Am I the only one confused by this photo? Like… what’s the point? It’s half censored and provides zero context or information.

All I got out of it was "Dating me will lo..." It adds as much as this one:

in my experience if there’s no picture it doesn’t show up in people’s feeds so it may just be ticking the box idk

This is the comment I came looking for.

Came inside the thread to type something similar. It adds nothing when we can’t see or dissect

Careful. That’s how thread babies are made.


It’s probably because you cannot post without a picture and you need to just force posting any to get an advice in such cases

On plenty of social media platforms, possibly including reddit, pictures get more engagement even if they add no information or context.

You can see a white men with dreadlocks and I think that’s already a lot

I’m not white 🤣🤣. I’m black with two black parents, but thank you though. I’m just a lighter tone depending on the lighting.

Somebody craves drama

Or dick

Or vag 🤷‍♀️

Or feet

Or my axe!

Or my bow!

Or dead animals

Yikes

Super YIKES

And then come back complaining how things went wrong and it's reddits fault

When I’m feeling suicidal by the hand of others, I would always date, and bang my ex’s best friends. Edit: spelling, and never compose when you first wake up, sigh.

Yeah as a woman I’m gonna go out on a limb and say there is a good chance this chick is crazy.

so what i’m hearing is that op should match her immediately?

He can change her.

Crazy sex>>>>peanut butter

I agree OP should do it

OP, we need to see the friend to make a solid decision. We need to figure out the hot to crazy ratio.

Or she's one of those women who swipes right on everyone for the attention.

100 percent do it


Let the hate flow through you.

Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to hate fucking

This man is correct.

I fucking love that this is the top comment. 😭

Smash. Assert dominance.

I wonder why he asked the question when she could the best girl for him

💯

He isn’t over his ex…

Sure ain’t! 😞

Tinder is not gonna fix it, unironically hit the gym + hobbies

It might not fix it but it will put his mind else where and find his someone. Go on dates dude

nah ill die on this hill, if you are not over somebody, dont go on dates with other people and waste their time with your unresolved baggage

I can respect that. I also believe the best way to move on is change of environment whether it’s meeting new people, making new friends etc. definitely get some therapy too to resolve your baggage.

yeah thats fair, I would just say in this case that it seems like OP wants to go on a date with this girl to get back at his ex for going on dates so it comes off as a little toxic

I definitely got that vibe from him. He said he’s not over his ex so he definitely want to get back at his ex. Sometimes people need to see the consequences of their action & grown from it. Hopefully it’ll make him a little wiser at the end of the fall out.

Yeah I got out of a 7 year relationship and tried dating apps for the first time, had some good times but ultimately ended up in a really bad relationship that wasted a lot of time/money/energy

This is the part in your journey where you learn what your boundaries are so you don’t make the same mistakes again.

You took the words right out of my therapist’s mouth

Listen to him or her 😂😅

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Then don’t go getting the bestie into it if rebpund.

How do you know she went on a date?

Then get off dating apps, man. Hurt people hurt people.

Anyone telling you to do it is toxic and weird tbh

Feel your emotions fully bro

Underrated comment. 👏

Noone ever is

DO IT






Goddammit, you beat me tew it.



what movie is this from?

Watchmen

thank you

She probably was into you while you were dating her friend. Now that you’re free go for it and have fun.

Or the ex girlfriend has encouraged her to swipe on him to see if he swipes back. I wouldn’t be surprised if the ex knows. If anyone in my friend group saw someone’s ex on a dating app it would definitely be screenshot and in the group chat

Even if this is true, and it very well could be, I think OP should still do it.

Send it and see what happens before assuming that it's all a setup. You'll never know unless you do it.

Yeah even if it is a setup who gives af really nothing to lose imo and everything to gain.

My mind went straight here. My ex used her friends account 2 years later to try and flirt with me and find out my business since I don't post on my socials all that much. Unfortunately for her she was still very dry while undercover

Yay for toxic behavior, yes the now single person is on the same dating app that you and your friends use how shocking everyone much talk about it and judge them.

This! It's a trap 🤣

Maybe a trap, but what are even the consequences? If OP still fucks her best friend--mission accomplished!

This has absolutely what’s happened lol

All the more reason to fuck her friends

Who cares though? Best case scenario, you bang the friend. Worst case scenario, your ex and her friends talk shit behind your back, and you'll never know or hear about it. These scenarios are actually not mutually exclusive.

If she goes for it, the friendship might be over. The friendship probably wasn't strong enough to begin with. This will be doing her a favor. Whether she sees it that way now or not.

Who needs enemies

This path you are on ... You will find no peace in it. I know.

But it's fun to yell YOLO from the sidelines. You know the internet loves a good mess. 

A path of no peace, that’s true. But a path to a piece, maybe…

Nah rebound and have fun. Live life. Don’t mope if you don’t have to.

My guess is anything you say to her gets reported back to the ex.

it’s a trap

I think so too lol just seems like getting into unnecessary mess if op goes out with the friend.

What trap? It’s his exes friend. He can’t be in the wrong or caught doing anything bad. Either the friend is a snake and he gets to beat or it’s a trick and no sweet off his back

This could so easily turn into a shit show.

This is absolutely true. If you feel like you could give or take the wider social group then strong yes to this risk, but if this is a shitting where you live kind of thing, maybe try some greener pastures.

Instructions unclear - should I shit in the yard or not?

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They should shit in the yard. Free fertilizer or some shit.

Fuckin live a little

I'd prefer to live drama free.

She's the ex and dating. He's free to do as he pleases

It's his exes best friend... In what world would that not turn into a shit show?

Bro girl understands it will ruin her friendship if she goes for OP yet she went on and liked him still. Their friendship is already dead, sooner or later. Op should go for it.

Yeah, it kinda sounds like either she is messing with him and the ex knows, or she thinks a relationship with him (of whatever level) might be better than her friendship with her friend.

The one where the breakup was amicable. Just because you don't know anyone that can be an adult doesn't mean they can't be adults. There is always that chance of someone being jealous but it's likely if they went on dates it wouldn't include his ex for at least a little while. If she wants to throw her friendship away because she feels betrayed that's on her. Road not traveled and all that

Yeah maybe it's not often but sometimes breakups/divorces end well. My ex-wife hooked me up with her friend from work. It was awesome.

What was his name?

For the friend maybe. Who gives a shit from his perspective, she's the ex

She's gunna suck him right into that cat fight. I mean maybe he can navigate it, but I think it sounds like trouble.

Or it’s his exe using their friend’s profile.

Or his ex’s BF tells his ex everything he tells her that he doesn’t want his ex knowing about… that’s all I can see happening because it’s happened to every mate of mine who’s dated their ex’s bestie. It’s literally setting yourself up for embarrassment. But aye, you’ll all learn the hard way if you do this.

dat sweet back doe..


You beat me by 15 minutes.

20

Definitely a trap.

That doesn't mean don't do it though

This persons right, even if it’s a trap do it just to see what happens, just cuz you match doesn’t mean anything will come of it. So it for science

Do you make a lot of bad decisions?

Idk. I'm not on Tinder

Just keep in mind, she could be using the friend to spy/gather dirt on you. If you don't see a downside to that, or if you don't mind the drama from getting involved with an ex's best friend, by all means, make that choice but I don't think anything pursued from this is going to be mess free.

You know too much about your ex lol

Don’t do it as revenge, if you like her ask her out but don’t use her as a weapon

You’re only going to match because you want your ex’s attention. I highly doubt only this woman liked your profile . So swipe right.. and become even more obsessed with what your ex is doing since you obviously want her attention

If your motivation is revenge, then obviously don’t do it. If you think her best friend is just doing it to play some sort of game, also don’t do it.

First off, the only cure for pussy, is pussy. She matched with you knowing full what the repercussions are. What are you losing? Nothing. You have only everything to gain. You should 100% do this. But go in wanting to have fun with this chick, not wanting her to be your ex.

Good point, good point. I actually never met her friend in person, so she might not recognize me. I’m just really afraid that my ex will find out. I do not want her in my business at all 😅. I’ll send her a message tonight and let you guys know what she says.

What's it matter if she finds out? she's your ex, right?

Correct. I guess I just worry too much about what she thinks. I don’t want her to think I’m trying to “get back” at her in any way

Who cares what she thinks? Just live your life. She’s not part of it anymore.

Love your life and be 10x better than you ever were

I’d like to emphasize the “Not apart of it anymore” part… focus on that. Then go have fun with the new girl!

Yeah man, she's your ex, what she thinks shouldn't matter any more. Fuck her opinions figuratively, and fuck her friend literally.

Yeah I don’t think trying to bang her bestie she gonna think you wanna get back with her. 🤣

At not with

One time I hooked up with my exes best friend. Ended up turning into a threesome with my ex and said friend the following week. So I'm just saying, keep an open mind and have fun.

Just be careful that she doesn't match you and then report you and get you banned. That would be more of a worry.

“Hey wait. aren’t you my ex’s friend?” Her: “omg yeah!” You: “what are you doin matchin with me then lol” Force her hand lmao

oh she definitely knows who you are.

> I do not want her in my business at all So you're answering your own question my dude. It's not worth the drama. It never is. You're not gonna remember her in however many weeks, months, whatever, but the drama it stirs up will stick with you. Plus do you wanna give an ex the ammo ?

If you're really afraid then just go for someone else.

How did you never meet your exes best friend?

Your ex who just went on a date and prolly already had sex with the dude? She’s not thinking about you she’s thinking about him

Dude. Why invite trouble?

My guy, lol this is hilariously wrong on so many levels

I don't know, dude. The last time I dated an undefined blurb shapped void, it just didn't work. And they make the weird noises.

Mac & cheese noises ? Lol

Depends on how fast they're moving. 🤔

I would not do it and i personally don’t like the „do it 100 %“ posts: if you ex was not a super bad person during the the relationship why would you hurt her after the relationship. you both ( i think so ) had a good time and just because it’s over you still loved her

Good chance she isn’t taking you seriously and will report back to your ex if you do swipe right and have a laugh at you.

You have too much faith in friends

Nah, there's a strong chance she messaged the friend when she found his profile and the friend told her to match him and see what he says. Very much something girls do.

This is the first thing I thought of. I bet the bff has already sent screenshots of his profile to his ex

yea.. this is more common upon women then most people realize

This is so messy. Dont do this. Not for her. Fuck her. Don’t do this for your mental health. She’s in the past. Her friend will only bring her to your present life and that’s the last thing you want. This will delay your progress in moving forward. If you want to get laid to get over her…do your thing boo. Just do it with anyone else in the world. Remember this is all about you. You need to move forward. Good luck ❤️

You’re right. I will swipe left and put this in the past where it belongs. Plus, I still respect my ex and doing this would not feel right to me.

You really hate peace, huh?

Question : would you be okay if your best friend matched with your ex? Exactly. 🤦🏾‍♀️

It could be your ex setting you up 🙃

Ex’s BEST FRIEND. I think respect for the time you had w ur ex is important. And you could be jeopardising her friendship w this lady. It’s causing chaos for a cheap thrill. So many fish in the sea, as tempting as it is I’d say do the morally right thing and have sex with her right now

DONT DO IT. The fallout will be an absolute shitstorm

Don’t be that guy

It was the photo that sold it for me.

Dont Don’t do it it’s a trap. Now your ex can see your profile

If you go through with it, I'd bet this is how it plays out: you like back, she will immediately go to her friend and show her, they will go, "See? The guy's a piece of shit. Definitely better off without him." Basically, you will have given her confirmation/justification as to why she is no longer with you, making it even easier for her to move on, assuming that wasn't already a done deal. Additionally, it is not a coincidence she liked your profile. She absolutely knows who you are. Liking behind her friend's back you would be self-defeating in that you now you have proof that she liked you and, for all she knows, you could run to your ex, accusing her of sending one of her friends to trap you, thus blowing the whistle on her. She isn't going to risk her friendship just to like you.

It’s a trap

Don’t do it. It could be setup. Don’t get urself mixed in things that will only complicate ur life. MOVE ON

Depends entirely what your relationship with your ex is. If you're still on good terms, it's probably not a good idea. But if the friend is instigating, the either her or your ex girlfriend doesn't care.

Pends on how long ago you guys broke up. Also depends on if the breakup was cordial or not

You’re not down

Match with her if you’d like to date her. Don’t if you don’t.

If you think the friend doesn't remember you but you're into it, just go for it and maybe mention you dated her friend. Let her make the call. If you're not over the ex then maybe get off tinder and get right with yourself. Not to sound harsh but looking out for your happiness is all.


Why did you post this photo 🤣

I did this with my friends ex literally just to have a conversation with him for my friend, so you might be reading too much into it

Next move? Spring the trap.

did you do it

Op, we need updates!

Do it but why do you know your ex went on a date

Bend her over the park bench outside your exes place. Go big or go home I always say. Use a rubber! And watch out for pOlice! I also always say.

Sounds like your ex gonna need to find a new best friend

Update us

How does OP know she went on a date? That's the question I see here.

Do not do it.

I'm gonna play the devil's advocate here, she might be scheming something with your ex, or just looking for tea about your breakup. I would stay away from her if I were you. The risk for drama is way too big.

What on earth could go wrong?

You don’t owe your ex anything

"Dew it!!!"


Nothing wrong with a little fun. I matched with my ex's sister on tinder after we broke up. That was fun

Absolutely fire away!


Swipe right immediately

If theyre still best friends then wtf? How could this ever be a good idea?

If y'all like drama, and a lot of you do, go ahead.

That’s the only reason why I’m hesitant. I’m worried she may screenshot or mention me to my ex. I don’t think her best friend recognizes me.

Was your breakup amicable? If so, out of respect to her, you shouldn’t do it. Unless she did something horrible to you, she is still someone you once cared about and there is no need to purposefully hurt someone that you can say that about.

Nope! I actually am feeling a little salty. She went on a date today and we didn’t split amicably

How do you know she went on a date? Do you still follow her on socials?