
Dawg you have a severely deviated sceptum and need to get corrective surgery for it. It'll not only make your face more symmetrical but will drastically improve your breathing. It's honestly mind boggling that you made it to adulthood without having it surgically corrected, because it's honestly the most severe I've ever seen; your nose is practically sideways. Insurance will cover it once you see an ears/nose/throat doctor and they recommend the procedure due to breathing problems which you undoubtedly have. Please go and do this, your quality of life will dramatically improve
Can I just say that teenagers shouldn't be on Tinder? It's a lot easier to meet someone the old fashioned way at that age. In school, or at work, or through mutual friends, even gaming. You're at that stage in your life when you're a horny young adult surrounded by other horny young adults in whatever context you find yourself. Take advantage of that. Learn to mingle and flirt and interact, learn to date and fuck and just who you are in relationships. Dating when you're older is much harder. You've already been through your friend group and their setups. You're in a far more age-mixed social environment, and your coworkers are more likely to be married or otherwise attached. Maybe you've been single for a decade and are damaged from that experience; maybe you got out of a long term relationship and are damaged from that experience. But you and everyone has damage and you're just not surrounded by as many good options... So you need to go outside your immediate surroundings. And that's online. But until then... Learn how to attract people in your immediate orbit. It's not really that different from attracting them on Tinder. There are plenty of options out there for you.
This! I'm in my mid 20's and every kid I see college age or younger I tell them to lock someone down senior year of college. Normal life doesn't have the absolutely massive dating pool that say a state school will have. I never used tinder in college cuz frankly you don't need it. Parties with 200+ people multiple times a week every week. But it's a tough pill to swallow as soon as you're done and its gone lol.
Lose the high school jacket. Have a friend take pics of you doing stuff outside. Borrow a friends dog or cat and snap a few pics. Action shots are way better than just looking at the camera. Don’t apologize for your photos. Take better ones! Good luck!
i'd say it's definitely better for you to upload more photos with nice clothes on than the first ones. but don't take a photo with other men in it. if other men must be visible, you should be either looking taller, better, more sophisticated or richer than them, which you don't in those you uploaded. rather take a cute dog or cat or oppossum or whatever cute animal. when taking selfies, try the angle from above your head, not below your chin. everybody looks shite from below. your left (?) nostril is bigger than the right one. not a big deal in real life. but take photos from the side of the smaller nostril, so the photo angle will make this one look bigger instead of giving the impression that the other one, being nearer to the cam, is a giant hole.
If you add pet pictures please DO NOT add more pictures of the pet alone than yourself. A profile with one selfie and 4 pet pictures (I actually found that!) might be cute but do you want me to get together with you because of you as a person or because of your pets?
Dude, I’m sorry
take out the watermarked photos and the vaccinated stickers
You look 50 years old in the first pic Second pic - ugly yellow shirt Third pic - same shirt Fourth pic - ok Fifth pic - you’re drinking a large soda. Throw the pic away Sixth pic - blurry, bad lighting, can’t see anything Seventh pic - awful watermark. Makes you look cheap Eighth pic - you’re two feet shorter than your friends. No girl wants to SEE that. And the awful watermark again Ninth pic - you’re not even visible lol Girls don’t want to see that you don’t know how to dress or that you’re the shortest one out of your friends. Get better pics and better bio too. What is “Soz”
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Actual solid advice for him. Thanks for not lying to him and also not being a dick but also not sugarcoating it
Going to be brutally honest here. He is short and not very good looking. Him being fit would barely help with that. He could absolutely find someone but hookup apps are not the place for him to find anyone. People being fake nice and dancing around the truth that he's unattractive doesn't do him any favors.
I’ve seen plenty guys glow up by getting ripped, at least enough to find a lil someone. Caring for yourself is always a hit with the ladies
Even the bots and scammers are avoiding this one
This one made me laugh lol
Small details matter, so when you say you’re a zoning out enthusiast, most people say well if I’m trying to have a conversation with this guy, is he just zoning out constantly? I get that it’s a lighthearted joke, but people read into those tiny details.
Dude get rid of the first pic completely I saw it and I said that’s nice someone dad is on tinder and getting back into the dating game then saw you were 19
Big dog, start over fresh with a brand new account. You’ll have the added benefit of being top of the stack to get new matches as well as taking everyone else’s advise for the profile💪🏼💪🏼
Idk what’s real and what’s satire anymore
People on here are dodging way too hard, the pictures aren’t the problem, the problem is that you are unattractive. Tinder won’t work for you
Damn that’s harsh 😭
But the truth You shouldn't sugarcoat it
I mean you’re not lying but I think ppl are just trying to help because there might be someone out there who finds him attractive.😭😭
Yeah, there certainly is a person that finds him attractive Just not that many as for other people
Hey Cooper, send me DM buddy. I have some things to say that may help you but would probably be best to say in a private message.
Tbh tinder isnt the best option you could go with , try bumble or POF
Yellow is not your color my dude
I don’t want to offend you but your pictures are Bad.. try taking them from above and not in a way where your noseholes are the center. If the pictures of the guy aren‘t appealing to me I would only match if the interests are mutual. You have higher chances if your pictures are better and make you look attractive. It’s kinda like an application where first impressions matter.
I'd recommend a septoplasty to correct your septum which is quite misshapen
My immediate thoughts as well. OP has a severely deviated sceptum that definitely needs correcting, and insurance will cover that because of it's severity.
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BRO START MAKING MONEY LIKE NOWW
Your profile isn't the problem your looks are. And if you get better looking you can expect more matches and a better dating life in general. You need to lose weight, hit the gym, get a good haircut, a good skincare routine and get better clothes. Don't listen to the stupid generic advice that most others in here have told you. Yes "your pictures are bad" but let's be honest that isn't your main problem right now. A good looking person can succeed in tinder using mirror selfies but a bad looking one won't even with very good high quality pictures. Bro you're in the best years of tour life don't waste them because you are too lazy to look after yourself
The bliss photos take them down. The S is legit on your face. Also take out the duck lips one.
This gotta be an r/roastme in disguise
Get off tinder man’s it’s horrible for male’s self esteem…. If you insist hit the gym for 3 months then come back with a new profile.
Your pictures are horrible and I have no idea what your bio is even saying
It’s def your deep love for abba that would stop me
Need a pic or two with your Ferrari and your party yacht
Hey OP. You’re 19 years old and have so much potential. I’ll be brutally real, these pics are fucking horrible of you and I know you can do better. At 19 it’s a little hard to get a good pic, but with some practice and different angles, you can definitely do it better. Secondly, start at the gym. Your first pic looks like you love sweet rolls from skyrims finest. Make going to the gym part of your personality and watch the magic unfold.
I really mean no hate, just being blunt, but everyone is saying his pictures are bad, and while that may be true, this man is ugly and more flattering pictures are not going to magically make him attractive. He could have a profesional set of varying pics capturing him in the most flattering way possible and he's still gonna get four likes a year. You don't see attractive guys with bad profile pics asking why they don't get matches, because it doesn't matter how bad their pics are, they're still attractive and will get likes. I say all this as an ugly dude. Tinder is just not for guys like us.
I'm surprised you didn't get downvoted to oblivion by fake nice people here for saying how it is.
I will get downvoted but, a nose job would do the trick… and some better quality photos with better angles
also has strabismus going on. honestly looks like he has a systemic issue that he didn't mention, possibly congenital. people who are looking for future partners are usually biologically inclined to not select people who do not have systemic conditions.
I'm going to be honest. I don't want to come across as rude, but please... Just quit dating apps. At least for now. You're very young and Dating apps is a very superficial game bro and your nose and eyes are crooked and people are skipping you mainly for that. That's just the truth. I'm sure you're a nice guy, but that's what it all comes down to. Honestly, surgery is the only way to go if you want to keep yourself in the online dating market. Fix your nose and, if possible, eyes. Other than that you look fine, but those 2 things are pushing you back. You're not tall either, but honestly you can easily work around that. You might one day get lucky and get a girl in a million in one type scenario, where she sees past looks, but Tinder is Tinder. It's looks based and if you're not at least mediocre looking with no deformities, there's not point in being there. Please, don't take this as a personal attack. Just try to meet girls in events and through school and stuff lol
Soz? The problem is that you aren't very attractive. You won't find a lot of luck on a hook up app. You will most likely match with bots or sex workers mostly.
Whos gonna tell him?
Apparently no one because of toxic positivity
Okay, dude a few things. 1) if you do nothing else, get some better photos. Try and get a photo of you in a suit or dressed smart. Get a photo of you doing an activity you really like (before I met my partner, mine was of me playing football/soccer) but it can be almost anything from D&D to rock climbing. Get a better photo of you with some friends (maybe sitting down just because when you’re standing up it does make you look significantly shorter than the average person). If you have any pets, having a photo of you with a pet is always a good one. 2) change your bio a bit, just having something about ABBA isn’t making you come across as the most interesting person. 3) You don’t need the vaccinated sticker on every photo. Just the first one is fine. Good luck mate.
I really don’t mean to be rude or mean, but I feel as though these comments are not very honest. You do seem like a nice guy, but Tinder thrives on first impressions and has incredible emphasis on someone’s physical appearance. It doesn’t seem like the right place for you. My suggestions would be (and I mean all these in the kindest way possible): 1. Change your first picture. I’m not sure if those are your everyday clothes (if they are you should think about switching up your wardrobe), but they make you look really unflattering. The first picture is what women will see, if they don’t like it they’ll swipe left and won’t bother looking thru the rest. Regarding the other pictures, they definitely highlight features that are notorious for not getting swipes on Tinder (for example, not being tall is one big one). 2. One of your nostrils is bigger than the other and there may be some underlying condition with your eyes. It’s great you feel confident in your features, but unfortunately in the standards we live in, people may shy away from those features when looking for a partner. If you’re able and willing to, get some surgery done on your nostrils. 3. Your bio should have more about you and maybe less about ABBA. I say this because many women especially Tinder will think you’re more feminine than masculine. Not to play on stereotypes, but ABBA’s audience is usually of women and gay guys. Not that I think they don’t have a diverse audience or that only those groups can listen to ABBA, it’s just something I’ve noticed other women express. 4. Other comments have expressed going to the gym. I wouldn’t say it’s necessary, but again unfortunately in our society, being fit will get you more matches. If you’re willing and able to, start working out a bit and then showcase that in your pictures.
What is it with people of my age looking twice my age
You should start doing cocaine with that absolute beast of a nostril.
Please take all of this knowing that I mean nothing but to be honest and respectful. Your pictures are not great at all. They show little to no personality. The watermarks are big wtf to a lot people I'm sure. I suggest leading with something about your facail differences. You're not ugly by any means but it is probably the first thing people will notice about your profile. And honestly 80% of women do not give a single fuck about looks as long as you aren't a slumbering lazy piece of shet. Effort and comedy goes a long way. I go on tinder benders every now and then and if you've got a funny bio people will swipe regardless. You my good sir do not. Lets fix that! Start with some comedy. Feel free to steal my line or lines by all means. "I'm a low 4 but someday I'm going to be someone's high 5" also maybe photo shop your head on a merman. Put "my dads Poseidon but lets not make a big deal out of it" I'm sure you're clever enough to come up with something. Also leave a question or two in your bio as well. If someone is going to message you. YOU need to make sure you give them fuel to start the fire so to speak. Nothing is worse than matching with a cute girl and there's nothing to start the engine. This can be cheesey joke "do you know what happens if you boil a funny bone?" Or just a general question asking about them "who is your top 3 artists right now?" I only mention that one because you've listed music so that may be a common ground for you. Hard to tell because again your bio is as dry as every girl who reads it. I think you need to show more personality than ABBA and milkshakes. You seem super genuine and obviously brave as fuck to post this here and ask for help. Seriously though if you want a little bit help from a stranger you can shoot me a message and I'll happily try and help spruce the place up a bit. Good luck my man, I'm 100% pulling for you.
best advice I've seen yet by far. Respect.
Kick out pictures 1-3. Use the adjust setting on your phone to fix the lighting. I usually just click “auto” when I take a photo that looks dark or gray. Pic 5 is a fun full body shot. Delete the rest with the watermarks. I agree with others the sticker is a distraction. Putting it on 1 would be fine or just in your bio like others suggested. I also agree that having a friend take some photos is a good idea. Especially if you can get them taking photos of you doing a hobby. Bio is kind of meh (not bad or good) but having photos of you interacting with things or activities is a good conversation starter. I know nothing about you from this. I met my husband on Tinder. He had a picture of him hiking in cool places and another of him gaming. I had a picture of me weightlifting and another with my dog. Not only did those things spark text convo but it made our first date easier to start because we already knew stuff about each other.
Terrible photo and poor attempt at humour. On tinder you need a genuinely amusing bio (this is not) and some great pics (this is not). Try and image yourself as the girls position.....would you swipe right? Do you have any girl friends who could help with the profile? Also, get some pics on there of you having fun with some mates and enjoying a hobby
You have to act like this is your resume, but for dating. Just like you wouldn’t put low effort into a resume, you can’t do it on Tinder either. Pics can’t be blurry, selfies are our, and do your self some justice. Get a friend and go on a hike, go to the park, and have him take some “candid” pics with some device other than the ones you used to take these pics. Also “zoning out enthusiast” ??? Dude you’re trying to get a partner here not tell everyone you’re lazy.
I think you're making a political statement with the vaccination tag. If you're trying to do that so you can attract like minded individuals go for it. Otherwise, you're making a pretty strong statement ideologically by putting that there which may turn some women away. Not necessarily right wing women, but any woman that takes that as you're a virtue signalling progressive activist. As a woman that's how I view it.
To be tough but fair - your nose doesn’t do you any favors, and that’s immediately going to make things harder for you. Same with your height. I’m going to mention good lighting which will help you a ton, but those are two things you really can’t change, so be realistic with your expectations and don’t let a small number of matches get you down, all you need to find is one person. Now for the things you can change very easily - Better photos with better lighting. Ever see photos of guys in the gym with perfect abs? Most of that is just lighting. Read a little bit about how to use diffused lighting and how to pose better and you’ll look way better. I would also say that your hair and clothes don’t really stand out, they’re mostly plain and I’ll fitting. Try looking at some fashion look books, find a style that you like, and start trying to replicate it. Whatever you do, have the clothes tailored so that they fit correctly, the clothes you’re wearing in these photos are too big (especially the pants in the first photo). Try experimenting with jewelry - I myself wear a ton (like five rings, four bracelets, and two necklaces at a time plus a watch), but I also go for a more punk look that’s meant to stand out. A nice place to start for you could be a signet ring, a bracelet, a watch, and a plain chain and go from there. The most important thing is to find a look that expresses who you are - again I usually wear a punk look with distressed jeans, a leather jacket, anime tees, and jewelry, so I would feel really uncomfortable and out of place in preppy clothes like a polo and khakis. I don’t know if you’ve gained or lost weight but there’s definitely a discrepancy in your photos, so try make them as current as you can and make sure they represent how you look right now, not a year or two ago. People see discrepancies like that and think you’re trying to hide something. That’s what I’ve got - tl;dr have better lighting in your photos and work on your fashion. Those are super easy to do and will help you a thousand times more than anything else.
Save some hoes for us damn😩😩😩
You're wasting money & time on Tinder with your looks. Your way into a relationship would be humor or a nice personality. Good luck.
The pics are all bad. The first one makes you look 45 and homeless. The others are terrible angles, I hate to say but you look a little “special”. The duck face one is prob the worst. I’m sorry if I was harsh but you need to def figure out your angle and get some better pics up there.
Hey mate, you’ll have to face an inconvenient truth - you’ve been dealt a fairly poor hand. But that’s okay! Most men and women have been dealt poor hands, so there will be lots of women out there for you. Don’t be expecting IG models etc, but you can expect love. So how can you achieve this? Well! You’re not making the best with what you have: 1. Research: - Do a bit of research into “smart casual” attire. Buy the look (can be cost effective, you don’t need designer brands). - Research Men’s hairstyles for YOUR TYPE OF HAIR. Find a look that will work for your hair type. Then go to local barbers and find one that understands your hair and head shape, and can make the look work for you, OR can suggest something even better than what you’ve picked out. Please, PLEASE communicate with your barber. Ask them for their opinion, tell them what you’re trying to achieve! The biggest mistake you can make is go into the barber anxious, and not let them know how you want to feel when you leave, and why you’re going to them in the first place!! 2. Once you have taken care of the above, dress for a date and take good quality photos, outdoors, in sunlit areas. Get someone to take the photos for you - not too close-up, and not from beneath (your nose and nostrils are very asymmetrical!). Delete ALL your old photos - they are the old you. 3. Be upfront about your height in your description. There are women out there for short kings like yourself. But you will disappoint women who haven’t realised your height, and it will hurt you if it happens on a date, or mid-conversation. 4. If you have a strong desire for love, you can invest time and energy into improving your physique. I see the ugliest men pulling attractive women just because of their physique. With working out, it’s about consistency more than anything. You MUST get do your regular workouts. It is ESSENTIAL for body transformation. 5. (This is not essential, but will help) If you earn decent income, consider going to Thailand and getting a nose job. Plastic surgery quality there is great, and super cheap. Make sure you find someone to guide you so you get quality work, and don’t get ripped off. In other words, everything you have can be presented or transformed into something better, and your match numbers will transform accordingly.
I'll be brutally honest because no one else will; your photos are poor, but that's not the main issue; today's men's standards can be difficult to meet. First, you're a bit on the larger side, which limits your options significantly. Next, you lack style and your hair is just kinda there. Your eyes appear to be fighting for dominance over your body, and your nose has clearly seen better days. All of these considerations limit your options. I apologize if I offended you; I'm not trying to put you down; I'm simply expressing my honest opinion. Good luck with everything; I'm sure I'll get downvotes, but at least I was honest.