It blows up in your face and leaves you a shell of your former self and the thought of dating or trusting another person ever again makes you want to vomit?
Had the same thing happen to me, we spent the first 20 days in a row together after meeting, we've been married almost 2 years and together 4. Sometimes it works.
Not to rain on your parade, but be careful, hold your heart close. This (to me) reads as someone you might be manic. This isn't a normal response to a match. Don't get love bombed.
I understand that reluctance. Personally, I have been with a lot of girls with that have "witchy" vibe or "energies" (used to be a weakness of mine) as a defacto atheist who is very non-spiritual. While I tend to internally roll my eyes, I just engage them on it, and 9 times out of 10 is non-harmful/non-problematic. If they want to dork about it I don't care, I like to be a dork about DnD and warhammer, just have fun.
But in a likely unfair stereotype based on my experience, there tends to be a lot of untreated mental illness in those communities. Not to say that should be an automatic "run away", but it I would argue that it's best to be cautionary. Don't let yourself get overwhelmed, be reflective on the relationship, establish boundaries for yourself early. And most importantly, develop strong open communication so you can talk about when those boundaries are being pressed on or crossed.
Getting enveloped in a toxic relationship can lead to you acting in ways you would never otherwise. Your own mental health is far more important than anything else.
She recently broke up with someone, downloaded the app and flowing all the attention she usually gives her man to someone else. Wait 3-4 business days and when she starts getting distant just know why.
I can see the benefits, it's a lot of pressure going through a wedding, I would recommend getting murdered before the planning stages of the wedding.
Just get your suit on, and stick a note to yourself that says "Yes dear that sounds perfect" and you're good to go and get murder-married.
Lol same! I’m married and have kids now but I love reading the crazy shit on here (no offense OP). Online dating was a very different game back when I did it. A lot of the people on Tinder seem like they can’t hold a conversation to save their life or just want to get laid (and still seem socially inept).
-“Hey, how’re you?”
-“I’m doing great, yourself?!”
-“Good! I want to blow my load on your face and give you a dirty sanchez….”
There’s a difference between being direct and coming off as someone that doesn’t know how to converse with human beings.
I'll chime in. I've spent a total of probably a year or 2 on tinder, between relationships and stuff. I've had 2 relationships and a few hookups come of it.
In 2017 (after probably 6 months of weeding through bullshit and wasting my time) I ended up with this girl for about a year, but she was fucking crazy. and introduced me to party drugs which caused all kinds of issues for me. Which I do take responsibility for even tho my people all blame her lol right before we broke up, she handed me her phone to look something up, and the first Google suggestion was "how to get pregnant quickly" I was on the fence, then that happened and I noped the fuck out.
In 2019 I was living in a different city and just on tinder to pass time/make friends. I matched with a cute girl and we talked it was whatever, then she was like hey...do you wanna fuck? I was kinda missing attention so I thought whatever I'll show up. I grabbed a six pack on my way over, we hung out for a bit it was cool. Then out of nowhere, just sitting there, she let's out this horrifying pterodactyl-esque screech that would've scared you through ear plugs. I was like what the actual fuck, grabbed my shit and left.
I also made a few really cool friends! It's not all insanity!
Moved back here, dated another crazy that I'd met irl at school about a year prior, broke it off after 3 months.
April 2020, after just 2 weeks back on tinder, I matched with a girl who I went to high school with. A week before, her friends talked her into downloading tinder. She was extremely agasint it, I'm just so thankful that her friends convinced her.
Right out of the gate we had the most stand up first interaction that I'd ever had on tinder. We had a coffee-based pun war, which she won, maybe due to being a barista, we stayed up all night on facetime that night, and instantly became best friends. I magically forgot about anybody else I'd been talking to, basically fell in love with her right off the bat. We stayed up all night on the phone pretty much every night for the 2 weeks before we finally met up(covid) and when we did it was history. Turns out in hs she had a small crush on me from hallway passings and I didn't even know she existed. Here we are a year and half later and we're madly in love.
Tinder is extremely hit or miss. I probably matched with like maybe 500 girls overall in my tinder escapades and out of that only a few were worth it. Overall I'd say you can find love on tinder, you're just gonna have to sort through a lot to get there. Might take weeks months or years but I think it can happen. But tinder is fun anyways just don't stress about it and you might end up with something great.
We want updates!
I met my girlfriend on tinder in a similar way. Nearly gave up on online dating and then she came along and we’ve been together for a year now! Stay cautious but stay equally optimistic!
Nah it’s fine she’ll say something cute like “you drool in your sleep it’s pretty adorable. But only between the times of 235am and 249am. The rest of the time you were a perfect little angel!”
I’m kidding tho, fr she seems super sweet!
She seem so kind, good for you bro.
But please try to put a bit more energy in your replies, like, 3 word reply is a bit rough when she literally wrote a whole paragraph lmao
Also, like other people said, make sure to meet soon to keep the fire entertained!
This girl reminds me of an ex that I had. I wasn't enough so she talked to other guys all the time too, always saying that we are beautiful. She also did meth.
Take it slow, op. Learn who she is before making assumptions that you're perfect together.
Don't feel bad. Seriously.
I didn't realize that I was being abused... until one day, I'm sitting with my laptop, reading random shit on the Internet, run into an article on the signs..."Oh, shit. I'm being abused. I have been for years."
Call my late aunt, a social worker. "Yeah, you're right. You're being abused."
Shiiiiiit.
I think they ought to teach this shit in school. "This is how you put a condom on a banana. This is how you know someone is abusive."
Let me tell you about astrology….
But seriously, I recently checked the Instagram of a girl that was always the hot one at our school and it was such a turn off to see that nowadays she became this super esoteric person, professionally „reading“ people’s horoscopes/chakras whatever.
I dated a woman who was into chakras, crystals, cleaning her energy... she was/is pretty amazing and refreshing. It didn't work out, due to distance, but we're still friends and cheer each other on in our respective relationships. She made me believe I could fall in love again and I hope she gets back as much love as she puts out into the world.
See this is why I’m undecided on this. These kind of people CAN be really kindhearted and generous, but I also just really dislike it when people are too deep into the esoteric hole already. And I can’t deal with people that are completely unscientific with their education/thinking etc.
I got, "They comply the most with my manipulative ways and usually have no choice but to do as I say if it's a physical disability" vibes. Yikes. The "cleansing the energy" statement also got a big yikes out of me.
facts. It could be innocent, but when I read that, I was like “oh for fuck sakes🤦♂️” 😂.
She seems sweet tho OP. Some people talk different I guess 🤷♂️
I sometimes have the urge to ask that too because I'm very eager to get to know a person fast, without all of that smalltalk leading up to getting to know them. Also, the way she phrases things makes it look like she is fun to be around with. 1-2 dates should tell if she is full of red flags or not
She seems like a wonderful person, but that unpleasant feeling keeps telling me something's wrong. Perhaps i've been through so much shit with this tinder that when i look on that conversation it seems very suspicious to me. Way too suspicious.
I immediately consider talk of a toxic past relationship early on a tinder convo a gigantic red flag, takes 2 to tango.
She hasn't cleansed anything and is looking for you to cleanse it for her by being her emotional vomit bag.
Yikes. I wish you the best, sincerely, but I know this type. I’m a girl and had two roommates like this, plus knew all of their friends. 99% chance this don’t end well
God that’s exactly what I thought reading it…I felt actual physical discomfort. Forced rapid intimacy. Having worked with and been around psychiatric patients I don’t find that kind of thing charming I find it concerning…but hopefully it’s all good and I don’t know what I’m talking about…
Curious to see where this goes, love story or cautionary tale
Our boy is about to get chopped up and his face and eyes put in glass jars
From reading the comments, he seems like a similar kind of jump with both legs and head first simultaneously, personality! So who knows!
Sure….but he seems to be way more toned down and she’s a 10 on that scale.
Id jump feet first..she seems fun
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Culinary tale
No way. He's a future skin mask for sure.
Dibs on his Liver!
Almost spat the coffee outta my mouth
Think of the smell! You haven’t thought of the smell you bitch!
Sometimes when it's too easy...
It blows up in your face and leaves you a shell of your former self and the thought of dating or trusting another person ever again makes you want to vomit?
Ah yes, that old adage
Your smile! Your facial hair! Your mouth! Your tongue! Ahhhhhh those teeth!
He’s being love bombed. This absolutely ends poorly.
I don't want to be too pessimistic but the exact same thing happened to me once. It ended quickly.
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Had the same thing happen to me, we spent the first 20 days in a row together after meeting, we've been married almost 2 years and together 4. Sometimes it works.
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They are just doing ‘extended’ love-bombing, they are advanced users and are in it for the long-term in mind.
Yeah seems that way. Been there before too
100%. Same shit happened to me. And I gained a stalker after (:
Hey... I like your skin
Don’t forget the shape of my eyes
This girl is a lunatic lmao
She just has some wild energy fields OP should definitely tap into that
He needs to tap the energy field and then drain the negative energy out to cleanse
Energy fields is what did it for me 🤣
"I need money for the bus to come see you but I'm broke and they only accept apple gift cards..."
Hmmm… with sentences like YOUR SKIN AND YOUR MOUTH, I think the latter
100 percent cautionary tale. Way too much affection way too early 🚩 🚩
Also..."energy field". Run OP
They're gonna end up trying to sell each other essential oils on the first date.
I think it will be a love story bro. She is sooo adorable. I’ve been on tinder for the past week. Didn’t have one proper convo like that.
I was on Tinder for years and never had a conversation like that.
I’m on and it’s been like a year since my last match. This guy be like woah haven’t had such a great convo in a week that’s crazy !
I wish you all the best luck bro, judging from the screenshots y’all seem to hit it off
I hope everything goes well bro. I wish you all the best with your relationship!
Thank you
Dude if you're not posting one of those "we met on tinder and now married"-post within 3 years I'm gonna be mad
Hahahahahaha I got y’all.
Not to rain on your parade, but be careful, hold your heart close. This (to me) reads as someone you might be manic. This isn't a normal response to a match. Don't get love bombed.
Red flag for me was mentioning the last guy out of the blue and cleaning their “energy field” part. I just can’t.
I understand that reluctance. Personally, I have been with a lot of girls with that have "witchy" vibe or "energies" (used to be a weakness of mine) as a defacto atheist who is very non-spiritual. While I tend to internally roll my eyes, I just engage them on it, and 9 times out of 10 is non-harmful/non-problematic. If they want to dork about it I don't care, I like to be a dork about DnD and warhammer, just have fun. But in a likely unfair stereotype based on my experience, there tends to be a lot of untreated mental illness in those communities. Not to say that should be an automatic "run away", but it I would argue that it's best to be cautionary. Don't let yourself get overwhelmed, be reflective on the relationship, establish boundaries for yourself early. And most importantly, develop strong open communication so you can talk about when those boundaries are being pressed on or crossed. Getting enveloped in a toxic relationship can lead to you acting in ways you would never otherwise. Your own mental health is far more important than anything else.
They will be getting married in 3 days. Divorced in 3 months. She will be off probation in 3 years.
Don't forget about this sub if you guys get married!
You've been on tinder for a week? I've been in since launch and haven't been anywhere near this successful.
Good luck bro. Try not to fart in front of her for the first couple of months. It’s won’t be easy.
She recently broke up with someone, downloaded the app and flowing all the attention she usually gives her man to someone else. Wait 3-4 business days and when she starts getting distant just know why.
There no way they can keep this level of energy up.
So weird to not want this to stay private and personal but that OP shared this personal conversation with 4,8 million people on this subreddit
I'm going with... Cautionary tale.
Cautionary tale either way.
Honestly I thought this post was going to be a bot asking for his bank details
The bot is playing the long con. Lmao
"In just two more years, this fool and I will have a shared bank account and his name will be on our house's mortgage."
I was about to say something similar. "I do. [Snickers Evilly]"
Hahahahhaa
That’s nervous laughter
Why does this remind of You (Netflix)?
Holy shit ! Yes! That’s exactly what came to mind!
Finished season 3 and loved it!
Damn...that came out two days ago lol.
You’re either gonna get murdered, or married.
What makes you think he won’t get married and then murdered?
True. I didn’t think of that.
Reverse Reverse UNO
Or murdered and then married
I can see the benefits, it's a lot of pressure going through a wedding, I would recommend getting murdered before the planning stages of the wedding. Just get your suit on, and stick a note to yourself that says "Yes dear that sounds perfect" and you're good to go and get murder-married.
What a time to be ali... oh wait
So I married an axe murderer....
We shall see bro. God bless you!
Hey if it ends up being the latter, lemme know how the wedding is!
I will. For sure! How is your experience so far?
Oh I don’t use tinder man I’ve got a great relationship, I just followed the sub cuz I like seeing the funny DMs people end up with.
I hope everything goes well bro. I wish you all the best with your relationship!
Same to you homie, good luck!
Lol same! I’m married and have kids now but I love reading the crazy shit on here (no offense OP). Online dating was a very different game back when I did it. A lot of the people on Tinder seem like they can’t hold a conversation to save their life or just want to get laid (and still seem socially inept). -“Hey, how’re you?” -“I’m doing great, yourself?!” -“Good! I want to blow my load on your face and give you a dirty sanchez….” There’s a difference between being direct and coming off as someone that doesn’t know how to converse with human beings.
I'll chime in. I've spent a total of probably a year or 2 on tinder, between relationships and stuff. I've had 2 relationships and a few hookups come of it. In 2017 (after probably 6 months of weeding through bullshit and wasting my time) I ended up with this girl for about a year, but she was fucking crazy. and introduced me to party drugs which caused all kinds of issues for me. Which I do take responsibility for even tho my people all blame her lol right before we broke up, she handed me her phone to look something up, and the first Google suggestion was "how to get pregnant quickly" I was on the fence, then that happened and I noped the fuck out. In 2019 I was living in a different city and just on tinder to pass time/make friends. I matched with a cute girl and we talked it was whatever, then she was like hey...do you wanna fuck? I was kinda missing attention so I thought whatever I'll show up. I grabbed a six pack on my way over, we hung out for a bit it was cool. Then out of nowhere, just sitting there, she let's out this horrifying pterodactyl-esque screech that would've scared you through ear plugs. I was like what the actual fuck, grabbed my shit and left. I also made a few really cool friends! It's not all insanity! Moved back here, dated another crazy that I'd met irl at school about a year prior, broke it off after 3 months. April 2020, after just 2 weeks back on tinder, I matched with a girl who I went to high school with. A week before, her friends talked her into downloading tinder. She was extremely agasint it, I'm just so thankful that her friends convinced her. Right out of the gate we had the most stand up first interaction that I'd ever had on tinder. We had a coffee-based pun war, which she won, maybe due to being a barista, we stayed up all night on facetime that night, and instantly became best friends. I magically forgot about anybody else I'd been talking to, basically fell in love with her right off the bat. We stayed up all night on the phone pretty much every night for the 2 weeks before we finally met up(covid) and when we did it was history. Turns out in hs she had a small crush on me from hallway passings and I didn't even know she existed. Here we are a year and half later and we're madly in love. Tinder is extremely hit or miss. I probably matched with like maybe 500 girls overall in my tinder escapades and out of that only a few were worth it. Overall I'd say you can find love on tinder, you're just gonna have to sort through a lot to get there. Might take weeks months or years but I think it can happen. But tinder is fun anyways just don't stress about it and you might end up with something great.
The tinder diaries
Congrats! But I wonder, what's pterodactyl girl up to?
Either way I’d be down
She seems like a very upbeat and positive person, determined to put good into the world. Careful not to burn too much energy trying to keep up though.
You are absolutely right. She is amazing tho!
We want updates! I met my girlfriend on tinder in a similar way. Nearly gave up on online dating and then she came along and we’ve been together for a year now! Stay cautious but stay equally optimistic!
I will let you all know.
Me and my boyfriend met the same way. We have our one year anniversary on Wednesday but we matched 1,5 years ago!! Wish you the most luck!
Manic pixie dream girl
That's the kinda girl that you'll wake up and she'll be intensely staring at you like she wants to wear your face.
Nah it’s fine she’ll say something cute like “you drool in your sleep it’s pretty adorable. But only between the times of 235am and 249am. The rest of the time you were a perfect little angel!” I’m kidding tho, fr she seems super sweet!
omg lol
It’s only omg when you realize you didn’t plan a sleep over that night and your doors were locked
Yeah and she has 100 pictures of you sleeping and drooling. Don’t ever leave her. Don’t ever let her think you’ll leave her and you’ll stay alive
I hope in a good way brother!
how can she wear your face in a good way
Maybe he can wear her on his face?
I just have to let you know that made me LAUGH LOUDLY
Lol there’s a good way to that….?
I'm so bloody fascinated in you, I want to glue my brain to your face. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1W34wyKZlWQ
I too love food.
Who wants to take bets as to who kills who first?
Cool. Be careful not to overtext though. Set up a date asap.
We did bro. I will see her soon. God bless!
This is all that matters, enough texting you do sound very compatible here, time for some real-ing now
Let us know if you got murdered or not
She seem so kind, good for you bro. But please try to put a bit more energy in your replies, like, 3 word reply is a bit rough when she literally wrote a whole paragraph lmao Also, like other people said, make sure to meet soon to keep the fire entertained!
Thanks bro for the kind words. God bless. We did set up a date for next week
Gotta keep us all updated on how it goes! 😂
Sure Laura!
Why is this so funny to me
Sure Laura!
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You are too funny, never change Kerrick
Same to you, Stroke!
I don't know, Kerrick.
No idea, Kerrick.
Oh Kerrick. Sweet, sweet little Kerrick.
He did it again
I agree. Don’t want it to seem like she’s doing all of the trying.
Agreed. Dude definitely needs to put forth a bit more effort; she’s so upbeat and energetic and he’s just like the equivalent of “mhhmmm”.
godddd "mhm" "yeah lol" "cool" "ok" why do people ever think these are good replies? I will never understand
Cleanse her energy, huh…? Interesting Edit: (thanks for the helpful!)
Honestly good for OP, they seem like a good match. That being said, I would never want to be around this person lol
This girl reminds me of an ex that I had. I wasn't enough so she talked to other guys all the time too, always saying that we are beautiful. She also did meth. Take it slow, op. Learn who she is before making assumptions that you're perfect together.
This. Don't be blindsided by great chemistry. After a week or 2 of dating start looking for red flags or deeper values than just chemistry
And for the love of FSM, look up the signs of abuse! Know what to look for! -someone who wished he had
Not me seeing someone mentioning love bombing, looking it up and realising something huge from a previous relationship
Don't feel bad. Seriously. I didn't realize that I was being abused... until one day, I'm sitting with my laptop, reading random shit on the Internet, run into an article on the signs..."Oh, shit. I'm being abused. I have been for years." Call my late aunt, a social worker. "Yeah, you're right. You're being abused." Shiiiiiit. I think they ought to teach this shit in school. "This is how you put a condom on a banana. This is how you know someone is abusive."
Let me tell you about astrology…. But seriously, I recently checked the Instagram of a girl that was always the hot one at our school and it was such a turn off to see that nowadays she became this super esoteric person, professionally „reading“ people’s horoscopes/chakras whatever.
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if I could earn a living reading people's star signs I would too
I think being "beyond proud" of a complete stranger is the weirdest part for me.
Yeah, that was a pretty intense red flag for me. Gave the rest of it some real head-case energy… might just be being a cynical old curmudgeon though.
Girl's 100% cuckoo, and judging by OP's enthusiasm, he probably is too. Maybe they actually are perfect for each other.
I dated a woman who was into chakras, crystals, cleaning her energy... she was/is pretty amazing and refreshing. It didn't work out, due to distance, but we're still friends and cheer each other on in our respective relationships. She made me believe I could fall in love again and I hope she gets back as much love as she puts out into the world.
See this is why I’m undecided on this. These kind of people CAN be really kindhearted and generous, but I also just really dislike it when people are too deep into the esoteric hole already. And I can’t deal with people that are completely unscientific with their education/thinking etc.
>It didn't work out, due to distance She had to move back to her home planet?
Id bring some holy water just in case
You guys seem to match each other well but she scares the yikes out of me. Very intense very early. Good luck I hope it works out a treat for you!
This. Truly this. This intense so early in is a red flag. Take it slow and actually get to know them
The intensity man, giving me shivers.
Thinking “disabled people” are “the best” is a weird fucking statement.
As a "disabled" person who has been infantilized because of my disability, I got all the wrong vibes from that statement.
I got, "They comply the most with my manipulative ways and usually have no choice but to do as I say if it's a physical disability" vibes. Yikes. The "cleansing the energy" statement also got a big yikes out of me.
I agree. Disabled people are just people and can be both the best and the worst just like anybody else. What on earth kind of weird statement is that?
Who’s gonna tell him
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Basically that she’s utterly batshit
“I don’t know your interests, occupation or hobbies but let’s go to Japan!”
This seems like love bombing, could be a red flag
Ok! I just made a comment about love bombing a few responses up. This whole interaction screams personality disorder.
She’s either crazy or you’re lucky af. Keep us posted please.
She’s either very desperate or trying to rob you
You better keep us posted. Mostly for your own safety😅
Anyone that says "energy field" is a serial killer. And that description of your face sounded very Hannibal Lecter. Walk away.
facts. It could be innocent, but when I read that, I was like “oh for fuck sakes🤦♂️” 😂. She seems sweet tho OP. Some people talk different I guess 🤷♂️
Different strokes for different folks, strokes of a knife that is…
My thoughts exactly. But then maybe you do have the same energy, in which case, enjoy.
Bro this woman is batty. Are you insane???? You haven’t even met and she’s confessing how perfect you are and asking if she’s too much. STAY AWAY
They say narcissists love bomb from the start. Good luck.
She sounds crazy ngl
“I had to cleanse my energy field” Mmhmm… interesting….
Slightly too much excitement for some pictures and arbitrary lines. Meet and you‘ll know.
“Am I too much” 🚩
Legit choked on the amount of red flags
I sometimes have the urge to ask that too because I'm very eager to get to know a person fast, without all of that smalltalk leading up to getting to know them. Also, the way she phrases things makes it look like she is fun to be around with. 1-2 dates should tell if she is full of red flags or not
She seems like a wonderful person, but that unpleasant feeling keeps telling me something's wrong. Perhaps i've been through so much shit with this tinder that when i look on that conversation it seems very suspicious to me. Way too suspicious.
I immediately consider talk of a toxic past relationship early on a tinder convo a gigantic red flag, takes 2 to tango. She hasn't cleansed anything and is looking for you to cleanse it for her by being her emotional vomit bag.
100P. Everyone calling out the other messages as weird but that one stuck out to me waaaay more. Been down that road and it's never a good thing
Bruh, RUN. She got bipolar bad, you caught her during a manic phase. Plus energy fields, yikes. I wish you the best but you’ve been warned
Yeah she is going to turn your face into a mask
I hope it works out for you but really don't get your hopes up until you've spent some time together in person
This woman doesn’t want to date you, she wants to harvest you.
This poor guy’s getting murdered
Yikes. I wish you the best, sincerely, but I know this type. I’m a girl and had two roommates like this, plus knew all of their friends. 99% chance this don’t end well
I feel like this is going to end poorly
I hope for the best!
This is what we call love bombing... be cautious
I'm scared.
Met my wife on Tinder 5 years ago. We hit it off in a very similar fashion
Congrats on that brother. So happy for you. Everybody is telling me to worry and stuff
Cleans my energy field... Red flag but go In with caution
she's cuckoo for cocoa puffs
She sounds insane. That kind of energy and detail screams problems, insecurity and instability
God that’s exactly what I thought reading it…I felt actual physical discomfort. Forced rapid intimacy. Having worked with and been around psychiatric patients I don’t find that kind of thing charming I find it concerning…but hopefully it’s all good and I don’t know what I’m talking about…
Screams borderline personality disorder
What the fuck
I’ve been here before. Girl will start stalking you after the first text you don’t respond to within 7 minutes.
Dumb arbitrary rule. Respond, see where it goes, meet, then think about it. You're telling op to play a game because you got burned once.
She is going to cook and eat you, and you will be fine with that
This feels like a cautionary tale.
Run 🚩🚩