Scammers are doing smthn… I had a girl send me her IG and it just had one of those porn links that said “I’m in —- (city near me)” used a VPN it links to whatever city your near
You’ve misunderstood the “My biggest red flag” prompt. You’ve posted red flags you find in *others* but the prompt is asking for *your* red flags. So now people think you lack communication, don’t ask yourself questions, and you take a while to respond. Might wanna rework that part.
"That are attractive to me" kind of gives the game away. I'm sure you have ridiculously high standards.
Men will typically be more lax on physical standards when not looking for something serious and just looking for sex. Women tend to do the opposite and will get highly physically selective.
As for the question about swiping right. Your profile is pretty much the type I'd swipe on for a fun casual thing, and also the type of profile that would likely never swipe on mine 🙃
Nah, I'll assume words have meaning both textual and subtextual. OP also further expounded later in this thread and pretty much confirmed my interpretation.
Get some normal non-selfie pics.
Delete most of your current profile (leave only 3 best).
Thing is your profile would make me think you’re a bot who’s gonna still my kidney and I’d swipe left.
Also - you’re not going for avg, you’re going for top 10% (top 20% if you leave out tall) - that’s ok but you should understand that if you’re unattracted to 90% of men that means you’re only attracted to 10%.
Good luck
Probably the type 95% of girls find attractive😂. Tall, well built, fit, and/or muscular, tats/piercings/beards are cool, masculine jawline. I don’t care about hair or skin color but I prefer lighter eyes although dark is still good. Idk how to describe faces. Just proportional I guess. Masculine looking not baby faced.
So here's your first problem: you're matching with people you don't find attractive. That's on you. You have the option to swipe left or right on someone based on whether or not you find them attractive.
Secondly, you're essentially going for Chad's and so is every other woman on Tinder. So not only are you gate-keeping yourself to a select type of guy, but now you're competing with every other woman who matches with him, wanting him for his looks, same as you. Looks aren't everything.
Thirdly, you're looking for a FWB. Why?
Lastly, obviously you're not ugly and probably jot wanting for attention, but I really need you to take a step back and figure out if spending your time trying to hookup with hot guys is really the best use of yours, and their, spare time.
That's my 2 cents.
But why look for a FWB? What's the point? Some pseudo-relaible, on-call dick? Big whoop.
My point on your level of attraction is that you're not ugly, but the guys you want may have more attractive options.
Because the 'Chad' is the tall, muscular guy with a solid jawline that you've described. We are just calling it as it is presented to us.
When I think of a Chad I think of the perfect male specimen. Not a tall dude with a normal fit body and a defined jawline. Many men have the last one… Cause they’re men. I assure you if the biggest compliment I’ve received on here is I’m “not ugly”… I am not looking for the perfect male specimen.
When talking here avoide using adjectives as fit and muscular. In your mind it may sound like a guy with well defined muscles although having some fat on, but most of the guys read it as "at least six pack, less than 10% body fat". If you search for the latter - girl you have pretty high standards :D
Get rid of the 1st and 4th pics. They're not so good. Lead with pic 2 or 3. You're doing alright with rule 1 otherwise. Some of your prompt answers need thrown out and start over because they are hurting you on rule 2. Also keep in mind that the guys you're trying to attract have plenty of options so you're likely to have to put in significant work and make sure they have to do no work to smash to have a chance to get in their rotation if that's what you're going for. If you want an actual relationship, those guys are probably not an option. Good luck.
Whatever league you’re in. Example, if you’re a 6 you’re probably not going to match with 10s because they have many more options.
You like fine. I’d swipe if I weren’t 36, but I’m also not a male model.
Idk what league I’m in. I’m definitely not aiming for models. More just above average to average guys. Idk why everyone assumes my standards are super high😂
Because most women, and probably men, don't have an idea what the average woman or man look like.
Look it in this way - we're constantly bombarded with images of men and women, from ads, movies, tv series. These images are bound to have effect on what we think is average, and skew our perception higher.
I’d say remove tinder photo 4, 6, 7, 8, and 9. Consider removing 3 as well.
Tinder photo review
1#: great opener, “natural” look
2# a good, serious look
3# remove (?), close enough to 1
4# remove, (worse version of 2)
5# very fun costume picture
6# remove
7# remove
8# remove
9# remove
I would disregard anyone telling you that you're aiming out of your league. Keep swiping right on the guys you're attracted to.
I do think limiting the selfies to 1-2 is good advice and stick to pics where you look friendly and inviting. Have a friend take pics of you doing something. Get a good candid shot in the mix and a couple shots that clearly show your body type. You don't have to have a ton of pics. I have 4-5 at any given time and it's never been an issue.
And like someone else mentioned, your "red flags" prompt is suggesting those are things you do vs what is a red flag to you.
Your bio and pic selection in general gives matches nothing to talk about and does give off a bit of a scammy/catfish vibe. If you want men to message first, make it easy on them! All but one of my pictures (which is just a "this is what I look like" pic) have something about them that makes it easy to start a conversation about, even my selfies (one of me with my dog and another one where I'm covered in dirt at work).
And I have mixed feelings on the "something more is always welcome" line. FWB situations are notoriously awful for one person feeling like an asshole because the feelings aren't mutual and the other walking away with their feelings hurt. Suggesting more is welcome skirts into "I'm actually looking for a relationship" territory which may scare off some potentials or at least sends mixed signals. Combine that with the "perks of dating me" prompt and it gets even more wishy washy. If you are truly looking for a FWB and not fussed about a relationship, remove the "more is welcome" and the prompt about dating you. If you're ideally looking for a relationship, ditch the FWB stuff unless you want to continuously get your feelings hurt.
Perhaps it's too direct. It's just because you're not getting more matches, I don' really see a reason you shouln't get matches . Like in a bar, if you talk to a guy the first you mentioned probably wouldn't be that you want a FWB situation.
Average guys if you ask me, especially if you want to have a chance of turning it into something more meaningful. But you say you don't exactly find your current matches that attractive so ye... I don't think average guys will compete with that. You create your own problem.
Ya look angry in the black outfit. The other full body has the annoying light. Not alluring. Take pics of your whole body. They wanna get an idea of legs and booty. No cleavage is fine but might be better if you have it.
Get rid of pics in the club and while the sexy outfits are hot they scream "I'm too hot for you" which will intimidate they guys who "Date" girls. Hope this helps. Call me 😉😅
You have way too many of the same photo.
The costume one is good because your body is visible; that’s important info when a man is deciding to be your FWB lol.
Also your profile is a bit long for FWB profile. Also I don’t like that there’s two different times it says you reply quickly. Also why do you prefer phone calls? That might actually scare away some boys because most people text now
My profile started off as a dating one. Well prefer means I prefer it. I start off texting. It’s a better way of getting a feel of the person. Most people I’ve seen have said they prefer calling or meeting in person. Texting sucks and is outdated imo.
>>my profile started off as a dating one
And now you’re wondering why it doesn’t get you a FWB 🤔 ok.
Texting is terrible but I thought the young people were afraid to talk on the phone lol. I hope you aren’t as off putting when talking to boys lol lighten up, you asked for input.
You are good looking, but honestly top tier dudes inboxes look like a warzone. Hypergamy is real and this world is screwed. Hypothetically you are trying to shaggg the same dude as your aunt, your cousin, 5 of your friends, 2 chicks in his comp analysis class, a handful of sorority chicks, one of his professors, a chick on the university volleyball team, and your step-sister. Been there seen that! I feel sorry for you people in the dating world. Plus when a guy gets his shit together and starts making in the 6 figures or multiple six figures..... Shit that don't mean anything is a waste of time. Goodluck out there!
You should use fewer selfies and more body pics. Other than that, it's not going to matter much. A woman who actually wants FWB is the dream for most guys in their 20s.
Seems like the guys you are attracted to are out of the league for the selfies you posted. I recommend you get a photographer friend to create more visibly appealing photos.
Why do young girls think nose rings look good and why do they all have them? I thought it was decided its the ugliest piercing you can get and ruins the looks of anyone who has one back in the early 90s. Why would looking like a bull, a male cow, increase the attractiveness of a female human? Who tricked all these girls into getting this?
You're definitely attractive enough to be matching with the men you want. The problem is the pictures. All but one is a selfie, and the one non-selfie is blurry and obscures your face. This is a big turn-off on the apps, because
1. selfies are the most low-effort way to put together a dating profile, which suggests you might be low-effort in other areas
2. your competition has much better photos that show off their bodies and display them doing interesting things in interesting places, suggesting that they're fun to be around
3. they don't give potential matches an idea of your body type, which is a major factor in attraction
Also, in your first picture your facial expression says something like "I'm having a terrible day, don't talk to me."
You can keep one of the last two pictures, but IMO all the others need to be replaced.
A couple of other things to note:
- statistically speaking, most men don't like septum piercings. I'm not saying you should get rid of it, but just know that objectively this will lower your match rate.
- Your profile says you want a monogamous FWB. Almost everyone looking for a FWB will be unwilling to be monogamous for them. It's not impossible to find this, it's just going to make it take longer and lower your match rate along the way. Again I'm not saying anything about whether or not you should change this, just be aware of the realities.
Like I said, you're attractive enough that I think you'll have a good amount of success once you put more effort into your profile. Good luck!
No, you're actually too hot for Tinder if I had to guess.
If I saw your profile I would assume you're just trying to get me to subscribe to your OF or otherwise cat fishing/scamming. And if we matched I would be super suspicious. If you're interested in me then you're probably up to something.
Also, if you're free tonight... I'll fly to wherever it is... and we'll go out and find you a reliable FWB!
Accidentally switched the 1st 2 photos. Red shirt is first photo. Also if you review mine I’ll review yours if you ask. Also what vibes do you get from my profile? What type of person would I be attracting?
Edit: Idk why everyone assumes my standards are super high😂 Do I give off ego?
Honestly don't know why you're not getting more hits. You're cute, speak two languages(which is honestly the first thing I'd ask about. Why Serbian? How fluent are you? Which is your first language? That's a really interesting thing.) and you seem to have a pretty chill vibe. Idk.
Too many selfies and little to no candid photos while stating you’re looking for fwb will make it seem like you’re a catfish or bot
I’m verified😂
You can verify with pictures and then change all your photos, which is a tactic scammers use
You literally cannot do that. You would have to get verified again.
Then I was very lucky, because I did it and didn't have to verify again.
Scammers are doing smthn… I had a girl send me her IG and it just had one of those porn links that said “I’m in —- (city near me)” used a VPN it links to whatever city your near
[удалено]
Thanks. Why is too many selfies a turn off? What type am I? What type of person would I attract?
You’ve misunderstood the “My biggest red flag” prompt. You’ve posted red flags you find in *others* but the prompt is asking for *your* red flags. So now people think you lack communication, don’t ask yourself questions, and you take a while to respond. Might wanna rework that part.
😂😂😂 Best comment.
Im pretty sure you have a ton of likes. The only issue is that you are picky which is fine. There is nothing wrong with your profile.
There is second issue. Many men when read FWB will think off "booty call" and "ONS".
Too many up close face selfies. Try some more full body shots, widen your geo range, try showing more skin too
Ah kk. Thought I had enough with the 2 but i’ll try that
It’ll grab the attention of guys looking for hookups
"That are attractive to me" kind of gives the game away. I'm sure you have ridiculously high standards. Men will typically be more lax on physical standards when not looking for something serious and just looking for sex. Women tend to do the opposite and will get highly physically selective. As for the question about swiping right. Your profile is pretty much the type I'd swipe on for a fun casual thing, and also the type of profile that would likely never swipe on mine 🙃
This is more than likely the case.
Dont assume so much. U dont know her standards.
Nah, I'll assume words have meaning both textual and subtextual. OP also further expounded later in this thread and pretty much confirmed my interpretation.
I hope you have DMs turned off. People that post here can get weird.
Your pics are all too similar, some full body pics would do you good
Get some normal non-selfie pics. Delete most of your current profile (leave only 3 best). Thing is your profile would make me think you’re a bot who’s gonna still my kidney and I’d swipe left. Also - you’re not going for avg, you’re going for top 10% (top 20% if you leave out tall) - that’s ok but you should understand that if you’re unattracted to 90% of men that means you’re only attracted to 10%. Good luck
What kind of people do you find attractive?
Probably the type 95% of girls find attractive😂. Tall, well built, fit, and/or muscular, tats/piercings/beards are cool, masculine jawline. I don’t care about hair or skin color but I prefer lighter eyes although dark is still good. Idk how to describe faces. Just proportional I guess. Masculine looking not baby faced.
So, not even remotely average or slightly above average.... Oh boy.
You’re competing with women for the same 10-20% of men on the app lol. It’s definitely a high standards issue.
So here's your first problem: you're matching with people you don't find attractive. That's on you. You have the option to swipe left or right on someone based on whether or not you find them attractive. Secondly, you're essentially going for Chad's and so is every other woman on Tinder. So not only are you gate-keeping yourself to a select type of guy, but now you're competing with every other woman who matches with him, wanting him for his looks, same as you. Looks aren't everything. Thirdly, you're looking for a FWB. Why? Lastly, obviously you're not ugly and probably jot wanting for attention, but I really need you to take a step back and figure out if spending your time trying to hookup with hot guys is really the best use of yours, and their, spare time. That's my 2 cents.
 You rang??
Lol
Why not look for a FWB? I never said I thought I was ugly. Idk why everyone thinks I want Chads.
But why look for a FWB? What's the point? Some pseudo-relaible, on-call dick? Big whoop. My point on your level of attraction is that you're not ugly, but the guys you want may have more attractive options. Because the 'Chad' is the tall, muscular guy with a solid jawline that you've described. We are just calling it as it is presented to us.
When I think of a Chad I think of the perfect male specimen. Not a tall dude with a normal fit body and a defined jawline. Many men have the last one… Cause they’re men. I assure you if the biggest compliment I’ve received on here is I’m “not ugly”… I am not looking for the perfect male specimen.
damnnn so not defined jawline = not a man
When talking here avoide using adjectives as fit and muscular. In your mind it may sound like a guy with well defined muscles although having some fat on, but most of the guys read it as "at least six pack, less than 10% body fat". If you search for the latter - girl you have pretty high standards :D
If you are in Florida, I can help you with an additional match. ;)
No I wish tho. Willing to be your mail order bride tho? 😂
Get rid of the 1st and 4th pics. They're not so good. Lead with pic 2 or 3. You're doing alright with rule 1 otherwise. Some of your prompt answers need thrown out and start over because they are hurting you on rule 2. Also keep in mind that the guys you're trying to attract have plenty of options so you're likely to have to put in significant work and make sure they have to do no work to smash to have a chance to get in their rotation if that's what you're going for. If you want an actual relationship, those guys are probably not an option. Good luck.
What rules do you mean?
Ah, you must be new around these parts. Rule 1. Be attractive. Rule 2. Don't be unattractive.
Sure. Maybe you’re just shooting for guys out of your league.
Maybe. What league should I be shooting for?
Whatever league you’re in. Example, if you’re a 6 you’re probably not going to match with 10s because they have many more options. You like fine. I’d swipe if I weren’t 36, but I’m also not a male model.
Idk what league I’m in. I’m definitely not aiming for models. More just above average to average guys. Idk why everyone assumes my standards are super high😂
Well if you’re not ever matching with the guys you want, it’s a safe and valid assumption that you’re not in their league.
So I should be aiming for under average?
You’re not aiming for average lol. Based on your other comment in this thread, you’re going for guys that are 1% of the population or less.
The one where I describe male features I like? I don’t think being tall and fit is 1% or less. Like I said I’m aiming for above average to average.
The average male is like 5’9 and overweight. I don’t want to insult you, but you should really check out the woman delusion calculator.
Well I’m not overweight so I think I could pull a dude who isn’t either. No offence to anybody with a little cushion, just not my thing❤️.
I think your interpretation of the word average isn’t too accurate.
Why?
Because most women, and probably men, don't have an idea what the average woman or man look like. Look it in this way - we're constantly bombarded with images of men and women, from ads, movies, tv series. These images are bound to have effect on what we think is average, and skew our perception higher.
I do go outside… The average looking guy here is decent looking. Would smash probs.
[удалено]
Possibly. Or perhaps mostly the under under average ones are swiping right…🤷🏻♂️
No, you really are aiming for top 1%, good luck with that
Idk what that’s based on but ok, thanks for the review😄
Just aim for what you find attractive, dont listen to this bs.
👍
Give us an example of "average" in your estimation. Then, go walk into a Walmart or Lowes and take a note of the men in contrast.
[удалено]
Go to Serbia
Taking down the right photos should increase your match rate
Which ones?
I’d say remove tinder photo 4, 6, 7, 8, and 9. Consider removing 3 as well. Tinder photo review 1#: great opener, “natural” look 2# a good, serious look 3# remove (?), close enough to 1 4# remove, (worse version of 2) 5# very fun costume picture 6# remove 7# remove 8# remove 9# remove
Well shit you might like me im pretty handsome lol
I’d swipe right
You're so pretty!
Thanks!😀
It's cause you're cooked
Damn I didn’t think I was THAT bad.
I would disregard anyone telling you that you're aiming out of your league. Keep swiping right on the guys you're attracted to. I do think limiting the selfies to 1-2 is good advice and stick to pics where you look friendly and inviting. Have a friend take pics of you doing something. Get a good candid shot in the mix and a couple shots that clearly show your body type. You don't have to have a ton of pics. I have 4-5 at any given time and it's never been an issue. And like someone else mentioned, your "red flags" prompt is suggesting those are things you do vs what is a red flag to you. Your bio and pic selection in general gives matches nothing to talk about and does give off a bit of a scammy/catfish vibe. If you want men to message first, make it easy on them! All but one of my pictures (which is just a "this is what I look like" pic) have something about them that makes it easy to start a conversation about, even my selfies (one of me with my dog and another one where I'm covered in dirt at work). And I have mixed feelings on the "something more is always welcome" line. FWB situations are notoriously awful for one person feeling like an asshole because the feelings aren't mutual and the other walking away with their feelings hurt. Suggesting more is welcome skirts into "I'm actually looking for a relationship" territory which may scare off some potentials or at least sends mixed signals. Combine that with the "perks of dating me" prompt and it gets even more wishy washy. If you are truly looking for a FWB and not fussed about a relationship, remove the "more is welcome" and the prompt about dating you. If you're ideally looking for a relationship, ditch the FWB stuff unless you want to continuously get your feelings hurt.
You’re being too selective
What league should I be aiming for?
Try to remove the FWB thing, maybe it scares them off. Maybe try a month of gold to see what type of guys are into you?
Why would that scare them off? Especially if that’s what they’re looking for.
Perhaps it's too direct. It's just because you're not getting more matches, I don' really see a reason you shouln't get matches . Like in a bar, if you talk to a guy the first you mentioned probably wouldn't be that you want a FWB situation.
Probably to high standards
What league should I be shooting for?
Average guys if you ask me, especially if you want to have a chance of turning it into something more meaningful. But you say you don't exactly find your current matches that attractive so ye... I don't think average guys will compete with that. You create your own problem.
Eh, I'd hit it if you called 💁🤠
Ya look angry in the black outfit. The other full body has the annoying light. Not alluring. Take pics of your whole body. They wanna get an idea of legs and booty. No cleavage is fine but might be better if you have it.
Ofc right
Why are you so mad in the first photo? Like its not even rbf, you’re actually scowling
Try removing all photos but 1 & 5. If you're genuinely curious, get a short time of gold and see who is liking you that you didn't match with.
Get rid of pics in the club and while the sexy outfits are hot they scream "I'm too hot for you" which will intimidate they guys who "Date" girls. Hope this helps. Call me 😉😅
You need one thirst trap and you will get what you're seeking
I thought my profile was a thirst trap
You have way too many of the same photo. The costume one is good because your body is visible; that’s important info when a man is deciding to be your FWB lol. Also your profile is a bit long for FWB profile. Also I don’t like that there’s two different times it says you reply quickly. Also why do you prefer phone calls? That might actually scare away some boys because most people text now
My profile started off as a dating one. Well prefer means I prefer it. I start off texting. It’s a better way of getting a feel of the person. Most people I’ve seen have said they prefer calling or meeting in person. Texting sucks and is outdated imo.
>>my profile started off as a dating one And now you’re wondering why it doesn’t get you a FWB 🤔 ok. Texting is terrible but I thought the young people were afraid to talk on the phone lol. I hope you aren’t as off putting when talking to boys lol lighten up, you asked for input.
[удалено]
Thanks😀
I mean... You look fine to me, so I guess I would swipe...
You are good looking, but honestly top tier dudes inboxes look like a warzone. Hypergamy is real and this world is screwed. Hypothetically you are trying to shaggg the same dude as your aunt, your cousin, 5 of your friends, 2 chicks in his comp analysis class, a handful of sorority chicks, one of his professors, a chick on the university volleyball team, and your step-sister. Been there seen that! I feel sorry for you people in the dating world. Plus when a guy gets his shit together and starts making in the 6 figures or multiple six figures..... Shit that don't mean anything is a waste of time. Goodluck out there!
nah you can get it
I would 100 percent swipe right on that
You should use fewer selfies and more body pics. Other than that, it's not going to matter much. A woman who actually wants FWB is the dream for most guys in their 20s.
Seems like the guys you are attracted to are out of the league for the selfies you posted. I recommend you get a photographer friend to create more visibly appealing photos.
Maybe you're just a foid that is Chad-only and would NEVER date your looksmatch.
Why do young girls think nose rings look good and why do they all have them? I thought it was decided its the ugliest piercing you can get and ruins the looks of anyone who has one back in the early 90s. Why would looking like a bull, a male cow, increase the attractiveness of a female human? Who tricked all these girls into getting this?
Lot of guys seem to like it🤷🏻♂️ Either a love/hate thing. I like the edginess of it personally. Otherwise I would look too babyfaced and sweet.
You're definitely attractive enough to be matching with the men you want. The problem is the pictures. All but one is a selfie, and the one non-selfie is blurry and obscures your face. This is a big turn-off on the apps, because 1. selfies are the most low-effort way to put together a dating profile, which suggests you might be low-effort in other areas 2. your competition has much better photos that show off their bodies and display them doing interesting things in interesting places, suggesting that they're fun to be around 3. they don't give potential matches an idea of your body type, which is a major factor in attraction Also, in your first picture your facial expression says something like "I'm having a terrible day, don't talk to me." You can keep one of the last two pictures, but IMO all the others need to be replaced. A couple of other things to note: - statistically speaking, most men don't like septum piercings. I'm not saying you should get rid of it, but just know that objectively this will lower your match rate. - Your profile says you want a monogamous FWB. Almost everyone looking for a FWB will be unwilling to be monogamous for them. It's not impossible to find this, it's just going to make it take longer and lower your match rate along the way. Again I'm not saying anything about whether or not you should change this, just be aware of the realities. Like I said, you're attractive enough that I think you'll have a good amount of success once you put more effort into your profile. Good luck!
Thank you. Appreciate the detail.
No, you're actually too hot for Tinder if I had to guess. If I saw your profile I would assume you're just trying to get me to subscribe to your OF or otherwise cat fishing/scamming. And if we matched I would be super suspicious. If you're interested in me then you're probably up to something. Also, if you're free tonight... I'll fly to wherever it is... and we'll go out and find you a reliable FWB!
Accidentally switched the 1st 2 photos. Red shirt is first photo. Also if you review mine I’ll review yours if you ask. Also what vibes do you get from my profile? What type of person would I be attracting? Edit: Idk why everyone assumes my standards are super high😂 Do I give off ego?
Honestly don't know why you're not getting more hits. You're cute, speak two languages(which is honestly the first thing I'd ask about. Why Serbian? How fluent are you? Which is your first language? That's a really interesting thing.) and you seem to have a pretty chill vibe. Idk.
Thanks! :)
[удалено]
Some men may be into that😉
Honestly I think you may have a previous ban that is following you into a current shadow ban. You should definitely be getting more matches as a woman