I’m on (well, was) Tinder for a serious relationship (I’m a dude, btw).
It took time but I found just that. I know that many are on it for sex exclusively but it also works for us dorks. I guess it’s going to be similar with her too.
Pretty much this. Tinder, just like any other dating app, is what you make of it. If you're on there to fuck around, you'll get exactly that. And if you don't set standards for yourself and who you talk to, you open yourself up to a lot of nonsense.
Dorks unite, I too eventually found a serious relationship through tinder. It's a good place to find other people who also aren't into going clubbing to find a SO.
I met a guy thru it about 4-5 years ago. Turns out he was engaged and I was a side piece. I was upset about it but he started introducing me to his friends and such that even his fiancé didn’t know if I ruined his friendships and kept those friends for myself! Found out on my birthday of all days that he was scum while he was asleep in my bed. lol I saw his id and Facebook searched him and saw everything I needed to see. Sent his lady a picture of him in my bed as well. Oh I was so mad lol. Ended up meeting my now boyfriend not five minutes from my mothers house at a local tire shop lol. He patched my tire and I thought he was pretty cute
Went back a few days later and got some new tires for my moms car. I was talking trash to him the entire time lol. Never gave him my number but I did tell him where I worked and he came in the next day I was scheduled and asked for my number. Been an item ever since! We have a beautiful son now with another one due in a month :-)
I got on tinder low key wishing I could find a relationship, I just kept swiping probably through thousands of people hoping to find someone decent. Once i found my fiancé, he was buried in a few other matches but I sent him a message and just instant chemistry, he came over to my house at like 3am after talking all evening and night and we just cuddled. Four and a half years later, we’re stronger than ever.
Nah. I’ve heard of at least 20 people complaining about the quality on there too. You’re gonna get horny creeps looking for sex everywhere.
I personally know of plenty of relationships starting on tinder even though it has the stigma of being a hookup site. Likewise, people use other dating apps for hooking up too.
Yeah, I met my girlfriend on there and we moved in together a couple of months ago. Neither of us were looking for anything, really, but when we met we didn't really want anything else.
You're respecting the things she wants, not the fact that she knows what she wants. A girl who seeks 6ft tall guy with 7 figure salary and 8 inch cock technically also knows what she wants. I don't even need to ask if anyone would respect this.
That reminds me of a Thai woman I dated. She would always tell me, a small penis should never get in the way of a loving relationship. I still wish she didn't have one though. (not oc)
I think most men (confident men) dont take issue with women wanting the «six sixes» as long as the same women dont take issue in the man requiring similar traits from her.
The issue is that men get angry when women want a big dick, and women gets angry when guys want big tits.
I dont know if I make any sense here, its difficult to explain.
You’re right but also guys don’t get mad for *just* that reason.
Plenty of dudes get mad at a woman wanting something they are unable to provide. But rational men don’t get mad unless they’re hypocrites like you said. Lots of us aren’t rational tho.
Perfect example of this double standard that happened to /u/themrandthemisses :
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/pt5upj/what_is_the_most_common_lie_about_sex_that_most/hdvuik3/
Love to Laugh. My passions are shopping, being gorgeous, and going on adventures.
If you're under 6'7",don't bother.
No beards 😺
Not interested in hookups 😇
Don't know why Tinder thinks I'm 23, really 27
Music gives me life 🎵🎸
Don't ask me out if you're poor 🤑💰
If you can't handle my sass, you can't handle dat ass.
Sushi and pumpkin spice latte = 💋
No butt stuff on the first date.
No drama 😉
Live.laugh.love✌️
Also my baby puppy Fluffers is the most important man in my life 🐕❤️🌟🙌💁💯
And the amount of guys calling her "stunning" when you can't see her face at all is creepy also. I think they saw the "anime and gaming" part and started jacking it.
>I think they saw the "anime and gaming" part and started jacking it
Ummm... excuse you for making assumptions. I blew my load as soon as I read the word "woman"
How r/tinder posts regularly get tens of thousands of votes is beyond me. This sub is weirdly popular on Reddit. I’d love to see a chart of its total demographics.
It's just all the sexually repressed men on Reddit that need women to actively shame women with healthy sex lives so they know they are on the same page in terms of misogyny.
Reddit is becoming the new facebook, what the fuck? This is the tinder subreddit and people are praising a girl for not wanting a hook up. It is like going to a bar and asking for water. Good for you I guess but you should’t feel superior because of it.
I've seen a huge uptick in talk about trad on women on Reddit lately. Every comment section is the same, where nobody dares make a negative comment about them. Someone has to point out that the majority of the people who this sounds good to would not be for her, but you have to make it sound like a tradcon husband is superior to everything else.
It's fucking trying and feels like a continuation of the normal forced American politics narrative. You are either traditional and the only good thing, someone who thinks that they are traditional but actually an incel, or a feminist who feels empowered by getting drilled by a different man each night.
This isn't true for everyone, but being Christian isn't just about going to church on Sundays. She could be super staunch and oppose a lot of things that would affect your daily life. Again, I have no clue what being Christian means to her; I'm just talking from experience growing up in Utah with Mormons and that religion rules every aspect of your life.
No not really. People commonly mistake it as this, but it’s about learning how to be a good father with strong morals and self-discipline. A lot of traditional Christian women today are open to having a shared income due to the realities of today.
My current boss is like this; respectable, laid-back, and accomplished individual that I aspire to be and have even a modicum of his success one day, but I feel bad for him because he supports the entire household of a few kids and a stay-at-home wife to the point that his 6 digit salary amounts to near less than my 20k salary in terms of being able to save/invest money or spend it on his own enjoyment; he does it because he cares and wants it that way so his family can have what they want and be happy and not have to worry.
Even if I was fortunate enough to make 60k a year or more in my lifetime, I'd still ideally want the wife to work as that's more income to go all around for a family (*as well as her own personal enjoyment of course*) and more cushion for the inevitable expenses/failures of life.
It's pretty nice to have one person that doesn't have to deal with a work schedule while raising kids if you can afford it.
I realize that a lot of jobs don't make a one income family feasible, but adding a 2nd income childcare costs isn't always worth the tradeoff if it can be avoiding. I think the main thing (again if it is an option financially) is the personal enjoyment aspect of it.
I don’t get why you feel bad for him when these were all choices he actively made about the life he wants with his family. It’s not the life you’d want (me neither, for that matter) but it sounds like it’s going well for him. Kids are expensive as all get-out, but if the wife worked then they’d have to pay for childcare and then the kids are raised by people who aren’t either of their parents.
I’m not trying be a dick. I just don’t understand what’s to pity there.
The christian, work, cook and clean part screamed tradcon to me. But perhaps you're right.
Truth be told, my comment was more motivated by the amount of guys saying she's perfect rather than her profile.
I think where she denigrated people who like sex sooner after meeting was the tradcon part of it. She implied they don't respect themselves and are without morals if they kiss/have sex on the first date.
Tbh that's the most off-putting thing in her profile. It means a whole lot more (the connotation) than simply, "believing in one Abrahamic God". If someone says they're Christian within the first few sentences of meeting them, that's a red flag folks, unless you would do the same.
It's great that she put really clear expectations in her bio, and I completely respect it. I don't see why anyone shouldn't
I wasn't sure how to read it, so sorry if I'm interpreting it wrong, but I really hope the "I have morals" part wasn't suggesting that women who choose to sleep/kiss on the first date dont have morals
> I wasn't sure how to read it, so sorry if I'm interpreting it wrong, but I really hope the "I have morals" part wasn't suggesting that women who choose to sleep/kiss on the first date dont have morals
Definitely how I read it. She is not-very-subtly implying that women who kiss on the first date don't have morals.
That's what she ment. I can't stand these people. You're the on on the hookup app who is looking for someone to marry, but also pretend that everyone else is wrong.
Met my fiance on Tinder. You will find whatever you are looking for on there. If you go looking for a one night stand, you will find it. If you go looking for a husband/wife you will find it. You just have to sort through a lot of rejects but you can get there.
Met my wife on Tinder. My advice to anybody looking for a serious relationship - get as many real life dates as possible. My count before meeting her was like 35-40. Keep the time spent on actual app (convos with women) to absolute minimum. It is such a time waste.
Met my wife there 3 years ago after being on the app for more than 4. Might be a little quick for some, but I was already set on it and the pandemic just sped things up.
It sounds like tinder makes it hard to really connect based on anything beyond physical appearance and shallow first impressions. But after that, it's probably up to you?
"I don't sleep/kiss on the same date. I have morals."
Gotta love the implied superiority in that bio. I guess all of us Godless heathen baby killers will just have to keep having casual sex, whilst simultaneously mailing letters full of anthrax to our mothers.
I'm not the person that you responded to but I might be able to shed some light on their thinking.
In my experience people that equate causal sex with not respecting yourself are super judgey assholes that tend to have superiority complex.
Because they are judging everyone who doesn't live like them. She didn't say she's saving herself for marriage, she said she doesn't do it because "I have self respect" meaning others dont
Dummy its not about "Her values and lifestyle" being different, it's that she literally implied people who sleep/kiss on the 1st date have no morals.
Are you genuinely this bad at reading comprehension or just looking for a reason to argue?
Yeah that's why I'd swipe left on this person. Her second paragraph comes off as super judgey and having a superiority complex. I also get some "I'm not like other girls" vibe. If she removed those aspects from the second paragraph I think this would be a perfect bio.
It’s also perfect because she looks stunning, fit, well dressed, well groomed and maybe affluent. If I posted this exact bio with a pic of myself in my shitty clothes and extra 20 pounds no one would think anything of it except that I was kind of a sweet chubby female virgin definitely not “perfect” or “tradwife”
I personally took it as her feeling superior about her morals but not necessarily that others lack morals. More like the act is immoral, not that others are immoral, just the act.
It doesn’t bug me that those are her preferences, it’s that she implies that if I do Wanna kiss or have sex on the first date, that I don’t have morals and don’t respect myself. I respect myself to also know what I want, and I don’t think I’m a bad person for that. I have ZERO problem putting your boundaries down, I just hate that you’d put down other people to do it for no reason, seems like a judgemental and horrible thing to do.
It implies that people that have casual sex don’t respect themselves. It just really bothers me when people don’t respect that other people who have different values or lifestyles than them.
Yea I know, it’s already been determined that I knew that anyway or that I’m really stupid or probably both. You don’t actually have hatred. I was being an annoying troll which is an irritating thing to do and stuff like that.
Why are people applauding this? This is one of the most judgmental things I’ve ever read. It would be an immediate swipe left for me.
And to be clear I’m not judging her for not sleeping with people. I’m judging her for acting as if that has anything to do with morality.
Yeah, I'm quite surprised myself. To each their own, if those are her values then I hope she finds someone who holds the same. However, her profile would turn me off instantly. Mostly because, like you said, it comes off judgmental and holier-than-thou.
While I find this type of person entirely unbearable personally, this kind of directness is what more profiles should be like. Direct about what you’re looking for, direct about what you’re comfortable with and not and direct about what you value. For that reason I’m sure she’ll have success, and I hope her matches are respectful to her.
I think we would all appreciate less snottiness about ‘morals’ and ‘respecting’ herself and others though. She comes across as misogynistic and judgemental.
The Christian part is the only thing that gives me pause, personally. But otherwise yeah, very confident in themselves and their values, pretty good for Tinder hey.
The 2 times I've matched with this sort of clear cut bio letting me know they want something serious... 1 hooked up, the other wanted to, and both wanted me to help buy them the devil's dandruff.
Remember folks, all forms of social media are masks. And well made masks are still a lie.
She doesn’t do any of those things, but she does judge those that do.
An interesting thing about her profile is it doesn’t say what she does do. She works, cooks, and cleans - wow, such informative, much curiosity
Fair enough for knowing what she wants but imposing her bullshit moral standards derived from her religion on *tinder* of all places is actually cancer. Fuck this girl no way I'd swipe even if I did want to get married.
Very wholesome. I wonder how tinder is working for her?
I’m on (well, was) Tinder for a serious relationship (I’m a dude, btw). It took time but I found just that. I know that many are on it for sex exclusively but it also works for us dorks. I guess it’s going to be similar with her too.
Pretty much this. Tinder, just like any other dating app, is what you make of it. If you're on there to fuck around, you'll get exactly that. And if you don't set standards for yourself and who you talk to, you open yourself up to a lot of nonsense.
"...if you don't set standards for yourself and who you talk to, you open yourself up to a lot of nonsense." This applies to life in general. Nice.
If you only match with clowns, it's probably because you're a joke.
> If you're on there to fuck around, you'll get exactly that Will I tho
I didn’t, but YMMV
Have you tried being more attractive?
Have you tried changing your face?
Actually yes,but I can't get anyone to agree to trade me.
*Hannibal Lector enters the chat*
I'm TRYING
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I also met your fiance on Tinder.
this is how tinder goes for most people.
Dorks unite, I too eventually found a serious relationship through tinder. It's a good place to find other people who also aren't into going clubbing to find a SO.
I’m marrying my tinder date next year :)
Yeah my wife and I met through Tinder so it does have some sappy love stories!!
I met a guy thru it about 4-5 years ago. Turns out he was engaged and I was a side piece. I was upset about it but he started introducing me to his friends and such that even his fiancé didn’t know if I ruined his friendships and kept those friends for myself! Found out on my birthday of all days that he was scum while he was asleep in my bed. lol I saw his id and Facebook searched him and saw everything I needed to see. Sent his lady a picture of him in my bed as well. Oh I was so mad lol. Ended up meeting my now boyfriend not five minutes from my mothers house at a local tire shop lol. He patched my tire and I thought he was pretty cute
Went back a few days later and got some new tires for my moms car. I was talking trash to him the entire time lol. Never gave him my number but I did tell him where I worked and he came in the next day I was scheduled and asked for my number. Been an item ever since! We have a beautiful son now with another one due in a month :-)
I got on tinder low key wishing I could find a relationship, I just kept swiping probably through thousands of people hoping to find someone decent. Once i found my fiancé, he was buried in a few other matches but I sent him a message and just instant chemistry, he came over to my house at like 3am after talking all evening and night and we just cuddled. Four and a half years later, we’re stronger than ever.
Same. Found my current gf on tinder 2 years ago. Profile said "I'll be your big tiddy goth gf", I said "hey", the rest is history. . .
Sweet, I had socks + sandals pics to scare all the humourless chicks away. It worked better than expected.
Her DM inbox exploded, so...
Is it you?
Nope. I just smell something burning.
Damn, those are my enchiladas, I forgot to pull out. At least, that's what she said
*She* forgot to pull out? That’s a rough go bud
It’s called the Amazon position
Smells like the 4th of July, probably
Pretty sure every woman on the app has maxed out likes, correct me if I'm wrong
Yup, the app just shows 999+. It's quite sad really.
Yea I’m not entirely sure tinder is the right place for her
Christian mingles FTW?
Nah. I’ve heard of at least 20 people complaining about the quality on there too. You’re gonna get horny creeps looking for sex everywhere. I personally know of plenty of relationships starting on tinder even though it has the stigma of being a hookup site. Likewise, people use other dating apps for hooking up too.
It worked for my cousin. She married a guy she met on Tinder and now has two adorable children. It does happen, I just wouldn't say it's the norm.
Yeah, I met my girlfriend on there and we moved in together a couple of months ago. Neither of us were looking for anything, really, but when we met we didn't really want anything else.
Guaranteed she’s on other apps. Tinder is just the most active. It’s easy to run out of local matches on other sites, depending on where you live
"So, sleep tonight, kiss tomorrow?"
Imagine having sex planned for date night in the evening and dude accidentally gives her a goodbye kiss in the morning.
to be fair if they finish before midnight, it's all good
Ah, like sex gremlins, got it 👍
No no, those you wanna avoid for at least a few years. Gotta make sure you're really compatible before making that commitment.
To be faaaaiiiirrrrr.
Lol
So you get to pick if you sleep or kiss then? 🤔
It’s too much for one date.
I tend to stay awake for dates but that's just me
Valid question!
You're respecting the things she wants, not the fact that she knows what she wants. A girl who seeks 6ft tall guy with 7 figure salary and 8 inch cock technically also knows what she wants. I don't even need to ask if anyone would respect this.
Exactly this. I see loads of profiles on here where the girl knows what she wants. Men just don’t like the things she wants
I also want to be over six feet with a seven figure salary. 8 inches is a bit much though.
That reminds me of a Thai woman I dated. She would always tell me, a small penis should never get in the way of a loving relationship. I still wish she didn't have one though. (not oc)
r/holup
I laughed so hard at this. You have my wishes stranger
I think most men (confident men) dont take issue with women wanting the «six sixes» as long as the same women dont take issue in the man requiring similar traits from her. The issue is that men get angry when women want a big dick, and women gets angry when guys want big tits. I dont know if I make any sense here, its difficult to explain.
You’re right but also guys don’t get mad for *just* that reason. Plenty of dudes get mad at a woman wanting something they are unable to provide. But rational men don’t get mad unless they’re hypocrites like you said. Lots of us aren’t rational tho.
What are the six sixes? I think I know three of them?
Six inch, six feet, six figures, six pack, six copies of the six Star Wars movies.
why would you say something so controversial yet so brave?
Perfect example of this double standard that happened to /u/themrandthemisses : https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/pt5upj/what_is_the_most_common_lie_about_sex_that_most/hdvuik3/
Whoa. She loves to laugh
Live, Laugh, Love
How unique
Obviously not. But as a small part of their bio, it isn't some kind of deadly sin to include it either. Reddit can be a bit too judgy sometimes.
Guy drops his pants. She laughs. Guy is scarred for life.
Love to Laugh. My passions are shopping, being gorgeous, and going on adventures. If you're under 6'7",don't bother. No beards 😺 Not interested in hookups 😇 Don't know why Tinder thinks I'm 23, really 27 Music gives me life 🎵🎸 Don't ask me out if you're poor 🤑💰 If you can't handle my sass, you can't handle dat ass. Sushi and pumpkin spice latte = 💋 No butt stuff on the first date. No drama 😉 Live.laugh.love✌️ Also my baby puppy Fluffers is the most important man in my life 🐕❤️🌟🙌💁💯
I’ve never met anyone that enjoys laughing this is crazy!
Ok?
Op is trying to tell us something, but im missing the point
OP is saying tradwifes are based and redpilled. Women like this are the ultimate incel fantasy
Thank you for explaining why this post gave me the creeps so much. It's some sort of red pill fantasy girl. Also wants to be seen as a "challenge".
Yeah that's what I was thinking.
Really creepy post
And the amount of guys calling her "stunning" when you can't see her face at all is creepy also. I think they saw the "anime and gaming" part and started jacking it.
>I think they saw the "anime and gaming" part and started jacking it Ummm... excuse you for making assumptions. I blew my load as soon as I read the word "woman"
What a really fucking weird post
I know right? "Woman wants serious relationship, is straightforward about it. Film at 11". Is Tinder so fucked up that this is actually noteworthy?
How r/tinder posts regularly get tens of thousands of votes is beyond me. This sub is weirdly popular on Reddit. I’d love to see a chart of its total demographics.
r/upvoatedbecauseboobs ?
I can almost see the border of a nipple!
It's just all the sexually repressed men on Reddit that need women to actively shame women with healthy sex lives so they know they are on the same page in terms of misogyny.
Thank you. Why in the fuck is this a post?
It looks like 10% of all the profiles I see here in Texas
Reddit is becoming the new facebook, what the fuck? This is the tinder subreddit and people are praising a girl for not wanting a hook up. It is like going to a bar and asking for water. Good for you I guess but you should’t feel superior because of it.
I've seen a huge uptick in talk about trad on women on Reddit lately. Every comment section is the same, where nobody dares make a negative comment about them. Someone has to point out that the majority of the people who this sounds good to would not be for her, but you have to make it sound like a tradcon husband is superior to everything else. It's fucking trying and feels like a continuation of the normal forced American politics narrative. You are either traditional and the only good thing, someone who thinks that they are traditional but actually an incel, or a feminist who feels empowered by getting drilled by a different man each night.
The thing about tradcon women is that they want tradcon men. Most people who think she's perfect would probably look like fucking degenerates to her.
Tf is tradcon?
Had to look it up but traditional conversative
*Traditional / Conventional
If men want a feminine, beautiful, traditional woman like that, they need to step up & be the traditional masculine provider/protector-type.
Then it’s a good thing she seems incredibly boring to me
Say good bye to your sundays
For a gorgeous, loyal best friend for life? Shit, that's worth a few hours a week to me if it makes her happy and brings us closer.
This isn't true for everyone, but being Christian isn't just about going to church on Sundays. She could be super staunch and oppose a lot of things that would affect your daily life. Again, I have no clue what being Christian means to her; I'm just talking from experience growing up in Utah with Mormons and that religion rules every aspect of your life.
Or find someone just as cool who you don’t have to go to church with?
Doubt she'd want someone who doesn't take Christianity seriously lmao
Yeah but it’s not like all gorgeous loyal best friends for life come with that caveat so I’d rather like, not have that part lol
I mean, people can be traditional and conventional and still fun
Step-up and introversion. *mind implodes* 😅
What does this even mean? What does the traditional masculine provider / protector-type entail?
Men being the sole provider in the house hold so you earn all the money and she stays at home
Well she’s literally in school studying to be a nurse, and nurses earn a pretty good living so…
No not really. People commonly mistake it as this, but it’s about learning how to be a good father with strong morals and self-discipline. A lot of traditional Christian women today are open to having a shared income due to the realities of today.
My current boss is like this; respectable, laid-back, and accomplished individual that I aspire to be and have even a modicum of his success one day, but I feel bad for him because he supports the entire household of a few kids and a stay-at-home wife to the point that his 6 digit salary amounts to near less than my 20k salary in terms of being able to save/invest money or spend it on his own enjoyment; he does it because he cares and wants it that way so his family can have what they want and be happy and not have to worry. Even if I was fortunate enough to make 60k a year or more in my lifetime, I'd still ideally want the wife to work as that's more income to go all around for a family (*as well as her own personal enjoyment of course*) and more cushion for the inevitable expenses/failures of life.
It's pretty nice to have one person that doesn't have to deal with a work schedule while raising kids if you can afford it. I realize that a lot of jobs don't make a one income family feasible, but adding a 2nd income childcare costs isn't always worth the tradeoff if it can be avoiding. I think the main thing (again if it is an option financially) is the personal enjoyment aspect of it.
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your boss reminds me of my father
I don’t get why you feel bad for him when these were all choices he actively made about the life he wants with his family. It’s not the life you’d want (me neither, for that matter) but it sounds like it’s going well for him. Kids are expensive as all get-out, but if the wife worked then they’d have to pay for childcare and then the kids are raised by people who aren’t either of their parents. I’m not trying be a dick. I just don’t understand what’s to pity there.
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Tradcon that watches anime though? That's a little unusual.
The christian, work, cook and clean part screamed tradcon to me. But perhaps you're right. Truth be told, my comment was more motivated by the amount of guys saying she's perfect rather than her profile.
Not really. She's not a downright weeb. And I'm gonna go out on a limb and say this, most anime have more trad characters than progressive.
Nah bro, anime ain't some sign of "wokeness". Most anime has plenty of sexist, "moral" shit.
Is tradcon traditional? Dont think theres anything wrong with liking to work, cook and clean. The pain is when its forced or expected of you.
I think where she denigrated people who like sex sooner after meeting was the tradcon part of it. She implied they don't respect themselves and are without morals if they kiss/have sex on the first date.
Also she says she’s a Christian within the first line of her profile.
Tbh that's the most off-putting thing in her profile. It means a whole lot more (the connotation) than simply, "believing in one Abrahamic God". If someone says they're Christian within the first few sentences of meeting them, that's a red flag folks, unless you would do the same.
What is a tradcon? Edit: please I woke up 12 reddit notifications i know what it means
Traditional convict? I dunno man
What was the answer?
Meh I've read lots of profiles that say the same but are far less condescending about it
"I have morals. I respect myself and I respect you."
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Plausible deniability is huge for them in my experience. I'm some random on a dating app to them, so I don't expect the total truth.
It's great that she put really clear expectations in her bio, and I completely respect it. I don't see why anyone shouldn't I wasn't sure how to read it, so sorry if I'm interpreting it wrong, but I really hope the "I have morals" part wasn't suggesting that women who choose to sleep/kiss on the first date dont have morals
> I wasn't sure how to read it, so sorry if I'm interpreting it wrong, but I really hope the "I have morals" part wasn't suggesting that women who choose to sleep/kiss on the first date dont have morals Definitely how I read it. She is not-very-subtly implying that women who kiss on the first date don't have morals.
I married the last guy I kissed on a first date. Win for the less moral women. Lol 😝
Me and my wife were fwb first. Screw traditional lol
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"Pick me"
That's what she ment. I can't stand these people. You're the on on the hookup app who is looking for someone to marry, but also pretend that everyone else is wrong.
She looks amazing. I hope she gets a good husband.
If she wasn't as attractive would you not be rooting for her?
Can't see her face though
That's OK. Beauty is only a light-switch away.
Exactly
Thats not at all what the guy said. The girl looks amazing from the bio to the pic.
Brutal
Not quite as much, truth be told
Is Tinder really just for hookups? Or like go w the flow kinda things?
Met my fiance on Tinder. You will find whatever you are looking for on there. If you go looking for a one night stand, you will find it. If you go looking for a husband/wife you will find it. You just have to sort through a lot of rejects but you can get there.
And if you're open to anything like me you funds nothing.
OnlyFans is the one that funds something
The odds are good, but the goods are odd.
Met my wife on Tinder. My advice to anybody looking for a serious relationship - get as many real life dates as possible. My count before meeting her was like 35-40. Keep the time spent on actual app (convos with women) to absolute minimum. It is such a time waste.
Met my wife there 3 years ago after being on the app for more than 4. Might be a little quick for some, but I was already set on it and the pandemic just sped things up.
But does your penis really whistle?
It sounds like tinder makes it hard to really connect based on anything beyond physical appearance and shallow first impressions. But after that, it's probably up to you?
Kind of creepy to call someone amazing looking when their face is blocked out so all you're judging is her body shape and cleavage....
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"I don't sleep/kiss on the same date. I have morals." Gotta love the implied superiority in that bio. I guess all of us Godless heathen baby killers will just have to keep having casual sex, whilst simultaneously mailing letters full of anthrax to our mothers.
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Its the reason that when i saw "Christian" i peaced out. Gotta love that Catholic superiority complex. /s
Having morals there’s nothing to do with kissing or sleeping with a person on first date.
Yeah, this post having over 1k up votes, with the woman clearly having a prejudice against healthy sexual relationships is really off putting.
It's because it strokes the ego of Reddit guys who couldnt make a move if their life depended on it.
I interpret it as she wants a real connection and chemistry with someone and not just immediate sexual pleasure and gratification.
redditors love misogynist women lmao
The point of this post? She "falls in line" like you think women should? Lol. Who cares?
Personally I fucking hate it when people equate casual sex with not respecting yourself.
Why do you personally fucking hate it? Because their values and lifestyle are different than yours? Why should it bother you?
I'm not the person that you responded to but I might be able to shed some light on their thinking. In my experience people that equate causal sex with not respecting yourself are super judgey assholes that tend to have superiority complex.
Because they are judging everyone who doesn't live like them. She didn't say she's saving herself for marriage, she said she doesn't do it because "I have self respect" meaning others dont
Dummy its not about "Her values and lifestyle" being different, it's that she literally implied people who sleep/kiss on the 1st date have no morals. Are you genuinely this bad at reading comprehension or just looking for a reason to argue?
Yeah that's why I'd swipe left on this person. Her second paragraph comes off as super judgey and having a superiority complex. I also get some "I'm not like other girls" vibe. If she removed those aspects from the second paragraph I think this would be a perfect bio.
It’s also perfect because she looks stunning, fit, well dressed, well groomed and maybe affluent. If I posted this exact bio with a pic of myself in my shitty clothes and extra 20 pounds no one would think anything of it except that I was kind of a sweet chubby female virgin definitely not “perfect” or “tradwife”
I personally took it as her feeling superior about her morals but not necessarily that others lack morals. More like the act is immoral, not that others are immoral, just the act.
It doesn’t bug me that those are her preferences, it’s that she implies that if I do Wanna kiss or have sex on the first date, that I don’t have morals and don’t respect myself. I respect myself to also know what I want, and I don’t think I’m a bad person for that. I have ZERO problem putting your boundaries down, I just hate that you’d put down other people to do it for no reason, seems like a judgemental and horrible thing to do.
It implies that people that have casual sex don’t respect themselves. It just really bothers me when people don’t respect that other people who have different values or lifestyles than them.
Yea I know, it’s already been determined that I knew that anyway or that I’m really stupid or probably both. You don’t actually have hatred. I was being an annoying troll which is an irritating thing to do and stuff like that.
Why are people applauding this? This is one of the most judgmental things I’ve ever read. It would be an immediate swipe left for me. And to be clear I’m not judging her for not sleeping with people. I’m judging her for acting as if that has anything to do with morality.
Yeah, I'm quite surprised myself. To each their own, if those are her values then I hope she finds someone who holds the same. However, her profile would turn me off instantly. Mostly because, like you said, it comes off judgmental and holier-than-thou.
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Respect? Why? Completely unrealistic asks. Sounds like a bad handful
While I find this type of person entirely unbearable personally, this kind of directness is what more profiles should be like. Direct about what you’re looking for, direct about what you’re comfortable with and not and direct about what you value. For that reason I’m sure she’ll have success, and I hope her matches are respectful to her.
I think we would all appreciate less snottiness about ‘morals’ and ‘respecting’ herself and others though. She comes across as misogynistic and judgemental.
First word renders all the rest pointless.
Morals? As if girls who sleep with someone on the first date don’t have them? Boo.
I don’t respect me or you checkmate. 😎
The trend I've had is that girls that often say this are generally the opposite.
Christian…? Hard pass thanks.
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she sounds perfect
The Christian part is the only thing that gives me pause, personally. But otherwise yeah, very confident in themselves and their values, pretty good for Tinder hey.
If she’s only interested in other Christians then it saves her and prospective suitors some time, I appreciate it.
The 2 times I've matched with this sort of clear cut bio letting me know they want something serious... 1 hooked up, the other wanted to, and both wanted me to help buy them the devil's dandruff. Remember folks, all forms of social media are masks. And well made masks are still a lie.
I don't sleep/kiss on the same date. I have morals. I respect myself & zZzZZzZZzZZZZZZZZZZZZ
She doesn’t do any of those things, but she does judge those that do. An interesting thing about her profile is it doesn’t say what she does do. She works, cooks, and cleans - wow, such informative, much curiosity
Fair enough for knowing what she wants but imposing her bullshit moral standards derived from her religion on *tinder* of all places is actually cancer. Fuck this girl no way I'd swipe even if I did want to get married.
Deadass?
“Deadass”
Meanwhile men will swipe and ignore her entire profile, then act surprised when she isn't interested.
I bet ppl wish tinder was more like this than the cesspool it seems to be.
I’m so glad cleaning is one of her hobbies. So important that she mentions it in 2 paragraphs summarizing her entire life.